C/D LENA DUNHAM (THE DEFINITIVE POLL)

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Poll Results

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classic 60
dud 33


lil dirk (J0rdan S.), Friday, 5 October 2012 19:06 (twelve years ago) link

whatever

space dokken (Edward III), Friday, 5 October 2012 19:08 (twelve years ago) link

dudham (jk classic)

flopson, Friday, 5 October 2012 19:10 (twelve years ago) link

whatever

― space dokken (Edward III), Friday, October 5, 2012 3:08 PM (6 minutes ago) Bookmark

turds (Hungry4Ass), Friday, 5 October 2012 19:15 (twelve years ago) link

I want you to know, the first time I fuck you, I might scare you a little, because I’m a man, and I know how to do things.

lag∞n, Friday, 5 October 2012 19:18 (twelve years ago) link

why

puff puff post (uh oh I'm having a fantasy), Friday, 5 October 2012 19:44 (twelve years ago) link

dud, sorry everyone

Mordy, Friday, 5 October 2012 19:46 (twelve years ago) link

so classic

unprotectable tweetz (schlump), Friday, 5 October 2012 19:48 (twelve years ago) link

Don't understand the hate myself.

Fig On A Plate Cart (Alex in SF), Friday, 5 October 2012 19:49 (twelve years ago) link

i'm not sure where i fall on this but was reading her thing about japan on 'this recording' and it's crazy to me that someone who wrote something that unspectacular & amateur is writing an HBO show/book (and that's aside from the all the questionable race stuff)

lil dirk (J0rdan S.), Friday, 5 October 2012 19:51 (twelve years ago) link

she is so close to what some white people want and yet so far

da croupier, Friday, 5 October 2012 19:58 (twelve years ago) link

ha, otm

lil dirk (J0rdan S.), Friday, 5 October 2012 19:59 (twelve years ago) link

if the internet was what it was today when i was a kid, i wonder if i would have found & compiled a list of valid reasons to hate jake from squirt tv

da croupier, Friday, 5 October 2012 20:00 (twelve years ago) link

i'll say classic - i really liked girls s1 an i love tiny furniture.

(whose paintings looked like (pink) vaginas) (The Brainwasher), Friday, 5 October 2012 20:02 (twelve years ago) link

how could you not fuckin hate that little prick from squirt tv

turds (Hungry4Ass), Friday, 5 October 2012 20:05 (twelve years ago) link

have you watched the show j0rdan?

flopson, Friday, 5 October 2012 20:09 (twelve years ago) link

i've seen a few episodes... i wasn't enthralled but i didn't have a visceral reaction against it or anything like that

lil dirk (J0rdan S.), Friday, 5 October 2012 20:10 (twelve years ago) link

Have not seen her show/film or whatever, but have seen a photo of her sitting on a park bench. Will vote dud because I did not care for said photo.

pandemic, Friday, 5 October 2012 20:12 (twelve years ago) link

she has a bit role in the innkeepers as a coffee shop clerk rambling about her romantic life and i really hope she keeps popping up in random movies giving monologues like tarantino in the '90s.

da croupier, Friday, 5 October 2012 20:14 (twelve years ago) link

looool, what's her take on the homoerotic overtones of Top Gun?

i go between classic and dud

HAPPY BDAY TOOTS (jon /via/ chi 2.0), Friday, 5 October 2012 20:17 (twelve years ago) link

i totally understand if people don't need lena dunham in their life but if we're going to call her the worst because she's an obnoxious actor/director who doesn't come off great when it comes to race, we do need to consider woody allen, quentin tarantino and a few other dudes in the same light

da croupier, Friday, 5 October 2012 20:17 (twelve years ago) link

classic easy

balls, Friday, 5 October 2012 20:18 (twelve years ago) link

croup i think you're missing something - those guys have dicks

balls, Friday, 5 October 2012 20:18 (twelve years ago) link

god just imagine the tweets QT would have given us in 1995

da croupier, Friday, 5 October 2012 20:19 (twelve years ago) link

yep, that's certainly the reason why ppl don't like her. bc she doesn't have a dick. we've cracked the code!

Mordy, Friday, 5 October 2012 20:20 (twelve years ago) link

"these jokes would be so much funnier if they had been written by someone w/ a penis."

Mordy, Friday, 5 October 2012 20:21 (twelve years ago) link

i do sorta think the "pft girls whitewash" thing - which is totally valid! - was way more pronounced & interrogative because of lena dunham being lena dunham, & that the writer from vice who pointed out that bored to death, w/its similarly white brooklyn, attracted none of the same scrutiny was otm. LD is head & shoulders above, & way more interesting than, anyone in her peer group imo. there is a real value to her kinda 'generational' representation that sets it apart from everything else of its kind - ie the attention on frustrating, solipsistic sex; the grounding in convincingly domestic scenes; hannah talking about the her pants having weird stains & the gulf between this & like ~the ideal~ of pants that exists narratively elsewhere. she is really original i think.

unprotectable tweetz (schlump), Friday, 5 October 2012 20:22 (twelve years ago) link

Nice troll thread by the sarge.

turds (Hungry4Ass), Friday, 5 October 2012 20:25 (twelve years ago) link

i've seen a few episodes... i wasn't enthralled but i didn't have a visceral reaction against it or anything like that

― lil dirk (J0rdan S.), Friday, October 5, 2012 4:10 PM (15 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

ya i just asked because the show is way less amateurish than her writing imo

flopson, Friday, 5 October 2012 20:27 (twelve years ago) link

i think "questionable race stuff" is more about holding the show to a high standard because it's good in many other ways that things that preceded it weren't, rather than anyone's actual reason to dismiss the show

flopson, Friday, 5 October 2012 20:29 (twelve years ago) link

yeah i mean that's what surprising to me because of what i've seen of the show it seemed totally in its league, so to speak, and that's despite whether or not i think it's good. but i feel like her writing is "college freshman gets his/her first student newspaper column" bad

xp

lil dirk (J0rdan S.), Friday, 5 October 2012 20:30 (twelve years ago) link

i agree that the show caught an unfair amount of shit for its racial makeup... i was referring specifically to that tokyo piece on this recording which has some low-level racism /xenophobia that would be banal if it wasn't so persistent

lil dirk (J0rdan S.), Friday, 5 October 2012 20:33 (twelve years ago) link

BTD was a very different show from girls

max, Friday, 5 October 2012 20:36 (twelve years ago) link

i think "questionable race stuff" is more about holding the show to a high standard because it's good in many other ways that things that preceded it weren't, rather than anyone's actual reason to dismiss the show

― flopson, Friday, October 5, 2012 5:29 PM (5 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

yeah otm. aside from the broader sense it's weird it almost seems like such a weird oversight, like even if the inclusion of people of colour on the show was not an organic, naturally written part of the process it's strange it didn't happen.

unprotectable tweetz (schlump), Friday, 5 October 2012 20:38 (twelve years ago) link

xxp yeah, haven't read that, not sure i want to

flopson, Friday, 5 October 2012 20:38 (twelve years ago) link

it wasn't staking so much on claiming to be zeitgeisty or relevant or anything. but it's locale & the guy's social web & environment was a really big part of it, that it was contemporary noir in brooklyn, it's still worthy of attention i think.

unprotectable tweetz (schlump), Friday, 5 October 2012 20:39 (twelve years ago) link

its locale. its.

unprotectable tweetz (schlump), Friday, 5 October 2012 20:39 (twelve years ago) link

i agree that the show caught an unfair amount of shit for its racial makeup... i was referring specifically to that tokyo piece on this recording which has some low-level racism /xenophobia that would be banal if it wasn't so persistent

― lil dirk (J0rdan S.), Friday, October 5, 2012 4:33 PM (6 minutes ago) Bookmark

yeah i just read it and i was like, damn, lookin pretty racist lena.

turds (Hungry4Ass), Friday, 5 October 2012 20:40 (twelve years ago) link

yeah i mean that's what surprising to me because of what i've seen of the show it seemed totally in its league, so to speak, and that's despite whether or not i think it's good. but i feel like her writing is "college freshman gets his/her first student newspaper column" bad

I have never seen Girls so I've based my opinion of her off of her writing, which is pretty awful.

controversial cabaret roommate (Nicole), Friday, 5 October 2012 20:44 (twelve years ago) link

ok this is really bad, haven't gotten to anything racist yet but i don't know how much more i can stomach

flopson, Friday, 5 October 2012 20:45 (twelve years ago) link

i've never seen 'girls' but 'tiny furniture' is really good.

(The Other) J.D. (J.D.), Friday, 5 October 2012 21:32 (twelve years ago) link

Still have had no exposure cept her bit role as a nurse in Mildred Pierce

cancer, kizz my hairy irish azz (Dr Morbius), Friday, 5 October 2012 21:50 (twelve years ago) link

ah thx for reminding me that I need to watch that!

stop swearing and start windmilling (Shakey Mo Collier), Friday, 5 October 2012 21:51 (twelve years ago) link

what the... she was in that?

turds (Hungry4Ass), Friday, 5 October 2012 21:53 (twelve years ago) link

maybe for a minute

cancer, kizz my hairy irish azz (Dr Morbius), Friday, 5 October 2012 21:54 (twelve years ago) link

yeah what? is that real/right?
i cant even imagine her looking 'period' for a sec but mayb thats hindsight after everything else

johnny crunch, Friday, 5 October 2012 21:56 (twelve years ago) link

well ill be damned its on her wiki

johnny crunch, Friday, 5 October 2012 21:56 (twelve years ago) link

never dreamed i'd see the mom from freaks & geeks naked

farte blanche (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Friday, 5 October 2012 21:57 (twelve years ago) link

did she come up on another thread or something

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:02 (twelve years ago) link

why is this thread here

www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:03 (twelve years ago) link

there was some emmys fashion thing i looked at that complained about lena dunham's dress v specifically in the terms of 'god she didn't even look that bad naked and she is really ugly naked!!', which is another THRILLING EXAMPLE of the GENERATIONAL (wtf does this word mean) problem of how you can have a really easy life, a charmed one, and also in some respects and impossibly difficult one. anyway, voted classic

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:05 (twelve years ago) link

never dreamed i'd see the mom from freaks & geeks naked

okay wait where was this

stop swearing and start windmilling (Shakey Mo Collier), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:07 (twelve years ago) link

also who is in that pic with Mo Tucker

stop swearing and start windmilling (Shakey Mo Collier), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:07 (twelve years ago) link

okay wait where was this

― stop swearing and start windmilling (Shakey Mo Collier), Friday, October 5, 2012 6:07 PM (32 seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

girls s1e06

www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:08 (twelve years ago) link

is Girls on DVD yet? feel like I should at least check it out to get what all the fuss is about but me no gots HBO

stop swearing and start windmilling (Shakey Mo Collier), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:09 (twelve years ago) link

ships 12/11 according to the HBO store

www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:10 (twelve years ago) link

she dreamt she showed up on the red carpet w/o pants only it wasnt a dream

lag∞n, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:11 (twelve years ago) link

I googled that for you; you're welcome xp

www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:11 (twelve years ago) link

otm yah she can make her life easier by wearing pants

johnny crunch, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:11 (twelve years ago) link

haha man i should be getting commission for the sales i'm making for hbo here

farte blanche (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:12 (twelve years ago) link

actually the no pants outfit was a couple weeks later and i think is generally considered a success

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:13 (twelve years ago) link

i watched the first few eps of girls and it was kinda funny but the problem is the characters are all really frivolous and boring and who gives a shit

lag∞n, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:14 (twelve years ago) link

you're probably too old

www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:14 (twelve years ago) link

I googled that for you; you're welcome xp

thx couldn't decide if I actually wanted to google "Freaks and Geeks Mom Naked"

stop swearing and start windmilling (Shakey Mo Collier), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:15 (twelve years ago) link

i'm continually amazed at just how Allison Williams can look a lot like her dad but also simultaneously be amazingly gorgeous

HAPPY BDAY TOOTS (jon /via/ chi 2.0), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:15 (twelve years ago) link

ha i didn't even know that dunham was the main actress on the show

farte blanche (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:16 (twelve years ago) link

man shakes, slow down tiger!

farte blanche (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:16 (twelve years ago) link

you're probably too old

― www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Friday, October 5, 2012 6:14 PM (2 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

you probably have bad taste haha faced

lag∞n, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:17 (twelve years ago) link

D:

www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:17 (twelve years ago) link

careful googling anything with freaks+naked as keywords.

Norah Jones Protest Vote (Eazy), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:18 (twelve years ago) link

exactly

stop swearing and start windmilling (Shakey Mo Collier), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:19 (twelve years ago) link

It's hard for me to imagine that what she does couldn't be done better by someone else, but thus far she seems to be the winner by default at ultra-realistically portraying her little millieux. I guess the ability to get out of the way of reality is a kind of talent. I don't love what she does but I don't hate it either. Wish there was a third voting button.

has important things to say about gangnam style (Hurting 2), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:20 (twelve years ago) link

i'm the "right" age for girls and i think that's why i hate it so much. it's such a nasty look at ppl my age. if i were older or whatever i might not care (lol millennials) but i guess i feel upset that ppl might actually believe she's the 'voice of a generation' and that everyone my age is a vapid, self-obsessed, ungrateful asshole.

Mordy, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:21 (twelve years ago) link

it was kinda funny but the problem is the characters are all really frivolous and boring and who gives a shit

yeah it's an hbo half-hour series

da croupier, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:22 (twelve years ago) link

everyone my age is a vapid, self-obsessed, ungrateful asshole

fixed

stop swearing and start windmilling (Shakey Mo Collier), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:23 (twelve years ago) link

most young people are self-obsessed, ungrateful assholes

i guess 'vapid' is a gray area

(The Other) J.D. (J.D.), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:26 (twelve years ago) link

'voice of my generation' stuff is like the first criticism that GIRLS self-defensively pre-emptively addresses, wake up sheeple

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:27 (twelve years ago) link

also, tho i got off-board around the idk 4th or 5th episode, i couldn't help but feel like the show was pretty reactionary and conservative in its critique. that might have changed or developed since that ep tho, i wouldn't know.

Mordy, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:28 (twelve years ago) link

i stopped watching around episode two because, i don't know, television

anyway i was just looking at some news stories about her that reminded me that the fact that she's a writer-director-producer who stars in her own show is totally unimpressive but the fact that she's willing to be naked on camera is really important, particularly when she's a bit large!!

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:28 (twelve years ago) link

i think just from an entertainment stand point if youre going to make characters vapid, self-obsessed, ungrateful assholes they should also be like grotesque or maybe just clumsy or whatever, there has to be some interesting or funny aspect, her character seemed a lil more dynamic but everyone else was like omg i am trapped at this party, maybe this is supposed to be hyper realistic but i dunno just the law of averages would dictate that they would run into someone more interesting occasionally

lag∞n, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:29 (twelve years ago) link

also, she reminded me a lot of ppl i went to grad school w/ in nyc. that wasn't a positive thing.

Mordy, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:29 (twelve years ago) link

i did enjoy the scene where she got fake high on tea and made her parents read her manuscript

lag∞n, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:30 (twelve years ago) link

yea there shd have been more of that

johnny crunch, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:30 (twelve years ago) link

in tone & stuff

johnny crunch, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:31 (twelve years ago) link

i think just from an entertainment stand point if youre going to make characters vapid, self-obsessed, ungrateful assholes they should also be like grotesque or maybe just clumsy or whatever, there has to be some interesting or funny aspect, her character seemed a lil more dynamic but everyone else was like omg i am trapped at this party, maybe this is supposed to be hyper realistic but i dunno just the law of averages would dictate that they would run into someone more interesting occasionally

this also reminds me that another tonal thing that bothered me was that they were so self-obsessed, ungrateful, etc, and then the show kept asking us to sympathize with them! it's one thing to be terrible ppl and then we laugh at how terrible they are, and another to be more serious characters with whom we're supposed to empathize, but i really resented being asked to empathize w/ these terrible ppl.

Mordy, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:31 (twelve years ago) link

it needs to be like 10% more its always sunny in philadelphia basically

lag∞n, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:32 (twelve years ago) link

and whenever i complained ppl* were like: no, this is what it's like to be this age. which brought me back to the voice of a generation complaint.

* ILX ppl

Mordy, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:32 (twelve years ago) link

i only watched the first two episodes, found elements of the first annoying, laughed at the second enough that i'm pretty skeptical of most critiques that go beyond "no thanks" to "this is exceptionally offensive."

da croupier, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:32 (twelve years ago) link

empathizing with terrible people is one of the great strengths of fiction.... when it's done well

stop swearing and start windmilling (Shakey Mo Collier), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:33 (twelve years ago) link

You know, there's 2 Broke Girls on another network, if comedy's more your thing.

Norah Jones Protest Vote (Eazy), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:34 (twelve years ago) link

girls for sure intended to be comedy. just terrible at it.

Mordy, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:34 (twelve years ago) link

its a dramedy is kinda the root of the problem isnt it

lag∞n, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:35 (twelve years ago) link

was entourage a dramedy

da croupier, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:35 (twelve years ago) link

tbh if it were true that it were designed in order to require the viewer to empathize with the characters in it without liking them it would actually be better than anything ever done on television

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:35 (twelve years ago) link

that scene where she was dancing to robyn bc all girls live adventurously after she found out she had HPV (sorry if i am not remembering all the details clearly) was just so inane that might've actually been the last ep i saw. my wife quit awhile before and refused to watch tiny furniture with me (which i kinda liked a little more), she thought it was too gross to bear.

Mordy, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:36 (twelve years ago) link

this conversation is now just 3-4 people who watched between 0-3 episodes right?

boxall, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:37 (twelve years ago) link

i think i saw 4 and the movie

Mordy, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:38 (twelve years ago) link

i also saw the one w/ the infamous "i will scare u in bed" whatever scene. that might've come later.

Mordy, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:38 (twelve years ago) link

doesn't basically everyone in america have HPV

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:38 (twelve years ago) link

and the one where they steal the lena's diary and turn it into a song and then sing it to her and her bestie and they have a big fight

Mordy, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:39 (twelve years ago) link

was entourage a dramedy

― da croupier, Friday, October 5, 2012 6:35 PM (54 seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

entourage was nothing, literally nothing, just a vast empty void stretching infinitely in all directions, w/not even any 18-34 y/o viewer watching

lag∞n, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:41 (twelve years ago) link

i think 2 broke girls is an awful show and yet i like the two protagonists about a million times better than any of the characters in girls

Mordy, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:41 (twelve years ago) link

season 2 poster should be the four girls lookin' real glamorous on a brooklyn street with a close-up of a male hipster torso in the center

da croupier, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:42 (twelve years ago) link

this conversation is now just 3-4 people who watched between 0-3 episodes right?

― boxall, Friday, October 5, 2012 6:37 PM (3 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

feel like 3-4 eps is enough, thats how many they give critics right, were all critics here criticizing this shit

lag∞n, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:42 (twelve years ago) link

Did you guys see the Michigan episode?

Norah Jones Protest Vote (Eazy), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:43 (twelve years ago) link

i don't think so. say this for max (the kat dennings char from 2bg): she would never tweet something as saccharine and lesson'y as 'all adventurous woman do.'

Mordy, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:44 (twelve years ago) link

that scene where she was dancing to robyn bc all girls live adventurously after she found out she had HPV (sorry if i am not remembering all the details clearly) was just so inane that might've actually been the last ep i saw. my wife quit awhile before and refused to watch tiny furniture with me (which i kinda liked a little more), she thought it was too gross to bear.

― Mordy, Friday, October 5, 2012 6:36 PM (6 minutes ago) Bookmark

yeah that might've been the show's lowest point. i didnt watch for a while after that too, but eventually i finished the season and it did turn out to be pretty good. i get your objections though

turds (Hungry4Ass), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:46 (twelve years ago) link

looking at quotes from 2 broke girls to see what she would tweet and damn she does not like hipsters

da croupier, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:46 (twelve years ago) link

We've had this same conversation already on the other thread but when a person tweets four words that they heard in second-hand conversation, do you suppose they mean it genuinely or is there likely to be some irony there?

boxall, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:49 (twelve years ago) link

i think in that scene it was intended entirely genuinely.

Mordy, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:49 (twelve years ago) link

contextually it was supposed to represent closure and coming to peace w/ the things that had befallen her. and then she expressed that sentiment thru ritually dancing along to a robyn song.

Mordy, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:49 (twelve years ago) link

ya it was not ironic

lag∞n, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:50 (twelve years ago) link

or post ironic

lag∞n, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:50 (twelve years ago) link

it was that thing that doesnt fit in the diff categories of ironic, whatever its called

lag∞n, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:51 (twelve years ago) link

it's not called "genuine"

boxall, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:52 (twelve years ago) link

It always amuses me when ppl critique the ridiculousness/banality of some of the lines/issues/characters on that show as if its something LD is unaware of and not deliberately commenting on

bell biv devo (Stevie D(eux)), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:52 (twelve years ago) link

can we talk about that ironic scene in tiny furniture when she has sex w/ the guy in the drainpipe? wtf was that about?

Mordy, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:52 (twelve years ago) link

whats the comment, that she hates her friends xp

lag∞n, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:54 (twelve years ago) link

i am now watching my third episode of 'girls'

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Friday, 5 October 2012 22:54 (twelve years ago) link

and i mean fine maybe so, still doesnt make for a great tv show to watch, or even good art if shes being more ambitious, its not even insightful! real life people are more interesting than her characters

lag∞n, Friday, 5 October 2012 22:56 (twelve years ago) link

That's OK because you only have to spend 30 minutes with her characters 8 times per year, I spent almost twice as much time with real people last year.

boxall, Friday, 5 October 2012 23:00 (twelve years ago) link

It was notable I think as the season went along how ppl's opinions in the GIRLS thread became generally more positive, iirc there was some collective eye rolling at how it collected 500 posts almost all negative before there'd even been 2 episodes.

boxall, Friday, 5 October 2012 23:01 (twelve years ago) link

fair, i did not take into account the standard real/fake time ratio adjustment

lag∞n, Friday, 5 October 2012 23:02 (twelve years ago) link

i'll admit that if it got better later on, i wouldn't know. my parents tell me that newsradio has gotten really good - another show i similarly checked out on early in the run bc of how bad it was. and sorkin afaik has a penis!

Mordy, Friday, 5 October 2012 23:02 (twelve years ago) link

iirc i was halfheartly defending it on the other thread but now i guess i dont like it

lag∞n, Friday, 5 October 2012 23:03 (twelve years ago) link

there's already a GIRLS thread for talking about GIRLS specifically and not just talking about idk Lena Dunham's zeitgeistyness though there was lots of weirdness at the start of that thread too (before the show premiered)

www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Friday, 5 October 2012 23:03 (twelve years ago) link

shes done two things that both have threads right

lag∞n, Friday, 5 October 2012 23:04 (twelve years ago) link

twelve minutes in, this show is really good, what the hell is wrong with people

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Friday, 5 October 2012 23:05 (twelve years ago) link

^^^

www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Friday, 5 October 2012 23:06 (twelve years ago) link

anyway she seems kinda ok, only super noteworthy thing abt her is she is v young m/l, im unclear why everyone wants to talk abt her so much, tho i completely get why ilx wants to talk abt her so much

lag∞n, Friday, 5 October 2012 23:07 (twelve years ago) link

I am cautiously a fan based only on the show, haven't seen the movie, and I don't know why this poll exists, did something happen this month other than J0rdan read a year-old possibly racist travel piece nobody even bothered to link to?

boxall, Friday, 5 October 2012 23:09 (twelve years ago) link

the movie is p clearly better than the show

lag∞n, Friday, 5 October 2012 23:10 (twelve years ago) link

more importantly, did he find that possibly racist travel piece bc we were chatting about thisrecording on the grantland thread?

Mordy, Friday, 5 October 2012 23:10 (twelve years ago) link

I am cautiously a fan based only on the show, haven't seen the movie, and I don't know why this poll exists, did something happen this month other than J0rdan read a year-old possibly racist travel piece nobody even bothered to link to?

― boxall, Friday, October 5, 2012 7:09 PM (1 minute ago) Bookmark

nope. classic jordan.

turds (Hungry4Ass), Friday, 5 October 2012 23:10 (twelve years ago) link

I'm not sure if her Japan piece is racist, it was too boring for me to finish (her "I can't imagine having sex with a native" line is pretty o_0 tho)

stop swearing and start windmilling (Shakey Mo Collier), Friday, 5 October 2012 23:11 (twelve years ago) link

ilx home of high level cultural criticism

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Friday, 5 October 2012 23:12 (twelve years ago) link

best place for cultural criticism on the internet - maybe anywhere?

Mordy, Friday, 5 October 2012 23:14 (twelve years ago) link

tweeting-then-dancing scene pretty funny, pretty affecting

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Friday, 5 October 2012 23:29 (twelve years ago) link

pretty funny, pretty affecting show

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Friday, 5 October 2012 23:29 (twelve years ago) link

also the lady in the show has a belly, which is brave.

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Friday, 5 October 2012 23:30 (twelve years ago) link

are you being ironic, i cant tell

turds (Hungry4Ass), Friday, 5 October 2012 23:42 (twelve years ago) link

well there is a $4 million+ bidding war for her book going on right now, so it def makes sense for j0rdan to start this poll now

(whose paintings looked like (pink) vaginas) (The Brainwasher), Saturday, 6 October 2012 00:03 (twelve years ago) link

"something is happening, and you don't know what it is..."

Norah Jones Protest Vote (Eazy), Saturday, 6 October 2012 03:23 (twelve years ago) link

I am cautiously a fan based only on the show, haven't seen the movie, and I don't know why this poll exists, did something happen this month other than J0rdan read a year-old possibly racist travel piece nobody even bothered to link to?

― boxall, Friday, October 5, 2012 7:09 PM (4 hours ago) Bookmark

well there is a $4 million+ bidding war for her book going on right now, so it def makes sense for j0rdan to start this poll now

― (whose paintings looked like (pink) vaginas) (The Brainwasher), Friday, October 5, 2012 8:03 PM (3 hours ago) Bookmark

lil dirk (J0rdan S.), Saturday, 6 October 2012 03:28 (twelve years ago) link

damn cant believe i only bid $3 million+

lag∞n, Saturday, 6 October 2012 03:33 (twelve years ago) link

ilx fund drive

lil dirk (J0rdan S.), Saturday, 6 October 2012 03:35 (twelve years ago) link

books r so expensive these days

lag∞n, Saturday, 6 October 2012 03:35 (twelve years ago) link

the 3.6mil thing seems to come from a deadline.com story that doesn't name any sources? that is obviously a pretty ridiculous number if it is accurate, but it honestly just seems like too many digits

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Saturday, 6 October 2012 10:04 (twelve years ago) link

Hollywood Reporter does reporting and says the same thing, puts it in the context of Bossypants getting bought for $5 million.

http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/live-feed/girls-creator-lena-dunham-gets-376861

Norah Jones Protest Vote (Eazy), Saturday, 6 October 2012 14:35 (twelve years ago) link

Life fail if you know enough about this person to have an opinion.

Mary Ty$ Band (Whiney G. Weingarten), Saturday, 6 October 2012 14:47 (twelve years ago) link

Because there's no substance, artful context, quality, age, masculinity...

Norah Jones Protest Vote (Eazy), Saturday, 6 October 2012 14:51 (twelve years ago) link

I just wanted to see if I could troll harder than Jordan. 5 minutes to butthurt eazy is a new record

Mary Ty$ Band (Whiney G. Weingarten), Saturday, 6 October 2012 14:53 (twelve years ago) link

I mean, truth be told, I don't watch enough TV to justify paying for HBO, so

Mary Ty$ Band (Whiney G. Weingarten), Saturday, 6 October 2012 15:08 (twelve years ago) link

whiney trolls so hard it's like oh my GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAWWWWWWWWWWW

da croupier, Saturday, 6 October 2012 15:08 (twelve years ago) link

it's painful how out of the loop whiney is w/ contemporary culture

iatee, Saturday, 6 October 2012 15:16 (twelve years ago) link

It's hard for me to imagine that what she does couldn't be done better by someone else, but thus far she seems to be the winner by default at ultra-realistically portraying her little millieux. I guess the ability to get out of the way of reality is a kind of talent. I don't love what she does but I don't hate it either. Wish there was a third voting button.

― has important things to say about gangnam style (Hurting 2), Friday, October 5, 2012 6:20 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

this is otm. to a certain extent she won the lottery, i don't think there's much of anything to distinguish her as a unique talent, comedically or artistically or whatever.

some dude, Saturday, 6 October 2012 15:22 (twelve years ago) link

whiney, i think there's a lot of trolling yet to be done regarding lena dunham, and i think you may even be up to doing it. but if you want to troll w/ the big boys + girls you have to stop trying to troll ppl w/ these college-level 'lol you know about X,' 'lol you don't know about X' zings. i believe in u!!!

Mordy, Saturday, 6 October 2012 15:32 (twelve years ago) link

Yeah, I'm the king of butthurt on ILX.

Norah Jones Protest Vote (Eazy), Saturday, 6 October 2012 15:36 (twelve years ago) link

whineys too confrontational to be a really good troll

lag∞n, Saturday, 6 October 2012 16:24 (twelve years ago) link

can't still be standing at the door when it opens saying "yes, i'm the person who brought the flaming bag of dogshit that's here on your doorstep right now, you got a problem with that?"

Guayaquil (eephus!), Saturday, 6 October 2012 20:03 (twelve years ago) link

Lol

rap game klaus nomi (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Saturday, 6 October 2012 20:28 (twelve years ago) link

It's hard for me to imagine that what she does couldn't be done better by someone else, but thus far she seems to be the winner by default at ultra-realistically portraying her little millieux. I guess the ability to get out of the way of reality is a kind of talent.

― has important things to say about gangnam style (Hurting 2), Friday, October 5, 2012 6:20 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

this is otm

― some dude, Saturday, October 6, 2012 11:22 AM (6 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

sorry but that... is really not otm post. imo she does not ultra-realistically portray her milieu, even if she did i think it takes a partic crude brand of, like, nerd misanthrope to dismiss that as, like, something 1 could just do, like "tolstoy was just the first person to ultra-realistically portray 19th c russian bourgeoisie all he had to do was get out of the way of reality"

flopson, Saturday, 6 October 2012 21:56 (twelve years ago) link

if the world could write by itself, it'd write like lena dunham

a hauntingly unemployed american (difficult listening hour), Saturday, 6 October 2012 22:13 (twelve years ago) link

flopson otm

max, Saturday, 6 October 2012 22:28 (twelve years ago) link

dunham > tolstoy

lag∞n, Saturday, 6 October 2012 22:34 (twelve years ago) link

thank god my generation finally has its tolstoy

Mordy, Saturday, 6 October 2012 22:38 (twelve years ago) link

*phew*

We demand justice: who murdered Chanel? (Matt P), Saturday, 6 October 2012 22:40 (twelve years ago) link

yeah because that was the point of that comparison

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Saturday, 6 October 2012 23:03 (twelve years ago) link

it's just funny that you went to tolstoy. happy hipsters are all alike.

Mordy, Saturday, 6 October 2012 23:06 (twelve years ago) link

her writing just seems like some rando's tumblr afaict but I feel like I have to support anyone on team millennial and her book deal is basically a $4m aid package for the brooklyn artisan economy...this will employ thousands of people really

iatee, Saturday, 6 October 2012 23:08 (twelve years ago) link

i mean whether GIRLS is 'realistic' is kind of moot, there's a whole long-winded ~what is realism~ thing i could go into here but i don't really want to. but each episode of the three i can be bothered to watch, because i hate the experience of watching tv, demonstrates a really fucking remarkable grasp of how to set up and structure a thirty-minute script -- she has really high-level screenwriting chops, plus she's a pretty gifted comic actress

her writing on the internet is not very good but then nor is anyone's

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Saturday, 6 October 2012 23:10 (twelve years ago) link

mordy cant tell flopson and thomp apart, flopson cant tell dunhan and tolstoy apart, all melenials look the same to iatee, the falcon cannot hear the falconer

lag∞n, Saturday, 6 October 2012 23:13 (twelve years ago) link

flopson + thompson

Mordy, Saturday, 6 October 2012 23:18 (twelve years ago) link

detective chars in tintin iirc?

Mordy, Saturday, 6 October 2012 23:18 (twelve years ago) link

Dunham is this generation's Maude Apatow

Legendary General Cypher Raige (Gukbe), Saturday, 6 October 2012 23:19 (twelve years ago) link

maybe this generation's douglas coupland

Mordy, Saturday, 6 October 2012 23:20 (twelve years ago) link

i guess i was just (mis?)reading hurting's post less as saying that realism is her stock in trade (Girls has a good amount of heightened reality in its more comedic moments imo) than that her appeal is a certain fidelity to a generational/cultural aesthetic or zeitgeist that, really, a lot of people are trying to capture right now but i dunno if it's such a big accomplishment to be the first to get there on the scale she has. like, being the first TV show to have an "agonizing over the word choice of a tweet" scene, that's more of a stupid flag-planting than a creative achievement.

some dude, Saturday, 6 October 2012 23:26 (twelve years ago) link

i think that's otm. w/out getting into realism or whatever, i haven't seen anything from her that i think stands apart from the milieu + community she is writing about. we don't read tolstoy in 2012 bc he really captured what it's like to be 19th c russian bourg, but he wrote beautifully about being a human that happened to be situated in his own historical context. i don't feel the same way about dunham's work. i don't begrudge anyone who does feel that way, but i wonder if any of this material will resonate in 20-40 years the way it happens to do now in this hyper-zeitgesty way.

Mordy, Saturday, 6 October 2012 23:30 (twelve years ago) link

feel like the zeitgeisty stuff is just window dressing, does she having anything particularly to say abt how people really live in the 2012

lag∞n, Saturday, 6 October 2012 23:32 (twelve years ago) link

no, we read tolstoy in 2012 because we like long descriptions of farming or because we're teenage girls who wear too much eyeliner

so here are the things 'all adventurous women do' does to set up and contextualise the climactic moment in which hannah horvath tweets something she heard one friend report that another friend say:

- 'yeah, go tweet that'
- 'sorry i passed you an std but i enjoy your quirky web presence'
- shoshana's line "jessa has hpv ... like a couple strains of it. she says that all adventurous women do"
- the dialogue with the gay ex -- he claims it's horvath's adventurousness that has given him the courage to realise he is gay; horvath's reply that yeah she's adventurous, and as an example of how adventurous she is she's gotten into a sexual relationship she's really uncomfortable with
- the climactic tweet

it seems tbh pretty clear that the show's perspective is 'it's pretty sad that the best and clearest route to solace this person has is fucking tweeting something her flakiest friend said'

and like it's totally fine to say 'yes but it's still a show which made a climactic moment of someone tweeting something and i can't descend to watching a show that does that', it's just that that's not really saying anything about the way the show constructs that moment or how it succeeds as art or at least as television: it's saying something about the kinds of person you don't like and can't bear to spend time with even in a fictional context. which is fair enough! but anyone i hear it from on ilx i'm pretty comfortable with putting it down to narcissism of small differences

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Saturday, 6 October 2012 23:33 (twelve years ago) link

and i don't think the dancing afterwards signifies that the show is endorsing horvath. there's a dance sequence at the end of inland empire iirc but i don't think that movie is endorsing being stabbed by a homeless person

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Saturday, 6 October 2012 23:33 (twelve years ago) link

thats where youre wrong

lag∞n, Saturday, 6 October 2012 23:34 (twelve years ago) link

it's pretty sad that the best and clearest route to solace this person has is fucking tweeting something her flakiest friend said

this is kinda my take on the entire dunham phenomenon. there's a paucity of feeling + idk going on in her work. it all reads to me like someone tweeting something their falkiest friend said.

Mordy, Saturday, 6 October 2012 23:41 (twelve years ago) link

sad girl dancing to lcd soundsystem in the city

lag∞n, Saturday, 6 October 2012 23:46 (twelve years ago) link

sad girl editing tweets

lag∞n, Saturday, 6 October 2012 23:46 (twelve years ago) link

u guys i was quoting the nerd misanthrope strawman i had created in the previous sentence itp not my own opinion of tolstoy

also forgot 2 say this: lol @ the idea that there is any shortage of people "portraying her little millieux" (of brooklyn) u read ilx you KNOW how much stuff of this ilk already exists dont front

p.s. everyone's posts itt are terrible & not just the usual suspects

flopson, Sunday, 7 October 2012 00:35 (twelve years ago) link

no way my posts itt r transcendent

lag∞n, Sunday, 7 October 2012 00:45 (twelve years ago) link

it's saying something about the kinds of person you don't like and can't bear to spend time with even in a fictional context. which is fair enough! but anyone i hear it from on ilx i'm pretty comfortable with putting it down to narcissism of small differences

― set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Saturday, October 6, 2012 7:33 PM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

it's not like i'm like "grrr people who tweet!", i have a twitter. but sure, this show has been under attack for so many stupid reasons that i can't blame you for assuming that's where i'm coming from.

some dude, Sunday, 7 October 2012 00:56 (twelve years ago) link

p.s. everyone's posts itt are terrible & not just the usual suspects

fu i am going to post in depth readings of every episode now

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Sunday, 7 October 2012 00:59 (twelve years ago) link

so here are the things 'all adventurous women do' does to set up and contextualise the climactic moment in which hannah horvath tweets something she heard one friend report that another friend say

the climactic moment of that episode is where her roommate frantically masturbates to the thought of one of the lonely island guys fyi

some dude, Sunday, 7 October 2012 01:04 (twelve years ago) link

yeah i am less interested in writing a lengthy defense of that

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Sunday, 7 October 2012 01:10 (twelve years ago) link

it seems tbh pretty clear that the show's perspective is 'it's pretty sad that the best and clearest route to solace this person has is fucking tweeting something her flakiest friend said'

that would be otm except for the sad part, the scene plays triumphantly, she dances her damn buns off to a damn robyn song.

turds (Hungry4Ass), Sunday, 7 October 2012 01:31 (twelve years ago) link

people don't/can't dance immediately after having a 'crisis' or being in a bad mood or having sad thoughts? Sometimes people associate a song with dancing and hear it and want to dance, as somebody who really doesn't dance ever I can't believe I'm having to explain this to another human.

boxall, Sunday, 7 October 2012 01:34 (twelve years ago) link

you know it's not a documentary, right?

turds (Hungry4Ass), Sunday, 7 October 2012 01:37 (twelve years ago) link

I think I was coming into the show with the notion that she was some young person who didn't deserve to have a show and at best it was a zeitgeisty flash in the pan thing, but it turned out to be really funny so fair play to her.

