My toes hurt -- do yours? I think it must be this weather.
― Brad C., Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:21 (fifteen years ago) link
Shit, Michael, with my genes I'm doomed to 95 years at least.
― Rock Hardy, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:22 (fifteen years ago) link
I blame it on so-called asylum seeking feral politically correct Broken Britain.
― Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:22 (fifteen years ago) link
(the weather, that is)
― Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:23 (fifteen years ago) link
That monologue with Rhys Ifans last night.
What was all that about?
Eh?
I can't stop feeling all \o_O/ seeing twentysomething girls wearing essentially the same fashions that girls wore when I was twenty.
― Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:28 (fifteen years ago) link
Actually more like when I was fifteen.
― Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:29 (fifteen years ago) link
Haven't exactly been bombarded by deelyboppers and pop socks around these parts.
― Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:30 (fifteen years ago) link
Shoreham - liminal, but copper messy.
― Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:34 (fifteen years ago) link
One upside: being a dirty old man sort of suits me.
― Rock Hardy, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:35 (fifteen years ago) link
I had my midlife crisis from the ages of approx 15-42 so I reckon I'm due uncomplicated happiness now.
― Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:36 (fifteen years ago) link
This thread is so much like me at an FAP that it's spooking me out.
― Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:37 (fifteen years ago) link
Yeah, I'm drinking here at work, too.
― Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:38 (fifteen years ago) link
One upside: being a dirty old man sort of suits me. -- Rock Hardy
As per suits, I don't think I've got any I fit into anymore. On the, er, thinner side: I amn't that dirty really.
― t**t, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:40 (fifteen years ago) link
Just don't recognise anything in this thread. Including the posts I posted so that suggests it was probably a crap idea. Oh well, it was worth a momentary try.
― Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:41 (fifteen years ago) link
Please to God never let me actually become a "fortysomething."
― Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:42 (fifteen years ago) link
― Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:48 (fifteen years ago) link
What are the characteristics of a fortysomething? (I bet I have most of them).
― Dr.C, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:52 (fifteen years ago) link
I can legally have an affair with someone half my age!
so, is anyone on for it?
― The Real Dirty Vicar, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:02 (fifteen years ago) link
thread is otm, though now I can also see how it mightn't be otm, and would not be surprised to find myself arguing either side of the question for fifteen minutes or so before getting completely distracted by some other stray thought
― J0hn D., Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:35 (fifteen years ago) link
They say memory is the second thing to go. I can't remember the first one.
― Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:36 (fifteen years ago) link
My drug of choice these days is Back and Body aspirin, for that extra frisson of caffeine.
― Jaq, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:39 (fifteen years ago) link
Memory is going, true, but at least I remember the 70s
― Brad C., Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:47 (fifteen years ago) link
Memory is going, true, but at least I have begun forgetting the 70's.
― Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:54 (fifteen years ago) link
hi.
um, I'm OK.
― Mark G, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:43 (fifteen years ago) link
What are the characteristics of a fortysomething?
Being aged between 40 and 49. Anyway I though we were all 'middle youths' nowadays.
― Billy Dods, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:46 (fifteen years ago) link
sorry to have woken you oldtimers up . but. I misread Marcello's OP as
Yes, I know, creeping balkanisation etc. but why should we be left out?
But please leave cheeky Ovaries at the door.
-- Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, August 27, 2008 2:35 PM (7 hours ago)
― Thomas, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:47 (fifteen years ago) link
I'll have you know my ovaries are extremely well-behaved; veritable paragons of polite ovarian society.
― Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:49 (fifteen years ago) link
The ovaries are fine, but I'm prone to brain farts now.
― Rock Hardy, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:52 (fifteen years ago) link
The world's worst song.
― Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:54 (fifteen years ago) link
Comparing your ovary to a Bronte C/D?
― Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:09 (fifteen years ago) link
Wuthering Ovaries
― Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:10 (fifteen years ago) link
Thrustcrotch Minge
― Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:14 (fifteen years ago) link
Carry On Bronteing
― Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:21 (fifteen years ago) link
-- Rock Hardy
^^^
― moley, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:31 (fifteen years ago) link
haven't you all heard - us 40+'rs are saving the music industry.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/stevelamacq/2008/08/to_bb_or_not_to_bb.html
― mark e, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:39 (fifteen years ago) link
Come on - you're not too old to have forgotten this thread already... I am too old for this...the 40 plus thread.
― Ned Trifle II, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:44 (fifteen years ago) link
Don't even remember that thread but this one could do with a few more ovaries...
― Marcello Carlin, Thursday, 28 August 2008 08:53 (fifteen years ago) link
my right knee
― already president FYI (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 22 June 2011 19:33 (twelve years ago) link
wait, is your right knee also my right knee. Because - my right knee.
