Internet Dating

Who said the internet never enriched my life?

Three years ago, I would've pointed out that while the internet couples were still together and the high school ones weren't, most of the internet couples were viciously unhappy but had more pressure to stay together, since getting together meant at least one of them moving, choosing a school or job based on the other's location, etc.

One year ago, I would've amplified that with the observation that the relationships I've witnessed which originated online got serious much faster than others, presumably because when you have to buy a plane ticket for your first date, you sort of want it to be "meaningful" -- and that this meant that people who would probably be destined for a five-date relationship ended up moving in together, which then led to the aforementioned vicious unhappiness.

Today, I'll just say: be careful, be smart, and ask yourself if there's really anything you can find online that you can't find down the street.

(I'm talking only about people who meet on the internet, btw, not internet dating services -- if that's what the question is about, I don't have any experience to share, secondhand or otherwise.)

What if the person you meet on the internet does live down the street?

I like it because it focusses attention on the mind, on common interests and compatible personalities, much more than looks. This is partly because I think I score better that way, but also because I think that is a much more fruitful route towards a good relationship. I fancy loads of people, but I can't imagine spending loads of time with most. If you want some recommendations, the ones that I've found best (all free) are http://www.midsummerseve.com, http://www.loveandfriends.com and http://www.datingagency.com.

Oh, and as for all this stuff about buying plane tickets, I've found that there are literally thousands of people in London on such sites, so I just search for local women only (but not in a Royston Vaysey kind of way, obv).

If you meet someone local online, cool -- the relationship doesn't have to be pursued online, so from that point it's no different from dating someone you met at a party or a mall or whatever. Plus, you can flame them if it doesn't work out :)

Your internet dating stories, please.

obv Slsk's not actually a dating service, so perhaps not relevant to the question.

then select "Download to bedroom"

ha ha ha. Sorry.

we met back in those distant times when the chat rooms weren't full of 12 year olds going "U R ALL GAY". although I seem to remember that I was very drunk and being slightly abusive myself at the time...

it was only a matter of time before we were downloading all over each other.

consumating
http://consumating.com/

I posted a new ad on a dating site yesterday, though I don't have high hopes about it. But I'm tired of trying to find company in pubs, and I'm not even that good at it. Previously all I've gotten out of net dating is a couple of short relationships and some casual sex. You hear all these stories about how people met each other online, but personally I know only one person who's found a long-term relationship through Internet dating, and even they broke up. So does that really happen?

Some ILXors are married to each other, aren't they? So yeah! (others have broken up too, though)

my uncle just married a woman he met online, she moved clear across the country and has been living with him for the past 5 years. so there you go.

Yeah, but they met through ILX, right, not through a dating site.

(x-post)

ILX isn't a dating site?

AW GOD, WHAT HAVE I BEEN DOING WASTING SO MUCH TIME ON HERE, ARGH, ACK!

I have even more time for Colonel Poo now!

Lucky Poo!

i joined gu4rd14n s0ulm4t35 very soon after i found out that a really really lovely and very well suited couple i'd been hanging out with a fair bit, met on there.

i can't call it a success, as such - i've been pretty passive and only met one person IRL and it was a bit of a disaster - but it's fun anyway and probably actually worth the cash.

Tuomas, it's like meeting in (ahem) real life: people meet, they sometimes marry, they sometimes break up. The chances of it being more successful are the same.

How much did you pay her, Charlie? :-)

*applause*

Mr. Jaq and I met through a local on-line dating site, almost exactly 7 years ago. It shut down a few months after we met, but revived about a few years ago - they still had my ad in the database and asked if I wanted to leave it up. Uhm, no, thanx though. http://www.singlesinseattle.com/ - looks like it's free for Seattle people.

My husband and I met online although it wasn't through a dating website. We both had online journals and met through them in 2001. I moved to England to live with him from 2003-2005 and he's been here with me in the US since we got married a year ago on Monday!

Also, I do know of one horror story. A friend of mine in England met a man from Montreal on the same site that L and I met on. They dayted for a while with him traveling to the UK to visit and daily expensive calls etc. About six months into it, she got a call from his WIFE. Pretty much every single thing he'd told her was a lie. It was awful.

The woman that sits opposite me at work spends most of her time searching online dating sites, particular

http://www.parship.co.uk/
and
http://www.sugardaddie.com

The latter is quite something.

i trust you have already set up an account on both sites to flirt with her?

I posted a new ad on a dating site yesterday, though I don't have high hopes about it. But I'm tired of trying to find company in pubs, and I'm not even that good at it. Previously all I've gotten out of net dating is a couple of short relationships and some casual sex. You hear all these stories about how people met each other online, but personally I know only one person who's found a long-term relationship through Internet dating, and even they broke up. So does that really happen?

