why do i stalk ex girlfriend :(

stop it.
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Seriously, stopping doing this is the best thing ever.

don't be that guy

fucking facebook pt. 91

cut it out, dudes.

I don't even do this and I'm a total loser.

jon otm, though everyone does it for a minute or two after the break-up

yeah, v. true. but such a good feeling when you get it out of your system :)

this is NOT minute or two, sadly.

a downside of online social networking is when an ex is an extended member of your friend group and you're dumb enough to actually click on their name and see that there is some vague thing wrong in their life and for some reason, give a shit.

you do still get the anti-creep filter of having to ask shared friends what's up, at which point they give you the eye and you feel like an asshole

which is crepier? stalking exes, or stalking crushes?

exes

if we're just talking about "internet stalking" then "stalking" crushes can in some v limited cases be considered cuet. this is never the case with exes.

Ban them on facebook. My ex did it to me and although it made it pretty painfully obvious how big shitheads some "friends" are, cutting yrself off is the best.

(Roy Orbison's "Mystery Girl" just came on :/)

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oh and guys be sure to be really careful not to del.icio.us your friends' exes home addresses :((((

oh yeah, this followed the weekend where i had a heart-to-heart with my dad over beers later causing me to go into some serious self-doubt about my past ability to hold together romantic relationships

good times, i tell you what

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jon, removing or banning is such a good idea and something i've done before, but i am not quite sure it would work in this case without causing me some other grief

Yeah, I had to block my ex on AIM. On one hand, though, it can be for the best--I cut an ex out of my life for a year, started talking to him again, and now we're good friends with no awkwardness.

Stalking crushes is only creepy if they've made it obvious they don't want to get with you.

Also, dude, block her before she blocks you. It'll make you a lot more unhappy when SHE does it.

haha otm

Also be sure to tell her if you know all the passwords to her email/myspace/aim. Because even if you would never use them, it's best not thinking about it.

hahahaha oh shit is that ever otm

hah, post-breakup we were still on pretty good terms for a few weeks, then communication tapered off a little, then... hell, i don't want to go into the whole thing, but basically i cracked and we opted to not talk as i obviously still was clinging to something and she was seeing someone. basically that conversation made me:
1. seriously get my shit together and enjoy a work trip to san fran
2. realize that i don't "get depressed," i have cyclical depression issues and have to make sure i get the right food, exercise, and sunshine

right now i'm sitting on the whole four months down the road, smiling and nodding as she reintegrates with my social group thing and trying to not be an asshole

The Facebook privacy stuff is awesome. Its like the other person doesn't exist. Myspace, not so much. I've thought about doing some greasemonkey stuff for that so I can look at my friend's comments but there's always the stray flickr embed from mutual friends etc.

Also I may be coming across as a little crazy!

Also be sure to tell her if you know all the passwords to her email/myspace/aim. Because even if you would never use them, it's best not thinking about it.Bookmark Link

there is an ex of mine from a couple years ago who i am sure never changed her passwords, even after i told her. thankfully i have absolutely no interest in seeing how much drama is going on in her life

haha, jon, i would be all over that shit, and i am sure a lot of other people would be too. these are common neuroses

by the way, thanks guys, this is the most even-handed and sympathetic response i've gotten in weeks

also good is when you don't know if they're reading your website anymore.

Also I may be coming across as a little crazy!
perhaps but at least it makes me feel a little better about my past ex-stalking (which is now down to like, 0, for all exes ever!!!!!!)

c/d: finding out someone you have been on and off with for 5 years (currently off, though still talking...) is engaged via accidental encounter on social networking site. yikes!

Let's talk about my Macross dating advice from my ex:

"you need a misa, not a minmei"

o_O

I never stalked an ex so much as vindictive "HAHA YOU AREN'T GETTING LAID BET YOU WISHED YOU HADN'T DUMPED ME NOW" smug facebooking.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/olmedia/375000/images/_378373_safety_text.gif

(There's a lot more important things that getting laid. That said.. I need to get laid.)

Note: I never actually SAID that to him, I just thought it. Whenever I was sad.

so the other drama is my solo whiskey drinking adventure a couple weeks back wherein i apparently sent the ex's best friend, who i only knew through her, a message on myspace (of all things) asking how she was doing and asking her feelings on house ownership since i've been kind of shopping around. she then added me as a friend?!?

seriously, wtf (and those safety rules are great!)

a lot of people add anyone who messages them by default, maybe. don't overthink it.

best thing to do is listen to awesome dance music and bum a smoke from someone then eat some food

aye aye, captain

no, all solo whiskey adventures need to end in one place: the dollar theatre.

i have perfected my manhattan recipe, on the bright side

silver lining

"log off and surf elsewhere"

theres only ONE(1) INTERNETS

maybe for you

jackin' time!!!

alt.cyberpunk

btw, tehresa, this on and off thing, it only works when one person isn't a crazed stalker like myself, right? haha

well, tbh, we were both the crazed stalker. it was destined to never be on for long.

(There's a lot more important things that getting laid. That said.. I need to get laid.)

who are u and what have you done with jon w1ll1ams?

a downside of online social networking is when an ex is an extended member of your friend group and you're dumb enough to actually click on their name and see that there is some vague thing wrong in their life and for some reason, give a shit.

um, just to look at it differently, is it really *that awful* to wonder how someone in your friend group is doing and actually care if the answer is "not so great"? good lord, the rules and expectations we impose on ourselves. you're not a robot, i don't think it's a big deal or morbid or anything to simply click on someone's facebook profile.

i do not recommend drinking lots of whiskey and messaging people though

^^^^ COSIGN

this thread = my life right now

blocked her on AIM but not on facebook since basically all of our friends are mutual

but my roommate wont tell me anymore if he's talked to her recently b/c ive asked "oh... how is she?" in the "nonchalant" voice too many times

don't fucking ask that, fuckhead!

