What first attracted you to the person you are now "with"?

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― wordy rappinghood (roxymuzak), Friday, 3 November 2006 05:51 (nineteen years ago)

who?

― liberal arts school prick (lfam), Friday, 3 November 2006 05:53 (nineteen years ago)

1) Sexy voice w/Israeli accent

2) No-bullshit forwardness

3) Good music and book collection

― A-ron Hubbard (Hurting), Friday, 3 November 2006 05:57 (nineteen years ago)

oic xpost

― wordy rappinghood (roxymuzak), Friday, 3 November 2006 05:57 (nineteen years ago)

cute as heck, appealing combo of refinement & goofiness

― timmy tannin (pompous), Friday, 3 November 2006 06:00 (nineteen years ago)

1) ass
2) amount of zelda games owned

― wordy rappinghood (roxymuzak), Friday, 3 November 2006 06:04 (nineteen years ago)

Amount of ass: PWNED

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Friday, 3 November 2006 06:11 (nineteen years ago)

i definitely take into account the amount of ass a potential mate has pwned

― wordy rappinghood (roxymuzak), Friday, 3 November 2006 06:13 (nineteen years ago)

PW(NED)?

Can I answer about the person I have (alas) fallen hard for but (alas) am not "with" (a.k.a. SO NOT GONNA HAPPEN)? If so: 1) eye contact, 2) voice, 3) cuteness, 4) smartness, 5) quietness, 6) telling me about how, at age 13 and living in some redneck hellhole, he got obsessed with Brian Eno and made it his mission to collect all of Eno's recordings.

;_;

― xero (xero), Friday, 3 November 2006 06:23 (nineteen years ago)

Oh, and directing me to an image of an early prototype of Cookie Monster. ...AGH. ENOUGH.

― xero (xero), Friday, 3 November 2006 06:25 (nineteen years ago)

cute as heck, appealing combo of refinement & goofiness

Different girl, but I'll go ahead and second that.

― black sabbath just makes me want to take a nap (kenan), Friday, 3 November 2006 06:28 (nineteen years ago)

Lack of music geekiness coupled with an inexplicable love for all things John Phillips

Oh, and the cowboy hat, red boots, sweet smile, and big boobs didn't hurt a bit

I'm a lucky man

― Milius (Roger Fidelity), Friday, 3 November 2006 06:28 (nineteen years ago)

ooh, I almost forgot: the naughty librarian aesthetic. This cannot be overstated. And later, the way she likes to watch BBC documentaries with me. :)

and big boobs don't hurt a bit.

― black sabbath just makes me want to take a nap (kenan), Friday, 3 November 2006 07:03 (nineteen years ago)

I really like this girl a lot. I am warm and I am fuzzy.

― black sabbath just makes me want to take a nap (kenan), Friday, 3 November 2006 07:06 (nineteen years ago)

"and big boobs don't hurt a bit"

what if they're pointy?

― timmy tannin (pompous), Friday, 3 November 2006 07:08 (nineteen years ago)

they hurt when you get pregnant, trust

― wordy rappinghood (roxymuzak), Friday, 3 November 2006 07:22 (nineteen years ago)

You don't just have to be pregnant for them to hurt.

In any case, what first attracted me to Mister Monkey was
height
appealing nerdiness
great hugs

― accentmonkey (accentmonkey), Friday, 3 November 2006 07:38 (nineteen years ago)

what first repelled me was that he was called "mr monkey"

― wordy rappinghood (roxymuzak), Friday, 3 November 2006 07:42 (nineteen years ago)

her gigantic eyeballs.

― researching ur life (grady), Friday, 3 November 2006 07:45 (nineteen years ago)

what first repelled me was that he was called "mr monkey"

That's just the kind of prejudice we've learned to deal with.

― accentmonkey (accentmonkey), Friday, 3 November 2006 07:57 (nineteen years ago)

Hm. He was cute, goofy, and we both really liked the Fast Show and Futurama and spent all evening quoting shit and being retards. Only problem was, I was with someone else and he was only 19 (which I didnt know at the time).

Took 2 more years before we got around to going out but we've been together over 3 years now. And we still sit around quoting Futurama all the time =)

― Trayce (trayce), Friday, 3 November 2006 08:11 (nineteen years ago)

1) puns and stuff
2) dimple
3) no bullshit

― Archel (Archel), Friday, 3 November 2006 09:53 (nineteen years ago)

the promise of wealth and fame

― Ronan (Ronan), Friday, 3 November 2006 09:57 (nineteen years ago)

second penis

― blood bitch (blood bitch), Friday, 3 November 2006 10:02 (nineteen years ago)

in the space of about three seconds, in order: eyes. smile. hair. shoes.

― grimly fiendish (grimlord), Friday, 3 November 2006 10:46 (nineteen years ago)

big cock

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 3 November 2006 10:56 (nineteen years ago)

you could post that on any thread and it'd still be as funny

― Ronan (Ronan), Friday, 3 November 2006 10:58 (nineteen years ago)

this is a good question. i wish i was 'with' someone to answer it tho.

― Ste (Fuzzy), Friday, 3 November 2006 11:06 (nineteen years ago)

"and big boobs don't hurt a bit"
what if they're pointy?

Boobs were only point in the 50s. They fell out of fashion due to increasing lawsuits caused by 'having someone's eye out with those'.

― Ed (dali), Friday, 3 November 2006 11:18 (nineteen years ago)

a tip-off, and ilx posts

― stet (stet), Friday, 3 November 2006 11:22 (nineteen years ago)

Lyrical intellectual loveliness in writing, cuteness and tallness and length of skirt in person.

― === temporary username === (Mark C), Friday, 3 November 2006 11:41 (nineteen years ago)

If big boobs hurt, then hurt me, baby.

