My momma made me learn this song: a gay Winter for 2015

http://www.queen-of-theme-party-games.com/images/hollywood-party-ideas-10.png

I've been gone for too long, think it's time to bring it back. It's the last day of the fucking year! How are we feeling about that?

hi!

hi Alfie! have you missed my blurbs?

Like the big time.

:P how have you been?

twas lousy year for me, gtfo

new years kiss for thee, surm

Few things are more promising than relief from a cold, i.e. I can drink again.

Morbs, you asked in the other thread: The Gay Revolution was terrific and every ilxor gay should read it.

and for thee, morbs. i hear you.

hello!

hey girl hey

oh i want to read 'the gay revolution' - 'gay LA' is on my bf's bookshelf and i wanna read that too. first tho, gonna get crackin' on those ferrante novels

relieved this year is over, not especially optimistic about next year. but tonight should be fun, anyway.

it would be cool to go to some big gay thing in cali this year but i'll probably be saving for what will hopefully be my own apartment sans roommates instead.

i was the highest bidder on these for a few days. i'd go higher but i measured my feet and i'm closer to an 11.5 D. i've always wanted to get custom-fitted wesco boots but they're pretty fucking expensive, you have to pay $99 just to send them your measurements.

anyway, i'm home alone on nye after spending a miserable night and morning with my bf. i think i have to make it 'just friends' and move on soon. next week is his birthday though. after that then, sad but ok. imagining finally getting the fuck out of salt lake. i've always hated it here. back to los angeles maybe. hopefully before i'm 40, lol.

i know no one is like here or whatever but i think i'll do a rant anyway. he was 'discombobulated' because he rushed to my place because i asked him what time he was coming over (wednesday is our 'date night', ugh, sorry) and there wasn't immediately anything to do when he arrived? and because he hasn't made it to the grocery store in over a week (like always!) and because there are piles of stuff everywhere in his house that he has made 1/10th of progress on cleaning up in literally over a year's time and somehow those are ok reasons for coming over and giving me the silent treatment. i've been very patient but i'm really coming to understand that his and my approach to time management are irreconcilable. of course i said it was ok on the phone because i want to be nice but i'm at a limit and i've got to start breaking out of this.

feeding oneself and not keeping stuff in piles on the floor / chairs / tables, i want a bf who can do those things

or alternately none at all

happy new year, friends

i know how exhausting it is to try keeping up a relationship where the other refuses to even meet you halfway, letting you do all the emotional work (and every other category of work tbh)

(not speaking of my current bf, ftr)

and he thinks I'm lazy too! Happy new year to everyone here. *mwah*

thx Alfred. we should have a drink, j0rdan. <3 donna. good luck matt.

oh hey a very sexy drunk guy flirted with me the second i walked in the bar last week. happens about once a decade. he was there with his husband (not my type). i think they're "open." i gave the hottie my business card. how gauche.

Watched the last 90 minutes of Creed with a damp face yesterday. I only cry at westerns and boxing mellers.

yeah, I was not expecting Creed to affect me. Michael B. Jordan was terrific and ooh boy a hottie.

i am fasting today and it's not fun!

used to hate thin sweaters talk about a 180

lol wrong thread

in other news my dealer just told me that my hair looks a mess, p sure it's a sign i need to reassess things in my life :P

happy new new, my dear beloved gaywads

happy! i just cut my own hair and i'm still alive!

was a bowl involved?

no thank GOD

just the buzzer - i'm p amazed i did not butcher it

omg I like COMPLETELY missed the last thread and now here we are in winter

based on some random posts i've seen, you've been happy lately Steve, which is a great excuse for not posting and great in general!

i'm reading a paper entitled "An4l Intercourse and Fec4l Incontinence" so none of you have to.

by Robin Wood?

sorry if that came off as uncaring; these days smooching is usually good enough for me, esp since snot and a cancellation from the Pianist kept me from getting my Christmas fuck.

oh right Christmas fuck!

forgot about that one this year. St Patty's fuck it is

soooooooooooooo it's almost Friday....!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm a bit stoned and have mixed a good gin and tonic before watching Gueros again.

ah this explains yr taste in cinemaaaah

lol

i'm a bit stoned and about to WRITE YOU SOME REVIEWS Alfred have fun with that

saw it already last summer, this is recess

Hello gays, I

- haven't smoked a cig since New Year's
- have an ass that makes contact with the seat of my pants now
- am back in the problematic poly situation that nearly killed me/my relationship last year but this time armed with self-esteem and better communication skills
- am going to see a Chinese doctor
- am playing Wind Waker again
- am reading Nazim Hizmet, Robert Glück, Tolstoy shorts and the Carrie Brownstein book
- am going to Sundance
- am feeling full of light and life and love

nice. cigarettes suck and asses are great.

um are you at sundance in an official musical capacity, if you don't mind me asking?