Why can't you block on facebook? No one will know.

no, i just mean that shell know and shell get mad and it will make friend-group interactions awk.

she doesn't get notification

the future of socializing is complicated and retarded

^^what he said

amen to that

spent lunchtime figuring out new stalking techniques, came back to lean on this thread for support

well, not really stalking, it's just she's a graphic designer and I know she'll be at this ch1p k1dd talk in town on saturday, so i've spent the last few weeks realizing i'll run into her and need to seem completely neutral and level, and possibly like i have all my shit together

STOP

i've spent the last few weeks realizing i'll run into her and need to seem completely neutral and level, and possibly like i have all my shit together

the two halves of this don't balance! make it easy on yourself.

I've gotten much better about this.

haha, that was after-work coffee, don't question my impeccable logic

dude i'ma smack you

for your own good

jaggermeister dropping science like whoa

I still talk to and see my ex every day, hell he even stays over sometimes.

I may be a very unusual example tho I guess.

Other exes, I have nothin to do with.

"Also be sure to tell her if you know all the passwords to her email/myspace/aim. Because even if you would never use them, it's best not thinking about it."

QFT QFT QFT

^ what?

wow, stop bragging about being a mental case!

i see

Just agreeing with you jon

my ex is one of those ppl who remain good friends with about all her past relationships but she dumped me for another ex (who she stopped seeing because of me but was actually her best friend during the time we were seeing each other) because i was a 'an alcoholic who cant function in society'. which she KNEW THE WHOLE TIME. so she decides to be a dumbass & romanticize my faults by making me into a rimbaud or something & then i get MY heart broken?? what the fuck guys. when she told me over the phone she ended up screaming at me for basically no reason & it wasnt just screaming it reached that pitch that goes beyond a scream to something like a banshee wail, does anyone know what im talking about? ony girls seem to be capable of it. so i figured she still had pretty strong feelings for me & called her back a couple weeks later but she hung up & said if i called again she'd call the cops & i called back & she ACTUALLY DID CALL THE COPS. so we dont talk anymore. anyway i cyberstalk her somewhat but ive gotten better about it lately.

im getting a livejournal account bye

wow, stop bragging about being a mental case!

-- remy bean, Monday, June 25, 2007 6:02 PM (4 days ago) Bookmark Link

truth, but i just figured thats kind of what this thread is for

:-/

the cut it out thread would like to have a word with you

Such a terrible idea, but so easy to do to yourself in the modern world that it seems semi-unavoidable.

To which, BOOOOOOOOO.

When I was a young lad, stalking required night-vision goggles and camo paint.

i check her myspace like once a week! im not nearly as big a creep as i mightve made myself out to be, she just happened to be almost equally insane

lol i was so proud of myself for being over ex stalking that imagine my roffles when i discovered he is still looking at my myspace profile! hahahahaaaa i win. right? right????

finally blocked my ex-girl on facebook as well as AIM. trying desperately to forget her password.

This is bad news, dudes. You must chill. Eventually I found that the sick, agitated, crazy in the head feeling that I got from online stalking ex acted as aversion therapy to my wanting to do it. I only forget that now once every few months and I am always sorry.

I mean if you really want to wallow, no one can stop you. But if want to be not unhappy and not crazy, you have to stop yrself and get up away from the computer. I find going to do something purely physical like clean house or do a dumb heavy chore or take a work-out is the best relief, b/c afterwards I'm tired and don't have the nervous energy to get head-fucked about it.

oooh i know exactly what you mean. it does crazy bad shit to my stomach so that i'm mostly terrified to do it these days.
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but also the good thing is that in addition to not wanting that, i just don't care anymore and the idea to go digging doesn't even pop into my head much at all anymore.

I find going to do something purely physical like clean house

my house is the cleanest its ever been right now basically because i dont want to think about this shit. i bought a new bed from ikea mostly so i could spend a couple hours building it and not thinking aboutanything.

BE STRONG DUDES

vic is an example for us all.

Maxy, pick a sport, maybe -- or any physical thing that needs balance, concentration, works up a sweat -- learn to ride a unicycle or hula-hoop or juggle or something.

Worst-case-scenario you can always run away and join the circus.

Eh fuck the running away. Keep on keeping on guys! We are better than any goddamn shit who doesn't want the awesome that is us.

yeh ive been running, it helps a lot... tho the best thing for getting over a breakup is spending a lot of time w/ other friends!

Everyone keeps telling me that too, but all I've wanted to do is be a complete hermit and listen to music a fuck of a lot. I have to socialise a shitload tonight so that should get me out of me recent slump. I'm actually feeling orright today anyway.

Best revenge in ugly breakup: get gym membership, eat less (but regularly) and get it best shape of your life. Physical pain tends to distract from emotional, it helps you sleep better and you end up looking and feeling way better so that when you see them in three months they be like DAYUM

otm

random hookups you never see again also help

^^^not really true per se

great psychological revenge: hook up with/date someone significantly less attractive than your ex right after the breakup to make them go crazy wondering what they didnt have that your new, uglier sig o does.

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have sexy time with her

these words are foreign to me, now

that's good to hear!

not if the words he's talking about are "sexy time" :x

"sexy time" is always relevant

that's foreign too, the choice to self-neuter was the best!

(insert heaven's gate pictures here)

OFFICIAL CHANGE: sexy time now businees time

Ned, I saw you watching them at Arthurfest! I was watching you, watching them! You were 7 rows in front of me! I didn't say "hello"!
-- San Carlos, Thursday, January 19, 2006 1:52 AM (1 year ago) Bookmark Link

bwahahaha

watching you, watching them!

SWEET CAROLINE

neds touching neds, reaching out