Have you ever pretended to be interested in a subject you have no interest in whatesoever to impress or placate a S.O.?

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if so, what?

― MarkH (MarkH), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:00 (twenty-two years ago)

does fucking count?

― teeny (teeny), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:01 (twenty-two years ago)

Yes dear, that's great.

― Horace Mann (Horace Mann), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:01 (twenty-two years ago)

Cthulu.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:02 (twenty-two years ago)

I AM too listening!

― Horace Mann (Horace Mann), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:04 (twenty-two years ago)

Druids.

― Tep (ktepi), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:04 (twenty-two years ago)

I can listen to you and have a nap at the sametime.

― Horace Mann (Horace Mann), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:05 (twenty-two years ago)

The Go-Betweens

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:05 (twenty-two years ago)

Politics. (Never *ever* again.)

― Jeanne Fury (Jeanne Fury), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:06 (twenty-two years ago)

The Catholic religion.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:07 (twenty-two years ago)

Seriously, druids. (The Go-Betweens are great, Ally, you're mental.) "Yeah, geez, Stonehenge, holy crap! That's really fascinating, bend over, what was that thing about that place with the stuff again? Uh huh."

― Tep (ktepi), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:07 (twenty-two years ago)

TEP DON'T TRY TO CHANGE ME!

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:08 (twenty-two years ago)

ILX

― Horace Mann (Horace Mann), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:08 (twenty-two years ago)

Applebee's.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:09 (twenty-two years ago)

no.

oh wait, irish dancing.

― gabbneb (gabbneb), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:10 (twenty-two years ago)

TEP DON'T TRY TO CHANGE ME!

I'm bringing the Pope to the twee party.

― Tep (ktepi), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:10 (twenty-two years ago)

Oh yeah, shit, I watched Riverdance.

― Tep (ktepi), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:11 (twenty-two years ago)

What kind of freaks were you guys dating? Damn.

Anyway: Guy Ritchie films.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:12 (twenty-two years ago)

No, but they have, they HAD TO; I mean, you know what kinda boring shit I talk about? I always felt bad for them.

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:14 (twenty-two years ago)

his life

― Mary (Mary), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:15 (twenty-two years ago)

Musicals.

(xpost with Mary who just won EVERYTHING EVER, I'm buying you a drink for that it made me laugh so hard)

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:16 (twenty-two years ago)

I see Ally's Applebee's and raise her a Sign of the Beefcarver.

― Aaron W (Aaron W), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:16 (twenty-two years ago)

no doubt, Mary I have coworkers looking over here now.

― g--ff c-nn-n (gcannon), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:17 (twenty-two years ago)

Oh yeah, Nickel makes a good point. Shit, I pick up new hobbies like a Velco hooker trawling through the city of thistle people. My SOs have had to tolerate my fascinations with Catholicism and Judaism (Ally and I could never date), various musics and movies and authors and cuisines, painting, the Sumerians, linguistics, Iceland, and Thailand. And that's just the bookshelf on my left.

― Tep (ktepi), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:17 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't think I would have stood for Riverdance (tho I did see Phantom once, so who knows); she actually was an Irish dancer.

― gabbneb (gabbneb), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:19 (twenty-two years ago)

Mine was just overly invested in her watered-down-by-several-generations-of-complete-indifference Irish-Americanness.

― Tep (ktepi), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:20 (twenty-two years ago)

cuddling

― Horace Mann (Horace Mann), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:22 (twenty-two years ago)

Food.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:22 (twenty-two years ago)

their family

― nnnh oh oh nnnh nnnh oh (James Blount), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:24 (twenty-two years ago)

you know, i gave frank zappa a shot. really i did.

― BLACKOUT '03! (Jody Beth Rosen), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:24 (twenty-two years ago)

Ska, role playing games, irish freedom fighter movies, anime, "Carraba's Italian Grill", convertibles, the movie "Pi", swing dancing, Esquire magazine, the Larry Sanders show, The Afghan Whigs, Roky Erickson, Gordon Korman books... and so many more.

― Mandee, Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:26 (twenty-two years ago)

his paintings.

