Do you Like "People"?

over the weekend I told somebod y I don't like going to festivals and she was like "of course you don't - you don't like people - you're not social"
instead of being defensive about that I just thought - "agreed."

aw, this should be about the magazine

don't tell me how to live my life

sounds like you got flamed

I OWN!! I WON ALL!!

I actually really like people generally and am always surprised and kind of dismayed at how much other people (even people I really like) don't like each other.

are you the same poster who freaks out about getting drinks with coworkers?

xpost

I AM FREAKING OUT RIGHT NOW!!

oh i don't mean those people.

(haha, you got me. although, i will say i do like my coworkers, i'm just not crazy about the experience of after-work drinks).

I meant Latham Green. I'd get a drink with you after work, dog.

I do not like going for a drink with co workers after work - I am a beast

I am a bit shy, but on the whole a social person.

aw, this should be about the magazine

Hey, they aren't too bad, they release all of their back issues online in PDF format. I wish TV Guide would start doing the same with their older article sections.

are you the same poster who freaks out about getting drinks with coworkers?

― The Edge of Gloryhole (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn),

The above is an exaggeration, I would say.

I am not naturally very social at all, but do find myself lonely quite often. That is why it sucks the big one when I make efforts to keep in touch and do things and other person drops the ball. It is a heavy ball to me. I miss the days of having gregarious friends that would just show up at my house whenever.

you mean your Seinfeld days?

The surprise pop-ins, ah yes

aw, this should be about the magazine

Since people was in quotes I thought it was about the magazine!

I dont knwo what the quotes were all about - sorry

I used to read it a lot as a kid in the 80s, they would always have pictures of the story subject leaping in the air with happiness. They don't do this now -- I suppose the Kardashians have too much volume to achieve lift off.

they have a catapult for that

I feel like I read People regularly as a teenager. Maybe it was more central to pop culture then, or maybe I just had a lot of dental work during those years.

My mom had a subscription. I remember thinking it was mostly hilarious until my wife introduced me to Us Weekly ("They're Just Like Us!")

I think I do quite like people, well, more when they aren't just a person. Though sometimes I do like people I've never spoken to just coz I see them around, like this ex-boxer guy who lives locally, and the guy at the green grocers who wears a leather jacket all year round, and the little gnome man who walks his dog in the park. It's nice to make up histories about them - I clearly have too much time on my hands sometimes!

It's hard for me to be in large crowds at social gatherings, coz I either want to be larger than the crowd, or disappear completely. Neither of which is authentic.

Tim Allen is buying groceries! He's just like us! xp

The People was a newspaper in the UK, kinda like the News of the World. I think.

Tim Allen is drinking blended mole spleen! He is not like us!

Tim Allen was good in Galaxy Quest.

that reminds me, I need to get lunch

maybe I will buy an issue of People and read it while surrounded by people

get away from the people! dont touch the people!

People are delicious

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yB-3FnVbgjg

I like people but they're quite tiring to be around, what with how you have to put on a constant show of being interesting and smart and sexy, and then go home to agonise endlessly over why they didn't find you interesting or smart or sexy

in my head the UK "People" magazine always had front covers of posh ladies looking pensive while sitting on tastefully floral upholstery in conservatories with lush gardens behind, but I am probably just thinking of "The Lady" or "Ideal Home"

(especially as now it seems to be a gossip mag for the latest on footballers' wives)

what with how you have to put on a constant show of being interesting and smart and sexy

if you get past thinking you have to do this, life is 1000% less stressful and people aren't tiring

on the other hand, I can go into chatz or listening room and say nothing for hours, so my way is probably not the best either

I'm always astounded when I see a copy of the uk people newspaper on sale - thought it folded years ago, but I'm sure I spotted it recently

Do you guys Feel most comfortable alone, with one other person, with a small group 2-4 people or with a large group of people. Does it help if you do or don't know the majority of people in that group?

I feel more comfortable with more people
today at a meeting I saw someone I have chatted with allot on IM at work and I just could thikn of nothing to say - awkward

Alone. I like people, they're generally nice enough, I just don't like spending time with them. The first 2 hours of my shift before the customers arrive is the best bit of my working day, the next 3 hours before any other staff arrive is good also, and the last 2 hours when my colleagues arrive is manageable cos I know I'm going home in a couple of hours. If I'm going to see a band or to the cinema etc I'll pretty much always go by myself.

