What do you find strangely erotic?

oh, also a sneaker fetish

also, an exposed neck when a girl has her hair up

ohhhhh yes.

and midriffs generally, and pierced ones in particular. well, right up until the very second my sister told me she'd got a belly-button ring, and then suddenly all the eroticism drained away forever.

http://home.swipnet.se/~w-60241/Ann-Margret/films/tommy3.jpg

and

http://drds.tripod.com/tommy1.jpg

This reminds me of my friend Pat who, when people were trying to describe somebody in a "do you know this person?" kinda way, he'd go "wait...DID HE/SHE HAVE ARMS!?!?" and for some reason it always had me in stitches.

(Not that oops.)

Holy jesusness, YES.

thanks!!!!

But I claim not to be a fully-fledged fetishist as I don't think I would have found them of any interest if they weren't attached to Uma.

damn.

i especially love those forearms when they are planted on either side of me, giving it me proper.

homosexual ][ asks elsewhere if this the least erotic era of any in recent memory

definitely yes and this is pitiful

discuss

i mean, shit

I disagree but I think “recent memory” and “era” are problematic terms when trying to judge stuff.

If you’re a horny doofus into cheesecake then practically every website has an ad or seven showing you some zaftig model even if the ad is really for cheap car insurance

And if you’re into anything else it’s still kind of everywhere even without having to look very hard - androids, androgynes, LGBTQ sexytime is in every medium now, on demand, with good cinematography and everything

But maybe that’s what makes it less erotic, that all of this is just readily available now - basically everybody might as well be perusing hentai on the bus ride, and that’s the opposite of sexy

The pendulum always swings back, though. alt.sex.stories.moderated (which, tbqf, if not for pedo rape shit, probably would have died long ago) broke down last summer and nobody’s bothered to fix it.
Maybe the free porn parade is going to come to an end before long, and then mass media won’t feel compelled to keep pace with it, and prurient arts might escape the tragedy of the commons, for a little while.

you just have to know where to look.

https://i.imgur.com/bGPdzPr.gif

https://i.imgur.com/5PuapVt.gif

https://i.imgur.com/YcGwE0d.gif

no one wants to play sexy mind games anymore it's so sad

If you’re a horny doofus into cheesecake then practically every website has an ad or seven showing you some zaftig model even if the ad is really for cheap car insurance

is this like the late 80s kid equivalent of looking at underwear catalogs

it will never be an unerotic era so long as Flo the Progressive lady is doing commercials

The other day the woman at the car service place who was a little bit cute took a couple things off my bill without me asking or complaining. She may in fact have been flirting with me, but even if she wasn't, there was something weirdly charged about her just throwing discounts at my feet.

I dont really think of porn as being erotic tbh

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YWBJfvRqr6U

xp what about discounts

i read hustler and playboy now, burnt out on online porn tbh - and the political articles (like one about abortion rights) are surprisingly intelligent. cue getting made fun of.

there was an adult only version of second life called red light center in the mid 2000s that I was addicted to for like 2 weeks...

you could wander through these vacant areas full of water features and there would always be sensual chill out mixes playing

I get erotic nostalgia for that place

XP No diss. Playboy woke now.

thanks

once on a trip i was very exhausted and sat for a few hours in my fancy hotel room watching the welcome infomercial on the in-house tv-guidebook-concierge over and over, not like in a sexual way, but it was sort of asmr avant la lettre

maybe there was something especially magical about the way it would just repeat endlessly without my needing to do anything

she was such a welcoming corporate ambassador

i mean, shit

eww

those resort videos!! where it's some Trivago-looking asshole w/ some 30-year old lady. they don't even do anything, they just walk around the hammocks and shoot darting glances at each other while soothing stock music plays. fuck!! I would watch it for an hour

https://i.imgur.com/1BsL5bS.jpg

Mandee I think part of the problem is the goth scene and its surrounds have kind of died? I know that was a good advocate for erotica, cheesy noir/crime/intrigue blah and I know you were well into that scene, has that gone by the wayside? I always loved yr Denver goth scene stories!!!