― phil-two (phil-two), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:27 (twenty-two years ago)

This thread should be permanently preserved as an intra-ilx0r dating guide.

― Tep (ktepi), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:28 (twenty-two years ago)

Citizen Kane.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:30 (twenty-two years ago)

i'll remember not to try to cuddle with horace.

― phil-two (phil-two), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:31 (twenty-two years ago)

That doesn't count, no one's actually interested in Citizen Kane.

― Tep (ktepi), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:31 (twenty-two years ago)

WRONG.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:33 (twenty-two years ago)

Anyway, dogs.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:34 (twenty-two years ago)

Roger Ebert is interested in Citizen Kane. Ergo, Ally was going out with Roger Ebert.

― Thy Lethal Zen Ned (Ned), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:36 (twenty-two years ago)

I hate you, Ned.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:37 (twenty-two years ago)

vegetarianism, the grateful dead, social activism (to the point of actually becoming active), poodles.

― Bruce Urquhart (Bruce Urquhart), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:37 (twenty-two years ago)

tori amos

― Tad (llamasfur), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:39 (twenty-two years ago)

i actually sort of fear people do this to *me* since i'm interested in all kinds of boring stuff and tend to talk about it a lot whether or not people are interested.

that said, i'm not really interested in union organizing at all.

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:40 (twenty-two years ago)

Jazz music, jewish culture, anime, buddhism, and the hardest one: U2's newer albums.

― Sarah McLUsky (coco), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:41 (twenty-two years ago)

Ally was going out with Roger Ebert.

In my mental map of this, their every date took place at Applebee's.

― Tep (ktepi), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:41 (twenty-two years ago)

Roger Ebert is interested in Citizen Kane. Ergo, Ally was going out with Roger Ebert.

-- Thy Lethal Zen Ned (ne...) (webmail), August 20th, 2003 9:36 AM. (Ned) (later) (link)

Thy Logic Is Flawless.

(x-post)

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:43 (twenty-two years ago)

no g/f or SO of mine has ever feigned an interest in frank zappa's music. that might be a good thing, considering some of the females who do like FZ's music.

― Tad (llamasfur), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:44 (twenty-two years ago)

other than moon unit ... but she's married!

― Tad (llamasfur), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:44 (twenty-two years ago)

Now I know so much more about Jerry the Nipper.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:45 (twenty-two years ago)

oh yeah, and hal hartley. but the funny thing is i actually grew to like him! aren't relationships great?

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:46 (twenty-two years ago)

It's not that I'm not interested in cuddling, Phil, I just wouldn't be interested in cuddling if I wasn't cuddling with you.

― Horace Mann (Horace Mann), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:46 (twenty-two years ago)

getting into ska just to get laid is too much to ask for!

― Tad (llamasfur), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:47 (twenty-two years ago)

I like Frank Zappa... I'm not sure if that discredits or proves your point.

― luna (luna.c), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:48 (twenty-two years ago)

disproves because you have an ample bosom!

― Tad (llamasfur), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:49 (twenty-two years ago)

no.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:49 (twenty-two years ago)

Joey on a Friends episode just repeated, to a girl he was sleeping with: "Oh yeah, the mug thing, I was so listening when you were talking about that."

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:52 (twenty-two years ago)

Women who like Zappa have small breasts? Weird.

― Sarah MClusky (coco), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:53 (twenty-two years ago)

Yes! Ska! What the fuck? This will get me booted off of here, but The Simpsons (I like the show just fine, but not that much).

― Bryan (Bryan), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:54 (twenty-two years ago)

seriously, though, has anyone else ever pretended to like something and then grown to actually like it? (esp. in the context of a relationship.) i suspect the line between those two states is blurrier than most would testify.

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:55 (twenty-two years ago)

"Oh. Yeah. I've heard of ILX. Looks a little interesting. I might check it out"

― donut bitch (donut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:57 (twenty-two years ago)

yeah, cuz you know, i'm actually interested in learning about the things that other people are interested in, so i'm really happy when i have something new to add to my repertoire even if i'm not nuts about it right away.