― The New Dirty Vicar, Wednesday, 22 June 2011 19:51 (twelve years ago) link
No knee problems, but a lingering cough and all.
― Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 22 June 2011 19:56 (twelve years ago) link
my left knee
― in an arrangement that mimics idiocy (Michael White), Wednesday, 22 June 2011 20:01 (twelve years ago) link
Knees still fine, but ow my aching fibroid. Roll on the menopause, please.
― Karen D. Tregaskin, Wednesday, 22 June 2011 20:08 (twelve years ago) link
back pain... bruised rib?
― Literal Facepalms (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 22 February 2012 15:52 (twelve years ago) link
Have you banged a rib?
― le ralliement du doute et de l'erreur (Michael White), Wednesday, 22 February 2012 16:21 (twelve years ago) link
Not that I remember ... had a sidewalk fall about 6 weeks ago but I'm positive I landed on knees.
― Literal Facepalms (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 22 February 2012 16:25 (twelve years ago) link
I always have back pain. I just attribute it to "lol old, also sit up straight dummy" at this point.
Had surgery three weeks ago to correct a compressed ulnar nerve in my left arm. Incision is taking it's sweet time healing all the way.
The rest of my 40s are going to suck, aren't they.
― A Full Torgo Apparition (Phil D.), Wednesday, 22 February 2012 16:28 (twelve years ago) link
Upper, lower, middle back, Morbz?
― le ralliement du doute et de l'erreur (Michael White), Wednesday, 22 February 2012 16:29 (twelve years ago) link
left middle-lower
― Literal Facepalms (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 22 February 2012 16:31 (twelve years ago) link
Saggy mattress? I can definitely trace my back pain to mattress + increasing girth.
― Steamtable Willie (WmC), Wednesday, 22 February 2012 16:32 (twelve years ago) link
This can reflect the invisibility of the single person - rather than the older person, ime.
― Dr Drudge (Bob Six), Sunday, 28 April 2024 21:58 (one month ago) link
A younger coworker started a coed recreational kickball team a few years ago, I was already in my forties and said to myself, I used to play lots of kickball when I was young, I’ll join and show these kids how it’s done. Well pretty early on in the season I kicked as hard as I could and pulled my quad so badly I thought I tore something. My leg swelled up and I could barely walk for weeks. I finally recovered in time for the playoffs, so of course I joined back up, and of course in my first at-bat I re-pulled my quad just as badly as the first time. I gave up on sports after that, I guess I’m too old. Nowadays I am getting ready to buy a pair of readers because I am sick of goggling blindly at fine print.
― epistantophus, Tuesday, 30 April 2024 01:58 (one month ago) link
Not to be a dick, but some pretty simple stretching can go a long way in that regard. I am 39– I stretch for 15 minutes every morning, and intend on doing so until I die
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Tuesday, 30 April 2024 11:18 (one month ago) link
This can reflect the invisibility of the single person - rather than the older person, ime.― Dr Drudge (Bob Six)
― Dr Drudge (Bob Six)
there are _so many different kinds_ of invisibility haha
it's something i struggle a lot with. am i being treated worse than the other people around me? am i being ignored? if so, _why_?
the whole phenomenon of the "karen" - to me it's kind of one response to not being _acknowledged_. it's one of the things that makes "passing" so hard for me - the way women of a certain age tend to be treated. there are _very much_ gendered differences here, ime.
women, like... we gotta learn to not take being ignored personally, even if there are, you know... even if we are being ignored _because_ we're women in our '40s. cuz if we don't that's when we get called "karens".
― Kate (rushomancy), Tuesday, 30 April 2024 13:30 (one month ago) link
The invisibility experience for me was more surreal than anything else, a “am I on Candid Camera?” feeling.
(I didn’t throw a fit or anything - just stood there for a minute or two accepting that this was happening, or not happening, before floating away to another business.)
― Marten Broadcloak, mild-mannered GOP congressman (Raymond Cummings), Tuesday, 30 April 2024 13:34 (one month ago) link
“Am I really alive? Am I a ghost?”
And while I haven’t worked in the service industry for many, many years, I get that these are repetitive, demanding jobs, and that the 6-7 people working at the combination DD/Baskin Robbins had been grinding since 5 am and were likely burnt to the point that I, a 6’4 black man, just might not have registered in the moment
― Marten Broadcloak, mild-mannered GOP congressman (Raymond Cummings), Tuesday, 30 April 2024 13:37 (one month ago) link
i had my ear surgery last week. it was a big deal and i assume there are lots of people out there who have the same issue, but live in a place where the diagnosis would not have happened and the surgeon wouldn't live in their town. kind of got mad at him because right when i woke up post surgery he tells me for the first time that i'm not allowed to blow my nose for 10 days. mfer, it's mid April and pollen is everywhere. i have literal scabs on my nose from blowing it so much. not sure if it's a 40s thing, but my allergies have gone from 0 to 100 in the last few years
― Heez, Tuesday, 30 April 2024 13:40 (one month ago) link
how's ya hearing?