― A-ron Hubbard (Hurting), Friday, 3 November 2006 13:49 (nineteen years ago)

membership in human race; nonexistent or indiscernable brain damage

― Euai Kapaui (tracerhand), Friday, 3 November 2006 13:57 (nineteen years ago)

picky picky

― banrique (blueski), Friday, 3 November 2006 13:58 (nineteen years ago)

The acne cleared up.

― Eyeball Kicks (Eyeball Kicks), Friday, 3 November 2006 14:00 (nineteen years ago)

willingness to make sex with me

― teh_kit returns! (g-kit), Friday, 3 November 2006 14:03 (nineteen years ago)

1. ability to talk with me for 3 hours straight 2. dark hair and eyes 3. similar interests in music and books and 4. crazy thing where he'd be in a tie and all dressed up one day and the next day he was in a leather jacket and motorcycle boots

― Sara R-C (Sara R-C), Friday, 3 November 2006 14:21 (nineteen years ago)

feel shallow now

― teh_kit returns! (g-kit), Friday, 3 November 2006 14:21 (nineteen years ago)

His ability to make me laugh, make me feel secure, make me feel special and to buy me lots of booze.

― ailsa (ailsa), Friday, 3 November 2006 14:26 (nineteen years ago)

lethal combination of ski pants with suspenders and moon boots

― jim wentworth (wench), Friday, 3 November 2006 14:35 (nineteen years ago)

In no particular order:

1. Infinite kindness and generosity.
2. Infinite patience - three years of emails, and not once did she hurry anything; simply waited for me to sort out my demons and become ready for another relationship.
3. Completely and unreservedly on the same wavelength - emotional, aesthetic and every other way you can think of.
4. She was and is the only person prepared to take me on despite the Asperger's and everything else.
5. When I am with her the Asperger's disappears completely, or at least that's how it feels.
6. Infinite beauty - both internal and external (pace Earl Spencer).
7. She makes me feel like a teenager again, and also like an adult, as opposed to the pale ghost of a widower.
8. She is my soulmate, and I hers.
9. With us it's about helping each other to grow, to smile and to live truly and wonderfully.
10. We give ourselves to each other and it is the most natural thing in the world.
11. We fit together so well. The things we don't have individually, the other has in droves.
12. We make each other live again.

― Marcello Carlin (nostudium), Friday, 3 November 2006 14:35 (nineteen years ago)

awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!

*draws big heart, colours it in, buys Cub album, snuggles up in duvet with unicorn dolly, hums to self gently*

I don't think anyone can follow that up, so I won't. Not that I could if I'd wanted to, that is. ;-)

― You've Got Scourage On Your Breath (Haberdager), Friday, 3 November 2006 15:20 (nineteen years ago)

crazy thing where he'd be in a tie and all dressed up one day and the next day he was in a leather jacket and motorcycle boots

I think you've just described most every businessman ever between their work attire and their 'party' approach on the weekend. So I'm glad there were other factors involved.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Friday, 3 November 2006 15:21 (nineteen years ago)

I was drunk!

― Allyzay Eisenschefter (allyzay), Friday, 3 November 2006 15:22 (nineteen years ago)

Wow, you're a lucky guy, Marcello.

― Matthew Perpetua! (Matthew Perpetua!), Friday, 3 November 2006 15:25 (nineteen years ago)

Highly offended or highly amused reaction to basically everything I said or did, for about 3 days straight.

― FACTS: I'M A WAITER (TOMBOT), Friday, 3 November 2006 15:25 (nineteen years ago)

+ freckles

― FACTS: I'M A WAITER (TOMBOT), Friday, 3 November 2006 15:26 (nineteen years ago)

Cute, self-confident, incredible smile, smartest person I'd ever met, undoubtedly WOW FEMALE. (24 years later: all of the above plus wrinkles and gray hair, and I still get a hard-on just from kissing her.)

― Django Blowhardt (Rock Hardy), Friday, 3 November 2006 15:31 (nineteen years ago)

CASH MONEY

― sunny successor (katharine), Friday, 3 November 2006 15:32 (nineteen years ago)

knee-high black socks with "FUCK" written all over them in a spanish-gothic font

― Shakey Mo Collier (Shakey Mo Collier), Friday, 3 November 2006 18:39 (nineteen years ago)

Dimples and cute glasses, which she still has. And boobs.

Oh, and her ability to deal with drunk me. Which became evident VERY early on.

― B.L.A.M. (Big Loud Mountain Ape), Friday, 3 November 2006 18:54 (nineteen years ago)

Tall dark handsome big cuddley bearded guy, exceedingly cute when nervous, read books (fiction and not) for fun, almost as smart as me, and did not lecture me nor act appalled re: my having several margueritas on first date. Also, great smile.

― Jaq (Jaq), Friday, 3 November 2006 19:03 (nineteen years ago)

i feel bad about what i posted now.

― Euai Kapaui (tracerhand), Friday, 3 November 2006 19:05 (nineteen years ago)

No, no, those are good reasons.

― Django Blowhardt (Rock Hardy), Friday, 3 November 2006 19:10 (nineteen years ago)

The absolute first thing that got me was the admittance of how his former band was "wildly unpopular." Self-deprecating humor makes me swoon, apparently.

― molly d (mollyd), Friday, 3 November 2006 19:18 (nineteen years ago)

this thread is horrific

― and what (ooo), Friday, 3 November 2006 19:23 (nineteen years ago)

you know, you don't have to read it.

for me: kindness and earnestness, plus awesome rhythm guitar playing.

― Douglas (Douglas), Friday, 3 November 2006 19:36 (nineteen years ago)

Most of this is not what I expected.

― wordy rappinghood (roxymuzak), Friday, 3 November 2006 20:26 (nineteen years ago)

I'm not responding b/c. . . I don't know. Trying to think of a coherent answer was difficult and then it occured to me that my partner is not the type to like intimate things being discussed on the interweb. which is just as well anyway.