(xpost)

― BLACKOUT '03! (Jody Beth Rosen), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 18:59 (twenty-two years ago)

yes, that's exactly true. i find my tastes aren't fixed; after a while of wallowing in them i'm liable to bore myself. so i'm happy to play poseur for a while and pretend to like, oh, whetever, on the off chance i might actually grow to love it.

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:03 (twenty-two years ago)

What the hell is wrong with Guy Ritchie movies??? WTF

― Millar (Millar), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:04 (twenty-two years ago)

although there is that weird relief that comes from no longer having the need to pretend you like something that you once were "passionate" about. weird because it's hard to completely let go of it.

another answer to the thread question then: indie pop

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:05 (twenty-two years ago)

millar: swept away

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:05 (twenty-two years ago)

That always happens to me. Ex: Cowboy Bebop.

GUY RITCHIE IS CRAP AND I HATE HIM.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:05 (twenty-two years ago)

Dude that was such a massive cross post. "Ex: Cowboy Bebop" is in reference to the growing to like something that bored you to shit at first.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:06 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't think I've ever done this.

― Justyn Dillingham (Justyn Dillingham), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:06 (twenty-two years ago)

seriously, though, has anyone else ever pretended to like something and then grown to actually like it?

How about grown to like it only after we've split? I find it enhances the tragedy.

― bnw (bnw), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:07 (twenty-two years ago)

Haha bnw totally OTM.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:07 (twenty-two years ago)

absolutely OTM. (my hal hartley example is pertinent here.)

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:08 (twenty-two years ago)

Lock Stock & Two Smoking Barrels is a fantastic story that will never be equalled in cinema

(snatch & swept away are disposable)

― Millar (Millar), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:08 (twenty-two years ago)

have you ever wanted to call said person and let them know that you're finally into [x]? god, that is so pathetic.

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:08 (twenty-two years ago)

(too. much. information.)

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:09 (twenty-two years ago)

''i'm actually interested in learning about the things that other people are interested in, so i'm really happy when i have something new to add to my repertoire even if i'm not nuts about it right away.''

yeah, sure but that isn't pretending.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:10 (twenty-two years ago)

it is when you're like "yah! hal hartley is the greatest director ever!" and she's like "yah! that's true!" and inside you're like "what the fuck? i hated flirt!"

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:12 (twenty-two years ago)

(the pretending comes in with the affected wisconsin accent.)

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:13 (twenty-two years ago)

I can't think of anything I've pretended to like because of an S.O. and certainly not anything I've pretended to like and then grew sincerely fond of later. At most I'll just sit there and not make any comment at all, ie No Doubt. At worst I'll threaten to jump out of the moving vehicle unless it stops immediately, f'rinstance "Magic Carpet Ride."

― Millar (Millar), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:13 (twenty-two years ago)

amst is absolutely otm re hartley btw.

― BLACKOUT '03! (Jody Beth Rosen), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:14 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm just not going to get into the whole Guy Ritchie thing. I don't like Guy Ritchie. THERE. I SAID IT.

Haha though that did get me one of the funniest moments in my life. I was on a date in an Italian restaurant and we were sat right next to the most obnoxious man alive. He was British, dressed like Eurotrash, and was name dropping like a banshee to his cohorts, both of which looked bored to tears.

R: That is the most annoying man alive.
A: Haha he's Guy Ritchie.
R: I'm going to ask him if he's Guy Ritchie.
A: You are not.
R: Yes, I am.
A: Stop it!
R: (puts on annoying fan voice) Ooooh I loved Snatch! (regular voice again) Just like that?
A: Don't!
R: Haha I won't
(a while passes while we're eating, check is paid, we're leaving, Eurotrash Namedropper is still carrying on and on and on)
R: (puts on annoying fan voice, leans over as we walk past) Excuse me...OMG...I'm so sorry to bother you...but....are you Guy Ritchie???!?!
A: (runs out of the restaurant in a giggle fit)

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:14 (twenty-two years ago)

I grok it, but the only things I've pretended to like are things I already realized I disliked but didn't loathe.