Yeahhhhh *smiles in front of mirror* "A blessing and an inspiration" *tries again* "A blessing and an inspiration"

http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lie7oxgbRG1qay58d.jpg

"A blessing and an inspiration" *tries again* "A blessing and an inspiration"

i am unfamiliar w/ the concept of an ass that does NOT make contact with the seat of one's pants; diagram, please.

you certainly have a lot of thoughts on butts Jordan xo

Any tips on the most graceful, non-awkward or, hell, even the funniest way to tell a friend from your closeted days that you've recently reconnected with that you are not only gay but, in fact, married?

Dinner for two at a quiet restaurant that turns into hilarious flash mob style musical performance.

Last night was:

https://usresponserestoration.files.wordpress.com/2015/05/cullinan-ranch-first-levee-breach-2015-1-6_noaa_clip.gif

some nights are!

last night was a backhoe?

muddy?

j/k though i did spend like way too long contemplating what "a washout" could entail

last night was... torrential

i mean, i downloaded a lot of torrents

lol

haha

we just had a torrential downpour. it's a lovely day. i haven't been so happy to see a Sunday in a while, and i'm not afraid to say it

last night was a backhoe?

― clouds, Saturday, January 9, 2016 5:38 PM (

the levee broke after two months

i was at an annual post-holiday party last night, walked from the subway in the rain at 3:30. now need to buy an umbrella. erotic highlight was when someone asked me to explain to his friend why Trump will not be president.

that sounds delightful

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-nWtKf4a0Hk

i'm going out

i don't know what shirt to wear

you haven't got a stitch to wear?

the Williamsburg DJ thing my friend does is of course B*wie-themed tonight, so maybe i should let surm make me up.

if you don't paint the aladdin sane lightning bolt on yr face y're already ahead of most i'd imagine.

crashed from fatigue at 10:45 from shit sleep, never made it. thank you again, meds.

(otoh, never loved Bowie.)

say no to themed parties in 2016

i'm sure it wasn't a lot more than playing the records, they don't usually do that kinda stuff. A few attendees mighta put on their red shoes.

oh the Mattachine night at Julius' on Thursday will be Bowieesque. It's probably already too crowded.

The mention of director Philippe Garrel in one of the film threads reminded me of son Louis' bit in Saint Laurent a couple years ago. I was like 0_o

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZO1r6dm_az8

Louis Garrel! *sighs*

can someone please create gifloops of the best scenes from "Ma Mere" and "Les Amants Reguliers"?

sometimes he looks like he stepped out of a Bougereau painting and sometimes he looks lol goth but ugh ultimate crush object

astronauts r sexy

https://pbs.twimg.com/media/CZRYyWIUMAAqKiR.jpg:large

Saint Laurent was last year for US. Poll eligible.

He also goes gay in Christopher Honore's Love Songs.

Good luck w/ the snow-in, tune. I have about 18 DVDs from the library stacked, along with Bowie's early '70s diet of milk and coke.

Hello

The doc I scored just premiered at Sundance. I wasn't so excited because the music was specified to be like indie landfill and I delivered! oh boy did I ever! but the music was so appropriate for the doc and the whole experience was so moving and everybody was crying. Doc was about Bindle & Keep, the NYC tailoring firm that caters to everyone, but specifically suits for the genderqueer and transgendered. I got applauded and producer Lena Dunham said nice things to me at dinner and also from the stage.

But also

I’ve had a recurring nightmare this past year of coming home to find people in my house having sex. “Nightmare” not because I’m anti-sex, or have an issue with people having sex without me, but rather there’s this crazy feeling of “how do I work this?” when it’s your house, people you know and love, and there is no place for you.

The problem is haha that this nightmare has been real, and recurring. I’ve tried to be modern about it all, and deal with it. But basically, this poly situation went so terribly wrong, me trying to be cool and fun and OK with the fact that the three people I loved most in life don’t actually want me around. My smoking habit has ballooned, not because of actual nicotine addiction, but because there is no place for me. The only place I can go is out for a cigarette, or to the kitchen to cook a meal.