― kinder, Tuesday, 30 April 2024 19:46 (one month ago) link
I hope your surgery went well, Heez. Rather frequently, my right ear gets completely clogged up and I also cannot pick out individual speakers or tell where sounds are coming from. It really struck me how having even just a marginally difficult time hearing can immediately feel isolating.
― fajita seas, Tuesday, 30 April 2024 20:46 (one month ago) link
Getting old is so f’in weird
― calstars, Saturday, 4 May 2024 00:51 (one month ago) link
Seconded.
― Kate (rushomancy), Saturday, 4 May 2024 04:51 (one month ago) link
Hope I don’t die soon!
― calstars, Saturday, 4 May 2024 04:52 (one month ago) link
Planning to live to 90 like my grandparents done did
― calstars, Saturday, 4 May 2024 04:53 (one month ago) link
Every time I get carded I’m like, “this is the last time I’m gonna get carded”
― calstars, Saturday, 4 May 2024 17:45 (one month ago) link
/romero
― close encounters of the third knid (darraghmac), Saturday, 4 May 2024 17:52 (one month ago) link
last got ID'd in Morrisons of all places when I was 40. I assume that will be the last time unless I go back to the USA at some point or somewhere else where they card OAPs
― Colonel Poo, Saturday, 4 May 2024 17:57 (one month ago) link
I get that they think I’m a narc…I guess
― calstars, Saturday, 4 May 2024 18:10 (one month ago) link
fell in the bathtub this morning. cut my chin open. i wouldn't call it a serious fall, but at my age i can't just brush off falls like i could when i was younger. scariest thing is that i live by myself. i mean i don't feel like i'm the age where i'd want a lifealert bracelet or something but yeah, if i seriously hurt myself by accident it'd be a while before anybody came to check. had a pretty bad fall last december... was on my way out to an event, it was icy, forgot something upstairs, went up the outside stairs too quickly and banged myself up. still went to the event, though, without even so much as cleaning myself up. i guess i can say i'm learning - i wouldn't do that today. i think the fall back in december was probably worse. hard to say. it's getting around. my balance has never been good. i had a fall in my garage back in '19 and my ankle stability has been really bad ever since.
anyway my QPP is gonna be over in a bit to check... in the meantime i'm just shook... got a towel in my mouth waiting for the bleeding to stop.
― Kate (rushomancy), Monday, 6 May 2024 14:51 (one month ago) link
I turned 40 last week. Woof. For some perspective, I started reading ILX as a teenager so not only am I old, we’re all old.
― Allen (etaeoe), Monday, 13 May 2024 19:45 (one month ago) link
I was 20 at the beginning and now 44, so I feel every year of that comment.
― Jeff, Monday, 13 May 2024 21:52 (one month ago) link
welcome, Allen
― ɥɯ ︵ (°□°) (mh), Tuesday, 14 May 2024 13:56 (one month ago) link
Hi!
― Lily Dale, Saturday, 25 May 2024 19:24 (three weeks ago) link
Did you just turn 40
― calstars, Saturday, 25 May 2024 19:55 (three weeks ago) link
yes, it's my 40th birthday
― Lily Dale, Saturday, 25 May 2024 23:05 (three weeks ago) link
Happy birthday : )
― calstars, Saturday, 25 May 2024 23:13 (three weeks ago) link
happy birthday!
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Sunday, 26 May 2024 02:47 (three weeks ago) link
Thank you!
― Lily Dale, Sunday, 26 May 2024 05:51 (three weeks ago) link
Hb!
― xyzzzz__, Sunday, 26 May 2024 10:43 (three weeks ago) link
I will be bang on 45 in August.
― xyzzzz__, Sunday, 26 May 2024 10:45 (three weeks ago) link
I used to sneeze in twos and threes, now its fours and fives
― brimstead, Sunday, 26 May 2024 14:47 (three weeks ago) link
Welcome fellow kids!
― sarahell, Sunday, 26 May 2024 16:42 (three weeks ago) link
Don't you mean welcome in?