-- Tuomas, 19. heinäkuuta 2007 13:53 (4 months ago) Bookmark Link

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In the end all this ad lead to was casual sex an a short relationship again, so I'm still not convinced about Internet dating.

i trust you have already set up an account on both sites to flirt with her?

-- ken c, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 13:46 (1 minute ago) Bookmark Link

Man, if only I had that much hate in my heart these days, that'd be pretty lulz.

In the end all this ad lead to was casual sex an a short relationship again, so I'm still not convinced about Internet dating.

perhaps you should try http://www.parship.co.uk?

Also, I'm kinda wondering, what sort of a people answer your ad, meet up with you, clearly enjoy your company, have sex with you, but soon after call the whole thing off? Sometimes I feel like I'm being used here...

(xx-post)

And before someone cracks a joke about it, no, I don't think I'm that bad in bed.

maybe you should try not having sex with them next time and see what happens.

I met my current bf on an internet dating site. He was the first person I corresponded with on there, and the only one I met in person. He's lovely. I wouldn't call it long term just yet but I expect it will be.

Also, I'm kinda wondering, what sort of a people answer your ad, meet up with you, clearly enjoy your company, have sex with you, but soon after call the whole thing off?

They're called "boys".

and "girls" in the cases where a vagina is present.

much new information to process here

internet dating feels weird and unnatural.

but strangely so good.

a bit like deep throating.

They're called "boys".

Oh no, they've been boys all along?! I guess guys these days are very good at hiding their penis then.

they probably pulled it back between their legs and you were having sex with the resulting cleavage formed just above their penis.

OMG

ken stop being crass and accept my add

facebook is being silly buggers. also: we haven't even met yet!

accept my ADD more like amicorrect?

look a tree!

ken we shall doubtless meet this xmas hol, and besides, your richie edwards tribute has entered my very soul

I'll think about it when i get home later.

accept my ADD more like amicorrect?
this was funny!

Joined flickr
Went on flickr meet
Met girl
Dated girl for few months
Girl lent DVD’s
Finish with girl
Girl won’t give DVD’s back “why should I give you them back” her words!

DUD!

not really internet dating, but we ended dating because of the net.

^^^story of my life (to come)

All (three) of my married friend couples met over the internet.

I had a date with RealPlayer once but she got caught in net congestion and didn't make it

this is pathetic but as a net dating semi newbie im a bit sad this girl i was emailing back and forth has gone AWOL on me. quite liked her. as far as liking someone only via email goes of course. dont see much happening with the rest of the women on the site... never mind though, theres other fish profiles out there! right? err

im giving this another temporary go. what does it mean when someone keeps replying but doesnt really ask you any questions? i mean i know what i think it means, but why bother replying if thats the case?

it could mean
1) what you think it means
2) they're just filling time/seeking attention
3) they're not that into you, but will give you a chance
4) you seem fine, but haven't revealed a lot about yourself on which to judge
5) they generally think the other person/gender should be the aggressor
6) they might like you but don't want to be eager
7) it's not clear what you're interested in
8) they are very literal
9) they are boring

10) they receive many inquiries, and it's your burden to separate yourself from the pack

but i dunno, i've never done internet dating

being a cynical person, i am going to go with option 1 or 2. they seem to think im funny. i am however wary that it will be one of these self centered types. or just some stupid girl wanting attention. it is probably the latter.

11) they are stupid

they might be stupid too. but shes in her early 20s. im guessing its the immature attention seeker.

12) They are a robot

lol

haha. bots have clearly come of age.

i like how the first poster apologizes for being a lonely, lonely man. more people should do that.

I might have to finally try this soon, my recent relationship fuck-up has left me a tad dispirited about real life women with whom you may share friends and stomping grounds. It's worked out pretty well for several of my mates.

All my friends who are married have met through the internet! And they are v. happy couples who are full of the <3. Your grandma will judge you, though (well mine would, but she's pretty much made that her post in life).

i think i'm too cynical to do this.

a friend of mine is doing this right now and going on dates and having a good time, she's like 'who knew dating was so easy!' - i think she's gone on a couple second dates but seems to be into it for the dating rather than nec as a search for a relationship or anything. which i guess is the healthy way to go about it. not sure that i get the dating-as-entertainment thing though.

i asked her if i should try it and she laughed and told me she was on a date with someone sort of tedious/self-absorbed the other night and thought 'what wld robyn do in this situation' and apparently what i would do is say 'yeah i gotta go' pretty early on. which is pretty much truth. i wonder what i have become.

im trying this out at the moment.

gabb's 9 + 11 (never forget) are otm. And if they didn't have a hot pic you woulda given up on them awhile back.

this can be fun and useful but never never allow yourself to get very attached to anyone you only know through email. The going AWOL without notice thing is a pretty common MO even if you really think you are hitting it off. Like 90% of those people were recently dumped and still obsessed with their ex!

ryan OTM. i have already noticed this.

i wonder if father mckenzie at the top of the thread ever found his eleanor rigby

All (three) of my married friend couples met over the internet.

