What do you love about the same sex

and they are all as sexy as me, that is to say, fuckin sexy. hamana riaowww! i do love my girlz indeed.

It's funny, when trying to come up with something (anything!) to contribute to this thread, I'm always going to on eof my gay friends and one of his more feminine traits. I h8 dudez.

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They too can bleed for days on end every month and come out of it alive. They can grow a baby inside them. They pay attention pretty good to each other. Most of them are willing to help. Their clothes are fun to look at. They giggle.

They're funny and only emotional when they mean it.

they can open jars of spaghetti sauce for me

most men are gross. women are better because their brains aren't driven by testosterone; they don't always have to conquer everything they see.

Usually can have a good conversation with them about sports.

they play good tennis.

they can get catty and bitchy with me
men just dont like gossip

http://www.vanityfair.com/culture/features/2007/01/hitchens200701

that article sucks, i know tons of funny chicks!

okay looks like i missed the point of the article

actually, you didn't!

at work, they mind their own business.

women are wayyyy prettier than men

They're better kissers too, but without the stubble.

They're nicer to cuddle with.
They don't take a girlpile the wrong way.
They remind me of the enormous variety of kinds of womanly features in the world.

i used to like illustrating men more than women, the angles are more dramatic and interesting at least in the exaggerated comic book style. i took to drawing old men's faces in my late teens and I do it almost exclusively now. don't know what to make of it though, nor do I know what it has to do with love, if anything. most men are pitiable and the length they go to hide it gives you that poignant frisson that's the stuff of like, all of media so i don't need to go into it do i. searching for a man's inner life isn't more 'rewarding' but it's definitely more fruitful if only because women present more of a maddeningly moving target that you (I) can't glean as much from. sort of a backhanded compliment but hey.

i do think i love those types of guys who're selfless in that everyday way, the guy with the easy smile, who can create a bond with any kid he meets, doesn't think twice about helping you move and offers his truck (that he usually uses to haul lumber cuz he knows how to build house from scratch btw), i wish i had more of that. i think 'love' is frustrating how i think of it, and i'm not talking about 'gay shit' anxiety; 'admire' might be an entirely appropriate equivalent. true, deep, firsthand admiration is just as rarefied in my experience, not that that's just necessarily a guy thing, i dunno.

otm

guys are the rock of the world with a built in hard place TM. women are everything

you're really moving me today. are you drunk?

no haha i'm at work. coffee is doing this to me, but i've gone into that in embarrassing detail elsewhere

so i just recently moved from pretty much an all male office to one with slightly more women than men. the thing i've noticed is sometimes women who work here talk a lot. I mean, a whole lot. about their dad's surgery, their husbands, their route home and why they decided to get crazy and try a new one yesterday, the reasons for all the PTO days they've taken in the last year. and there you are, just trapped in your tiny office, with no window to jump out of.

so, dudes, way to STFU. seriously.

(am probably going to regret that)

yeah, women do talk a lot. i cringe sometimes (i'm very quiet and soft-spoken).

i love women.

sorry, another thread i know.

Haha I'm the original Chatty Kathy but frequently in elevators or subways I do cringe at really piercing voices or laughs, or just INCESSANT chatter. It's all in where you're standing, I guess.

men just dont like gossip

-- homosexual II, Thursday, July 24, 2008 2:30 PM (2 hours ago) Bookmark Link

uh this is not true at all. musicians are gossipy as hell, anyways.

Able to multitask. Generally more productivity per hour in the workplace.

well almost every woman i know is down to gossip, but about half of men seem to think its kind of ridiculous

i don't mind chatty at all if it's the least bit funny and/or entertaining. and to be fair, my friend Anna has the same problem with the men in her office constantly shootin' the breeze about nothing in particular (in a totally non-sexual way, as far as she can tell). So there you go.

women are better because their brains aren't driven by testosterone; they don't always have to conquer everything they see.

yeah

They don't take a girlpile the wrong way.

my friends are capable of doing manpiles. love.

i do think i love those types of guys who're selfless in that everyday way, the guy with the easy smile, who can create a bond with any kid he meets, doesn't think twice about helping you move and offers his truck (that he usually uses to haul lumber cuz he knows how to build house from scratch btw)

no matter how many times i read this, the description of said guy comes off as creepy to me. which possibly either means that i am creepy and projecting, or all men are creepy, or i have watched too many a&e true crime programs, and i can't help but think that said dude's "easy smile" is all about the rape shed that he's constructed "from scratch" in his backyard a la btk killer or something

that or the description sounds like the brawny paper towel guy, which is almost as disturbing and silly

they never ask me what's wrong if i don't speak for more than 5 minutes.
they generally know how to throw a ball/frisbee.