― Sam rides the beat like a bicycle (Molly Jones), Friday, 3 November 2006 20:28 (nineteen years ago)

roxy- what did you expect?

― researching ur life (grady), Friday, 3 November 2006 21:14 (nineteen years ago)

some are so detailed

― wordy rappinghood (roxymuzak), Friday, 3 November 2006 21:19 (nineteen years ago)

1) thick lips
2) seemed into me, gave me her phone number

― Jordan (Jordan), Friday, 3 November 2006 21:20 (nineteen years ago)

isn't this thread all cuddlestein mountain. come on ilx, start being honest.

1) vagina
2) available

― like murderinging (modestmickey), Friday, 3 November 2006 21:43 (nineteen years ago)

what the hell are you talking about? almost every person said "boobs"

― wordy rappinghood (roxymuzak), Friday, 3 November 2006 21:44 (nineteen years ago)

i didn't actually read the thread.

― like murderinging (modestmickey), Friday, 3 November 2006 21:49 (nineteen years ago)

1) vagina
2) doesn't mind all dates ending at 10:30

― Allyzay Eisenschefter (allyzay), Friday, 3 November 2006 21:56 (nineteen years ago)

come on ilx, start being honest.

Okay, okay. I actually fell for her because she was able to leave the house without her ankle beeping at me.

xpost hahahaha!

― Django Blowhardt (Rock Hardy), Friday, 3 November 2006 21:58 (nineteen years ago)

I have to admit, it's pretty odd for someone's vagina to be what initially inveigled you. In what kind of compromising position did you meet this girl, and why? I could even understand if you were initially attracted to them because they were a woman, or whatever, but this seems a bit off. Maybe it's just a really, really stellar and famous vagina.

― wordy rappinghood (roxymuzak), Friday, 3 November 2006 21:58 (nineteen years ago)

What time did they start, Ally?

― M. White (Miguelito), Friday, 3 November 2006 21:59 (nineteen years ago)

ally, 12:30 thx.

― like murderinging (modestmickey), Friday, 3 November 2006 21:59 (nineteen years ago)

Lindsay Lohan crotch-picture to thread

xpost I'm giving you plenty of time to get home, sweetie. I don't think you should be pushing things much, with the...you know.

― Allyzay Eisenschefter (allyzay), Friday, 3 November 2006 21:59 (nineteen years ago)

vagina?

― Jordan (Jordan), Friday, 3 November 2006 22:01 (nineteen years ago)

No thanks, I had some at home.

― M. White (Miguelito), Friday, 3 November 2006 22:03 (nineteen years ago)

male meth using whore who vowed to keep his mouth shut

― PappaWheelie, don't fuck this up (PappaWheelie 2), Friday, 3 November 2006 22:06 (nineteen years ago)

for me: kindness and earnestness, plus awesome rhythm guitar playing

The latter is an underrated virtue.

― Alfred, Lord Sotosyn (Alfred Soto), Saturday, 4 November 2006 01:18 (nineteen years ago)

Her eyes were like ditches and she played the three-fingered willy.

― Eyeball Kicks (Eyeball Kicks), Saturday, 4 November 2006 02:29 (nineteen years ago)

ooh!

― jim wentworth (wench), Saturday, 4 November 2006 08:08 (nineteen years ago)

The latter is an underrated virtue.

otm incidentally

― wordy rappinghood (roxymuzak), Saturday, 4 November 2006 08:30 (nineteen years ago)

ctrl-f titties

― (9ò_ó)-o Q(^.^Q) (Adrian Langston), Saturday, 4 November 2006 08:37 (nineteen years ago)

well i'm not with him, but i'd like to be...
he told me, the very first time we met, all about his internet sex buddies... from that moment on, i was smitten...

― cellardoor (cellardoor), Monday, 6 November 2006 04:26 (nineteen years ago)

his laugh is also great. not your guy, cellar, but mine.

― wordy rappinghood (roxymuzak), Monday, 6 November 2006 06:29 (nineteen years ago)

The latter is an underrated virtue.

id have said seriously overrated, not to mention highly annoying.

― sunny successor (katharine), Monday, 6 November 2006 12:44 (nineteen years ago)

Everyone else at the party was an asshole.

― dommy p is alright WHICH IS A LOT MORE THAN I CAN SAY ABOUT A LOT OF PEOPLE (Dom, Monday, 6 November 2006 12:46 (nineteen years ago)

BUDGINA

― am0n (am0n), Monday, 6 November 2006 13:51 (nineteen years ago)

I'd never felt so at ease so quickly with anybody.

― Anna (Anna), Monday, 6 November 2006 17:31 (nineteen years ago)

If I *had* a partner, which I clearly *don't* - I think that *trust* would be top of the list of things that would attract me.

Because clearly that's the thing I find most important in friendships and relationships of any kind.

― Dear Cafes of London (kate), Monday, 6 November 2006 17:41 (nineteen years ago)

How could trust be the first thing that attracted you?

― Eyeball Kicks (Eyeball Kicks), Monday, 6 November 2006 17:42 (nineteen years ago)

I mean, how can it be identified before anything else? Unless by reputation.

― Eyeball Kicks (Eyeball Kicks), Monday, 6 November 2006 17:45 (nineteen years ago)

his matter-of-factly asking if he could watch me pee

― emilys. (emilys.), Tuesday, 7 November 2006 02:54 (nineteen years ago)

id have said seriously overrated, not to mention highly annoying.

-- sunny successor (sunnysuccesso...)

yeah, there's nothing worse than being good at guitar. ?

and how in the hell is rhythm guitar overrated?
that malcolm young gets too much attention, etc

― wordy rappinghood (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 7 November 2006 03:21 (nineteen years ago)

i thought you were bickering over earnestness and not guitar playing all this time!

― researching ur life (grady), Tuesday, 7 November 2006 03:39 (nineteen years ago)

its fine as long as they aren't playing in your face 24/7 but they usually are and then you end up killing them.

really i just don't get being fascinated by guitar playing. its ok but it aint that great.