Wow I can't even think of who the third couple is. !!!

That it should come to this. What sites in the UK should, uh, my friend be using other than the Guardian one.

there are guardian dating forums? i thought they were just the comments boxes after ruth fowler's blog articles

I know a girl that got laid real good off the god damn Onion personals

there are guardian dating forums? i thought they were just the comments boxes after ruth fowler's blog articles

zinged! yes, guardian soulmates seems to be full of angry people who will not date you if you think george bush is "a good bloke" and "are not open-minded".

http://www.staganddove.com/

^dating for London-based hipsters.

are your exes on there?

http://www.getting-together.org.uk/

^^^no, here

chuckle

do hipsters really internet date?

caek I know you are a scientist so perhaps you might have better luck with carbon dating instead.

^^^ internet dating strapline in the making. 'i'm more used to CARBON dating...'

OK I will steal that (thanks libcrypt!) and let you know if it works.

http://img217.imageshack.us/img217/3002/picture1rg7.png

Do you wash the damn dishes y/n

We Kill Losers

giving this some thought. there is never anyone "in my area" tho.

I'm married to a woman I met on the internets. Also, Nerve.com is really quite useful if you just want to get laid a lot with people you never talk to again.

xpost wanna date?

gsoh?

I feel like in the area I live in now, there are probably tons of interesting & satisfactorily nerdy guys to be found on the internet, but I can't bring myself to join a site because OMG THE JUDGMENT.

maria, don't let that stop you, because in the end when you finally meet some awesome dude it will be u who has teh last laugh.

i met my bf online (not a dating site) and tons of ppl were judgmental and weirded out by the whole concept. we have known each other more than 18mo and been v v v happily living together for 4.

& as a sidenote: my friend who was most weirded out by internet relationships - her bf moved to malaysia and their relationship crumbled; doing the LDR made them realise they had no communication skills and the distance magnified all their problems.

so what are these dating sites you speak of..
I tried a few but none of them are satisfactory.
Right now I'm using OkCupid and Plentyoffish but I only email a few people (I'm so judgmental) and then there is only so many users in my area.
Maybe I can try nerve.com if it isn't a british thing.

I would never pay for a dating site like eharmony or adultfriendfinder etc.

what is plentyoffish?

one of the free ones :)
http://www.plentyoffish.com/

adultfriendfinder

^^^not a "dating" site by traditional definition.

lol

so did we decide that there isn't anymore dating sites to try?

that nerve.com thing is crap, you can join it but you have to pay to upgrade and have email capabilities. not many users either

an ex of mine later used salon personals, found a dude, they got married, have a six-month-old kid, all is grebt

I would never pay for a dating site like eharmony or adultfriendfinder etc.

one of the free ones :)
http://www.plentyoffish.com/

that nerve.com thing is crap, you can join it but you have to pay to upgrade and have email capabilities. not many users either

Nobody wants to date a skinflint, dude.

everyone needs to check out the new york review of books personals pronto.
http://www.nybooks.com/classifieds/personals

BEAUTIFUL-LOOKING, smart, and sexy (and that’s not just my family talking). NYC woman, full of great compassion, empathy, and sly wit. Fun and funny, can be counted on for good times, good company. Athletic lean body, lively zest for life. Easy to talk to, easily amused, creative. City person but adores the Berkshires. Spunky, good joke-teller. Lover of words, animals, books, beauty, Chinese food in Chinatown, al dente pasta, sharp cheeses, documentary films, yoga, hardware stores, Scrabble. Wants to travel the world, unwind at home, cuddle up and watch good movies, share cultural things, music, Sunday crossword and simple pleasures with articulate, attractive, active, in-shape, financially sophisticated, liberal-thinking man, 52–68

lots of good finds there imo.