Legendary General Cypher Raige (Gukbe), Sunday, 7 October 2012 01:40 (twelve years ago) link

do u honestly think the takeaway from that scene is meant to be 'hanna is so awesome for tweeting this'?

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Sunday, 7 October 2012 01:43 (twelve years ago) link

classic, but I couldn't remember who she was when I clicked on this thread

akm, Sunday, 7 October 2012 01:46 (twelve years ago) link

its not the tweet im focused on, its the dancing

turds (Hungry4Ass), Sunday, 7 October 2012 01:48 (twelve years ago) link

do u honestly think the takeaway from that scene is meant to be 'hanna is so awesome for tweeting this'?

― set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Saturday, October 6, 2012 9:43 PM (4 minutes ago) Bookmark

do u honestly think the takeaway is meant to be 'shes so sad/pathetic'?

turds (Hungry4Ass), Sunday, 7 October 2012 01:50 (twelve years ago) link

no i think it is ~multi-leveled~ and ~complex~

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Sunday, 7 October 2012 01:53 (twelve years ago) link

ok... good!!!

turds (Hungry4Ass), Sunday, 7 October 2012 01:54 (twelve years ago) link

yeah!!!

turds (Hungry4Ass), Sunday, 7 October 2012 01:54 (twelve years ago) link

or at least, you know, in the middle: this isn't much but we can be more or less okay with it. -- if it weren't for the dancing to robyn breaking the tension it'd be unbearably miserable. (dancing to 'dancing on my own' is annoyingly on-the-nose but so is the whole enterprise of deciding an episode of your half hour hbo show is going to build to someone writing a tweet so whatever.) anyway i mainly gave it a pass because i really enjoyed the logic of the 'i should have known, he only ejaculated like thirty percent of the time ... and acted really gay' line

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Sunday, 7 October 2012 01:56 (twelve years ago) link

haha this show is sooo bad and that description of it is why

Mordy, Sunday, 7 October 2012 02:03 (twelve years ago) link

so you don't like this show, is what you're saying

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Sunday, 7 October 2012 02:10 (twelve years ago) link

ending of episode seven (the warehouse party one ..) is similarly ... equivocal? hanna's slow motion grin in the back of the cab while marnie and adam smolder on either side.

similarly far too on the nose, it turns out, is the opening of episode eight

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Sunday, 7 October 2012 02:12 (twelve years ago) link

I want you to know, the first time I EXCELSIOR you, I might scare you a little, because I’m a man, and I know how to do LOLs.

― lag∞n, Friday, October 5, 2012 2:18 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

een, Sunday, 7 October 2012 02:14 (twelve years ago) link

in which hanna and adam are bonding over watching SUPER 8 FOOTAGE of him as a kid and we cut to marnie being SAD whilst going through FACEBOOK PICTURES of her ex and his new girlfriend

xpost

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Sunday, 7 October 2012 02:16 (twelve years ago) link

i would've probably loved that ep if it ended on the tweet! maybe she just goes and gets a sandwich afterwards. i dont think there was any tension that needed to be broken or that it would've been unbearable. dancing to 'dancing on my own' is what you stuff in there when you don't trust what you just wrote, imo

i think it's a really good show, just so that's clear

turds (Hungry4Ass), Sunday, 7 October 2012 02:17 (twelve years ago) link

oh i think you're right, i'd probably like it more if ended tweet, sandwich. but i am engaged in mounting a defense here and all that

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Sunday, 7 October 2012 02:24 (twelve years ago) link

Lena Dunham l am about it. Dislike the ILX folk who might happen to click dud.

Sandy Denny Real Estate (jaymc), Sunday, 7 October 2012 04:27 (twelve years ago) link

Chekhov wasn't Tolstoy either, nor is Ann Beattie.

Norah Jones Protest Vote (Eazy), Sunday, 7 October 2012 05:25 (twelve years ago) link

And none of them are the towering young man that David Foster Wallace was, thank God.

Norah Jones Protest Vote (Eazy), Sunday, 7 October 2012 05:26 (twelve years ago) link

Dudes ppl do get drunk and listen to Robyn it is like a thing that 20somethings do

Sandy Denny Real Estate (jaymc), Sunday, 7 October 2012 05:40 (twelve years ago) link

[/lagoon]

Sandy Denny Real Estate (jaymc), Sunday, 7 October 2012 05:40 (twelve years ago) link

that's pretty much the way in which she ultra-realistically portrays her little millieux

some dude, Sunday, 7 October 2012 09:53 (twelve years ago) link

i am right now getting v angry about and trying v hard not to get involved in a twitter argument about girls (not yet actually an argument, more a string of people saying how racist lena dunham is), i guess i am in some way invested in lena dunham. CLASSIC.

gonna spend a few hours thinking of the perfect pithy tweet now.

Perfect Chicken Forever (Merdeyeux), Sunday, 7 October 2012 13:59 (twelve years ago) link

Lindsey Weber ‏@lindseyweber
The 1st person to ask Lena Dunham a Q @ #nyerfest is a NYU student who wanted to tell Lena about her new boyfriend. She relates to Shoshana.

lag∞n, Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:23 (twelve years ago) link

^this person is clearly the highest level new yorker

lag∞n, Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:24 (twelve years ago) link

shes got it all: nyu, sex in the city, the new yorker, the new yorker fest, girls

lag∞n, Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:25 (twelve years ago) link

tbf Shoshana is the best

www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:26 (twelve years ago) link

the actress (son of mamet) is funny but the character is like half note

lag∞n, Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:27 (twelve years ago) link

she's a good actress. i liked her a lot in mad men.

lil dirk (J0rdan S.), Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:28 (twelve years ago) link

I'm voting "uh, who?".

Aimless, Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:29 (twelve years ago) link

she hasn't gotten enough screen time imo, there's flashes of the character's delightfulness in Crackcident and the finale xps

www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:29 (twelve years ago) link

do they actually smoke crack should i download this ep

lag∞n, Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:32 (twelve years ago) link

live tweeting the dunham nyer fest q&a right now !!! https://twitter.com/AnnaHolmes

lag∞n, Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:33 (twelve years ago) link

Anna Holmes ‏@AnnaHolmes
"I think we made it too big." Dunham on the fake penis that Adam Driver used during masturbation scene in episode 5.

lag∞n, Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:33 (twelve years ago) link

Anna Holmes ‏@AnnaHolmes
"The criticisms that disappointed me were the whole privilege and nepotism thing."

UH OH

lag∞n, Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:34 (twelve years ago) link

Anna Holmes ‏@AnnaHolmes
Dunham is addressing critiques of diversity. "What I was trying to do was very specific."

specifically wite right ladies

lag∞n, Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:35 (twelve years ago) link

Anna Holmes ‏@AnnaHolmes
On meeting @louisck at the Emmys: He said, "What you are doing is important."

comedians man

lag∞n, Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:35 (twelve years ago) link

Anna Holmes ‏@AnnaHolmes
First audience question is not a question but giggly NYU student talking about herself. Embarrassing.

lag∞n, Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:36 (twelve years ago) link

Anna Holmes ‏@AnnaHolmes
Some of these audience questions are coming from people who remind me of certain internet commenters.

Anna Holmes ‏@AnnaHolmes
I think she was serious!

Anna Holmes ‏@AnnaHolmes
Question from 20-something female: "What are you setting out to do with the show if not to portray my life?"

lag∞n, Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:37 (twelve years ago) link

Anna Holmes ‏@AnnaHolmes
"The criticisms that disappointed me were the whole privilege and nepotism thing."

UH OH

― lag∞n, Sunday, October 7, 2012 2:34 PM (2 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

the nepotism shit that was flying around abt. the parents of the lead actresses was pretty sexist and gross

www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:38 (twelve years ago) link

bad company was pretty sexist and gross tho

buzza, Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:39 (twelve years ago) link

sure but on the other hand why is ever actor on the show a child of someone noteworthy, its weird!

lag∞n, Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:40 (twelve years ago) link

and i mean lol plz

Anna Holmes ‏@AnnaHolmes
"I have plenty of counter-arguments to that but it's not elegant to say them."

lag∞n, Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:41 (twelve years ago) link

Mobutu Sese Seko ‏@Mobute
DUNHAM: "People accuse me of benefiting from nepotism and privilege, and I have a lot of mega-owns to disprove that, but I can't say them."

lag∞n, Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:41 (twelve years ago) link

I don't think that's really Mobutu Sese Seko's twitter

www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:42 (twelve years ago) link

i will not engage w/yr argument ill just say im v disappointed in you <-- this is not at all a typically privileged behavior

lag∞n, Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:43 (twelve years ago) link

Anna Holmes ‏@AnnaHolmes
"I've been in therapy since I was 7 so I figured I'd cornered the market on self-criticism." --Dunham on processing critiques of @GirlsHBO.

i have already dealt w/this through the proper channels

lag∞n, Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:44 (twelve years ago) link

i got over privileged young new yorkers being overrated and talented when the strokes happened

da croupier, Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:53 (twelve years ago) link

c0reY aNN cLaRk ‏@coreyannclark
Lena Dunham is trying to be so edgy too fast someone tell her to stop this always happens to nice girls when they get a haircut

lag∞n, Sunday, 7 October 2012 18:57 (twelve years ago) link

tell us more tweets

boxall, Sunday, 7 October 2012 21:37 (twelve years ago) link

i am right now getting v angry about and trying v hard not to get involved in a twitter argument about girls (not yet actually an argument, more a string of people saying how racist lena dunham is)

how is she...not?

i mean i haven't seen girls and have no comment on it but the amount of questionable shit she's come out with outside of it is...more than most

lex pretend, Sunday, 7 October 2012 21:52 (twelve years ago) link

In the latter category, Dunham revealed what Louis C.K. said when he hugged her at the Emmys: “What you’re doing is really important.”

Mordy, Monday, 8 October 2012 00:11 (twelve years ago) link

...comedy

lag∞n, Monday, 8 October 2012 00:14 (twelve years ago) link

we may have seen overlapping conversations earlier, lex, and a great deal of it was based on fake quotes what was pretty clearly a piece of satire.

Perfect Chicken Forever (Merdeyeux), Monday, 8 October 2012 00:17 (twelve years ago) link

+from

Perfect Chicken Forever (Merdeyeux), Monday, 8 October 2012 00:17 (twelve years ago) link

Said it before on the Girls thread, but it's a good sign for society that a show playing off of Jewish/Gentile differences gets labeled as all-white.

Norah Jones Protest Vote (Eazy), Monday, 8 October 2012 00:51 (twelve years ago) link

(aka homogenous)

Norah Jones Protest Vote (Eazy), Monday, 8 October 2012 00:51 (twelve years ago) link

jews r white

lag∞n, Monday, 8 October 2012 00:51 (twelve years ago) link

bah I still haven't gotten ahold of that to read it, curse my lack of a college library

www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Monday, 8 October 2012 01:15 (twelve years ago) link

it says we needed more whites, youre next latinos, welcome to the sweetest ass club in the world

lag∞n, Monday, 8 October 2012 01:16 (twelve years ago) link

we need more panblasians

www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Monday, 8 October 2012 01:18 (twelve years ago) link

it says we needed more whites

what won't white ppl do to keep up the side?

Aimless, Monday, 8 October 2012 04:55 (twelve years ago) link

sweatiest ass club in the world

...comedy

― lag∞n, Sunday, 7 October 2012 21:14 (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

i love you lagoon but don't keep pummeling this how dare they speak of it in hallowed tones angle itt; it is too cynical to scoff at anyone thinking that comedy could possibly be important/art/significant/&c. i totally think LD's stuff is important. think about how profoundly & permeatingly Friends defined stuff & controlled the lens for relationships & shit for a whole bunch of people; having something remotely thoughtful on tv is a real big thing.

unprotectable tweetz (schlump), Monday, 8 October 2012 04:57 (twelve years ago) link

we may have seen overlapping conversations earlier, lex, and a great deal of it was based on fake quotes what was pretty clearly a piece of satire.

no, i know about the fake piece, and nothing i think is based on that

unless you mean the japan piece was satirical in which case um

yesterday was Learning About Lena Dunham Day for me and what I'm really left thinking is, WOW #WHITEPPL what are u like. sooooo many white people declaring what racism is and isn't and how talking about race is just SILLY. sooooo many

lex pretend, Monday, 8 October 2012 06:17 (twelve years ago) link

and - i'm not commenting on the show, because i haven't seen it, though i don't think it's inherently problematic if an individual writer doesn't include ~token minorities~ - the stuff lena dunham has come out with aside from that is a...pattern. there are more questionable public examples than most people manage ever.

lex pretend, Monday, 8 October 2012 06:18 (twelve years ago) link

tbh no one would care about the racial makeup of the show if it weren't originally presented as a feminist thing, by the media and also sort of by lena. if it were called, say, "friends," (or "bored to death") it wouldn't be the same. but (for ex.) calling yr show "girls" is a sort of statement in itself, like, hey this show is about young women and womanhood. presenting it like that and then apparently forgetting that not all female brooklynites are white is just like... going out of your way. and she seems so willing to criticize everything about her character, who is some sort of extension of herself, but she's not willing to interrogate this in any substantial way, instead just saying "i dunno how to write non-wite characters, what, why"

i'm not saying that this show is any more deserving of this particular scorn than all the other all-white ones, just pointing out why

i've also read ppl pointing out that her bit part non-white characters are usually stereotypical or exclusively 'the help' chars, and from the few eps i've watched i can see that

zachylon (zachlyon), Monday, 8 October 2012 07:48 (twelve years ago) link

*just pointing out why it gets the scorn, i mean

zachylon (zachlyon), Monday, 8 October 2012 07:50 (twelve years ago) link

anyway dud, haven't seen the movie but the show literally does nothing for me, esp make me laugh

zachylon (zachlyon), Monday, 8 October 2012 07:50 (twelve years ago) link

oh fuck it's late why did i just post that i was supposed to stay out of this

zachylon (zachlyon), Monday, 8 October 2012 08:13 (twelve years ago) link

oh white british journalists just nooooooooooo

http://eve-barlow.tumblr.com/post/33109972052/wtf-is-woc-weapons-of-colour

such fucking ignorance on display there i can't even

(and i HATE the term "POC" but omg @ a white person mocking it like that)

lex pretend, Monday, 8 October 2012 09:23 (twelve years ago) link

who the hell is this person and why are you on their tumblr!!

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Monday, 8 October 2012 10:56 (twelve years ago) link

[Note: I’m NOT being racist against Chinese people, I’m just exaggerating shit to illustrate some nonsense that’s been going on regarding criticism of Lena Dunham’s show Girls and its apparent “racist” agenda with it’s lack of casting ‘Women Of Colour’. Don’t get all weird on me now.]

"In case you can't tell, i'm being SARCASTIC"

Number None, Monday, 8 October 2012 11:22 (twelve years ago) link

unless you mean the japan piece was satirical in which case um

o no, it seems with that she went in there with a faux naive blank slate and the results of that were unsurprisingly ~questionable~ in a way I don't have much interest in defending. But we seem to have an echo chamber effect where people have decided that she's racist on a bad reading of Girls (which is not just SHE'S WHITE WHAT OF IT like that terrible defence you posted, but is much more aware of the narcissistically self-enclosed milieu it's representing than any of the criticisms are willing to accept), and everything she does gets caught up in that. Hence the couple of hours yesterday where these very intelligent people were quoting from the ridiculous satirical article and expressing their outrage. It's not a matter of viewing her in a way that exempts her from critique, just judging her for what's actually there, which so little of the discourse around her does.

Perfect Chicken Forever (Merdeyeux), Monday, 8 October 2012 12:15 (twelve years ago) link

OTM. There's a witch-hunt mentality now.

Get wolves (DL), Monday, 8 October 2012 12:37 (twelve years ago) link

that's because there are things to hunt that are really massive and obvious and it boggles my mind how her white apologists love playing the victim

lex pretend, Monday, 8 October 2012 13:14 (twelve years ago) link

that eve barlow blog, i mean, jesus christ it's fucking gross. i hadn't heard of eve barlow before last night but she seems to be a generally respected journalist and that post didn't get any sort of backlash til i tweeted it. no fucking idea how. what a div.

lex pretend, Monday, 8 October 2012 13:15 (twelve years ago) link

We don’t need to constantly pat ourselves on the back for living in a multicultural world, we can get on with enjoying it, enjoying being humans together. Because at the end of the day, that’s what we all are - humans.

#keepcalmandcarryon

ughhhhhh i am still fuming about this piece of shit article. what an absolute moron.

lex pretend, Monday, 8 October 2012 13:18 (twelve years ago) link

i liked how the all the @ replies to that tweet were white people saying "spot on!"

in a shocking development, also in agreement was that one woman who tweeted a while back that she wanted a miniature le1f to dance for her on her desk all day

lil dirk (J0rdan S.), Monday, 8 October 2012 13:18 (twelve years ago) link

like, i am at the TORY BLOODY CONFERENCE right now and nothing i have come into contact with here has been as straight-up offensive as eve barlow

lex pretend, Monday, 8 October 2012 13:20 (twelve years ago) link

the most hilarious thing about that post is that she starts off with an extended riff of the same tone of that infamous lesley arfin tweet which is just like, wow, once again, if you're a white person and you can't enter a conversation about race w/o assuming a sneering aggravation you should probably sit down and think about things a little harder

lil dirk (J0rdan S.), Monday, 8 October 2012 13:23 (twelve years ago) link

But we seem to have an echo chamber effect where people have decided that she's racist on a bad reading of Girls (which is not just SHE'S WHITE WHAT OF IT like that terrible defence you posted, but is much more aware of the narcissistically self-enclosed milieu it's representing than any of the criticisms are willing to accept), and everything she does gets caught up in that.

to be fair the charges of racism are based more on stuff like her and her writers' responses to criticisms of girls than they are based on readings of girls itself.

but you bring up something that kind of bugs me, viz the way girls defenders (and i am one, generally) handwave away the problematics of race and class &c. with "well its self aware." because, like, yeah, but... so?

max, Monday, 8 October 2012 13:36 (twelve years ago) link

self-awareness as pre-emptive defence for knowingly doing or saying a shitty thing is s0 old

lex pretend, Monday, 8 October 2012 13:42 (twelve years ago) link

i think the self-awareness thing is sometimes germane in conversations about Girls since the characters in the show, especially Dunham's, are often unsympathetic and unlikable or a vessel for satire, but people talk about the show like it's this unapologetic celebration of self. doesn't hold up as much w/r/t what we're talking about, i'm just saying.

some dude, Monday, 8 October 2012 13:46 (twelve years ago) link

it's funny to see this stuff flare up again now, though, i was hoping nobody would feel like talking about this show again until the second season started or at least when it comes out on dvd

some dude, Monday, 8 October 2012 13:48 (twelve years ago) link

incidentally "well its self aware" is also the defense for aesthetic critiques as well

Mordy, Monday, 8 October 2012 13:48 (twelve years ago) link

xp, some dude seems to be saying something similar

Mordy, Monday, 8 October 2012 13:49 (twelve years ago) link

i think its mostly a pretty well-written and quite beautifully shot show. that being said tiny furniture imo was much better a movie than girls is a TV show

max, Monday, 8 October 2012 13:49 (twelve years ago) link

also in the context of the kyriarchy i cant possible answer this question definitively

max, Monday, 8 October 2012 13:50 (twelve years ago) link

i love you lagoon but don't keep pummeling this how dare they speak of it in hallowed tones angle itt; it is too cynical to scoff at anyone thinking that comedy could possibly be important/art/significant/&c. i totally think LD's stuff is important. think about how profoundly & permeatingly Friends defined stuff & controlled the lens for relationships & shit for a whole bunch of people; having something remotely thoughtful on tv is a real big thing.

― unprotectable tweetz (schlump), Monday, October 8, 2012 12:57 AM (8 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

i love you too but imho generally comedy can be important but it shouldnt take itself seriously, and it shouldnt take other things seriously either, and more specifically i find this thing where were suposed to think these shows abt sad sack comedians are saying something super deep abt life highly dubious, im mean congrats and all louie ck your show is v good and you are a depressed self involved guy, but its not really super insightful re the human condition, and girls is way less so

lag∞n, Monday, 8 October 2012 13:51 (twelve years ago) link

the show grew on me by the middle of the season, but some of that goodwill eroded by the end

also now before every HBO show when they do their little network promo with a quick montage of shots from different HBO series, THIS is the scene they use to represent Girls:

http://cdn.stereogum.com/files/2012/06/lena-beyonce.jpg

some dude, Monday, 8 October 2012 13:53 (twelve years ago) link

and - i'm not commenting on the show, because i haven't seen it, though i don't think it's inherently problematic if an individual writer doesn't include ~token minorities~ - the stuff lena dunham has come out with aside from that is a...pattern. there are more questionable public examples than most people manage ever.

― lex pretend, Monday, October 8, 2012 2:18 AM (7 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

ya its an industry wide thing for sure, the reason dunham is getting such shit is because she chose to place her show in the milieu most writers inhabit

lag∞n, Monday, 8 October 2012 13:54 (twelve years ago) link

'self-aware' is the new 'I was being *ironic*'...Dunham is weird to watch because I'm 20 years out of uni with trusta/intelligentsia spawn types just like her and you'd think some of the representation issues would have moved the fuck on. OTOH the fact that on TV, they haven't, should tell us a lot about the negative changes in social mobility WRT creative/artistic types over the past 20 years.

Eve Barlow is the new deputy editor of NME. That tumblr rant was the howl of a spoilt child IMO.

I've always given [name of writer redacted] benefit of the doubt for the gaps in her education and props for 'overcoming' impoverished origins but there comes a time in every feminist-identifying woman's life when women ten years younger than you show up to say feminism's moved on from the point at which you discovered it. The important thing, when on the end of these observations, is not to be the current incarnation of that dismissive person who dismissed *your* concerns when *you* were trying to widen mainstream feminism's net. This is the big fail here.

ella fingerblast hurls forever (suzy), Monday, 8 October 2012 14:06 (twelve years ago) link

most of the hate comes from people who are basically saying "hey i resemble your bullshit"

da croupier, Monday, 8 October 2012 14:09 (twelve years ago) link

i think it's only after that crime people care about the fact that someone is the daughter of bad company's drummer

da croupier, Monday, 8 October 2012 14:10 (twelve years ago) link

The Girls thread suggests otherwise, with 500 posts before the first episode aired.

the reason dunham is getting such shit is because she chose to place her show in the milieu most writers inhabit

Also she is a young female producer/writer/director who named her show girls = still painting an enormous bullseye on yourself.

Andrew Farrell, Monday, 8 October 2012 14:13 (twelve years ago) link

well yeah, that bullseye was in part people realizing she was living their social media savvy dream

da croupier, Monday, 8 October 2012 14:15 (twelve years ago) link

Some people very outspokenly love the show and Dunham, so people who dislike it (or are otherwise indifferent about it) are going to feel compelled to explain why. Out of all the times I've complained about the awfulness of Animal Collective no one has ever accused me of jealously, or prejudice.

Mordy, Monday, 8 October 2012 14:16 (twelve years ago) link

that's too bad

da croupier, Monday, 8 October 2012 14:17 (twelve years ago) link

mordy would you deny either that the narcissism of small differences is in play in a lot of the girls-hate, or that america has tendency to get more outraged when a woman does something offensive that men have done for years

da croupier, Monday, 8 October 2012 14:19 (twelve years ago) link

you don't have to make this a "harumph well i sir am not misogynist nor am i a hipster in a creative field my lord" thing if you don't want to

da croupier, Monday, 8 October 2012 14:20 (twelve years ago) link

most of the hate comes from people who are basically saying "hey i resemble your bullshit"

― da croupier, Monday, October 8, 2012 10:09 AM (11 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

so does most of the love tbf

some dude, Monday, 8 October 2012 14:22 (twelve years ago) link

I should listen to more Bad Company

rap game klaus nomi (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Monday, 8 October 2012 14:22 (twelve years ago) link

I think we examine privilege and heredity a lot more *right now* because social mobility has lessened so obviously and sharply. 'What's your name?/Who's your daddy?' only becomes an issue when resources and opportunities become less available to equally able people from different backgrounds.

ella fingerblast hurls forever (suzy), Monday, 8 October 2012 14:23 (twelve years ago) link

hmmm

da croupier, Monday, 8 October 2012 14:24 (twelve years ago) link

mordy would you deny either that the narcissism of small differences is in play in a lot of the girls-hate, or that america has tendency to get more outraged when a woman does something offensive that men have done for years

I think that Dunham's work means a lot to some people and those people understandably want to defend the object d'art that they love against criticism. Some of that criticism (like the Gawker recaps) certainly seems sexist and misanthropic. Much of it does not. Speculating as to the psychological motives of people critiquing a work of art seems like a dead end generally though, not quite productive discursively.

Mordy, Monday, 8 October 2012 14:25 (twelve years ago) link

yes when people are being sexist and misanthropic it's important to rise above and not suggest the reasons they might be fixated on this particular show

da croupier, Monday, 8 October 2012 14:29 (twelve years ago) link

this has got to be the largest tumblr book deal in history right?

iatee, Monday, 8 October 2012 15:16 (twelve years ago) link

More The New Yorker than Tumblr that sealed it, I think.

pretty even gender split (Eazy), Monday, 8 October 2012 15:29 (twelve years ago) link

Yeah her NYer thing about real-life Elijah was good. Also she was profiled in Talk of the Town a couple years ago in connection with Tiny Furniture.

www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Monday, 8 October 2012 17:05 (twelve years ago) link

http://i.imgur.com/rdTNQ.png

barthes simpson, Monday, 8 October 2012 18:59 (twelve years ago) link

any excuse to shame white people for being white

puff puff post (uh oh I'm having a fantasy), Monday, 8 October 2012 19:02 (twelve years ago) link

please refer to all whites as dunhams

puff puff post (uh oh I'm having a fantasy), Monday, 8 October 2012 19:02 (twelve years ago) link

i almost got to the end to that piece and had to stop. i dunno how she can be embarrassed about her mom referencing Lost In Translation constantly while in Tokyo but not be embarrassed about mentioning it 50 times when writing about the trip herself.

some dude, Monday, 8 October 2012 19:04 (twelve years ago) link

please refer to all whites as dunhams

― puff puff post (uh oh I'm having a fantasy), Monday, October 8, 2012 3:02 PM (2 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

this is so unfair, and on our special day too *dances to robyn*

lag∞n, Monday, 8 October 2012 19:06 (twelve years ago) link

I got that Bobby by the pound
Lena Dunham by the key
New Yorker think piece
the game belong to me

rap game klaus nomi (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Monday, 8 October 2012 19:07 (twelve years ago) link

lol

some dude, Monday, 8 October 2012 19:08 (twelve years ago) link

how would you guys compare the reception of lena dunham vs the creator of that zooey show?

Philip Nunez, Monday, 8 October 2012 19:09 (twelve years ago) link

in terms of drowning?

rap game klaus nomi (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Monday, 8 October 2012 19:10 (twelve years ago) link

Lena Dunham vs. Amanda Palmer

pretty even gender split (Eazy), Monday, 8 October 2012 19:12 (twelve years ago) link

well, Dunham wouldn't be getting nearly as much attention if she wasn't also the star of her show. New Girl occasioned a LOT of chatter about Zooey Deschanel and what we think of her and what her success means etc etc but not so much for Elizabeth Meriwether, who's mainly just the woman who created the Zooey show. (xpost)

some dude, Monday, 8 October 2012 19:14 (twelve years ago) link

do you think zooey was a kind of hate magnet that allowed merriwether to escape that kind of scrutiny?

Philip Nunez, Monday, 8 October 2012 19:18 (twelve years ago) link

well, people had problems with Zooey more than the show itself, which actually won over a fair number of Zooey skeptics (including me)

some dude, Monday, 8 October 2012 19:19 (twelve years ago) link

Only New Girl episode I saw had Zooey's black friend getting an earring and Zooey calling him "Black Jack Sparrow" and "Black George Michael."

pretty even gender split (Eazy), Monday, 8 October 2012 19:27 (twelve years ago) link

would it make sense to say that being represented by people who project a certain amount of oblivious privilege like zooey and dunham is what is offending people? like maybe a mormon kid's reaction to seeing romney in the news?

Philip Nunez, Monday, 8 October 2012 19:32 (twelve years ago) link

PROGRESS

Cece comes to the bar dressed in a beenie and big sweater: Jess: Why's she dressed like a womens studies major?

Jess: Hey guys, you remember Paul Schmidt: Mercedes Gens!! Winston: Genzel Washington! Schmidt: It's the gens of the world as we know it Winston: All right everybody put down your gens and your gencils Paul: Hey Schmidt...uh hey Washington

Schmidt: You backslid all the way down the hill and back into the parking lot. Take off your skis and wait for your family in the lodge Jessica Day.

On Winstons new earring: Jess: Take it easy black George Michael Schmidt: You look like you were standing in line to a Shaquille O'Neal birthday party

pretty even gender split (Eazy), Monday, 8 October 2012 19:33 (twelve years ago) link

and "Black DJP" (xpost0

some dude, Monday, 8 October 2012 19:33 (twelve years ago) link

i mean, at least new girl has a black character about whom the other characters can make infrequent awkward race jokes

max, Monday, 8 October 2012 20:11 (twelve years ago) link

what race (nonwhite) best represents new york

puff puff post (uh oh I'm having a fantasy), Monday, 8 October 2012 20:18 (twelve years ago) link

jew

iatee, Monday, 8 October 2012 20:18 (twelve years ago) link

wait a sec

www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Monday, 8 October 2012 20:33 (twelve years ago) link

Not just awkward race jokes, but of course since he's the black guy he'll be the one to riff "Genzel Washington!"

pretty even gender split (Eazy), Monday, 8 October 2012 21:22 (twelve years ago) link

well we're too late, she managed to procure fuck-you money before being shot down by ilx:

http://mediadecoder.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/10/08/lena-dunham-sings-book-deal-for-more-than-3-5-million/?hp

has important things to say about gangnam style (Hurting 2), Monday, 8 October 2012 21:32 (twelve years ago) link

$3.5 mil for one million viewers. Good luck Random House!

has important things to say about gangnam style (Hurting 2), Monday, 8 October 2012 21:34 (twelve years ago) link

linked upthread

www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Monday, 8 October 2012 21:34 (twelve years ago) link

low level TV star fame is pretty much equivalent to high level publishing world fame

some dude, Monday, 8 October 2012 21:36 (twelve years ago) link

theres no way thats actually the real number tho, just press release bullish

lag∞n, Monday, 8 October 2012 21:36 (twelve years ago) link

Bidding war...

pretty even gender split (Eazy), Monday, 8 October 2012 21:37 (twelve years ago) link

she was paid in twitter followers

iatee, Monday, 8 October 2012 21:38 (twelve years ago) link

who project a certain amount of oblivious privilege like zooey and dunham

Oh come the fuck on, whatever you might say about Lena Dunham, she is not oblivious to her privilege.

Andrew Farrell, Monday, 8 October 2012 22:03 (twelve years ago) link

i don't think zooey is living in a dream world either, and mitt romney probably doesn't actually want to kill pbs but that's what they project.

Philip Nunez, Monday, 8 October 2012 22:09 (twelve years ago) link

i think he means LD doesn't project obliviousness about privilege in her art -- like the Girls pilot features her character being a spoiled brat who tells her parents she should be live on "only" $1100 a month. and you'd have to be kind of dumb to associate LD with the obliviousness of the character she played rather than the writer who made up the scene, which is knowingly played for laughs.

some dude, Monday, 8 October 2012 23:37 (twelve years ago) link

why do you think she is begrudged her success then, if not for similar reasons that people begrudge it for zooey and romney?

Philip Nunez, Monday, 8 October 2012 23:59 (twelve years ago) link

because she's a young woman

www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 00:02 (twelve years ago) link

accelerated aging is a dear price to pay for manic pixie dust...

Philip Nunez, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 00:06 (twelve years ago) link

"the burden is on YOU, sir, to explain how exactly criticism of a TV actress differs from criticism of a presidential candidate"

some dude, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 00:20 (twelve years ago) link

Made the Amanda Palmer comparison before her book deal was finalized, but now I'm sure there will be stern lectures about how exactly she should and should not spend her new money.

pretty even gender split (Eazy), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 00:46 (twelve years ago) link

she's going to invite fans to guest tweet while she's on her book tour

www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 00:56 (twelve years ago) link

when romney marries neil gaiman the circle will be complete

Philip Nunez, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 01:02 (twelve years ago) link

Oh come the fuck on, whatever you might say about Lena Dunham, she is not oblivious to her privilege.

― Andrew Farrell, Monday, October 8, 2012 6:03 PM (5 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

ehhh. she recognizes her privilege in a pretty superficial way i think. this is what i meant before -- she doesnt get a free pass just because she recognizes she comes from a rich family and is self-involved. i think sometimes girls is pretty rigorous in its self critique and sometimes its a very perfunctory thing, a kind of "this is horrible behavior but i recognize that its horrible so who cares." which might as well be obliviousness

max, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 03:41 (twelve years ago) link

"oblivious" seems like kind of an absolute word to me, i dunno if you can be just pretty oblivious or practically oblivious

some dude, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 03:43 (twelve years ago) link

it is possible to be aware of certain privileges and oblivious to others

zachylon (zachlyon), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 03:44 (twelve years ago) link

and sometimes its a very perfunctory thing, a kind of "this is horrible behavior but i recognize that its horrible so who cares." which might as well be obliviousness

that's the part that's REALISM!

j., Tuesday, 9 October 2012 05:28 (twelve years ago) link

i've said it once and i'll say it again: Lena Dunham is a genuinely rad individual, a person I used to share dinners and secret conversations and all sorts of other shit with. We still trade text messages with joeks in them.

That said, the process of writing a television show, much less one that is funny, has very little to do with being a good long-form essayist or memoirist. I mean, that piece in the New Yorker horrified me, not only because I knew everyone involved, but also because it just wasn't all that interesting even after stripping away that very personal knowledge.

The show, and Tiny Furniture, though, are great, and I am truly happy to count her as a friend. A very funny one, at that.

for reasons of sass (the table is the table), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 06:00 (twelve years ago) link

xp How publicly aware of her privilege does she need to be? I see the phrase "unacknowledged privilege" a lot now and the people who use it set the bar for acknowledgement pretty damn high. Mumford and Sons - they're oblivious to privilege. Dunham seems far from oblivious.

Get wolves (DL), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 09:54 (twelve years ago) link

she needs to score at least a 7 on Stullman-Führbulgerr scale

zachylon (zachlyon), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 10:06 (twelve years ago) link

actually i think the this-piece-available-to-subscribers abstract of the new yorker thing may be the damningest thing:

ABSTRACT: PERSONAL HISTORY about the writer’s college boyfriend. On August 17, 2010, the writer received an e-mail from her ex-boyfriend’s mother. Its subject heading was “Goodbye from Nancy and Bill,” and the message informed her that her ex-boyfriend’s parents were blocking her on Facebook. The writer was dumbfounded. She promptly unlinked her Twitter and Facebook accounts. The main result of Nancy’s Facebook rejection was to send the writer down memory lane in a pretty disconcerting way. The writer had met Noah, her ex-boyfriend, in her junior year at Oberlin. He had recently returned from six months in India and wore hemp cargo pants.

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 11:34 (twelve years ago) link

we really are overdue for a 'the strange bathos of new yorker article abstracts' thread

some dude, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 12:07 (twelve years ago) link

lmbo table

max, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 12:09 (twelve years ago) link

He had recently returned from six months in India and wore hemp cargo pants.

applause

gesange der yuengling (crüt), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 12:10 (twelve years ago) link

xp How publicly aware of her privilege does she need to be? I see the phrase "unacknowledged privilege" a lot now and the people who use it set the bar for acknowledgement pretty damn high. Mumford and Sons - they're oblivious to privilege. Dunham seems far from oblivious.

― Get wolves (DL), Tuesday, October 9, 2012 5:54 AM (2 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

i think when youre writing semi-autobiographical narrative fiction you need to be pretty aware of yr privilege -- & when yr being bandied about as the voice of a generation or an Important Young Feminist Voice or whatever, that need is increased.

max, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 12:12 (twelve years ago) link

maybe 'not that kind of girl' will display the voice of a smarter, older, wiser lena dunham

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 12:18 (twelve years ago) link

...

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 12:18 (twelve years ago) link

i think he means LD doesn't project obliviousness about privilege in her art -- like the Girls pilot features her character being a spoiled brat who tells her parents she should be live on "only" $1100 a month. and you'd have to be kind of dumb to associate LD with the obliviousness of the character she played rather than the writer who made up the scene, which is knowingly played for laughs.

― some dude, Monday, 8 October 2012 23:37 (Yesterday) Permalink

I guess I haven't seen the show enough. When I watched Tiny Furniture, I honestly just could not tell whether I was actually expected to feel for a returning college student who found it "hard" to briefly not know what to do with herself while living in her parents' awesome NYC loft and working a boring but undemanding day job for a couple of weeks.

has important things to say about gangnam style (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 14:01 (twelve years ago) link

The show has a lot more awareness.

Legendary General Cypher Raige (Gukbe), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 14:02 (twelve years ago) link

And the dramatic climax where she *realizes* she doesn't want to just be a day hostess or w/e was so groany (yeah no shit, your parents are famous artists and you went to an expensive private liberal arts college!), and again, if it was supposed to be poking fun at the angst of a person who has life easy, it was done in a very deadpan way.

has important things to say about gangnam style (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 14:03 (twelve years ago) link

i didnt think you were suposed to feel bad for her circumstance in tiny furniture, you were maybe supposed to feel bad for how embarrassing she was

lag∞n, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 14:05 (twelve years ago) link

you were supposed to feel embarrassed at how tiny the furniture was. I mean, who could be expected to sit in such a tiny chair?!

barthes simpson, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 14:07 (twelve years ago) link

*takes a sip of water from a glass*

barthes simpson, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 14:07 (twelve years ago) link

i dont remember tiny furniture really being that angsty

max, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 14:08 (twelve years ago) link

btw the k funny thing abt how everyone on the show is a child of fame is dunhams mom is not actually any sort of art world star, i mean sure being a working artist is noteworthy, but almost no one complaining abt this had heard of her mom before and lena is way more famous than her now

lag∞n, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 14:08 (twelve years ago) link

well now, hold on, she had a show in japan

barthes simpson, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 14:10 (twelve years ago) link

*shes big in japan

lag∞n, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 14:12 (twelve years ago) link

Anyone outside of New York will tell you that it's hard to know when New Yorkers have a certain "awareness" of their context. Work from Cassavetes to Allen to Spike Lee to Dunham is so specific to New York that it can show a kind of narcissistic obliviousness about the "priviledge" of being a native New Yorker that, with Dunham and Allen, gets confused with obliviousness to class and race.

pretty even gender split (Eazy), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 14:15 (twelve years ago) link

the race-related criticism of dunham is also about statements she and writers on the show have made

max, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 14:18 (twelve years ago) link

I missed Dunham's statements but I remember that writer's tweet.