The problem is mine, and the solution is clear. I need to get out of this situation and into one where I am welcome, where there is a place for me. I can't be with my boyfriend any more he doesn't understand how much this situation has fucked me up and he doesn't know how to fix it. I don't know how to fix it.. I've fixed my self-esteem issues since last summer and my only feeling now is "I deserve so much better than this". Ghosted the other couple, they are good people but our relationship is toxic.

I need to get out of here.. familiar places incl. family places are no good because I've been with my bf for 13 years and everybody loves him. I still have so much work and can't really be anywhere without like a piano or whatever, I need to be around friends, I don't know I don't know what to do.

Is peacing tf out for like 2+ weeks an option? Like an actual isolated retreat/vacation-type thing where you don't work on work and you don't contact bf? It sounds so v cheesy, I know, and I know you and I are diff in a lot of ways and respond to diff types of stimuli and environments and whatnot, but when I left Philly/NJ for 4 months and traveled it was v rejuvenating and I came home w/ a greater sense of self and purpose. I don't know if traveling solo is the means by which you would accomplish this end, but I really want a similar type of rejuvenation for you and I think it would be so great!

i really love this snow

fgti, you know what not to do at least... Can you decamp to a friend's place for awhile to do your work?

wishing you the best to get through this, fella

i don't like the swamps around every intersection, surm, which was actually the subject of a NYT op-ed today. That this City, above all, puts pedestrians last is obscene.

ok that is true

Sorry for the AAAAAAA posts but it's gotten really bad! Panic attacks! No sleep be nightmares! And in ghosting the other couple I've lost two of my best friends ;_; for whom I've typically relied upon for emotional support but in this case are no help because they are a contributing factor!

I think I'm gonna actually read some literature for straights about how to "get over an affair" because that's essentially what I'm dealing with, feeling sidelined for for my boyfriend's intimacy

Also I think I may sell some shit I don't need and go to Rome

go to rome!

J0rdan otm

Prob will!

Actually had a sudden breakthrough, "sudden" more like after six days of intense insanity (and eight months of emotional abuse), which ran something like "what has this man ever done to deserve to be called my brother"

It's amazing how heartlessness looks so shitty from the outside but feels so good from within

D4n S4vage just followed me on Twitter for some reason, what do I do

ask if his kid has begun rebelling against his annoying smug ass

https://i.ytimg.com/vi/y2PtsSKE4mY/maxresdefault.jpg

Go to Rome. Will you. Go to Rome.

i have seen a few guys lately with mixed results - ! i guess it's up and down eh

i am supposed to have drinks/whatever with a Brian tonight. he seems nice? this is the 2nd time i will have hung out with him, and i told him i'm in an open relationship etc.

how's everybody's groundhog day?

Putting together the list of the 50+ books I have to now read before May for my comprehensive exams. Gonna take a break and watch (the pretty gay, I'm told) Satyricon later.

Did he see his shadow?

no! apparently both Phils predict spring

that sounds like a lot of reading!

i am currently under the weather :(

what subject are yr exams in, crypto?

reading-wise, i am on book 3 of ferrante's neapolitan novels, which are so far marvelous

The upcoming one--my secondary field--is in Canadian lit. My primary--next year's (even bigger!) exam--is in Women/Gender and Lit.

Fan of creature comforts that I am, if I were ever to retire to a cabin in the woods for a month at a time, it'd be in the ones leading up to these exams.

hey i saw Joe Dallesandro's butt on a 40-foot screen the other night! then living Joe in the flesh.

Satyricon is the least gay gay film imaginable, at least til Philadelphia.

where may one see this butt

saw this article going around yesterday about the gay lib movement in chicago, i'd like to read this book

http://www.slate.com/blogs/outward/2016/02/01/queer_clout_in_chicago_telling_gay_history_beyond_stonewall_and_the_castro.html

i'm not sure if the major butt scenes (Jane Birkin's too) from Je t'aime moi non plus are available online... kind of a crap film really, which i was expecting.

oh, there is a still image i am not going to access at work...!

I started the first Ferrante novel yesterday.