This type of thread comes up periodically and my answer remains more or less the same.

On the whole I like people. I recognize how impossible my life would be without their society. But people require so much compassion, forbearance and understanding for their many flaws that they wear me out. So, I need time away from people.

Speaking of which, in exactly one week I will be headed out to a place so far into nowhere that I don't expect to see another living soul for the five days I'll be camped there. Unless you count deer.

you camp alone?

do you "like" "People"?

^^ more impt question

When he camps alone, he prefers to be by himself. xxp

xp

Yes. Camping alone has never presented a problem for me. But I've been camping now for 50 years, so I know a bit about it.

Today at work officemate A (who I am on polite but friendly terms with in the office, as far as I know) announced that officemate B (who sometimes talks to me cheerily in the office but never replies if I say hi in the corridor or when he gets in, etc) had texted him to say he had a new job, and I realised I have no idea how people go from Talking In Office acquaintances to Actually Talking Outside Work friends

(shrug)

Anyway, I vote for alone. One person is sometimes OK, depending on the person. Lots of people and I won't say anything, but that might be OK (as long as I don't expect to be asked back, but I never do, and I never am) as there'll be enough people not to notice. Small-to-medium group is pretty awkward, as there's enough silence to feel like I ought to fill it but my mind goes completely blank until someone else steps in.

Xxxxxx posts - definitely not my Seinfeld days. Check the Seinfeld thread to see my 2001 Stan Marsh opinion on that.
Junior high days were good for easy friendships.

its harder when you have little people

And easier sort of. Like people will just talk to you anywhere, but it's always about your kids.

no tin Maine - no one talks to each other here - maybe a smile though. If someone actually greets you with a happy friendly way you think "what the hell?"
it is a taciturn land

I think I've settled into this weird numb social state from never being alone though?! Or at least the kids prevent you from being alone peacefully, but you still get lonely because they are only little half peeps that spend 90% of their day talking about snack preferences.

I only talk to min eabout things like the importance of monetary exchange discretion

But really, with baby you don't get strangers constantly asking how old and if she sleeps etc?

I have disbelief apparently. People here seem to live for asking

not here! people in Maine cannot see or hear you
invisibility.
You walk in front of someone looking at something in the store and say "excuse me" and they will just keep staring like they didnt even notice

I find a lot of people annoying but I like people generally speaking. It's like a fucked-up Venn diagram. Crowds make me hate people.

Crowds make me hate people.

This. In one-on-one situations, or in small groups, I find a vast majority of people to be pleasant to deal with. Throw me on a crowded train or on packed sidewalk and I pretty much hate everyone.

That said, I do find myself more easily annoyed by people as I age.

Like I constantly tell my wife, the world would be infinitely improved if people simply took the time to be aware of their surroundings. Sounds pretty basic, I know, but 99.9% of most daily annoyances are caused by some oblivious moron.

I feel like n one obeys my little "rules" of civility - its my own fault for having them

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tvHYeivcDxw

I just don't think its too much to ask for really simple things - like not stopping immediately at the top or bottom of an escalator to look at your phone when there are people behind you, not making sudden stops on a crowded sidewalk, etc etc. But sadly, even these seem too much for a lot of people.

unfortunately I think I cut someone off today on the road but i think it was partially cuz they were going so fast there was no other way to pull out

Philistines Jr = rad! Thank you for reminding me of them, jel.

spacecadet - They released a new album last year!! It's pretty good!

I did not know that! This needs to be looked into.

Last line of Imperial Bedrooms:

"I've never liked anyone and I'm afraid of people."

what does it all mean

Like I constantly tell my wife, the world would be infinitely improved if people simply took the time to be aware of their surroundings. Sounds pretty basic, I know, but 99.9% of most daily annoyances are caused by some oblivious moron.

haha, same. top hates: people walking slowly down the middle of the pavement, followed closely by people who are too ~deep in their own thoughts~ to pay attentiom to someone asking to get by. I had to (gently) shove a woman out of my way in order to retrieve my debit card from a coffee shop counter after asking like three times could I get by. like...how does that even happen? no, she wasn't deaf.