Legendary General Cypher Raige (Gukbe), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 14:21 (twelve years ago) link

seemed like she basically said in that nyer fest interview that she was mortified by that writers tweet but didnt really want to start beef and that they already were not working for the show anymore anyway

lag∞n, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 14:24 (twelve years ago) link

shes never said anything quite as racist as the lesley arfin tweet, tho the whole episode where she put on a shawl and called herself a fundamentalist was a iffy at. but in particular im thinking of something like where she said it "never occurred to her" to add black characters, or whatever. that doesnt sound like someone fully aware of her own privilege!

max, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 14:49 (twelve years ago) link

plus the interview where she talked about how there going to be black characters who revealed that the problems of the girls characters were "white people problems." like she is really unfortunately tone-deaf about race, her self-awareness doesnt really seem to extend beyond a recognition that she is rich and lucky to go to a good school and stuff

max, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 14:51 (twelve years ago) link

she doesn't seem to have much creative ambition to go beyond where she started out in life, so not exactly a shocker if she hasn't worked to gain a broader prospective on humanity.

Spectrum, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 14:56 (twelve years ago) link

btw the k funny thing abt how everyone on the show is a child of fame is dunhams mom is not actually any sort of art world star, i mean sure being a working artist is noteworthy, but almost no one complaining abt this had heard of her mom before and lena is way more famous than her now

― lag∞n, Tuesday, October 9, 2012 10:08 AM Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

I guess. I knew who her dad (Carroll Dunham) was before I knew who she was, and my wife who is more art-savvy than me knew who both of them were. They're not household names on a Damien Hirst or Matthew Barney level, sure. I think it's less about being a child of fame than being born with the keys to a rarefied world.

has important things to say about gangnam style (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 14:57 (twelve years ago) link

sure but brian williams! david mamet! uh the drummer for bad company, some lady who photographs miniature furniture - its a super group not a tv show!

lag∞n, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 14:59 (twelve years ago) link

this doesn't sound like it "never occurred to her"

I am a half-Jew, half-WASP, and I wrote two Jews and two WASPs. Something I wanted to avoid was tokenism in casting ... Not that the experience of an African-American girl and a white girl are drastically different, but there has to be specificity to that experience that I wasn't able to speak to. I really wrote the show from a gut-level place, and each character was a piece of me or based on someone close to me. And only later did I realize that it was four white girls. As much as I can say it was an accident, it was only later as the criticism came out, I thought, "I hear this and I want to respond to it." And this is a hard issue to speak to because all I want to do is sound sensitive and not say anything that will horrify anyone or make them feel more isolated, but I did write something that was super-specific to my experience, and I always want to avoid rendering an experience I can't speak to accurately.

In an interview with HuffPost TV in April, Dunham expressed concern that "Girls" would be viewed as an example of "hashtag white people problems." She explained, "We really tried to be aware and bring in characters whose job it was to go 'Hashtag white people problems, guys.' I think that's really important to be aware of. Because it can seem really rarified. When I get a tweet from a girl who's like, 'I'd love to watch the show, but I wish there were more women of color.' You know what? I do, too, and if we have the opportunity to do a second season, I'll address that.

Mr. Que, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 15:01 (twelve years ago) link

she sounds totally self aware there

Mr. Que, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 15:02 (twelve years ago) link

if she doesn't have the experience, she shouldn't bother because it's prob going to be horrible.

Spectrum, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 15:03 (twelve years ago) link

how does dunham grow up in NYC and not know any POC is the real question

Mordy, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 15:03 (twelve years ago) link

We really tried to be aware and bring in characters whose job it was to go 'Hashtag white people problems, guys.'

http://www.operationorange.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/08/nuclear_button_rz.jpg

lag∞n, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 15:05 (twelve years ago) link

In an interview with HuffPost TV in April, Dunham expressed concern that "Girls" would be viewed as an example of "hashtag white people problems." She explained, "We really tried to be aware and bring in characters whose job it was to go 'Hashtag white people problems, guys.'

this is not something a self-aware person says!!!

max, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 15:17 (twelve years ago) link

Because it can seem really rarified. When I get a tweet from a girl who's like, 'I'd love to watch the show, but I wish there were more women of color.' You know what? I do, too, and if we have the opportunity to do a second season, I'll address that.

Mr. Que, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 15:18 (twelve years ago) link

duh max

Mr. Que, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 15:18 (twelve years ago) link

i mean "it was an accident" is about the same as "never occurred to me." like she doesnt seem to even realize the show was entirely white until critics started talking about it

max, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 15:19 (twelve years ago) link

haha wait what? what did you prove

max, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 15:20 (twelve years ago) link

when lena dunham is saying that shes going to introduce characters of color to show white characters how petty their problems are, i cant say i really trust that shes not oblivious abt race

max, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 15:21 (twelve years ago) link

oh, so it sounds like you're talking about when she *wrote* the show she wasn't self aware? i guess i can see that, sure.

seems like she gets it, i don't know. i was just goofing with the duh part.

Mr. Que, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 15:24 (twelve years ago) link

she should introduce a neighbor character who is a black single mother of two working three jobs just to scrape by, they meet when she angrily asks lena to turn down the robyn, but later become friends when dunham helps her oldest son w/his english homework

lag∞n, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 15:25 (twelve years ago) link

i mean she gets it in that interview, which is the interview you referenced above

Mr. Que, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 15:25 (twelve years ago) link

also great idea icey

Mr. Que, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 15:25 (twelve years ago) link

when lena dunham is saying that shes going to introduce characters of color to show white characters how petty their problems are,

where does she say this??????

Mr. Que, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 15:28 (twelve years ago) link

"We really tried to be aware and bring in characters whose job it was to go 'Hashtag white people problems, guys.'"

max, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 15:29 (twelve years ago) link

i assume she was talking about white characters????

Mr. Que, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 15:30 (twelve years ago) link

why would white characters tell her characters that their problems are white people problems?????

max, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 15:31 (twelve years ago) link

anyway iirc that statement is in reference to her nonwhite gyno in the first episode

max, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 15:31 (twelve years ago) link

i would be really on board w/ s.2 if all donald glover did was come on screen rt before the credits and say "Hashtag white people problems, guys"

johnny crunch, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 15:32 (twelve years ago) link

why would white characters tell her characters that their problems are white people problems?????

― max, Tuesday, October 9, 2012 11:31 AM (1 minute ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

perhaps they're based on ilx posters

some dude, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 15:33 (twelve years ago) link

Can't wait for this poll to be over

www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 15:47 (twelve years ago) link

She needs to watch The New Girl and learn how a group of girls can call their black friend "Black Jack Sparrow" and "Black George Michael" and call him Shaq and have him talk about black things because that's what black people do amirite.

pretty even gender split (Eazy), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 16:17 (twelve years ago) link

I think in series two she should go to Privilege Awareness night school and get lessons from ilxors.

Get wolves (DL), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 16:21 (twelve years ago) link

EP 2: "The Ronaldinho Bottle Opener"

Legendary General Cypher Raige (Gukbe), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 16:24 (twelve years ago) link

it's funny how instead of saying "alright, this show is basically lena dunham staring in the mirror, let's shout for and support more inclusive shows than that," so many internet folk are just basically waiting to see whether season 2 of girls lives up to their demands.

da croupier, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 16:50 (twelve years ago) link

basically, she travels in a mostly white milieu. That's The Way Things Are. People wrote throughout the '90s how Woody Allen's New York was too white, and what they ended up with was Woody asking a funny black prostitute dressed in pink vinyl (in his last really good film, actually) to hit him and tie him up.

cancer, kizz my hairy irish azz (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 16:51 (twelve years ago) link

i think the thing that grated most about this whole thing is that lena dunhams melieu ISNT as white as it mightve been 20, 30 years ago -- one of the better pieces about the whole issue was written by a black woman whod been in dunhams class at horace mann and wrote about how she knew that dunham had ppl of color in her social circles, etc. it just makes the absence even more baffling

max, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 16:53 (twelve years ago) link

She needs to watch The New Girl and learn how a group of girls can call their black friend "Black Jack Sparrow" and "Black George Michael" and call him Shaq and have him talk about black things because that's what black people do amirite.

― pretty even gender split (Eazy), Tuesday, October 9, 2012 12:17 PM (36 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

idg what the point is here, theres room for many different shows to be awkward about race in many different ways

max, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 16:54 (twelve years ago) link

also this is probably for a different thread but i think youre really overstating the extent to which winston is a prop for race jokes

max, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 16:55 (twelve years ago) link

I'm sure that's true max, but that gap is probably reflected by where her mind is postcollegiate as opposed to collegiate, and having to write passably convincing characters for an HBO show.

cancer, kizz my hairy irish azz (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 16:57 (twelve years ago) link

It's possible she's even holding herself to too high a standard re I-can't-write-a-character-who'll-be "black enough."

cancer, kizz my hairy irish azz (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 16:59 (twelve years ago) link

yeah. i would just as soon not have lesley arfin write for a black character anyway

max, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 17:00 (twelve years ago) link

i do think if lena's going to employ a writers room she really doesn't have the excuse of "how can i speak for others"

da croupier, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 17:01 (twelve years ago) link

really the magnifying glass she's under is half-complimentary. just as knocked up was a pretty ironic choice for The Manchild Movie To Hang-Wring About Roles For Actresses Over, it suggests the show isn't too conservative to watch, but too conservative for some people to watch without complaining about.

da croupier, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 17:05 (twelve years ago) link

lol "hand-wring"

da croupier, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 17:05 (twelve years ago) link

Curb made a few seasons from WASP/Jewish contrasts (Danson/David) before bringing in Leon.

pretty even gender split (Eazy), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 17:20 (twelve years ago) link

i have non white friends but i think of them as white so when i cast my tv show ill prob just cast white people

lag∞n, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 17:46 (twelve years ago) link

Season two: Dunham brings in a female Leon, is taken aback my reaction. "Jeez, what's everyone complaining about now? I have a black friend and she's hilarious!"

Get wolves (DL), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 17:47 (twelve years ago) link

how many nonwhite semi-regulars were on S&TC? I realize they're allegedly striving for something less fantasyland here, but maybe not as much as believed.

cancer, kizz my hairy irish azz (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 17:49 (twelve years ago) link

feel like if girls had a do over the best thing wouldve been to cast the brian williams daughter character as asian and have the wites make occasional comments abt them thinking of her as wite then she looks at the camera like jim from the office

lag∞n, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 18:01 (twelve years ago) link

also they ask her for help w/math and she looks at the camera like jim from the office but then she always solves their math problems because she is actually good at math and the violin

lag∞n, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 18:02 (twelve years ago) link

haha icey did you see the office this week?

Mr. Que, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 18:04 (twelve years ago) link

uh oh no

lag∞n, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 18:05 (twelve years ago) link

http://www.hulu.com/watch/409168#i1,p0,d2

Mr. Que, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 18:09 (twelve years ago) link

ha!

lag∞n, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 18:11 (twelve years ago) link

I am literally lmao'ing at that onion article

barthes simpson, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 18:36 (twelve years ago) link

max + junot diaz

imo if you're not confident yet in your ability to write characters that are not just facets of yourself you shouldn't be confident enough to write an HBO show

zachylon (zachlyon), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 19:18 (twelve years ago) link

er, max + junot diaz otm

zachylon (zachlyon), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 19:18 (twelve years ago) link

I'd agree but I think the show is really good so I guess I don't.

Legendary General Cypher Raige (Gukbe), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 19:19 (twelve years ago) link

i think the show is p good too

max, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 19:19 (twelve years ago) link

Lena Dunham could easily write the character of the one black friend from Oberlin.

has important things to say about gangnam style (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 19:21 (twelve years ago) link

Junot Diaz's startlingly wide range of protagonists aren't a variation of himself?

pretty even gender split (Eazy), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 19:26 (twelve years ago) link

junot diaz doesn't write four characters in every book that are all shades of him, as lena said

not saying lena's protag can't be an extension, most of them are

zachylon (zachlyon), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 19:28 (twelve years ago) link

i dont really love that diaz quote, i think male writers tend to overestimate how difficult it is to write from a female pov just as white people overestimate how hard it might be to write a black character

max, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 19:31 (twelve years ago) link

when it comes to dialogue, a writer mostly has to have a good ear, not empathize her way into another skin. When it comes to action, maybe a diff story, though ppl seem to give more leeway in dramatic wting and maybe esp TV.

cancer, kizz my hairy irish azz (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 19:34 (twelve years ago) link

why would white characters tell her characters that their problems are white people problems?????

I wasn't aware that white people didn't do this, I'm going to have to update ilx_race.xls pretty extensively now!

Andrew Farrell, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 19:38 (twelve years ago) link

Also this is literally Ray's only job in the first episode!

Andrew Farrell, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 19:38 (twelve years ago) link

like i said above that white people problems quote was in reference to her nonwhite gyno. & in any event the issue is not really WHO is saying the WHITE PEOPLE PROBLEMS thing its the whole concept of "white people problems" which is a stupid un-aware formulation of privilege anyway

max, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 19:42 (twelve years ago) link

don't really agree with that diaz quote either -- i can think of plenty of male writers who write great female characters (for some reason jaime hernandez was the first one who popped into my head) and it seems like a somewhat different issue than the challenge of writing about someone with a different ethnic, social, or cultural background than you. it's weird to me that he singles out murakami, whose female characters usually seem like bs fantasy projections, as someone who does it well.

(The Other) J.D. (J.D.), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 20:07 (twelve years ago) link

Lena Dunham's male characters seem pretty real to me.

pun lovin criminal (polyphonic), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 20:08 (twelve years ago) link

haha women don't get praised for writing 'convincing male characters', are you insane

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 20:42 (twelve years ago) link

or was that your point

set the controls for the heart of the congos (thomp), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 20:43 (twelve years ago) link

are u bleedin mad mate

turds (Hungry4Ass), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 20:45 (twelve years ago) link

the issue is not really WHO is saying the WHITE PEOPLE PROBLEMS thing its the whole concept of "white people problems" which is a stupid un-aware formulation of privilege anyway

― max, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 19:42 (1 hour ago) Permalink

otm

flopson, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 21:00 (twelve years ago) link

imo if you're not confident yet in your ability to write characters that are not just facets of yourself you shouldn't be confident enough to write an HBO show

― zachylon (zachlyon), Tuesday, October 9, 2012 3:18 PM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

lol

flopson, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 21:01 (twelve years ago) link

larry david is p unconfident

barthes simpson, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 21:01 (twelve years ago) link

prit-tee, prit-tee unconfident

Philip Nunez, Tuesday, 9 October 2012 21:04 (twelve years ago) link

I guess David Chase did hang out w/ mob guys for research, then

Still haven't seen Dunham's show but the male quotes everyone latches onto are Horrible Things Men Have Said to Us About Fucking.

cancer, kizz my hairy irish azz (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 21:11 (twelve years ago) link

lol it is really not that hard to teach yourself how to characters from different perspectives and backgrounds! that's the point

zachylon (zachlyon), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 21:15 (twelve years ago) link

how to write

zachylon (zachlyon), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 21:15 (twelve years ago) link

haha

pun lovin criminal (polyphonic), Tuesday, 9 October 2012 21:20 (twelve years ago) link

just read her story First Love, from Aug 13&20 issue of New Yorker - a book publicist i work with, who is in his early 60s, recommended it to me! he loved it! - great writing and funny/ridiculous too. so: more classic.

obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Thursday, 11 October 2012 00:33 (twelve years ago) link

summertime sadness is a really nice song!

sarahell, Thursday, 11 October 2012 01:00 (twelve years ago) link

oh whoops, this isn't the Lana Del Rey thread.

sarahell, Thursday, 11 October 2012 01:00 (twelve years ago) link

ha

lag∞n, Thursday, 11 October 2012 01:04 (twelve years ago) link

nice.

turds (Hungry4Ass), Thursday, 11 October 2012 01:07 (twelve years ago) link

I thought there was some three-dimensional-chess sarcasm going on there.

Get wolves (DL), Thursday, 11 October 2012 12:35 (twelve years ago) link

Automatic thread bump. This poll is closing tomorrow.

System, Sunday, 14 October 2012 00:01 (twelve years ago) link

here's "first love". I love Lea but i thought this was only okay. nothing special.

http://pacificcollegiate.edlioschool.com/ourpages/auto/2012/8/14/48082720/DunhamFirstLove.pdf

jed_, Sunday, 14 October 2012 02:02 (twelve years ago) link

Lena

jed_, Sunday, 14 October 2012 02:04 (twelve years ago) link

I can only compare it to the feeling of opening your cupboard to grab a cookie, but instead of getting a cookie you get dick-slapped.

Mordy, Sunday, 14 October 2012 02:11 (twelve years ago) link

the worst

Mordy, Sunday, 14 October 2012 02:11 (twelve years ago) link

i'd usually prefer to get dick slapped than have a cookie.

jed_, Sunday, 14 October 2012 02:19 (twelve years ago) link

every 3-year micro-epoch of pop culture gets the diablo cody it deserves

some dude, Sunday, 14 October 2012 02:35 (twelve years ago) link

loved this piece a lot

*buffs lens* (schlump), Sunday, 14 October 2012 02:37 (twelve years ago) link

aka fuck all yall

*buffs lens* (schlump), Sunday, 14 October 2012 02:37 (twelve years ago) link

Two times!

Andrew Farrell, Sunday, 14 October 2012 07:46 (twelve years ago) link

Automatic thread bump. This poll's results are now in.

System, Monday, 15 October 2012 00:01 (twelve years ago) link

Look at all those racists

Legendary General Cypher Raige (Gukbe), Monday, 15 October 2012 00:06 (twelve years ago) link

"That woman is a grownup, and you are a child."

a hauntingly unemployed american (difficult listening hour), Monday, 15 October 2012 00:08 (twelve years ago) link

We should do this poll every five years until she is a grande dame of screen and belles lettres.

pretty even gender split (Eazy), Monday, 15 October 2012 00:47 (twelve years ago) link

And this is part of what they're paying her all that money for, folks.

http://thisrecording.com/today/2011/3/19/in-which-we-regularly-play-ping-pong-with-the-princess-masak.html

Ned Raggett, Monday, 15 October 2012 14:44 (twelve years ago) link

And this is part of what they're paying her all that money for, folks

They're paying her for a book of new material. And I don't think a year and a half old blogpost is the best Lena Dunham writing sample out there. This is a little embarrassing. She's done much better stuff, like those pieces for the New Yorker.

Also, she's 26. Based on her show and the handful of more recent essays out there, her writing has matured/is maturing pretty quickly.

America's Mobile, Monday, 15 October 2012 15:57 (twelve years ago) link

Also, she's 26. Based on her show and the handful of more recent essays out there, her writing has matured/is maturing pretty quickly.

― America's Mobile, Monday, October 15, 2012 11:57 AM Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

No, fuck this shit. "Hey she's pretty good for her age $1.5 million" does not compute.

michael bolton's reckless daughter (Hurting 2), Monday, 15 October 2012 16:03 (twelve years ago) link

ilx is really a crepey douche about LD IMHO

His avid reading taught him things before he had not found (stevie), Monday, 15 October 2012 16:05 (twelve years ago) link

^^^^

Andrew Farrell, Monday, 15 October 2012 16:09 (twelve years ago) link

that new yorker piece is a couple years old. also not really very good imo. shes a much better director/screenwriter i think

max, Monday, 15 October 2012 16:09 (twelve years ago) link

otm

www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Monday, 15 October 2012 16:09 (twelve years ago) link

Xp

www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Monday, 15 October 2012 16:09 (twelve years ago) link

ilx is really a crepey douche about LD IMHO

― His avid reading taught him things before he had not found (stevie), Monday, October 15, 2012 4:05 PM (10 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Mr. Que, Monday, 15 October 2012 16:16 (twelve years ago) link

LD is a crepey douche about japanese people and muslims tbh

lex pretend, Monday, 15 October 2012 16:18 (twelve years ago) link

there are legitimate aesthetic/artistic/political reasons to dislike dunham's work!

Mordy, Monday, 15 October 2012 16:19 (twelve years ago) link

the other half of ILX is very capn save-a-dunham though

michael bolton's reckless daughter (Hurting 2), Monday, 15 October 2012 16:20 (twelve years ago) link

LD is a crepey douche about japanese people and muslims tbh

― lex pretend, Monday, October 15, 2012 12:18 PM (1 minute ago) Bookmark

hehe

lil dirk (J0rdan S.), Monday, 15 October 2012 16:20 (twelve years ago) link

there are legitimate aesthetic/artistic/political reasons to dislike dunham's work!

― Mordy, Monday, October 15, 2012 4:19 PM (11 seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

absolutely!

Mr. Que, Monday, 15 October 2012 16:20 (twelve years ago) link

i don't see what's really all that douchey or creepy about ILX's response to lena dunham. she's a highly visible public figure with a show on HBO and a book deal worth millions of dollars. any/all criticism comes with the territory and i don't think it's rooted in sexism here.

lil dirk (J0rdan S.), Monday, 15 October 2012 16:22 (twelve years ago) link

That "Lost-er in Translation" article is the worst and nobody should read it

flamboyant goon tie included, Monday, 15 October 2012 16:27 (twelve years ago) link

tiny hands like paper cranes

乒乓, Monday, 15 October 2012 16:28 (twelve years ago) link

hands like paper cranes

乒乓, Monday, 15 October 2012 16:28 (twelve years ago) link

who gives a fucking shit how much she's getting paid

(The Other) J.D. (J.D.), Monday, 15 October 2012 16:32 (twelve years ago) link

If book advances were prizes, then James Patterson would be the toast of the town in Stockholm.

pretty even gender split (Eazy), Monday, 15 October 2012 16:35 (twelve years ago) link

i guess i think its weird when people fixate on how much money she's getting, based on a (dumb!) blog post and her TV show. yeah it's a shitload of money, sure. but she put a book proposal together, shopped it, and is now cleaning up! why pick on her for that? you may not think she's worth it, but there a bunch of people in the publishing world who disagree with you.

Mr. Que, Monday, 15 October 2012 16:47 (twelve years ago) link

she's a highly visible public figure with a show on HBO and a book deal worth millions of dollars. any/all criticism comes with the territory and i don't think it's rooted in sexism here.

what you do, see, is contrast the person being discussed with others in similar situations, and then consider what other elements are creating differences in the degree of dissection. sexism obviously isn't the only issue at play here, as there are other reasons Lena Dunham isn't Jonathan Ames isn't Louis CK isn't Chelsea Handler isn't Larry David. But it's also stupid to think sexism doesn't play some part in why Girls gets more shit than Entourage and Bored To Death, and you can acknowledge it without pretending there's some false binary where either you're a fan or you're sexist.

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 16:48 (twelve years ago) link

ime no show has ever gotten more shit than entourage

Mordy, Monday, 15 October 2012 16:49 (twelve years ago) link

Entourage just wasn't talked about.

Legendary General Cypher Raige (Gukbe), Monday, 15 October 2012 16:50 (twelve years ago) link

girls is a critically acclaimed show. entourage is a punchline.

Mordy, Monday, 15 October 2012 16:51 (twelve years ago) link

Entourage just wasn't talked about.

That's the thing. it's not necessarily that people think more of the men who do similar bullshit, it's that they're not stared at and discussed. imo there's always an extra degree of IS THIS A JOKE, I CAN'T BELIEVE WE HAVE TO PUT UP WITH THIS in discussion of women in culture who are guilty of shit men do as well (i.e. Sarah Palin and George W Bush) and you can admit that without having to encourage the Palins of the world.

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 16:51 (twelve years ago) link

entourage - douchbags. girls - trustfund twits. bored to death had ted danson, so i think that's why it got a pass.

Spectrum, Monday, 15 October 2012 16:52 (twelve years ago) link

That's the thing. it's not necessarily that people think more of the men who do similar bullshit, it's that they're not stared at and discussed. imo there's always an extra degree of IS THIS A JOKE, I CAN'T BELIEVE WE HAVE TO PUT UP WITH THIS in discussion of women in culture who are guilty of shit men do as well (i.e. Sarah Palin and George W Bush) and you can admit that without having to encourage the Palins of the world.

― da croupier, Monday, October 15, 2012 12:51 PM Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Wait what? How was the reaction to George W. Bush not "I can't believe we have to put up with this"?

michael bolton's reckless daughter (Hurting 2), Monday, 15 October 2012 16:55 (twelve years ago) link

i just don't think that's true, tho. no one talks about 2 broke girls really (or whitney), even tho it's clearly more despised than girls. i think the quantity of discussion is due to the provocative nature of the material and that ppl have such different reactions to the material. if everyone hated girls i doubt anyone would discuss it. but it's simultaneously praised and reviled which produces the attention given to it. also, GWB was and is hated hated hated maybe more than almost any other human being alive, male or female. xxp

Mordy, Monday, 15 October 2012 16:55 (twelve years ago) link

you don't think palin was treated as a more absurd notion than bush?

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 16:55 (twelve years ago) link

i think no one has ever accused palin of colluding to attack the united states and kill innocent american civilians

Mordy, Monday, 15 October 2012 16:56 (twelve years ago) link

That's the thing. it's not necessarily that people think more of the men who do similar bullshit, it's that they're not stared at and discussed.

this is totally true tbh - from what i've seen of LD i dislike her immensely but as a non-TV watcher the fact that the conversation around her has been of such volume etc that i've noticed her at all is testament to this. whereas i don't know wtf entourage is

lex pretend, Monday, 15 October 2012 16:56 (twelve years ago) link

Everyone I knew considered W to be a gigantic joke until he won the election

michael bolton's reckless daughter (Hurting 2), Monday, 15 October 2012 16:57 (twelve years ago) link

lex, do u know who kat dennings or what 2 broke girls is?

Mordy, Monday, 15 October 2012 16:57 (twelve years ago) link

again, every snowflake is different, and anyone can point out the myriad of distinctions between a specific man and specific woman that suggests why one could be bothered more by one than the other without bringing up sex. but using that to deny sexism doesn't play a part in who america obsesses over is pretty sad.

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 16:57 (twelve years ago) link

sorry, i mean to deny sexism does play a part in who america obsesses over

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 16:58 (twelve years ago) link

I won't entirely write off the idea that sexism plays a part in the LD discussion, but the sheer volume of discussion probably comes in large part from her stans. From the beginning, this relatively low-viewership show has been presented as Important Zeitgeisty Thing You Need To Know About, which was certainly not true of Entourage.

michael bolton's reckless daughter (Hurting 2), Monday, 15 October 2012 16:59 (twelve years ago) link

i think it may play a part, but i think bringing sexism into a conversation about lena dunham is best utilized when something sexist has been said. i think vaguely dismissing all critiques as being sexist is non-productive. deal w/ the argument being made, not the one you think is covert. xp

Mordy, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:00 (twelve years ago) link

No wunderkind goes unchallenged.

What better artifact of the mid-2000s Zeitgeist will we have than Entourage (other than Hostel Part II, maybe)?

pretty even gender split (Eazy), Monday, 15 October 2012 17:02 (twelve years ago) link

palin was definitely treated with a lot more contempt and hostility pre-election than bush was pre-election.

(The Other) J.D. (J.D.), Monday, 15 October 2012 17:03 (twelve years ago) link

I agree with croupier on all this, though I also think that Girls is as if Mark Wahlberg wrote, directed, and starred in Entourage, rather than just producing and basing the premise on his bio.

pretty even gender split (Eazy), Monday, 15 October 2012 17:04 (twelve years ago) link

(Or if Adrian Grenier wrote/directed/starred.)

pretty even gender split (Eazy), Monday, 15 October 2012 17:05 (twelve years ago) link

Yeah, and that's the other thing I was going to say, is that I think a lot of the ire has to be attributed to the *privileged prodigy* thing. Moreso because I think she presents her character as kind of lazy, as though she just rolled out of bed and got show and book deals in her pjs. Which I'm sure is partly artifice. I think I said upthread that part of where I think her talent lies is in doing that thing where you make it seem like there's no artifice in your art, like you're just kind of transcribing what happened, which is actually very artful.

michael bolton's reckless daughter (Hurting 2), Monday, 15 October 2012 17:06 (twelve years ago) link

mordy, i'm scrolling around trying to figure out where you got on this "don't dismiss me a sexist, it's not productive" self-pity tip

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:07 (twelve years ago) link

i just think that if you want to talk about sexism re dunham you should have specific examples of things people have said + done that you consider sexist. i think you're being very vague and i don't know to what end. it seems like maybe a cheap way out of dealing w/ specific criticisms people have of dunham's material.

Mordy, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:09 (twelve years ago) link

i think you're paranoid

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:10 (twelve years ago) link

it's almost like sexism can't be unconscious or structural

lex pretend, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:11 (twelve years ago) link

jesus wth is going on with ilx today

michael bolton's reckless daughter (Hurting 2), Monday, 15 October 2012 17:11 (twelve years ago) link

seriously i haven't dismissed a single criticism of the show, simply noted that a lot of the bile sent her way ignores the similarities she shares with other writer/director/stars

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:11 (twelve years ago) link

how about wes anderson, people shit on that guy all the time.

Spectrum, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:12 (twelve years ago) link

really not going to play the "hey women get a lot of shit" "hey, i shit on plenty of men!" game

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:13 (twelve years ago) link

Alright, really was trying not to come down off the ropes on this one, but honestly what are you actually adding to this thread? You made a general point, which was valid, but not apparently in reference to any particular post, just sort of "I feel like", then you accuse Mordy of being self-pitying and paranoid, which I really am not seeing in his posts tbh, and now you're just playing "I am better at seeing the sexism in society than everyone else."

michael bolton's reckless daughter (Hurting 2), Monday, 15 October 2012 17:17 (twelve years ago) link

xpost not trying to play a game here, obviously sexism still exists ... it's been what, a handful of decades since women were deemeed sentient beings? just devil's advocate here: wes anderson had the privileged wunderkind thing going on, too, and he got a lot of a crap from the internet grumbling classes.

Spectrum, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:17 (twelve years ago) link

"i'm not playing a game just playing devil's advocate"

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:18 (twelve years ago) link

why is it that discussions of sexism and racism etc always get someone playing the devil's advocate? of course, that's what they need, who wants to talk about that difficult stuff anyway

lex pretend, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:19 (twelve years ago) link

aw geez, it's helpful to take apart what's really going on. it could be 80% jealously 20% sexism, or 80% sexism 20% jealously. doesn't help if you have an axe to grind, though.

Spectrum, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:21 (twelve years ago) link

Moreso because I think she presents her character as kind of lazy, as though she just rolled out of bed and got show and book deals in her pjs. Which I'm sure is partly artifice. I think I said upthread that part of where I think her talent lies is in doing that thing where you make it seem like there's no artifice in your art, like you're just kind of transcribing what happened, which is actually very artful.

I dunno, it seems like she's really frank that EG Hannah Horvath is not that talented - the skill that Lena Dunham has to capture character details is partly present in how clear it is that Hannah doesn't have it - it's really not a Mary-Sue.

Andrew Farrell, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:22 (twelve years ago) link

you accuse Mordy of being self-pitying and paranoid, which I really am not seeing in his posts

well he's saying it's unproductive to talk about institutional sexism without bringing up concrete examples, that i'm dismissing his valid criticisms and he doesn't know to what end

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:23 (twelve years ago) link

well, you're engaged in a dialogue here with other real human beings. if for instance you said that gawker's posts about girls are really creepy + sexist, i don't think anyone on ilx would disagree with you. if you believe that ppl on ilx are being creepy + sexist, it's a good idea i think to say exactly what you're finding sexist? i don't pity myself, or feel particularly paranoid atm, fwiw.

Mordy, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:26 (twelve years ago) link

aw geez, it's helpful to take apart what's really going on. it could be 80% jealously 20% sexism, or 80% sexism 20% jealously. doesn't help if you have an axe to grind, though.

it IS helpful to take apart what's going on, but this is a pattern in any discussion of sexism/racism: someone almost immediately says "but hey WHAT IF IT'S NOT, what if it's this thing instead" - and it may well be but the effect is to shut down discussion of sexism/racism. and this is not an accusation of sexism etc - god forbid! i know how men HATE that, just like white people hate it when they think they're being called racists! - but it is highly highly noticeable that people HATE to talk about it and maybe admit that it exists in institutional and structural forms rather than a thing that can be safely othered, like dumb fratboys making jokes about tits or whatever

lex pretend, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:26 (twelve years ago) link

if you believe that ppl on ilx are being creepy + sexist

yeah see this is what i mean by paranoid, as i've never suggested either

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:27 (twelve years ago) link

and i am in the anti-LD camp but it's as obvious to me that there's an element of sexism in the extent to which she's been called out for her bullshit (or rather the extent to which men in her field DON'T get called out) as it is that she's a kinda-racist douchebag

lex pretend, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:27 (twelve years ago) link

if anything i've made more vague suggestions of jealousy than sexism re: ilx on thread.

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:29 (twelve years ago) link

just fyi da croupier, before you posted about sexism + girls, just above the fold, about 4-5 dunham-stans called ilx creepy + douchy. your comment doesn't exist in a vacuum.

Mordy, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:30 (twelve years ago) link

so what not only do i have to defend my claims that institutional sexism exists, i have to defend what other ilx posters write too?

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:30 (twelve years ago) link

lex otm. It's true that LD is criticised a lot for things that wouldn't even be a thing if she was a man, and a lot of it is a result of her a) making women's experiences a central part of her work and b) being someone who is seen as representing "the women of her generation", by whoever - tv execs, the press, her fans, tv watchers etc. It's not her fault she's been put in that position, but that doesn't make her exempt from criticism either.

I mean, I want to like her. I want to like her so bad. And then she goes and pulls bullshit like this:

http://p.twimg.com/Az5OnfSCYAEZ2zz.png

... and I'm like, yeah fuck you.

Roz, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:32 (twelve years ago) link

about 4-5 dunham-stans called ilx creepy + douchy.

whatever the fuck dunham-stan is, i'm pretty sure i am not one

Mr. Que, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:33 (twelve years ago) link

I never want to visit Dunhamstan, the weather is terrible there.

controversial cabaret roommate (Nicole), Monday, 15 October 2012 17:35 (twelve years ago) link

it IS helpful to take apart what's going on, but this is a pattern in any discussion of sexism/racism: someone almost immediately says "but hey WHAT IF IT'S NOT, what if it's this thing instead" - and it may well be but the effect is to shut down discussion of sexism/racism. and this is not an accusation of sexism etc - god forbid! i know how men HATE that, just like white people hate it when they think they're being called racists! - but it is highly highly noticeable that people HATE to talk about it and maybe admit that it exists in institutional and structural forms rather than a thing that can be safely othered, like dumb fratboys making jokes about tits or whatever

it doesn't shut down the discussion of racism/sexism, at least that's not my intention. whenever a bright young thing becomes successful, famous, and critically acclaimed, there's always a chorus of people grousing about it. i'm a dude so i probably don't have the same feelings about this issue as you do, but i'm not discounting sexism or trying to shut that down, but as with anything in life it's more complex than that... which doesn't mean sexism isn't part of it, but it's part of a bigger picture. should we ignore the whole picture to focus on one point? sometimes. but this is a messageboard conversation where we're debating this woman to stave off boredom, so why limit it? if thread was LENA DUNHAM: FEMINIST PERSPECTIVE ON GENDER ISSUES IN HBO DRAMEDIES, fine, out of place.

Spectrum, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:36 (twelve years ago) link

one reason that dunham gets called out is because shes so visible, and the reason shes visible is because shes one of not very many women working in this field and mining this territory. the structures that allow her to be presented for criticism, that themselves present her for criticism, are sexist, regardless of whether or not those criticisms are themselves

max, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:36 (twelve years ago) link

i think it may play a part, but i think bringing sexism into a conversation about lena dunham is best utilized when something sexist has been said. i think vaguely dismissing all critiques as being sexist is non-productive. deal w/ the argument being made, not the one you think is covert. xp

― Mordy, Monday, October 15, 2012 1:00 PM (35 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

i think this is insane, btw -- shes a woman artist making semi-autobiographical art that prominently deals with sexism. you dont "bring sexism" into a conversation about lena dunham; its already there

max, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:38 (twelve years ago) link

she's a particularly frustrating (read: "productive" in a discursive sense) public figure in that regard. getting her "right" means saying a bunch of, on a surface level, contradictory things

there is no dana, only (goole), Monday, 15 October 2012 17:39 (twelve years ago) link

i don't even WATCH her show!!

there is no dana, only (goole), Monday, 15 October 2012 17:40 (twelve years ago) link

Maybe being female makes her white in the NBA, and being mid-20s makes her a short white guy in the NBA, in terms of the amount of attention paid. But it works in her favor as well as against her, because when there's a short white guy in the NBA, you know his name.

michael bolton's reckless daughter (Hurting 2), Monday, 15 October 2012 17:41 (twelve years ago) link

only 10 people watched her show but they all posted to ILX about it

乒乓, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:41 (twelve years ago) link

lol hurting cmon

max, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:41 (twelve years ago) link

what about all those MEN making tv shows, why arent we talking about THEM

max, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:41 (twelve years ago) link

i think this is insane, btw -- shes a woman artist making semi-autobiographical art that prominently deals with sexism. you dont "bring sexism" into a conversation about lena dunham; its already there

fine, but if it's already there, and you want to discuss it, you need to discuss it beyond just noting that sexism is relevant to the conversation. saying 'i think people criticize her partially bc of sexism' is very vague and doesn't lend any insight into the discussion. this is especially true, imho, if the artist is themselves dealing w/ the topic. it's like sitting in a lit class and hearing that a particular novel is 'about marxism' or 'about sex.' it doesn't actually develop any dialogue

Mordy, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:43 (twelve years ago) link

There is after all no such thing as bad publicity, amirite?

