Rolling Dating and Meeting New People Thread

Can we just have like the above says so that we're not off-topic if we're not talking about OKCupid or whatever?

Oh, this is about dating. Hmm. Can I sign up for a dating site to meet dudes to hang out with a friendly manner?

Yes.

Somehow I don't think that would end well.

rolling bromance '09

xpost then why did you ask?

emergency homeboys:

http://www.achewood.com/index.php?date=03022009

It was a half-serious question, I don't know.

Half-serious answer.

Anyway, how to meet new bros should not be excluded from discussion.

1. Don't call guys you want to be friends with "bro."

Don't worry, I don't call anyone "bro".

Yeah, I don't think ilx is a bro-slinging place. Maybe hoos? Maybe some noise dudes. There might be a touch of irony involved, then.

You know, this afternoon I was joking on twitter, about how I could online book a holiday cottage by the sea, and I could online book a train ticket to get there - so why could I not online book some hott mang to, you know, come on holiday and do, like, boyfriend duties for a week. It'd be great if you could just get a catalogue and ring one up. I can order cars, hotels, transport, meals, etc. for a holiday online - why can't I order up a holiday romance? Or at least some hottsexx.

Of course, I'd be kinda picky about him. Would have to see photos and hear a mixtape first.

I don't know about the other boyfriendly duties, but there are certainly plenty of "services" out there for the "hottsexx" part.

wouldnt that be kind of creepy if we online ordered the same looking guy...

Where on the interweb can I online order hottsexx from a (straight) male?

As far as I'm aware, there's not a Gaydar for bored cougars. (someone please prove me wrong!)

craigslist?

(I may not be entirely seriously.)

((in fact at all))

(((in fact the idea of sharing my beautiful isolated coastal cottage with ANY boy is kinda defeating the purpose.)))

((((unless he's really hott and makes a good mixtape))))

Haha.

craigslist!!! this chick was using this random guy's picture to get
gay dudes & single women to respond to meeting up.

idk what was her plan B once they agreed and realized it was a chick.

Now that could be a market, though. Advertise your beautiful isolated cottage with a ruggedly handsome handyman to take care of *all* your household and plumbing needs.

That said, ruggedly handsome isn't really my type. Skinny floppy haired pointy nosed indie geek boys with 3-months-pregnant bellies don't really go well with handyman type activity.

http://www.vam.ac.uk/images/image/14473-large.jpg

craigslist?

http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-bromance-is-kicking-romances-butt-in-posts-on-craigslist/

so why could I not online book some hott mang to, you know, come on holiday and do, like, boyfriend duties for a week.

*wonders if cute het boys would be interested in "escort" work of this nature. and if yes, what would be the barriers to entry in creating such a business*

Heh, I like how the girls commenting on that article vary between thinking guys looking for bromance are either "creepy" or "cute".

a dating site based on mix tapes, that would rock

experience tells me that girls who share my music taste aren't really my sort of people

i kinda want to ask out the cashier at the grocery store near where i work--is that weird?

take her, dude

pretty sure english is her second language & she has a kid.

a dating site based on mix tapes, that would rock

― CaptainLorax, Wednesday, September 16, 2009 10:25 PM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

experience tells me that girls who share my music taste aren't really my sort of people

― suzi cointreau (electricsound), Wednesday, September 16, 2009 11:27 PM (30 minutes ago) Bookmark

OTM, the both of you. :-/

I don't know any girl that shares my music taste, but I wouldn't want to date a clone of myself.
But I most certainly wouldn't want to date someone who loves.. uhh fallout boy
A music compatibility meter would be entertaining to say the least

that's what the rolling last.fm thread is for

experience tells me that girls who share my music taste aren't really my sort of people

― suzi cointreau (electricsound), Wednesday, September 16, 2009 11:27 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark

yeah...guys who share my music taste tend to be very angry and not well-adjusted to life. not always but pretty often, anyway.

Oh hey, so I met a woman last night at the bar who went to school in the town I did my freshman year in, we both went to a Lutheran grade school, etc. So we talked for a couple hours and really got along. But she's 29 with an MA and I'm (baby-faced)1 23 with an Almost BA; she's a teacher so I bear much more resemblance to one of her students than one of her peers, and I swear I was getting this look that said "I find you attractive but outside my social stratum."

How to subtextually convince her otherwise should we cross paths again?

minus the 1, I am not actually 123 yrs old. For the record.

I'm thinking fake beard.

i had an almost identical thing happen to me recently, except she also had a boyfriend since four years back. to answer your question, you probably shouldn't. it was a mess.

I do not like this advice, as it involves me not dating the pretty girl.

Perhaps if you had some advice that involved dating the pretty girl.

If she was charmed by you, in your natural youthfulness, trying to appear older, might not be the way to go. You've got make the fun aspect of the potential relationship outweigh concerns for "respectability" or "appropriateness," or at least, don't emphasize the "Hey! I'm young enough to be one of your students!" thing.

exactly.

i'm TAing this class right now and i am infatuated with one of my students. he wasn't in class today...*sigh*.

i kinda want to ask out the cashier at the grocery store near where i work--is that weird?

Do it!

I know it's cliched and all bu the "regretting the things you DIDN'T do" is totally OTM.

You should invite her to your house to watch Harold and Maude.

Oh yeah, wasn't going to actually try to come off as older, I know from experience that's just a hellish situation for all involved.

I just wish there was some sort of thing I could throw out there (there isn't) that would allay all that crap.

Also what the fuck why is this a thing. Reverse the gender roles and I've described approx 175% of relationships around here.

Good film.

Oh, this is about dating. Hmm. Can I sign up for a dating site to meet dudes to hang out with a friendly manner?

― Size-zero-brigade-embrace-token-chubby-chops (jon /via/ chi 2.0), Wednesday, September 16, 2009 3:31 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark

Are you a straight man? If that's the case then probably not.

again, if you get along and there are fun things you can do together, focus on that. You might just end up being a distraction, and the relationship evolving into something "serious" would likely be more of a struggle and have more pitfalls - but it doesn't sound like you want to shack up with this lady, just date and have fun.

^this

As far as the older woman/younger man "thing" goes - do you want an explanation of the social stigma/background of what has made this a "thing," or why individual older women might have issues having relationships with younger guys?

How to subtextually convince her otherwise should we cross paths again?

Don't bother with this, basically tell her that you like her and that you don't care about the age difference.

