I don't remember that thread at all but probably
― be scientific, douchebag (Shakey Mo Collier), Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:19 (twelve years ago) link
hi max!
i'm with michael white on the thoughts business, no surprise. have discussed this elsewhere on ilx (did you see that ass on that thread). all thoughts and desires are subject only the judgment of the person experiencing them. that is, if you're okay with your desires, then they're okay. period, no matter what. it's only when we act on our thoughts and desires, when we move them from within to without, that they become subject to other forms of judgment. this is a pragmatic stance more than a moral one.
and yeah, i understand that even "secret" thoughts can influence us, the line between thought and action is fuzzy, even so...
― Totes le Héros (contenderizer), Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:20 (twelve years ago) link
gravity has no moral content.
Huh? I mean in the context of something you can't really do anything about. You will want to sleep. You will need to relieve yourself. You will want to sleep. There's a very good chance that some ppl will feel strong sexual attraction.
― Morning becomes apopleptic (Michael White), Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:20 (twelve years ago) link
There's a difference between sublimating a desire and just being mature enough in your life that you can acknowledge that someone made you angry or that some girl is attractive without lingering on it the entire day.
I'm a little biased in that (while undiagnosed, warnings apply) I have the tendency to fixate on something that bothers me or stimulates me emotionally and turn it over in my head all day. Learning not to fixate on things and to gain the ability to evaluate and dismiss thoughts is useful.
― valleys of your mind (mh), Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:20 (twelve years ago) link
that technology does not yet exist.
I'm sure banaka's workin on it
― be scientific, douchebag (Shakey Mo Collier), Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:20 (twelve years ago) link
there's a difference between thought police and acknowledging what thoughts are worth continuing on
i too am anti thought police, i believe in thought self-deportation
― max, Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:21 (twelve years ago) link
you're begging the question.
I'm actually rejecting the question
― Morning becomes apopleptic (Michael White), Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:21 (twelve years ago) link
I'm not as comfortable both for the particular nor for society with repression as some ppl seem to be - emotions and desires will find their way out, either sublimated or perverted and often with disastrously worse consequences than the whatever ill the original repression was meant to deal with.
― Morning becomes apopleptic (Michael White), Thursday, March 1, 2012 4:16 PM (2 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
there are some recent studies at least in the narrow case of anger and aggression that are counter to this. instead of "letting off steam," and becoming calmer in time, people who exhibited greater anger just got habituated to it and were more pissed and aggressive generally. people who "bottled it up" were generally better able to handle anger and were less angry overall.
i can look for the writeups but that's what i remember. i don't see why this kind of conclusion can't be generalizable.
― goole, Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:22 (twelve years ago) link
Like if you want to have a quick sexual fantasy that you're having an encounter with a high school student as a thought experiment, go for it. But if that's all you ever fantasize about, I'm not going to say that there will be repercussions, but it really doesn't seem in your best interests.
I was going to cite what goole just did, but he's beat me to it
― valleys of your mind (mh), Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:22 (twelve years ago) link
oh good contenderizer is here now we just need harbl and horseshoe and we can redo the ass thread
― max, Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:22 (twelve years ago) link
"working out instead of repressing" can actually be "developing this idea instead of letting it drop"
― valleys of your mind (mh), Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:23 (twelve years ago) link
hey max is there enough material for a gawker post here yet
xpost
there is a false dichotomy here between "expressing" and "bottling up" ... what about processing your thoughts?
― the late great, Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:23 (twelve years ago) link
thoughts can make people really miserable. or they can make people start hilary duff webrings. or they can be shrugged off. there are three kinds of thought.
― scott seward, Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:24 (twelve years ago) link
you are actually begging the question bc your argument is 'if you repress your thoughts, they'll come out in another way.'
― Mordy, Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:25 (twelve years ago) link
I can't remember, does Banaka post under multiple usernames?
― valleys of your mind (mh), Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:25 (twelve years ago) link
i reject that not dwelling on particular thoughts is 'repression,' let alone that they have some kind of weight that must come out if you don't give them enough brain time.
max is onto something there, actually. I'm not supporting some obsessive pov, I'm just saying if you think a young lady, far too young for you, is beautiful, acknowledge it, be happy there are pretty ladies in your world and go about your business. To do otherwise may actually increase your chances of finding yourself shacked up with an immature lady with whom you're not all that compatible, certainly not generationally speaking, out of your teaching job, ostracized by your family and friends and possibly looking at jail time.
― Morning becomes apopleptic (Michael White), Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:26 (twelve years ago) link
"may actually increase your chances"
yeah, i reject that.
― Mordy, Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:26 (twelve years ago) link
― max, Thursday, March 1, 2012 2:22 PM (2 minutes ago) Bookmark
hey, you assed, i delivered
― Totes le Héros (contenderizer), Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:27 (twelve years ago) link
'if you repress your thoughts, they'll come out in another way.'
I'm curious about goole's study but in my case, the above is what I have experienced in my own life. Results may vary in other models
― Morning becomes apopleptic (Michael White), Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:27 (twelve years ago) link
To do otherwise may actually increase your chances of finding yourself shacked up with an immature lady with whom you're not all that compatible, certainly not generationally speaking, out of your teaching job, ostracized by your family and friends and possibly looking at jail time.
― Morning becomes apopleptic (Michael White), Thursday, March 1, 2012 2:26 PM (1 minute ago) Bookmark
"do otherwise" means "buy cocaine", right?