Andrew Farrell, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:44 (twelve years ago) link

ok

max, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:46 (twelve years ago) link

i think if you're going to say dialogue is being stifled you have to prove it

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:46 (twelve years ago) link

i'm criticizing your post for not adding anything interesting to the discussion on ilx about lena dunham. i don't think you're stifling anything. i just don't think you're doing anything interesting. sorry, that's a very blunt way of putting it, but i think it's true. i think you could write about sexist reception of girls, girls dealing in/against sexist tropes, etc in really interesting ways and i've read lots of interesting articles and blog posts and ilx posts (mostly in the other thread) that did just that. i don't think your post did, tho.

Mordy, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:47 (twelve years ago) link

honestly, i think i'm going to hold my opinion until david brooks weighs in on this.

Spectrum, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:48 (twelve years ago) link

mordy can i ask what "the post" in question is?

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:50 (twelve years ago) link

ok i guess were all back on topic -- more productive discussion of lena dunham please

max, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:51 (twelve years ago) link

she makes me wish quentin tarantino had made a film about being quentin tarantino

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:51 (twelve years ago) link

like what if pulp fiction was all about the guy who's comfortable screaming "dead *car horn* storage" at mobsters

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:53 (twelve years ago) link

What better artifact of the mid-2000s Zeitgeist will we have than Entourage (other than Hostel Part II, maybe)?

Entourage feels more like an artifact of the mid-90s.
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/thumb/9/91/Swingers_ver2.jpg/215px-Swingers_ver2.jpg

Sandy Denny Real Estate (jaymc), Monday, 15 October 2012 17:53 (twelve years ago) link

dc, i was thinking most recently about your post comparing girls to entourage (a show which ime never had the critical acclaim girls does) but you've been posting about how fixation on dunham is about sexism for about a week now

Mordy, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:55 (twelve years ago) link

not itt

max, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:56 (twelve years ago) link

last time sexism was brought up you leapt right in to make sure we didnt have an unproductive conversation

max, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:56 (twelve years ago) link

god forbid this message board be discursively unproductive

max, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:57 (twelve years ago) link

imo entourage at its best is still worse than dunham at her worst and if ppl's impressions are that entourage didn't get reviled like girls did, i think that's really unfortunate and i'd like to revile entourage continuously. one of the worst shows ever and an embarrassment for hbo that it lasted so long.

Mordy, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:57 (twelve years ago) link

some of the sexism conversations have been good! esp on the last thread

Mordy, Monday, 15 October 2012 17:58 (twelve years ago) link

you've been posting about how fixation on dunham is about sexism for about a week now

you mean a week ago and now

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 18:00 (twelve years ago) link

i think i'm just going to go on hiatus from posting about lena dunham. i apologize for this conversation. i agree that there lots of sexism when discussing dunham and her television show. i hope for a world where ppl judge her and her material on their merits and not pejoratively bc of her gender.

Mordy, Monday, 15 October 2012 18:02 (twelve years ago) link

The reason nobody here really talked about Entourage is that it was aspirational garbage about sexist douchebags whose only interest was in hot women, big houses, and nice cars, which isn't really in the ILX wheelhouse. 2 Broke Girls is traddy sitcom bollocks that's crazy racist but again nobody takes it seriously because it's not really striving for anything more than that. Girls otoh features a wannabe-writer Brooklynite wavering over what she should tweet and dancing about to Robyn. The closer something gets to the ILX wheelhouse the more it gets ripped apart savagely for not getting it right.

It's like all those people in the military who *hate* The Hurt Locker because it's wildly inaccurate, and yet they won't say much of anything about the way the military acts in the Transformers movies because hey, that's not really striving to get close to accuracy.

Nobody here is going to defend 2 Broke Girls or Entourage, but a number of us will defend Girls and possibly Lena Dunham's other efforts.

Legendary General Cypher Raige (Gukbe), Monday, 15 October 2012 18:23 (twelve years ago) link

It's like all those people in the military who *hate* The Hurt Locker because it's wildly inaccurate, and yet they won't say much of anything about the way the military acts in the Transformers movies because hey, that's not really striving to get close to accuracy.

totally agree with this, though i don't think it's just a matter of "getting it right" but going there in the first place

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 18:27 (twelve years ago) link

soldier dudes probably aren't as AHHH DON'T LOOK AT ME NOOOOO as folks who listen to robyn and tweet

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 18:27 (twelve years ago) link

possibly, though i've had long discussions with my friend in the military about how he and everyone he knows on base hates that movie for things like "nobody would talk to their superior officer that way" etc etc

Legendary General Cypher Raige (Gukbe), Monday, 15 October 2012 18:29 (twelve years ago) link

i agree! i just mean that on top of that, you have the self-loathing hipster thing

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 18:30 (twelve years ago) link

my own main reason for avoiding regular Girls viewership is that i don't miss my 20s at all

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 18:32 (twelve years ago) link

I'm a fan of the show, and I'll totally cop to being suspicious that a 24 year old could pull off writing, starring, and directing as well as showrunning a TV show, especially one on HBO, but I she really impressed me on a lot of fronts. On a basic level, it's just really hard to do, so respect for that.

Legendary General Cypher Raige (Gukbe), Monday, 15 October 2012 18:34 (twelve years ago) link

I will second that.

michael bolton's reckless daughter (Hurting 2), Monday, 15 October 2012 18:46 (twelve years ago) link

i dont really have a problem w/ the whiteness of the show, i have a prob w/ whiteness of TV generally but this felt honest & real to a particular milieu, i'm sorry i don't buy that social groups like this are less white than they were in woody allen's time, ive been in nyc 2 weeks & walking thru wburg on a saturday night & i'm seeing little gangs of girls castmates everywhere

fanute da croupier (D-40), Monday, 15 October 2012 18:50 (twelve years ago) link

not to say there aren't ppl of color in williamsburg, there def are; but there are plenty of social groups who seem pretty un-integrated

fanute da croupier (D-40), Monday, 15 October 2012 18:51 (twelve years ago) link

anyway i wonder how this is going to turn out lmao
http://www.dailydot.com/entertainment/nbc-fuck-my-twenties-tumblr-tv-show/

fanute da croupier (D-40), Monday, 15 October 2012 18:52 (twelve years ago) link

i dont necc buy that, and even so an ex-classmate of dunhams has written about how at their school there were many ppl of color in dunhams social circle, and im sure table is the table will come by any minute now to say that the same is/was true of oberlin. i

in any even its not that an all-white group of young women is somehow unbelievable -- its just that right now in that melieu its exactly as believable -- maybe LESS believable -- than a more diverse group of friends. 'girls' gets singled out in particular because its presumed to be a) representative of a generation or socio-cultural class and b) more invested in issues of identity and representation than other tv shows. (whether or not those two presumptions are fair is debatable)

max, Monday, 15 October 2012 18:55 (twelve years ago) link

All-white Always Sunny...

pretty even gender split (Eazy), Monday, 15 October 2012 18:57 (twelve years ago) link

i dont necc buy that, and even so an ex-classmate of dunhams has written about how at their school there were many ppl of color in dunhams social circle, and im sure table is the table will come by any minute now to say that the same is/was true of oberlin. i

but its about her perception not the reality of it. if shes oblivious she is oblivious. i think we're demanding more of her than we would practically any other artist

keep in mind btw that i regularly listen to music by sociopaths but still

fanute da croupier (D-40), Monday, 15 October 2012 18:58 (twelve years ago) link

being "presumed to be" is crucial here. i don't engage this show on the basis that it is *IMPORTANT* any more than The Walking Dead or whatever else I watch on a Sunday night.

Legendary General Cypher Raige (Gukbe), Monday, 15 October 2012 18:59 (twelve years ago) link

glad max engaged me b/c i think he's the person who's opinion im simultaneously closest to yet somewhere have a distinctly more laissez faire attitude about it

i guess im becoming someone libertarian about the whole thing b/c to me its like, hand wringing over whether or not lena dunham is 'problematic' really doesnt do anything for anyone except i guess donald glover

fanute da croupier (D-40), Monday, 15 October 2012 19:00 (twelve years ago) link

are there enough black showrunners, are black students being accepted into film programs, are they promoted at the same rate as white colleagues, are there enough black execs to greenlight black shows, etc etc etc strikes me as the more worthwhile point of contention

at a certain point i dont care enough about lena dunham's soul to be like, yo shes so problematic

that essay in thisrecording is racist trash, tho

fanute da croupier (D-40), Monday, 15 October 2012 19:02 (twelve years ago) link

we demand more of her b/c we expect more of her!

max, Monday, 15 October 2012 19:02 (twelve years ago) link

does anyone find that picture Roz posted unfortunate?

Iago Galdston, Monday, 15 October 2012 19:04 (twelve years ago) link

oh yeah, i agree with that -- the structural problems need to be addressed. dunhams show became a flashpoint for these issues b/c of the presumptions i was talking abt upthread -- part of this is kind of an intra-left 2nd vs 3rd wave feminism discussion -- if you dont start from the 2nd wave representation-of-women position you dont get the 3rd-wave excluded-minorities response [put crudely]

max, Monday, 15 October 2012 19:05 (twelve years ago) link

do 'we' or do ppl who see themselves as being a part of her particular social world?

i cant really say her experience in life has been anything like mine, so its hard for me to really identify with it. instead it feels like a chance to see a world i did not normally feel a part of but am familiar with via college (and i'm not talking about her privilege even per se, but also just idk being women & being NYers and all that other stuff that makes her from a particular culture that actually feels slightly alien to me)

not to make a bigger deal of it than it is & i certainly empathize w/ anyone of color who maybe does feel more or less a part of that world but is often written out of it.

i mean, these criticisms aren't wrong, it just feels like such a myopic microscope at the end of the day

fanute da croupier (D-40), Monday, 15 October 2012 19:06 (twelve years ago) link

xxp

fanute da croupier (D-40), Monday, 15 October 2012 19:06 (twelve years ago) link

is lena dunham the JOHN HUGHES of our generation??

乒乓, Monday, 15 October 2012 19:09 (twelve years ago) link

well i'm overstating it to say its been NOTHING like mine, i too went to college & didn't know what to do with my life after school, i mean its the simultaneous insider/ outsider thing where she's dealing w/ the same bigger questions but she's someone who i guess is coming from a different place with it, which is what interests me -- its alien enough that i'm like, what do ppl like this think? but close enough where they're asking questions about things i also was trying to figure out answers to

anyway i'm not sure where i'm going with this

fanute da croupier (D-40), Monday, 15 October 2012 19:10 (twelve years ago) link

maybe this is a funny comparison point but to me its kind of like Frasier. like, i dont really know anything about that lifestyle but otoh i can relate to some of the situations. like, i too have known old men with dogs who like beer. i mean i think girls is better than frasier, but i don't think its so much better that i start taking out the magnifying glass to kelsey grammar's likely-awful views on race

although he did produce Girlfriends (also a good show, but where were the non-African American women? it is called Girlfriends after all) (not being at all serious about the reverse racism charge there btw just making fun of the implied universiality of the title of "Girls")

fanute da croupier (D-40), Monday, 15 October 2012 19:13 (twelve years ago) link

i cant really say her experience in life has been anything like mine, so its hard for me to really identify with it.

dawg u both went to lib-arts colleges in ohio

Sandy Denny Real Estate (jaymc), Monday, 15 October 2012 19:14 (twelve years ago) link

Bring back The Beverly Hillbillies.

Aimless, Monday, 15 October 2012 19:16 (twelve years ago) link

yeah i clarified later --> i'm talking about being raised in NYC literati family & having your parents pay your tab & being a woman & living in NYC as a young person etc.

i mean i was raised in an apt by a single mom on welfare im not saying i had it super hard or something, i was really lucky, but there was never a time in my life when i thought i was going to be doing anything other than working

fanute da croupier (D-40), Monday, 15 October 2012 19:17 (twelve years ago) link

or to put it another way, her experience in life feels about as distant to me as frasier's

fanute da croupier (D-40), Monday, 15 October 2012 19:17 (twelve years ago) link

dawg u both went to lib-arts colleges in ohio

― Sandy Denny Real Estate (jaymc), Monday, October 15, 2012 3:14 PM (4 minutes ago) Bookmark

eh a fair amount of self-segregation happens @ colleges

乒乓, Monday, 15 October 2012 19:19 (twelve years ago) link

is some sort of personal circumstance identification really necessary for enjoyment?

Legendary General Cypher Raige (Gukbe), Monday, 15 October 2012 19:20 (twelve years ago) link

xp I know, I was just teasing.

Sandy Denny Real Estate (jaymc), Monday, 15 October 2012 19:20 (twelve years ago) link

idk i mean this makes it sound like im trying to emphasize how unlike her i really am which isn't the point, i am not a self hating hipster or something, i like craft beer & watching Girls, but i feel like what i'm trying to say is it might help if people took a step back & realized that the world doesn't begin & end w/ lena dunham & its kinda just OK that shes a flawed & probably has subconscious or semi-conscious #whitepplissues like many of the people i guarantee ALL of us in this thread have observed at one time or another throughout our lives

fanute da croupier (D-40), Monday, 15 October 2012 19:22 (twelve years ago) link

what would kelsey grammar tweet if he had twitter

fanute da croupier (D-40), Monday, 15 October 2012 19:23 (twelve years ago) link

@someactorhesworkedwtih you're delightful!

@someliberalactor let's agree to disagree

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 19:24 (twelve years ago) link

lol

fanute da croupier (D-40), Monday, 15 October 2012 19:25 (twelve years ago) link

does anyone find that picture Roz posted unfortunate?
― Iago Galdston, Monday, October 15, 2012 3:04 PM (19 minutes ago)

hmmm, i guess everyone is cool with it

Iago Galdston, Monday, 15 October 2012 19:26 (twelve years ago) link

that particular tweet/picture was already mentioned/discussed early on in the thread

乒乓, Monday, 15 October 2012 19:27 (twelve years ago) link

i mean i think girls is better than frasier

whoa whoa lets not get ahead of oursevlers here

Lamp, Monday, 15 October 2012 19:27 (twelve years ago) link

xxxpost college i went to was 50% black / 40% white and self-segregation was a pretty big issue on campus. it fulfills our proud white, liberal undergrad heritage to say lena dunham should follow the grand tenets of Feminist Theory 201 and include minorities, but what's that going to change? we're attacking a symptom and ignoring the problem. "why aren't people of different races more integrated?" "because a TV show on HBO excludes minorities." so if she did include minorities that'd be what, a more pleasing fantasy i guess?

Spectrum, Monday, 15 October 2012 19:28 (twelve years ago) link

all shows are fantasies we watch because we find them pleasing

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 19:29 (twelve years ago) link

"lena dunham, we demand you lie to us better!"

Spectrum, Monday, 15 October 2012 19:29 (twelve years ago) link

xxp funny, i don't see any discussion of that picture of her in "goth/fundamentalist" garb except for Roz who posted it...but i'm just skimming so maybe it is covered elsewhere

Iago Galdston, Monday, 15 October 2012 19:31 (twelve years ago) link

i mean i knew some groups that WERE more integrated, i dont think they're NOT there

this all reminds me though of a think nabisco posted or wrote about once when discussing that guy who got the appearance of glasses tattooed on his face, like, how can someone appear on a social level to be so similar to my milieu while at the same time clearly having an outlook on life that is completely alien to mine, where they would tattoo glasses to their face? (i'm paraphrasing)

i think what i'm trying to get at is that at its core, the integration idea involves the recognition that people who are "unlike me" are often a lot more like you than people who are "like you" in superficial ways, and i think i just dont see lena dunham as being THAT much like me

i would totally like to meet soshana, though

fanute da croupier (D-40), Monday, 15 October 2012 19:31 (twelve years ago) link

John Mahoney should be a creeper editor from the Cheever era next season.

pretty even gender split (Eazy), Monday, 15 October 2012 19:33 (twelve years ago) link

frasier / girls crossover needs to happen

fanute da croupier (D-40), Monday, 15 October 2012 19:33 (twelve years ago) link

Niles and Hannah competing for the same job/man.

pretty even gender split (Eazy), Monday, 15 October 2012 19:38 (twelve years ago) link

do we all have to stand up and make it clear that we Disapprove of that photo

I Disapprove of Lena Dunham's Photograph and Tweet

max, Monday, 15 October 2012 19:39 (twelve years ago) link

Yes. I disapprove of that photo and tweet as well.

Girls is still a good show though.

Legendary General Cypher Raige (Gukbe), Monday, 15 October 2012 19:39 (twelve years ago) link

xxxpost college i went to was 50% black / 40% white and self-segregation was a pretty big issue on campus. it fulfills our proud white, liberal undergrad heritage to say lena dunham should follow the grand tenets of Feminist Theory 201 and include minorities, but what's that going to change? we're attacking a symptom and ignoring the problem. "why aren't people of different races more integrated?" "because a TV show on HBO excludes minorities." so if she did include minorities that'd be what, a more pleasing fantasy i guess?

― Spectrum, Monday, October 15, 2012 3:28 PM (11 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

this is a crazy strawman

max, Monday, 15 October 2012 19:40 (twelve years ago) link

Wasnt mlk's letter from a birmingham jail about this xxp

fanute da croupier (D-40), Monday, 15 October 2012 19:41 (twelve years ago) link

since I posted it earlier... that goth/fundie picture was the moment where I just lost it with her, especially when she gave a total non-apology after she was called out for it. In fact, the gist of her apology was pretty much, "sorry bad timing" (the tweet was posted around the same time as the Oak Creek shooting). Which... AGAIN, well done for not only equating all Muslim women who wear veils as "fundamentalists" but also confusing Sikhs with Muslims. UGH.

I was fine with Girls being all white characters, because I don't think minorities should be included just for the sake of it, and it seems kind of accurate anyway that they all just happened to be a bunch of white girls. But LD's attitude towards minorities outside of her work is just massively troubling.

Roz, Monday, 15 October 2012 19:48 (twelve years ago) link

I'm a big Hitchcock fan but etc etc

Legendary General Cypher Raige (Gukbe), Monday, 15 October 2012 19:50 (twelve years ago) link

waiting for her to make spike lee's radar

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 19:52 (twelve years ago) link

maybe she'll get an unflattering cameo out of it like QT in Girl 6

da croupier, Monday, 15 October 2012 19:52 (twelve years ago) link

ta-nehisi coates wrote something a while back about how he loves watching movies from the 30s and 40s but occasionally he starts wondering how many of the ppl he's watching were complete racists.

(The Other) J.D. (J.D.), Monday, 15 October 2012 19:55 (twelve years ago) link

if i didn't bring up the veil tweet earlier i meant to

lex pretend, Monday, 15 October 2012 20:01 (twelve years ago) link

that and the non-apologies and the japan thing all go some way beyond even what i expect from self-entitled white people up their own privilege

lex pretend, Monday, 15 October 2012 20:02 (twelve years ago) link

is lena dunham the JOHN HUGHES of our generation??

― 乒乓, Monday, October 15, 2012 12:09 PM (54 minutes ago) Bookmark

Could explain the "haha Long Duk Dong jokes are so FUNNY" tone of that Japan essay of hers.

Elvis Telecom, Monday, 15 October 2012 20:13 (twelve years ago) link

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/10/25/fashion/lena-dunham-takes-back-her-tweets.html?adxnnl=1&hpw=&adxnnlx=1351177534-tkadL6jCAaBgY7PQejt0xA

Lena Dunham @lenadunham: @bjnovak @mindykaling You guys go as killer Canadian couple Paul Bernardo and Karla Homolka. I’ll be her sister they murdered. Scariest! Luv U

j., Thursday, 25 October 2012 15:39 (twelve years ago) link

lol

Toronto Star calls Lena Durham fatter version of Tina Fey after bad joke about notorious Canadian serial killers bit.ly/RSPnJy

puff puff post (uh oh I'm having a fantasy), Thursday, 25 October 2012 15:41 (twelve years ago) link

Certainly no sexism there!

www.toilet-guru.com (silby), Thursday, 25 October 2012 15:44 (twelve years ago) link

she should rethink her use of social media--this and her "fundamentalist" dress up suggest one of these times her "cute" oversharing is going to hit a collective nerve and have legs

Iago Galdston, Thursday, 25 October 2012 15:47 (twelve years ago) link

i dont know if the homolka thing has a particular terrible resonance in canada but i feel like shes reached this status online as a lightning rod so literally anything she does even vaguely controversial will be blogged abt. like i kinda doubt if she were anyone else anybody would have noticed or cared

max, Thursday, 25 October 2012 16:24 (twelve years ago) link

Jeez, I'll take her over Sarah Silverman any day.

pretty even gender split (Eazy), Thursday, 25 October 2012 17:03 (twelve years ago) link

people in showbiz on social media make Stanley Kubrick look like more of a god every day.

crazy uncle in the attic (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 25 October 2012 17:08 (twelve years ago) link

Jeez, I'll take her over Sarah Silverman any day.
― pretty even gender split (Eazy), Thursday, October 25, 2012 1:03 PM (3 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

i feel like there has been some seismic generational shift between Silverman (Gen X/Y?) and Lena Dunham (ur-millenial). I'm no fan of Silverman, but she always seemed very knowing about what she was doing vis a vis "the boundaries of comedy" as Dunham said in her non-apology tweet to the fundamentalist thing. I don't get the sense that LD's social media faux pas are coming from the same place.

Iago Galdston, Thursday, 25 October 2012 20:12 (twelve years ago) link

a universe where stanley kubrick was god would be fuckin' terrifying.

(The Other) J.D. (J.D.), Thursday, 25 October 2012 20:20 (twelve years ago) link

i can understand maybe where she's coming from. when i was a kid i dressed up as OJ Simpson for halloween, complete with machete duct-taped to a football, which was sadly a hit in my backwater town. i still fight the urge to wear something patently offensive each year. my take is, growing up in the 90s you're educated to be politically correct, and it's fun to thumb your nose at anything you're told you have to do when you're a kid. see also: tosh.0.

Spectrum, Thursday, 25 October 2012 20:21 (twelve years ago) link

It's the 1995 irony vs. 2012 absurdity thing.

pretty even gender split (Eazy), Thursday, 25 October 2012 20:25 (twelve years ago) link

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o6G3nwhPuR4

My initial reaction to this is kind of "PLEASE STOP YOU ARE NOT HELPING"

someone convince me I'm wrong

Knut Horowitz, Able-Bodied Investment Banker and Ladies Man (Hurting 2), Saturday, 27 October 2012 03:41 (twelve years ago) link

thought it was pretty awesome tbh, not least for the hilarious spate of right-wing tweets it inspired.

i really can't imagine any wavering voter being pushed into the romney camp by this.

(The Other) J.D. (J.D.), Saturday, 27 October 2012 03:43 (twelve years ago) link

yeah that ad absolutely MELTED DOWN the right and since i doubt it'll be the hinge of the election i was v grateful for the entertainment

difficult listening hour, Saturday, 27 October 2012 03:45 (twelve years ago) link

I saw Michael Zilkha introduce a screening of Blier's Going Places tonight, and he brought up the similarity between some of the sex scenes in the movie and those on "Girls", with the claim that the latter will feel like a mere time capsule 40 years on while the film will remain unencumbered by such baggage.

So, uh, yeah: DUNHAM IS EVERYWHERE.

50 Shades of Greil (C. Grisso/McCain), Saturday, 27 October 2012 03:57 (twelve years ago) link

weirdly i think that obama ad is the first time i've actually seen her, despite having heard -about- her for a while.

flesh, the devil, and a wolf (wolf) (amateurist), Saturday, 27 October 2012 07:06 (twelve years ago) link

Representing the age group that likely literally learned what a blowjob was via the president...

pretty even gender split (Eazy), Saturday, 27 October 2012 07:53 (twelve years ago) link

she's maybe even too young for that?

flesh, the devil, and a wolf (wolf) (amateurist), Saturday, 27 October 2012 17:35 (twelve years ago) link

that's true of me and she's a year older than me (but i don't pretend to know how lena dunham learned what a blowjob was)

difficult listening hour, Saturday, 27 October 2012 17:38 (twelve years ago) link

2,600 new answers

flesh, the devil, and a wolf (wolf) (amateurist), Saturday, 27 October 2012 21:43 (twelve years ago) link

"What is the number of comments on other Dunham ilx thread before the "Girls" premiere?"

50 Shades of Greil (C. Grisso/McCain), Saturday, 27 October 2012 21:58 (twelve years ago) link

one month passes...

http://gawker.com/5966563/here-is-lena-dunhams-37-million-book-proposal

Mordy, Tuesday, 11 December 2012 14:43 (twelve years ago) link

Can't wait until she's irrelevant. I'm Morbsian in my contempt for her. Maybe I should start calling her Dun.

this will surprise many (Nicole), Tuesday, 11 December 2012 15:17 (twelve years ago) link

lena dumbham

the oral history of (strongo hulkington's ghost dad), Tuesday, 11 December 2012 15:19 (twelve years ago) link

</morbs>

the oral history of (strongo hulkington's ghost dad), Tuesday, 11 December 2012 15:19 (twelve years ago) link

gawker's super-biographical disdain for her is p creepy imo

what is google (schlump), Tuesday, 11 December 2012 16:12 (twelve years ago) link

I associate it purely with John Cook, and yeah, it's not too becoming.

lou reed scott walker monks niagra (chinavision!), Tuesday, 11 December 2012 16:15 (twelve years ago) link

I watched Tiny Furniture yesterday

It was terrible

Dud

quincie, Tuesday, 11 December 2012 16:18 (twelve years ago) link

it kinda reminds me of ironic-bad-taste, when people are aware of the social gravity of making racist jokes or whatever but feel entitled to do it as if they're playing with the form, or meta-commentating on society or something. like ~the point~ is that the open disdain is meant to be amusing, in its unnuanced expression, but it's performing the exact same function as someone just way too personally trash-talking her, using the few tired criticisms of the show as a crutch, i think.

gawker/cook distinction probably otm

what is google (schlump), Tuesday, 11 December 2012 16:44 (twelve years ago) link

i hope so

max, Tuesday, 11 December 2012 16:51 (twelve years ago) link

made a spreadsheet of writers perceived disdain for LD, you're in the clear

what is google (schlump), Tuesday, 11 December 2012 16:52 (twelve years ago) link

Not all messages are displayed: show all messages (666 of them)

Nilmar Honorato da Silva, Tuesday, 11 December 2012 16:53 (twelve years ago) link

tiny furniture was p good I thought, Im disappointed ray didnt win

乒乓, Friday, 14 December 2012 03:54 (twelve years ago) link

gawker's super-biographical disdain for her is p creepy imo

― what is google (schlump), Tuesday, December 11, 2012 11:12 AM (2 days ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

buncha rich white wannabe-writer kids make fun of another rich white actual-writer kid, n o s d obv

乒乓, Friday, 14 December 2012 03:57 (twelve years ago) link

just watched Tiny Furniture, felt like some kind of shitty 90s Eric Stoltz movie

Poli oppa lice style (some dude), Friday, 14 December 2012 04:16 (twelve years ago) link

lol

turds (Hungry4Ass), Friday, 14 December 2012 07:21 (twelve years ago) link

whatever that means

(The Other) J.D. (J.D.), Friday, 14 December 2012 18:45 (twelve years ago) link

three months pass...

http://theaerogram.com/lena-dunham-went-to-india-and-felt-really-sorry-for-all-of-the-stray-dogs/

continuing lols @ lena's ongoing colonial tourism

乒乓, Monday, 18 March 2013 12:41 (eleven years ago) link

That person is not a good reader or writer.

One bad call from barely losing to (Alex in SF), Monday, 18 March 2013 13:11 (eleven years ago) link

well the article isnt online so i cant comment to how accurately it represents the article, but given that japan travel piece she wrote im not willing to give her the benefit of a doubt just yet

乒乓, Monday, 18 March 2013 13:15 (eleven years ago) link

It is now:
http://www.newyorker.com/reporting/2013/03/25/130325fa_fact_dunham

your fretless ways (Eazy), Tuesday, 19 March 2013 05:09 (eleven years ago) link

i thought she went to india. that one's just about dogs.

dylannn, Tuesday, 19 March 2013 05:25 (eleven years ago) link

i love this broad's show but that's a fucking horrible piece of writing.

dylannn, Tuesday, 19 March 2013 05:25 (eleven years ago) link

i feel a weird sense of kinship with her, even though she can definitely put her foot in her mouth sometimes. she lives like a three minute walk from where i grew up (and where my parents still live) and went to high school in that neighborhood.

i know it's a three minute walk because i googlemapped it. lol.

my cat is an eliane radigue (get bent), Tuesday, 19 March 2013 05:57 (eleven years ago) link

three months pass...

‏@lenadunham 2h
I'm passionate about the idea of the first woman mayor. Plus @ChrisCQuinn is tough, results oriented & can handle a City as complex as NY

*fart*

playwright Greg Marlowe, secretly in love with Mary (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 11 July 2013 16:46 (eleven years ago) link

one year passes...

she is interesting!

jaymc, Friday, 12 September 2014 05:40 (ten years ago) link

just watched Tiny Furniture, felt like some kind of shitty 90s Eric Stoltz movie

― Poli oppa lice style (some dude), Thursday, December 13, 2012 10:16 PM (1 year ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

lol

― turds (Hungry4Ass), Friday, December 14, 2012 1:21 AM (1 year ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

whatever that means

― (The Other) J.D. (J.D.), Friday, December 14, 2012 12:45 PM (1 year ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

do you just mean like kicking and screaming?

jaymc, Friday, 12 September 2014 05:42 (ten years ago) link

jesus christ i had to look up that film title not b/c of confusion with the mid-00s will ferrell soccer comedy but b/c of nicole holofcener's walking and talking

jaymc, Friday, 12 September 2014 05:43 (ten years ago) link

saw lena d. on some late-night show the other night & was struck at how much she was performing "lena dunham." that said, i think "lena dunham" is an interesting figure in 2014-era pop culture!

jaymc, Friday, 12 September 2014 05:44 (ten years ago) link

do you just mean like kicking and screaming?

Probably more like Bodies Rest & Motion

Now you're messing with a (President Keyes), Friday, 12 September 2014 18:10 (ten years ago) link

I want to rent her new movie w/ Anna Kendrick by the guy who directed Drinking Buddies.

Kind of suspect I'd like Dunham the actress way more than Dunham the writer/personality.

Kiarostami bag (milo z), Friday, 12 September 2014 18:13 (ten years ago) link

i will continue to like her work, probably, as long as i tune out everything else emanating from her.

son of a lewd monk (Dr Morbius), Friday, 12 September 2014 18:17 (ten years ago) link

was struck at how much she was performing "lena dunham."

in this respect the NYT profile on her was correct in citing Woody Allen as her closest antecedent

Οὖτις, Friday, 12 September 2014 18:22 (ten years ago) link

Performers have public personae! They perform them all the time.

son of a lewd monk (Dr Morbius), Friday, 12 September 2014 18:23 (ten years ago) link

Got tickets to see her talk next month at the Chicago Humanities Festival (tied in with her book release, I think).

the man with the black wigs (Eazy), Friday, 12 September 2014 18:29 (ten years ago) link

Performers have public personae! They perform them all the time.

yes yes. just with her whole neurotic urbane half-assed intellectual NYer schtick

Οὖτις, Friday, 12 September 2014 18:32 (ten years ago) link

and people's seeming inability to separate persona from person

Οὖτις, Friday, 12 September 2014 18:37 (ten years ago) link

I just read a bit of that Japan article she wrote. It bored me quickly.

I guess everything she does seems more interesting if you think everything she does is a joke.

, Friday, 12 September 2014 19:24 (ten years ago) link

Where it's like Woody Allen is "...if you think everything she does is a joke in the face of pain and darkness."

the man with the black wigs (Eazy), Friday, 12 September 2014 19:36 (ten years ago) link

she must feel a lot of pain from travelling so much and see a lot of darkness from her NY penthouse

can't wait for her next euripedean piece

, Friday, 12 September 2014 19:43 (ten years ago) link

euripidean*

, Friday, 12 September 2014 19:44 (ten years ago) link

do you just mean like kicking and screaming?

― jaymc, Friday, September 12, 2014 1:42 AM (14 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

jesus christ i had to look up that film title not b/c of confusion with the mid-00s will ferrell soccer comedy but b/c of nicole holofcener's walking and talking

― jaymc, Friday, September 12, 2014 1:43 AM (14 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

i think you're underestimating how many tedious movies Eric Stoltz has been in.

Holofcener >>>>>>>>>>>>> Dunham

some dude, Friday, 12 September 2014 19:50 (ten years ago) link

from her NY penthouse

tbf this is a pretty great vantage point to observe the scale of the pain and suffering of others

Οὖτις, Friday, 12 September 2014 19:51 (ten years ago) link

she must feel a lot of pain from travelling so much and see a lot of darkness from her NY penthouse

As does Woody, though without the traveling part in his prime. Again, was just saying that's part of where the comparison gets made. Upper East Side existentialists, if you want to call it that.

the man with the black wigs (Eazy), Friday, 12 September 2014 20:15 (ten years ago) link

I got through as much of that NYT Mag profile as I could. She's difficult to read about.

son of a lewd monk (Dr Morbius), Friday, 19 September 2014 16:37 (ten years ago) link

Upper East Side existentialists, if you want to call it that.

― the man with the black wigs (Eazy), Friday, September 12, 2014 8:15 PM (1 week ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Both Allen and Dunham grew up in Brooklyn, where Dunham still lives.

...

Kind of suspect I'd like Dunham the actress way more than Dunham the writer/personality.

― Kiarostami bag (milo z), Friday, September 12, 2014 6:13 PM (1 week ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

I like her more as a writer (on the evidence of her New Yorker piece) than as an actress (based on a previous season or so of the show, which I enjoyed but didn't find enormously compelling). That may simply be a preference for the teen over the adult subject matter, but there's also something about her writing that I find charming, and something about her on-screen affect that I don't quite take to. I'm not sure whether the latter is her failure as an actress, or whether it's an expression of "her" to the extent she is playing herself, but while I like her slightly annoying character well enough, I still find something slightly false about the portrayal; her writing feels realer. I don't know who Dunham "the personality" is, or is supposed to be, and don't find the subject particularly interesting.

I am interested in the somewhat rhetorical question of how many of her fans (or detractors) know of and are interested in her parents' work.

benbbag, Friday, 19 September 2014 18:21 (ten years ago) link

Her mother is a fucking monster (worked with her). Absolutely no surprise that LS spawned LD

Iago Galdston, Friday, 19 September 2014 19:03 (ten years ago) link

Like the retro cover--it looks like something you'd find in a thrift store when you're twenty.

You and Dad's Army? (C. Grisso/McCain), Tuesday, 23 September 2014 19:47 (ten years ago) link

her acting is kinda iffy imo. i don't think it matters most of the time but occasionally she'll bite off way more than she can chew (i.e. the obsessive compulsive tics that suddenly became a major character trait in S2 of Girls).

some dude, Tuesday, 23 September 2014 20:12 (ten years ago) link

I'm interested in reading her book fwiw

difficult-difficult lemon-difficult (VegemiteGrrl), Tuesday, 23 September 2014 20:24 (ten years ago) link

“Confidence lets you pull anything off, even Tevas with socks.”

Thank you, Michiko Kakutani, for leading with a quote referring to some shoe brand I've never heard of. Really fits in with those timeless Parker and Wasserstein quotes.

son of a lewd monk (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 25 September 2014 20:28 (ten years ago) link

Teva is a thirty year old brand fwiw

polyphonic, Thursday, 25 September 2014 20:30 (ten years ago) link

better look than crocs with socks tbf

Spirit of Match Game '76 (silby), Thursday, 25 September 2014 20:33 (ten years ago) link

no factor in my world. xp

son of a lewd monk (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 25 September 2014 20:34 (ten years ago) link

That's so Michio. Always with the obscure fashionista references.

Brio2, Thursday, 25 September 2014 20:50 (ten years ago) link

In a shoeless world, the woman with Tevas and socks is queen

Free Me's Electric Trumpet (Moodles), Thursday, 25 September 2014 21:01 (ten years ago) link

http://annainkyrgyzstan.files.wordpress.com/2014/05/img_0276.jpg

"Hi Dr. Morbs! How are things in your world?"

Free Me's Electric Trumpet (Moodles), Thursday, 25 September 2014 21:07 (ten years ago) link

New Balanced

son of a lewd monk (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 25 September 2014 21:18 (ten years ago) link

oh, another Amanda Palmer:

http://gawker.com/lena-dunham-does-not-pay-1640249043

how's life, Monday, 29 September 2014 14:33 (ten years ago) link

In less than a week, the tour sold around 8,000 tickets, which are selling for $38 at most locations. Tickets include a $28 signed hardcover of “Not That Kind of Girl,” which Random House is releasing on Tuesday.

Not really defending this, but keep in mind it's only about 10 bucks a ticket

i blow goat farts, aka garts for a living (waterface), Monday, 29 September 2014 14:38 (ten years ago) link

she's obv modeling herself on the person she'll be enthusiastically stumping for in 16 months, Hillary WalMart Clinton.

son of a lewd monk (Dr Morbius), Monday, 29 September 2014 14:39 (ten years ago) link

The "free of charge" phrase is a little confusing too. Doesn't that usually refer to a case where a good or service is provided for free to a customer/audience?

how's life, Monday, 29 September 2014 14:42 (ten years ago) link

They're already making a big markup on the book though -- $16.80 on amazon vs. $28 for the signed version. Not to mention it's a promotional tour to help them sell even more books. I agree the tour itself is not some giant profit center -- there are expenses to pay out of that revenue -- but why not throw the opening act a couple hundred bucks a night? Can they not earmark a few thousand dollars for an opening act?

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Monday, 29 September 2014 14:45 (ten years ago) link

And if not, how about don't fucking have one?

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Monday, 29 September 2014 14:46 (ten years ago) link

"A sand artist, a ukulele player, a cappella singers, gymnasts, performance artists and stand-up comics" as opening acts on a book tour is pretty ludicrous.

how's life, Monday, 29 September 2014 14:47 (ten years ago) link

I kind of want to get the job and then do some kind of wild hendrix-style noisy guitar and stage antics set to upstage her

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Monday, 29 September 2014 14:53 (ten years ago) link

That would not upset her

i blow goat farts, aka garts for a living (waterface), Monday, 29 September 2014 15:21 (ten years ago) link

To give her slight benefit of the doubt, she may not be the one personally deciding whether the opening act on her book tour gets paid -- it's not like she booked/arranged the tour herself.

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Monday, 29 September 2014 15:36 (ten years ago) link

she's obv modeling herself on the person she'll be enthusiastically stumping for in 16 months, Hillary WalMart Clinton.