I tried to wade through an erotica site at one point to find better Penthouse Letters-y stuff but apparently I’m pretty vanilla and couldn’t find anything that worked for me amongst the 80 chapter alien/incest/gangbang combo porn epics.

kids are having less sex. everyone's constantly drained and feeling sorry for ourselves and just want ONE PERSON to be NICE to us or even HALFWAY DECENT and yes it's boring. otoh there's a lot of sensual borderline-erotic asmr out there now

no one wants to play sexy mind games anymore it's so sad

― homosexual II

mind games aren't sexy anymore

all the stuff that used to be hot is now gross and creepy

mind games are what facebork's psychometricians are running on the surveillance devices in our pockets and then writing whitepapers about

I don't think I've played a sexy mind game in my life.

The ~~ Erotic Thrillers of the 80s and 90s ~~ thread hasn't been revived in 5 years.

I just assumed this was age and meds and the absence of love tbh

love 2 sexy mindgame but never with the wife good lord

please 2 explain what is sexy mindgames?

essentially its crepey behaviour except ur sexy idk

https://www.highdefdigest.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2017/06/family-matters-urkelbot-880x320.jpg

Oh, sorry, I thought you said 'Steve-ly robotic'. My bad.

I dont really think of porn as being erotic tbh

agree. to my thinking, eroticism has to do with real people and is very situational. a wink and a smile, or touching fingers, can be highly erotic in the right situation, more so than any amount of conscious sexual role-playing.

porn can't deliver genuine eroticism, because it is always mediated and centered on images of no one you'll ever meet, so the real people part is completely removed. soft porn often tries hard to suggest a situation where its porn content might be viewed as erotic. it appeals to a fantasy of the erotic, but fantasies are not in the same league as reality. while hard porn just goes straight for "the money shot" and usually has zero erotic content.

You just haven't meet the right porn.

so how does 'the right porn' invalidate what I said about mediation, fantasy, and situation?

you're suggesting that nothing can be erotic if it is mediated and centre on images of people you won't ever meet?

I guess it depends on whether you think it is possible for isolation to incorporate the erotic. with porn, there is no possibility of human contact aside from touching yourself. it is an ersatz.

I leave my body and become part of your blood.

sounds about as erotic as amoebic dysentery

there is no possibility of human contact aside from touching yourself.

why isn't that erotic?

I guess you think imagining human involvement where there is none is sufficient to fulfill the requirements of the erotic. That's fine. It's a definitional disagreement.

it's only erotic if someone else is honking on bobo

a wink can be cute. to dismiss all porn but offer a wink as the counterexample is overdoing it

"porn" is really just too heterogenous to make a uniform statement about whether or not it can be erotic imo

I find it frustratingly homogenous. Maybe I'm not looking hard enough? Hahaha that's not it

I like winks that punctuate jokes and laughter. My partner really likes ears sticking out from between hair tendrils. I think it's an elvish thing.

I still think a lot of space age/mid century modern/eisenhower era design is hot.

After pondering this question for a while I came up with: situations which, by circumstance,necessitate that people sort of discard one or several elements of the package they've chosen to present themselves as to the general public. Like on a really long flight, or for that matter a gruelingly long delay at the airport, where people have to, for their own comfort, get a little more comfortable and homey in public than they'd normally choose to get. Shoes come off, hair comes down, we sleep/nap, engage in kind of personal little rituals you otherwise might not in public.. I sound like a real voyeur eh

airport/airplane are the least erotic places for me

exact opposite for me

Pics of airport terminals without people in them are the best. People ruin everything.

car crashes

Ok, david cronenburg.