Oh I don't want either, I know perfectly well why it's a thing, just lamenting its foolishness.

xpost

don't bring up the age difference, just tell her you like her and she's awesome.

Whoa hey now there's been a lot of talking about it and she's just this woman I met at a bar last night that I got along with.

Now I feel weird.

xp - ilx seems to have a significant concentration of guys going for older chicks ... a lot more so than in my social circle IRL.

...also you should be aware it probably won't work, but that applies to more than 90% of relationships anyway, and is not a valid reason not to get into one.

Yeesh I so refuse to think in more than immediate-term about things like this.

The idea of dating a younger guy (like more than 1 year younger, even) is really foreign to me. Thinking about it, I can see some benefits, but the idea of a long-term relationship still seems weird ... I think your immediate-term thinking about this is probably for the best.

i need to meet new people

It's funny, I kind of hated the whole dating thing, but now that I haven't done it for a while, I really miss it. There's something really exciting about it.

xp - volunteer in maternity ward

mistake i have made recently: got last-minute invited to camping trip, where i knew only one person going into it. had a great time hanging out in the woods with fire and whiskey and cool new peeps, two of which moved away the following week. at the going away party, i fumbled asking for the number of the cuet friend i had met camping, and she doesn't currently live near enough to ever accidentally run into

so basically i have no way of getting back in touch with these people (or at least this particular person), without going some creepy extra-mile

how do i shot

xp lol, you

Okay s maybe I do want some explanation on the individual level, because that just confuses the hell out of me. I mean, I can see college/post-college divide being a sticking point, v much so in fact, I might not even want to date someone who's still doing undergrad proper. But after that I just don't see it being such a difference.

I should point out that my most recent ex was 4 years older than me.

xxxxp

so basically i have no way of getting back in touch with these people (or at least this particular person), without going some creepy extra-mile

In the age of the out-of-nowhere FB friend request I don't think there are creepy acts so much as creepy ways to go about them. Some guys make talking to a stranger seem like sexual abuse, and then there are people who make previously taboo things (like going the extra mile to get into contact with someone online) seem totally natural. The point is that it isn't going the extra mile that's creepy, it's how you do it and other intangibles.

gbx no way to get an email address from someone?

n/a, that falls under creepy extra mile inasmuch as i have an email that was sent out to party invitees (forwarded to me by singular mutual friend), and it's pretty obvious who's who just by their email addresses and unique-enough names

i mean maybe that isn't creepy? i dunno, "hey, pulled yr email from a mass email i never technically received, let's party"

nah that's not creepy. plus if there's no other way to get in touch and you're not going to get to talk to her again, so you might as well risk poaching the email. if she's creeped out and doesn't respond then you don't really lose anything.

xp to nick: Some of this is me postulating what I'd do in that situation and some of it is stuff female friends have told me -

reasons why an older woman would be weirded out by the prospect of dating a younger guy/problems with said type of relationship (pretty much focused on women in their late 20s through early 40s):

1. the mommy factor - being the one with the most adult obligations and desire for things like stable employment, income, clean house with functional appliances, full night's sleep, etc. can feel like a real drag and as if you're older than you really are. If you have a job/career that you're serious about, you might feel lame and annoying, going on about its importance, problems, and so forth, thinking that the younger guy would find this boring and not have the same sort of problems.

2. lack of shared experience - it may be trivial, but being able to relate to the other person over bad fashion trends of one's youth, what bands were popular, movies, technology, tv shows, etc. is something people bond over

3. professional considerations - in general it's good to not be hung up on what other people think of you, but in the realm of jobs and professional stuff, you can't be oblivious to this. Somewhat related, is the "how would this look to my friends?" or maybe more important and less superficial-sounding, "Would this person get along my friends and vice versa?"

not creepy, imo. (xpost)

if you met her in person and hung out and had fun, and you obviously had mutual friends, I wouldn't see it as creepy to send her an email.

duly noted, all, thx

Oh these make total sense when we're talking bigger age differences and the dude's bouncing from part time odd jobs and such, I'm more confused by stuff like a ~5 year difference when you both have steady 'real' jobs, pretty much the same adult obligations, etc. which is still looked at as this major difference.

Wow this thread is so long already.

Nick - whomever said something about regretting what you don't/didn't do is OTM. Also the age thing doesn't have to be such a thing depending on the ppl involved. Like you said, you just met this woman but if you see more of her and continue to like her don't let that get in the way of expressing interest.

Actually I'm thinking if I see her again I'm going to start with "so I had a big long conversation on the internet about the details of our potential relationship and I've decided that we should go for it."

CHARM.

OUR CHILD SHALL BE NAMED OTM, DO NOT FIGHT FATE

Good plan. I don't see how she could resist really.

I was talking to a friend last night who just told me she and her husband are getting a divorce. She's gone through a lot in the last couple years including the death of a younger brother and the recent suicide of a good friend and she was talking about how if she's learned anything through all the tough shit it's that life really is too short to have regrets and be unhappy etc. and that, as clichéd as it is, it really is true.

2. lack of shared experience - it may be trivial, but being able to relate to the other person over bad fashion trends of one's youth, what bands were popular, movies, technology, tv shows, etc. is something people bond over

When I was four or five I remember my first qualification for marriage being that "my future wife has to love talking about the ninja turtles," as I was pretty sure living with someone who couldn't talk about them, or didn't know of them, would be a pretty boring and conversationless life.

Sometimes I think that qualification should still stick.

That is so awesome. I think you should stick to that one too.

OUR CHILD SHALL BE NAMED OTM, DO NOT FIGHT FATE

How do you pronounce "OTM"?

xp Life is not too short to have regrets and be unhappy.

Oh tee em

I'm more confused by stuff like a ~5 year difference when you both have steady 'real' jobs, pretty much the same adult obligations, etc. which is still looked at as this major difference.

I think it depends on the ages. Like, 39 and 34 aren't as big a deal, as say 29 and 24, or 25 and 20 (even if you were both students). Obviously it depends on the individuals involved.

xp - Otee-emma if it's a girl.

I always say it out in my head as "on the money".

ottum

"An 86 on your math test?!? That's great! We're so proud of you, OnTheMoney."

is that better or worse than naming a kid, Lexus?

Any child of mine named OTM will get nothing more than ambivalence for a mere B.

Her brother 77, on the other hand, will receive a pizza party if he ties his shoes before age 15.

is that better or worse than naming a kid, Lexus?

No. Actually, we were really close to naming our daughter "BMW" or "Cadillac CTS."