"financially sophisticated"

SACRED EROTIC ...The Incredible Lightness of Touch. Private, safe, tasteful. Greenwich Village. (212) 645-4995

http://img217.imageshack.us/img217/3002/picture1rg7.png

― Alba, Monday, August 11, 2008 8:09 PM (2 months ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

Except I just clicked on the bit that said "unfit" on the site and it's basically just talking about spambots and the like. I was kind of amped for these guys to cement my self-image but I guess not this time

am i the only one reading that as "plenty offish"?

schtop, thish plenty offish site ish not ready for the Championsh League or UEFA cup 2008/9

Just got offish

genius username sir

maria, don't let that stop you, because in the end when you finally meet some awesome dude it will be u who has teh last laugh.

^^^ THIS

Despite having made plenty of friends online (not on dating sites) I was a bit weirded out by the judgMENTAL lunacy of online dating. But once you get over that and realise everyone's in the same boat, it becomes much easier and even fun - and an incredible boost to the self-esteem (this fillip cannot be stressed enough).

I found the simplest way to deal with it was to ignore the whole "our computer has decided these people are PERFECT for you, based on a bunch of shallow bullshit you filled in very quickly" and just check out who's online at the same time as you - in other words, treat it exactly like walking into the pub and looking around to see who's cute :-)

am i the only one reading that as "plenty offish"?

i thought it an odd name... it only now occurred to me that it is supposed to be plenty of fish!

i want to know if caek's carbon dating joek worked or not

something tells me that i would never meet the kind of guy i like on a dating site

You won't even sleep with hipster!

AND..?

http://i16.photobucket.com/albums/b49/RosaHelikopter/whatdoyoulike.jpg

loooool

so what's new in the *free* online dating world?
the three sites I've used have only proved to be crap.

also *free* online sex personals - got any links?

none of that upgrade to a gold member bullcrap

craigslist.org

facebook,duh
whe needs dating sites when theres facebook anyway

whe needs dating sites when theres facebook anyway

CHRIS-D from BILSTON

hi im lookin for a woman between 18-21.
Age 21
Relationship Status Single
Hometown BILSTON
Seeking a woman
Between 18 and 23
CHRIS-D is loopy about happy

CHRIS-D’s statement
well i love playing football, i av a god payed job for my age. which is ok.apart from whe ni av to work 7am-8pm, i have a dog called millie, i like watchin t.v, films, playing the ps2, i love k.f.c, im not that keen on Mcdonalds its abit boring now.err, i like to drink stella and vodka. i like goin out. n i hope i hear from a lucky girl LOL

hi im lookin for a woman between 18-21.

Seeking a woman
Between 18 and 23

but are you a lucky girl LOL?

sounds like it might be a deal-breaker with this guy

none of that upgrade to a gold member bullcrap

http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3152/2407339160_3b4d4af426.jpg

why yes, it appears i am!
xpost

k i hook you up

pof has done me already. met up with a cutie just last night.

Dude, if you can't be bothered to shell out a few quid to get a proper membership to a proper site, don't go bitching that you can't meet anyone.

Sorry, I'm still feeling pissed off about some guy the other day that I felt was jerking me about - he kept sending these one-line flirty emails, and I kept answering back, thinking, OK, this could lead to something... after the third email he asked me to buy him an upgraded account!

Like... fuck OFF.

I'm perfectly happy to go dutch on dating, but I am *NOT* paying for some loser boy who can't be bothered to, like, invest in his love life himself.

wow :|

after the third email he asked me to buy him an upgraded account!

That’s good; he’s honest, he’s giving you a chance to show your strengths and independence by letting you pay for him. I think it’s a good start, give him a chance!

He's honest, so I'm gonna be freaking honest right back...

I DON'T WANT NO SCRUBS, A SCRUB IS A GUY THAT CAN'T GET NO LOVE FROM MASO-BOO!!!!!!

So basically, women want men to lie in the beginning, now wonder (some) men need the webdate thing.

also *free* online sex personals - got any links?

Don't tease me when I'm getting fucking drunk and in the mood to SHOUT at someone. :-(

You get what you pay for amirite? (xp)

Sorry, i'm in that kinda mood.

Will annoy someone else.

Dude, if you can't be bothered to shell out a few quid to get a proper membership to a proper site, don't go bitching that you can't meet anyone.

Sorry, I'm still feeling pissed off about some guy the other day that I felt was jerking me about - he kept sending these one-line flirty emails, and I kept answering back, thinking, OK, this could lead to something... after the third email he asked me to buy him an upgraded account!

Like... fuck OFF.

I'm perfectly happy to go dutch on dating, but I am *NOT* paying for some loser boy who can't be bothered to, like, invest in his love life himself.

just cuz I'm a guy I should be the one who pays apparently. HEY we both dont want to pay - don't get angry at cheapskates it sounds hypocritical

especially broke cheapskates

Yes, just because you are a guy, you should pay for your own upgraded account.