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that is to say that, i don't trust ppl who are that seemingly generous and never express any form of hostility overtly

once, my boyfriend was attacked by a homeless dude, with a screwdriver. he snatched his iPod and ran. so my boyfriend ran after him down fulton st., Brooklyn, screaming "THEIF! THEIF!" next thing you know, some man steps out of nowhere and goes "i can handle this," body-blocked the fucker, took him down and gave my boyfriend his iPod back.

They are less prone to getting instantly offended by innocuous comments.

if anything. most men are pitiable and the length they go to hide it gives you that poignant frisson that's the stuff of like, all of media so i don't need to go into it do i.

i once ate some undercooked poignant frisson and i subsequently vomited and suffered from bloody diarrhea for five days!

but seriously i dig what you're saying there

they generally know how to throw a ball/frisbee.

even if that's true, societal-enforced competence is far less charming than any other number of possible scenarios surrounding non-threatening object-throwing

stop projecting

i try, but it's difficult not to

even if that's true, societal-enforced competence is far less charming than any other number of possible scenarios surrounding non-threatening object-throwing

only true if you throw like a girl

xp: keep crossing the street, then.

how can a granny be a fourteen-year old male??

women are better because their brains aren't driven by testosterone; they don't always have to conquer everything they see.

where is this girls?

ha, yeah, i think that women do the same thing to a large extent, but in a more subtle manner?

Men are boring

i was hanging out at my mom's place a couple of weeks ago, and at one point, prompted by some folly of my brother's doing, she went on this whole rant about how "men don't know how to lie", and how women are so much more attuned to social nuance than are guys

i tend to think that's true

which feeds into admrl's declaration. it is sometimes difficult not to see men as being these straight-line robots...i could expand, but it will just end up turning into some ill-conceived analogy regarding the shape of different sexes' bodies, and so forth

I suck at lying for social niceties. Girls make more of an effort to make you feel comfortable. Girls are less likely to say 'yeah, I don't know, I'll see what I'm doing that day'

they ignore thread titles

I mos defs grew up with 'one of the boys' friendship setups, but plenty of chicks can 'bro down' too – have a silly, good fucking time doing whatevs. With bourbon, too, why not. And these days I'd much rather hang out with chicks than dudes. You can shop, talk about clothes, etc., without making anyone vomit while you're still getting your Maggie & Hopey on (w/out the sexual tension). It's somehow easier to have a spontaneous, silly plan and it goes through, like walking around town drunken and deciding to hide in someone's bushes and watch their barbecue. Deciding to put on Halloween costumes before cleaning the house as some kind of funny motivation. Designing a flag for something you think is awesome...all things only my galpals would do. They've got nothing to prove or to lose, so everything's open to be funny and exciting, even bad times. It's easier, more poignant sharing personal tragedy, and any time I've been in a bad fix with not having enough food, it's been one of my babes who comes over and cooks me something, no guilt or martyrdom about it. Just friends helping each other out. Once women grow up they are pretty fucking awesome.

Women tend to be a lot more polite, too, in the small but important ways like expressing gratitude, actually showing up to things when they said they would, etc...the ones I know, anyway.

yeah, i have always been slightly bewildered by women who are of the "i hate other women" school

my male friends are all ridiculously cool and softies like me and so forth, so i am very fortunate in that respect. i feel like i could say the most ridiculously insulting thing to them, and they would respond with concern for my well-being, rather than bloodying my nose...

Once women grow up they are pretty fucking awesome.

srsly this is true! i have so many awesome women in my life these days, i don't even know what i did to deserve it. but it took a while for this to happen. which obv had a lot to do with 'growing up' and probably with not cocooning in a relationship with a guy in the last couple of years. life is funny. i am glad.

at any rate, being a human being sucks.

speak for yourself

I love the wimmens so much. I have cool wimmens in my family, on lots of holidays I remember looking around and thinking I am so lucky to have old-fashioned resourceful-type women who make community happen in my fam.

and i mean, maybe i wld have made these good female friends and acquaintances even if i was in a relationship but i think that for me, being who i am, i needed to not be in a relationship in order to see the greatness of women

but yeah, maria :D, abbott, bell_labs, laurel all saying what i'm thinking

xposts to mself

throwing frisbees makes it worth living

Most of the ones I hang out with don't act like dell on this thread.

speak for yourself

no, you're right, it's totally great. for most everyone.

kerm, i hope you fucking die. and then, after you die, i hope you get AIDS.

j/k

I am concerned for you well-being.

j/k

men just dont like gossip

dell i love it when you post

i think mayyyybe the difference is that men gossip about people they know, while women don't restrict themselves to that.

