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okay, so i talked to this guy who i really hit it off with saturday night at a party. we have known each other for awhile, but not much more than each other's names. anyway, we learned we had a lot in common. so sunday night we went over to my friends house and hung out for awhile. i thought we had a great time. i thought he did too. when that date ended, he asked if he could make me dinner today. i said sure, and he said he would call after he got home from work(3 pm). by 8, he hadn't called so i left to go to a friend's house. when i got home, he had called. he said that he had to work late and also had some accident during which his right eye was injured and swelled to the point of not being openable. he wants to reschedule for tommorrow. i said yes hesitantly, because i don't know if i believe this tale. is this bullshit? was i stood up?

― soconfused (soconfused), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 04:54 (twenty-one years ago)

he sounded really apologetic on the phone, but now i am not sure if he was apologetic enough. and if i do see him tommorrow night, and his eye appears normal, should i mention it? is that a dealbreaker??

― soconfused (soconfused), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 04:56 (twenty-one years ago)

If he shows up tomorrow, who cares what happened today?

― oops (Oops), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 05:04 (twenty-one years ago)

right now i wouldn't be too worried but at the same time i'd have my guard up, if after tomorrow night you think his story's bullshit file the suspiscion in the back of your mind

― cinniblount (James Blount), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 05:10 (twenty-one years ago)

it is especially crappy because i so rarely find someone who i am interested in who actually seems normal and probably doesn't have a criminal record of some sort. still, don't you think he could have called from work to let me know he couldn't make it? that seems logical to me. i guess it is possible he didn't have my number with him. am i too suspicious?

― soconfused (soconfused), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 05:14 (twenty-one years ago)

Maybe. In any case, this is the first time he's done such a thing, albeit on his first opportunity to do so. Let it go. It means nothing if done once. If he pulls something similar again, release the hounds.

― oops (Oops), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 05:17 (twenty-one years ago)

i don't know - guys can be pretty stupid and inconsiderate and it can have nothing to do with how they feel or what they think about the girl they're standing up

― cinniblount (James Blount), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 05:18 (twenty-one years ago)

xpost

― cinniblount (James Blount), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 05:18 (twenty-one years ago)

plus you have the upper hand now

― cinniblount (James Blount), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 05:19 (twenty-one years ago)

yes, but i had no dinner! i ended up drinking beer instead, that really hasn't helped my ability to reason.

― soconfused (soconfused), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 05:20 (twenty-one years ago)

He could've had a huge zit and needed the extra day to oxy-fy it. Like I--and blount--said, it doesn't (necessarily) mean anything.

Didn't eat dinner? That's your own damn fault. ;)

― oops (Oops), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 05:24 (twenty-one years ago)

although if this guy isn't sheepish or apologetic or doesn't acknowledge thru his demeanor in some way that you have the upper hand tomorrow night be a bit wary cuz it might -might- mean he wasn't really really really supereager about this date the way guys can be about girls they really really really want to, um, date so it might -might- mean he's not as into you are you are into him (you sound pretty into him) OR it might mean he's an asshole and treats women like doormats. right now though you know nothing and shouldn't really assume much, except that he owes you one.

― cinniblount (James Blount), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 05:24 (twenty-one years ago)

go eat a corndawg and then tomorrow night tell him 'dude I had a fucking corndawg for dinner last night cuz your sorry ass'

― cinniblount (James Blount), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 05:25 (twenty-one years ago)

you have no chance with this guy. File suit against him now for breach of contract.

― Skottie, Wednesday, 8 October 2003 05:25 (twenty-one years ago)

blount's last two posts OTMFM

― oops (Oops), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 05:29 (twenty-one years ago)

true, skipping dinner is my fault. however, i felt such powerful feeling of lameness that i no longer felt hungry. i am also a bit alarmed at how upset it has made me. nothing like this has ever happened to me before. i feel so vulnerable and slighted. is it normal to be this emotional over such a relatively minor thing? i actually cried, which i never do. i am afraid i will suddenly feel the urge to read some crappy romance novel and eat bon bons all day. is my pathetic reaction to this going to lead to that???????? god i hope not.

― soconfused (soconfused), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 05:30 (twenty-one years ago)

mmmmmmmmm, corndogs. definitely with mustard and ketchup.

― soconfused (soconfused), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 05:32 (twenty-one years ago)

yeah, that's the thing - corndawgs sound totally lame when you're telling someone what you had to resort to for dinner but in reality they're tasty tasty!