A decade ago I read a wonderful history of gay NYC, Gay New York: Gender, Urban Culture, and the Making of the Gay Male World 1890-1940

xp cryp that sounds actually v interesting :)

Canadian lit: what's on the syllabus?

well i'm reading A Jest of God (1966) by Margaret Laurence, which has some les/bi content. Set in the boonies of Winnipeg!

i started but never finished 'gay new york,' what i read was v good tho

My reading list, for those interested: https://www.dropbox.com/s/ek393nctce6z3nw/Eng%209917-9937%20Canadian%20Literature%20.docx?dl=0

Ah so interesting, lots of "the right choice" from authors with a wide catalogue, so good to see "Surfacing" there i.e., pity it's all Anglo and sad to see Carson crossed off the poetry list

Lots of stuff I haven't read/haven't heard of, too, any revelations?

I'll keep you posted on my finds along the way!

For most of the Modern/Contempo picks, I was given an author and asked to fill in a text, and I went with stuff I already knew or owned when possible (Surfacing being one of my picks). Sorry to lose Carson; I based my poetry selections on what was in the anthology I owned (Carson's in there, but underrepresented).

Maybe it has something to do with those 50+ books I have to read over the next few months, but I just didn't have the patience to get all the way through Satyricon tonight. It has some cute boys in it, sure, but so does any music video by The Vamps.

i almost listened to The Amps today!

also i think my date fell through and i'm p sure i have to go out tonight. i wish someone had a jeep who could pick me uppppp

the thing is i rly don't know if i want to go to the neighborhood bar at 8p. even though the outfit does work for the early hour...

Btw, fgti--or anyone!--who wants to talk to me about Canadian lit, we can arrange something off thread/board (hard as it may be to believe, I suppose it is possible that there are gays here who don't give a shit about Canadian literature). Talking about it with others can only help me in my studies. At the very least, i'd love to hear what some of your faves are.

Oh shiiiii yes I have lots of suggestions.

What else? oh! My bf and I finally had a conversation that ended in discussion and resolution instead of broken glasses and tears? After eight months of trying! We're so proud.

Also I know I've been posting only "FUCK" posts about this whole poly chain dickaround, for what, the past year and a half? But there was a nice moment a couple weeks ago when my bf and I were having sex and he tried doing some uncharacteristic sexytalk and asked me "tell me about what it's like to fuck ____" and the immediate thought that came into my head was "there's always a moment when we both drowse awake at the same time and the afternoon sun is crossing our naked bodies and we're still holding each other so tight and every breath is love love love on my neck and.." but I thought better and faked it and made up something about a delicious asshole

fgti - I just sent you a message via ILX email (does anyone ever check these things?).

it goes straight to my main email, i assume that's the default setup

i put together a nice playlist this morning!! currently Trisha Yearwood's "She's In Love With The Boy" is on.

what's everyone doing tonight?

hi gays!

I'm introducing Poison for a Christine Vachon festival running at one of the local art houses, so I'm writing a few paragraphs w/the help of a Tru martini.

i'm going over to my boyf's, he's working on this 3 ft tall hat he made out of papier mache and a tomato cage for a bookstore dada thing this weekend and i'll probably get some take-out. i wish i had my laptop so i could split up tracks i ripped from new records while he's doing his thing.

Reading a collection of Canadian poetry about the Underground Railroad!

wow such nice nights for everyone!

i'm rly excited because i wrote a song and a guy that i found who's a record mixer is making it sound really good for me. It should be done in a month or so!

Let's hear it in a month or so!

OK!!

took a sick day yesterday and ended up finishing the third neapolitan novel, they are SO GOOD

I'm 150 pages deep in the first: agreeable, unmemorable so far.

it gets better, as they say

i've been reading a book too! it's been a really long time. it's about kings and stuff.

Trojan kings?

all sorts :P and the hunger for *power*

Gays, I'm drunk, but bored. Hope yr all having a good S-A-T-U-R-D-A-Y night.

I'm drunk and spent my night at a friend's birthday ogling her cute friends and opening their shirts

wow! i'm not drunk FINALLY. yesterday was a mad Don Draper moment

Hello, lovers. For some reason I've found myself simultaneously reading 2 different novels by Samuel Delany & it's doing weird (fun) things to my brain.

speaking of weird (fun) things to my brain:

Last March I went on a sexless date with this fellow.

Last week I learned he was my new doctor.

Woah, cute!

Too bad you have to stay three feet away.

Our date was three weeks after the quarantine was lifted!

Either he legit didn't recognize me when he probed my abdomen or he sports the best poker face I've ever seen.

He looks way too much like Jon Meacham for my taste.

when he probed my abdomen

the exam came second, right?