The difference is men gossip with each other but women gossip with everyone.

gossiping is fun

There is no The Difference. People like to know shit about each other, for reals.

Laurel OTM.

I heard this thing about HI DERE that will blow your guys' minds!

I definitely notice a differnce at work. Girls gossip about everything, not just people, all the time. Guys gossip, but not to a much lesser degree. For reals.

I hate when people talk. I much prefer silent klaxons.

Sometimes I think people talk too much, yes. Doesn't matter whether they're men or women.

dudes are more likely to be useful for pickup basketball. for most other things, chix are better.

I am a fan of gossip and literally have never noticed a gender gap with regard to gossip except as it's propagated in jokes, sitcoms, etc.

ya mean like "gossip girl"?

and yeah most of the guys i know are huge gossips.

dudes are more likely to be useful for pickup basketball. for most other things, chix are better.

rong. play basketball with women at some point, you dumb-ass

i have. mookie is right.

i can't play with basketballs, it makes me look like an idiot.

i have. mookie is right.

you're like a crumbled-up piece of brown cellophane that is doubling ahuman feces that is appearing in some movie. except you're the star of the production! congratulations, you shit-fuck!

j/k

lol

I've never been a fan of the "women are this/men are that" conversations because there will always be exceptions to any general rule, even if we could prove it exists (which we can't). For example if you look around you will find studies that claim that women do indeed talk more than men and you will find studies that say they actually talk an equal amount. It may be fun to occupy our minds with this stuff, but at the end of the day no real conclusions can be reached, and inevitably, someone somewhere will be offended or unaccounted for.

The lols.

Guys never say, "Are you okay?"

I love that.

i love when they ask that.

yeah, why would you not want someone to ask you, however couched, about your personal welfare?

a generalization (or, generalizing in genearl) doesn't have to be totally discarded because it doesn't apply to every single member of a certain group. if you say you don't generalize for this reason you are either lying or very insufferable.

anyway, more guy love: they get their panties in a bind when you tease their lack of throwing prowess.

I feel like girls smother me. Guys let you be alone.

With guys it's easier, there's more room.

i agree w/your generalization generalization

i think.

i was just being an asshole

that's true but sometimes when you're in trouble, there's less room. they don't know how to do it.

but they give you that goofy grin that says "i'm trying, i know you're upset about it" which is fucking cute.

yeah, why would you not want someone to ask you, however couched, about your personal welfare?

I agree, but I've known people to get angry before at being asked this.

sometimes people evince concern for one's personal welfare when their actual overriding motivation is securing their personal territory

in what way would someone secure their personal territory by expressing compassion for someone else?

pray tell, darlin

Guys never say, "Are you okay?"

But as with gossip, we do basically ask each other that, only its sublimated under humor or beer or grunting or whatever.

I've yet to meet a guy who says 'No, I don't really like beer'.
Girls suck in that respect.

I thought I could come up with a better point, but really this seems to be what I'm most passionate about.

dudes are more likely to be useful for pickup basketball. for most other things, chix are better.

rong. play basketball with women at some point, you dumb-ass

-- dell, Thursday, July 24, 2008 3:47 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Link

uh, i have and do. i'm just saying that in my experience a random guy is more likely to be into playing basketball than a random woman. chill out, lee harvey

xp wtf are you doing here?

-dudes are better for talking about sports.
-dudes are totally better about keeping their damn mouths shut at work, jesus christ.
-dudes are better at not whining in general, or do it in a less irritating way to me

this thread is hilarious. there's really no need to make generalizations or trash the opposite sex in order to answer the question. when I read the topic, I was like "oh cool a positive thread".

one thing I love about my male friends is that I feel I can talk about anything with them. I can relate hilarious stories of an embarrassing and/or gross nature that I would never share with my gf for fear of her being totally turned off by me. I can vent anger about something a woman did without feeling like they will automatically play devil's advocate, even if I am being irrational. I do happen to have some really straight-up guy friends who will do this if I am clearly being a moron, though, which is cool too.

then there's the whole matter of similar interests. I know there are women out there with kick-ass tastes in music who are totally obsessed with extreme metal and other aggressive noisy music that don't have any decipherable lyrics, but I don't know any personally and it's easier to meet dudes who do share that taste. Ditto for sports, comic books, action movies, computer nerd shit, etc.