You know, something classy.

ottum

― harbl, Wednesday, September 16, 2009 9:06 PM (7 minutes ago) Bookmark

That's like Autumn. That's kind of pretty.

haha, the local paper today had a mini-profile of a lady whose daughters are named Mercedes, Porsche and Lexus.

I wonder if anyone's named their kid hoopdie.

Hoopdie?

hoopdie

a pice of crap, usually a "car" that has two or more of these qualitys
(1) been crashed and never been to a body shop,
(2)rusted everywhere,
(3) painted with a paintbrush,
(4) home-drawn flames on the side,
(5) has faggidy rims,
(6) a wooden spoiler made in the back yard and nailed to the trunk,
(7) has racing numbers even though it couldnt be possible to race,
(8) a fake engine blower nailed to the hood

faggidy rimshot

faggidy lol

^^ not a good name for a babby

faggidy ann

mildly more appropriate

*wonders if cute het boys would be interested in "escort" work of this nature. and if yes, what would be the barriers to entry in creating such a business*

fyi going on holiday for a week and getting to meet new people without any pressure and then going home paid would be a GREAT job

Well, the pressure would be, you don't get paid if the customer don't get laid. That's how it works...

fyi going on holiday for a week and getting to meet new people without any pressure and then going home paid would be a GREAT job

I had a job like that. No-one got laid though. (OK, I mean me there)

Prostitution for Boys 101.

I quite fancy becoming a madam running a stable of floppy indie boys. Of course, I would get to sample all the merchandise first, to make sure it suited. mwah ha hah.

a 33 year old female friend of mine just married a 26 year old dude, and they are two of the most revoltingly happy people i know so anything can happen fyi
(also they met randomly in a public place)

See I have no problem dating someone younger as I do not want to get married or have children and I don't really care about your professionalism points above.

I'm heartbroken because the person I love lives in Alaska and doesn't have a phone or internet. So... yeah, there goes that.

Well, the pressure would be, you don't get paid if the customer don't get laid. That's how it works...

that's self-selecting by the sort of person who goes for the job though (poor Mark G). if you don't have to BE COMPATIBLE FOREVER, any two people who seriously aim to get on alright for a week in a nice location can probably manage it fine.

Poor nothing!

(It wasn't part of the job, it was a 'holiday' type job, involved a cabaret dance group, and was a laff. The rest, search ILX...)

i suck at dating.

i was online dating this guy for 2 years and turned out to be a chick.

i was online dating this guy for 2 years and turned out to be a chick.

Online dating?

As in i met the she-man online

we were online buds for a good time, and things just developed from there. When I decided to
plan a trip to meet he suddenly had important matters to do and sent his "cousin" in his place.

long story short i found a hidden cellphone in her bag with all my text messages

was this person named luna

well turns out she had multiple online personalities. ones that i knew of were: Cristy, Angelique, Kevin,
Chad, Duke, Jimenez, Jio, Giovannagetti, and Doug.

.. that i know of.

Wow, how'd you keep it up for 2 years w/o a meet? I haven't seen my gf in a few months and I'm already sorta losin' it.

Aw jeez. You always kind of read about these things as being a caveat of "internet dating" and suchlike but can't imagine what it would be like to go through something like that. Argh. I'm really sorry.

My problem with meeting people and sustaining that meeting into something else... well, I always like to say that it's my physical hideousness. But in actuality, it's more complex. It's simply the fact that my internal life is just so much *more* real to me than my external life - that any man I would be with would have to be willing to engage with the internal life.

Except the majority of people I seem to meet in any capacity are people who don't have rich internal lives - and often think that having such a thing is somehow "nuts" or "bonkers" or "just plain crazy".

And as I get older, my internal life gets realer, and my external life gets less interesting/engaging, so I participate in things less and less. Bringing down the opportunities for interacting even more. Which is a self perpetuating cycle.

I wonder if the solution would be a man with a rich internal life of his own, and somehow merge these internal worlds, or at least participate in each others'? And yet a man who had such a thing of his own, would probably be as externally disinterested and self contained as I appear to be.

we did alot of online stuff. like watching movies online, playing online games, messaging, drawing online,
sharing music, etc etc.

i have a very rich internet life myself going on 6 or 7 years. theres nothing wrong with it. Apparently
this "guy" was really into me based off that. Where i made the mistake was I decided to ignore the
fact that internet life can really seriously take you only SO FAR. We are human. Human people have real external
NEEDS that, im sad to say but, the internet will NEVER provide.

xpost Minus the obvious physical aspect, it's probably a lack of those things that are gettin to me. We're in such different time zones, it's really difficult to plan anything.

Anyway, my sympathies, I can't even imagine how you'd react to something like that. (obv I showed here post-Luna debacle)

I perfer the internet over my external life just because people arent so afraid online, verses upfront-unsure-nervous conversation.

thanks.

it wasnt easy getting past it. once i found out, she decided to attack me like a pyschopath. ugh, never again.

I like the nervous/unsure aspect of it! I'm a complete goomba and a big ball of nerves but it's almost sort of a thrill in a way.

Then again I'm pretty outward and friendly given the right atmosphere/personal mood...I dunno!

true! it can be way cute. x}

oh you mean like drunk?

jajajaja!

Haha, drunk is one situational factor, yes, as well as coffee. Though I meant sometimes I'm just,I dun no, squirrely (read:adhd).

....While symptoms may appear to be innocent and merely annoying nuisances to observers, "if left untreated, the persistent and pervasive effects of ADHD symptoms can insidiously and severely interfere with one's ability to get the most out of education, fulfill one's potential in the workplace, establish and maintain interpersonal relationships, and maintain a generally positive sense of self....

awesome!!

Pretty cool!!!1 lol sigh
I was diagnosed w/ "ADD with mild hyperactivity" for whatever face that might save.

Sorry to prod deeper, but it's a really curious situation--could you elaborate on the attacking you like a psychopath bit? I mean if having multiple online personalities is how you roll I guess how else ya gonna react, it's just difficult for me to fathom any way of handling the situation other than 'ooooooo busted sry'.

The problem with meeting internet people is that it would seem to reduce a good thing to a situation I already know I'm pretty much terminally bad at.

Every ADD description I read sounds totally like me (to me) but everyone I've ever asked, from friends and family to doctors and counsellors, has said either "of course you don't have that" or "ADD doesn't exist and anyway that's for small noisy manic boys and not diffident lethargic old women" so what can be done? Not a lot less than if they said "OK, you can have that badge, now what do you do with it?" anyway I guess.