Some dude wants to go on a date with me tomorrow, and I fear I may be too hungover if I carry on like this.

x-post, paying for your OWN internet dating subscription, YES YOU BLOODY WELL SHOULD.

I paid for mine own.

How would you feel if you'd been chatting to some chick online, and then after exchanging a few messages, she asks you to buy HER a subscription to the dating site? You'd tell her to fuck right off, wouldn't you.

In actual dates, he buys the first round, I buy the second - fair and square.

she just said she'd be happy to go dutch you fucking retard/sock (delete as appropriate)

Still not convinced Lorax isn't a sock.

This is all shit. I'm gonna go back to reading Justice buggering their way through the Canadian noize rock scene.

*faints*

In actual dates, he buys the first round, I buy the second - fair and square.

― I can SLASH! I'm getting SLASHED with you! (Masonic Boom), Thursday, 12 February 2009 18:28 (3 minutes ago) Bookmark

You'd be surprised how many don't :(

This is all shit. I'm gonna go back to reading Justice buggering their way through the Canadian noize rock scene.

― I can SLASH! I'm getting SLASHED with you! (Masonic Boom), Thursday, February 12, 2009 12:31 PM (1 minute ago) Bookmark

wait r u SLASHing in this post

I wish I knew who MSTRKRFT were, this shit is HOTTTT.

First dates are weird - like, I don't like offering to buy the first round, coz it's like some guy big swinging dick thing, that they like to act all manly and liek they're in control and buying the bacon and that shit. But I'll always buy the second round (if there is one) to try and keep things even.

This shit is tough for girls, too, coz, like some dudes get all upset and BUTTHURTED if you offer to pay (did I use that word right?) like you've insulted hteir manhood or whatever. I just htink it's nice to offer, you know.

wait so you really are reading SLASH about Justice????

OF COURSE I'M RADING SLASH ABOUT JUSTICE, WHY THE HELL WOULD I LIE ABOUT THAT!??!?!?

mstrkrft r not noize rock

What the fuck are they then?

Oh wait, I can GOOGLE!!!!!

what a world!

BRB. MORE VODKA.

what up kate i always dug this joint

also the usher love in the club rmx with the layla synths they did was the shit

I JST FOUND ONE ON YOUTUBE THAT I AM LOADING.

AH, IT IS ONE OF THOSE DFA DUDES THAT AMPSTER USD TO HAVE THE TOTAL CLIT-ON FOR!!!!!

HEE HEEE HEEE, LOOK WHAT CAM UP AS AN AD AS I AM LOADING...

http://googleads.g.doubleclick.net/pagead/imgad?id=CNOzh6r16P2NugEQrAIY7wEyCJzBVKAtUq7d

http://googleads.g.doubleclick.net/pagead/imgad?id=CNOzh6r16P2NugEQrAIY7wEyCJzBVKAtUq7d

I didn't realize you had paid Masonic Boom... I thought we were on the same boat as far as not wanting to ever pay for online dating goes. But I didn't revive this thread to complain that many sites make you pay. I revived it to find more free dating sites.

Most recently I have used PlentyOfFish, OkCupid, and Mingle2.. I might try yahoo personals again. Facebook and Myspace have been pretty crap for finding dates - since that's not their main purpose.

I found 3 pretty decent free dating sites, I'm not complaining about that. I'm just wondering if there is more.

Meetup.com is pretty crappy for my location

Free internet dating sites are invariable crap, because the fee serves to weed out timewaters.

Anyway, I've lost interest in internet dating - you do not wnat ot KNOW what Jesse just did with Xavier's ass. Wow. I didn't know that was physically possible,

Oh wait, it isnt'. This is slash.

kiu

how are you this drunk at like 6pm

7pm, not 6pm, started at about 5, half a bottle of vodka, and I just got turned down for a job I didn't evn want.

Also, bored out of my mind NAD CABIN FEVER from being fucking unemployed.

i don't like MSTRKRFT

They're kind of... a bit boring and samey and repetitive after a while. (yeah, I know, get one spacemen 3 album, what am I complaining about here?) I don't like them as much as I liked Justice.

Which just goes to show, you can't jduge a band by how hott the slash is. (didn't i learn that 15 years ago with manic street preachers?)

NAD CABIN FEVER

NAD CABIN FEVER

this is probably around the time you want to put up an ad on craigslist, invite a bro over to share the vodka, and watch the magic blossom

in this country, we got Gumtree, which is probably even less effective than Craigslist

altho I HAVE gotten 6 weeks' good work experience outta Gumtree

I didn't realize you had paid Masonic Boom...

Yes you did.