― cinniblount (James Blount), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 05:36 (twenty-one years ago)

Guess what just made it on the ol' shopping list

― oops (Oops), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 05:37 (twenty-one years ago)

if there's a 24 hour video place nearby maybe go rent the two towers and then when aragorn returns and doesn't even say hi to the blonde chick and she's all 'wtf - not even a hello?' you can be all 'dude I know!'

― cinniblount (James Blount), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 05:39 (twenty-one years ago)

yes you were stood up.
the eye does not affect the ability to use the phone to explain the situation.
drop this one like a hot po-ta-to.

― Orbit (Orbit), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 06:29 (twenty-one years ago)

Hey, he called her on the day of the missed date. Don't be petty and try to show him who's boss or some other mind game bullshit.

― oops (Oops), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 07:18 (twenty-one years ago)

he was supposed to call at 3pm. he didn't call till 8pm
fuck him.

― Orbit (Orbit), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 07:20 (twenty-one years ago)

*ahem*
Don't be petty and try to show him who's boss or some other mind game bullshit.

― broken record (Oops), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 07:22 (twenty-one years ago)

I really love the fact that no one on this board has actually considered the idea that the guy might *not* be lying, that he really *might* have had to work late? I don't know about you, but I don't have a phone at my work. The eye story is a red herring - maybe he's just as nervous as you about the whole date/missing it situation.

Give the guy another chance. If he blows that, *then* it's a problem.

There's such a thing as being too suspicious.

― kate (kate), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 07:23 (twenty-one years ago)

*ahem*
been there, done that.
no patience for passive-aggressive messages like "you are not important so i will not call you"
voice of experience, not pettiness. i am old. old. been there.

― Orbit (Orbit), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 07:24 (twenty-one years ago)

old and single! *runs away all quick-like*

― oops (Oops), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 07:26 (twenty-one years ago)

I love it when people project their own petty bitterness onto other people's situations when trying to give "impartial" advice! Cause that's what ILE is all about!

― kate (kate), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 07:28 (twenty-one years ago)

not true.
just old.

― Orbit (Orbit), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 07:29 (twenty-one years ago)

I am always amazed when people interpet life experience and realism as bitterness. I find that those people are usually younger than me. Being candid and being bitter are not the same thing. I am not a bitter person, as anyone who knows me will attest.

But to each her own.

― Orbit (Orbit), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 07:31 (twenty-one years ago)

It's really easy to say that all men are bastard passive-aggressive control freaks (especially after having some bad experiences).

It's not so easy to accept that men can be just as scared, cautious, freaked-out and confused about relationships as women are.

I just know which attitude has had more of a positive effect on me and on my relationships with men.

― kate (kate), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 07:34 (twenty-one years ago)

didn't say that.
i understand your point.

― Orbit (Orbit), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 07:35 (twenty-one years ago)

But he did phone right? If he was gonna stand you up completely, he wouldn't have bothered. Porbably best not to analyse it until after the next night.

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 07:47 (twenty-one years ago)

If he called eventually on the same day, AND immediately re-arranged, then he's probably kosher (if, possibly, a bit thoughtless - Kate, you're probably the only person outside the deep sea diving industry not to have a phone at work). If he wasn't, he'd either have not called at all, or not re-arranged.

I'd count this as a first strike, but don't fret about it and probably don't even mention it to him. Complaining about something, even if 200% justified, on a first/second date is going to lose you so many points, no matter how unfair that is. Just see if it's a one-off.

(also, re-reading he did say he'd call you when he got home from work and he did call you then)

Fundamentally, even if Orbit turns out to be right, do you really want to risk giving him up as a bad job? It's better to regret things you have done etc. etc.

― Mark C (Mark C), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 07:48 (twenty-one years ago)

Hey, I don't even have a log-in on my computer here.

Many workplaces object to, or have stringent rules against personal calls while on company time.

I'm with Mark C, though. He said he'd call when he got home from work, and he did. Proceed with caution, but proceed.

― kate (kate), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 07:52 (twenty-one years ago)

Mark is very otm here.

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 07:52 (twenty-one years ago)

hmmmmm...people make many valid points here, but it still sounds fishy. I bad about not calling people back or doing a "hey, I'll call you..." But if I've made a specific date and can't make it for some reason, I always try to reach the person before hand. Standing people up vs. just blowing off someone who seemed interested in me (not that that happens that often, mind you) are really different things. I freak out if I think someone's been waiting for me and I've failed to show.