― sunny successor (katharine), Tuesday, 7 November 2006 04:29 (nineteen years ago)

(mirror)

― rems (x Jeremy), Tuesday, 7 November 2006 04:38 (nineteen years ago)

rhythm guitar is something you do in a band

― wordy rappinghood (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 7 November 2006 04:43 (nineteen years ago)

you cant play chords without a band?

anyway, its still not underrated. in what world are guitar players having trouble scoring?

― sunny successor (katharine), Tuesday, 7 November 2006 04:46 (nineteen years ago)

he seemed kind of like he was a timetraveller from a different decade (1950s)
we got into an argument and he argued me into the ground
6 foot 2, blond hair, blue eyes that were a little crazy and mean looking

14 years later, me = stoked

― Drew Daniel (Drew Daniel), Tuesday, 7 November 2006 04:54 (nineteen years ago)

:-D

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Tuesday, 7 November 2006 04:55 (nineteen years ago)

you can play chords without a band, but rhythm guitar is a position in a band

like, you can kick an idiotic soccer ball around your yard but it ain't playin' sweeper.

― wordy rappinghood (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 7 November 2006 04:56 (nineteen years ago)

She was wearing this dress:

http://www.boudist.com/gallery/d/25288-5/IMG_1163.jpg

― Andrew (enneff), Tuesday, 7 November 2006 05:13 (nineteen years ago)

It was at my cousin's wedding.
Late in the evening I asked if I could sit on the arm of her chair, as there was nowhere else to sit.
She told me "Normally I would say no but as this is my friend's wedding I'll say yes."
I thought "What a bitch."

― Andrew (enneff), Tuesday, 7 November 2006 05:15 (nineteen years ago)

and then??

― wordy rappinghood (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 7 November 2006 05:21 (nineteen years ago)

(mirror)

Wow. Yes. Perfect.

― Trayce (trayce), Tuesday, 7 November 2006 05:24 (nineteen years ago)

and then??

And then I didn't see her for another six months, and even then only once. It would be another six months before we actually hooked up.

― Andrew (enneff), Tuesday, 7 November 2006 05:26 (nineteen years ago)

did you want to sit on the arm of the chair because you liked her?

― wordy rappinghood (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 7 November 2006 05:32 (nineteen years ago)

He'd expressed an interest in me through a mutual friend for many years. We started exchanging e-mails and the first thing I thougt is he's smart and funny! Then we talked on the phone. His voice. Oh, his voice. Then I came to visit him. I haven't stopped touching him since. He's gentle and brusque. His skin smells of pine though he's not the outdoorsy type. I just love him more than anyone I ever have. He's my skotrok! I love him very, very much.

― Maria :D (Maria D.), Tuesday, 7 November 2006 06:16 (nineteen years ago)

Aw. :-)

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Tuesday, 7 November 2006 06:19 (nineteen years ago)

That is ace Maria :)

― Trayce (trayce), Tuesday, 7 November 2006 07:23 (nineteen years ago)

I just have something in my eye here...

― accentmonkey (accentmonkey), Tuesday, 7 November 2006 08:08 (nineteen years ago)

she totally made fun of me for being a dirty old man hitting on her (i'm 38/ she's 21). i was smitten as hell.

― yetimike (McGonigal), Tuesday, 7 November 2006 08:39 (nineteen years ago)

did you want to sit on the arm of the chair because you liked her?

No, I really just wanted to sit down. It was almost the only chair in the room.

― Andrew (enneff), Tuesday, 7 November 2006 09:03 (nineteen years ago)

Oh Maria, that's so... so fucking CUTE.

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Tuesday, 7 November 2006 09:21 (nineteen years ago)

This isn't thread appropriate, but I don't know where else to post it. When we were going to sleep I asked him to sing me a song, and he burst into "Be True To Your School" at full voice.

― wordy rappinghood (roxymuzak), Thursday, 9 November 2006 16:31 (nineteen years ago)

On the night we met: Looked totally cute while dancing (maybe even the fact that she danced period!) and was also endearingly tipsy. As we got to know each other, her interest in books, politics, and world culture, and her willingness to love and accept me.

― jaymc (jaymc), Thursday, 9 November 2006 17:04 (nineteen years ago)

I wuz there!

― Jordan (Jordan), Thursday, 9 November 2006 17:10 (nineteen years ago)

You were the catalyst! No M@m@ Digd0wn = no Kr.

― jaymc (jaymc), Thursday, 9 November 2006 17:23 (nineteen years ago)

The things I remember noticing were eyes, shirt, bracelet and, when he stood up, height.

― Mädchen (Madchen), Thursday, 9 November 2006 19:42 (nineteen years ago)

:D Roxy.

Thats the kind of weird shit I love my boi for. Like the time he was trying to describe c++ coding and ways it pissed him off, so he likened it to "trying to bash in a screw using a hammer, wondering why it won't work, then giving up and using a butter knife instead" =)

Nerdy elegance, ah love it.

― Trayce (trayce), Thursday, 9 November 2006 21:58 (nineteen years ago)

Boy is more sarcastic and snarky than I am, which apparently is all that's required for me to fall in love.

― lyra (lyra), Thursday, 9 November 2006 23:41 (nineteen years ago)

The first time I met her I thought she was a lesbian, which if you know me at all is probably where I should stop.

― Matos-Webster Dictionary (M Matos), Friday, 10 November 2006 01:23 (nineteen years ago)

I'll go on, however.

First time I remember meeting her was going to a movie w/some friends. She was/is the best friend of a then-coworker. She, my coworker, and another friend of theirs came along, and I thought she was with the other friend. Over time I learned otherwise. She was tall and geeky and really sweet and I was interested but didn't want things to be weird w/my coworker ("Hey, that one friend of yours . . . ").