YO GASPARD AND XAVIER, I GOT YR VODKA RITE HERE BRO, COME ROUND AND CAN I WATCH YOU TWO BUMING EACH OTHER OR WHAT?!?!?!?!?!?

DDB DANCE PARDEEEE

This is boring. i wnt to listen to Yes.

I wonder if there is YES slash out there... hrrrmrmrmmrrmmrmmmmm

!

i might have to start a new internet dating thread

lolz

No matter how many Internet dating threads you start Lorax you still smell like feet.

watch the magic blossom into a total clit-on

Do you know how freaking hard it is to google "yes slash" ? ?!?!??!

it's at times like these, I wish there were something like Gaydar for DDBs. That would mka life so much easier if you could just get on the interwebs and order one up like pizza instead of having to go on so many boring ass dates.

bet if you order a pizza there's a decent chance a mopey skinny dude will be the one that delivers it

problem solved

Not around here, mate. :-(

if hes bringing you pizza the mopey & skinny will both happen soon enough

mopey ok but why will he get skinny

bored now.

libcrypt is my arch-enemy

I believe "Jon Anderson Chris Squire slash" may be more effective (although Squire and Bruford look like total goons).

i dont like online dating, i think dudes get like super high expectations or something and then i feel rejected and its like shit man im a babe whats yr prob?

http://www.huxrecords.com/rick_wakeman1.jpg

rick wakeman nevar forget

I couldn't find slash for any of them.

'70s rick wakeman was a dreamy dude.

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH 70s Rick Wakeman.

Ah, "prog rock organ cape slash" yes.

I think maybe you're right about the high expectations thing, but then both sides kind of suffer from that. No matter how much I freaking SPELL. IT. OUT. in my profile - I'm a fattie. I'm of fairly average looks. I still think men are disappointed when they meet me in the flesh, and no, I'm not being disingenuous, and I'm not being overly modest, I am a fattie of very average looks.

Damn, I got so distracted by the Justice slash I fogot to get more vodka.

These two addictions will battle to the death – within you!

Vodka? French electrohouse slash? Vodka? French electrohouse slash?

This is like daddy or chips.

But mind you, not if I end up at hte offie at ungodly ocklock buying JUZTIZIA brand crap Polish vodka or whatever.

rick wakeman/king boy pato slash

TWO GREAT TASTES TAHT GO GREAT TOGETHER!!!!!

HAHAHAHAHHAHAHHA X-POST

Cheap vodka shots alternated w/pickle brine shots is the only way I've found to make cheap vodka tolerable.

nah, I've still got a LITRE of the GOOD Xmas vodka left from when i still has AN JOB.

I'm gonna run out of OJ soon, though,

Bah.

Now I've got the idea of pizza in my head. And I can do nothing about it. I'm afraid to leave the house when I get in a mood like this - might shag the pizza man. Might glass someone with the vodka bottle. Best not to find out.

shag 'n' glass

I'm a fattie, we should start a club - insecure fatties club
Also Yes was the first band I ever really got into.

Fripp / Hammill

Rutherford / Gabriel

This prog slash idea has legs.

I might need to resort to internet dating soon out of pure loneliness. If my roommate's date this weekend turns into a boyfriend, I'm going to be spending so much time alone. (Or maybe I should just say "hey can I come to one of these parties where you meet all these people, since I'm kinda new in town and don't have that many friends here yet?" Which would be the obvious thing to do, but there's gotta be a reason she hasn't invited me, so maybe it's also an oblivious thing to do.)

i am very skeptical about internet dating. i think i need to get out more in non-bar/gig situations, whatever those might be.

Facebook has gotten me dates. Myspace has gotten me laid. Yay internet dating!

yeah, i heard that myspace girls are good to go

They're all like "hey there, come on into my nad cabin"

who uses myspace anymore

sexors

Like it's not bad enough you two have to wank all over the electrowibble thread, you're gonna come lord it over here?

GO AWAY.

^ what the hell is your problem?

Kate likes to pick certain threads and pretend they're her apartment -- it's this whole thing

Thread squatting is fun!

not so much when people yell at you

:(

It's capitals, it's not actually loud.

not so much when people yell CAPITAL at you

anyway, internet dating is rad. helped me out some years back when i got out of a super LTR and had no idea how to shot dating.

You wander into a thread and you pick on the spelling of a very obviously very drunk person - WOW, US DRUNKES NOT KNOWN FOR BEING VERY GOOD SPELLERS, US, WORSE THAN CATS YOU KNOW - and then wonder why they get cranky about it.

i've had ahlf a abottle of vodka, thats my fucking excuse.