Not a justification, but maybe he has some terrible, disfiguring, STD that makes his eye swell up. He may have thought it would go down in time for dinner, but it didn't and he was too embarassed to show. Hey, wait...if he has some terrible, disfiguring STD, maybe you shouldn't get all freshie-freshie with him anyway. Unless he wears latex overalls. But then, that's something altogether different again.

Sensors indicate "dud"

― Skottie, Wednesday, 8 October 2003 08:37 (twenty-one years ago)

You shoulldn't have said yes to the rescheduled date. You should have said "Call me tomorrow and I'll let you know." But I wouldn't sweat it. Belatedly cancelling a dinner date is a pretty minor offense.

― bnw (bnw), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 08:55 (twenty-one years ago)

i agree with the general tone. it's a pretty farfetched story if he was going to make something up, and probably wouldn't have called at all if he wasn't interested. so don't automatically think he's a big jerk/liar. however, my first reaction was 'why didn't he call when he knew he was going to be 5 hours late?' so, as kate said, proceed, but with caution. don't bother trying to play any mind games or anything, just try to pay attention if this seems like part of a pattern, or if it was completely a one-off. hopefully it was the latter, and you'll be able to laugh about it together sometime in the future!

― colette (a2lette), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 09:31 (twenty-one years ago)

i would have no tolerance for a phone call 5 hours late.

― half jack, Wednesday, 8 October 2003 12:33 (twenty-one years ago)

if you want to end up like orbit you should totally follow her advice. if not you should totally ignore it.

― cinniblount (James Blount), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 14:57 (twenty-one years ago)

Har har har har har har har har har har har har, oooph, my sides hurt, ouch.

― kate (kate), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 15:00 (twenty-one years ago)

If he's not wearing an eye patch the next time you meet, call it off. Even if he made up the bit about the eye. Make it clear that it's eye patch or nothing... that way you can reassess how serious this fellow really is.

― Dale the Titled (cprek), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 15:01 (twenty-one years ago)

you just want to put pirates in everything, don't you!!!!!!!!

― Emilymv (Emilymv), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 15:04 (twenty-one years ago)

yes

― Dale the Titled (cprek), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 15:14 (twenty-one years ago)

I don't think it is advisable to recommend dating people with eyepatches. Even Pete Burns.

― Nicolars (Nicole), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 15:15 (twenty-one years ago)

um, how exactly is it that i ended up?
do tell.

― Orbit (Orbit), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 15:43 (twenty-one years ago)

you done told!

― cinniblount (James Blount), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 15:49 (twenty-one years ago)

i don't know what the hell you are talking about, but that's ok, you probably don't either. i'm off to the freeway......have a fabulous day you fuzzy wuzzy charmers!

― Orbit (Orbit), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 15:55 (twenty-one years ago)

two weeks!

― cinniblount (James Blount), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 15:57 (twenty-one years ago)

nothing like this has ever happened to me before. i feel so vulnerable and slighted.

I 'm sorry and I'm saying so in advance - I KNOW this is rude - but please. Cry me a river already. Are people really this fragile ? :cue 'ironic' charges hurled at me for starting a sensitivity thread!: I wish I could have these sorts of mundane problems rather than $#$^$^%^%%@$$#. It's really not the end of the world, you know. And fwiw, no, i don't think if someone calls you just a few hours later to apologize for having missed a date, can you really say that you were "stood up."

― Vic (Vic), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 16:09 (twenty-one years ago)

is vic short for vicious?

― Emilymv (Emilymv), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 16:21 (twenty-one years ago)

it's short for victual

― cinniblount (James Blount), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 16:27 (twenty-one years ago)

yummy! i think vic would have a bitter aftertaste.

― Emilymv (Emilymv), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 16:34 (twenty-one years ago)

soconfused did say "is it normal to be this emotional over such a relatively minor thing?"

Sometimes the Big Scary Stuff in life gets too overwhelming, so you get tied up in the minor stuff. That seems okay as long as you have a reasonable perspective (realizing that these problems are ultimately not that big of a deal).

But, yeah, give this guy another chance. What everybody else said. I'd be curious to hear the outcome.

― JuliaA (j_bdules), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 16:35 (twenty-one years ago)

and whether or not he is Momus.

― rener (rener), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 16:40 (twenty-one years ago)

i am going to try not to carry over any resentment and have a good time tonight. that is if it actually happens. and i will definitely post about the outcome. thanks for all of the advice, i will keep it in mind.