On the other hand, I've often become very interested in things I'd previously been indifferent to: industrial music, Bruce Springsteen (same ex, those two), anime (me: "Wait, they kept making it after Star Blazers was cancelled?"), Twin Peaks (oh, whoa, yeah -- more-than-redeeming factor of Riverdance Chick), NEW ORLEANS, Father Ted, and so on and so on.

― Tep (ktepi), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:15 (twenty-two years ago)

The thing for me is that it's not so much pretending to be interested as in actually enjoying it and pretending to like something, it's more like being polite and listening instead of screaming "SHUT UP SHUT UP YOU ARE SO BORING OMG I SHOULD STAB YOU WITH A FORK WHAT DO YOU MEAN THAT YOU HAVE THE WORD 'SPIRITUAL' TATTOOED ON YOUR LEG JESUS GOD THAT IS SO BAD AND LAME I HATE YOU". That's just not really v. nice.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:17 (twenty-two years ago)

full disclosure: i STILL don't like lars von trier as much as any of the guys i've dated do.

― BLACKOUT '03! (Jody Beth Rosen), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:17 (twenty-two years ago)

i walked out on "dancer in the dark" on a date so there was no hiding that one.

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:21 (twenty-two years ago)

(that sounds totally rude but it was ok, long story, sorry.)

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:22 (twenty-two years ago)

You left your date?!

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:22 (twenty-two years ago)

i kind of misrepresented that scenario. anyway, let's drop it.

so what ABT guy ritchie?

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:23 (twenty-two years ago)

i walked out of breaking the waves on a date but i left WITH the date. :-)

― BLACKOUT '03! (Jody Beth Rosen), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:23 (twenty-two years ago)

what if he had tattooed SPIRITUAL on his ass?

― Tad (llamasfur), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:24 (twenty-two years ago)

i went to see "breaking the waves" with an old friend and after we left the theater our conversation was:

AMST: so, what did you think of that?
Z: (dripping with contempt) whatever.
AMST: huh?
Z: what fucking ever.
AMST: er, ok.

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:25 (twenty-two years ago)

rosie o'donnell. and the rosie o'donnell/tickle me elmo christmas song -- there exists no song so gay as that one.

― Tad (llamasfur), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:26 (twenty-two years ago)

Tattooing "SPIRITUAL" anywhere on your person is enough to make me want you to die.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:27 (twenty-two years ago)

Tad, were you dating a 6 year old??!

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:27 (twenty-two years ago)

she often acted like a 6 year old.

― Tad (llamasfur), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:28 (twenty-two years ago)

indie pop

actually, in that case it was me interested and her (probably) pretending!

― MarkH (MarkH), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:29 (twenty-two years ago)

(to be fair, she was playing it for her younger cousins visiting for the holidays ... and then she confessed that she really LIKED it)

― Tad (llamasfur), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:29 (twenty-two years ago)

I knew you looked familiar, MarkH! :)

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:29 (twenty-two years ago)

Roll Playing games
smoking cloves

― brg30 (brg30), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:39 (twenty-two years ago)

Cloves???

I'm not very good at pretending abt this sort of thing, which has occasionally been to my detriment. so it's interesting hearing abt other ppl's experiences.

― MarkH (MarkH), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:42 (twenty-two years ago)

Plot Summary for
Breaking the Waves (1996)

Drama set in a repressed, deeply religious community in the north of Scotland, where a naive young woman named Bess McNeil (Emily Watson) meets and falls in love with Danish oil-rig worker Jan (Stellan Skarsgaard). Bess and Jan are deeply in love but, when Jan returns to his rig, Bess prays to God that he returns for good. Jan does return, his neck broken in an accident aboard the rig. Because of his condition, Jan and Bess are now unable to enjoy a sexual relationship and Jan urges Bess to take another lover and tell him the details. As Bess becomes more and more deviant in her sexual behaviour, the more she comes to believe that her actions are guided by God and are helping Jan recover.

How could this not be good?

― Bryan (Bryan), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 19:50 (twenty-two years ago)

It sounds interesting at the very least. Don't think I'm gonna rush out and rent it, though...

― luna (luna.c), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:27 (twenty-two years ago)

It's not as good as that description sounds.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:29 (twenty-two years ago)

it's a fascinating movie, but not for all tastes. full stop.