After a year of hanging out w/her off and on, always in the company of my coworker, I got a job in New York and had a going-away party. She came along. We both got drunk, and when she got up to go and we, um, started making out. "I'm glad we didn't do this earlier," she said. "Why not?" I asked. Then we kissed again for about 10 minutes.

For the next couple weeks I felt annoyed at myself for not having done anything earlier. My coworker moved to NYC as well--into my apartment, in fact. "Oh, she likes you a lot too," he told me. I became her MySpace friend. Then I went back to Seattle for the EMP Pop Conference, a Thursday-Sunday event. On Saturday she came by. We ran into each other in the hall.

One week from today I fly back to Seattle to be with her.

― Matos-Webster Dictionary (M Matos), Friday, 10 November 2006 01:50 (nineteen years ago)

jesus god what a thread. I used to write things about people I was with.

― Dominique (dleone), Friday, 10 November 2006 02:40 (nineteen years ago)

this thread is both a promise and a torment

― You've Got Scourage On Your Breath (Haberdager), Friday, 10 November 2006 02:42 (nineteen years ago)

Matos! Sounds exciting. Long-distance relationships are such teases, though. Or are you moving back to Seattle?

― Maria :D (Maria D.), Friday, 10 November 2006 02:58 (nineteen years ago)

saw her from across a room: short, sexy, pretty, brown hair/blue eyes. then I heard her talk: way too loud, way too fast, way too many wild hand gesticulations. it was all over for me pretty much from then on.

we met in 1986, started dating in 1987, got married in 1992. now, five cities and seven cats and two kids later (and another next year!), it's still working.

― Haikunym (Haikunym), Friday, 10 November 2006 03:35 (nineteen years ago)

i love how much hope i have after reading this thread. hooray for happy people.

― t0dd swiss (immobilisme), Friday, 10 November 2006 04:12 (nineteen years ago)

One week from today I fly back to Seattle to be with her.

fucking awesome!

― researching ur life (grady), Friday, 10 November 2006 05:55 (nineteen years ago)

Long-distance relationships are such teases, though. Or are you moving back to Seattle?

We've been going out since EMP. I'm moving back, not just visiting.

― Matos-Webster Dictionary (M Matos), Friday, 10 November 2006 06:08 (nineteen years ago)

I love him to the depth of my soul. i don't know if we will always be together...but maybe that's not important.
We flirted at the grocery store, on Martha's Vineyard, where he worked.
I had a wild weekend in Boston, and ran into him on the ferry back to the island (he had gone to the Boston marathon - to watch - this is an important fact). I tried to ignore him, because I was trying to eat a hotdog while wearing a very racy dress and a leapord skin fur coat.
When you live on martha's Vineyard, or maybe any island, you sort of stop getting in line to get off the boat. Like, you either place yourself at the bulkhead, or you read your magazine until everyone else has waited in the stupid line. So I was reading my magazine, and he was...lurking. In a dreamy way. I stood up, and he approached me, and we stood on the deck and talked while everyone else got off the boat.
This is how he asked me for a date: "Um, do you want to do something together sometime?"
Um, yeah!
it still cracks me up - something, together, sometime, yes yes, yes!
He ran a marathon two weeks later, one week after our first date, which turned into many dates, every day.
Our relationship was very new, but we were very much in love. The marathon was off island, and he stayed with his family. When I called him,after the race, he said "I thought about you for the last two miles, and I chanted your name."
I don't believe I'll ever hear anything as romantic - and incredible! - as that, again, ever.
The last two miles were uphill.

― aimurchie (aimurchie), Friday, 10 November 2006 07:03 (nineteen years ago)

is your name really aimurchie?!

cause that would be soothing to chant

― wordy rappinghood (roxymuzak), Friday, 10 November 2006 07:04 (nineteen years ago)

if you hum a few bars i can tell ya.
i like that you think aimurchie would be soothing to chant. Which part would you stress? the aim or the murch or the long eee?

― aimurchie (aimurchie), Friday, 10 November 2006 08:09 (nineteen years ago)

he wasnt rude and wanted more then sex

― panda may (panda_may), Friday, 10 November 2006 09:08 (nineteen years ago)

Wow, anybody who knows me at all probably knows why I'm attracted to thread titles like this one, and I came here to sing the praises of the person I am now "with," but now I'm all "Gah! MATOS! Amazing! Back to Seattle already!" Man, I have not kept up with shit lately.

And here I have been trying to figure out if and when I can move back to Brooklyn from PDX because I'm in a similar appx 3000 mile long distance relationship as well.

Oh, and my answer to the original thread question: The real "first" attraction was that she is the spitting image of the woman you'd get if you just took the short list of the things I'm very attracted to and put them all on the same person. And that includes things like "a certain sense of humor" as well as "brunette" and other strictly physical attributes.

By the time anything actually happened in my head to indicate that I'd really want to be "with" her it was a combination of that initial attraction and the fact that over the past couple years she'd become my best friend. By then I was also so scared of fucking up the friendship that I was hesitant to do anything.

I didn't even try anything until after two of my best friends told me (separately, but on the same day) to just admit I was in love with her. That night I was sitting in my room thinking about it and crying a little, and my next door neighbor climbed out on the fire escape and tapped on my bedroom window to see if I wanted to come up on the roof and drink beer with her. (This was something she and I occasionally did for various reasons. We were not really close, and there was no attraction between us, but we had this drinking beer on the roof thing about once a month.) Anyway, when I came to the window, she saw I'd been crying and said "You crying?" I said "Yeah," and she said "What, you finally figure out you're in love with that Abby chick?" Later, up on the roof she told me I should just kiss her and listed a bunch of reasons she thought the feelings were mutual in spite of the fact that she'd never actually met Ab.

It turned out my neighbor was right.

It's way more complicated than that of course, but yeah. Ab has been my best friend ever since. Which is saying a ton if you know the details between then and now. I am definitely one of the luckiest people I know.