― soconfused (soconfused), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 16:42 (twenty-one years ago)

HOLYCRAP! IT IS 7 PM AND HE HAS YET TO CALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!WTF!!!!!!!!!!! I AM HAVING A STROKE RIGHT NOW. RAGE!RAGE!RAGE!RAGE! THIS SUCKS!

― soconfused (soconfused), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 21:58 (twenty-one years ago)

You need to drop that zero and get yourself a hero!

― Nicolars (Nicole), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 22:01 (twenty-one years ago)

when was he supposed to show up?

― cinniblount (James Blount), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 22:03 (twenty-one years ago)

Word to your motha
http://www.angelfire.com/va3/smitty/v/21.jpg

― oops (Oops), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 22:04 (twenty-one years ago)

My jerry springer audience member html tag didn't show up. :-(

I was joking.

― Nicolars (Nicole), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 22:05 (twenty-one years ago)

once again he was supposed to call when he got home from work. i think that was long ago. i am not sure if there is enough alcohol in this town to still my rage. at what point should i give up and go out to drown my sorrows?

― soconfused (soconfused), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 22:06 (twenty-one years ago)

++at what point should i give up and go out to drown my sorrows?

yesterday

― halp jack, Wednesday, 8 October 2003 22:16 (twenty-one years ago)

maybe read a funny ilx thread or go out & see a movie. why would you want to date such a jerk anyways.

― half jack, Wednesday, 8 October 2003 22:18 (twenty-one years ago)

maybe read a funny ilx thread or go out & see a movie. why would you want to date such a jerk anyways?

― half jack, Wednesday, 8 October 2003 22:18 (twenty-one years ago)

After what happened last night, he should've called you THE MOMENT he left work.
To the curb, girlfriend! *finger snaps*

― oops (Oops), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 22:21 (twenty-one years ago)

oops otm, this guy should be dead to you now. I'm sorry.

― cinniblount (James Blount), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 22:41 (twenty-one years ago)

Yeah you gave him a second chance, good. He blew it. Move on. Not worth getting angry over.

― A Girl Named Sam (thatgirl), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 22:48 (twenty-one years ago)

DISASTER AVERTED! he just called. apparently they tried to get him to stay until 9:30, and he said that he had plans and would not. then he quit! (it is a second job). he was really apologetic and seemed sincere, so i guess we will see. update soon.

― soconfused (soconfused), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 23:01 (twenty-one years ago)

hmm

― A Girl Named Sam (thatgirl), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 23:04 (twenty-one years ago)

hmm is right

― cinniblount (James Blount), Wednesday, 8 October 2003 23:10 (twenty-one years ago)

y'all need to turn up the trolldar a bit

― whoo, Thursday, 9 October 2003 00:11 (twenty-one years ago)

I think this guy is subtly establishing a favorable set of parameters for this budding relationship, and it's brilliant!

― Aaron A., Thursday, 9 October 2003 00:14 (twenty-one years ago)

Now I'm doubting whether he even had this second job in the first place.

― oops (Oops), Thursday, 9 October 2003 00:19 (twenty-one years ago)

Yeah, I'm guessing if he has multiple anythings it's girlfriends

― Aaron A., Thursday, 9 October 2003 00:22 (twenty-one years ago)

Or personalities.

― Skottie, Thursday, 9 October 2003 07:07 (twenty-one years ago)

Just ask him when he hasnt gotta work & when he can defintely turn up!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Thursday, 9 October 2003 07:28 (twenty-one years ago)

We need an update. Was he wearing an eyepatch?

― Dale the Titled (cprek), Thursday, 9 October 2003 12:08 (twenty-one years ago)

am i the only one who (sadly) identifies with the flaky excuse making guy?

― minna (minna), Thursday, 9 October 2003 13:56 (twenty-one years ago)

I do. A bit.

I mean, not that it's admirable or anything, but I don't always call IMMEDIATELY I get in from work when I've said 'when I get home from work', even with loved ones, let alone people I've just met. Sometimes I want to catch my breath or shower or whatever. And yes, if I was really into someone I'd PROBABLY want to call ASAP but not always. You want to come across well... you might feel nervous, whatever.

― Archel (Archel), Thursday, 9 October 2003 14:24 (twenty-one years ago)

I agree with Minna & Archel. If you've had a shitty day, you don't phone someone this minute you get in the door. You want to be settled & comfy if you are making important phone calls, esp phoning a potential love interest!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Thursday, 9 October 2003 14:36 (twenty-one years ago)

am i the only one who (sadly) identifies with the flaky excuse making guy?

Not at all, but I'm identifying with it in two different ways, the flaky way and the demonstratably evil way as well...