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:32 (twenty-two years ago)

Just for the part of the description that says her sexual behaviour becomes deviant I'd want to see it. I'll bet that's what you're getting at Ally?

― Bryan (Bryan), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:32 (twenty-two years ago)

oh, you cad.

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:33 (twenty-two years ago)

Did you just call me a sexual deviant?

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:34 (twenty-two years ago)

That review doesn't mention the cameraman was a bobblehead doll.

― chester (synkro), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:34 (twenty-two years ago)

Say Anything (two different SOs), Eric Clapton post-Cream, various local punk bands. Grew to love Tank Girl and the Maxx cartoons.

― miloauckerman (miloauckerman), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:35 (twenty-two years ago)

I'll bet you a bottle of bbq sauce you are, Ally!

― Bryan (Bryan), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:35 (twenty-two years ago)

Bryan, do you enjoy your ribs?

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:36 (twenty-two years ago)

haha Bryan "BBQ Ribs"

― Millar (Millar), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:36 (twenty-two years ago)

damn xpost

― Millar (Millar), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:37 (twenty-two years ago)

When properly tenderized, yes.

― Bryan (Bryan), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:37 (twenty-two years ago)

yeah, jesus, why anyone would bet away a bottle of perfectly good bbq sauce is beyond me.

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:37 (twenty-two years ago)

That's it. That's Bryan's new nickname.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:37 (twenty-two years ago)

back to the question at hand:

ILX

― Millar (Millar), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:38 (twenty-two years ago)

Someone already said that. I'm not even pretending to be interested in ILX at this point.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:38 (twenty-two years ago)

I once had a friend who spent 18 months pretending to believe in God just to impress his girlfriend. Including going to church week in week out. Now *that* was impressive.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:39 (twenty-two years ago)

Oh like I read donut bitch's posts

― Millar (Millar), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:39 (twenty-two years ago)

That's just rude.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:40 (twenty-two years ago)

Haha yes CHRISTIANITY is the elephant in the room here.

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:42 (twenty-two years ago)

Like I care.

― Millar (Millar), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:43 (twenty-two years ago)

"Southern Hospitality"

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:43 (twenty-two years ago)

"Yankee Snobbery"

― Millar (Millar), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:45 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm trying to resist the urge to post this great picture of Derek Jeter I just found. He's dressed like a pimp. A snobby one.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:47 (twenty-two years ago)

so five four three two one then?

― Millar (Millar), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:50 (twenty-two years ago)

Yeah so anyway, stories of people turning to Christ b/c their SO was religious? Did it stick?

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:51 (twenty-two years ago)

I'M NOT POSTING IT. I don't have it in my heart to ridicule Jeets.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:51 (twenty-two years ago)

I know one guy who converted to Jehovah's Witness to be with a girl who was 5 years older than he was. He wasn't pretending, though. Now he has a Master's in Engineering from UAH and is doing quite well for himself, still married.

― Millar (Millar), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:54 (twenty-two years ago)

i wonder where nicole kidman fits in to all this.

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:55 (twenty-two years ago)

Ask N.'s exes.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:55 (twenty-two years ago)

I can't even imagine faking spirituality for love. That's so utterly two-faced and ridiculous - that goes beyond anything else on this thread. If I had a friend who ever did that I'd fucking kick him.

― Millar (Millar), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:56 (twenty-two years ago)

T/S this thread vs. the embarrassing first date thread

― Millar (Millar), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:56 (twenty-two years ago)

Mary's joke on this thread is better than anything at all on the first date thread.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:57 (twenty-two years ago)

yes! but was it a joke?

re. nicole: i mean was she down with the whole scientology thing?

― amateurist (amateurist), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:58 (twenty-two years ago)

yeah but it's basically the same topic innit?

"I love Dave Matthews!" --> "Yeah!" [nice tits!]

vs.

"I love Dave Matthews!" --> "Check please" [Hell with this!]

― Millar (Millar), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 20:59 (twenty-two years ago)

But the other thread really isn't funny.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 21:04 (twenty-two years ago)

I need to see Jeets dressed as a snobby pimp.