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haha oops

not erotic

http://www.jamesspader.org/images/i-crash-12.jpg

sex is the least erotic thing of all to me, seeing how ppl have folded down the corners of pages with passages they like is the only thing i find truly arousing

its the hormonal saliva scent isnt it

porn can't deliver genuine eroticism, because it is always mediated and centered on images of no one you'll ever meet, so the real people part is completely removed.

Porn can bring to mind experiences you've had, can't it?

I feel I was lucky to not first experience porn in the age of broadband, I can't imagine being confronted with all of the porn available on tube sites without some grounding in what sex is.

sub question

at what age did you first watch porn

and did you find it in the woods

a lone log among the bush

does watching the Spice Channel to barely discern a neon green nipple through the squiggles count

I love voices that sound like they're from layrnx's ravaged by decades of smoking. I would fuck Shohreh Aghdashloo's voice.

I thought that link wld be that old lady from the anti smoking ad

U kno the one that takes a drag from the hole in her neck

I find dissociation strangely erotic.

my first exposure was similar to cruts but honestly it was hotter not knowing what I was looking at

otm

My first exposure was hedge porn (that's pornography found buried in a, not hot topiary action). I like the distinction that the erotic admits while pornography excludes.

I'd totally agree with libraries. There's a buried tension in all libraries, I think. I also once found a pair of discarded lace ladypants in a stairwell of my local uni library.

*found buried in a hedge

I can see why people find the ASMR whispering videos erotic but the sensation of experiencing ASMR isn't actually erotic? I mean I'm sure there are people turned on by soft whispering but the physical shivering coolness of ASMR is more like a glowing euphoria than any kind of sexual release. Part of the reason the community of ASMR has struggled to find legitimacy as a phenomenon is because people characterise it as sexual but the majority of people don't experience it that way and I wish people wouldn't conflate the two sensations so easily

I mean my ASMR triggers are more from white noise from a vacuum or hairdryer and I can assure you there is nothing erotic about it

this is an extremely contentious issue in the asmr community but the circles of the venn diagram clearly overlap for at least some people some of the time

there are some women who clearly bank on offering a highly sexualized asmr experience eg pp0m0

yeah, a lot of ASMR channels are outlets for older married men to have quasi-interactive liaisons with cute 20-year-old college girls. if wifey confronts you about your habit, all you have to do is patiently explain to her that tinglequeenASMRotica is a therapist, not a camgirl, and that you're watching her "ASMR Blowdrying Your Balls and Taint Roleplay" video to destress after a long day of work, definitely not for onanistic purposes

I get a weird almost-erotic thrill from leaning on the car as you fill it with petrol and feeling it sink under the weight of the liquid.

eroticism has to do with real people and is very situational. a wink and a smile, or touching fingers, can be highly erotic in the right situation, more so than any amount of conscious sexual role-playing.

I get a weird almost-erotic thrill from leaning on the car as you fill it with petrol and feeling it sink under the weight of the liquid.

― The shard-borne beetle with his drowsy hums (Chinaski), Friday, June 15, 2018 5:45 PM (two hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

thread finally delivers

The taarna segment of the film heavy metal

Squeaky sibilants.

lol @ "ASMR Blowdrying Your Balls and Taint Roleplay"

First prn = finding several issues of Penthouse from the mid-80s in my dad's nightstand while in HS

oh wait "watched"

First time not including the trying to make out boobs through the scrambled channels = with a male friend my freshman year in college who couldn't believe I'd never seen it and felt the need to change that. Yes, an 19 year old boy invited me to his dorm to smoke up and watch porn and I still didn't realize he was trying to hit on me until like 20 mins in.