I'm sure most women feel the same about their friends and there isn't anything wrong with that.

in what way would someone secure their personal territory by expressing compassion for someone else?

sometimes people are like, "oh gee, i really care about you", but for the most part they are trying to grasp onto their conception of their relationship more tightly

e.g. controlling parents or some shit, like, say, my relationship w/myself

uh, i have and do. i'm just saying that in my experience a random guy is more likely to be into playing basketball than a random woman. chill out, lee harvey

fuck you, i fucking hate you

-dudes are better for talking about sports.
-dudes are totally better about keeping their damn mouths shut at work, jesus christ.
-dudes are better at not whining in general, or do it in a less irritating way to me

best of luck in life, t0dd swiss!

keep on smilin'

i hate you

just jokes, my fellow bruvs, just jokes

heart you guys, my fellow dudes!

let's watch american football on tv while jerking each other off sometime very soon!

-dudes are totally better about keeping their damn mouths shut at work, jesus christ.

lol, i know! i wish i could slap the shit out of that bitch in the cubicle next to me!

wow dell. that's something.

my relationship w/myself

go figure

sorry guys

i don't even hate myself; never mind investing energy in hating people who post stuff here

sorry.

yeah, good strategy. Invest where it pays the most return, man. Economics.

i'm just kidding. i totally hate myself.

They're funny and only emotional when they mean it.

-- Niles Caulder, Thursday, 24 July 2008 02:03 (2 days ago) Link

agreed

you're fishing for sympathy, dell. just sayin'

“Give a man a fish; you have fed him for today. Teach a man to fish; and you have fed him for a lifetime”

xp wtf are you doing here?

I just dropped by. I found you in this one.

someone should check their email and shut the fuck up.

jesus

wtf did o-ess ever do to you?

I don't know what the fuck o-ess is, you shit.

Fuck you.

no, fuck you.

this thread sure has taken a turn for the schizophrenic.

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"o-ess" and "i know, right" are ILX's favourite boybuddies from the emerald isle

you know how much i love you guys? enough to give you this advice. don't ever google "vas deferens"

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noodle how's the whole drinking self to death going

i mean wolves have signed chris iwelumo, you have so much to live for

Yeah, how can we get Noodle in here to say the word "Gothtards" once more. That was brilliant.

I think I'm ok now. Though I'm not so emerald these days.

then there's the whole matter of similar interests. I know there are women out there with kick-ass tastes in music who are totally obsessed with extreme metal and other aggressive noisy music that don't have any decipherable lyrics, but I don't know any personally and it's easier to meet dudes who do share that taste. Ditto for sports, comic books, action movies, computer nerd shit, etc.

I'm sure most women feel the same about their friends and there isn't anything wrong with that.

I think this kindof sums up my feelings about this thread real nicely. Cheers.

Sorry o-ess for any unintended hostility. A misunderstanding occurred upthread that I didn't unravel until later. No offense meant.

that's ok! I was mostly shocked, not offended.

I love how guys let things go more often then girls.

But then again, I don't have enough girl friends to judge this on and one of my guy friends never lets anything go. jerk. Friends that don't drink at all are always the most wound up.

that's ok! I was mostly shocked, not offended.

o-ess, that was my fault. i made a lame joke invoking yr screename that got lost in some drunken shuffle. sorry.

don't ever google "vas deferens"

-- dell, Saturday, July 26, 2008 10:36 AM (12 hours ago) Bookmark Link

also, apologies to mookieproof, t0dd swiss, Bimble Is Still More Goth Than You, dell, and anyone ended up reading my posts here.

i was bumming out on some shit which had nothing to do with any of you, and i'm sorry for being a complete asshole.

-dudes are totally better about keeping their damn mouths shut at work, jesus christ.

I sympathize to a point, or at least I know where this perception comes from -- I have worked in a couple of heavily female offices, and the "omg we all have to go out tonight and see the sex and the city movie" vibe can get overwhelming -- but when and if this is true, I don't think it's because those broads be havin' big mouths. Any office with an imbalance of males and females is going to make the minority feel unwelcome, and foster a kind of lowest-common-denominator sexual stereotype office culture. It's the same shit when there's too many dude. A frat house is every bit as bad as a hen house.

Thanx guys. Unfortunately, to quote Eddie Vedder, I'm still alive. But I feel your encouragement as I stagger over the line of shonky self-termination. Also I feel pukey and my kidneys hurt.

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They're funny and only emotional when they mean it.

-- Niles Caulder, Thursday, 24 July 2008 02:03 (3 days ago) Bookmark Link

covers it really well.

there's really no need to make generalizations or trash the opposite sex in order to answer the question

OTM, who reads this thread title and thinks "great! i can whine about the opposite sex"?

That they understand how the opposite sex treat us.

I USED to like to borrow clothes. Now I am sorta chubby and my friends are not so close. In the past, it was just a constant revolving closet. I loved that. I loved getting dressed with my girlfriends.

Can I take a moment and just say that Prince "If I Was Your Girlfriend" is probably one of the sexiest songs ever.

yeah getting dressed with my boyfriends isn't exactly the same.