― son of a lewd monk (Dr Morbius), Monday, September 29, 2014 10:39 AM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

how'd you all just let this gem pass you by this is groundbreaking work morbs

linda cardellini (zachlyon), Monday, 29 September 2014 16:33 (ten years ago) link

damn when i saw morbs a few weeks ago he swore he didn't have any hillary nicknames left in the tank

snrub goin up on a tuesday (J0rdan S.), Monday, 29 September 2014 16:35 (ten years ago) link

btw in case you forgot

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/news/hillary-clinton-wal-mart/

I understand Lena will have Kissinger doing some juggling at one of her readings btw, either white phosphorus or napalm.

son of a lewd monk (Dr Morbius), Monday, 29 September 2014 16:42 (ten years ago) link

You're basically just Morbs MadLibs at this point, huh?

Kiarostami bag (milo z), Monday, 29 September 2014 16:48 (ten years ago) link

To give her slight benefit of the doubt, she may not be the one personally deciding whether the opening act on her book tour gets paid -- it's not like she booked/arranged the tour herself.

― my jaw left (Hurting 2), Monday, September 29, 2014 12:36 PM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

yeah this is kinda bumming me out so far & it would be really cool if this was something that ~the conversation~ elicited a change in; so far it is just this, though, so i guess not

schlump, Monday, 29 September 2014 16:51 (ten years ago) link

do not feed the neurotic diva

son of a lewd monk (Dr Morbius), Monday, 29 September 2014 16:54 (ten years ago) link

scrolled through a bunch of her tweets, not very funny

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Monday, 29 September 2014 16:57 (ten years ago) link

looking forward to Girls SVU:Iowa tho

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Monday, 29 September 2014 16:57 (ten years ago) link

This type of nonsense is what makes me watch these personalities less and less (WRT to that Gawker piece).

People gossiping about brangelina, who's getting divorced, and what amazing artists Hollywood pumps out

Where's that humanity's in the gutter thread?

, Monday, 29 September 2014 17:00 (ten years ago) link

Where's that trenchant social commentary thread?

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Monday, 29 September 2014 17:03 (ten years ago) link

That would actually be a great thread, but I would say that.

, Monday, 29 September 2014 17:07 (ten years ago) link

Lena Dunham @lenadunham · 3h 3 hours ago

The fact that Gawker pointed this out really proves Judd Apatow's saying that "a good note can come from anywhere."
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Lena Dunham @lenadunham · 3h 3 hours ago

Some good points were raised and I've ensured that all opening acts will be compensated for their time, their labor and their talents.
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Lena Dunham @lenadunham · 3h 3 hours ago

This feature of the tour was meant to be a way to showcase local talent and I could not be more excited about it.
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Lena Dunham @lenadunham · 3h 3 hours ago

As an artist raised by artists, no one believes more than I do that creators should be fairly compensated for their work.

how's life, Tuesday, 30 September 2014 00:02 (ten years ago) link

r.i.p. lenagate

how's life, Tuesday, 30 September 2014 00:02 (ten years ago) link

don't worry she's still the worst

linda cardellini (zachlyon), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 00:22 (ten years ago) link

the worst what?

son of a lewd monk (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 00:44 (ten years ago) link

the living worst

linda cardellini (zachlyon), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 01:14 (ten years ago) link

the worst hilary clinton fan, morbs

Van Horn Street, Tuesday, 30 September 2014 01:25 (ten years ago) link

Kick 'em when she's up
Kick 'em when she's down
We want Lena Dunham

the man with the black wigs (Eazy), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 01:36 (ten years ago) link

Does anyone want to help throw some deadpan humour her way on Twitter?

I bet she'd respond, that Lena.

, Tuesday, 30 September 2014 02:51 (ten years ago) link

from that Fran Lebowitz interview i posted last week that nobody read:

I don't know Lena Dunham. I always defend her when people say she's not that great. I tell them, "I don't know, I don't care, but let me assure you: the world is full of mediocre men who are stunning successes." She may well not be the most brilliant person that ever lived -- let's say she's not -- but these rejections are misogynistic, pure and simple. When I was that age, I did not watch television. We had sex. We were so promiscuous, we didn't have time to watch television.

son of a lewd monk (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 03:24 (ten years ago) link

There weren't as many channels back then, though

Josefa, Tuesday, 30 September 2014 05:07 (ten years ago) link

She should have tried having sex while watching television.

Kiarostami bag (milo z), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 05:09 (ten years ago) link

http://www.deepfocusreview.com/reviews/images/videodrome5.jpg

Josh in Chicago, Tuesday, 30 September 2014 13:47 (ten years ago) link

ilxr's biggest blow, a lena dunham endorsement

Raccoon Tanuki, Tuesday, 30 September 2014 14:37 (ten years ago) link

Kevin Williamson has thoughts:

Those of us who have been working against various mandates imposed by the Affordable Care Act are as a matter of fact attempting to extricate ourselves from involvement in Lena Dunham’s sex life, the details of which we would gratefully leave to her own idiosyncratic management. It is the so-called Affordable Care Act that has involved us in subsidizing birth control, abortifacients, surgical abortions, and who knows what else, for the strong, powerful, self-actualized American woman who cannot figure out how to walk into Walgreens, lay down the price of a latte, and walk out with her own birth-control pills, no federal intervention necessary. The very conservative editors of this magazine are in fact trying to make it easier for them to do so with over-the-counter birth control. I suspect that Miss Dunham does not know very many conservatives, so allow me to pass along the message: We really, truly, sincerely do not wish to be involved in your sex life.

guess that bundt gettin eaten (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 14:42 (ten years ago) link

The Scream guy? O_o

how's life, Tuesday, 30 September 2014 14:59 (ten years ago) link

Oh, an nro pundit.

how's life, Tuesday, 30 September 2014 15:02 (ten years ago) link

that shitheel must be commended for sticking to the repub pablum despite years of people pointing out that birth control isn't just prescribed for birth control.

A college wearing a sweater that says “John Belushi” (stevie), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 15:11 (ten years ago) link

We really, truly, sincerely do not wish to be involved in your sex life.

dost protest too much, methinks

Οὖτις, Tuesday, 30 September 2014 15:27 (ten years ago) link

weirdly, I can't find this latte-priced birth control on Walgreens' website. There is a $50 morning after pill though.

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 15:56 (ten years ago) link

a venti-sized IUD.

guess that bundt gettin eaten (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 15:58 (ten years ago) link

double-tall caramel abortifaccino no whip for emily

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 16:00 (ten years ago) link

safe, legal and with a pinch of cinnamom

son of a lewd monk (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 16:05 (ten years ago) link

weirdly, I can't find this latte-priced birth control on Walgreens' website. There is a $50 morning after pill though.

Been to Starbucks lately?

Josh in Chicago, Tuesday, 30 September 2014 16:10 (ten years ago) link

Medical student Sameera Raziuddin broke the record for the world's most expensive Starbucks drink with a 60-shot Frappuccino costing $57.75 (after a discount). The 23-year-old's record officially takes the title from caffeine fiend Andrew Chifari, whose famous Sexagintuple Vanilla Bean Mocha Frappuccino cost $54.75.

Josh in Chicago, Tuesday, 30 September 2014 16:10 (ten years ago) link

Pretty sure drinking the above would be akin to the morning after pill.

Josh in Chicago, Tuesday, 30 September 2014 16:11 (ten years ago) link

or the kid would turn out to be Don Knotts

son of a lewd monk (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 16:13 (ten years ago) link

sexagintuple does sound like something birth control related

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 16:14 (ten years ago) link

Frannie presupposes that if Lena were male, this wouldn't happen. I don't think this is what her critics are getting at, however.

, Tuesday, 30 September 2014 17:45 (ten years ago) link

she doesn't really "presuppose" that, she says it

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 18:40 (ten years ago) link

If Lena Dunham were male the frothiness and holier-than-thou tone of the criticism directed at her would be entirely absent.

Spirit of Match Game '76 (silby), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 18:59 (ten years ago) link

∞ can assure you that would not be the case

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 19:00 (ten years ago) link

infinity is right

i blow goat farts, aka garts for a living (waterface), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 19:01 (ten years ago) link

If Lena Dunham were male the frothiness and holier-than-thou tone of the criticism directed at her would be entirely absent.

― Spirit of Match Game '76 (silby), Tuesday, September 30, 2014 2:59 PM (2 minutes ago)

it'd probably look like the PRR thread?

k3vin k., Tuesday, 30 September 2014 19:02 (ten years ago) link

Thought this quip from Hannah Nussbaum last year was otm:

Because such stories exposed the private lives of male intellectuals, they got critiqued as icky, sticky memoir—score-settling, not art. (In contrast, young men seeking revenge on their exes are generally called “comedians” or “novelists” or “Philip Roth.”)

http://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2013/02/11/hannah-barbaric

Spirit of Match Game '76 (silby), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 19:03 (ten years ago) link

well if hannah nussbaum said it who am i to argue

k3vin k., Tuesday, 30 September 2014 19:07 (ten years ago) link

i'm j/k obv LD deals with sexist bullshit her male peers wouldn't have to

k3vin k., Tuesday, 30 September 2014 19:08 (ten years ago) link

The weird thing to me is that one criticism I definitely would not make of Girls is that it's on the whole unfair to men. Adam and Ray are complex and well-drawn characters, and I'm actually impressed by the empathy it shows for them -- there's not much taking down a peg going on, even if it deservedly does that to certain other male characters like Booth Jonathan.

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 19:09 (ten years ago) link

(In contrast, young men seeking revenge on their exes are generally called “comedians” or “novelists” or “Philip Roth.”)

I lol'd

sorta hate Philip Roth

Οὖτις, Tuesday, 30 September 2014 19:20 (ten years ago) link

Booth was obviously a horrible asshole but how exactly was he taken down a peg?

Οὖτις, Tuesday, 30 September 2014 19:21 (ten years ago) link

I find all the males and females on Girls to be rather horrible, but that's fine given the milieu.

Haven't seen Alex Ross Perry's film Listen Up Philip yet, but it might prove to be instructive as to what a contemporary 'male Dunham' Brooklyn filmmaker/satirist look like (Jonathan Pryce plays a Philp Roth figure opp Jason Schwartzman as a young writer).

son of a lewd monk (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 19:28 (ten years ago) link

I find all the males and females on Girls to be rather horrible, but that's fine given the milieu.

otm

Οὖτις, Tuesday, 30 September 2014 19:33 (ten years ago) link

I mean I don't find the show to be "taking revenge" on Adam or Ray, they're not caricatured and they're no worse than the female characters.

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 19:36 (ten years ago) link

It doesn't feel like a portrayal of someone's "shitty ex boyfriend"

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 19:37 (ten years ago) link

yeah that's fair

Οὖτις, Tuesday, 30 September 2014 19:41 (ten years ago) link

it's childish, but then so are many artists.

like, seriously, what does old wilde say about this?

no great artist ever sees things as they really are. if she did, she would cease to be an artist.

and we all know ld is a great artist on account of her large following on her social media accounts.

that's how we measure greatness now, in the 21st c, right?

, Tuesday, 30 September 2014 22:56 (ten years ago) link

i agree w/ the spirit of what hannah nussbaum said but tbf the criticism roth got after portnoy's complaint was much more extreme and hostile than anything that's been directed at lena dunham.

(The Other) J.D. (J.D.), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 23:06 (ten years ago) link

I find that a little hard to believe

Οὖτις, Tuesday, 30 September 2014 23:08 (ten years ago) link

did people complain about his fat ass

Οὖτις, Tuesday, 30 September 2014 23:08 (ten years ago) link

gershom scholem called it 'the book for which all anti-semites have been praying' and compared it to the protocols of the elders of zion.

(The Other) J.D. (J.D.), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 23:14 (ten years ago) link

of course, twitter and tumblr didn't exist back then, so roth obv got spared the worst of it.

(The Other) J.D. (J.D.), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 23:14 (ten years ago) link

The muck and mire of culture was only beginning to ooze when Portnoy was published. It was a shock.

son of a lewd monk (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 30 September 2014 23:51 (ten years ago) link

I bet if Girls had debuted in 1969, the rebbes wd've had a lot to say.

son of a lewd monk (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 1 October 2014 00:00 (ten years ago) link

i still cant believe morbs lived in a world without Tevas.

deej loaf (D-40), Friday, 10 October 2014 09:34 (ten years ago) link

reading her book now, it's great, she really is a compelling and funny writer

ET sippin the wig (spazzmatazz), Friday, 10 October 2014 11:15 (ten years ago) link

I mean I don't find the show to be "taking revenge" on Adam or Ray, they're not caricatured and they're no worse than the female characters.

― my jaw left (Hurting 2), Tuesday, September 30, 2014 3:36 PM (1 week ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

hell, i remember the first time they had Adam and Ray hang out together and it was one of the more enjoyable episodes in the series, i got a twinge of 'wait, is this just another Apatow project where guys are made to seem more fun and funny than girls?'

Raccoon Newsy Wewsies (some dude), Friday, 10 October 2014 11:23 (ten years ago) link

comparing lena dunham's possible treatment of exes in her book and on the show to philip roth's mean, vindictive portrait of his first wife in portnoy's complaint is somewhat laughable

Treeship, Friday, 10 October 2014 12:05 (ten years ago) link

in the case of Roth, this is why i generally try not to give a damn about writers' (or filmmakers') biographies.

this horrible, rotten slog to rigor mortis (Dr Morbius), Friday, 10 October 2014 14:13 (ten years ago) link

*and stay ignorant of them

this horrible, rotten slog to rigor mortis (Dr Morbius), Friday, 10 October 2014 14:13 (ten years ago) link

i just remembered that Girls even made Bobby Moynihan seem like a plausible romantic lead.

Raccoon Newsy Wewsies (some dude), Friday, 10 October 2014 14:46 (ten years ago) link

“Lena Dunham is to adapt Karen Cushman’s 1994 children’s book Catherine, Called Birdy, for the big screen. Speaking at the New Yorker festival in New York, Dunham revealed that she was currently working on a screenplay of the novel, which is set in 1290 England.”

http://www.theguardian.com/film/2014/oct/13/lena-dunham-to-get-medieval-with-film-of-ya-novel-catherine-called-birdy

this horrible, rotten slog to rigor mortis (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 15 October 2014 17:15 (ten years ago) link

fuck yes. after reading her book, i really wanted to see her do more movies/novels outside of the GIRLS universe

ET sippin the wig (spazzmatazz), Wednesday, 15 October 2014 18:28 (ten years ago) link

two weeks pass...

So The National Review has seized upon parts of Dunham's book wherein she describes how, at the age of seven, she...did something bad with her little sister, and other conservative blogs are running with it.

Don A Henley And Get Over It (C. Grisso/McCain), Sunday, 2 November 2014 21:25 (ten years ago) link

She was scheduled to do a book signing at Antwerp's book fair (Belgium) today, but she cancelled at the last moment and had to fly back to the US for a "medical emergency", I just read on the local news sites here.

StanM, Sunday, 2 November 2014 21:32 (ten years ago) link

Jeez! That second link of yours. Please warn next time. 'Register now and get our new book "how liberals violate all ten commandments"' and a video "Are all men rapists?" :-/

StanM, Sunday, 2 November 2014 21:38 (ten years ago) link

I thought the words "Conservative Blog" were warning enough...but, yeah, YIKES.

Don A Henley And Get Over It (C. Grisso/McCain), Sunday, 2 November 2014 21:43 (ten years ago) link

ALSO:

Correction note: This article has been modified to correct a typo in the book excerpt incorrectly listing Dunham’s age as seventeen.

This story changes somewhat when 17 is used instead of 7.

Don A Henley And Get Over It (C. Grisso/McCain), Sunday, 2 November 2014 21:45 (ten years ago) link

this is particularly vile and heinous even by the not-particularly-high standards of the national review.

(The Other) J.D. (J.D.), Sunday, 2 November 2014 21:46 (ten years ago) link

I don't want to form an opinion without reading the chapter in question (no morbs) but from what I've heard about it, it does sound like a weird lack of boundaries for a 7 year old, and not a cute quirky story to tell at all. I may have gotten inaccurate accounts of the story tho. didn't she out her sister against her will to their parents? Just kind of a crap sister tbh

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Monday, 3 November 2014 00:13 (ten years ago) link

tbf most everything dunham has said publically or created artistically on the topic of family relationships strongly suggests she was/is a crap sister

Steve 'n' Seagulls and Flock of Van Dammes (forksclovetofu), Monday, 3 November 2014 00:29 (ten years ago) link

Ok so she describes herself as using the tricks of a sexual predator against her sister in the chapter. Masturbated next to her, "looked inside" her (sort of indistinct, but the description makes it sound like surely she put her fingers inside her),and bribed her with candy to let her kiss her on the mouth for 5 seconds. It's mind boggling to me that she seemingly (from the tone and her responses) thought this was a cute, quirky anecdote

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Monday, 3 November 2014 02:50 (ten years ago) link

"And by the way, if you were a little kid and never looked at another little kid’s vagina, well, congrats to you."

hunangarage, Monday, 3 November 2014 02:57 (ten years ago) link

Thank u lena

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Monday, 3 November 2014 03:32 (ten years ago) link

Tricks of a sexual predator = her words not mine btw

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Monday, 3 November 2014 03:33 (ten years ago) link

Looking forward to woody allen rushing to her defense

Οὖτις, Monday, 3 November 2014 03:59 (ten years ago) link

tbf most everything dunham has said publically or created artistically on the topic of family relationships strongly suggests she was/is a crap sister nut raised in an insane environment.

things lose meaning over time (Dr Morbius), Monday, 3 November 2014 04:18 (ten years ago) link

Is that a defense or

shoot skag listen to sotl (rip van wanko), Monday, 3 November 2014 04:20 (ten years ago) link

tbh I have ~suspicions~ about how those rocks ended up there

resulting post (rogermexico.), Monday, 3 November 2014 05:25 (ten years ago) link

i think she knew how this passage would come across. she describes, at an early age, reacting to vulnerability by being controlling, even exploitative. the implications of this aren't something she shies away from, really, they are implied. it seems like she is being honest, not searching for a cute, quirky anecdote. she's a writer, not just a television celebrity.

Treeship, Monday, 3 November 2014 13:30 (ten years ago) link

Pebbles... In my vagina?

stop looking at me, quan (Whiney G. Weingarten), Monday, 3 November 2014 14:30 (ten years ago) link

Sounds like she grew up in a pretty sexually weird environment, and her tone in describing it betrays the same slight gap in self-awareness that she shows about a lot of other things -- letting you know she "gets it" yet not quite getting it. Her show manages to be good in spite of that character flaw though. I don't think she's Woody Allen, there's still a huge difference between a seven year old preying on a child and an adult preying on a child imo, especially when they're living in an environment where the boundaries aren't clear.

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Monday, 3 November 2014 15:11 (ten years ago) link

oh Christ, the conviction stands huh

things lose meaning over time (Dr Morbius), Monday, 3 November 2014 15:17 (ten years ago) link

Actually, IDK, reading the passage itself disturbs me:

http://www.buzzfeed.com/ryanhatesthis/lena-dunham-responds-to-sex-abuse-claims

It's not just what she did as a "weird seven year old" but the way she glibly describes it, even throwing in "sexual predator" with what she seems to think is irony (because you know, ha ha, it's obviously not ACTUALLY sexual abuse). Wonder how her sister remembers it. Like, I could forgive someone for having that in their past as a regrettable thing, but it's her seeming lack of any real discomfort with it that bothers me.

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Monday, 3 November 2014 16:11 (ten years ago) link

i didn't know til now that dunham outed her sister to her parents. what a dick move.

hurting otm, the way she recounts this weird childhood tale for the wacky edginess of it all ("SO WEIRD") is very grim

lex pretend, Monday, 3 November 2014 16:28 (ten years ago) link

im sure she doesnt remember this particular incident cause she was only 1; im sure she remembers the other stuff tho

and yeah, a one year old stuffing things into her vagina is a huge red flag and a possible sign of sexual abuse. feel like the implications of the story are worse than the actual story, which is already pretty bad tbh

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Monday, 3 November 2014 16:31 (ten years ago) link

i saw an article where grace said something about lena always treating her (grace's) personal life like it was her own property. so fucked up

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Monday, 3 November 2014 16:32 (ten years ago) link

“Basically, it’s like I can’t keep any of my own secrets and I consider Grace to be an extension of me, and therefore I couldn’t handle the fact that she’s a very private person with her own value system and her own aesthetic and that we do different things.”

^^actual dunham quote. again the fact she thinks like this at all makes her a terrible person but the fact that she then BRAGS ABOUT IT IN PUBLIC holy shit i am glad not to have anyone like this in my life

lex pretend, Monday, 3 November 2014 16:35 (ten years ago) link

the way she consistently makes her oversharing and transgressing of others' boundaries seem like a cute quirk...this is her "thing" isn't it, all in the name of "honesty"

lex pretend, Monday, 3 November 2014 16:36 (ten years ago) link

“Basically, it’s like I can’t keep any of my own secrets and I consider Grace to be an extension of me, and therefore I couldn’t handle the fact that she’s a very private person with her own value system and her own aesthetic and that we do different things.”
ok so this has just caught my attention -- i have been trying to put my finger on what bothers me about people like lena dunham (i don't know much about her personally) and that is precisely it
life vultures!

cross over the mushroom circle (La Lechera), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:05 (ten years ago) link

she's nothing but consistent, all of her characters seem to treat other people like bit players in her own story

⌘-B (mh), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:07 (ten years ago) link

fwiw:

Grace Dunham @simongdunham · 5m 5 minutes ago

As a queer person: i'm committed to people narrating their own experiences, determining for themselves what has and has not been harmful
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Grace Dunham @simongdunham · 9m 9 minutes ago

heteronormativity deems certain behaviours harmful, and others "normal"; the state and media are always invested in maintaining that
0 replies 8 retweets 26 favorites

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:07 (ten years ago) link

I think it's possible to agree with that and still be a little grossed out by Lena about this though.

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:08 (ten years ago) link

such a shitty explanation. you consider someone an extension of yourself and think you can do anything you want with them and their life as you would with your own body and life? GET HELP, ASSHOLE xp

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:09 (ten years ago) link

She sounds like she is actually a narcissist, like in the pathological sense.

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:10 (ten years ago) link

the assertion that decrying abuse is heteronormative, and the idea that abusive behaviors should be defined by the amount of harm done according to the survivor - both fucked up imo

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:14 (ten years ago) link

I'm p much against calling a 7yo exploring an infant's body "predatory" or "abuse" - it's definitely sort of weird and not appropriate but kids that age are weird and inappropriate. I blame her parents.

her public persona is absolutely one of a "hilariously" oblivious narcissist. that's the joke.

Οὖτις, Monday, 3 November 2014 17:15 (ten years ago) link

something weird about how she seems to embody both the most negative and positive stereotypes about millenials

shoot skag listen to sotl (rip van wanko), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:16 (ten years ago) link

I'm sure a lot of the right wing backlash is being generated by the slightly ambiguous rape story in the book. Right wing dudes are like bloodhounds for anything that looks remotely like a "false rape accusation." Also I believe the perp is a "campus Republican."

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:18 (ten years ago) link

this could be no big deal to Grace, but behavior that's normal-ish between siblings doesn't mean that it's acceptable as behavior. people normalize all kinds of shit.

⌘-B (mh), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:18 (ten years ago) link

The scene in which she actually looks at her sister's vagina is pretty innocuous, it's really the other stuff combined with that that is more eyebrow raising.

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:19 (ten years ago) link

Masturbated next to her,

wait don't we have a thread about this

Οὖτις, Monday, 3 November 2014 17:22 (ten years ago) link

I'm just baffled that a seven-year-old could be construed as being semantically capable of sexual abuse.

Spirit of Match Game '76 (silby), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:24 (ten years ago) link

its the combo of stuff thats alarming, although putting your fingers in an infants vagina is imo in and of itself alarming/red flag and it was p bad parenting to not question why it happened (which she explicitly states her mom did not do and just removed the pebbles from grace's vagina silently). its just a disturbing-weird story told as if its a quirky-weird story which compounds the disturbing quality

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:26 (ten years ago) link

young kids absolutely sexually abuse younger/other kids

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:27 (ten years ago) link

i haven't read what she wrote but idk what sort of tone you should take when you talk about something horrible + taboo you did to someone else when you weren't old enough to fully understand what you were doing

or should you just not ever talk about it to anyone?

example (crüt), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:33 (ten years ago) link

i feel like this could as easily be innocuous as it could be abusive, idk. my understanding was kids sometimes do this shit?

deej loaf (D-40), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:35 (ten years ago) link

maybe not the tone of a cute anecdote xp

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:36 (ten years ago) link

yeah I don't think that a) Lena's actions were motivated by sexual gratification and b) why they may have not been in the infant's best interests it didn't cause her any mental or physical harm so "sexual abuse" seems like an extreme label

Οὖτις, Monday, 3 November 2014 17:37 (ten years ago) link

i don't think she thinks it was OK of her to see her sister as an extension of herself. i also don't think she is "bragging" about anything wtf. i think she seems reflective, even if she isn't writing it in this overtly apologetic way.

don't disagree that children can sexually abuse other children, and i wouldn't by any means be causal or dismissive about this sort of thing if it happened between children entrusted to my care. but lena's modus operandi is transparent, confessional writing so obviously she is going to share stuff that makes her look awful. that's the point of her art. it seems unfair to seize upon it, as if she is an especially awful person rather than just an especially honest one.

Treeship, Monday, 3 November 2014 17:37 (ten years ago) link

kids do sometimes do this shit and they need to learn that its fucked up or they are going to grow up continuing to violate boundaries - like outing people against their will and failing to see them as autonomous people

i work with 4 year olds and they understand body boundaries and know that you don't pry open other people's vaginas

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:37 (ten years ago) link

feel the need to make it clear this never happened to me, ha, but i feel like her callous retelling of the story/treating people around her she supposedly cares about as material for her 'art' could easily be the more messed up thing about this situation...im not up on the latest child psych or anything but

deej loaf (D-40), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:38 (ten years ago) link

thats another "thats so lena" thing she addresses in her art

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:38 (ten years ago) link

I'm still more nauseated by the angry sexist garbage directed at Lena Dunham than anything she writes

Spirit of Match Game '76 (silby), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:42 (ten years ago) link

(not by ppl in this conversation to be clear)

Spirit of Match Game '76 (silby), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:43 (ten years ago) link

i work with 4 year olds and they understand body boundaries and know that you don't pry open other people's vaginas

yeah this is true, kids learn their boundaries about theirs and others bodies pretty early. I just don't think Lena's violation of this boundary was sexually motivated, more a simple extension of her larger "I have no boundaries" narcissism bullshit.

Οὖτις, Monday, 3 November 2014 17:43 (ten years ago) link

im grossed out by both. one doesnt have to outweigh the other. fucked up shit is fucked up shit

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:45 (ten years ago) link

yeah it's gross. if I was her parent there would have been a very stern talking-to/punishment administered

Οὖτις, Monday, 3 November 2014 17:51 (ten years ago) link

also i think "keep it private" is a good tactic for very personal anecdotes -- but that is my personal opinion and clearly lena d (and lots of other people ) disagree

cross over the mushroom circle (La Lechera), Monday, 3 November 2014 17:57 (ten years ago) link

but lena's modus operandi is transparent, confessional writing so obviously she is going to share stuff that makes her look awful. that's the point of her art. it seems unfair to seize upon it, as if she is an especially awful person rather than just an especially honest one.

it's exactly this sort of justification that most irritates me. just because your artistic MO is to be an awful person doesn't make you any less awful or excuse your behaviour! and "honesty" is pure get-out clause

lex pretend, Monday, 3 November 2014 18:02 (ten years ago) link

Sometimes there is a reason an artistic MO has not previously been employed all that much/successfully.

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Monday, 3 November 2014 18:03 (ten years ago) link

we're friends with a couple who are kind of 'transparent' in this same way and i sense it's a real ego trip for them (and ppl like them i think) to lay it all out there, confessional, 100% unfiltered style. 'aren't we shocking and fascinating' etc. i think it's a subconscious thing though.

LIKE If you are against racism (omar little), Monday, 3 November 2014 18:04 (ten years ago) link

actually i know other people like that too. they're generally the sorts who always hang around like they're posing for a promo teaser poster for a basic cable drama's upcoming third season.

LIKE If you are against racism (omar little), Monday, 3 November 2014 18:05 (ten years ago) link

Sometimes there is a reason an artistic MO has not previously been employed all that much/successfully.

Idk Philip Roth wasn't exactly demure

Spirit of Match Game '76 (silby), Monday, 3 November 2014 18:05 (ten years ago) link

there's a word for these people

Οὖτις, Monday, 3 November 2014 18:05 (ten years ago) link

baby boomers

Treeship, Monday, 3 November 2014 18:06 (ten years ago) link

or at least, the trend toward super confessional writing started in the 60s i think. dunham isn't doing anything new.

Treeship, Monday, 3 November 2014 18:07 (ten years ago) link

Yeah but it's the #nofilter thing that sets her apart, combined with the equally unserious way she treats almost every subject.

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Monday, 3 November 2014 18:09 (ten years ago) link

xp it is totally an ego trip but good writing has come out of it too. to enforce a "keep it private" standard, even through social censure, seems like it would be problematic.

also is she an "awful person" because of this thing she did or because of her method of talking about it as an adult? is it possible to be an awful person at 7 years old? also, whatever boundary issues she had then, are they related to the boundary issues she has now?

Treeship, Monday, 3 November 2014 18:11 (ten years ago) link

yeah it's gross. if I was her parent there would have been a very stern talking-to/punishment administered

― Οὖτις, Monday, November 3, 2014 12:51 PM (18 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

to be fair then she might have grown up to be a lawyer instead of a critically acclaimed millionaire media mogul and auteur, so pick your battles

stop looking at me, quan (Whiney G. Weingarten), Monday, 3 November 2014 18:11 (ten years ago) link

is it possible to be an awful person at 7 years old?

yes. unfortunately.

Οὖτις, Monday, 3 November 2014 18:18 (ten years ago) link

also is she an "awful person" because of this thing she did or because of her method of talking about it as an adult?
the flippant way with which she refers to her serious (at least according to some, me included) intrusions on her sister's body / personal space / personal life are pretty awful to the uninitiated observer / person who doesn't buy into her narcissism as genius thing.

the act of the child was an invasion that should have been dealt with by her parents, but i don't believe it makes her a sexual predator or whatever. i also don't think you should excuse it because it was somehow a brick in the foundation of her as a comedy persona. stuff like this could have been profoundly damaging to her sister (and perhaps was in ways that can't be appropriately gauged) who is a human being with her own rights to her body.

this things i believe (art), Monday, 3 November 2014 18:19 (ten years ago) link

*is pretty awful.

this things i believe (art), Monday, 3 November 2014 18:25 (ten years ago) link

agree with the second part of your statement of course. i don't agree that it was a "flippant' characterization, necessarily. i don't think her show is flippant either.

Treeship, Monday, 3 November 2014 18:26 (ten years ago) link

I guess I should buy this book, at least.

Spirit of Match Game '76 (silby), Monday, 3 November 2014 18:27 (ten years ago) link

also lots of people read this book and nobody was talking about this section until the fucking national review decided to use it to defame her, who they hate because she identifies as a feminist.

Treeship, Monday, 3 November 2014 18:29 (ten years ago) link

if you're tempted to defend her (just) because she's become another rightwing culture war hate object -- don't

caucasity and the sundance kid (goole), Monday, 3 November 2014 18:31 (ten years ago) link

well a lot of the people who buy the book probably buy the 'confessional truth makes everything ok' vibe xp

deej loaf (D-40), Monday, 3 November 2014 18:31 (ten years ago) link

kevin williamson and ben shapiro have a line in constant miserable cruelty. it would have and could have been anybody.

caucasity and the sundance kid (goole), Monday, 3 November 2014 18:32 (ten years ago) link

xp to TS - yeah, flippant was my word given my interpretation of what i read and my admittedly limited exposure to her work.

and i didn't mean you explicitly in the second point, that was mostly a reaction to the notion upthread that if her parents had intervened on her freedom as a child that she wouldn't have become who she is

this things i believe (art), Monday, 3 November 2014 18:33 (ten years ago) link

yeah, i was just fuckin around

obv it's better to be a happy lawyer than a sad celebrity

stop looking at me, quan (Whiney G. Weingarten), Monday, 3 November 2014 18:37 (ten years ago) link

baby boomers

― Treeship, Monday, November 3, 2014 10:06 AM (29 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

or at least, the trend toward super confessional writing started in the 60s i think. dunham isn't doing anything new.

― Treeship, Monday, November 3, 2014 10:07 AM (28 minutes ago)

Sorry, wrong generation.

sarahell, Monday, 3 November 2014 18:40 (ten years ago) link

yeah you're right. even the so-called confessional poets were born in the 20s i think.

Treeship, Monday, 3 November 2014 18:42 (ten years ago) link

Anne Sexton (born 1923)
Sylvia Plath (born 1932)
Jack Kerouac (born 1922)
Allen Ginsberg (born 1926)

super confessional style probably is easiest to lay at the feet of the Beat writers (from the 1950s) and confessional poets like Sexton and Plath (also 1950s)

sarahell, Monday, 3 November 2014 18:43 (ten years ago) link

yeah this seems mostly like a tone problem -- the flippancy of it is off putting but i'm not that offended by what she did when she was 7

the stuff about off putting her sister is really weird and she doesn't seem to do much internal criticism of that beyond explaining why it happened (saw her as an "extension")

J0rdan S., Monday, 3 November 2014 18:45 (ten years ago) link

also lots of people read this book and nobody was talking about this section

maybe the rest is actually more narcissistic, just not as exploitative, so it was overshadowed

⌘-B (mh), Monday, 3 November 2014 18:47 (ten years ago) link

OMG, I'm going to vomit. Wait...parents don't explain sexual abuse to their six- or seven-year-old child? Mine did! Then again, I grew up near a famous red light district and was very clear on what sex ABUSE was. That said, I don't necessarily blame the child for abusing, but decent parenting could have prevented this.

I had a sister eight years younger than me, ergo I KNOW. I had to change her diapers.

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Monday, 3 November 2014 18:52 (ten years ago) link

yeah me too. congrats. different people have different experiences though.

serious, non trolling question: should writers, and memoirists especially, strive to not be narcissistic? if so, why? it seems like that word -- especially its euphemism, "navel gazing" -- is lobbed at any book or art object people don't like or understand.

i understand that as a human it is better -- not just for others, but healthier for oneself -- to be other-centered. but in terms of writing, there's a lot people can discover by examining themselves from lenses other than "how can i be better to others".

Treeship, Monday, 3 November 2014 18:55 (ten years ago) link

parents don't explain sexual abuse to their six- or seven-year-old child?

any decent parent explains to their child that their body is theirs and that nobody else should be touching it pretty much from the time they can talk ime. Dunham has shitty parents.

Οὖτις, Monday, 3 November 2014 18:58 (ten years ago) link

Her memoir style (and I saw her read from it last month) reminds me a lot of David Sedaris, and there's a similar approach to "awful" family and self behavior.

the man with the black wigs (Eazy), Monday, 3 November 2014 19:01 (ten years ago) link

what did david sedaris do wrong?

Treeship, Monday, 3 November 2014 19:03 (ten years ago) link

serious, non trolling question: should writers, and memoirists especially, strive to not be narcissistic? if so, why? it seems like that word -- especially its euphemism, "navel gazing" -- is lobbed at any book or art object people don't like or understand.

I don't think they necessarily should. But I also think a narcissistic person will by definition fail at not being narcissistic. It's like asking a fool not to be foolish.

I do think, especially considering an adult remembering a past memory, should accompany the controversial memory by her present day views on things, to put things in context.

I played the doctor nurse game when 5 or 6. Thinking back that was probably on the edge of what adult me thinks is tolerable for children to do. Hey ho. But if I'd write the memories I have of that down in a book, I'd write it from my adult perspective and 'value' it in a moral way. I've not read Dunham's book so am not comfortable judging her, not knowing if she did this or not.

a pleasant little psychedelic detour in the elevator (Amory Blaine), Monday, 3 November 2014 19:05 (ten years ago) link

serious, non trolling question: should writers, and memoirists especially, strive to not be narcissistic?

I think people should strive to be genuine in their autobiographical writing, and they should strive to not be narcissists irl

⌘-B (mh), Monday, 3 November 2014 19:18 (ten years ago) link

i think beyond "not being narcissistic" they should specifically aim not to exploit the experiences of other people for their own gain
that means making sure it's ok if you're going to tell the world about something that involves another person
this is my personal opinion and where i draw the line, but i also think that people who poach other people's experiences for their own benefit are 1) gross and 2) if they do it for the sake of art, they might lack imagination

cross over the mushroom circle (La Lechera), Monday, 3 November 2014 19:21 (ten years ago) link

"LIKE SOME FUCKING BLACK MAGICIAN"

difficult listening hour, Monday, 3 November 2014 19:25 (ten years ago) link

i think beyond "not being narcissistic" they should specifically aim not to exploit the experiences of other people for their own gain

some people's experiences should be exploited for one's own gain, if they fucked you over or something

sarahell, Monday, 3 November 2014 19:26 (ten years ago) link

maybe for some people
i'm not even sure i feel that way myself -- it's a really subjective thing (and i'm admittedly really conservative in this regard, which is why i tend to avoid people like LD irl)

cross over the mushroom circle (La Lechera), Monday, 3 November 2014 19:30 (ten years ago) link

seems about right

Οὖτις, Monday, 3 November 2014 19:41 (ten years ago) link

Yeah

Spirit of Match Game '76 (silby), Monday, 3 November 2014 19:46 (ten years ago) link

i'm not even sure i feel that way myself -- it's a really subjective thing (and i'm admittedly really conservative in this regard, which is why i tend to avoid people like LD irl)

― cross over the mushroom circle (La Lechera), Monday, November 3, 2014 2:30 PM (19 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

i think your views make sense and i also avoid people who i know like to divulge personal information about their friends to other people. this happened to me recently and i was taken aback. i think grace dunham green lighted this book though, and also that in the case of literature it is tough because so many books -- good books -- have been written that cross those kinds of boundaries. not just autobiography, but veiled autobiographical fiction. where it becomes "exploitation" seems hard to determine.

Treeship, Monday, 3 November 2014 19:54 (ten years ago) link

xpost

Really? Seems like some incredibly weak arguments are being made in that piece. "You're a liar because I said so, dummy!" and blaming the backlash entirely on her lack of penis is laughable, to say the least. I get that people are using this to bash someone they already hate, but sometimes a nut is just a nut. Her morbid retelling of stories involving her sister and how manipulative she can be towards her for affection and dependency would raise all of the red flags if this was Woody Allen talking about his childhood.