(This reminds me of a gag in a late John Ford film when a hoe falls down and her petticoat flies up and James Stewart is all "Oh, I know her")

he's cute imo but- wait, I'm confused- did he never acknowledge that you had been on a date ever? because that would be very weird if he had acted like you hadn't dated at all

He did say my weight and HDL and lipid tests were spectacular.

Is it possible that acknowledging the date would amount to admitting an ethical breach? I'm not sure how all that works but I know when my BF worked in mental health he couldn't acknowledge that he knew any patient if he encountered them outside the clinical setting.

yep -- that was my thought too

Also OMG tune I just now got the FB invite to your show at the Columbus!!! I'm hollering.

hi!

how do i cope with the single-digit-degree cold this weekend, surm, when i want to go out?

SAME QUESTION HERE

i'm figuring on working the hitchhiker out of a 70s horror movie look. think that'll attract dudes?

Hi!!

My Valentines plans involve eating an unreasonable amount of cassoulet with my boyfriend and probably getting really gassy as a result. ROMANCE!!!

Anyway I am in a pretty good place this past month, I am on meds that are helping with my depression & ADHD symptoms, I'm back in therapy, I signed up for a foundation level drawing class at RISD, I'm working on a craft collaboration to incorporate my weaving with her jewelry design, my libido is WAY up, my relationship is strong, my dog is cute, and for the first time in forever I actually feel excited about plans & goals. I hope that my positivity doesnt come across as obnoxious but I just wanted to update with some good news.

that's so awesome. thanks for the update. nice to hear someone so holistically put together. i'm working on that :)

hi everyone! omg hi

:))

updates:

• I am in a v srs relationship with a PROFESSOR
• I bought 2 Beyoncé tickets today, but then I bought 2 more tickets that were double the price but better seats, and I'm gonna sell the first ones I bought for enough cover the good ones so they will wind up being... freeyoncé
• I have new wi-fi light bulbs and they're just incredible
• I've gained like 20 pounds
• I am learning a lot abt compromise, commitment, and partially letting go of a fiercely independent lyfestyle where you don't really answer to anyone but yourself

work!

probably getting really gassy as a result

once on an out-of-town trip i had such bad gas that B woke up in the middle of the night and asked "...do you smell gas?" (as in, "is there a gas leak in our hotel room?")

glad to see some positivity/Making Things Happen itt - i've been feeling sort of excessively negative/grumpy about lots of things lately even tho things are mostly ok. this weird heat wave has lifted my spirits a bit, even though it prob shouldn't

we're going out of town next weekend for joint v-day/anniversary (the latter is the 26th but i'm going to be on the east coast) - we're staying here and i am very excited: http://www.madonnainn.com/

ON THE EAST COAST YOU SAY????

i'm sorry i haven't been in the loop as i should have been these past couple of weeks! but i too am happy that happiness is in the air

Yay happiness!

We're having some gays over to dinner tonight. First time we've actually entertained in the new place!

have fun!

i'm having a very welcome wintery day at home = tea and music and spices oh my

which spices tho, girl?

the right ones :-) a tinge of orange, and a tinge of green, and some musk for aroma

yay Scalia is dead yay

let's party

actually i might! i've been tooling around with a song all day and there's a party goin' on and i'm not dead so i'm thinkinnnnnnng maybe it's time to brace the cold

stevie: DC, for a conference

lol surm I definitely don't have it all together but I'm finally feeling like things are looking up for me and my life actually has some direction, however vague it may be.

the cassoulet dinner was extremely good, hope everyone had a good v-day if you're the observant sort.

joined a new gym & i think the place is kinda cruisy. saw a guy cranking off in the shower on only my 2nd visit there. my friend who's a member says the sauna is occasionally, uh, busy

that's fun :-) i'm sort in the same boat as you. i like it.

did I mention here that my relationship has been opening up lately? probably. i can't remember. anyway, i've been in my feelings about that today.

oh! how is it going? v interested.

YES HOW IS IT GOING????

We've each messed around separately a couple times, as yet only with people we're already acquainted with. And there's been a lot of talking about it, exhaustively so, which is good. It's new and adventuresome and occasionally confusing and bewildering but so far so good.

As I have already told Steve, I had a really great date with a friend last night.

