How does it feel to have your buthole fucked?

(Though maybe I'll have lost weight by then. Or been buttfucked. I know which is more likely sigh.)

Have you ever tried to stuff one of those shits back up in there, though?

ohmygodimgoingtobeveryillnow

Oh, that's right, those days never existed, did they? ;)

PS - Colin - Becky might be 40 yr old fat married guy but does good impression of teeny txter. Or maybe he does a good impression of a 40 yr old married guy sounding like what 40 year old married guys sound like when trying to impersonate a teeny txter...

I'll stop before I disappear up my own mis en abyme...

The amount of pathos in this sentence is astonishing, all things considering.

No, she acts exactly like just about every 14 or 15 year old girl I've ever met online.

Wait, I know how to tell! Becky, write us a short sex scene.

For men, there is a gland near the anus which makes anal sex extremely pleasurable. Boyfriends I've had (heh) have described it as like "being fucked from the inside".

Women lack this gland, therefore there's no specific *sexual* pleasure. Without lubrication, it hurts like hell. With adequate lubrication and for short durations, well, it's not specifically *unpleasant* but it really depends on how pleasurable you find taking a long, satisfying dump. I don't think that it's something I would ever specifically seek out by choice, but some men get *such* jollies from it that I would feel mean if I were to deny a boy I really fancied exactly what it was that turned his crank.

But use lots of lubrication. And a condom. Just cause you can't get pregnant up there doesn't mean you can't get nasties. And have your man be careful with said condom, because it is somewhat tighter than yer usual vaginal experience.

There, was that clinical enough for ya? Any fat fourty year old men who have got their jollies from this post may leave the room now.

All ILE sex threads have this pattern now where there's dancing around the subject for 20-30 posts before someone logs out and dives in (hello Dan!).

(Not that Kate logged out but to deny Mr Perry his opportunities seems cruel.)

But, whatever...

Pleasure from giving head... that's a whole nother story and a whole nother kettle of fish, the psychological aspects of that...

honestly, how can they resist Jess's 'assetate'.

ok, I stop now.

I wasn't trying to insult you and I'm sorry that you took it that way. Really. There's nothing wrong with acting like a 14 or 15 year old girl.

it's true that prostates help but i think there is a little more to it than that.....it's not just mental, i guess is what i mean. the books+sites about it say basically 2 things. part of it is nerve endings, in other words butt nerves and cock+clit nerves are pretty similar. and part of it is g-spot stimulation. seemed ass-backwards to me too when i first read it, but it shows up over and over again in the literature. a couple of my (girl) friends who enjoy that kind of sex say yeah, g-spot is more or less the payoff for them. (they also say that if you're in the mood it's great and if you're not it's probably not going to work.) so the main thing is yeah, the prostate helps, but butt love -can- have some purely physical payoffs for girls too. some girls hate it, some tolerate it, some like it and some say they come better that way than any other. it just depends on the person and the situation, just like the rest of sex.

ahem.

(thanks that girl)

Oh my god, this is way too much information, no matter how true the comment might be.

There is actually a fairly decent book on the subject available on Amazon - called "Anal Pleasure & Health: A Guide for Men and Women," and there are two "Ultimate Guide's" for men and women, too, (but I cannot vouch for them.)

The one suggestion I would like to add regards stretching the sphincter muslce (for men and women) - as one who has had it done the wrong way, if you're not stretched, then it hurts like hell. Start slowly with well-lubed fingers and take the time to make sure the muscle relaxes before moving to larger diameter objects. If there is trouble getting the muscle to relax, then try the stretching over a period of days - just teaching the muscle that it's okay to loosen up can be a challenge. I've had good luck with using the slim-line vibrators as a stretching device (the vibrations also seem to be soothing). However, A) cover the vibrator with a condom, always, and B) keep a good hold of the vibrator - those slim-lines can get sucked in rather fast, as they're slender, smooth, lubed, and so forth - going fishing for something like that isn't the most pleasant experience.

I'm actually not a big fan of being on the receiving end of anal sex, though am not opposed to anal sex play. I do, however, enjoy using a strap-on with male partners - closest I'll ever get to being able to get inside a man's body (I can't bring myself to ass fist a man - vaginal fisting of females is completely different). Anyway, it can be an incredibly intimate encounter, so long as everyone moves slowly (especially if it's one's first time). Don't be surprised to feel a bit, well, stretched for the next day or two, when you go to the bathroom - but your muscle will tighten again.

There is actually a fairly decent book on the subject available on Amazon - called "Anal Pleasure & Health: A Guide for Men and Women," and there are two "Ultimate Guide's" for men and women, too, (but I cannot vouch for them.)

The one suggestion I would like to add regards stretching the sphincter muslce (for men and women) - as one who has had it done the wrong way, if you're not stretched, then it hurts like hell. Start slowly with well-lubed fingers and take the time to make sure the muscle relaxes before moving to larger diameter objects. If there is trouble getting the muscle to relax, then try the stretching over a period of days - just teaching the muscle that it's okay to loosen up can be a challenge. I've had good luck with using the slim-line vibrators as a stretching device (the vibrations also seem to be soothing). However, A) cover the vibrator with a condom, always, and B) keep a good hold of the vibrator - those slim-lines can get sucked in rather fast, as they're slender, smooth, lubed, and so forth - going fishing for something like that isn't the most pleasant experience.

And along that line of thought, you might want to seriously consider investing in a home enema kit, especially if either of you is squeamish - also, the feeling of anal sex after having an enema is strikingly different than having penetration without the enema - with, it seems that lots more nerves have been stimulated and are waiting for more attention.