Cousin Slappy, Monday, 3 November 2014 20:04 (ten years ago) link

how is this situation comparable to woody allen's situation at all?

Treeship, Monday, 3 November 2014 20:07 (ten years ago) link

also lena dunham clearly receives scorn and backlash for being a woman all the time. more than any other female celebrity i can think of.

Treeship, Monday, 3 November 2014 20:09 (ten years ago) link

- talk about touching younger sister's vagina
- talk about masturbating in bed with younger sister
- talk about "tricking" younger sister into kissing her/lying on her
- compare above to sexual predator behaviour
- act surprised when people have obvious reaction

gyac, Monday, 3 November 2014 20:10 (ten years ago) link

It's not and that's not what I was doing. I just mentioned him as an example of a writer/director with a penis who shares a similar aesthetic. Lena get's crapped on all the time, yeah, but that doesn't mean some of the crit isn't valid. She's said and done things that make her sound like an awful human being and it's undeniable she likes to court attention, positive or negative. She's also aware of how critical and unfair society is to women, especially female celebs, so why in the hell would she think it a good idea to include this anecdote, let alone use that phrasing? Claiming this is about her being a woman is red-herring bs.

Cousin Slappy, Monday, 3 November 2014 20:22 (ten years ago) link

jesus

Treeship, Monday, 3 November 2014 20:24 (ten years ago) link

regardless of how well or poorly that article is argued, there's a definite schadenfreude to the reactions of longtime LD haters that is a little unbecoming, like they knew all along she was a secret molester or something

deej loaf (D-40), Monday, 3 November 2014 20:24 (ten years ago) link

She's also aware of how critical and unfair society is to women, especially female celebs, so why in the hell would she think it a good idea to include this anecdote, let alone use that phrasing? Claiming this is about her being a woman is red-herring bs.

― Cousin Slappy, Monday, November 3, 2014 12:22 PM (2 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Fuck this noise

Spirit of Match Game '76 (silby), Monday, 3 November 2014 20:25 (ten years ago) link

it's undeniable she likes to court attention

this is even grosser imo

Treeship, Monday, 3 November 2014 20:28 (ten years ago) link

It pretty much comes back to the same problem I always have with her, that she is "self-aware" in a meta/intelligent sort of way but does not actually seem self-aware on an emotional level. I still like her writing and I don't think she is a pedophile. Not about to boycott Girls over this.

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Monday, 3 November 2014 20:37 (ten years ago) link

I would just like to say that roxy and lex have been otm itt

owe me the shmoney (m bison), Monday, 3 November 2014 21:15 (ten years ago) link

actually, it's about ethics in book journalism

stop looking at me, quan (Whiney G. Weingarten), Monday, 3 November 2014 21:18 (ten years ago) link

it's undeniable she likes to court attention

this is even grosser imo

I think that's maybe the most uncontroversial and value-free thing you could say about anyone who opts to be a celebrity.

Thereby Creating Humor (Old Lunch), Monday, 3 November 2014 21:20 (ten years ago) link

No it's a hairs-breadth from "she was asking for it by dressing so slutty"

Spirit of Match Game '76 (silby), Monday, 3 November 2014 21:25 (ten years ago) link

lena dunham published a disturbing story in which she compared her actions to that of a child molester, to which some people responded "actually i think you did molest a child." while you can debate whether that's fair, i don't think people saying "what did you expect?" in this circumstance are like people saying "what did you expect" after an assault

da croupier, Monday, 3 November 2014 21:33 (ten years ago) link

‏@lenadunham
I told a story about being a weird 7 year old. I bet you have some too, old men, that I'd rather not hear. And yes, this is a rage spiral.

jfc

Van Horn Street, Monday, 3 November 2014 21:36 (ten years ago) link

she told more than one story, btw

'I shared a bed with my sister, Grace, until I was seventeen years old</b>. She was afraid to sleep alone and would begin asking me around 5:00 P.M. every day whether she could sleep with me. I put on a big show of saying no, taking pleasure in watching her beg and sulk, but eventually I always relented. Her sticky, muscly little body thrashed beside me every night as I read Anne Sexton, watched reruns of SNL, sometimes even as I slipped my hand into my underwear to figure some stuff out.'

As Grace grew, I took to bribing her for her time and affection: one dollar in quarters if I could do her makeup like a 'motorcycle chick.' Three pieces of candy if I could kiss her on the lips for five seconds. Whatever she wanted to watch on TV if she would just 'relax on me.' Basically, anything a sexual predator might to do woo a small suburban girl I was trying. Maybe, I thought, she would be more willing to accept kisses if I wore the face mask my grandmother had for when she did her dialysis. (The answer was no.) What I really wanted, beyond affection, was to feel that she needed me, that she was helpless without her big sister leading her through the world."

"I took perverse pleasure in delivering bad news to her—the death of our grandfather, a fire across the street—hoping that her fear would drive her into my arms, would make her trust me

gyac, Monday, 3 November 2014 21:40 (ten years ago) link

the irony of that tweet is that she's acknowledging one might be repulsed by stories about being a weird seven year old even if one has their own. "you're as guilty as me, maybe more, but don't tell me cuz ew"

da croupier, Monday, 3 November 2014 21:41 (ten years ago) link

Weird adult was weird kid.

Spirit of Match Game '76 (silby), Monday, 3 November 2014 21:42 (ten years ago) link

I am actually frightened by people who present similar behavior to Dunham.

Van Horn Street, Monday, 3 November 2014 21:45 (ten years ago) link

ok I was only vaguely familiar with Lena Dunham's "thing" but i get it now. yeesh

example (crüt), Monday, 3 November 2014 21:46 (ten years ago) link

She is basically a bully. That was the word I was looking for so long.

Van Horn Street, Monday, 3 November 2014 21:48 (ten years ago) link

Not to be all "shut up and sing," but if Shonda Rimes or Paul Thomas Anderson have wacky stories, they put it into their work and avoid these things.

the man with the black wigs (Eazy), Monday, 3 November 2014 21:49 (ten years ago) link

People criticized her show for lacking POC (it's Brooklyn, a fair argument in my opinion) and she responded by having goddam Glover being a republican asshole/useless character/fuck buddy for 3 episodes, after which Lena's obviously triumph over the situation (he liked guns! what a wacko lol). That should have been the red flag: she won't take no as an answer at al.

Van Horn Street, Monday, 3 November 2014 21:51 (ten years ago) link

i liked her and defended her until this, despite the bullshit white feminism crap
i cant deal w/ the shit about unrepentantly outing her sister

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Monday, 3 November 2014 21:53 (ten years ago) link

i didnt defend her white feminism bs, just to be clear. defended her against body critics and other stupid sexist crap

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Monday, 3 November 2014 21:55 (ten years ago) link

can't believe it took the national for people to wake up about this, how many people read this and didn't mind at all?

Van Horn Street, Monday, 3 November 2014 22:05 (ten years ago) link

yo have you ever read stephen king's It

da croupier, Monday, 3 November 2014 22:06 (ten years ago) link

Um, presumably her family, editors, several dozen reviewers... xp

Spirit of Match Game '76 (silby), Monday, 3 November 2014 22:06 (ten years ago) link

I know ILM loves to hate the national but jeez xxp

, Monday, 3 November 2014 22:06 (ten years ago) link

first tao lin, now this

where are all the wholesome obnoxiously confessional terrible person on paper millennial artists

franklin, Monday, 3 November 2014 22:09 (ten years ago) link

Hannah did not triumph over Glover in that storyline, she looked like an ass. As is frequently the case on Girls.

Chris L, Monday, 3 November 2014 22:09 (ten years ago) link

I said Lena not Hannah.

Van Horn Street, Monday, 3 November 2014 22:11 (ten years ago) link

Hey you guys are being totally unfair what about the Hispanic doorman that Shoshanna had sex with

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Monday, 3 November 2014 22:13 (ten years ago) link

Glover's character was not worse than any of the other characters. If she introduced one black character and had him be perfect that would be more racist and dehumanizing, bc humans in her universe are flawed and selfish

Treeship, Monday, 3 November 2014 22:14 (ten years ago) link

at least other white characters had the benefit of being useful to the storyline or even present.

Van Horn Street, Monday, 3 November 2014 22:16 (ten years ago) link

Glover didn't really bother me. Hannah's mishandling of their relationship was p funny.

useful? storyline? this is a show with the thinnest of plot arcs

Οὖτις, Monday, 3 November 2014 22:17 (ten years ago) link

when anyone *announces* their "rage spiral" to millions i suggest firing your fucking therapist and becoming a Catholic

things lose meaning over time (Dr Morbius), Monday, 3 November 2014 22:19 (ten years ago) link

If only she'd responded to her critics by letting them direct the show entirely

deej loaf (D-40), Monday, 3 November 2014 22:19 (ten years ago) link

Man that tweet really was the worst. Everybody back up, Lena Dunham has an emotion!

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Monday, 3 November 2014 22:20 (ten years ago) link

Lol I like to know what shape people's emotions take

It gave me a laughter triangle

deej loaf (D-40), Monday, 3 November 2014 22:21 (ten years ago) link

how old are you people

Spirit of Match Game '76 (silby), Monday, 3 November 2014 22:26 (ten years ago) link

7

Οὖτις, Monday, 3 November 2014 22:30 (ten years ago) link

you consider someone an extension of yourself and think you can do anything you want with them and their life

― jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Monday, November 3, 2014 12:09 PM (5 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

hmm

benbbag, Monday, 3 November 2014 22:48 (ten years ago) link

guilty lols

example (crüt), Monday, 3 November 2014 22:48 (ten years ago) link

Kids masturbate at age 7?

benbbag, Monday, 3 November 2014 22:49 (ten years ago) link

no

Οὖτις, Monday, 3 November 2014 22:53 (ten years ago) link

yo have you ever read stephen king's It

― da croupier

yeah there is some...interesting shit in there

LIKE If you are against racism (omar little), Monday, 3 November 2014 22:55 (ten years ago) link

best selling book of 1986

da croupier, Monday, 3 November 2014 22:55 (ten years ago) link

Kids masturbate at age 7?

― benbbag, Monday, November 3, 2014 10:49 PM (6 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink


Not that I'm defending Lena Dunham, but:

Claim One (explicit): Fetuses masturbate. It turns out that in a much-cited 1987 letter published in the Journal of Ultrasound in Medicine called “Sonographic observation of in utero fetal masturbation,” Dr. Israel Meizner reported seeing a fetus behaving “in a fashion resembling masturbation movements” over the course of 15 minutes. “To the best of our knowledge, this is the first report of a fetal ‘masturbation’ in utero,” said Meizner. OK. So that’s one case. Anything else? Actually, there is! In 1996 two Italian doctors published a letter (“Ultrasonographic observation of a female fetus’ sexual behavior in utero”) in the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology in which they described observing a fetus making “masturbation movements.”

http://www.salon.com/2013/06/20/the_science_of_masturbating_fetuses/

, Monday, 3 November 2014 22:57 (ten years ago) link

apparently she also said that 'TMI' is a sexist expression.

Van Horn Street, Monday, 3 November 2014 22:57 (ten years ago) link

Ok so she describes herself as using the tricks of a sexual predator against her sister in the chapter. Masturbated next to her, "looked inside" her (sort of indistinct, but the description makes it sound like surely she put her fingers inside her),and bribed her with candy to let her kiss her on the mouth for 5 seconds. It's mind boggling to me that she seemingly (from the tone and her responses) thought this was a cute, quirky anecdote

― jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Monday, 3 November 2014 02:50 (20 hours ago) Permalink

This is what I posted on the FB link of a friend who was decrying the media's reaction to this, back in the morning: "First I'm hearing about this. First gut reaction - without really knowing everything about the larger reaction to the reveal - is "why put this in your memoir at all"?"

RAP GAME SHANI DAVIS (Raymond Cummings), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:03 (ten years ago) link

Like, really, no-one needed to know this.

I don't know. I'm not a Lena stan or hater - I've never watched Girls and am not particularly interested in her whole trip, but this ain't gonna be the thing that makes me want to explore her art, and I suspect that others on the fence will feel the same way.

RAP GAME SHANI DAVIS (Raymond Cummings), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:05 (ten years ago) link

do I have to post this quote again

'I shared a bed with my sister, Grace, until I was seventeen years old. She was afraid to sleep alone and would begin asking me around 5:00 P.M. every day whether she could sleep with me. I put on a big show of saying no, taking pleasure in watching her beg and sulk, but eventually I always relented. Her sticky, muscly little body thrashed beside me every night as I read Anne Sexton, watched reruns of SNL, sometimes even as I slipped my hand into my underwear to figure some stuff out.'

went on well past the age of 7

gyac, Monday, 3 November 2014 23:06 (ten years ago) link

Is that 17 the one that garnered the typo correction from the right-wing blog, or is that in the book?

the man with the black wigs (Eazy), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:08 (ten years ago) link

that ... is weird but doesn't sound like she was actually touching her sister sexually.

deej loaf (D-40), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:08 (ten years ago) link

ALSO:

Correction note: This article has been modified to correct a typo in the book excerpt incorrectly listing Dunham’s age as seventeen.
This story changes somewhat when 17 is used instead of 7.

― Don A Henley And Get Over It (C. Grisso/McCain), Sunday, November 2, 2014 9:45 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

the man with the black wigs (Eazy), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:08 (ten years ago) link

'it continued' -- their weird relationship and her manipulative behavior, yes. but touching her sister inappropriately, apparently not

deej loaf (D-40), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:08 (ten years ago) link

Correction note: This article has been modified to correct a typo in the book excerpt incorrectly listing Dunham’s age as seventeen.
This story changes somewhat when 17 is used instead of 7.

http://31.media.tumblr.com/8e3408fa0ecf161f19afe66c65baedc4/tumblr_needai8Xu31qd6pzuo2_r1_500.png

gyac, Monday, 3 November 2014 23:11 (ten years ago) link

and according to this it probably wasn't inappropriate touching: http://www.safersociety.org/uploads/WP075-DoChildren.pdf

Questions about relationships and sexual behavior, menstruation and pregnancy. Experimentation with same-age children, often during games, kissing, touching, exhibitionism and role-playing. Private self stimulation. u ncommon: Adult-like sexual interactions, discussing specific sexual acts or public self stimulation.

deej loaf (D-40), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:12 (ten years ago) link

you probably should have read the excerpt before you quoted it.

Experimentation with same-age children

gyac, Monday, 3 November 2014 23:13 (ten years ago) link

Thanks, gyac - wasn't sure which was in the printed version.

the man with the black wigs (Eazy), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:17 (ten years ago) link

but regardless none of her behavior crosses into the threshold of 'adult-like sexual interactions, discussing specific sexual acts or public self stimulation'

and while the age diff is somewhat out of the ordinary i dont entirely think her sister's tweet is wrong either, about pathologizing childhood behavior

i don't get why she included it bc i think she's stuck to this absurd idea of 'total honesty' that doesn't allow for, you know, selective candor ... and it's totally something that i imagine I would, were i a parent who was aware of it, use as an opportunity to explain boundaries. but im not exactly convinced this is a sex crime or something ... its self-revealing but more about the flaws in her artistic process (and in her personal relationships)

deej loaf (D-40), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:18 (ten years ago) link

would your reaction be the same if that paragraph was written by adam driver

da croupier, Monday, 3 November 2014 23:21 (ten years ago) link

RE:The Correction Note

They mistakenly cited the pebble incident as happening when Lena was 17.

Don A Henley And Get Over It (C. Grisso/McCain), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:21 (ten years ago) link

i guess what i'm resisting in the criticisms here is: 1. the obvious misogynist critics who were waiting for any chance to shit on her & hints of impropriety like this provide a really awesome opening, because who doesn't hate a child molester? and 2. i think one should be very careful about jumping to conclusions when it comes to children's 'sexual' behavior considering the extremely fine and arbitrary line between 'normal' and 'abnormal' and 'abusive' / witch hunt potential etc

deej loaf (D-40), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:22 (ten years ago) link

idk, I'm not really interested about discussing when it is or isn't ok to touch a one year-old child's vagina, or examining exactly why people feel the need to defend this behaviour so strongly.

gyac, Monday, 3 November 2014 23:22 (ten years ago) link

"defend this behaviour"

"so strongly"

deej loaf (D-40), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:24 (ten years ago) link

"behaviour"

deej loaf (D-40), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:25 (ten years ago) link

D-40 otm

Treeship, Monday, 3 November 2014 23:29 (ten years ago) link

dunham has received tons of misogynist criticism and kevin d williamson may well have not bothered to read a memoir by a male writer/director, but as far as the non-rightwing blogosphere goes if a dude wrote about doing this shit to a little sister it seems quite plausible the criticism would be even more vociferous. can't imagine jezebel would look the other way if word got out Josh Radnor was saying this shit.

da croupier, Monday, 3 November 2014 23:31 (ten years ago) link

again, fully acknowledging word might not get out if Josh Radnor put this in a memoir - see Stephen King's It.

da croupier, Monday, 3 November 2014 23:31 (ten years ago) link

It is a novel.

I actually agree with that and if ld was a man i might feel different about this/him but i'm not sure i'd be right

Treeship, Monday, 3 November 2014 23:34 (ten years ago) link

fwiw i like her show, but i'm not really a cult-of-lena person. i'm more making a semantic point about how this story is circulating. per friends of mine who have kids, i don't think a lot of people realize there is a 'normal' range of childhood 'sexual behavior' , no paedo. i'm not exactly on expert on how her circumstance shakes out—for ex., a person's 'honest account' could easily be self-serving even if she thinks it's not—but jumping to conclusions (esp when there's plenty around this to criticize her over) seems premature

deej loaf (D-40), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:35 (ten years ago) link

If you're not consenting "playing doctor", it isn't cute and normal. How much of this "experimenting" being defended is one-sided? Why does no one acknowledge a child's experience of NOT wanting their privates touched?

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:35 (ten years ago) link

Kids masturbate at age 7?
― benbbag, Monday, November 3, 2014 10:49 PM (6 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Not that I'm defending Lena Dunham, but:
Claim One (explicit): Fetuses masturbate. It turns out that in a much-cited 1987 letter published in the Journal of Ultrasound in Medicine called “Sonographic observation of in utero fetal masturbation,” Dr. Israel Meizner reported seeing a fetus behaving “in a fashion resembling masturbation movements” over the course of 15 minutes. “To the best of our knowledge, this is the first report of a fetal ‘masturbation’ in utero,” said Meizner. OK. So that’s one case. Anything else? Actually, there is! In 1996 two Italian doctors published a letter (“Ultrasonographic observation of a female fetus’ sexual behavior in utero”) in the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology in which they described observing a fetus making “masturbation movements.”
http://www.salon.com/2013/06/20/the_science_of_masturbating_fetuses/

― ∞, Monday, November 3, 2014 5:57 PM (15 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

this is bunk. fetuses can't masturbate any more than they can feel pain. there has to be consciousness or else it's meaningless

k3vin k., Monday, 3 November 2014 23:37 (ten years ago) link

One diff. being when a six-year-old boy wants to marry his little sister. Although six-year-olds know they're not supposed to do that.

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:37 (ten years ago) link

a 1yo has no concept of their "privates" really

xp

Οὖτις, Monday, 3 November 2014 23:37 (ten years ago) link

Wait are we arguing about the behavior described in the story or that she told the story at all, at this point?

Spirit of Match Game '76 (silby), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:38 (ten years ago) link

Nobody is saying this is harmless. It's just that it's hard to hold a 7 yr old culpable for transgressing boundaries they might not understand. Lena may of may not still be confused about what those experiences mean, or in denial about how they affected her sister, but all of that is different than being a child molester which is what the NRO want to brand her as.

Treeship, Monday, 3 November 2014 23:38 (ten years ago) link

Sorry xp to i m losted

Treeship, Monday, 3 November 2014 23:38 (ten years ago) link

this is bunk.

lol @ fetal "masturbation movements" have you ever seen a fetus move before they do all kinds of random shit

Οὖτις, Monday, 3 November 2014 23:39 (ten years ago) link

Treeship otm

Οὖτις, Monday, 3 November 2014 23:39 (ten years ago) link

wait I thought I agreed with Treeship and not with Shakey itt what's going on

Spirit of Match Game '76 (silby), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:43 (ten years ago) link

lol

deej loaf (D-40), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:45 (ten years ago) link

Kids masturbate at age 7?
― benbbag, Monday, November 3, 2014 10:49 PM (6 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Not that I'm defending Lena Dunham, but:
Claim One (explicit): Fetuses masturbate. It turns out that in a much-cited 1987 letter published in the Journal of Ultrasound in Medicine called “Sonographic observation of in utero fetal masturbation,” Dr. Israel Meizner reported seeing a fetus behaving “in a fashion resembling masturbation movements” over the course of 15 minutes. “To the best of our knowledge, this is the first report of a fetal ‘masturbation’ in utero,” said Meizner. OK. So that’s one case. Anything else? Actually, there is! In 1996 two Italian doctors published a letter (“Ultrasonographic observation of a female fetus’ sexual behavior in utero”) in the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology in which they described observing a fetus making “masturbation movements.”
http://www.salon.com/2013/06/20/the_science_of_masturbating_fetuses/

― ∞, Monday, November 3, 2014 5:57 PM (15 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

this is bunk. fetuses can't masturbate any more than they can feel pain. there has to be consciousness or else it's meaningless

― k3vin k., Monday, 3 November 2014 23:37 (4 minutes ago) Permalink

You're saying to feel pleasure, one needs to have a certain level of consciousness? If so, how do you explain observing animals that feel pleasure when performing a particular action? (Sexual or not)

It's a tricky subject and one I would not come to a definitive conclusion so simply.

, Monday, 3 November 2014 23:46 (ten years ago) link

well regardless according to that booklet i linked upthread:

Preschool (0 to 5 yrs.)
Common: Sexual language relating to
differences in body parts, bathroom talk,
pregnancy and birth. Self stimulation
at home and in public. Showing and
looking at private body parts.

deej loaf (D-40), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:48 (ten years ago) link

This is absolutely the weirdest, ickiest celebrity-related rabbit hole (no pun I swear to God) in recent memory.

RAP GAME SHANI DAVIS (Raymond Cummings), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:48 (ten years ago) link

this discussion is going weird places and i feel like ive learned a lot bc i wanted to argue on the internet, but about something i really dont need to know at this moment in my life

oh well

deej loaf (D-40), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:49 (ten years ago) link

lol xp

deej loaf (D-40), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:49 (ten years ago) link

Woody Allen?

Treeship, Monday, 3 November 2014 23:49 (ten years ago) link

Xp to raymond

Treeship, Monday, 3 November 2014 23:49 (ten years ago) link

Yeah, agreed, Woody Allen was the last one.

RAP GAME SHANI DAVIS (Raymond Cummings), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:50 (ten years ago) link

I'm not trying to beat up on kids, but some of what adults publish is bunk. Big diff betw. "showing" and "looking". Too often adults are too immature to deal when kids abuse other kids. Kids 3-6 are not to young to remember abuse, tho. What's really bad is that bullying kids don't keep it to themselves, the whole neighborhood, incl. stupid adults, finds out.

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:52 (ten years ago) link

At least Dunham writes about it like it IS fucked up. There are lots of stories in memoirs where people think it's amusing. Or at least unhurtful.

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:54 (ten years ago) link

Yeah we should protect kids from other kids but also be mindful not to demonize kids who do things that seem abomidable to us. They are kids too. They don't understand the world very well yet

Treeship, Monday, 3 November 2014 23:56 (ten years ago) link

did you guys see the paragraph above where she follows the reveal that she'd masturbate next to her sister in bed by comparing her sister to a hot-water bottle

da croupier, Monday, 3 November 2014 23:56 (ten years ago) link

she may have been seven for the pebble business, but i'm pretty sure a seven year old wasn't reading anne sexton next to a one year old who'd pleaded to sleep with her

da croupier, Monday, 3 November 2014 23:57 (ten years ago) link

we'll all have our perspective on just how gross to find lena dunham, but how can you read that paragraph and begrudge someone finding her gross

da croupier, Monday, 3 November 2014 23:58 (ten years ago) link

there is ... literally nothing wrong with sleeping next to your sibling and reading anne sexton.

deej loaf (D-40), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:59 (ten years ago) link

and while the age diff is somewhat out of the ordinary i dont entirely think her sister's tweet is wrong either, about pathologizing childhood behavior

this isn't how i read her sister's tweets. she(? idk if grace identifies as female so apologies if this pronoun is wrong) frames it in terms of heteronormativity (and tbh the tweets are complete gibberish); she's clearly rationalizing the behavior of her longtime abuser. without knowing more about their specifics than what's been linked itt, it seems pretty textbook

k3vin k., Monday, 3 November 2014 23:59 (ten years ago) link

i mean idk, ive never read anne sexton, is she problematic

deej loaf (D-40), Monday, 3 November 2014 23:59 (ten years ago) link

that's really cute d-40 did you read the paragraph

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:00 (ten years ago) link

deej have you read any of the links in this thread

k3vin k., Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:00 (ten years ago) link

probably not or i guess he would have said "lol what's wrong with snl reruns amirite"

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:01 (ten years ago) link

I'm literally trying to imagine the family dinner-table conversations about this book prior to publication and...can't.

RAP GAME SHANI DAVIS (Raymond Cummings), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:01 (ten years ago) link

this isn't how i read her sister's tweets. she(? idk if grace identifies as female so apologies if this pronoun is wrong) frames it in terms of heteronormativity (and tbh the tweets are complete gibberish); she's clearly rationalizing the behavior of her longtime abuser. without knowing more about their specifics than what's been linked itt, it seems pretty textbook

― k3vin k., Monday, November 3, 2014 5:59 PM (5 seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

how is that 'clearly' what she's doing? this is a true statement. it serves a good function in some cases of abuse! but (what treeship said)

Grace Dunham @simongdunham · 7h 7 hours ago
heteronormativity deems certain behaviours harmful, and others "normal"; the state and media are always invested in maintaining that

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:01 (ten years ago) link

Anne Sexton molested her daughter

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:01 (ten years ago) link

that's really cute d-40 did you read the paragraph

― da croupier, Monday, November 3, 2014 6:00 PM (1 minute ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

the part about her masturbating next to her sister seems pretty weird. as does their strange manipulative relationship. im not questioning that it's 'weird'

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:03 (ten years ago) link

Doing abominable things is NOT "part of being a kid". Why SOME do it, I don't know, but most children do not beat up other kids, punch them or do other horrible things.

The reason we shouldn't overreact to abusive behavior is so that a very young person doesn't think they are doomed to be "bad". They can change their behavior at that age. They shouldn't have to live with guilt if they do change.

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:04 (ten years ago) link

How is that different from what I said?

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:05 (ten years ago) link

we're not talking about a seven year old we're talking about a twenty-eight year old glibly writing about her dysfunctional-to-abusive relationship with her sister, with multiple anecdotes throughout their life

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:06 (ten years ago) link

Except, I guess I don't think the kids who do bad stuff don't do it because they are morally worse people. They don't have the faculty to make rational, ethical decisions. They're different than adults.

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:07 (ten years ago) link

that sexton business kind of puts a spin on how i was originally reading this

this things i believe (art), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:08 (ten years ago) link

If it happened why shouldn't she write about it?

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:08 (ten years ago) link

Xp da croupier.

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:09 (ten years ago) link

we're not talking about a seven year old we're talking about a twenty-eight year old glibly writing about her dysfunctional-to-abusive relationship with her sister, with multiple anecdotes throughout their life

― da croupier, Monday, November 3, 2014 6:06 PM (1 minute ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

doesn't sound like you're arguing with me in that case ... although seeing as neither of us have read the book .. is it glib?

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:09 (ten years ago) link

she could exercise a little tact in writing about a bunch of events that could very well have had a profoundly negative influence on her sister's life

this things i believe (art), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:09 (ten years ago) link

If it happened why shouldn't she write about it?

― Treeship, Monday, November 3, 2014 6:08 PM (1 minute ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

this is where we differ ... there are plenty of very good reasons

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:09 (ten years ago) link

If I'm not totally repulsed by the excerpts under discussion, is there something wrong with me? Am I abusing Grace Dunham by proxy?

Spirit of Match Game '76 (silby), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:12 (ten years ago) link

alright as d-40 isn't sure whether "i liked having my sister next to me while i masturbated, she was like a water bottle" is glib (but hey, he already ignored the masturbation bit for a cute anne sexton lol), and treeship doesn't seem to know what the word glib means (why else pretend my complaint is simply that she's writing about it?) i'm gonna tap out

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:13 (ten years ago) link

the anne sexton bit was one you singled out.

i think it's fair to say that one should probably read the book for context instead of paragraphs snippeted out by conservative websites and sent sailing around social media to determine if she actually is being 'glib'

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:14 (ten years ago) link

did you guys see the paragraph above where she follows the reveal that she'd masturbate next to her sister in bed by comparing her sister to a hot-water bottle

― da croupier, Monday, November 3, 2014 11:56 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

she may have been seven for the pebble business, but i'm pretty sure a seven year old wasn't reading anne sexton next to a one year old who'd pleaded to sleep with her

― da croupier, Monday, November 3, 2014 11:57 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

we'll all have our perspective on just how gross to find lena dunham, but how can you read that paragraph and begrudge someone finding her gross

― da croupier, Monday, November 3, 2014 11:58 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

there is ... literally nothing wrong with sleeping next to your sibling and reading anne sexton.

― deej loaf (D-40), Monday, November 3, 2014 11:59 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:14 (ten years ago) link

basically all i have to say

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:15 (ten years ago) link

it was a response to this post

she may have been seven for the pebble business, but i'm pretty sure a seven year old wasn't reading anne sexton next to a one year old who'd pleaded to sleep with her

― da croupier, Monday, November 3, 2014 11:57 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

you're implying 'sleep with her' like she meant she wanted to fuck her

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:17 (ten years ago) link

i felt that was misleading

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:17 (ten years ago) link

and upthread had already said the part about her masturbating next to her sister was weird

definitely ready to tap out of this whole conversation myself at this point, though

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:18 (ten years ago) link

you admitted the masturbation thing was weird after i advised you read the paragraph, after the portion in question

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:19 (ten years ago) link

'it continued' -- their weird relationship and her manipulative behavior, yes. but touching her sister inappropriately, apparently not

― deej loaf (D-40), Monday, November 3, 2014 5:08 PM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

so, no

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:21 (ten years ago) link

I think that if dunham thinks her dysfunctional relationship with her sister is an important part of who she is then it makes sense to write about it in a memoir. Sorry this is circling back to an earlier point

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:23 (ten years ago) link

sure.

though just to be clear, all i was imply by the word "sleep" was the word "sleep," and the absurdity of anyone thinking the word seventeen in that paragraph was a typo based on the remainder of the paragraph

xpost sure.

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:24 (ten years ago) link

the question isn't whether it makes sense, but whether there could be repercussions for other people in her life, other than herself

xp

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:24 (ten years ago) link

deej is "weird" the euphemism you most commonly use for "emotionally/sexually abusive" or is there a particular reason we're using the kid gloves here

k3vin k., Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:25 (ten years ago) link

Okay, so now this thing is exploding on the Internet. Way to push creepergate 2014 out of the way. Read the "pebbles" story in its full context, I have some sympathy for LD even though this is bullying behavior. Her mom should have shown her one of those drawings they use in Health class, it would have deterred her from committing an abuse.

Still, ICK. I so don't want to read that.

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:26 (ten years ago) link

i suspect she was not sexually abusive when she was 17, if that's what you're asking xp

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:27 (ten years ago) link

I mean, maybe people didn't read it - LD "wanted to see what it looked like". Self-abuse, too - publishing this stuff about yourself.

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:28 (ten years ago) link

emotionally abusive ... she makes it sound like it ... but now we're all psychotherapists deciding who is 'normal' and who isnt, def seems appropriate

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:28 (ten years ago) link

Yep

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:44 (ten years ago) link

Sorry but I have to play this disgusting tweet also: https://twitter.com/emilygould/status/529425645361590272

ENVY OF HER PRIVILEGE

take that poc

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:59 (ten years ago) link

Post not play obv

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 00:59 (ten years ago) link

Wow this National Review bullshit has really gotten some traction.

One bad call from barely losing to (Alex in SF), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 01:03 (ten years ago) link

yeah I don't even know what's going on anymore

Spirit of Match Game '76 (silby), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 01:04 (ten years ago) link

"transparent envy of her career and privilege"

Um, NO.

RAP GAME SHANI DAVIS (Raymond Cummings), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 01:04 (ten years ago) link

At least NR is appropriately evil here. I wouldn't expect anything else from them. Entertaining, robust debate I must say.

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 01:05 (ten years ago) link

as Ian Bogost has mentioned on Twitter, people weren't meant to talk to each other this much

Spirit of Match Game '76 (silby), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 01:08 (ten years ago) link

or memoir before they're 30

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 01:12 (ten years ago) link

Not all of us are old enough to relate to being 30.

Spirit of Match Game '76 (silby), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 01:15 (ten years ago) link

not all of us are afraid to hear what people have to say

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 01:15 (ten years ago) link

bah sorry, that was kinda nonsensical. basically just mean i think that bogost thing is dumb.

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 01:18 (ten years ago) link

so was my post about not being 30 so I think we're square

Spirit of Match Game '76 (silby), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 01:18 (ten years ago) link

Whether or not you think Lena Dunham is appropriate or boundary respecting, I'd say any dialogue that begins with accusations her of being a sexual predator is pretty much one not worth having.

One bad call from barely losing to (Alex in SF), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 01:26 (ten years ago) link

Nobody accused her of that, the article in question just quoted the text in which Dunham compared herself as a sexual predator.

Van Horn Street, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 01:39 (ten years ago) link

i think calling her a "sexual abuser" given her age at the time is probably unhelpful, yeah. but it sounds like a lot of this qualifies as abuse/bullying and her sister's defense of her on twitter seems like pretty textbook abuser protecting. and her attitude toward it now in retrospect is...probably not normal or healthy

k3vin k., Tuesday, 4 November 2014 01:49 (ten years ago) link

I was being severely bullied as a kid and can't count how many times the bully just needed to come across as being honest to get away with it. Once he said 'yeah I was being a jerk' he was exonerated, worst still he was the suddenly one having problems and whatnot, suddenly he was the one with issues that needed to be dealt with and basically I was once again relegated to the background, it's the constant attention seeking that made him win. I guess it's okay, we each learn how to deal with those things as we grow up but christ at age 28 I wish Dunham could have a little more self-criticism about it, it's okay to show yourself as being gross in the past (who wasn't) and yes that could be material for good jokes still but when the only punchline is 'lol i have issues who doesn't' it brings me back there. Maybe that's a purely non rational way of seeing it and in this case I'm sorry but I needed to express that.

Van Horn Street, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 01:50 (ten years ago) link

i think calling her a "sexual abuser" given her age at the time is probably unhelpful, yeah. but it sounds like a lot of this qualifies as abuse/bullying and her sister's defense of her on twitter seems like pretty textbook abuser protecting. and her attitude toward it now in retrospect is...probably not normal or healthy
--k3vin k.

Say what? I don't read her sister's response that way at all.

One bad call from barely losing to (Alex in SF), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 01:53 (ten years ago) link

i think calling her a "sexual abuser" given her age at the time is probably unhelpful, yeah. but it sounds like a lot of this qualifies as abuse/bullying and her sister's defense of her on twitter seems like pretty textbook abuser protecting. and her attitude toward it now in retrospect is...probably not normal or healthy

― k3vin k., Monday, November 3, 2014 7:49 PM (4 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

i don't think you can say it's definitely not 'abuser protecting' but ... you can't say it is, either. what she said is true; someone in denial could say that stuff, but so might someone who doesn't feel they've been abused

and, what she thinks might not even be germane bc she might not KNOW how she's been affected.

but the point is, i dont think its fair to say its 'textbook abuser protecting'

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 01:55 (ten years ago) link

also those are tweets and we have no idea how honest they are being so i wouldn't read too much into that.

Van Horn Street, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 01:56 (ten years ago) link

the victim is usually one of the less reliable source to understand a bully's behavior, also.

Van Horn Street, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 01:58 (ten years ago) link

maybe i'm reading it totally wrong but i can't even make sense of what she's saying.

Grace Dunham @simongdunham · 9h 9 hours ago
heteronormativity deems certain behaviours harmful, and others "normal"; the state and media are always invested in maintaining that

i have no idea what "heteronormativitity" has to do with the response to what's detailed in dunham's book and elsewhere.

k3vin k., Tuesday, 4 November 2014 01:58 (ten years ago) link

btw "her attitude" = lena's

k3vin k., Tuesday, 4 November 2014 01:59 (ten years ago) link

I compared her to Sedaris earlier because, similarly, his humor comes from bringing the reader slowly into a situation, often a family story, that moves from normal to grotesque. Reading a climactic paragraph of his about, what, jizzing in a sibling's hair or something, would be very different from getting there by reading from the start.

the man with the black wigs (Eazy), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 02:00 (ten years ago) link

bc pathologizing of behaviors that the mainstream determines are not 'normal' has a not proud history of oppressing for example gay people

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 02:02 (ten years ago) link

xp

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 02:02 (ten years ago) link

I have little doubt the New Republic's only editorial interest in this story is merely to throw mud at a celebrity who strongly and publically identifies as a liberal. That is a shitty position, regardless of how one views Lena Dunham's revelations about her seven-year old sexual activities with her sister. The NR is, if anything, victimizing the sister yet again for their own political purposes.

So, hats off to the semi-official organ of conservative intellectualism! Huzzah!

(btw, I deliberately chose not to GIS "organ of conservative intellectualism")

oh no! must be the season of the rich (Aimless), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 02:04 (ten years ago) link

I read her sister's response, too. I'm sure that because it belongs to HER, it is easier for her not to dwell on it. However, it's the former 7-year-old in me (also with a baby sister) who is nonetheless disgusted.

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 02:08 (ten years ago) link

You mean the National Review, not the New Republic

benbbag, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 02:09 (ten years ago) link

It's a little more aggressive than "playing doctor" and other excuses I've seen.

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 02:09 (ten years ago) link

Yes, National Review. (smacks self)

oh no! must be the season of the rich (Aimless), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 02:11 (ten years ago) link

Sorry but I have to play this disgusting tweet also: https://twitter.com/emilygould/status/529425645361590272

ENVY OF HER PRIVILEGE

take that poc

― jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, November 4, 2014 12:59 AM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

this is what gawker's obsession with her is about tho, right? That's always how I've taken it.