― martin m. (mushrush), Friday, 10 November 2006 09:34 (nineteen years ago)

I have nothing to write on this thread just yet but it's a terrific read.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Friday, 10 November 2006 10:11 (nineteen years ago)

Yeah, this has moved on a fair bit from when I posted. Though people aren't really answering the question so much, it's still lovely.

― ailsa (ailsa), Friday, 10 November 2006 10:15 (nineteen years ago)

Yay happy folks. Matos, lucky you!!

― lyra (lyra), Friday, 10 November 2006 12:00 (nineteen years ago)

is wordy rappinghood in a relationship or something?

― RJG (RJG), Friday, 10 November 2006 12:06 (nineteen years ago)

sounds like it

― i've dreamt of rubies! (Mandee), Friday, 10 November 2006 13:44 (nineteen years ago)

He seemed intelligent and we liked the same semi-obscure band.

― I'm down for runnin' up on them crackers in the city hall... (papa november), Friday, 10 November 2006 13:45 (nineteen years ago)

this thread is both a promise and a torment

this is well-put.

― Allyzay Eisenschefter (allyzay), Friday, 10 November 2006 16:36 (nineteen years ago)

He had a great smile and we talked for two hours the first time we met. It was an immediate "wow, this guy is cool" judgment. Funny, kind, lots of different (and compatable) interests. Afterwards, the friend who introduced us said that if anyone had a problem with him then there was something wrong with them, as he was all right.

Married for 3 1/2 years now and I still think he's cool :)

― patita (patita), Friday, 10 November 2006 16:45 (nineteen years ago)

I think G. and I first bonded over a 12-pack of lone star, true story. We also went to a biker bar on our first date many years ago.

― Sam rides the beat like a bicycle (Molly Jones), Friday, 10 November 2006 16:49 (nineteen years ago)

We met in a trivia chat room, and he could answer all my music questions and I could answer all his (no one else could). After about three months of talking and talking and talking by IM and phone (and I hate the phone, but with him I loved it), I flew out to meet him and fell in insta-love with his lovely curly hair and really ludicrously long black eyelashes and huge brown eyes. I was there for a week and he asked me to move in (I'm a freelancer and portable), so I sold up everything and moved a month later and it'll be six years in January...

I still can't quite believe how happy I am.

― surfer_stone_rosa (surfer_stone_rosa), Friday, 10 November 2006 18:22 (nineteen years ago)

one year passes...

1. biggest southern accent ever
2. brainiac
3. perv

― roxymuzak, Sunday, 6 January 2008 23:57 (eighteen years ago)

pretty much describes my girl right now

― and what, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:00 (eighteen years ago)

*shares a highfive with and what*

― roxymuzak, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:09 (eighteen years ago)

gonna write a book about accented and non-accented southerner crossbreeding

― and what, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:15 (eighteen years ago)

doing research?

― roxymuzak, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:16 (eighteen years ago)

hmmm... interesting!

i am not with anyone but there is a 90% chance that next time i am the answer to this question will be: alcohol.

― tehresa, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:17 (eighteen years ago)

This isn't thread appropriate, but I don't know where else to post it. When we were going to sleep I asked him to sing me a song, and he burst into "Be True To Your School" at full voice.

OMG that would mean instant love.

I had a crush once on this guy I never even met, my roomie's coworker, bcz she would tell me all the ridic puns he made.

Basically what attracted me to my man, v first meeting, was he was extra george-ous and he actually understood my drunkened jokes/refs. Like I made some joke about the typical EC comics plot like "You sharpen the pencil, the pencil comes back to sharpen YOU!" And he actually laffed. That is kind of vain...I also laughed ass off at what he was saying, and he was just extra fun to talk to. And hot.

― Abbott, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:20 (eighteen years ago)

big cock.

― ken c, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:22 (eighteen years ago)

This isn't thread appropriate, but I don't know where else to post it. When we were going to sleep I asked him to sing me a song, and he burst into "Be True To Your School" at full voice.

Aw, I forgot about that. u_u

That cat dumped me a year ago, and then moved away really suddenly, leaving my entire collection of reggae records on my porch (!!)

― roxymuzak, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:23 (eighteen years ago)

Weird.

― Abbott, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:25 (eighteen years ago)

Yeah, well. He was really weird.

― roxymuzak, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:27 (eighteen years ago)

its amazing how the first drunken meeting in which you fall in love with somebody, you only remember what you say. and later on you tell yourself that you two hit it off from the beginning.

― CaptainLorax, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:30 (eighteen years ago)

Man, that is really not true for me!

― roxymuzak, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:31 (eighteen years ago)

I was thinking of Abbott

― CaptainLorax, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:32 (eighteen years ago)

Oh, ok.

― roxymuzak, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:34 (eighteen years ago)

I was mixing myself up with her.

― roxymuzak, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:34 (eighteen years ago)

Oh no, I remember what he said. He asked me what my fave Mr. Bungle was and I said "Disco Volante" and he said YOU ARE AWESOME.

― Abbott, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:34 (eighteen years ago)

We should have like a Freaky Friday type body switch, roxy.

― Abbott, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:35 (eighteen years ago)

If this were to happen in a movie, it owuld be your wedding day and the day of some big lol rock show for me! And we would both ruin everything.

― roxymuzak, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:36 (eighteen years ago)

I'm not with the guy from upthread anymore (stillbest buds tho).

First met current guy 5 years ago. Was attracted to his insanely, insanely odd way of writing and thinking, and the fact he could write music in about 12321433 different genres and make it look easy. He was also really hot. Alas, he started dating a close friend of mine and lived in Perth anyway, so we just stayed close mates and shared a lot of angst and love life whining with each other over the years. But all that time I carried a little torch for him.

And then he decided to move to melbourne, we both happened to have been single quite a while, and well, that was that.