I'm actually not a big fan of being on the receiving end of anal sex, though am not opposed to anal sex play. I do, however, enjoy using a strap-on with male partners - closest I'll ever get to being able to get inside a man's body (I can't bring myself to ass fist a man - vaginal fisting of females is completely different). Anyway, it can be an incredibly intimate encounter, so long as everyone moves slowly (especially if it's one's first time). Don't be surprised to feel a bit, well, stretched for the next day or two, when you go to the bathroom - but your muscle will tighten again.

This said, a finger up the ass during (or right before) orgasm is a marvelous, marvelous thing.

A little, with no pain, is not too unusual or something to panic over - but lot sof blood or pain can signal something bad. For more information, please see:

http://www.gayhealth.com/iowa-robot/network/ask/?record=509

I've had this done a couple of times. There was nothing sexual about it tho. It was done by my GP to check to see if I had appendicitis. The second time I did have the condition, so tho I found the experiemce rather unpleasant in retrospect I'm glad he did it.

What about the women who report that they can only get intercoursal orgasm through anal penetration? How does that work, in your scheme, Kate?

Without lubrication, it hurts like hell. With adequate lubrication and for short durations, well, it's not specifically *unpleasant* but it really depends on how pleasurable you find taking a long, satisfying dump.

Even with lubrication there is a nasty 'biting' point that has to be maneouvered (much like in a car); where if you go to fast: then forget it for a year or so. Lubrication isn't the only key but conditioning too.

I don't think that it's something I would ever specifically seek out by choice, but some men get *such* jollies from it that I would feel mean if I were to deny a boy I really fancied exactly what it was that turned his crank.

There is I guess a sense of "the last taboo" which men would derive pleasure from, it's also tighter, like a fist say.

But use lots of lubrication. And a condom. Just cause you can't get pregnant up there doesn't mean you can't get nasties. And have your man be careful with said condom, because it is somewhat tighter than yer usual vaginal experience.

And don't transfer from there to the other place because that is asking for nasties. Some of the bacteria that live up there shouldn't be transferred.

also a lot of ppl who think they don't like it find out they like it much better if they're playing with their cock or clit at the same time. seems obvious, but a lot of folks don't try that, i think partly b/c on the way in, touching yourself can make you tense up. once it's in (whatever 'it' is) though, touching yourself can change the 'i'm taking a dump in reverse' feeling into the 'my entire fucking spine is having a multiple orgasm, starting at my butt and going into my brain' feeling. one of my friends had an almost scary encounter with this, she was having bottom-sex with her boy after not having seen him for a few weeks or months, and i guess she gets pent-up sexual energy faster than the rest of us, but whatever was 'behind' it she ended up coming for about five or ten minutes straight. she said it was really good but at the same time too much......i think her comment was something like 'if regular sex is a warm fireplace and a glass of wine and a soft quilt then anal sex is like a warm fireplace crossed with a roller coaster.' her boy's quite adept himself, i guess he can have girlstyle (non-ejaculating) multiple bottom-orgasms now when he's on the receiving end of her strap-on. it's almost inspirational.

mess and blood: minute quantities will happen from time to time, though i've never bled from there thank heavens. any more than that means you should probably stop and do something about it. the book ms. windows mentioned talks about 'no pain ever' and if you follow that rule within reason, you'll be fine. (a momentary twinge is no big deal, but unless you get off on pain, the more it hurts the less apt it is to feel sexual.) fingers and tongue help a lot, and they don't have to be just a pitstop on the way, either, they're a very nice place on their own.

finally, some boys and some girls no doubt get off on the power dynamic or the taboo or whatever else. but it's also very very intimate, and can be a really powerful emotional experience. i think that's part of why it's so controversial and scary.......we have so many issues and tension in that part of our body, and when bottom sex doesn't go well (hurts) we can feel oddly shameful, like we've done something wrong or even sinful. mayhaps it calls up old anxiety about toilet training. but when it works well it's really beautiful, you can feel so connected and aglow and full of shimmering lovely feelings. i wouldn't want it every day, but it can be really special. (it feels weird to write that but who cares.)

i hope this doesn't seem like too much but there's so much bullshit and misinformation out there about this that i wanted to do my part to dispel it. and now back to your regularly scheduled witty banter!

And as far as the "what's in your panties" attitude goes, I've long held the belief that people are just who they present themselves to be on the Internet. And that is the person that I think of when I see their names. And I don't give a darn whether or not they are a different gender or age or whatever. I am interacting with the persona that they are showing, not trying to figure-out who they might be in the day-to-day world. And that is that. (I am too groggy to add anything more witty.)

it's like mickey is an a capella group and ilx is rolling 20 deep

otm

becky lucas had a thread where s/he said s/he loved me for no apparent reason.

it was like one of those dreams where someone you went to school with and the turtle-woman from the "true faith" video are butchering a rabbit in your bathroom and you're like "morning guys, can i brush my teeth a second? thx"

No, no, no, it's O T F M. Sheesh, you people.

Revive just because... Also because I've only been recently introduced to the B3cky Luc4s thread.

Iwasn'tgointobe (Cozen) :S

see: I have, like, many gay friends on ILX

are we sure that Louis Jagger, Hoosteen and Mickey aren't the same person?
-- milo z (mlp), Sunday, January 14, 2007 12:23 AM (4 months ago)

we are discovered

Run Hoos, Drive your Steentrain away!

hay, that's a Bob Seger song!

(Though maybe I'll have lost weight by then. Or been buttfucked. I know which is more likely sigh.)

The amount of pathos in this sentence is astonishing, all things considering.

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Monday, January 27, 2003 12:38 PM (9 years ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

lol