Teen time

My eldest is 15 now and he has kind of decided that "home" is a place for him to crash, and get fed occasionally. It's making me kind of sad. I like that he's grown up and independent. And his whole attitude is so often combative and hectoring that it's frankly relieving sometimes when he's away. But I miss our little family nights, our dinners, our board games, our movie time. I knew that as soon as he left home, went to university etc, that this would happen, that those days would end. But this feels a bit soon!!

Sorry to hear Tracer, I remember those feelings well. Still kinda feel them a bit I'm sure. Of course you know in the end this is a good necessary phase of development but yeah hugs, I know these blues

I saw a meme thingy that said “My teen when I’m explaining something important” and it was a clip of Bill Withers singing “I know I know I know I know I know I know…” and it is the truest thing I have seen.

At its worst, I find myself counting down the time until my teen moves out. But when that happens I’ll probably be sad and crying, so oh well.

Sympathies, TH.

One of my favourite Viz letters ever btw runs something like "Pretend you're a teenager by slagging somebody off for 15 minutes and then asking them for a lift."

In the same proverbial boat with our younger one, Tracer -- down to the age. It's close to devastating.

Now off to find the Withers meme.

Our 15 year old daughter, who previously identified as a lesbian, is now into boys. I am devastated and ashamed. What will people think?

Anyways, I tried talking to her about birth control and she flipped out. Wife is taking her to the doctor tomorrow to talk about options. At first wife didn't want to force her to get on anything but she has since come around. Our kid is in a phase where she is not trustworthy and she's sneaky and has gotten into trouble with drugs and alcohol and regular lying about all matters big and small. Kid is worried that people at school will find out if she's on birth control and wants to know why she can't use Plan B after she has sex every time.

I love her so much and she's got a huge heart and she can be very sweet but a lot of the time I'm gritting my teeth and waiting for her to pull her head out of her ass. Living with a teenager really is like being trapped with someone who thinks they know everything, watching them bumble around and having them insult you when you try to help them. A mean drunk, basically.

oh man. strong relate.

I lost my damn mind a couple of weeks ago. Things
came to a head and the Kid, who has a very slippery relationship with the truth, started lying during a big stressful moment and I lost my shit as I have never lost my shit with anyone. I screamed “FUCK YOU” as loud as I could and left the house before I could say anymore.

When I explained the entire situation to my therapist she pretty much gave me a pass but I’m still ashamed at losing control like that. A lot of resentment had built up.

It is exhausting to not be able to believe a damn word someone says and they treat you like an asshole when you don’t believe them. I have so much more sympathy for my parents now that I have kids. I hope my kid has a bunch of kids. After she’s grown of course.