Sorry hondurian, that is one fucked-up situation to get caught up in.

I much prefer my external-life self to my online personality, really. I might be impossible to talk to on the phone and occasionally difficult to crack face to face, but generally I connect with people in teh irl easier than on this abstract thinger.

re: ADD, I don't know wtf it is really apart from a shit list of symptoms. It's been some time since I researched, but the most concrete thing I ever found was something like "linked to a physical abnormality in the central nervous system", which was not elaborated upon.

dude even dont worry about it, i was diagnosed with GAD and post-tramatic syndrome... although i believe i have overcome some of that now. we all got our issues.

i dont mind, id be curious myself.

the setting: we are in a hotel room with 2 beds (thank god) and after about the 3 day i begin to notice that i only recieve messages from "him" whenever i am in the shower, shes in the shower, or i step away. I notice that shes kind of oddly stares at me and doenst speak much.

I got ballsy one night and asked her to call "him" from her cell phone. She pulled out a cellphone that i noticed wasnt the original one she had brought with her and started fumbling with it. I called "him" from my phone and the phone lit up... busted. I got upset, obvy, and once i reached for the phone that she had put into a bag, she pushed me against the hotel room door, pulled my hair out and began choking me.

FUN TIMES!

Holy fuck!

holy fuck was exactly what i was thinking!!!

@_@...

people are terrifying

This is going to be one of those "if you weren't against the idea of meeting new people and dating before, you will be after reading this thread!" threads, right?

Yup!

Or also the thread to make you really, really appreciate your sig-o if you were maybe taking them slightly for granted (and even if you were not!)

see I don't like internet because its too easy to be your best self, hide your flaws, and then people project onto you. too much setup for disappointment. i like to be upfront about my losery ways from the get-go.

i like to think my losery ways are just things that make me unique

for example.........

i tend to get needy and clingy

i will punch-a-hoe if she flirts with you and vise versa

i over analyze everything and tag the mose pessimistic solution to everything

god im a barrel of fun.

Yeah I think if my gf punched someone she thought was flirting with me that would be a deal breaker.

hondurian, feel free to ignore the following question, but since you’re being open: weren’t you suspicious of a male who was content with a sexless relationship?

obviously itd have to be a clear example of flirting

yes.

but......................... jesus mighty lord chewy.................. there was "temporary relievment"

I am so confused. I think I have to reread this thread. Is hondurian m or f?

me woman.

you are probably sorry that you ever brought this up but i'm curious too! you mention phoning "him" while at the hotel - had you phoned him before? was this chick using a voice transformer or something? so sorry this happened to you! :(

but......................... jesus mighty lord chewy.................. there was "temporary relievment"

I don’t get it. But I don’t think I want an explanation.

So you're a woman and thought you were falling in love with a man but it was actually a woman pretending to be a dude. OK. I have to back and reread this now that I'm clear on that . . .

yeeeaa lets not get into that. lol

Girl is 18 or 19. I am 26. Opinions?

Don't even though you like each other. She won't get things you're saying and will pretend she does. Cultural things, but especially just things you learn from growing up and maturing. Your goals are different and it will probably split you up when you end up really like each other. Lots of reasons not to.

She didn't know what The Boondocks was. But then again she might share Chinese astrology compatibility. Goat + Pig = 9 if she is indeed a goat. next time I'm at the bar and grill where she works I'll find a way to divulge her zodiac without appearing interested (not sure if that's possible)

wait she's a goat? baaaaaaaaad idea

i kinda want to ask out the cashier at the grocery store near where i work--is that weird?

Dude, ASK HER ALREADY. I mean, if she doesn't want to, she'll decline (but be flattered anyway). I mean, it's so simple: what have you got to lose? That said, it's so easy looking from my point of view as I don't have to go through the torture myself. Hopefully I'll never have to, though I do get nostalgic about it. Not when I'm reading Hondurian's experiences. WTF.

I don't get the music thing. Do people even contemplate it? My husband and I are on... different plutos. I'm on No Wave Mars and he's on Earthling.

Her Chinese zodiac? That's not a reason to date someone.

xp harbl: i dunno, would probably save time in recycling.

wait she's a goat? baaaaaaaaad idea

― harbl, Friday, September 18, 2009 9:00 PM (2 minutes ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

OMG

If someone mentions/believes in astrology I would run... RUN.

Lorax if you find a lady that's into you I think you should probably go for it without reservations or hesitation provided she's legal.

ENBB are you a goat?

she's the G.O.A.T.

You have a problem with people who have no passport? BAH! j/k

just don't come crying to us when she has that "am i lesbian?" and/or "i think we should have an 'open' relationship" phase in college.

http://www.sassygoatmilksoap.com/SassyGoatMilkSoap.jpg

xpost to Stevie: I think it's more an understanding of broader things about culture. Like on Monday I had a long conversation about music with this classmate of mine, and I felt afterwards like I had to explain a lot about background rather than just say what you'd say to your friends, whether or not they had heard or liked something. There's a whole base of knowledge for every subject, and also what you like and don't like and are into indicates underlying values, maybe a curiosity you'd like to see in someone. The actual stuff you're into can be very superficial, though. It's what that stuff says about you underneath, about how you engage the world, that maybe people look for.

Bam I am not a goat. Just checked and it looks like I am a snake.

figures :p

I remember once meeting up with a guy who I had chatted with. Actually I remember two... Oh god, no, three guys. The one who stared at me through the entire movie was just... NO. He also hacked into my email account and then dropped by accusing me of lying when I said I was a recluse. He had read of my concert going. Sigh. Good times. I'm a bit less nostalgic.

Bamcquern, oh I know what you mean. It's just that in my case my best friends are radically different in respect to music/art choices. Which is maybe why I froth at the mouth whenever my best friend starts talking about particular music or whatever.

i'm a rat :)

Apparently snakes are compatible with roosters and oxen but not with pigs or monkeys.

don't know about rats

i spent too much time looking up astrological profiles for myself the other day, and it was depressing. I think I agree whole-heartedly with stevie now.

i'm a rat as well

I'm human.

Though a little less after spending so much time on ILX.

i give human plague, human die

You dirty rats.