― Totes le Héros (contenderizer), Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:29 (twelve years ago) link
Whatever, I'm a shameless but harmless old lecher and it's one of the things that I love about Paris; everbody looks and expects to be looked at. I think this may have something to do with their sartorial excellence.
― Morning becomes apopleptic (Michael White), Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:29 (twelve years ago) link
In your case you're not dwelling on it, though, you're having the thought and moving on. I think what we were getting at is there is no "repression" per se, unless you're chastising yourself for the thought -- and that still isn't repression, it's dwelling on the subject in a negative manner.
― valleys of your mind (mh), Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:30 (twelve years ago) link
I've had all kinds of stupid shit pop into my head and have discovered no ill effects from ignoring it. Brains are stupid shit producers a good part of the time and it's a bad idea IMHO to start fetishizing that shit as important.
― Mordy, Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:30 (twelve years ago) link
there is a great bunuel quote where he talks about dreams and how he doesn't care what they mean and then says something like * so i fuck my mother, big deal, it's a dream! * or something like that. he really loved being asleep.
― scott seward, Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:30 (twelve years ago) link
this is where mind panties are helpful
― Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:31 (twelve years ago) link
So what I mean, is why are you dismissing/repressing these thoughts, Michael White? Stop sublimating them and start concentrating on the beauty of these women.
― valleys of your mind (mh), Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:31 (twelve years ago) link
Dearest contenderizer,
Like I would buy cocaine!
― Morning becomes apopleptic (Michael White), Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:31 (twelve years ago) link
VG, is there some way we could market mind panties? I need to augment my retirement.
― Morning becomes apopleptic (Michael White), Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:32 (twelve years ago) link
eh, even if some old guy builds up a big "schoolgirl" fetish trip in his head, i don't think there's anything wrong or gross about it - so long as it doesn't encourage him into truly inappropriate/illegal/gross interpersonal behavior.
― Totes le Héros (contenderizer), Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:32 (twelve years ago) link
The problem for me, is I can totally understand some dude ogling the girl (though she does look both awfully young and awfully unsexual) but what inner pathology(s) impels him to act on it?
― Morning becomes apopleptic (Michael White), Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:35 (twelve years ago) link
Indeed. Emotional control is crucial to a well-functioning brain.
Indulging in unproductive thoughts is nearly equal to indulging unproductive actions. This is why it is important to be vigilant about not only unproductive thoughts and behavior themselves, but culture that engenders such thought and behavior.
This goes for depictions of reactionary/undesirable behavior in "entertainment" and "pop culture" as well.
Freedom of speech is a figleaf behind which reactionary atavism and oppression reside and consolidate their power. Merciless censorship is crucial in combating this.
― Banaka™ (banaka), Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:35 (twelve years ago) link
and then says something like * so i fuck my mother, big deal, it's a dream! * or something like that. he really loved being asleep.
It's a sign not only of my tenuous mental hygiene but also the influence of ILX that I had to imagine Bunuel dressed as a Viking while he did this.
― Morning becomes apopleptic (Michael White), Thursday, 1 March 2012 22:37 (twelve years ago) link
this is what i was getting at upthread ... teenagers are so vulnerable! and immature! not sexy!
― the late great, Thursday, 1 March 2012 23:12 (twelve years ago) link
like for me it falls under the same umbrella as a passed-out drunk person. no matter how attractive, i don't think i could get it up for a passed-out girl.
― the late great, Thursday, 1 March 2012 23:14 (twelve years ago) link
good to know
― Totes le Héros (contenderizer), Thursday, 1 March 2012 23:16 (twelve years ago) link
do you feel the same way, contenderizer? or differently?
― the late great, Thursday, 1 March 2012 23:18 (twelve years ago) link
not attracted to the unconscious, no. attractiveness of teens varies.
― Totes le Héros (contenderizer), Thursday, 1 March 2012 23:20 (twelve years ago) link
good to know.
― the late great, Thursday, 1 March 2012 23:20 (twelve years ago) link
how about attracted to the super-conscious? like those whose minds have elevated to another plane? the evolved.
― Mordy, Thursday, 1 March 2012 23:20 (twelve years ago) link
i think that is pretty natural - who hasn't had a crush on some super-competent acquaintance, based on their skill at something?
― the late great, Thursday, 1 March 2012 23:21 (twelve years ago) link
evolution is gross imo
― Totes le Héros (contenderizer), Thursday, 1 March 2012 23:22 (twelve years ago) link
we had a couple of guys at our dorm who were repeat offenders with passed-out girls, they always got lolsy nicknames like Prince Charming (ie Sleeping Beauty etc) but were ALWAYS dudes who had no ability to interact with women in normal life. crepes to a man
― Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 1 March 2012 23:23 (twelve years ago) link
crepey, not crepes.
― Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 1 March 2012 23:24 (twelve years ago) link
yeah cuz crepes are delicious
― Totes le Héros (contenderizer), Thursday, 1 March 2012 23:24 (twelve years ago) link
unconscious crepes
― omar little, Thursday, 1 March 2012 23:27 (twelve years ago) link
http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_aekgRsEMZpw/TMxgDykE1bI/AAAAAAAABV4/xfuh5zzAZh8/s400/Ghost+crepes.JPG
― Mordy, Thursday, 1 March 2012 23:28 (twelve years ago) link
didn't want to impugn crepes as being in any way crepey
― Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 1 March 2012 23:28 (twelve years ago) link