― Trayce, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:36 (eighteen years ago)

my god, if I met a girl who ~~liked~~ had heard (OF!) Disco Volante, <3 x10000

― Just got offed, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:36 (eighteen years ago)

Waht - Mr Bungle are great and I know heaps of people who think so oh wait they are all guys :|

― Trayce, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:41 (eighteen years ago)

i and several of my female coworkers in high school all liked mr. bungle!

― tehresa, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:42 (eighteen years ago)

the application to be the new curt1s is over there

― and what, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:42 (eighteen years ago)

haha, well i live in britisher land! not even the music-geek BOYS here have heard of Mr. Bungle (like 1 or 2 I've ever met).

― Just got offed, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:45 (eighteen years ago)

A girl who like mr. bungle is a major turnoff to me :)
I was hoping I could relate to the womens here on ILX

― CaptainLorax, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:49 (eighteen years ago)

if someone tells me i'm awesome i'd so fall in love with them

― ken c, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:49 (eighteen years ago)

captain lorax, is this mental clusterfuck delusional creep thing all an act, or should you really be on meds rather than ILX?

― Just got offed, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:50 (eighteen years ago)

louis on FIRE today

― roxymuzak, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:51 (eighteen years ago)

you are awesome, ken

― mookieproof, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:58 (eighteen years ago)

Mookie I thought I was the only one for you *sobs, flees*.

― Trayce, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:59 (eighteen years ago)

RONG:

engagement advice

― roxymuzak, Monday, 7 January 2008 00:59 (eighteen years ago)

it's been a long year away from you trayce. a man has needs

― mookieproof, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:01 (eighteen years ago)

haha totally forgot that xp!

― mookieproof, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:01 (eighteen years ago)

hey mookieproof fancy a threesome with trayce?

― ken c, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:01 (eighteen years ago)

^ban

― roxymuzak, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:01 (eighteen years ago)

― Just got offed, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:02 (eighteen years ago)

just because you have a crush on mookieproof

― ken c, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:03 (eighteen years ago)

xpost

― ken c, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:03 (eighteen years ago)

his post count sucks

― roxymuzak, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:05 (eighteen years ago)

Totally roffling over here guys.

― Trayce, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:07 (eighteen years ago)

Mr. Bungle = clusterfuck delusional creep thing act

― CaptainLorax, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:08 (eighteen years ago)

is clusterfuck a band?

― ken c, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:09 (eighteen years ago)

zzz

― roxymuzak, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:09 (eighteen years ago)

way to boast your post count

― ken c, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:10 (eighteen years ago)

boast?
boost

― ken c, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:10 (eighteen years ago)

boat

― ken c, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:10 (eighteen years ago)

boots

― ken c, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:11 (eighteen years ago)

oust

― ken c, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:11 (eighteen years ago)

foust

― CaptainLorax, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:12 (eighteen years ago)

^ban

― ken c, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:12 (eighteen years ago)

^bat

― ken c, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:12 (eighteen years ago)

^bamus
^batis
^bant

― Just got offed, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:13 (eighteen years ago)

/me marks his territory

― CaptainLorax, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:14 (eighteen years ago)

will he achieve relating to all this womens through public urination, find out in our next exciting episode of CLUSTERFUCK

― Just got offed, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:16 (eighteen years ago)

my post count is a grower, not a shower

― mookieproof, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:18 (eighteen years ago)

mine's more like a bath

― ken c, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:20 (eighteen years ago)

so the first time I met her.. it was like fireworks. Little things, like her lisp and the way she snorted when she laughed. The way she could spin a sock with a rock in it and never miss a rat.

― CaptainLorax, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:20 (eighteen years ago)

<3 ken c

― Abbott, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:22 (eighteen years ago)

i like girls who snort when they laugh

xpost <3!

― ken c, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:22 (eighteen years ago)

So, anyway, none of the above is in any way a list of things that would attract me to anyone.

― Trayce, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:29 (eighteen years ago)

biscuits?

― Autumn Almanac, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:33 (eighteen years ago)

BAN KEN C

― J0rdan S., Monday, 7 January 2008 01:38 (eighteen years ago)

endearing internet persona

― bell_labs, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:40 (eighteen years ago)

her cute butt and warm smile.

omg xpost

― ian, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:40 (eighteen years ago)

bathe ken c

― ken c, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:40 (eighteen years ago)

brain

― Autumn Almanac, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:42 (eighteen years ago)

(also gorgeous)

― Autumn Almanac, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:42 (eighteen years ago)

I heard she was an ILx0r.

― Mister Craig, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:53 (eighteen years ago)

who?

― Autumn Almanac, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:54 (eighteen years ago)

who are you? xpost

― roxymuzak, Monday, 7 January 2008 01:54 (eighteen years ago)

the way she snorted when she laughed

When I hear this the people who do it are usually very self-satisfied with their awful, nerdy jokes and are only laughing because nobody else is.

― libcrypt, Monday, 7 January 2008 02:21 (eighteen years ago)

I very very occasionally do but only when I'm so stoned I am laughing hysterically and can't stop.

― Trayce, Monday, 7 January 2008 03:16 (eighteen years ago)

when she immediately started making fun of me for being an old pervert for trying to pick her up! hah.

― Mike McGooney-gal, Monday, 7 January 2008 03:22 (eighteen years ago)

Mike McG0nigal? Have you posted here for long?

― roxymuzak, Monday, 7 January 2008 05:03 (eighteen years ago)

He's posted on and off here for some time!

― Ned Raggett, Monday, 7 January 2008 05:21 (eighteen years ago)

i mostly remember jello shots.
m.

― msp, Monday, 7 January 2008 05:23 (eighteen years ago)

gonna write a book about accented and non-accented southerner crossbreeding

Can't wait to hear what my Australian-Arkansan daughter is gonna sound like when she starts talking.