Having the back of your neck shaved with a straight razor.

well ya
but thats surely p predictable

Thought it was just me but ok.

okay ENBB I need to know more about this, what exactly did this guy show you (no crepe)

xp it's just you and darragh i think

the German language

sehr erotisch

armpits

Prenups

armpits otm

ruins the cosign by going for the high five and making tim allen neanderthal noises

cloud lightning

Can someone bump the weird things you find attractive thread im on my phone

Tks

armpits are just a few centimeters away from sideboobs so, sure

I dont find anything that would be considered strange erotic

Like im wrackkng my brain over this and got nothin

I have one, I think:

Certain female voices have a strong effect on me, and not that "sexy voice" R&B music video nonsense; I'm pretty much all in for nasally dorks - and sometimes, in a completely non-sexy context (for me - I realize "sexy context" in a thread like this is, how you say, a very fluid notion) a woman with the kind of voice I like will employ the interjection "huh!" and I take about a minute to focus, because um.

I'm a sucker for a strange / weird voice too. I think it stems from having a crush on John Malkovich as a kid.

also cosigning armpits

Love southern type accents with women.
Or like drawls, and the most erotic of all is a great vocabulary...damn

from 'the way life works', by mahlon hoagland and bert dodson:

Nature creates new combinations by exchanging information. The earliest life forms, simple bacteria-like organisms, found a way to inject bits of information into each other—a primitive form of sex.

Ha, in my first year as a biology student a genetics professor started a lecture about bacterial genetics with "Today we'll be discussing bacterial sex!"

Strangely erotic - running my hands under hot scalding water often produces a sensation like an orgasm.

No mess, but I'm sure it's not super healthy for your hands to do all the time...

https://www.nybooks.com/articles/2020/03/26/gary-lutz-private-parts-of-speech/

Over the last year, little by little, I have grown suspicious of the erotics of art. It’s not just that I object to the opposition, famously asserted by Susan Sontag, between interpretation and sensuality. It’s that any overeager commitment to producing or consuming art as an erotic experience often results in some very inexpert writing about both aesthetics and sex—rhapsodic, humorless, self-aggrandizing prose that gets off on the most basic category errors. When asked by an interviewer what the most interesting thing was that she had learned from a book recently, the actress and writer Phoebe Waller-Bridge replied, “That orgasms can be brought on by art, and vice versa.” I found this idea distressing. Practical considerations aside, what kind of sick person wants her orgasms to come from art? A person more concerned with receiving pleasure than giving it is one answer; a person who prefers her pleasure depersonalized, disembodied, and safely contained by representation is another. Art, after all, doesn’t demand reciprocity or reality.

Reading the aggrieved, heart-dragging short stories of Gary Lutz complicates these doubts. Grungy-haired and lantern-jawed, unnerved by sustained eye contact, and self-conscious of his middle age, Lutz is not ashamed to admit in interviews that he suffers from “ED”: “Experience Deficit.” He presents himself as a man who has lived a singularly unremarkable life of dejection, a man to whom nothing exciting has happened and who is incapable of exciting himself or anyone else—except through writing. Writing, he tells us, is where one word can draw other words toward it, tentatively at first, then with a violent resolve. Writing is where one sentence can “overcome its aloofness or diffidence and begin to make overtures to another sentence,” each rubbing the other the right or wrong way—more often wrong than right—before settling into a jittery, strained alliance. Writing is where withdrawing paragraphs can gaze upon each other with agony and longing, for they know that the end of one paragraph and the beginning of the next announces a traumatic rupture, “an irreversible parting of ways.” “Yes, I think there might be some fetishizing of language going on,” Lutz admits. “Shouldn’t writing be far more sexual than sex?”

Underbites

confusing first paragraph out of context. what kind of person finds interest in judging the sexuality of others as "sick"? well, the critic, of course, and fair enough, that's her job. lutz certainly does seem like a miserable, yes, aggrieved person, from the excerpts provided, and in that seems fairly unexceptional.

i suspect that there's something else at the heart of fetish other than the absurd, and also that the "something else" in question is probably inaccessible to lutz. unexceptionally, resorting to ero-guro, fetishizing grievance, is his fallback.

(for me, the objectified "other" of the fetish has tended to be the self; fetish writing has been an asymptotic approach to the self. that might just be me though.)

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