I do like people, despite being relatively antisocial/introverted. On a social level, I can't deal in the long term. Which can be chalked up almost entirely to me and my issues, I realize and readily admit. I'm overly-sensitive to a fault, and any degree of insecurity I pick up on from others (which you're naturally going to have anytime you're around people who aren't incredibly well-acquainted and utterly comfortable around one another) makes me really anxious and perpetuates a weird feedback loop. So aside from a select few who fit that 'well-acquainted and utterly comfortable' bill, I have to limit myself to short-term interaction with long stretches of solitary recharge time. Or drink enough to short circuit my anxiety a bit. Which never ever backfires at all ever.

In terms of the broader spectrum of strangers, yeah, they can be kinda irritating. People, as noted above, are becoming increasingly unaware of other people (thanks largely to vast technological leaps in our search for newer and better ways to wall ourselves off from our immediate environment). And I honestly think it's gonna get worse, to the point where schools might need to start having required classes in proxemics and personal space. Unless we just eventually ease into being a society of people who amiably and incessantly run into one another. Most of what irritates me about people falls under the blanket of selfishness/self-centeredness. Which affects everyone to some extent, obvs.

Although I'm not always successful at keeping it in the front of my mind, I think it's worth noting that encounters with actively irritating people are relatively rare compared to the far more vast number of completely innocuous or pleasant people you'll encounter in a day. At least I hope that holds true for most people here. Living in a large city as I do, I think it's a pretty important thing to reflect on, particularly when that minority of squeaky wheels is good enough at squeaking (loudly and often) to fool you into thinking that's all you're hearing.

Oh man Deric's last two sentences there should be like tattooed on the world for everyone to remember (myself included).

Has anyone experienced the reverse? As I've gotten older I want to mingle and meet other people to an extent that would have astounded me ten years ago. One can be an introvert and social, I've realized.

whether or not i like people depends a lot on my mood. if i'm feeling depressed, stressed and/or insecure, i get annoyed quickly, people mostly seem tiresome and stupid. otoh, if i'm on top of my game, it's easy to love the world and the people who call it home.

in the abstract, anyway. when i have the energy for it, i try to KIP, but underneath it all, i think i'm bored/annoyed by most people most of the time.

^ no matter what my mood, i mean. placed to properly calibrate your love of humanity: the DMV, bus and subway stations, public transit of any kind, in conversation w call center reps, bars circa 1:00 when you are not drunk, evangelical churches, sporting events, the sorts of downtown street corners on which people just hang out for hours/days on end.

^ "places"

it is hard to be on a crowded Boston train and not just hate the shit out of everyone and everything around you

I like my circle of friends, I like socializing and having a good time.

I just also think that people are collectively the Antichrist and that nuclear annihilation might be a good idea....some days.

Has anyone experienced the reverse? As I've gotten older I want to mingle and meet other people to an extent that would have astounded me ten years ago. One can be an introvert and social, I've realized.

― The Edge of Gloryhole (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, June 13, 2011 4:52 PM (27 minutes ago)

This is me, partially. I wouldn't call myself introverted at all, but I am as comfortable alone as with one friend, with three friends or in a group of 50. I do find myself wishing for more social contact the older I get.

i can't keep doing this on my own, with these ... people

co-signed what Alfred said. Like I'm very much an introvert and crowds make me physically uncomfortable, but I am usually socializing at least 5 days a week, way more than I did ten years ago.

I guess when you find your niche crowd, it doesn't matter how inwardly focused you are.

One can be an introvert and social, I've realized.

Yeah, I mean, I'm a textbook introvert, but I've also been doing improv in a limited capacity for a couple of years now. I don't have any problem performing in front of people (my theory being that it allows me the comfort of not being me for a bit), and I've met so very many lovely, lovely people who I get on with famously and love being around whenever I have the energy. But almost everyone I know in "the scene" is some degree of extravert. Which leaves me feeling distinctly out of my element a lot of the time, but which never quite extinguishes the urge to push past my discomfort and make the most of their company. Even though the tension of that dynamic is undeniably exhausting.

dp and the t rage

Part of my comfort comes from the last ten years of teaching. I like audiences! I like performing for them.

i'm guessing me doing theatre and singing in public kinda helped me get over the hermit lifestyle I was living circa 2000.

i like friendly contact with people but i have a really hard time being social nowadays :-/

i like interacting with cashiers, butchers, etc. waiters/waitresses less so. people are pretty nice, in gen.