Astrology people are pretty creepy imo.

i have opposable thumbs and i am not a raccoon or monkey.

rats are v. charming fyi i believe this is true

Verbal jousting is a great pleasure for the Rat, a Sign that everyone around will quickly learn either to love or to hate.

en garde motherfuckerssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

it's pretty difficult to stomach the concept that everyone born in the same year has the same personality traits ...

but maybe it's easier for goats

that's what you think

Yeah, '81, so we're apparently compatible, enbb, if we choose to trust Chinese restaurant placemats.

i don't really spend much quality time with goats talking about their views on chinese astrology ...

"Snake people are born charming and popular. Snakes are spotlight magnets, and they will not be ignored. Peer group attention and public recognition are the least of what he expects. Yet Snakes are never noisy or deliberately outspoken, and they have have excellent manners . . . Most people are secretly or hopelessly in love with Snakes. Gather those frustrated folk you know and most likely, they are probably in love with a Snake."

"snake people"

does it only consider years? the site i did it from made me put in month and day but yeah i had thought before that it was just that '84 is the year of the rat.

Most people are secretly or hopelessly in love with Snakes.

http://www.clickthecity.com/img2/articles/CTC-3088-image6.jpg

maybe "astrology people" might seem creepy but I think overly rational, less imaginative people are codfish

xp - how do they fare on planes?

haha me too i put in the month/day in the rong order and still got the same result so i think its just the year (xpost)

big man, pig man

cold fish

i am horse

This snake person does not fare so well on planes :-(

The site I just looked at gave more detailed descriptions based on month.

Sorry Lorax - I just don't buy into it. At all. Guess that means I must be overly rational and unimaginative. ;_;

I know some very smart, rational people who give nods to astrology.

NODDZZZZZZ

are people not compatible with their own sign? so people who buy into chinese astrology must only hang out with people older or younger?

I also know some not always very balanced people who wanna do my chart and email it to me.

compatibility with pig = 45 - The Pig can never please the Snake. :-(
compatibility with horse = 75 - These two are strongly attracted to each other.

xxpost I think it's a thing to do with older men marrying younger women.

i always figured there was more to chinese astrology than just the year but i never cared enough to look into it.

Yeah it says that I wouldn't be compatible with other snakes.

I have to find some ox people to hang with. Ox 85 - This union can be a good one.

Determination and strong will characterize the Scorpio Ox. These Oxen will strive and do whatever they must in order to reach their goal. They are intense lovers, but you’ll never be able to read their emotions because they keep them tucked away.

Hilarious.

maybe "astrology people" might seem creepy but I think overly rational, less imaginative people are codfish

Well, fuck you too. ;-)

i shake my head at astrology because it told me at heart, i'm a vindictive sociopath.

i believe very strongly in Chinese astrology until the DUMPLINGS! arrive then i forget all about it

hahahaha DUMPLINGS! still does that <3

are people not compatible with their own sign

Nope, apparently my marriage is solid but boring. How that works with me being an intense lover, I do not know.

Wait. DUMPLINGS!

DUMPLINGS!

Cool.

DUMPLINGS!

sweet

both of my signs, rat and scorpio, are really unpopular types of organisms :(

DUMPLINGS!

astrology is more of a coincidence thingy. you gotta take it all with a grain of salt. a whole year of people don't share the exact same personality traits.. but they might have more in common with eachother (say your graduating class) than you would have with another graduating class.

i mean, astrology it rarely hits all the nail on the head but there's usually enough similarities for me to believe it's more than an elaborate hoax.

seriously - according to astrology i'm a vindictive sociopath who will have a happy marriage to a dignified, attractive, pleasant person. Totally unclear on how that works.

As much as I hate astrology, I'm proud to be a Scorpio

rats are pretty cool i mean just like at splinter - what a bro and scorpions are undeniably rad at least your not a fukken crab

ps I LOVE CRICKET: THE CHINATOWN OF ILX: THE CHINATOWN OF ILX

oh shit I am a capricorn so I guess that does, in fact, make me a goat!

xp stevie: I actually kinda am too, except for the vindictive sociopath part.

I tend to think of capricorns as horses

i like being a scorpio too and think it describes me accurately even though astrology is stupid

Scorpio is the most misunderstood of all astrology signs. They are all about intensity and contradictions. They like to be aware of a situation and always know what's going on, figuring this out with their probing mind, on the other hand, they are interested in the occult, the paranormal, conspiracy theories and other types of similar unknown mysteries. They are very capable of hiding their true feelings and motivations, they often have ulterior motives or a hidden agenda.

LOL

x-post pretty sure they're supposed to be goats

I'm nothing like what capricorns are supposed to be like.

capricorn is a sea-goat

i'm a rat AND cancer

The genitals are everybody's erogenous zone but since the Scorpio is the most sexually charged of all zodiac signs, the genitals are extremely sensitive and will ignite a passionate fire that cannot be extinguished. Stroke and caress these areas lightly. There is no wrong way to stimulate this area, but be gentle.

LOLOLOLOLOLOL

How do you do the cricket trick?

I now have a picture of my vagina turning into this ravenous monster eating up my husband. I NEVER KNEW!

i'm a rat AND cancer

lol really?

ima kinda like a cancer in the sense that it describes personality traits common to pretty much everyone that i share, sort of

What.

xpost sorry

be aware that these folks are clever, perceptive and always in the mix. Their ability to see into things can sometimes be a curse for Scorpions, however, since they can take an insignificant matter and turn it into a huge slight. Beware the Scorpion who feels crossed! These folks can turn vindictive in no time flat. Luckily, once Scorpions catch their breath, they will return to their usual determined and loyal (albeit strong-willed) ways.

This was actually fairly accurate about me a few days ago.

yup. a crabby rat. that's me.

What I thought was funny with that "what's your age thread" on ILM was when someone mentioned the conflict between Leos and Cancers and how most of ILX are Leos (?!).

I have similar feelings about Leos (I'm a cancer). We rarely understand each other.

XP
yeah scorpios are the biggest nymphos of the zodiac.. next up pisces and libras (if I remember correctly)

Ohhhhh.

Hurrah for licentious pisces.

Mr. Que I always sort of pictured you a Micky Mouse

as*

IRL I have a lot of friends who are Leos and they are awesome, and most of the Cancers I know are batshit crazy or delusional.

Nath in vagina dentata admission shocker.

Well, DAMN, I always thought the vindictive thing was my own unique trait. HAHAHAHA. But DAMN that slight thing is spot on. :-( I can really turn into a bitch if something small gets in my way.

My disbelief is crumbling you guys

what if your partner is also a scorpio?

x-post No you were right before. It's a load of crap.

Yeah, no offense to Cpt. Lorax.