― Ally (mlescaut), Thursday, 9 October 2003 15:06 (twenty-one years ago)

It's like the dude has an Ally on either shoulder.

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Thursday, 9 October 2003 15:12 (twenty-one years ago)

Answer to thread question: yes

― felicity (felicity), Thursday, 9 October 2003 15:14 (twenty-one years ago)

alright, update: he showed up with a replusive black eye that was nearly swollen shut. my roomates laughed in his face and said that he looked like Mattew Broderick's Mr. M after the bee incident in Election. he seemed very self conscious and nervous. he finally relaxed a bit when we went out to dinner. it was a little weird because he was very old fashioned about everything. holding doors, ordering for both of us and what not. it was kinda nice, but very different from what i am used to. we then went to his house and had a really good conversation and watched a movie. after that we made plans for a couple of upcoming shows and parties. he seemed to get a bit presumptious about "couple" dates, ie coordinating halloween costumes and things like that. but we did really hit it off so maybe it will work out. however, i might have to run away fast as soon as i sense disaster.

― soconfused (soconfused), Thursday, 9 October 2003 19:08 (twenty-one years ago)

he showed up with a replusive black eye

You're dating all of my exes, run far away immediately.

― Ally (mlescaut), Thursday, 9 October 2003 19:17 (twenty-one years ago)

don't believe him. he totally voluntarily contracted some sort of eye infection for a cover story. this guy's a total phony!

― Yanc3y (ystrickler), Thursday, 9 October 2003 19:19 (twenty-one years ago)

Maybe what she really needs is new roommates?

― Ally (mlescaut), Thursday, 9 October 2003 19:20 (twenty-one years ago)

ha ha BOOYAH summa y'all are some cynical mufuckaz and done got skooled by the righteousness of love shinin' through like the sun through the clouds on a stormy day! let me reiterate: BOOYAH!

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Thursday, 9 October 2003 19:23 (twenty-one years ago)

he showed up with a replusive black eye that was nearly swollen shut. my roomates laughed in his face and said that he looked like Mattew Broderick's Mr. M after the bee incident in Election.

Looks like an eye patch might have done some good after all, naysayers!

― Dale the Titled (cprek), Thursday, 9 October 2003 19:28 (twenty-one years ago)

I suppose I'm old-fashioned when it comes to dating etiquette, but what's up with ordering for the other person???

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Thursday, 9 October 2003 19:37 (twenty-one years ago)

Yeah, I think he watched too many movies/TV shows. I didn't think people still did that.

― oops (Oops), Thursday, 9 October 2003 19:40 (twenty-one years ago)

I like it when boys do that, it allows me more time to shovel alcohol/olives in my face at a restaurant that has already served us drinks and the free bread/olives tray. Suckas.

― Ally (mlescaut), Thursday, 9 October 2003 19:41 (twenty-one years ago)

I'd only do itf I got to pick out her dish, cause then I'd pick like, a side of fries and a bowl of soup. No wait, I don't have that kind of money. A cup of soup.

(off topic to Blount: my grocery store didn't have corndawgs ANYWHERE! I searched and searched. Cheese bageldogs will have to do)

― oops (Oops), Thursday, 9 October 2003 19:46 (twenty-one years ago)

troll troll troll

― half jack, Thursday, 9 October 2003 19:50 (twenty-one years ago)

dude, why the fuck would someone troll in this manner? It's pretty benign. If she is, then she must REALLY need some attention or someone to talk to, and it does me no harm to provide such a service.

― oops (Oops), Thursday, 9 October 2003 19:54 (twenty-one years ago)

I'd only do it if I got to pick out her dish, cause then I'd pick like, a side of fries and a bowl of soup. No wait, I don't have that kind of money. A cup of soup.

Only one cup? Praying for a cheap date? Guess she wouldn't be inviting you in for a nightcap.

― Nichole Graham (Nichole Graham), Thursday, 9 October 2003 19:55 (twenty-one years ago)

Well then she's a gold digger!
To tha curb with her! *finger snap combined with Walk Like an Egytptian head movements*

― oops (Oops), Thursday, 9 October 2003 20:03 (twenty-one years ago)

Strangely I was just thinking the exact same thing.

― Ally (mlescaut), Thursday, 9 October 2003 20:09 (twenty-one years ago)

"I'll have the lobster followed by your biggest steak. She'll have a glass of water. No, no darling, I'm not being mean with my money at all - I just thought that more calories was the last thing you...where are you going?"