There are a couple things that I'm working through around the whole thing, one of which is being receptive to sexual attention from guys other than my partner without feeling embarrassed or guilty about it. I've still got my fair share of hangups but I'm glad for the chance to confront them at the very least

that's very cool :-) it all sounds p good so far! and again, any questions, i've already asked myself all of them soooo i'm around :P

In general tho I'm just feeling like I'm going through a second puberty -- I'm on meds that have cranked my libido to 11 and I'm exploring my sexuality in a way I never really got the chance to before. Anyway, I know its probably not very interesting to anybody else but me but this all has been taking up a large part of my consciousness lately so thanks for letting me barf up my feelings here

Hi gays! Glad this thread was bumped, because I have some feelings of my own that I feel like barfing up...

The husband and I going to an event tomorrow night where there will be a lot of people--friends of my family, mainly--that I haven't seen in years and in some cases, since I was a little kid. I expect it'll be fun and nostalgic for the most part, but I just realized that I will, in effect, be coming out all over again to many of these people. This should be nbd, of course, as I've been out to my family and friends for years now, but as I go around introducing lots of people to my husband tomorrow night, I'm feeling like I'm gonna be reliving the whole process all over again. My coming out was hardly traumatic, as many people's are, so maybe I should just shut up about this and deal with my (very mild) discomfort, but it is still a weird feeling. I suspect that a lot of heteros--and even a lot of homos, etc, before they actually experience it--think that coming out is this one shot thing where once your out, your out to the world, but it really is a process of coming out over and over and over again. Anyone else feel this way?

The continuous project of "coming out" socially doesn't really feel like a problem for me but I do find myself paying attention whenever I first mention "my boyfriend" to see how it plays. In general I think it's easier when your partner is present or when you have a partner you can bring up in conversation. Surely part of that is just expedient -- you have someone else you can easily, organically refer to that gives your identity that context -- but I also think maybe it's easier to "come out" as part of a couple. "We're gay, together" is more socially palatable than "I, myself, am gay."

Good point! Having a boyfriend/husband to introduce immediately takes care of a lot of dancing around the issue. Though I still expect to be doing a lot of reading of facial expressions to gauge reactions.

hi everyone. i haven't been on the boards in forever but i wandered by to talk about music and figured i should say hi and i miss you all and hope you're well.

i've been in Toronto for 19 months, and single for 20 (which has been awesome, mostly. ignoring boys altogether has been really healthy tbh after two consecutive long term relationships that both ended poorly), and unemployed for 6-7 months but ~fingers crossed~ that looks like it could be changing soon finally (maybe, i shouldn't jinx it). i took over the lease in the apartment I was subletting a few months ago and painted the whole place and it feels almost like home, so maybe 2016 will be a good year? it's too early to tell.

i still haven't figured out how to date in this city, and for a while most of my friends here were straight folks which literally hadn't happened since these threads started - it was all very "I have no gay friends in town" but I turned a bad date into a good friend last summer and then met a bunch of awesome queer women and then recently met some neighbourhood gays who gather every month or two to make DUMPLINGS! and whatnot.

i don't know why the board ALL CAPSed the word DUMPLINGS!. is this a board thing I've forgotten about in my time away?

apparently so.

DUMPLINGS!

Sorry, I had to test for myself. Weird.

Also, hi Alex!

hello Alex! have missed you

hi, Alex!

DUMPLINGS! always deserve all caps, rarely do i think about them without that level of enthusiasm

hi gays let's have leek DUMPLINGS!

http://drinks.seriouseats.com/images/2011/08/20110815leekDUMPLINGS!.jpg

http://drinks.seriouseats.com/images/2011/08/20110815leekDUMPLINGS!.jpg

http://amybsherman.com/images/brusselssproutDUMPLINGS!.JPG

argh

tbh i'm not as into DUMPLINGS! as all my friends are! but hi Alex :) !!

i basically eat two things: french fries and pasta.

also Alfred i know i've been bad but i'll give you some juicy posts for tomorrow

my life is finally like not in shambles phew

hi gays let's have leek DUMPLINGS!!

Spring thread title.

ALEX!!!! Hi! Hello!!

i basically eat two things: french fries and pasta.

get back to us when you're 40, sweetz

omg ok

and if you're still slim we will HATE you :D

being slim doesn't look so great with age anyway you need a little color for fuck's sake

well i still don't have color, cept ive been kinda green all week with a choking cough. :/ It's finally turning uh 'productive.'