― luna (luna.c), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 21:05 (twenty-two years ago)

luna, this isn't the picture I was talking about but my god he's stolen Gareth's teddy bear?

http://home.att.net/~vintz/Derek.JPG

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 21:09 (twenty-two years ago)

!!!

― luna (luna.c), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 21:10 (twenty-two years ago)

haha I'm buying that suit Saturday

― Millar (Millar), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 21:10 (twenty-two years ago)

YES PLEASE DO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 21:11 (twenty-two years ago)

Um sorry.

― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 21:12 (twenty-two years ago)

The Braves!

― luna (luna.c), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 21:50 (twenty-two years ago)

his life

― gareth (gareth), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 22:25 (twenty-two years ago)

I feel you gareth my man. Time for a 40.

― Millar (Millar), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 22:31 (twenty-two years ago)

Not you, Gareth!
XO

― Mary (Mary), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 22:49 (twenty-two years ago)

― gareth (gareth), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 22:57 (twenty-two years ago)

Everyone else who listens to Gareth talk about himself, however, that's a different matter.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 23:04 (twenty-two years ago)

― gareth (gareth), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 23:07 (twenty-two years ago)

(I heart Gareth.)

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Wednesday, 20 August 2003 23:08 (twenty-two years ago)

I read a Jeanette Winterson novel once.

― hstencil, Wednesday, 20 August 2003 23:19 (twenty-two years ago)

I guess my utter and complete lack of tolerance for Dungeons & Dragons, role-playing games in general, Rush, ultra-theatrical prog-rock in general, and, um, a bunch of other things that might get me into trouble with certain people around here (because I know there are those of you who would say, "B-b-but, I LOVE that") is because My Lone Ex-Boyfriend loved all of the above and talked about them at length. I definitely pretended to be interested during those conversations, then later on would doubt my own sanity. The only things he liked that I still like to this day are things I already liked, e.g. The Beatles, Simon & Garfunkel, and politics. Oh yeah, and he was an atheist, but I didn't try to "convert" him or talk to him at length about my religious convictions.

On paper, it SO should not have worked. And it didn't. Ta-da.

― Jane Datsun (Dee the Lurker), Thursday, 21 August 2003 01:16 (twenty-two years ago)

i can't imagine me ever doing this, i mighta & i forgot tho

― duane, Thursday, 21 August 2003 01:39 (twenty-two years ago)

cooking, gardening, home improvement, movies

― electric sound of jim (electricsound), Thursday, 21 August 2003 01:54 (twenty-two years ago)

(home imp = the activity not the show)

― electric sound of jim (electricsound), Thursday, 21 August 2003 01:54 (twenty-two years ago)

female orgasms

― oops (Oops), Thursday, 21 August 2003 01:58 (twenty-two years ago)

(joking of course...I'm actually fascinated by them)

― oops (Oops), Thursday, 21 August 2003 01:59 (twenty-two years ago)

I want to know who Mandee was trying to impress with the Gordon Korman books...

― Kim (Kim), Thursday, 21 August 2003 01:59 (twenty-two years ago)

This bad, but I think I have you all beat.

After 12 years of being a vegetarian, I started dating a hunter. We did a lot of hiking, camping and fishing in the summer which I love. But come fall and hunting season closed in we started doing a lot of staking out feeding and bedding areas. Once the season started I had to help clean the riffles and all sorts of crazy tasks. Well one morning he went off with his friends to bag some bucks. I stayed on the porch to drink coffee and read. Hours passed and eventually I heard shots echo though the valley. A couple hours later the boys come back with two whitetails. "Well come on " he say's "Time to learn how to gut and skin a deer". Now I get the feeling that a lot of you think chicken comes form the store, so I will spare details. It was one of the hardest things I have ever done in my life, if I think about it hard enough I can still smell it. I have skinned and tanned
( tanning is a whole other mess of details you really don't want to hear about) 8 deer in my life. It started as a wanting to share time together and even though we are not together anymore it ended up being a huge life lesson. Plus in a land where wool socks and campfires are turn on's. This makes me quite the catch.