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Thursday, 9 October 2003 21:09 (twenty-one years ago)

"I will have the chicken caesar salad and my date will have the cup of vodka, straight up. No, make that a bowl. Chicken caesear for me. Bowl of vodka for him."

― felicity (felicity), Thursday, 9 October 2003 21:10 (twenty-one years ago)

"I will have the lobster and my date will have the check"

― oops (Oops), Thursday, 9 October 2003 21:12 (twenty-one years ago)

I would let Felicity order for me.

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Thursday, 9 October 2003 21:16 (twenty-one years ago)

That better be what she fucking orders for me at dinner tonight, that's for sure.

― Ally @ school, Thursday, 9 October 2003 22:19 (twenty-one years ago)

"I'd like the river of gin and the tear of tonic, please."

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Thursday, 9 October 2003 22:32 (twenty-one years ago)

"I'd like a Long Island Iced Tea but hold the ice. And also the Coke."

(I've actually said this)

― Ally @ school, Thursday, 9 October 2003 22:39 (twenty-one years ago)

"Nurse!"

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Thursday, 9 October 2003 23:16 (twenty-one years ago)

Is no one else mortally disturbed by the coordinated Halloween costumes thing? Was that his idea or soco's? Actually it doesn't matter. "Yeah, we're going as Oedipus and Jocasta. One of his eyes has already been almost put out."

― Skottie, Friday, 10 October 2003 01:44 (twenty-one years ago)

she ordered bit for me.

fyi!!!!

― Ally (mlescaut), Friday, 10 October 2003 01:48 (twenty-one years ago)

Oh, stop being such big cynics. It means he likes her. I feel happy.

― kate (kate), Friday, 10 October 2003 06:51 (twenty-one years ago)

at least he turned up! with the eye and all!
give the guy a chance.
plenty of time yet to find out if he is a real tosser. right!

― donna (donna), Friday, 10 October 2003 06:58 (twenty-one years ago)

He turned up, so give the guy a break! He may be a freak, but still this girl got to go on a date!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Friday, 10 October 2003 07:02 (twenty-one years ago)

Actually, hang on a second. If this guy is my crazy ex, he might have given HIMSELF a black eye in order to justify his story and hide his multiple girlfriends. (Scary psycho ex actually *did* manage to give himself a black eye once - and then went around telling people that I did it. Sigh.)

ARRRGGGGHHH!!! I hate all you paranoid people on this thread, you'd making me suspicious and paranoid now.

― kate (kate), Friday, 10 October 2003 07:06 (twenty-one years ago)

He sounds nice. I hope he realises how high maintenance you're likely to be, though ;)

― Mark C (Mark C), Friday, 10 October 2003 12:34 (twenty-one years ago)

So I was supposed to have lunch with my friend who works across the street. She was gonna call me around noon-thirty and we were gonna meet up at the Subway about 100 yards away. It is now *looks at watch* one-forty-four in the pm. I do believe I have been stood up.

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Friday, 10 October 2003 16:45 (twenty-one years ago)

Ha ha ha okay wait no she just called eat fresh time now.

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Friday, 10 October 2003 17:02 (twenty-one years ago)

++dude, why the fuck would someone troll in this manner? It's pretty benign. If she is, then she must REALLY need some attention or someone to talk to, and it does me no harm to provide such a service.

why wouldn't they troll in this manner? you obv have much more emotion involved w/this thread, so service away...

also, the ordering for your date part. i do this with my gf when we go out sometimes. i do not decide what she will be eating or drinking, but i do order the dinner. why am i clarifying this? isn't this somewhat normal? WHAT AM I TAKING CRAZY PILLS?

― half jack, Friday, 10 October 2003 17:28 (twenty-one years ago)

why wouldn't they troll in this manner?

Excellent logic.

― oops (Oops), Friday, 10 October 2003 20:35 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm confused (too). Are you suggesting that not only does he not have a swollen eye, but that Soconfused herself has made this whole thing up? To get attention? Why, who would do that, that preposterous...no one in her right mind would...

Seriously, is this for real or not? And, real or not real, coordinated halloween costumes are so bossy. I hate them. Hate them, hate them.

That is all.

― Skottie, Friday, 10 October 2003 21:01 (twenty-one years ago)

isn't this somewhat normal?

― oops (Oops), Friday, 10 October 2003 21:09 (twenty-one years ago)

++why wouldn't they troll in this manner?
++++Excellent logic

TROLL

― half jack, Tuesday, 14 October 2003 15:01 (twenty-one years ago)

ONLY A TROLL WOULD DENY THEY'RE A TROLL!!!