Also a week from Sunday i'm going to see Louis Garrel do a Q&A after the film he directed. Do you all have any... questions?

http://www.out.com/sites/out.com/files/2015/01/23/LouisGarrel-PFW.jpg

he is s0 cute

Louis, can you show me how you tongued Gaspard Ulliel in Saint Laurent? kthnkx

so like last night i got drunk but not too drunk but drunk, and i made myself dinner at like 2am, which consisted basically of an avocado salad and then rice krispies for dessert, and now i feel like i can't eat anything

i honestly just want cream cheese

that's all!

i've been a bit of a slut this past week, it seems. it's been fun.

This is fun too: http://www.spin.com/2016/02/sam-smith-howard-ashman-we-should-date-oscars-academy-awards-foot-in-mouth/?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=twitter

feel like i've known a lot of sam smiths in my life

good for you patron sailor! i need to figure something out. i have a thing on Sunday with another guy w/ a BF \o_O/

j0rdan is never gonna get in the gay mafia after what he tweeted about the Oscar twinks last week.

The Oscars had twinks?

S Smith and the waxy writer whose role in history he was unaware of!

Sam Smith hardly a twink. For that, try the GayVN awards.

i kneel at the twink throne

i have a date tonight omg

Louis Garrel was dashing and self-deprecating; his film stinks tho.

why do I sense that telling him this would turn him on

my date was cute! also young, which is pretty new for me. we had cocktails and afterward i drove him home & we made out in my car. to be cont'd.

I have started going to the gym! I have officially become ~one of them~

i will be the last holdout

L Garrel is quite self-effacing and direct-seeming, just a bit disappointing; but i'd still drink the bathwater.

i started going to the gym again recently too. it's a tiny one, only has treadmills/ellipticals, weight machines and free weights, and i am so clueless about how to use the machines - i think i might cop a personal training session or two if only for that reason

I have fallen back into the thing that was destroying my life last year
But we've talked and set up boundaries and we're all for it 100% and I'm not depressed any more and I'm, what's the opposite of cautiously optimistic? decisively optimistic

i have a job now? in an office? working super long hours but it's interesting (at least it's interesting two days into it) and rewarding and intellectually stimulating.

i am supposed to decorate my office in a way that conveys my personality and i'm trying to think of art or posters or something that are both gay and office appropriate.

http://farm5.static.flickr.com/4142/4886352646_6c9f2b99d9_z.jpg

are you required to decorate your office? My cubicle has a shelf for books. C'es tout.

it is...encouraged?

it was indicated to me by someone who has been here a year longer than me that personalizing offices is smiled upon by the partners etc. etc.

and tbh i will be spending long enough hours here (six day weeks!) that making this room slightly warmer and comfier probably is for the best.

i would just paint the walls black

photos of Lubitsch + nude Jake on mine

so what's the word on scruff v clean-shaven these days

team facial hair til the day i die tbh

Left my razor's power cord in Chicago last summer.

Should I go see Warhol's The Nude Restaurant at surm's workplace tomw night?

well i am

the Bad Muslim emailed me. musta got dumped wants a roll in the hay.

order a double at the nude restaurant then

he's going away for the weekend now, the shit.

had a loverly time tonight in Providence with Patron Sailor! xxoo love ya

i had such an awesome time! A+ show & hang time, thanks for coming thru town!

Went on a date with a former student -- a first. No self-consciousness on either end. It went quite well.

we need a spring thread, you lollygaggers.

is there a spring thread yet? its snowing here today

a friend was having a party because he's moving away, and he told everyone the party is drag themed and to come dressed up blah blah blah

so of course i show up and im the only one in drag, whoops lol

i think that's festive :) :) it's supposed to snow here this weekend!

guys i'm so happy

Hello!

Me and bf are back with other couple, now I'm wondering if there's something wrong with me that all I want to do is lie in bed and cuddle with my lover and can do so for days on end and all else in the world seems stupid

^^ good pop songs are made out of this

also v Clarissa Vaughn fwiw

i'm in a highschool hair stage, like it flips out and up in the front

how do we feel about this?

Two new additions to my lexicon:

Young men who act cute but are not? Twaren'ts.
Men who aren't cute or young and never were? Tweren'ts.

my name is twight've been

just bypassing spring, eh inverts?

I can't bypass spring w/out recording my reunion with rev last week in Seattle:

http://i50.photobucket.com/albums/f308/sotoalf/13048166_10154500491216494_6701929456220755378_o_zpsbesdobz1.jpg

sweet