Matt Armstrong, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 02:12 (ten years ago) link

I have little doubt the New Republic's only editorial interest in this story is merely to throw mud at a celebrity who strongly and publically identifies as a liberal. That is a shitty position, regardless of how one views Lena Dunham's revelations about her seven-year old sexual activities with her sister. The NR is, if anything, victimizing the sister yet again for their own political purposes.

The writer in question, Kevin D. williamson, has been dumping on Dunham a bit as of late.

http://www.nationalreview.com/corner/390591/lena-dunham-and-barry-kevin-d-williamson

And there is another piece about voting that I can't find right now wherein he harps to savage extent on her liberalness.

Don A Henley And Get Over It (C. Grisso/McCain), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 02:14 (ten years ago) link

Nobody accused her of that, the article in question just quoted the text in which Dunham compared herself as a sexual predator.
--Van Horn Street

Isn't the title of the article in question "Lena Dunham describes sexually abusing her sister"?

One bad call from barely losing to (Alex in SF), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 02:16 (ten years ago) link

this is what gawker's obsession with her is about tho, right? That's always how I've taken it.

― Matt Armstrong, Monday, November 3, 2014 8:12 PM (6 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

emily gould hasn't worked there in several years iirc

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 02:20 (ten years ago) link

Emily Gould is straight up making fun of "social justice warrior womanists" for their response to this - as if womanist is a corny tumblrism and not a term invented by women of color who felt excluded by white feminism

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 02:27 (ten years ago) link

bc pathologizing of behaviors that the mainstream determines are not 'normal' has a not proud history of oppressing for example gay people

― deej loaf (D-40), Monday, November 3, 2014 9:02 PM (54 minutes ago)

sure but the statement makes no sense in this particular context. these things are very clearly not normal and it's not simply a matter of wearing straight ppl goggles

k3vin k., Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:01 (ten years ago) link

Whoa. Being gay is normal. Looking at your one year old sister's vagina to see what it looks like is, like, controlling, domineering behavior.

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:08 (ten years ago) link

She was 7 years old.

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:17 (ten years ago) link

Do you guys know how young 7 is? That child is not the same person who today, as a 28 y/o is writing about it. And unless you've read the book I don't know how you can determine that her attitude toward thjs is incorrect or not reflective enough. In terms of her later controlling relationship with her sister, from what i can tell she is interrogating that in her book, not saying it is good. But even if you don't accept that -- which is fine -- the weird adult behavior (outing her sister, even the masturbation anecdote) is not molestation, and the issue is that people are accusing her of sexually abusing her sister. That is such a serious charge.

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:22 (ten years ago) link

And the right wing attempts to brand her as a deviant is totally sbout heteronormativity as well as misogyny.

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:25 (ten years ago) link

You can like her or not like her or think she is creepy or whatever but please think about where this narrative is coming from. If other corners of the internet who disliked her for other reasons have seized on this too, i'm sorry but they are being opportunistic, even if most of the rest if their critique of her is valid

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:27 (ten years ago) link

Dunham has spent the last year, in her political pronouncements, being a tool of Christine Quinn and Andrew Cuomo. She's about as liberal as Hillary Rodham.

things lose meaning over time (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:31 (ten years ago) link

(I know people's definition of "liberal" is generally built around gay rights and abortion, the only two issues that matter -- bombs away and call my stockbroker!)

things lose meaning over time (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:33 (ten years ago) link

She's preferable to the guy who started this, who once said that women who get abortions should be hanged.

There are imperfect, compromised figures and then there is the right wing. The latter hate lena dunham for very shitty reasons.

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:34 (ten years ago) link

saying that we have to "take sides" is kind of facile, dude

k3vin k., Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:34 (ten years ago) link

i feel like this conversation will go in the right direction now

Clay, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:35 (ten years ago) link

you can refuse to participate in (and actively denounce) the obviously sexist right-wing campaign against her without refusing to acknowledge that some of this shit and her attitude about it is pretty messed up xp

k3vin k., Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:36 (ten years ago) link

sure but the statement makes no sense in this particular context. these things are very clearly not normal and it's not simply a matter of wearing straight ppl goggles

― k3vin k., Monday, November 3, 2014 9:01 PM (33 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

there was a time when being gay was "very clearly not normal"...

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:37 (ten years ago) link

deej...

k3vin k., Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:38 (ten years ago) link

Emily Gould is straight up making fun of "social justice warrior womanists" for their response to this - as if womanist is a corny tumblrism and not a term invented by women of color who felt excluded by white feminism

― jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Monday, November 3, 2014 8:27 PM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

yeah that was completely absurd

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:38 (ten years ago) link

anyway a bunch of dudes debating this at 1030 at night probably isn't the best look so imma call it a night

k3vin k., Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:38 (ten years ago) link

The headlines about this say stuff like "dunham responds to sexual abuse allegations" not "let's take a look, together, at some of the problematic ways dunham framed sensitive topics in her book". The sexist smear campaign is the issue.

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:39 (ten years ago) link

deej...

― k3vin k., Monday, November 3, 2014 9:38 PM (4 seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

i'm not saying they're equivalent dude. this is about where society decides to draw lines about moral behavior & accusing a child of being a sexual abuser is, again, a serious charge to level at someone!

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:39 (ten years ago) link

^^^^^^^^

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:40 (ten years ago) link

Oh great hunangarage is here

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:44 (ten years ago) link

hungry for hunan

things lose meaning over time (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:47 (ten years ago) link

ok i finally get what the heck lena's being defended from - that this is one of those "does committing an act that can be described as racist/sexist/abusive/etc make you a racist/sexist/abuser/etc" things

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:49 (ten years ago) link

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rijpU5yD55I

benbbag, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:54 (ten years ago) link

This is turning into another thing I regret even trying to form an opinion about

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:58 (ten years ago) link

heh

jaymc, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 04:01 (ten years ago) link

ok i finally get what the heck lena's being defended from - that this is one of those "does committing an act that can be described as racist/sexist/abusive/etc make you a racist/sexist/abuser/etc" things

― da croupier, Monday, November 3, 2014 9:49 PM (34 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

i mean, sort of, if the question is about a memorialist writing about when they were a child

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 04:24 (ten years ago) link

"She didn't resist" is a particularly weird phrase for lena to use in this passage

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 05:15 (ten years ago) link

If other corners of the internet who disliked her for other reasons have seized on this too, i'm sorry but they are being opportunistic, even if most of the rest if their critique of her is valid

otm. People who already hated LD have been depressingly quick to follow the conservative blogosphere's lead here.

Re-Make/Re-Model, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 11:00 (ten years ago) link

Don't think so. For all of it's flaws, the Democratic Party is supposed to be the party of the unions, the working people.

As an urbanite, I've gotten into far too many arguments with artiste types about not publicly misrepresenting left politics, or outright misunderstanding them.

I understand the left criticism of someone like Dunham. We don't need any more urban wealthy artists attaching themselves to political candidates.

I mean, you go to these people's houses and they read "On Our Backs" and have bondage gear lying around then they support Hillary Clinton and other lukewarm liberals...because they oppose the EVIL ONES, the fundamentalist right that oppresses white women.

This is not the way to win elections. NRO criticized Dunham - they've done far worse to less fortunate people. You write a confessional memoir and then you attach yourself to liberal politics - fair game. Is NR supposed to quit publishing?

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 14:48 (ten years ago) link

wat

resulting post (rogermexico.), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 16:06 (ten years ago) link

I'm not exactly sure what that post is getting at, but Lena Dunham is quite clearly shaking out to be a centrist Clintonite democrat at the core, not a leftist in any sense.

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 16:09 (ten years ago) link

I mean, you go to these people's houses and they read "On Our Backs" and have bondage gear lying around then they support Hillary Clinton and other lukewarm liberals

Oh, THOSE people

Re-Make/Re-Model, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 16:22 (ten years ago) link

Is NR supposed to quit publishing?

let us pray

Οὖτις, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 16:24 (ten years ago) link

huh

kissaroo and Tyler, too (DJP), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 17:11 (ten years ago) link

people, people, if we're talking about her, Lena Wins.

things lose meaning over time (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 17:15 (ten years ago) link

pretty sure no one is winning here

Steve 'n' Seagulls and Flock of Van Dammes (forksclovetofu), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 17:29 (ten years ago) link

the Democratic Party is supposed to be the party of the unions, the working people.

let me introduce you to 1992.

things lose meaning over time (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 17:31 (ten years ago) link

I think this whole thing is a good example of the inadequacy of twitter to certain situations

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 17:32 (ten years ago) link

certain situations?

Nhex, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 17:33 (ten years ago) link

I didn't say Dunham was "leftist", I'm not sure how you read that. Urbanites, controversial artists - they are read as "left" by everyone else.

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 17:58 (ten years ago) link

Feminism is, at root, a left movement.

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 17:58 (ten years ago) link

i mean, i don't think of her as a political figure but as a cultural one. the NR hate her because she doesn't conform to their narrow definitions of what women should be like. this whole thing started with their attempt to brand her as a deviant.

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 18:19 (ten years ago) link

they trolled this board good

Οὖτις, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 18:22 (ten years ago) link

honestly, to someone like williamson, she is a deviant already. just by being lena dunham, being naked on TV and violating expectations for what women should be like in public. i don't think she is a radical, transgressive figure, but it's clear why she is a lightning rod for the right. we should not participate in their narrative.

centrist democrats are bad fwiw. this issue isn't about that.

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 18:23 (ten years ago) link

also with the "white feminist" criticism, it seems to me that she is literally the only person to be criticized for things like having a show with a mostly white cast. why is she held to this uniquely high standard?

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 18:25 (ten years ago) link

No one who has been given a mass media franchise of his/her own can be defined as a radical, transgressive figure. But when you consider that Dan Quayle made political hay with evangelicals by decrying Murphy Brown in his basic stump speech for months on end, Lena Dunham is nothing but red meat for the reactionary right.

oh no! must be the season of the rich (Aimless), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 18:31 (ten years ago) link

it isnt their narrative

woc activists have stayed calling her out for shit

to say that they are just picking up on this thread is erasure

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 18:35 (ten years ago) link

she is not the only person taken to task for this, come on dude

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 18:35 (ten years ago) link

from the daily beast article:

“A Black woman could not have written what Lena did. She would not have the space to argue context. She would not have anyone championing her. She would certainly not be given some benefit of the doubt about childhood exploration because Black people’s innocence is often denied, even when we’re 7.”

this is an important observation. but the response shouldn't be to subject lena dunham to the same intolerance a hypothetical black lena dunham would face. the way to even it out is to defend black women when their stories are received in racist, uncharitable ways.

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 18:39 (ten years ago) link

also i think the critiques of her not paying performers for her book tour and making insensitive comments to rolling stone and elsewhere are fundamentally different from the calls to brand her as an abuser. the latter seems vicious and unfair.

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 18:40 (ten years ago) link

you seriously dont think that outing someone against their will is abusive behavior?

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 18:43 (ten years ago) link

Treeship you are Lena Dunham and I claim my 5

resulting post (rogermexico.), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 18:43 (ten years ago) link

it seems to me that she is literally the only person to be criticized for things like having a show with a mostly white cast it seems to me that she is literally the only person to be criticized for things like having a show with a mostly white cast it seems to me that she is literally the only person to be criticized for things like having a show with a mostly white cast it seems to me that she is literally the only person to be criticized for things like having a show with a mostly white cast it seems to me that she is literally the only person to be criticized for things like having a show with a mostly white cast it seems to me that she is literally the only person to be criticized for things like having a show with a mostly white cast it seems to me that she is literally the only person to be criticized for things like having a show with a mostly white cast it seems to me that she is literally the only person to be criticized for things like having a show with a mostly white cast it seems to me that she is literally the only person to be criticized for things like having a show with a mostly white cast

bippity bup at the hotel california (Phil D.), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 18:44 (ten years ago) link

Treeship have you ever heard of shows called Friends or Saturday Night Live

bippity bup at the hotel california (Phil D.), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 18:44 (ten years ago) link

she often seems like she's on some "I'm not a sociopath I'm just honest" shit

LIKE If you are against racism (omar little), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 18:44 (ten years ago) link

Just to name two

bippity bup at the hotel california (Phil D.), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 18:44 (ten years ago) link

Also pretty much every show on television ever

bippity bup at the hotel california (Phil D.), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 18:45 (ten years ago) link

there weren't massive twitter campaigns urging people to "stop excusing" lorne michaels and seizing upon sexual assault allegations derived from mendacious readings of his memoir by right wing extremists in order to brand him as a shit human being.

this is going beyond interrogating some of the problematic aspects of her as a public figure. it's about condemning her. it doesn't feel like the kind of culture i want to be a part of.

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 18:52 (ten years ago) link

O I C, my bad, I thought the phrase "literally the only person to be criticized for things like having a show with a mostly white cast" meant something else, carry on

bippity bup at the hotel california (Phil D.), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 18:55 (ten years ago) link

do you think just maybe there's been some outcry from activists because lena's bullshit is so celebrated as #strongcourageouswomanhood and feminism, unlike say that of lorne michaels?!

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 18:55 (ten years ago) link

Yes, her most strident high-profile fans, with their spats with women of colour, their puff pieces on how she's redefining feminism, etc, seem to poison the tone of the conversation more than her actual work does.

Wristy Hurlington (ShariVari), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:02 (ten years ago) link

I don't really consider her a feminist in any meaningful way tbh

Οὖτις, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:04 (ten years ago) link

in general, chronic narcissists are not really concerned w causes that extend beyond themselves

Οὖτις, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:05 (ten years ago) link

Oh good, here's the bit (again) where we get to decide who is or isn't a feminist.

Re-Make/Re-Model, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:06 (ten years ago) link

i'm not familiar with the degree to which she's courted this designation as a figurehead for feminism. to me she is the creator of the show GIRLS which is very different from other shows on tv, partly because she is a young women and young women rarely get that kind of artistic control in the world of film or television.

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:07 (ten years ago) link

she has said and done things that are not good and that i don't agree with, but i am sort of uncomfortable with demands that she be a perfect ambassador for feminism. it seems like too much to put on a creative writer. also, phil D she is clearly subject to a unique amount of scrutiny due to the fact that she occupies a unique niche in the culture. and at least from the right, there is sexism to this but i think also people in general are more comfortable critiquing her than they would a male television auteur. this isn't even debatable for me, it seems obvious.

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:10 (ten years ago) link

see? shes a #strongwoman and therefore should be called out for racism or anything else fucked up, to call her out is anti-feminist and right wing!

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:11 (ten years ago) link

people in general are more comfortable critiquing her than they would a male television auteur.

imagine, if you will, a male television auteur writing a memoir in which he detailed prying open his little sister's vagina

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:12 (ten years ago) link

or masturbing next to a sister six years his junior, who he then compares to a hot water bottle

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:13 (ten years ago) link

there weren't massive twitter campaigns urging people to "stop excusing" lorne michaels and seizing upon sexual assault allegations derived from mendacious readings of his memoir by right wing extremists in order to brand him as a shit human being.

there's an irony in defending lena dunham for feminist reasons while suggesting that feminists who've long chafed at dunham's narcissistic indifference to the pain and sensitivities of others are only responding to the right-wing perception of dunham's work and not the work itself

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:13 (ten years ago) link

^^^^^^^^^^YES

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:15 (ten years ago) link

that piece otm

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:22 (ten years ago) link

Dunham seems "troublingly averse to adult reflection on her life." That's the root of the careless language, the sloppily assembled memory: that's a matter of the upbringing that made her as successfully self-absorbed as she is

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:22 (ten years ago) link

She's apologized for all the misguided comments she's made and also was reflective when discussing how she in the past failed to respect her sister's agency. Maybe she's a "bad person" but idk what to do with that. Should all writers be good people? Much of her writing is about working through difficult issues and personal shortcomings. I'd imagine many other people who don't share as much of themselves are worse.

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:23 (ten years ago) link

i do prefer LD to Lorne Michaels; at least she didn't try to turn Rudy Giuliani into a comedian.

things lose meaning over time (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:24 (ten years ago) link

youre not hearing a lot of what is being said

xp

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:25 (ten years ago) link

I guess i disagree that her unapologetic confessionalism in her writing is equivalent to disavowing responsibility as a human. This is a difficult issue i agree and it's also a running theme on the show.

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:25 (ten years ago) link

Regardless of the degree of truth in what she's written in the book, or said in interviews, I think it would be wise to consider all of it part of Her Act. Whether it's an act you can tolerate, or need to limit your exposure to, is an individual matter.

things lose meaning over time (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:30 (ten years ago) link

or masturbing next to a sister six years his junior, who he then compares to a hot water bottle

― da croupier, Tuesday, November 4, 2014 1:13 PM (16 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

This is misleading again ... She compares her to a hot water bottle not right after masturbaying it years later in writing s memoir where she's trying to make a weird experience seem even weirder

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:31 (ten years ago) link

Sorry iPhone corrections

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:31 (ten years ago) link

sorry, once again this "misleading" is unintentional. pretend i put the word "describing" between "or" and "masturbating"

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:32 (ten years ago) link

not that anyone has expressed actual confusion

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:32 (ten years ago) link

as a member of the patriarchy, can i just say i'm glad we were able to find several new and exciting ways to tear this young woman down as a result of this book excerpt

sleepingbag, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:35 (ten years ago) link

oh ps i left out a word

i meant see? shes a #strongwoman and therefore should not be called out for racism or anything else fucked up, to call her out is anti-feminist and right wing!

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:38 (ten years ago) link

(timely)

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:38 (ten years ago) link

I am curious what roxy and, I guess, da croup think of the jezebel piece. I'm not pro "all confession is good confession" w Lena any more than w alt lit or Tao Lin. But I think jia makes important delineations in that piece

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:41 (ten years ago) link

xxxpost oh no ilx has become the national review

franklin, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:41 (ten years ago) link

actually people, especially woc feminists, have been talking about her fuckedupedness since wayyy (like years) before the NR piece, but ty for more erasure of that

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:42 (ten years ago) link

i'm sure the many people discussing how this reminded of them of their own childhood abuse experiences can also fall back into the comforting warmth of the patriarchy

gyac, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:44 (ten years ago) link

lol'd when I came home yesterday and my wife had just gotten this book from the library - gonna be a fun read!

Οὖτις, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:45 (ten years ago) link

Kids masturbate at age 7?

― benbbag, Monday, November 3, 2014 5:49 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

no

― Οὖτις, Monday, November 3, 2014 5:53 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Yes. And younger. Children can orgasm that young too.

Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:46 (ten years ago) link

i'm glad she acknowledges the problems people have with dunham's work precede these pull-quotes, and i sympathize with people who worry about the tossing around of phrases like "sexual abuser" even if i'm not as concerned about the reputation of people who play glibly with sex abuse language when describing disturbing family anecdotes, and i try to avoid debates over whether a person who commits a heinous act is an -ist or an -er, as they're unwinnable and subjective.

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:46 (ten years ago) link

re: the jezebel piece

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:46 (ten years ago) link

and poss important to note that the national review and conservative media is ALSO erasing woc activists et al by claiming "liberals aren't outraged!!" etc

so congrats to YALL for being like the national review

xp yes kids absolutely masturbate at age 7 and younger

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:47 (ten years ago) link

many xposts

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:47 (ten years ago) link

i'm sure the many people discussing how this reminded of them of their own childhood abuse experiences can also fall back into the comforting warmth of the patriarchy

― gyac, Tuesday, November 4, 2014 1:44 PM (1 minute ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Who are you even talking about?

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:47 (ten years ago) link

literally 100s of people posting about this on the internet, particularly via twitter

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:48 (ten years ago) link

am I going to point out AGAIN that she compared her behaviour to that of a sexual predator before anyone else? people are judging her by her own words. I never even clicked on the NR piece, but I read the quotes and that was enough.

gyac, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:48 (ten years ago) link

yes

lena: i acted like a sexual predator
ppl: yep u did
lena: how dare u

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:48 (ten years ago) link

i'm glad she acknowledges the problems people have with dunham's work precede these pull-quotes, and i sympathize with people who worry about the tossing around of phrases like "sexual abuser" even if i'm not as concerned about the reputation of people who play glibly with sex abuse language when describing disturbing family anecdotes, and i try to avoid debates over whether a person who commits a heinous act is an -ist or an -er, as they're unwinnable and subjective.

― da croupier, Tuesday, November 4, 2014 1:46 PM (51 seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

But ... This is erasing the significance of actual abuse which should be acted upon by the criminal justice system.

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:49 (ten years ago) link

re: 7yo masturbation - kids play w their genitals but it seems p diff't vs what they do post-puberty

xxxp

Οὖτις, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:49 (ten years ago) link

literally 100s of people posting about this on the internet, particularly via twitter

― jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, November 4, 2014 2:48 PM (1 minute ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

clearly they're all new republic socks

franklin, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:49 (ten years ago) link

literally 100s of people posting about this on the internet, particularly via twitter

― jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, November 4, 2014 1:48 PM (1 minute ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Oh I thought he meant in this thread

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:50 (ten years ago) link

I think that's the worst thing she's done here and that's a fucking idiot for using that terminology and then having the nerve to act all shocked when people call her out on it. I don't think that the things she describes are all that unusual or wrong at all and I think described in different terms they'd seem way more "normal".

Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:50 (ten years ago) link

But ... This is erasing the significance of actual abuse which should be acted upon by the criminal justice system.

is the ellipsis literally you trying to come up with a new issue

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:50 (ten years ago) link

am I going to point out AGAIN that she compared her behaviour to that of a sexual predator before anyone else? people are judging her by her own words. I never even clicked on the NR piece, but I read the quotes and that was enough.

― gyac, Tuesday, November 4, 2014 1:48 PM (1 minute ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

So? She's totally doing some kind of weird narcissistic slumming in these anecdotes with those comparisons

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:50 (ten years ago) link

"re: 7yo masturbation - kids play w their genitals but it seems p diff't vs what they do post-puberty

xxxp

― Οὖτις, Tuesday, November 4, 2014 2:49 PM (55 seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink"

I had my first orgasm through masturbation at like 8 so . . . it varies.

Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:51 (ten years ago) link

I'm not a he either, when do I get my welcome pack from the patriarchy?

gyac, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:51 (ten years ago) link

And I know someone who got off humping her couch at 5. They do it because it feels good - pretty much the same thing.

Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:51 (ten years ago) link

But ... This is erasing the significance of actual abuse which should be acted upon by the criminal justice system.

is the ellipsis literally you trying to come up with a new issue

― da croupier, Tuesday, November 4, 2014 1:50 PM (30 seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Wtf? No it's me pointing out that your sudden "I don't really like to use names" guilt by implication is irresponsible

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:52 (ten years ago) link

I'm not a he either, when do I get my welcome pack from the patriarchy?

― gyac, Tuesday, November 4, 2014 1:51 PM (40 seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Apologies. Is this rhetorical strategy working for you or no

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:52 (ten years ago) link

I don't think that the things she describes are all that unusual or wrong at all and I think described in different terms they'd seem way more "normal".

you don't think bribing a significantly younger sibling to kiss you for five seconds on the lips is strange? you don't think the way she decribes revelling in telling her sister bad news in the hope she'd run to Lena for comfort is creepy? you didn't raise an eyebrow at her trying to get the kid to lie on her while she watched tv?

gyac, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:53 (ten years ago) link

No

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:54 (ten years ago) link

I mean ...odd, obviously. Sexually Abusive? No

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:55 (ten years ago) link

or outing your sister to your parents against her will

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:55 (ten years ago) link

ah, suddenly your entrenched position makes so much more sense.

gyac, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:55 (ten years ago) link

D-40 my desire to avoid variations on "does committing a racist act make you a racist" debates (which i expressed last night as well) isn't irresponsible.

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:57 (ten years ago) link

unless i'm misreading you e, i think you're kinda otm there, in the sense i think maybe the creepiest thing is how she elevates what occurred into some kind of transgressive rite of passage (even the mere act of writing abt it is elevating it, LL otm too), like she's trying to score points off it or something.

LIKE If you are against racism (omar little), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:57 (ten years ago) link

the asking your sibling to kiss you for five seconds though .... Not really strange. For kids

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:58 (ten years ago) link

I don't think that the things she describes are all that unusual or wrong at all and I think described in different terms they'd seem way more "normal".

you don't think bribing a significantly younger sibling to kiss you for five seconds on the lips is strange? you don't think the way she decribes revelling in telling her sister bad news in the hope she'd run to Lena for comfort is creepy? you didn't raise an eyebrow at her trying to get the kid to lie on her while she watched tv?
― gyac, Tuesday, November 4, 2014 2:53 PM (8 seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Not as strange and creepy as you do, no I don't. Kids are fucking weird and go through some very strange developmental stuff. I did a ton of fucked up stuff when I was a little kid and I turned out (relatively) normal. She even said in that passage that she was looking for affection and wanted to feel needed. If I think of those things as the motivation for her actions then I can totally understand them as the actions of someone who for some reason needed to feel loved. I don't think that makes her a sexual predator (despite her essentially calling herself that).

Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:58 (ten years ago) link

not if they were both 5 xp

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:59 (ten years ago) link

D-40 my desire to avoid variations on "does committing a racist act make you a racist" debates (which i expressed last night as well) isn't irresponsible.

― da croupier, Tuesday, November 4, 2014 1:57 PM (1 minute ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Your comparison of these two issues is 100% intellectually dishonest. They aren't even parallels

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 19:59 (ten years ago) link

if i was on a jury, you'd be right. if i'm debating what to think of a celebrity online, you're wrong

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:00 (ten years ago) link

That's cool croupier, it is your right to call kids playing doctor sexual abusers because it's just the Internet

In the real world, I'll continue to think that's stupid

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:02 (ten years ago) link

in the real world, kids play doctor with their peers. A 1 and 7 year old aren't peers. A 1 year old can't even speak to say if she's ok with it or not.

gyac, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:03 (ten years ago) link

her responses to the whole thing, published in TIME.

I am dismayed over the recent interpretation of events described in my book Not That Kind of Girl.

First and foremost, I want to be very clear that I do not condone any kind of abuse under any circumstances.

Childhood sexual abuse is a life-shattering event for so many, and I have been vocal about the rights of survivors. If the situations described in my book have been painful or triggering for people to read, I am sorry, as that was never my intention. I am also aware that the comic use of the term “sexual predator” was insensitive, and I’m sorry for that as well.

As for my sibling, Grace, she is my best friend, and anything I have written about her has been published with her approval.

Van Horn Street, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:04 (ten years ago) link

or maybe just like, her mom should have used that as a teachable moment that you dont pry peoples vaginas open? and the fact that she didnt is really deeply disturbing?

my 4 year olds know this. a 7 year old for damn sure should have been taught this boundary

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:04 (ten years ago) link

Again: I think the way this is broken down in the jezebel piece explains the nuances of it accurately. What Lena did isn't good or to be encouraged, like she clearly wasn't learning boundaries. But it also was probably not abuse

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:05 (ten years ago) link

That's cool croupier, it is your right to call kids playing doctor sexual abusers because it's just the Internet

now who's being intellectually dishonest - i haven't called her anything other than a gross narcissist

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:05 (ten years ago) link

tbqh, the fact that her mother felt it was normal said more about it than anything, what the fuck happened in that house?

gyac, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:06 (ten years ago) link

i also haven't talked about the pebble thing at all, i find the teenage stuff far more disturbing xpost

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:06 (ten years ago) link

D-40 otm and, yes, this totally should have been a teaching moment.

Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:07 (ten years ago) link

i've merely said i'm not interested in DEFENDING people who i think have committed gross acts from titles given to repeat offenders

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:08 (ten years ago) link

actually people, especially woc feminists, have been talking about her fuckedupedness since wayyy (like years) before the NR piece

What does "fuckedupedness" mean here? Because I'm still looking for the connection between Dunham's bad track record on race and what she did with her sister when she was seven.

Re-Make/Re-Model, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:10 (ten years ago) link

really?

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:11 (ten years ago) link

yall cant read, bye

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:11 (ten years ago) link

I don't think the behavior is as disturbing as how she writes about it is ...hokey or faux-deep or, like, trying to make herself seem more interesting than she is by comparing somewhat odd childhood behavior to being a sexual predator or implying that an anecdote about touching herself while sharing a bed with her sister was some kind of sexual relationship w her sister when it doesn't really seem like it

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:12 (ten years ago) link

I have a feeling that Lena Dunham does not at all understand the actions she described and she has written her memoir long before she has come to grips with the memories that make up her material. I further suspect she hasn't a clue what idea she hoped her readers would extract from her description of them.

This clusterfuck seems to me to be ilx reflecting back Dunham's own confusion, which comes out in Dunham as a tendency to blurt a bunch of ill-digested nonsense, knowing only she will get lots of attention for it. Which seems to be her SOP.

oh no! must be the season of the rich (Aimless), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:12 (ten years ago) link

I don't really feel qualified to evaluate the exact level of perviness/normalness/inappropriateness/predatoriness/whatever of the behavior described, beyond that it seems a little *off* to me, and I think it's kind of ridiculous to discuss whether she is a "child molestor" based on this.

But yeah, the fact that she thinks "sexual predator" is sort of a fun, kooky, irreverent metaphor to deploy, and not even in a "I'm dropping an IRREVERENT JOKE BOMB" kind of way, but just sort of tossed off. It just speaks to the broader coldness and lack of self-awareness, or maybe just a lack of awareness that there might be a reason for certain boundaries, that I find in her work, in spite of a lot of it otherwise being very good. She's always good at apologizing afterwards, she always *gets* that people are upset by something and even seems to feel bad that people are upset by it, yet it seems like she only becomes aware of these things based on feedback. IDK, it's just a frustrating thing about her writing and her show, it doesn't make her evil.

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:14 (ten years ago) link

She's written pretty bogus shit about race. Blaming her for the makeup of the cast always seemed a little extra to me, basically agreed with Hilton als take on it, but she def wrote something about Japan that was like O_O

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:15 (ten years ago) link

xp

to me she's evil, considering that mostly the damage is done and than being sorry all the time is merely a replacement for some traumas and generally a good indication that she does not give a fuck. she is not a sexual predator or a child molester, but she's a spoiled bully and she makes a spectacle out of herself, if you find it fascinating it's cool, to each their own, i find it frightening and gross and i don't find any good reasons to enable this behavior.

Van Horn Street, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:21 (ten years ago) link

For some reason I keep thinking of the scene in Girls where Hannah deliberately walks in on Ray and Marnie having sex -- it seemed like a perfect example of a moment where the show was "aware" that Hannah was being a jerk, but yet we were still somehow supposed to empathize with the fact that she had the impulse to do it, whereas I don't think most people would actually empathize with that impulse at all? Maybe I'm overthinking it.

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:24 (ten years ago) link

I think the right hate her because she's an EASY TARGET, and they have a decades-long track record of picking easy targets, based on lifestyle, affluence and personal branding.

The RW is not above co-opting (interrupting?) WOC or Womanists' complaints about white feminists. That does not mean that WoC are "participating" or entertaining a right-wing discourse. Or aiding and abetting.

I think Dunham is problematic as some feminist icon. If she can't defend herself well, that's her problem.

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:25 (ten years ago) link

They are not the same critique.

Lena Dunham is insensitive toward issues of less privileged groups =/= Lena Dunham is an evil monster guilty of one of the worst crimes of all

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:36 (ten years ago) link

People should be allowed to be assholes sometimes and still not have their character totally massacred for unfair reasons. This is like a fundamental ethical precept for me.

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:42 (ten years ago) link

nobody is taking GIRLS away from you Treeship.

Van Horn Street, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:45 (ten years ago) link

“I can excuse racism, but I draw the line at animal cruelty.”— Britta
“You can excuse racism?!”— Shirley

kissaroo and Tyler, too (DJP), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:50 (ten years ago) link

first they took Richard Yates, now they're taking Girls

what will be next -- Merriweather Post Pavilion?

xp

franklin, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:50 (ten years ago) link

Have u guyz fixed lana dunham yet

i blow goat farts, aka garts for a living (waterface), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:51 (ten years ago) link

lana dunray

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 20:54 (ten years ago) link

D-40 otm and, yes, this totally should have been a teaching moment.

― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Tuesday, November 4, 2014 2:07 PM (57 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

(we are of course assuming her mom knew ... i do think that the right wing critique of left wing 'permissiveness' is what this latest argument is mostly about...but they see it like a spectrum or like the broken windows theory, i'm guessing? where encouraging her narcissism is part & parcel w/ the slippery slope to abusing your sister) (which maybe it is to a degree? but i don't think this is a prob w/ leftist political thought, maybe a prob with parents who dont have common sense)

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:10 (ten years ago) link

Also Aimless OTM

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:10 (ten years ago) link

She's always good at apologizing afterwards, she always *gets* that people are upset by something and even seems to feel bad that people are upset by it, yet it seems like she only becomes aware of these things based on feedback.

this is some classic narcissist behavior fwiw but then this is not a particularly challenging diagnosis...

resulting post (rogermexico.), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:13 (ten years ago) link

"narcissistic"

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:14 (ten years ago) link

no we arent assuming that her mom knew. she states explicitly that her mom didnt care and didnt even ask why her hand had been in grace's vagina because "this was within the spectrum of things i did"

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:16 (ten years ago) link

read the passage

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:16 (ten years ago) link

Yeah but she was seven and might not remember this correctly

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:20 (ten years ago) link

hahaha so there's a chance that it's not true! ok so its all totally fine

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:21 (ten years ago) link

treezy...

example (crüt), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:23 (ten years ago) link

"yeah but"

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:27 (ten years ago) link

read the passage

― jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, November 4, 2014 3:16 PM (17 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

i read it—but it's a subjective reading of a particular situation, who knows what was going through her mom's mind at the time: oh crap, there is stuff inside my daughter might have looked more worrying at the moment than, wait a minute, why were you looking in the first place ... idk, 'spectrum of things i did'—in that moment, she's putting herself in her own mother's head, and kind of implying that she was always doing stuff like this, which ... we've established this is an unreliable narrator. I guess basically i don't trust that she's not playing up the 'disfunction' in a memoir, unconsciously

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:38 (ten years ago) link

or otherwise

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:39 (ten years ago) link

treeship, for the purpose of the discussion at hand, it doesn't matter if her memory is correct in each detail or her characterizations fit some platonic version of truth, since we are discussing her account as written, which she has very deliberately made public and hopes we will all read and talk about.

oh no! must be the season of the rich (Aimless), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:39 (ten years ago) link

why is anyone still engaging with this dummy

kissaroo and Tyler, too (DJP), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:41 (ten years ago) link

Since when was her hand "in" her vagina? I thought she was just looking and that the looking was in the realm of things that she did and yes I think that makes a difference. The details of that particular instance are pretty vague and maybe I misread it but I do think that makes a difference. I'd prob handle a kid I thought was curious and looking at her younger siblings Gentiles a lot different than one who had been touching them.

Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:42 (ten years ago) link

xxp so many possibilities as to the referent there

Steve 'n' Seagulls and Flock of Van Dammes (forksclovetofu), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:42 (ten years ago) link

Errrr genitals not Gentiles - phone

Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:43 (ten years ago) link

lol

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:43 (ten years ago) link

why is anyone still engaging with this dummy

― kissaroo and Tyler, too (DJP), Tuesday, November 4, 2014 2:41 PM (2 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

i think this thread proves she is an enormously successful artist

sleepingbag, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:44 (ten years ago) link

artist / provocateur

sleepingbag, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:44 (ten years ago) link

also Idgaf about Dunham in general but I think the discussion around this is interesting. Mostly I just can't believe how tone deaf she must be to have framed these experiences the way she did and not expect people to lose their minds. The I remember she's 24 but stil.

Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:45 (ten years ago) link

she's 28

example (crüt), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:45 (ten years ago) link

i doubt she "pried it open" with her eyes

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:46 (ten years ago) link

xp sleepingbag thanks but i prefer masculine pronouns

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:46 (ten years ago) link

I assumed she was prying open her legs.

Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:46 (ten years ago) link

Like someone changing a baby might do to clean it? Will reread.

Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:47 (ten years ago) link

"and I leaned down between her legs and carefully spread open her vagina. She didn’t resist..."

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:48 (ten years ago) link

she literally said "opened Grace's vagina".

gyac, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:49 (ten years ago) link

From the Jezebel article—the writer interviewed "Debby Herbenick, PhD, an associate professor at Indiana University, writer for the Kinsey Institute, and author of Sex Made Easy.":

Anyone who has worked in K or pre-K will tell you that you're often having to remind little children not to touch their genitals and to keep their hands to themselves, because genital exploration is very, very common among young children. Ask any parent of young children and they will also have stories to tell (I've worked with parents of young children for years about how to talk with their own children about bodies, puberty, and so on and these instances always come up: not just about kids exploring their own bodies but about how kids explore with each other).

Dunham's story is not one of sexual exploration and she doesn't describe any sexual acts. The story she tells is one of bodily exploration; sex is not a part of it. Her story also includes her sister's own exploration in that it turns out her sister had been putting pebbles inside her own vagina (some small girls put things in their vaginas—toys, pebbles, Legos, etc—there is a case study of a 4 year old girl who put a Bratz doll in her vagina).

People who are attaching sex to these stories seem to equate the genitals with sex, but that's not how young children see their genitals. Dunham's story is not an uncommon one. The research (and any preschool or home with young children) is full of stories of childhood 'play' not so different than this one.

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:49 (ten years ago) link

i think this thread proves she is an enormously successful artist

― sleepingbag, Tuesday, November 4, 2014 4:44 PM Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

artist / provocateur

― sleepingbag, Tuesday, November 4, 2014 4:44 PM Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Thank you for finally making the most boring non-point that can possibly be made about this, that "she got us talking."

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:49 (ten years ago) link

pre K kids are 4

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:50 (ten years ago) link

People who are attaching sex to these stories seem to equate the genitals with sex, but that's not how young children see their genitals.

^^^

Οὖτις, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:50 (ten years ago) link

ftr I was talking about Treeship

kissaroo and Tyler, too (DJP), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:51 (ten years ago) link

pre K kids are 4

― jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, November 4, 2014 3:50 PM (14 seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

roxy, she read the piece.