― Mark C (Mark C), Tuesday, 14 October 2003 15:30 (twenty-one years ago)

++why wouldn't they troll in this manner?
++++Excellent logic

TROLL

DICK

― oops (Oops), Tuesday, 14 October 2003 15:35 (twenty-one years ago)

don't forget to service her some more when she comes back

― half jack, Tuesday, 14 October 2003 15:43 (twenty-one years ago)

three years pass...

ya rly ;___;

― unfished business, Tuesday, 27 February 2007 14:54 (eighteen years ago)

dudes i wish felicity and spencer still posted

― the schef (adam schefter ha ha), Tuesday, 27 February 2007 15:19 (eighteen years ago)

srsly, she stood me up

― unfished business, Tuesday, 27 February 2007 17:11 (eighteen years ago)

one year passes...

STOOD UP

― Catsupppppppppppppp dude 茄蕃, Tuesday, 8 April 2008 03:58 (seventeen years ago)

ok not really but i got drunk

― Catsupppppppppppppp dude 茄蕃, Tuesday, 8 April 2008 03:58 (seventeen years ago)

APOCALYPTIC BORE

― Catsupppppppppppppp dude 茄蕃, Tuesday, 8 April 2008 03:58 (seventeen years ago)

BOOOOOOOORRRRRRRRRRRE!!!!!!!

― El Tomboto, Tuesday, 8 April 2008 04:01 (seventeen years ago)

http://www.last.fm/music/Amon+Düül+II/_/Apocolyptic+Bore

tombot do you have the hackers soundtrack what is the song on it that goes "I'M INVISBILE IM INVISIBLE IN THE LASER ROOM"

― Catsupppppppppppppp dude 茄蕃, Tuesday, 8 April 2008 04:02 (seventeen years ago)

I WANT AN UPDATE

― Tape Store, Tuesday, 8 April 2008 04:07 (seventeen years ago)

*ahem*
been there, done that.
no patience for passive-aggressive messages like "you are not important so i will not call you"
voice of experience, not pettiness. i am old. old. been there.

-- Orbit (Orbit), Wednesday, October 8, 2003 5:24 PM (4 years ago) Bookmark Link
old and single! *runs away all quick-like*

-- oops (Oops), Wednesday, October 8, 2003 5:26 PM (4 years ago) Bookmark Link

LOL Oops OTM for once.

― Trayce, Tuesday, 8 April 2008 04:10 (seventeen years ago)

dudes i wish felicity and spencer still posted

-- the schef (adam schefter ha ha)

carnival of souls ;_;

― omar little, Tuesday, 8 April 2008 04:13 (seventeen years ago)

sorry I had to work late and had a black eye for a few years

― felicity, Tuesday, 8 April 2008 04:14 (seventeen years ago)

wasn't that in the first indiana jones movie

― Catsupppppppppppppp dude 茄蕃, Tuesday, 8 April 2008 04:15 (seventeen years ago)

can someone helpe me with this hackers soundtrack track id

― Catsupppppppppppppp dude 茄蕃, Tuesday, 8 April 2008 04:15 (seventeen years ago)

i think orbital is the band that it took me the longest to like again of every band ever

― Catsupppppppppppppp dude 茄蕃, Tuesday, 8 April 2008 04:15 (seventeen years ago)

wow jon you are drunk
that's cowgirl by underworld

which thanks for making me go look it up so I could realize I don't have that track anymore either FUCK SHIT

― El Tomboto, Tuesday, 8 April 2008 04:15 (seventeen years ago)

i demand lossless version

― Catsupppppppppppppp dude 茄蕃, Tuesday, 8 April 2008 04:23 (seventeen years ago)

so it will sound as good as the boombox above my garage smoking pot in 1997

― Catsupppppppppppppp dude 茄蕃, Tuesday, 8 April 2008 04:23 (seventeen years ago)

maybe i'll watch save ferris on youtube?

― Catsupppppppppppppp dude 茄蕃, Tuesday, 8 April 2008 04:24 (seventeen years ago)

two years pass...

STOOD UP... ON VALENTINE'S DAY

― The Brainwasher, Tuesday, 15 February 2011 02:24 (fourteen years ago)

I'm just really confused right now - I'm trying to come up with a logical explanation?

― The Brainwasher, Tuesday, 15 February 2011 02:25 (fourteen years ago)

I'm so sorry man, no worse feeling for sure -- deets, if you feel comfortable sharing em?