I CAN SHOUT!!!! I'M GETTING LOUD WITH YOU!!!!

this excuse that I'm making, is it good enough for what you're paying?

I SAID I CAN SHOUT!!!!

i think you have me confused with someone else, madam

[edging towards door]

Dude, chillax, it's a Soulwax song.

it's not you it's the V-talking

Kate, this is probably a bad time to get reasonable with you, but when you post something as hilarious as "nad cabin" to ILX, you can probably expect people to pick that up and run with it in ways that are in no sense picking on or making fun of you. (No one was picking on whoever introduced "grebt" either.) Anyway, if I had invented nad cabins I would be proud.

honestly, i had no idea that was yours, kate. i just knew it was fucking genius. you should wear your nad cabin with pride.

it's fucking stupid and i fucking hate it, but hey, apparently the shouting woman from the Soulwax song hates the song as well, so who knows.

I have no sense of humour at the best of times, and even less when I'm drunked.

And I've just realised I really really DON'T want to go on this date tomorrow.

Which is what got me on the stupid fucking stupid thread in the stupid first stupid place.

Why am I even doing this? I ahte dating,I hate men and I hate the internet.

Why am I even doing this? I ahte dating,I hate men and I hate the internet.

Do you hate the internet because you can't get a man to date from said internet?

WTF is wrong with those people?

Actually ha hahahahahaha, that is hilarious.

It has cheered me up since stupid crookedeye potter manwoman drunk painting debacle.

OK, htat was funny for 1.30 but now it is no longer. Shut up stupid sunglassed glowing neon people with dodgy hair.

x-post no I just fucking hate hte internet becuase it's full of fucking people and I hate people.

most of us aren't real people tho.

No you don't, you're just a bit drunk and grumpy.
Or, you really do hate the net and you should turn it off and have a drunken jam along to some songs with your V nice guitar and then watch a sad film and have a good cry and fall asleep!

plus not totally kill vodka bottle or u will be useless for date tomorrow

to be fair, kate's right about the internet being a huge arena of filth.

(and i don't mean filth=great porn)

(altho..)

drunk kate is actually pretty awesome

how much have you drank?

drunk, kate haw

i got kicked out of a bar tonight for sneaking in vodka... FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK... I like to eat at wild wing cafe. they probably wont remember me on 2fer todays if I go and at the other side with my family anyways.

I must be a dumb shit for getting caught spiking my drink though. GOD DAMN ME

i guess paying nothing on bar fees is worth getting caught though.. spiking a drink is chap as hell

They'll remember someone who did that, trust me.

Also that is a great thing to do on a date, almost as great as the kid I rang up once who was on his first date w/a girl and he had shoved about 40 DVDs into his backpack. 'oops lol you're an accomplice and can never come in here again.'

I mean srsly their face will be etched on your memory forever. MAYBE if you come in a year later having lost or gained 100 lbs you have a chance.

fwiw i wear nad bagins with great pride

nad cabins*

Both men and women have nads: fact!

defin nades if u will plz ms abbott

Nads is short for gonads, which is why testicles are sometimes called 'nads.' However, a gonad is merely an organ that makes gametes (reproductive cells), meaning both ovaries and testes are 'nads.'

NB I may be doing the equivalent Lucy explaining various trees to Linus.

Fascinating imo!!

nad bagins!

Chip the glasses and crack the plates!
Blunt the knives and bend the forks!
That's what Nad Bagins hates -
Smash the bottles and burn the corks!

I love life, lookin good, I like to move it, I like dinner with friends with a good bottle of wine, I am not thirsty after drinking , I am not hungry after eating, I am no longer tired after sleeping, I am not cold after adding a layer, love sports, I live life to the fullest, no snob, no lie, simple, exercices, travels, positive, don't bite etc etc etc lookin for a partner someone who knows how to ride without holding on actually that was supposed to be a parody of generic profiles on internet dating sites but ya it needs some serious rewriting

must add bit about authenticity

I have such a fucking hangover and I still have to go on this date this afternoon.

I think I needed a good cry and a little temper tantrum, like sometimes you need a massive thunderstorm after an oppressive muggy day.

I still don't see what's so funny about "nad cabin" but if it amuses you...

I don't hate the internet. What I hate right now, is that this little tiny silver box feels like the only window I have on life right now. And that really sucks.

i've just registered nadcabinfever.com

I HATE YOU SO MUCH RIGHT NOW.

(From now on I will only answer to this thread in shouted song lyrics.)

http://www.itusozluk.com/img.php/6e9a0a7dec12e1545db98fc4524dc49512015/xanax

"Tell me, do you ever stop shouting at the lower orders?"