― danielle g. (danielle g.), Thursday, 21 August 2003 05:57 (twenty-two years ago)

you know what would be a real funny answer to this qn, to me anyway? "heroin". it wouldnt be the truth tho.

― duane (24 hour troubleshooter), Thursday, 21 August 2003 06:10 (twenty-two years ago)

& i'm pretty concerned with the truth

― duane (24 hour troubleshooter), Thursday, 21 August 2003 06:12 (twenty-two years ago)

can you handle the truth?

― electric sound of jim (electricsound), Thursday, 21 August 2003 06:16 (twenty-two years ago)

i can handle anything if i can get high 1st

― duane (24 hour troubleshooter), Thursday, 21 August 2003 06:18 (twenty-two years ago)

duane, now I am concerned about you. Are you ok?

― danielle g. (danielle g.), Thursday, 21 August 2003 06:21 (twenty-two years ago)

Harry Fucking Potter.

― Colin Meeder (Mert), Thursday, 21 August 2003 07:11 (twenty-two years ago)

More feinging polite interest rather than 'oh how cool', but:

Ozric Tenticles - oh Lord God.
His collection of reptiles/ toads/ fish and things - I think that relationship was over when I laughed when one of his toads died from being egg bound.
The violin - squeaky noise
Five-a-side football - oh give it up.
What Alex Reece is really like as a person and a producer - side effect of dating junior league DJ.

-- amateurist

PhD level maths currently. I will never, ever understand it (Toby may as well be speaking Hungarian), but it has good phrases and I like making up new meanings for them. (Shimura curves - doe-eyed desert houri, glittering in their temple and surrounded by hot winds. God only knows what they actually are.)

― Anna (Anna), Thursday, 21 August 2003 07:36 (twenty-two years ago)

buses

I was 16 at the time, I'm sorry. I still get shivers when I hear the distinctive noise of a volvo bus breaking and I realise I still haven't forgotten it all.

― Vicky (Vicky), Thursday, 21 August 2003 08:06 (twenty-two years ago)

Quentin Crisp — "A lifetime of disco music is a high price to pay for one's sexuality."

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Thursday, 21 August 2003 11:21 (twenty-two years ago)

Vicky, do you mean braking? Or as in taking a crowbar to the fucking thing?

(also, thank you for not going into your mid-20s boyfriend dislikes :))

(yet)

― Mark C (Mark C), Thursday, 21 August 2003 11:34 (twenty-two years ago)

Bizarrely, also Ozric Tentacles. (nothing to do with Vicky obv)

― Mark C (Mark C), Thursday, 21 August 2003 11:36 (twenty-two years ago)

yes, thanks Mark, I also pretended to find pedantry acceptable..

― Vicky (Vicky), Thursday, 21 August 2003 11:37 (twenty-two years ago)

No, I never did. But I ended up knowing all about comics through Dan even though I have made fun of them forever.

― Larcole (Nicole), Thursday, 21 August 2003 11:39 (twenty-two years ago)

You can bloody talk, Victoria ;)

― Mark C (Mark C), Thursday, 21 August 2003 11:43 (twenty-two years ago)

I think the Gordon Korman books win this thread.

― gabbneb (gabbneb), Thursday, 21 August 2003 12:08 (twenty-two years ago)

Honestly though, with the exception of one of my previous SOs and her going into excruciating detail over meaningless boring bookstore-job minutia, I've always been interested in just about everything they've ever talked to me about. I'm easy. Easy like Sunday morning.

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Thursday, 21 August 2003 12:59 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm very embarrased to admit I got sucked into the whole bus enthusiast thing, his dad owned a bus company, and one Xmas present was a huge blown up picture of the brand new bus they'd just bought. And I was pleased and hung it up, next to the photos of all their other buses.

It wasn't me, I was switched at 21, honest.

― Vicky (Vicky), Thursday, 21 August 2003 13:07 (twenty-two years ago)

I can't believe I just admitted that after trying to pretend it never happened for the last 10 years.

― Vicky (Vicky), Thursday, 21 August 2003 13:08 (twenty-two years ago)

Are these Volkswagen buses you're talking about?