IRL I have a lot of friends who are Leos and they are awesome, and most of the Cancers I know are batshit crazy or delusional.
― my display name is an honor student at ilx high school (sarahel)

IRL I have a lot of friends who are Leos and they are awesome, and most of the Cancers I know are batshit crazy or delusional.

as a cancer i should be able to remember ppl i no's birth dates but fuk u

i think astrology is hella stupid but whenever i find out that sumone's sign is the same as mine or compatible i end up liking them more

no offense to anyone here ... I think I just end up meeting a bunch of delusional and crazy people IRL.

My boss at an old job. "What sign are you, Aries?"

"Pisces."

"Oh, that's why I like you."

Yeah, that's unnerving to me when people do shit like that.

I'm a cancer.
IRL I'm quiet and couldn't possibly be creepy because I pretty much abstain from pursuing girls or I quit pursuing them after one try being somewhat nervous and all (also having learned that exuberant dialog has given off the wrong impressions in the past)

cancers really change with age and experience

u should hope so

my bf's ex is a cancer, and she has grown more batshit crazy with age and experience ...

oh good christ I have gotten the pisces thing before too

u too Lamp

Yeah, that's unnerving to me when people do shit like that.

― \(^o\) (/o^)/ (ENBB), Friday, September 18, 2009 4:42 PM (1 minute ago) Bookmark

Except she is a really sweet and intelligent woman.

otoh - one of my friends who I admire most is also a cancer - and is not at all batshit, though I think she's a bit idealistic/unrealistic about things at times.

Is it unnerving to think that there might actually be truth behind astrology?
I certainly couldn't handle it for a long time. It pissed me off thinking that there is some truth behind it.

I just know a billion geminis and aries for some reason.

xxp
yeah our imaginations are strong as fuck.. are dreams are wild

Dating/meeting new people comment. This girl who used to go sort of ga-ga when I was in class with her last spring is at my new college, and she's basically the only person I know. We don't really have much in common, nor is she particularly attractive if we're talking about dating, but she's totally an Englishman in China, so I talked to her and we exchanged numbers and everything.

And in class, to be clear, she would gush, and sort of bug me, or do what she thought was bugging me, since I didn't mind.

It's only been a few days, but it's been a little tricky scheduling something to do. I have to remind myself again and again that even people I'm not so hot about, or even who I don't like, have things to do or might not even like me. But it still feels a tiny bit weird, after what basically looked to me like a crush. Maybe she's getting back at me for not hanging out with her before.

Either:
a) She's just flirty and not interested
or
b) She senses that you're only interested because you know she's into you.

or
c) She actually is too busy

wait, is she still exhibiting crush like behavior or was she doing this last spring and it has subsided?

Hadn't seen her at all until recently, so there's no telling. I'm not going to date her, I just want to hang out with her because I don't know anyone in my town AT ALL.

She was pretty excited when she saw me Monday, but the big difference between then and at transfer orientation is that she didn't hug me in front of her parents (or anyone). So maybe the behavior has calmed down. She just said, "BRYCE! It's Jenna! Remember?" And I was like, "Yeah, I haven't forgotten."

if it's just a hanging out thing, it isn't a big deal that she hasn't gotten back to you in a couple days.

No, in my mind, it's not a big deal, but as I said earlier, I'm sensitive today. And I've spent practically every day alone since mid-May and I'm going a little crazy.

There's also this dude in class I started talking to. And I might desperately attend chess club. And "music appreciation club."

ack, that sucks. Watched 'I am Legend" the other night, and wondered whether if I had no human contact for a couple years whether I'd have imaginary conversations with mannequins.

my bf's ex is a cancer, and she has grown more batshit crazy with age and experience ...
― my display name is an honor student at ilx high school (sarahel), Friday, 18 September 2009 21:43 (2 days ago)

moderator request forum: I Love Astrology!

not.

it would be all out hell to mod an astrology forum. except maybe the one that takes itself the most seriously

i am not gonna try to make friends anymore. cuz like, i feel like i am friendly and personable to ppl i meet, almost too nice, but what's the point? aside from cute bartenders giving me buybacks I have nothing to show for my efforts in friendship this far.

smoke weed everyday

had a similar conversation with an old college bro of mine a few weeks ago, kinda shifting more into how people can't just be "regular" in their social lives in l.a., they gotta be doing something CRAZY or they're networking or whatever, and he made a pretty good point saying that "i think everyone we know would be happier somewhere else," because people just can't be normal, at least in l.a. lots of party-photo magnets even in our relatively laid-back, no-b.s. circle. i kinda agree with him. i imagine maybe the same holds true in nyc, plus yeah people just have this wall up.

another problem i have a lot of the time is that the type of folks who usually dig the same shit i do are the type of folks that i don't really like to hang with, and the same goes for my profession of choice.

anyway imo ian the worst years for this sort of thing are mid-twenties, the ship rights itself soon enough as long as you just *~maintain~*

another problem i have a lot of the time is that the type of folks who usually dig the same shit i do are the type of folks that i don't really like to hang with, and the same goes for my profession of choice.

― jØrdån (omar little), Friday, November 6, 2009 6:21 PM (1 minute ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

otm. the last time I had a robust venn diagram of activity work fun pals was college (w layover in chi)

*most* of the people i have met since i've moved have not been worth the effort, so i totally feel you, ian. but maybe they feel the same way about me. mostly i just feel really lame all the time, but it's peaceful and drama-free, at least.

I've settled in with a good bunch of school friends, finally, but I miss having a gang. Not just friend group but like hangin all the time gang. Weirdly rudderless without it.

i feel u too. but peaceful and drama-free otm

it took me quite a few years to develop a good circle of friends where I am, and when you live in a city, people are always moving in and away.