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:51 (ten years ago) link

like, is this slightly outside the norm bc lena is a weird kid, yes. is being 'slightly outside the norm' = def sexual deviance? i would argue no

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:52 (ten years ago) link

yep and "I've worked with parents of young children for years about how to talk with their own children about bodies, puberty, and so on and these instances always come up: not just about kids exploring their own bodies but about how kids explore with each other" - this didnt happen according to the story

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:52 (ten years ago) link

fwiw when my brother was 2 he put a bunch of pachinko balls in his butt and then informed us of this fact; however I can't say I felt the slightest urge to look.

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:53 (ten years ago) link

I was grossed out by the porny phrasing personally - the language was, "spread her legs". I'm not shocked by a messed up kid doing this, but I feel for all of the sensitive folk out there who were molested as kids who get depressed reading that. I'm a sensitive person, I had a baby sister and I had an emotional reaction to it.

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:54 (ten years ago) link

nope, the language was what i quoted above

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:54 (ten years ago) link

you'll argue whatever you need to in order to avoid any recognition that this might fall outside "weird" for some people. particularly given that plenty of children are abused by older siblings in ways not so different from the various ones described upthread, but hey, Jezebel got some psychiatrist to do a very selective overview of the passages, not asking what she thought of the ongoing patterns of behaviour, or the significant age difference, so it's all cool!

gyac, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:55 (ten years ago) link

"and I leaned down between her legs and carefully spread open her vagina. She didn’t resist"

this is a quote from the memoir

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:55 (ten years ago) link

no one said it was "cool"

Οὖτις, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:55 (ten years ago) link

im open to the idea that this was bad parenting. i dont know that it's an open & shut case ... the right wing critique is that this is a slippery slope, right? permissive parenting that was like, "it's natural that you explore each other's bodies" that leads to unusual stories like this are the result of the left's abdication of personal responsibility, or something. Not to say that this critique is wrong, i'm cool with "we keep our hands to ourselves" norms. but using this as an excuse to beat up on someone who's a product of this particular philosophy seems beside the point, if the philosophy itself is what we should be attacking

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:56 (ten years ago) link

you'll argue whatever you need to in order to avoid any recognition that this might fall outside "weird" for some people. particularly given that plenty of children are abused by older siblings in ways not so different from the various ones described upthread, but hey, Jezebel got some psychiatrist to do a very selective overview of the passages, not asking what she thought of the ongoing patterns of behaviour, or the significant age difference, so it's all cool!

― gyac, Tuesday, November 4, 2014 3:55 PM (44 seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

no, i'm arguing that it's not an open and shut case and acting like it is, or that people who think it might be more complicated are basically complicit in abuse, is ridiculous. i do not know for a fact that this wasn't sexual abuse but neither do you

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:57 (ten years ago) link

"an excuse to beat up on"? lol

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:58 (ten years ago) link

i mean at least jezebel got a psychiatrist who specializes in this, you're just throwing conjecture because lena decided to use particularly porn-y words

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:58 (ten years ago) link

that's an xp to gyac

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:58 (ten years ago) link

this is absurd

example (crüt), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:59 (ten years ago) link

Yeah who the fuck said any of this is cool?

Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 21:59 (ten years ago) link

deej otm. It's the slippage between different critiques of lena dunham, between objecting to her way of writing about the issue to saying she was an abuser that bothered me most about this situation.

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:00 (ten years ago) link

can you at least keep track of who you're replying to, that wasn't what I said. I'm sure the thread has yet to hit the bottom of the barrel, so I'm going to post her quotes that people keep conveniently misremembering again, then I'm gone and you can keep splitting hairs on this bullshit.

gyac, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:01 (ten years ago) link

its almost like there are lots of problems with this person

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:02 (ten years ago) link

she literally said "opened Grace's vagina"

this phrase has a nice biblical ring to it

Josefa, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:03 (ten years ago) link

Lol

Treeship, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:04 (ten years ago) link

she did it with care!

salthigh, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:06 (ten years ago) link

FWiW i am pretty sure i disagree w/ treeship when it comes to art being a justification for itself (apologies if i'm misreading you)

my only real concern is that the assertions about her abuse seem like they need a lot finer critique—about the broader implications for demonizing childhood behavior that, first of all, is being subjectively described from memory, and secondly, an expert has already determined is within range of norms, and third, of course, is the notion that these 'norms' are hard lines rather than constantly shifting, debateable, and often arbitrary

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:06 (ten years ago) link

which was, i believe, the point of her sister's tweets

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:07 (ten years ago) link

we need to redo this poll btw

example (crüt), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:09 (ten years ago) link

Also, I do not have a determined opinion on this passage because I could see ways in which it ... could be problematic. But I am curious what the various sides think about this particular para. from the jezebel piece:

On the newly-founded Those Kinds of Girls tumblr, all sorts of anonymous accounts are coming in about childhood memories that are—like Dunham's—uncomfortable, awkward, funny, and to all parties actually involved, non-abusive. I trust these readings. I always think we should trust what people, and particularly women, say about their life experience. If they say they were harmed, we should believe them; if they, like Grace Dunham, say they were not, what do we gain by pushing victimhood on them when they don't want it?

There is enough real abuse out there. There are enough people who never got that freedom to let their own kid bodies be unburdened. Part of granting people the ability to tell their own sexual narrative is granting them the ability to tell their own sexual narrative, whether it matches your reading or not.

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:09 (ten years ago) link

you can refuse to participate in (and actively denounce) the obviously sexist right-wing campaign against her without refusing to acknowledge that some of this shit and her attitude about it is pretty messed up xp

― k3vin k., Tuesday, 4 November 2014 03:36 (18 hours ago) Permalink

RAP GAME SHANI DAVIS (Raymond Cummings), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:15 (ten years ago) link

that makes no sense and is completely fucked up tbh

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:18 (ten years ago) link

yeah i think at the very least it's a little blithe. Victims of abuse can be in denial, after all.

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:19 (ten years ago) link

i also dont understand how the same people claiming that it wasnt sexual are also claiming that it was sexual and that to criticize it is to attack sexual freedom

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:19 (ten years ago) link

well 'sexual narrative' can also mean identifying what is not a part of the sexual narrative ... i dont think that part is a problem per se

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:23 (ten years ago) link

ugh, i'm not going to look at that tumblr. i'm super duper guilty of tmi-braindumping but i think in general ppl would do well to just keep these types of childhood transgressions to themselves tbh

example (crüt), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:24 (ten years ago) link

TMI brain dumping is like the rhetorical whatever of our, like, age

Spirit of Match Game '76 (silby), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:28 (ten years ago) link

That tumblr is a bunch of anonymous posts for the specific purpose of defending a celebrity, so I take it with a grain of salt. It even includes defensive response posts to people who describe situations in which they felt violated.

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:29 (ten years ago) link

Also almost all of them seem to involve two kids doing something together, not one describing doing something to another.

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:31 (ten years ago) link

Also almost all of them seem to involve two kids doing something together, not one describing doing something to another.

― my jaw left (Hurting 2), Tuesday, November 4, 2014 4:31 PM (0 seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

bc they are not brave artists like Len—KIDDING

deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:32 (ten years ago) link

Let's leave Len out of this

kissaroo and Tyler, too (DJP), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:34 (ten years ago) link

actual lol

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:35 (ten years ago) link

d on't steal her dunshine

LIKE If you are against racism (omar little), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:36 (ten years ago) link

I'm thinking LD is not invited to Mia Farrow's for Thanksgiving now

things lose meaning over time (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:37 (ten years ago) link

ZONG

RAP GAME SHANI DAVIS (Raymond Cummings), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:42 (ten years ago) link

She wanted to see what her sister's vagina looked like - even I don't think that story is a "sexual narrative". It's about kids picking up on taboos -not "exploring" or "experimenting". These people are fools. Would we be having this discussion if it was a butthole?

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 22:58 (ten years ago) link

I think they just want to talk about how much they jerked off when they were little - not the same thing as this sad story.

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Tuesday, 4 November 2014 23:00 (ten years ago) link

Would we be having this discussion if it was a butthole?

new board description

da croupier, Tuesday, 4 November 2014 23:05 (ten years ago) link

Another article, someone has some sense:

http://verysmartbrothas.com/the-problem-with-girls-like-lena-dunham/

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Wednesday, 5 November 2014 00:36 (ten years ago) link

Wait... who on earth is Lena Dunham?

joni mitchell jarre (dog latin), Wednesday, 5 November 2014 14:05 (ten years ago) link

I know that I M Losted article was written by a feminist identifying woman of color but this passage could have come from the national review:

The extent at which she is nude on her show is less “admirable” or “audacious” as some have suggested previously, and more like a crutch to make us keep watching. Dunham has been pretty successful at courting attention and feigning displeasure when she gets it.

Treeship, Wednesday, 5 November 2014 14:10 (ten years ago) link

That's because I'm a Republican operative.

Anyway, Dunham addresses the abuse thing:

Check out this article from Detroit Free Press:

Lena Dunham 'sorry' for sex abuse stories in memoir

http://on.freep.com/1qpbTdX

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Wednesday, 5 November 2014 14:13 (ten years ago) link

I don't think you're secretly conservative. I just think it's a bad look to criticize women for "courting attention" and denigrating the very idea that she could be using her body in her art for a different purpose than this

Treeship, Wednesday, 5 November 2014 14:33 (ten years ago) link

Keep coming for the womanists treesh, that's always a good look

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Wednesday, 5 November 2014 14:38 (ten years ago) link

you mean her sister's body?

example (crüt), Wednesday, 5 November 2014 14:41 (ten years ago) link

I'll say this much for Dunham, she acknowledges that her writing might disturb or trigger people. This in an Internet culture where people are hostile toward notions like "triggers".

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Wednesday, 5 November 2014 14:56 (ten years ago) link

you mean her sister's body?

― example (crüt), Wednesday, November 5, 2014 8:41 AM (31 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

...

deej loaf (D-40), Wednesday, 5 November 2014 15:13 (ten years ago) link

cause "some transphobic bigot" is really the only person talking about this

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Wednesday, 5 November 2014 16:48 (ten years ago) link

all the other people have just been duped by that one dude

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Wednesday, 5 November 2014 16:48 (ten years ago) link

the "maybe shes not the most considerate person..."-style defenses of her are lol lol lol

jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Wednesday, 5 November 2014 16:49 (ten years ago) link

looking fwd to the Dunham apology tweet that scores the hat trick of "trigger," "sensitive," and "privilege."

things lose meaning over time (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 5 November 2014 17:14 (ten years ago) link

it would be dope if there was some sort of ground between 'condemning her' or 'defending her' and instead we acknowledged that she's a screen for a bunch of projected concerns

deej loaf (D-40), Wednesday, 5 November 2014 17:31 (ten years ago) link

like i have no problem saying she seems like an asshole & kind of always did ... but i'm not clear on why this latest event is some kind of final straw, it illuminates a lot but doesn't strike me as nearly as objectionable as her outwardly racist earlier statements

deej loaf (D-40), Wednesday, 5 November 2014 17:32 (ten years ago) link

it would be dope if there was some sort of ground between 'condemning her' or 'defending her' and instead we acknowledged that she's a screen for a bunch of projected concerns

― deej loaf (D-40), Wednesday, November 5, 2014 12:31 PM (1 minute ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

This usually starts with not making 50 message board posts about her

stop looking at me, quan (Whiney G. Weingarten), Wednesday, 5 November 2014 17:33 (ten years ago) link

who said it means we shouldn't discuss it?

deej loaf (D-40), Wednesday, 5 November 2014 17:34 (ten years ago) link

like i'm sorry to keep hammering this but again: if we're not willing to have an actual discussion about what this says about a certain strain of thought in parenting bc we're too busy pathologizing lena dunham then we're not even being honest about why we're engaging in this discussion in the 1st place

deej loaf (D-40), Wednesday, 5 November 2014 17:36 (ten years ago) link

why are you so obsessed with parenting all of a sudden and, even so, why would lena dunham's memoir be your jumping off point?

stop looking at me, quan (Whiney G. Weingarten), Wednesday, 5 November 2014 17:46 (ten years ago) link

im not obsessed with parenting. im countering what i think is a harmful way of looking at the world thru open discussion that often occurs on ilx

deej loaf (D-40), Wednesday, 5 November 2014 17:55 (ten years ago) link

my only real concern is that the assertions about her abuse seem like they need a lot finer critique—about the broader implications for demonizing childhood behavior that, first of all, is being subjectively described from memory, and secondly, an expert has already determined is within range of norms, and third, of course, is the notion that these 'norms' are hard lines rather than constantly shifting, debateable, and often arbitrary

― deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, November 4, 2014 4:06 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

deej loaf (D-40), Wednesday, 5 November 2014 17:55 (ten years ago) link

And also, she's writing to entertain, so it shouldn't be treated as a deposition.

the man with the black wigs (Eazy), Wednesday, 5 November 2014 17:59 (ten years ago) link

deej i think where the misunderstanding itt hinges is you seem to be focusing on the vagina prying episode, which as far as i can tell no one itt has said makes LD an abuser, while many others are talking about that being just one instance in a long-running (from the sounds of it) manipulative relationship combined with her initial dismissiveness about the messed-upness of the whole situation. no one itt is calling for her to be arrested, or to lose her show, or anything, as far as i can tell

k3vin k., Wednesday, 5 November 2014 18:10 (ten years ago) link

it just seems to me that 2 different things are being talked about

k3vin k., Wednesday, 5 November 2014 18:17 (ten years ago) link

i'm not saying her defenders dont need to do some serious soul searching maybe but the schadenfreude and 'i told you so's are still weird. like she's been proven a force for evil or something. people on twitter comparing her to r kelly. there's 'she's a self-absorbed jerk who makes a tv show some people like and some do not' then there's the demonization we're seeing now which IMO has a bit of moral panic to it that could be construed as irresponsible.

deej loaf (D-40), Wednesday, 5 November 2014 18:29 (ten years ago) link

It's hard for me to muster dislike for someone who clearly won't pull herself together - that is not a threatening presentation.

However, I think she makes a poor Maypole for The same old Twitterers to dance around.

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Wednesday, 5 November 2014 18:35 (ten years ago) link

soul searching might even be a stretch, i just think that it's bad form to put artists on pedestals

deej loaf (D-40), Wednesday, 5 November 2014 18:58 (ten years ago) link

deej i think where the misunderstanding itt hinges is you seem to be focusing on the vagina prying episode...

― k3vin k., Wednesday, November 5, 2014 10:10 AM (2 hours ago)

There is no misunderstanding itt -- apart from the willful ones -- imo deej has been pretty reasonable and otm throughout

sarahell, Wednesday, 5 November 2014 20:31 (ten years ago) link

that said, I can totally understand and respect the ppl whose response was "No. Just. No. This is indefensible behavior." There's just a bunch of bad faith arguing, as usual.

sarahell, Wednesday, 5 November 2014 20:44 (ten years ago) link

As to the "parenting" issue, let me note that some of the people bringing it up are of Dunham's own generation.

As someone from the preceding one, I would be surprised if the vast or maybe even a majority of people from my cohort had this issue raised for them as kids.

benbbag, Wednesday, 5 November 2014 23:44 (ten years ago) link

Sarahell otm

Treeship, Thursday, 6 November 2014 01:25 (ten years ago) link

James Wolcott (quite a brilliant TV critic for the VV back in the day) reviews the book for TNR, and assesses Lena Inc.:

If I prefer Kylie Minogue to Madonna and the knockabout farce of Comedy Central’s “Broad City” to the clackety solipsism and passive-aggressive caricaturization in “Girls,” it’s a matter of taste, and my taste isn’t the one being targeted and courted by Dunham, Inc. I do think the premature canonization of “Girls” as a breakthrough classic does it no favors, and not just because of the backlash effect triggered every time the fawning media lifts Dunham’s Cleopatra litter higher. The excessive buildup could be the prelude to a steeper devaluation....

But it probably won’t matter for Lena Dunham herself, the life-force dervish, who already seems to have outgrown the series, having wrung about as many changes as possible from the antics and predicaments of her alter ego, Hannah Horvath, and those other bobbleheads. With the money, fame (the cover of Vogue), and formal accolades Dunham has achieved (an Emmy award, a Glamour Woman of the Year citation), she’s in the enviable position of being free to do what she wants. But there are invisible strings attached. No longer the idiosyncratic underdog, Dunham has become an iconographic bearer of an entire generation’s promise; a bold-face name in the upper tier of celebrity, feminism, and cultural liberalism, that imaginary green room where Mindy Kaling, Roxane Gay, Tina Fey, and a shimmering hologram of Beyoncé mingle; an advice counselor to other young women; an entrepreneurial success story; an inexhaustible topic of conversation, no matter how exhausted of hearing about her many of us get; in short, a role model, and being a role model entails responsibilities inimical to being an independent operator. (Nobody expects Quentin Tarantino to be a poster boy for higher causes.)

http://www.newrepublic.com/article/120027/james-wolcott-reviews-not-kind-girl

things lose meaning over time (Dr Morbius), Monday, 10 November 2014 16:31 (ten years ago) link

having wrung about as many changes as possible from the antics and predicaments of her alter ego hair

the man with the black wigs (Eazy), Monday, 10 November 2014 16:34 (ten years ago) link

so this book is pretty stupid. about as stupid as you would expect a "memoir" by a 28yo to be

Οὖτις, Monday, 10 November 2014 16:49 (ten years ago) link

How old was Anne Frank when she wrote her diary?

sarahell, Monday, 10 November 2014 17:01 (ten years ago) link

now there's a pairing.

things lose meaning over time (Dr Morbius), Monday, 10 November 2014 17:04 (ten years ago) link

diary =/= memoir btw

oh no! must be the season of the rich (Aimless), Monday, 10 November 2014 17:05 (ten years ago) link

"It’s fucked up that the margin of error for white women is far greater than it is for people of color, queer people, transgender people. That necessary conversation should probably be separate from the specific conversations about Lena Dunham.

There is a great distance between thinking LENA DUNHAM IS A CHILD MOLESTER and thinking, yeah, inspecting her sister’s vagina seems like an awesome choice. There are multiple places within that distance and I stand in that place where I think the shit is weird, it makes me uncomfortable, but I understand why the information was disclosed in the memoir, and it did not diminish my experience of reading the book or my opinion of Dunham as a talented but flawed young woman."

Roxane Gay OTM.

http://roxanegay.tumblr.com/post/101801523290/on-lena-dunham-and-all-that

Re-Make/Re-Model, Monday, 10 November 2014 17:10 (ten years ago) link

What's important is that we all come to a carefully considered, nuanced ethical position on what Lena Dunham did with her sister's vagina, as well as a detailed matrix of how the media would likely respond if various characteristics of Dunham's identity were changed.

my jaw left (Hurting 2), Monday, 10 November 2014 17:13 (ten years ago) link

the parts where she affects "wisdom"/looks back fondly with a mixture of pride and embarrassment at the travails of her youth are v eye-rolly. Ditto the parts where she affects an ironic distance from cliches while simultaneously embracing them as "magical". There are some funny lines. A lot of filler ("10 things I found in my purse", yup that's a "chapter").

Οὖτις, Monday, 10 November 2014 17:19 (ten years ago) link

my understanding of lena dunham's personality is pretty neatly encapsulated by this single sentence excerpt from the new yorker profile piece on her mother:

Cindy Sherman recalls going to a party at the Dunham apartment, and Lena, who was in high school, saying, “Cindy, it’s so good to see you. We should have lunch sometime.”

Steve 'n' Seagulls and Flock of Van Dammes (forksclovetofu), Monday, 10 November 2014 17:32 (ten years ago) link

though actually the whole paragraph that's from is pertinent to the current conversation in terms of early exposure to graphically sexual art, so:

On the way back to Cornwall, we talked about Lena. “She didn’t have a lot of friends in school,” Simmons said. “As a child, she was diagnosed as having obsessive-compulsive disorder and put on medication for it. She had her own adult world. Lena would say, ‘Parents, what are we doing this weekend?,’ and I’d say there was an opening at the Sonnabend gallery, and she’d say, ‘Great!’ ” Cindy Sherman recalls going to a party at the Dunham apartment, and Lena, who was in high school, saying, “Cindy, it’s so good to see you. We should have lunch sometime.” One Friday, when her father was having a show at Sonnabend, Lena invited six of her classmates to the opening. Dunham’s paintings were no longer completely abstract; many were inhabited by rectangular shapes sprouting male genitals. When Lena arrived at school the following Monday, the girls accosted her and said, “Your father paints penises.” “Those aren’t penises,” Lena replied. “They’re guns.” The girls stopped speaking to her after that. “We felt terrible, as though we’d damaged her socially,” Simmons recalled. When Lena and Grace were eight and two, respectively, Simmons took them to visit her friend Lisa Yuskavage, the painter, in her studio. Yuskavage was working on a canvas of a voluptuous, kneeling nude, whose title was “Big Blonde Jerking Off,” and Simmons took pictures of both girls in front of it.

Steve 'n' Seagulls and Flock of Van Dammes (forksclovetofu), Monday, 10 November 2014 17:35 (ten years ago) link

should prob note that, raised by ex-hippies myself, I was also raised with exposure to a fair amount of graphically sexual art (predominantly in the comic format) and I don't necessarily feel like it did any serious damage except in my judgment of other people's boundaries of the appropriate.

Steve 'n' Seagulls and Flock of Van Dammes (forksclovetofu), Monday, 10 November 2014 17:37 (ten years ago) link

sheesh, NYer profile yet another example of how heteronormative society has deemed some parenting strategies as "normal" and others harmful

k3vin k., Monday, 10 November 2014 17:41 (ten years ago) link

Simmons’s first show opened at Artists Space in January, 1979. ... Barbara Gladstone and Max Protetch were both interested in showing Simmons’s work, but when she heard that Helene Winer was leaving Artists Space to start her own gallery she decided that was where she wanted to be. Winer opened Metro Pictures in 1980

There was actually an article in the most recent n+1 about Artists Space in 1979, and an exhibition (maybe the one right after Lena's mom's) by a white artist of abstract works called "The N*****r Drawings" (the actual word).

sarahell, Monday, 10 November 2014 17:46 (ten years ago) link

https://nplusonemag.com/issue-20/essays/color-theory/

sarahell, Monday, 10 November 2014 17:47 (ten years ago) link

It's funny - I don't think the right-wing press has weighed in on parenting and childhood in a long time, when in the Moral Majority era they did it all of the time. Too busy in the Middle East? If they think today's young adults were raised in a too-permissive environment, they should be clearer about it. Or would that be an admission of failure?

Threat Assessment Division (I M Losted), Monday, 10 November 2014 17:48 (ten years ago) link

one year passes...

least surprising headline

Lena Dunham: Clinton coverage 'rabidly sexist'

we can be heroes just for about 3.6 seconds (Dr Morbius), Friday, 5 February 2016 15:51 (eight years ago) link

"The media is not fair to my candidate" is the most grating kind of political commentary in general.

on entre O.K. on sort K.O. (man alive), Friday, 5 February 2016 16:27 (eight years ago) link

one year passes...

Oh huh, Lena Dunham is trending again, surely it's not because she said something inappropriately glib and self-centered about a disturbing situation, she's learn her les...

you're a professional writer, literally how do you keep fucking up this much pic.twitter.com/gpQCPu9vmr

— Natalie Shure (@nataliesurely) October 10, 2017

IF (Terrorist) Yes, Explain (man alive), Tuesday, 10 October 2017 21:57 (seven years ago) link

but surely her apology will strike the right ton..

I'm sorry I missed the mark. I won't try to explain myself but simply say I hope you feel the love from me and many fellow assault survivors

— Lena Dunham (@lenadunham) October 10, 2017

IF (Terrorist) Yes, Explain (man alive), Tuesday, 10 October 2017 22:00 (seven years ago) link

actually whatever her apology isn't really that bad, I think I misread it the first time

IF (Terrorist) Yes, Explain (man alive), Tuesday, 10 October 2017 22:01 (seven years ago) link

Lena Dunham is the only person I'm aware of that's blocked me on Twitter. It's funny because I'm more of a fan of hers than many, but when she tweeted a photo of her book Is It Evil Not To Be Sure?, I couldn't stop myself from immediately responding "Is it wicked not to care?"
A few seconds later, I was blocked.

Moodles, Tuesday, 10 October 2017 23:14 (seven years ago) link

three months pass...

2018 is good pic.twitter.com/yCx7mbCYyX

— Leah Finnegan (@leahfinnegan) January 10, 2018

ice cream social justice (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 10 January 2018 17:38 (seven years ago) link

Looks like JACK ANTONOFF is more like ANTON JACKINOFF now, amirite

IF (Terrorist) Yes, Explain (man alive), Wednesday, 10 January 2018 18:02 (seven years ago) link

huh someone in Western culture should invent some kind of 'eternity' ring as a symbol of neverending love or sth

kinder, Wednesday, 10 January 2018 23:44 (seven years ago) link

these poll results!

#TeamHailing (imago), Wednesday, 10 January 2018 23:52 (seven years ago) link

one month passes...

these poll results!

― #TeamHailing (imago), Wednesday, January 10, 2018 5:52 PM (one month ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

lmao true

Listen to my homeboy Fantano (D-40), Thursday, 8 March 2018 23:43 (six years ago) link

voted classic, at the time girls was still s1 only... i thought she was being funny ;_;

sleepingbag, Thursday, 8 March 2018 23:51 (six years ago) link

yeah i'm sure people used to think you were being funny

they're not thinking it now

papa don't take no meth (stevie), Friday, 9 March 2018 00:32 (six years ago) link

More like Lena dudham

kolakube (Ross), Friday, 9 March 2018 00:47 (six years ago) link

i really enjoyed the first few seasons of Girls. it felt like real life. like the best shows it was great just hanging out w these characters. i think a lot of modern writers try to impress you (or their teachers/other writers) so much w a pseudo intellectual meta twist whereas her writing felt like directly speaking to the audience on a more natural level. it is more open/honest/willing to make mistakes so it feels more real. haven't seen much of her work besides Girls tho.

i think she means well, and she tries to do the right thing. she actually brought up Weinstein to the Clinton campaign years before the news was printing money off those stories. but the game is rigged and one of these days everyone messes up.

Hazy Maze Cave (Adam Bruneau), Friday, 9 March 2018 01:10 (six years ago) link

GIRLS was honestly mostly very good save for most of the final season and a decent chunk of the second. LD as a person = reliably dud.

Simon H., Friday, 9 March 2018 01:15 (six years ago) link

Adam B generally otm, it was a funny show. With the caveat that I don't think LD realized that all the regular characters were dreadful human beings.

ice cream social justice (Dr Morbius), Friday, 9 March 2018 04:11 (six years ago) link

I like what I’ve seen of Girls, much more than Tiny Furniture. Her public statements make me cringe sometimes, just the corny earnestness.

The volume of hate she inspires is weird and worthy of study possibly. Like people pretending her writing in her memoir about playing doctor as a kid was confessing to child molestation. Also that thing last year where people had this weird conspiracy theory about her dog was peak example of that phenomenon. More than “privilege” “nepotism” etc the hate is ultimately about the fact she’s out in public and people have to think about/look at someone they don’t think is attractive.

Nerdstrom Poindexter, Friday, 9 March 2018 05:06 (six years ago) link

lmfao at those 2012 ass results!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

flappy bird, Friday, 9 March 2018 05:57 (six years ago) link

xp, obv
^ otm

The hate has always seemed like some junior high thing where the cool (or wanna be cool) kids decide to pick on a kid and everyone goes along with it to not be in the "out" group.

nickn, Friday, 9 March 2018 06:02 (six years ago) link

I don't think that's true. I think in 2012 that might've been the case, but in the years since she's become the caricature that so many people made her out to be in 2012. "GIRLS is a critique & satire of something that it also is" i think someone said this somewhere here on ilx. or somewhere else idk. it's otm

flappy bird, Friday, 9 March 2018 06:12 (six years ago) link

Even if it is, the personal level of the hate (they're not just hating Girls) is bizarre.

And who's to say she didn't know her characters were somewhat reprehensible? (Have we learned nothing from Seinfeld?)

I'll admit many of her public comments are tone-deaf at best.

nickn, Friday, 9 March 2018 06:18 (six years ago) link

And who's to say she didn't know her characters were somewhat reprehensible?

I just said that it was satire.

flappy bird, Friday, 9 March 2018 06:34 (six years ago) link

Then what's the problem?

nickn, Friday, 9 March 2018 06:36 (six years ago) link

I think she has blindspots

flappy bird, Friday, 9 March 2018 06:51 (six years ago) link

I on the other hand am all-seeing Janus

valorous wokelord (silby), Friday, 9 March 2018 06:56 (six years ago) link

Blindspots sometimes provide a unique/interesting perspective.

nickn, Friday, 9 March 2018 07:02 (six years ago) link

lena dunham has said a lot of embarrassing things but i sorta feel like there are probably a lot of celebrities who aren't particularly better or more enlightened people than her but whose online/public presences are much more professionally managed by the ppl who write their tweets and facebook posts and "memoirs" for them.

(The Other) J.D. (J.D.), Friday, 9 March 2018 07:59 (six years ago) link

GIRLS is a critique & satire of something that it also is" i think someone said this somewhere here on ilx. or somewhere else idk. it's otm

― flappy bird, Friday, March 9, 2018 6:12 AM (two hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

I think that this is more or less par for the course wrt to comedies about terrible people though, e.g. Ricky Gervais turning out to basically be David Brent in real life, or Steve Coogan being terrible in a lot of Alan Partridge-esque ways, or Woody Allen's self-involved narcissists. I agree that blindspots can provide an interesting perspective - I think character comedies where the author is fully separated from the thing/person they are satirising are often not as good, I think they tend to feel two-dimensional when the author isn't complicit to some extent?

I think people are ungenerous with the way they read the various controversial things she says, a lot of it feels like it has this self-mocking subtext where she knows what she's saying sounds self-absorbed or corny or whatever, like that style of tweeting where millenials are like "I'm a pathetic fucking idiot who has failed at everything lol" but people don't see or won't acknowledge the subtext in her case and take it completely straight in a way they wouldn't with other comedians? not that irony and self-deprecation are a get out of jail free card for bad opinions, but I do think she gets judged more harshly than her peers

soref, Friday, 9 March 2018 09:29 (six years ago) link

The volume of hate she inspires is weird and worthy of study possibly. Like people pretending her writing in her memoir about playing doctor as a kid was confessing to child molestation. Also that thing last year where people had this weird conspiracy theory about her dog was peak example of that phenomenon. More than “privilege” “nepotism” etc the hate is ultimately about the fact she’s out in public and people have to think about/look at someone they don’t think is attractive.

this is v otm

papa don't take no meth (stevie), Friday, 9 March 2018 10:26 (six years ago) link

as is soref

papa don't take no meth (stevie), Friday, 9 March 2018 10:27 (six years ago) link

Baffled by the hate for the actual work, Lady Bird reminded me so much of the Dunham-written, Dunham-directed episode of GIRLS in Season 1 where she visits home (The Return) that it's untrue. Same damn mood, same damn feels, could be the same damn thing if you squint. I like both, but Gerwig's apparently some kind of genius with a 99/100 rating on Rotten Tomatoes and co-wrote an ilx film of the year, while Dunham gets the snarking and the brickbats. Definitely something massively 'up' there.

piscesx, Friday, 9 March 2018 10:28 (six years ago) link

And who's to say she didn't know her characters were somewhat reprehensible?

I'd be fine with "somewhat." I'm talking about the Aristotelian ideal of reprehensible.

ice cream social justice (Dr Morbius), Friday, 9 March 2018 15:41 (six years ago) link

More than “privilege” “nepotism” etc the hate is ultimately about the fact she’s out in public and people have to think about/look at someone they don’t think is attractive.

this is def a factor but also she's said a LOT of dumbass stuff! like yeah the hate is outsized compared to most celebs, but also most celebs don't write about how they wished they'd had an abortion or w/ever

Simon H., Friday, 9 March 2018 15:45 (six years ago) link

is she still the voice of her generation tho?

Larry Elleison (rogermexico.), Friday, 9 March 2018 16:09 (six years ago) link

NP otm... I never understood people being so upset by her body / nudity in Girls. She looks normal

flappy bird, Friday, 9 March 2018 16:34 (six years ago) link

And yea Simon that’s a great example of a blindspot I mentioned, i mean basically she says what rich bougie liberals living in Manhattan bubbles say in private. Idc though. she’s cool. never understood the unattractive thing

flappy bird, Friday, 9 March 2018 16:36 (six years ago) link

I'm assuming you don't literally mean "I don't get the ways in which she offends against the general models of which women get to be stars".

I agree that she does herself no favours, but yeah she's become the standard-bearer of snowflake generation and all the faults of the younger liberal generation, and being a lippy broad who offends against etc etc is a big part of that.

I'm going to get shouted at by Morbius if I suggest that's part of what HRC sees in her, aren't I?

Andrew Farrell, Friday, 9 March 2018 16:49 (six years ago) link

I'm assuming you don't literally mean "I don't get the ways in which she offends against the general models of which women get to be stars".

No I do mean that. It perplexes me bc she’s obviously not the first famous actress that’s not stick thin. Is it really the combo of nudity & millennial candor? tsk tsk.

flappy bird, Friday, 9 March 2018 16:51 (six years ago) link

it's bc her persona is about being entitled, vapid, privileged + self-absorbed

Mordy, Friday, 9 March 2018 17:20 (six years ago) link

yes

xp AF - i don't get it, what is it about that image?

flappy bird, Friday, 9 March 2018 18:25 (six years ago) link

I think's he's debunking the "she's unattractive" trope by showing she's attractive by any standard, though I think the makeup and airbrushing that surely went into all four of their faces diminishes that argument.

nickn, Friday, 9 March 2018 18:29 (six years ago) link

yea idg tho i just said i never understood why so many people found her unattractive to the point where it made them angry.

flappy bird, Friday, 9 March 2018 18:30 (six years ago) link

I think it's the nudity with a pudgy body that offends people. And the willingness to look unattractive while nude that make people think she has some weird obsession or is an attention-seeker.

nickn, Friday, 9 March 2018 18:33 (six years ago) link

Yeah no that's not what I'm doing - I agree she's within the bounds of 'normal' but she's outside the bounds of 'normal for a young woman fronting a TV show' (she's less outside them than she was).

Andrew Farrell, Friday, 9 March 2018 18:42 (six years ago) link

i don't really think her not being liked is some sort of mystery. she clicks the boxes for a wide variety of people, many of whom would also hate each other, to find fault with her.

Let's list things that different people dislike about her:

She's a woman
She is a writer/director/creator of a successful show while being a woman
She is from an extremely privileged background and it is assumed this helped her become successful
Half-jewish
Not conventionally attractive, especially by woman protagonist of a TV show or film standards, especially in regards to her body-type - which while probably average or slimmer than the average American woman is extremely plus-sized by the standards of film or TV - and does not seem to be ashamed or chastened by this
Politically liberal, feminist
Politically centrist, white bourgeois feminist, Clinton supporter, in favour of the prohibition of sex work, Girls was a very white show
Public statements that cause controversy: Odell Beckham Jr didn't want to fuck me when i sat next to him, I've never had an abortion but I wish I had had one etc.

Louis Jägermeister (jim in vancouver), Friday, 9 March 2018 18:55 (six years ago) link

Sensual pantsuit anthem

Louis Jägermeister (jim in vancouver), Friday, 9 March 2018 18:55 (six years ago) link

Odell Beckham Jr didn't want to fuck me when i sat next to him

this rly was mortifying

difficult listening hour, Friday, 9 March 2018 20:05 (six years ago) link

She is from an extremely privileged background and it is assumed this helped her become successful

I mean, it's a silly reason to knock someone who does good work but it's a pretty fair assumption!

Simon H., Friday, 9 March 2018 20:09 (six years ago) link

There's that joke about someone who covered themselves with antiperspirant apart from one square inch, which became a fountain. So, "that, but for misogyny" is a factor too - but there are a lot of factors, jim OTM.

Andrew Farrell, Friday, 9 March 2018 20:54 (six years ago) link

also, when Driver was signed for it she said she'd never seen any Star Wars

ice cream social justice (Dr Morbius), Friday, 9 March 2018 21:01 (six years ago) link

xps. absolutely. i mean i am the king of hating this but otoh i can see how maybe this isn't something to hate someone for per se. I mean I really liked Girls, why should this bother me?

Louis Jägermeister (jim in vancouver), Friday, 9 March 2018 21:01 (six years ago) link

Haha I didn’t know about the Star Wars thing. Actually that makes me hate that she isn’t aware more enough to be trollish with that sort of stuff. Like trying to imagine the reaction if she claimed to have never heard of Star Wars or “it’s for nerds” etc.

Nerdstrom Poindexter, Friday, 9 March 2018 21:23 (six years ago) link

I'll still rep for "One Man's Trash" and "American Bitch" being as good as any contemporary short story.

... (Eazy), Friday, 9 March 2018 22:11 (six years ago) link

at least 70% of Girls is good

Simon H., Friday, 9 March 2018 22:15 (six years ago) link

four years pass...

When I go, I want my casket to be driven through the NYC pride parade with a plaque that reads “she wasn’t for everyone, but she *was* for us”- who can arrange?

— Lena Dunham (@lenadunham) October 2, 2022

one year passes...

She's on the latest episode of Finding Your Roots; among the revelations is that she's descended from the first native-New Yorker mayor of New York (late 1600s). Additionally, he was a merchant who exchanged cheap goods to Indigenous people for large swaths of land, and also involved in the slave trade to some degree.

On the brighter side, she's also distantly related to Larry David.

three months pass...

https://variety.com/2024/film/news/lena-dunham-drops-polly-pocket-film-1236063276/

“I’m not going to make the Polly Pocket movie,” Dunham announced. “I wrote a script, and I was working on it for three years. But I remember someone once said to me about Nancy Meyers: the thing that’s the most amazing about her is that the movie she makes or the movie she would be making with or without a studio, with or without notes — that somehow her taste manages to intersect perfectly with what the world wants. What a fucking gift that is. And Nora Ephron, too, who was such a mentor to me, but always said, ‘Go be weird. Don’t kowtow to anyone.'”

“I think Greta [Gerwig] managed this incredible feat [with ‘Barbie’], which was to make this thing that was literally candy to so many different kinds of people and was perfectly and divinely Greta,” Dunham continued. “And I just — I felt like, unless I can do it that way, I’m not going to do it. I don’t think I have that in me. I feel like the next movie I make needs to feel like a movie that I absolutely have to make. No one but me could make it. And I did think other people could make ‘Polly Pocket.'”

Mattel seeking out Dunham for a Polly Pocket movie in the first place feels like a plotline cut from Barbie.


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