― pon de river, pon deez nuts (San Te), Tuesday, 15 February 2011 03:31 (fourteen years ago)

I would count STOOD UP as my least favorite feeling.
Except the time I left a message on my friend's phone like "so I guess you're not coming to pick me up...well...ok..." because he hadn't picked me up. And it turned out he was on the floor having a seizure while he listened to that phone message resonate through the house. SO, I quit calling people out on it. But unless you are having a seizure or something it does make me feel super emo.

― Peter Pepsi (Abbbottt), Tuesday, 15 February 2011 03:41 (fourteen years ago)

yea that's the problem, always that sinking feeling if you call them on it that there is a legitimate reason and that you'll look like a heel.

― pon de river, pon deez nuts (San Te), Tuesday, 15 February 2011 03:46 (fourteen years ago)

i had a girl who frequently did shit like this to me too, like one time we made plans to go karaoking, after several times that she backed out last minute...but prior to that she was having an American Idol viewing party at her house with other friends, which I stopped at first, and they were drinking wine. when it came time for karaoke to start I waited...and waited...and texted her an hour after it started, and she said she hadn't left yet. waited another hour, and then another half hour (and karaoke was more than half over now), and she finally admitted she wasn't coming cuz she had too much to drink.

problem was this occurred during one of the few times in my life that I was severely depressed, and I took it very personally, and on top of the wine I'd already drank that night, I went home and popped two painkillers on top of that....

sorry for the derail -- anyway, Brainwasher, really sorry to hear that it happened to you. I recommend trying to stay as calm about it as possible until you have more details, though you have every right to be angry/upset if it does turn out you got indeed stood up. and that person should fuck off, if that is the case.

― pon de river, pon deez nuts (San Te), Tuesday, 15 February 2011 03:57 (fourteen years ago)

If someone doesn't respect you, drop them. Seriously. Now.

― markers, Tuesday, 15 February 2011 04:02 (fourteen years ago)

Ugh. Fuck that sucks, Brainwasher. I'm sorry to hear that!!!!

Stood up is the worst, worst worst. And yeah, Abbott otm. Unless life-threatening situation/emergency etc, basically the stander-upper is an asshole.

A few years back a good friend and I decided to meet for dinner one Valentine's Day, just a girly dinner, casual no big deal. She was newly single, seemed like a fun nice thing to do and Mr Veg and I aren't huge V Day celebraters anyway. I get our table, and then proceed to sit there alone for half an hour, texting, leaving voicemails, feeling like a right tit...til I get a message "I'm in Benicia looking at houses, sorry I totally forgot let's do dinner next week." Meanwhile I've been holding up a table at a busy restaurant on fucking Valentine's Day and the waiters all want to stab me I'm sure. She was a serial flaker though, I should have known better. Next day I wrote her a long, angry email saying she better cut that bullshit out or we are done. And she's been way less flaky since. Still flaky, but nowhere near as bad as that.

I know it's not the same as being stood up by a date, but honestly, the feeling/humiliation/rejection is about the same level in that moment of stoodupness.

Fuck stander-uppers. No-one is ever so busy that they can't tell that they might not make a pre-arranged date in time, so fucking call. If you forgot and realized too late, fucking call. And if you don't want to be the asshole and say that you just don't want to do dinner...fucking call. Consider that you're more of an asshole for not showing up.

― VegemiteGrrl, Tuesday, 15 February 2011 04:04 (fourteen years ago)

(for the record, I came home and cried my eyes out when my friend stood me up, in case it seemed like I was underplaying the badness of that one.)

― VegemiteGrrl, Tuesday, 15 February 2011 04:06 (fourteen years ago)

that's crap, especially the dismissiveness of the text message!

there was one time my g/f at the time and I were going to meet my (former) best friend and his girlfriend for karaoke. we were at a theatre festival and we made it clear multiple times that we wouldn't be there until between 11 - 11:30. We got there, and didn't see them, and then my g/f comes in upset saying "they left!". They apparently decided not to wait for us and didn't tell us.

We were both mad, and then on our way back, my (former) best friend texts us both saying "It's late, we're tired -- go to bed.". That set both of us off and we basically ripped into them both. Actually it was more my g/f, my best friend's girlfriend was actually her close friend and she told her how upset she was with her. I basically told my friend "I ain't going to sleep now, dick".

I don't get how you get passive aggressive when you're the one that stood someone up but ya know...tomato, asshole....

― pon de river, pon deez nuts (San Te), Tuesday, 15 February 2011 12:48 (fourteen years ago)

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