"NEVER"

I've noticed that when I email a random girl for no reason and explain why it could never work out, but also say that they are hot, they always email me back and give me their AIM handle or something. :p

But I was serious when I said it would probably never work out, so I never contact them again.

meanwhile - I haven't met a girl from the internet in over a year (and that was soulseek) but I still occasionally browse women on free dating sites and send emails.

I remember reading a Maxim article about where people meet their significant others and internet dating had a surprisingly high percentage. Internet dating is not taboo anymore.

Well. as long as there's truck drivers and 14 year-old girls.

lets not forget the real ladykiller
http://www.mcphee.com/pixlarge/11076.jpg

Given up. Deleted my profile. Time to invest in some cats.

I've had surprising success by switching over to craigslist, since I live in a city where it's so popular. I just use a funny title, do the 'your pic/myspace gets mine', and include a funny pic of Obama in there along with a pic of a really fat bunny rabbit.

I still kind of think that there has to be some kind of middle ground between honestly looking for love online and giving up and paying for pussy.

everybody pays for pussy in one way or another

lol tza

free vs cheap

i've just registered nadcabinfever.com

― o_O (ken c), Friday, 13 February 2009 12:23 (2 years ago)

it has now expired :(

Finally, a woman who enjoys mind games

ws

I think she'd unnerve me more if I didn't have this enormous boner.

http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web03/2012/6/4/15/enhanced-buzz-12766-1338839487-0.jpg

more here

Can I ask for a S/D (or any sage advice) as a 24 year old virgin who wants to gain experience, NSA or otherwise. e.g. sites? local vs. global sites? Sites for students, specifically grad students (to find people of equal obnoxiousness, of course)? Etiquette tips? Etc.

(For the record I am not especially unattractive or uninteresting, but am kind of picky in my taste.)

Thanks.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=euvUezZwAKg

recently broke up with my gf so thought i would try match.com, but lots of members dont seem to be paid up so cant email you (could of course just be they just dont want to, but i keep getting asked after sending messages if i want to upgrade so non paying members can email me), theres constant offers of add-ons you have to pay for, and weirdly (or cleverly i suppose), i got more views the day i joined *before* paying, then after. at this point, the concept of channel 4's nakedattraction seems easier.

internet dating still feels uncomfortably like shopping to me so I am making peace with dying alone

im thinking joining groups/activities might be a better option than online dating.

You know, this thing of blocking someone on a dating site after they make an innocuous, innuendo-free comment to introduce themselves is straight bullshit.

(I needed to be able to say this somewhere.)

it is bullshit but it also goes with the territory I'm afraid

xp nothing personal i’m sure

I guess? I've just started on a site for the first time in almost 20 years. It takes some getting used to.

what set them off? 'hey good lookin what you got cookin'???

ime that kind of blocking is not bullshit but just sth you have to get used to and accept. they don't owe you their time or a response and on some sites blocking may be the most efficient way to take someone out of their search results that they're not interested in seeing again. may seem harsh but think of it as someone at a bar who just isn't interested in talking. anyway getting used to doing this same kinda thing myself, n not agonizing over the writing of polite rejections or w/e, has made using okc much much more viable for me over the years, idk.

Yeah, I can see that. Just new to this, and hadn't encountered it anywhere else on social media. But, DC, your comparison makes sense.

(My initial messages are always either a) boring, "hi there" or "hello" or "we're a match here, how about that?" pablum or b) a genuine question based on the profile, because I suck at this medium. But I have met a few nice ladies to talk to.)

the numbers don't really favor men seeking women, and it opens the door to being treated dismissively, which feels bad.

on the flipside, as a man talking to women, you are way less likely to get gross or abusive messages than a woman would be talking to a man.

in conclusion, everyone feels dehumanized by these programs, to varying extents.

I've never done internet dating, but have heard many many horror stories of men getting abusive after being rejected, and whether or not their initial messages are polite/friendly/"normal" seems to have no bearing on how they react. So it is a lot *safer* for women who aren't interested to block and move on.

(Also as general advice, I'd be far more inclined to respond to your type b messages than type a.)

YMMV, but when I was dating I appreciated a clear signal that someone was definitely not interested in me. Just rip off the Band-Aid and avoid wasting the time of everyone involved, y'know? Lots of fish, etc.

It worked for me... but I marvel at my luck, tbh

every woman i know who's had internet dating experience has felt overwhelmed by the number of replies women receive, too. seems like for every random reply a man will receive, a woman will receive one hundred.

many women explicitly complain about receiving first-contact form-letter spam from men as well, mailed in bulk to up their odds

https://www.wired.com/story/bumble-grindr-and-hinge-moderators-trauma/