i really like saying "thank you" and "have a good one" to cashiers.

i have trouble looking cashiers in the eye. not cuz i don't trust em, but I always feel like I look silly from their perspective and that they're judging me on my purchase.

yeah, seriously, my worst nightmare would be to have a cashier comment on everything i put on the conveyer belt.

but usually they seem alright. this one girl at the liquor store always comments on whatever snack i buy and it drives me crazy. buying junk food is pretty stressful for me.

yea some people think it's beign friendly but I think it's weird if someone goes "heh, three rolls of toilet paper, eating mexican tonight?"

i think on the trader joe's thread someone was talking about the cashiers being trained to drum up conversation. the guy the other day asked me "so what are you up to today?". don't mind being asked that, but seriously ONLY at trader joes would that happen.

I actually really like people generally and am always surprised and kind of dismayed at how much other people (even people I really like) don't like each other.

― Bus to Yoker (dog latin), Monday, June 13, 2011 12:22 PM (10 hours ago) Bookmark

^^feeling this...is this one of those universal human experiences?

nah you both happen to be just those kind of people that drive us bonker

J/K, I'm new here

this one girl at the liquor store always comments on whatever snack i buy and it drives me crazy.

lol, what kind of comments does she make?

not really, probly only when i need stuff from them.

i'm a shit really. don't know how i've survived thus far

cosigning alfred itt

If people only knew what I was thinking of them while they walk around

I like people most of the time. The ones I don't like are disappointing to me, mostly. Sometimes they are offensive, but I feel like a few hours with those people and we could find something -- something! -- to see eye to eye on, even if it's just the color of the paint on the walls.

^ :)
i like people!
there was a time i wasn't so into them.
i'm also a very social type of introvert, so liking people actually helps me live my life more fully, plus knowing that alone time is necessary and not 'anti-social' is key

I don't like being around them all the time -- being around people is exhausting. Still, I can find something to like in virtually anyone, with a limited list of extreme villains with proven trackrecords who are on a permanent blacklist.

sometimes people are ok

people need to be screened. it won't eliminate all of the turds, but it will eliminate a lot of them.

I feel like if I started a thread called "people who take more than one penny from the tray - irredeemable scoundrels, put them to death? C/D", it would get 1000 replies, so maybe some of you should reconsider

I hate when people see me

become a middle aged woman - you will be invisble to many

I am a middle aged woman

that took less time than i expected

actually people usually say I look younger that I am - by about 10 years

i saw a taxi parked across a pelican crossing at the train station yesterday. AGAIN. I thought "fuck people"

yes do not fuck the pelicansx

latham green is fed up of people!

sorry, charlton heston's been shouting that in my head all week

the guy the other day asked me "so what are you up to today?".

This will keep me out of Trader Joes forever, so thx for tip

He is the Heston that you love to hate to love - I wish I could have directed him before he died

pelicanbears?

the guy the other day asked me "so what are you up to today?".

This will keep me out of Trader Joes forever, so thx for tip

i was at an out-of-state trader joes (ok, jersey...) several months ago and the cashier checking me out asked where i was from and then followed up by basically asking what block i lived on, and it sort of freaked me out, maybe unnecessarily so, like maybe i was in an esp. uptight mood that day, b/c if someone asked me that today i feel like i would just be like, 'eh, blah-di-dah street and blah-di-dah avenue", but at the time it kind of actually freaked me out sort of. in retrospect i think it was the delivery of the question rather than the content per se. so fuck those forced pleasantries. my favorite place to shop at is SUPER FRESH, where the onus is entirely on me to make the other person in the transaction feel slightly ill-at-ease

good resp to "so what are you up to today?" is "avoiding bullshit"

wow haha

I don't mind friendly banter with strangers if I feel like there's genuine interest involved, but I find it EXTREMELY off-putting when it's some forced component of a larger transaction (much in the same way that I can't stand it when those people with clipboards approach me on the street...and if you don't know what I'm talking about, be thankful). If you aren't interested in making a genuine, human connection, then a pleasantly detached and polite demeanor works just fine for me, thanks.

"so what are you up to today?"

MY ERECTION OF THAT PANTS THING!!!

that quiets them down

exactly, the motive is everything. xp