I've settled in with a good bunch of school friends, finally, but I miss having a gang. Not just friend group but like hangin all the time gang. Weirdly rudderless without it.

oh man, I so feel this. I was recently threatened with the possibility of moving to the US very quickly, and I chose Chicago because, hey, why not? Then it sunk in that I don't know anyone there, and I'm horrible with new people as everyone I know now (for the most part) built out of friends I met years ago. I think I'd get despondent on my own after a little while, trying to meet new blood and either getting bored (I really lost my old ability to care about the lives of strangers years ago) or rejected.

i don't usually like people who are doing the same things as me either. i'm afraid now that i'm old all the people i meet will be lawyers.

nah, you can befriend all the cons.

i have a lot of friends around but i've been real antisocial lately. just kinda been enjoying hanging w/gf or chillin at home watching sports and using ilx. i could maybe use some new friend blood, yeah

harbl, you are not old!

chicago is a pretty friendly city ime, though i feel you

i feel old, i just sit home and read books all the time. not even that many books.

i have mostly switched drinking booze for tea and it makes me feel old.
maybe i will buy wine.

i have this dream of opening a restaurant/bar someday and i think half the reason is that i'd meet a shitload of new people

doing something like that - where you're regularly interacting w/new people where you have something to do makes it easier, and it helps you develop the general ability to approach strangers, etc.

i work in retail but i don't need anymore friends who collect records.

you could just work in a bar. a bar where everyone knows your name.

cheers for that

what kind of friends do you want, ian?

ha Omar I think the same thing

i think i dream of opening a bar because then i could choose the beers we got on tap

that would be rad imo

i want friends who read books and like to eat hamburgers and smoke pot.

i like all those things

also: chicks.

sorry johnny :(

dude ian we should be friendz

actually i dont smoke much pot :-/

u should start imo

i don't smoke pot, but i'm a chick. it doesn't seem like you have really exacting criteria, so it seems like the issue is mainly the how.

i should start selling maybe

friends not pot

hahaha i mean those are the basics. when it comes to ppl i want to actually be buddies with or sleep with, i get much pickier.

i try to avoid burgers, don't smoke pot, and read fitfully. sry dude, maybe in our next lives!

hey but we can still be bros!

i care about ~~VALUES~~

not POLITICS.. but VALUES.

yeah i'm feelin that definitely

ppl who are into just being ppl as opposed to ppl into buying fancy clothes and drinking vodka sodas.

haha yes

damn I was gonna drink vodka sodas tonight

i feel like something happened, like i'm in the same kind of scene i've always been but everyone around me changed from being kinda friendly and awkward and twee to being humorless smug choads and cocaine sniffers with sunglasses on at all hours.

hey dog do whatever gets u drunk in the most pleasant manner don't let my anti-college girl prejudices deter you. xp

9/11 DOGTITS

humorless smug choads and cocaine sniffers with sunglasses on at all hours.

― jØrdån (omar little), Saturday, November 7, 2009 1:18 AM (28 seconds ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

^^ this was my impression of LA based on my week-long visit several years ago

wtf

i said xp but it wrote dogtits

i mean i really said x p o s t

9/11 DOGTITS

wow!

DOGTITS

that's cool.

DUMPLINGS!?

i love DUMPLINGS!.

[nabisco]

l0u1s jagg3r

ppl into buying fancy clothes and drinking vodka sodas.

― ian, Friday, November 6, 2009 7:14 PM (3 minutes ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

yeah. med school buddy and i have a term for this: aspirational socializing. like, we went to a med school yay end of tests function last year and it was in the backroom of a kinda upscale fukkin wine bar downtown, and you could sorta tell that it wasn't a winding-down let's relax situation, it was medical students acting out the sort of lifestyle they imagine doctors MIGHT live when they're older and actually have the money to like go to a wine bar and have a fancy dinner on the regular

xp

DOGTITS

DUMPTITS!

ugh law school is like that too, unsuprisingly. everything is an "event" where you can "network" and then you get weird questions for not showing up

the "entertainment" "industry" is the same

i wanna meet a girl who will go to bluegrass jams and enjoy herself.

ian i know several girls for you

when you're a lawyer and someone questions you like that you can be like SUSTAINED

gbx do they live in new york and like to eat cheeseburgers

yeah or i can be like i don't need to extend my network of douchebags any further atm thx

have you gone to bluegrass jams and tried to befriend girls who appeared to be enjoying themselves?

I have a zydeco tie

there was a residency schmoozing thing tonight that was right after school (so i was dressed nice, for patients), that i walked all the way across the street for, into the building, up the stairs, and to the entrance of the conference/ballroom, looked inside, wanted to suicide, and turned around and left

I think I lost the thimbles for it tho

ian, yes

altho my main bluegrass person in nyc is a dude (bff), but he like goes to jams and plays banjo and stuff

although he's moving to berkeley v soon to be with his mandolin playing bluegrass loving girlfriend :-/

also you could just move to vermont

i mean, if i were looking for a guy that liked avant garde metal and anchovy pizza and shared my disdain for annoyingly-worded advertisements, I might try going to an avant garde metal show and checking out the prospects, you know?

women at bluegrass jams: old or attached.

all of them?

last time i went to a death metal show and checed out the prospects it was pretty unfortunate
but i am way too much of a nerd for anyone attractive at the grad student bar
i just don't now what to do with myself

in my experience! or maybe x they're single and just hanging out with groups of dudes, hard to say. xp

though sometimes shows aren't the best place to meet people to date.

women at bluegrass jams: old or attached.

― ian, Friday, November 6, 2009 7:33 PM (4 minutes ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

all of them?

― sarahel, Friday, November 6, 2009 7:34 PM (3 minutes ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

generally true, yeah

at a ~jam, at least.

the women are either playing (and attached) or there with sig other who's playing, it seems

this borad is full of bluegrassers!

i played in a bluegrass band once, yes

saxophone

we also covered "africa" by toto

man those were the days~

okay i should have known this, but a GIS for "cowgirl" is wayyyy nsfw.

~LOL~

"party-photo magnets" – what does this mean

http://www.thecobrasnake.com/

aaaah

I didn't make any friends for two fucking years in this town. Then I started knitting & now I have a bunch of knitting locas to hang with. I was always baffled by how "a hobby" was supposed to make friends but I guess that sometimes it works. (I guess it also helps if you don't pick something highly solitary like 'writing'.)

: /

my hobbies include cheeseburgers, beer and talking about modernist literature

those are great!

hey i just made a new friend - and by 'friend' i mean an actual buddy who i want to hang out with and can totally be a dork around and everything!

only took 15 months :/ altho tbh i've put little to no effort into meeting new ppl. ilx fulfills my social needs for the most part.

she was in my store and asked me where i was from, we got chatting, turns out we've been thru v similar immigration exp but she's from the UK. our husbands seem to have stuff in common (bikes, hiking, quoting movies) so hopefully they'll get along too. went for a drink and had the best time - she's totally down to earth and doesn't have that wall up that a lot of americans do (xp to omar: def noticed a lack of complete openness w/americans; nzers, aussies, brits tend to be the opposite in general).