― nashwan, Sunday, 26 May 2024 17:32 (three weeks ago) link
One year and a summer left on my ticket
― calstars, Sunday, 26 May 2024 17:34 (three weeks ago) link
how much is being old supposed to hurt?not physicallyin my soulit hurts in my soul
i was never _young_i never will be _young_
i feel _wrong_. i feel like something... that there's something i need and i don't have, can't haveall of those years that were taken from methere's nothing in their place. half my life is just _missing_ and i'm supposed to act like it's ok and it's _not ok_is it _ok_ for y'all? do you ever want to vomit digital artifacts and scream and cry for nothing, for no reason at all? is it just me?
i don't know47hitting 47 was _hard_
― Kate (rushomancy), Friday, 31 May 2024 20:27 (two weeks ago) link
Tired: leaving a party early due to limb pain
Wired: leaving it due to severe constipation
Though I blamed my knees
― Iacocca Cola (Neanderthal), Sunday, 9 June 2024 03:29 (one week ago) link
I’ll take all those woes and raise you one perimenopause.
― mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Sunday, 9 June 2024 07:31 (one week ago) link
Just got reading glasses (1.5x). When I look at my phone it feels like a pro max and my monitor looks like a fuckin’ Vision Pro
― calstars, Sunday, 9 June 2024 13:36 (one week ago) link
Purely by coincidence I recently passed my motorcycle test. That's not a middle-aged thing. Not at all. But it does mean that I now have a legitimate reason to own a pair of leather trousers. And one of those Arab-style scarves that Ewan McGregor and Charley Boorman wore in Long Way Round. The melancholic thing is that McGregor and Boorman were in their thirties in 2004. They were a decade ahead of me. It pains me to think that 2004 was twenty years ago.
NB I do actually own a pair of leather trousers. They have a zip around the waist that zips into a compatible motorcycle jacket, thus making an all-in-one zipped-up suit, and yes this sentence is a reference to Alan Partridge's monologue about buying surround speakers for his miniature hi-fi. I do not however own a BMW 1250GS but there is still time.
It's odd re-watching Long Way Round in 2024. It was shot with early-2000s digital video. Even the crappest Youtube motorcycle people have hi-def headcams and drones nowadays. But only a few of them have any charisma. There's a great Youtube motorcyclist called Itchy Boots, who recently broke her collarbone in Tanzania, but she's ace. And another one called Doodle on a Motorcycle who is tiny, but has no trouble riding larger bikes.
Motorcycles are a triumph of hope over reality. Every time I hop on my motorcycle I think about the sad people in their cars. I have to put on a bunch of safety gear, while they just get in their cars. How sad is that? When I arrive at my destination I take off my gloves and helmet and unzip my jacket and chain up the bike, while sad people in their cars just sort of get out of their car. Who has the last laugh? It's them, isn't it. Semi-detatched suburban Mr Jones. They have the last laugh.
To date I have been waved at by a small boy in a Spiderman suit. I have had a middle-aged man ask me about parking charges. I have not yet had any luck with women. And although I'm 100% heterosexual, not a single man has offered to tie me up in my leather gear while spanking my testicles with a fly swatter. I would politely decline, but it would be gratifying if someone asked.
Behind all of this light banter is the realisation that, yes, I'm half-way through life. Except that the first few years didn't count, because I was a kid, and the last few years aren't going to be much fun, so I'm actually two-thirds of the way through life. And death is a permanent black abyss of nothingness, an unavoidable black abyss of nothingness that I can only avoid by drinking myself into oblivion. But on the other hand one of my uncles never left the county of Wiltshire in his whole life, so I've faced with the horrible suspicion that I have actually achieved more in my life - despite struggling constantly with poverty - than most of my immediate family, and that millions of desperate refugees would kill and die to swap places with me, so perhaps I should keep my existential crises to myself.
― Ashley Pomeroy, Monday, 10 June 2024 19:28 (one week ago) link
And although I'm 100% heterosexual, not a single man has offered to tie me up in my leather gear while spanking my testicles with a fly swatter. I would politely decline, but it would be gratifying if someone asked.
consider yourself officially asked, lmao.
i feel like i've been in a mid-life crisis for the last 5 years, and i'm only 41 - still time to do the motorcycle thing but not the money, sadly, and idk i'm more scared about the crash statistics than i used to be. anyway i support any and all mid-life motorcycle flings.
― he/him hoo-hah (map), Monday, 10 June 2024 19:37 (one week ago) link
I guess this is a midlife crisis mindset, just really thinking a lot about how there are a finite number of times I will do certain things again, how I’m running out of time to accelerate my career, thinkin about how much olderI am than other people, listening to the offspring… prob some depression mixed in
― brimstead, Thursday, 13 June 2024 15:00 (five days ago) link