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Thursday, 21 August 2003 13:11 (twenty-two years ago)

no proper buses, big passenger carrying ones.

― Vicky (Vicky), Thursday, 21 August 2003 13:12 (twenty-two years ago)

Hippy :)

― Mark C (Mark C), Thursday, 21 August 2003 13:15 (twenty-two years ago)

http://www.norfolkwindmills.com/ilx/faversham.jpg

― gareth (gareth), Thursday, 21 August 2003 13:18 (twenty-two years ago)

http://www.blue-bus.co.uk/PICTURES/csf160W.jpg
They've changed the livery, it used to be a very rich cream and dark blue.

― Vicky (Vicky), Thursday, 21 August 2003 13:28 (twenty-two years ago)

eleven months pass...

I never really pretended to like anything of hers, though I listened to her favorite band (Oasis) more because they reminded me of her. Earnest and cheesy, but it did the trick.

Tragically, the relationship broke apart quite possibly due to me being extremely honest and almost laughing at her when she said that Orange County is "a great movie."

Sometimes I've thought back and wondered if I did the right thing, and then I remember Orange County.

― Slim Pickens (Slim Pickens), Monday, 2 August 2004 00:19 (twenty-one years ago)

surely this is done way more with prospective significant others?

― Ronan (Ronan), Monday, 2 August 2004 00:21 (twenty-one years ago)

Probably, but I like the way the question is currently framed better because there are implications such as "have you ever pretended to like X in order for the relationship to work/make them happy/whatever?" Those stories seem more interesting than pretending to be enthusiastic on a first date or some such thing.

― Slim Pickens (Slim Pickens), Monday, 2 August 2004 00:27 (twenty-one years ago)

I guess, to me though the pretending thing seems like a huge step. maybe my perspectives are skewed but if I say I like something I hate I know it truly must be love, haha!

― Ronan (Ronan), Monday, 2 August 2004 00:29 (twenty-one years ago)

Human Traffic
giving head
the Postal Service
Jamahl singing Darkness covers on television
travel
really really crap rave music
current affairs

I'm a total sucker for this, I do it without thinking. I think I may be over polite.

― dog latin (dog latin), Monday, 2 August 2004 09:26 (twenty-one years ago)

Human Traffic
giving head
the Postal Service
Jamahl singing Darkness covers on television
travel
really really crap rave music
current affairs

Was all this for the same person? Better still - in the same night?

― Alba (Alba), Monday, 2 August 2004 09:31 (twenty-one years ago)

Those awful "Ibiza/MinistryOfSound" rave collection CD's, I had to pretend I thought this music was 'okay' one night. My punishement was her bringing her complete collection to my house the following week and having to listen to them for 3 hours.

I have learnt my lesson.

― Ste (Fuzzy), Monday, 2 August 2004 09:38 (twenty-one years ago)

at least you didn't have to give head as well.

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 2 August 2004 09:45 (twenty-one years ago)

Was all this for the same person? Better still - in the same night?

Yes, in that order. Worst date of my life!

― dog latin (dog latin), Monday, 2 August 2004 09:47 (twenty-one years ago)

at least you didn't have to give head as well.

I did offer

― Ste (Fuzzy), Monday, 2 August 2004 09:54 (twenty-one years ago)

she refused?

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 2 August 2004 09:56 (twenty-one years ago)

or declined, i mean?

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 2 August 2004 09:57 (twenty-one years ago)

I used to have a bf who quizzed me on classical music. Now I appreciate it - I probably would have never listened to Mahler otherwise. When my now-husband and I started seeing each other, I feigned a higher threshold for horror movies and metal. Now I've come clean. I must say I'm glad to have been exposed to Dario Argento and bands like Opeth and Katatonia, though.

― Maria D. (Maria D.), Monday, 2 August 2004 15:35 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm just picturing Scott on your first date talking excitedly about horror movies and metal!

― jaymc (jaymc), Monday, 2 August 2004 16:24 (twenty-one years ago)

And then giggling nervously.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Monday, 2 August 2004 16:28 (twenty-one years ago)

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