Holy shit you've been here 15 months? It feels like no time has passed at all.

i know, i feel like i just arrived, don't even feel like i know this city at all. still haven't really settled, tbh it's been more of a struggle than i anticipated.

actually it'll be 16 months next week

you guys should have some coffee and chillax imo. if you're in the same city?

also you could just move to vermont

― how rad bandit (gbx), Saturday, November 7, 2009 1:28 AM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

been thinking about moving back to new england, but not vt specifically.

jeez i WISH we lived in the same city! then abbs would be my friend and i wouldn't have to bother meeting anyone.

ian move to baltimore, i will be ur friend

Justine I think he meant you and Sarahel.

Ian - yes, New England!

justine just move to seawa and at least our problems will be solved ;)

i meant justine & tza but i've been drinking a bit.

wld hang with juftine any day

oh, sorry! See, I thought Justine and Sarahel are in the same place but maybe I'm wrong.

yeah i should try to hang out with sarahel sometime.

i kind of want to move to seattle just so i have a group of friends again (which hasn't been the case for almost 10yrs, i think).

i have friends but they're all my co-workers & ilxors, but we're not a 'gang'

i have some acquaintances here, but no one i feel comfortable just calling/emailing and saying 'hey let's go for a drink tonight'. my new friend is exactly the kind of person that i CAN do that with.

that's dope.

ime it's easier to find dates than friends ;_;

(in a new town)

yeah friend-making in a new place can be tricky. if you're lucky get end up with some good friend prospects at work (which is how i met probably two-thirds of the people i consider good friends over the last 20 years), but that's not always true. i've never moved to a new city by myself, always been w/girlfriend or wife, so i've avoided the complete isolation of that experience.

my problem now w/having 2 little kids is that even if i might people who i'd like to hang out with, i barely have any time. like, my next-door neighbor is cool older dude who's written a bunch of interesting-sounding left-wing academic books but i haven't even gotten it together to go have coffee or beers with him.

(if you're lucky you end up...)

a girl gave me her number last night after chatting for half an hour or so... do i call her today or wait?

im from the old timey wait camp.

but how long? two days, three?

it's not a game. call her when you feel like it. if that is now, call her now

^^^^

just don't start breathing heavily on the phone when you do

i know it's kinda stupid but i'd say wait a couple of days

breathe heavily for a few seconds and then perk up all "hahaha hello, I'm not a psycho really!" and then blow her a raspberry

if she's still connected after that, it's love

ew

but again, if your really interested ian its your choice.

call her

i never really understood this hollywood movie 'wait like 4 years' thing. if you like someone and want to talk to them, call them. maybe wait for post-work hours i guess. and yeah don't be creepy.

i think i will call her tonight and see if she wants to go to a movie. that is simple and not hard.

giddy up

my situation- friend chris invited his other friend rosie for ny. seemed nice, added her on facebook but in a 'i can tell we will bump into each other as friends of friends' type add. then get message from chris saying she wants to 'bone' me (eurgh fucking hate that word). do i talk to her on facebook? i've been invited for a drink with chris next week and knowing him he'll bring her along, so do i wait till then. why couldn't she have told me herself, especially when our ny party was getting kinda boring? instead she just looked a bit annoyed at everyone. h8 girls. feel like i could write observational comedy and get a spot on the michael mcintyre show about it.

she is p cute.

bone her then.

just like walk up behind her or

tap her on the shoulder and say "excuse me, I understand you wanted to bone?" and gauge the response

talk to her on facebook. come up with something funny to say based on whatever you did or were talking about the last time you saw her. if she does in fact want to bone you it won't really matter what it is.

unless you don't really want to bone her in which case forget about it.

yah otm dont overthink it just get chattin and ask her for a drink

but where is the crazy anxieties in that?

the crazy anxieties dont ~exist~ think abt it

all relationship advice threads shd b posted 2 in the manner of jhoshea y/y

.... i didn't save her number properly.

http://media.bigoo.ws/content/gif/music/music_139.gif

http://androidboss.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/06/fe4ab2d65fNoooo.jpg.jpg

gr80 otm :( smdh

FUCK.

you don't know her name? look her up on fb

did she get yours? also: try a CL missed connection.

do CL missed connections work? I always assumed you'd get a ton of "I'm not that person but I will bone you in 15 minutes if you don't mind the smell of the rotting corpses I mean old takeout food under my bead" variety

pretty sure it'd be trivial to devise a way to sift thru the crepes

that seems like a lot of work (sez the dude who's been off the market for almost 20 years)

i know her first name and employer, but could not find her on teh facebook. i did post a missed connection.
shrug.

you can tell how good i am at this whole dating thing.

how young is too young for a 29 year old? my mate's 19 year old sister fancies me and she's great and everything, but that's too young for me. i'm going out with a 21 year old i met on ok cupid on sunday, and that seems a bit weird too. my last girlfriend was 30.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rRwhm-B6yNI

usually if someone gives me their number Ill put it in my phone and then make the call right then 'so you can have my number too'

^^

Yeah i know i fucked up

i met a girl who was new to town at this art opening thing recently and she gave me her number and i sent her a text right away so she'd have mine. then she told me she wouldn't get my text because her "phone was dead."

i figured that she'd just get it once she was able to charge her phone back on again, but it turned out that she had a pay as you go phone and so she'd never get that text ever.

which was awesome cause in the 20 minutes following that text she went from "interesting and kind of cute new arrival with lots of confidence and swagger who i'd like to get to know" to "the most annoying and clueless person i have met in years, possibly my life ever."

if you know her name and employer, maybe linkedin? ¯\(°_o)/¯

now that im seeing someone i seem to meet grrls constantly wtf

duh

Fuck a long distance crush. It is the story of my life for the last ten months.
I get good mail, anyway.

still not sure how to negotiate my sitch atm

Leave longer and longer between responses, make them shorter and shorter, and within, say, a few days, stop responding?

of the 3 choices in thread title, I prefer rolling new people.

I highly recommend roller dating.

i met someone. I attended a wedding this weekend and spent the weekend with a girl who made me feel like i haven't felt in 16 years. Today im like a pile of mush. She lives in Philly. We spent the entirety of Saturday night talking until the sun came up, i feel like a 17 year old boy. I didn't realize it was possible to feel this way again. Im petrified.

holy smokes!! moments like that are rare in life

Yeah it is. Something unexpected like that.

You also have to be open to it happening when it happens. Congrats on being in the right mood at the right time in the right place!

im just sort of euphoric...but also sad because i want to see her.