― Pleasant Plains, Monday, 7 January 2008 05:34 (eighteen years ago)

Some sort of cross between Olivia Newton-John and Mike Huckabee, I guess.

― Pleasant Plains, Monday, 7 January 2008 05:35 (eighteen years ago)

Like a 1p3er!

― roxymuzak, Monday, 7 January 2008 05:35 (eighteen years ago)

"ah feel yr pain, mate"

― mookieproof, Monday, 7 January 2008 05:36 (eighteen years ago)

"popel shot" etc

― roxymuzak, Monday, 7 January 2008 05:36 (eighteen years ago)

shared itunes library in college dorm + cute butt

― max, Monday, 7 January 2008 08:12 (eighteen years ago)

cute butt so important

― deej, Monday, 7 January 2008 08:40 (eighteen years ago)

Awesome coat of many colors. 3 years later, shared taste for odd movies.

― clotpoll, Monday, 7 January 2008 09:11 (eighteen years ago)

cute smile, nice bum, brains

― darraghmac, Monday, 7 January 2008 10:39 (eighteen years ago)

older than me and hot
japanese accent
crazy

― gr8080, Monday, 7 January 2008 10:41 (eighteen years ago)

half a haiku there.

― Mark G, Monday, 7 January 2008 10:46 (eighteen years ago)

she laughed at my jokes.

― nicky lo-fi, Monday, 7 January 2008 10:53 (eighteen years ago)

girls will laugh at jokes when they're not funny

― ken c, Monday, 7 January 2008 12:40 (eighteen years ago)

yeah, if they like you enough.

― darraghmac, Monday, 7 January 2008 12:45 (eighteen years ago)

girls don't like you they like cars and money

― ken c, Monday, 7 January 2008 13:01 (eighteen years ago)

The girls with the bodies like boys with Ferraris

WTF?

― Upt0eleven, Monday, 7 January 2008 13:09 (eighteen years ago)

makes sense

aw roxy and i bickering in 06 :(

― sunny successor, Monday, 7 January 2008 15:12 (eighteen years ago)

i thought rhythm guitar is when you aren't quite good enough to play lead guitar.

(i play rhythm guitar in my band)

― ken c, Monday, 7 January 2008 15:17 (eighteen years ago)

In no particular order:

1. Infinite kindness and generosity.
2. Infinite patience - three years of emails, and not once did she hurry anything; simply waited for me to sort out my demons and become ready for another relationship.
3. Completely and unreservedly on the same wavelength - emotional, aesthetic and every other way you can think of.
4. She was and is the only person prepared to take me on despite the Asperger's and everything else.
5. When I am with her the Asperger's disappears completely, or at least that's how it feels.
6. Infinite beauty - both internal and external (pace Earl Spencer).
7. She makes me feel like a teenager again, and also like an adult, as opposed to the pale ghost of a widower.
8. She is my soulmate, and I hers.
9. With us it's about helping each other to grow, to smile and to live truly and wonderfully.
10. We give ourselves to each other and it is the most natural thing in the world.
11. We fit together so well. The things we don't have individually, the other has in droves.
12. We make each other live again.

-- Marcello Carlin (nostudium), Friday, November 3, 2006 9:35 AM (1 year ago) Bookmark Link

this dude needs to take it down a notch

― and what, Monday, 7 January 2008 15:19 (eighteen years ago)

I think he's done alright, actually.

― ken c, Monday, 7 January 2008 15:22 (eighteen years ago)

Noticed lovely voice first IIRC. Then eyes, hair, laugh.

― Dr.C, Monday, 7 January 2008 16:02 (eighteen years ago)

aw, sorry sunny u_u!

It is so CUTE that clotpoll was originally attracted by a "coat of many colors"!

― roxymuzak, Monday, 7 January 2008 21:47 (eighteen years ago)

the first time I went to his apt. he busted out his issues of Tank Girl and The Maxx.

― jessie monster, Monday, 7 January 2008 21:48 (eighteen years ago)

it seems to always start on the dancefloor.

― s1ocki, Monday, 7 January 2008 21:56 (eighteen years ago)

- very sweet
- cute
- stylin
- excellent cook
- knows more about beer than anyone i have ever met
- owns good music
- unassuming
- generous
- plays keyboards
- good, heartless zinger who keeps me in check

― omar little, Monday, 7 January 2008 22:00 (eighteen years ago)

>>>- good, heartless zinger who keeps me in check

U AND K

― roxymuzak, Monday, 7 January 2008 22:01 (eighteen years ago)

- very sweet
- cute
- owns good music
- generous
- plays keyboards
- good, heartless zinger who keeps me in check

I'll have those too thankx.

― Mister Craig, Monday, 7 January 2008 22:01 (eighteen years ago)

well he is taken, sorry

― roxymuzak, Monday, 7 January 2008 22:02 (eighteen years ago)

Oh, I thought you said "I HAVE THOSE TOO"

― roxymuzak, Monday, 7 January 2008 22:03 (eighteen years ago)

ALSO I LIKE HER COZ SHE LOV3S KITTIES.

― Mister Craig, Monday, 7 January 2008 22:05 (eighteen years ago)

^^FTW

― Autumn Almanac, Monday, 7 January 2008 22:12 (eighteen years ago)

Oh yeah before I talked to him, I saw him playing a Korg in the cuetest black metal-type sloppy band ever that had like a ten minute set. "Aw, how adorable, they think they're playing black metal!" (NB did not actually say that.) I also saw him over a year before in line to talk to/get sig of Andrew WK a few spots ahead of me after a show of his. Hello, WK love.

― Abbott, Monday, 7 January 2008 22:17 (eighteen years ago)

WK is great.

― Abbott, Monday, 7 January 2008 22:18 (eighteen years ago)

love of catfood

― nickalicious, Monday, 7 January 2008 22:18 (eighteen years ago)

oh "person"

― nickalicious, Monday, 7 January 2008 22:18 (eighteen years ago)

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