so, are there any ilxors who didn't encounter a student-molesting teacher in hs?
― Totes le Héros (contenderizer), Friday, 2 March 2012 17:46 (twelve years ago) link
I don't recall any at my high school.
― Steamtable Willie (WmC), Friday, 2 March 2012 17:48 (twelve years ago) link
I would like to point out that my Spanish teacher, to my knowledge, never molested anyone or acted inappropriately with anyone who was a current student of his; I had also just turned 18 when he asked me if I wanted to get coffee sometime (I believe he was 24 at the time). So, while I definitely would call him inappropriate, I would not call him "student-molesting".
― Vaseline MEN AMAZING JOURNEY (DJP), Friday, 2 March 2012 17:50 (twelve years ago) link
There was a math teacher in my HS who I'm pretty sure had a relationship with a 17-year-old student. I didn't really know the teacher or the student but it was something talked about and the teacher wound up leaving, so it was probably true.
― simulation and similac (Hurting 2), Friday, 2 March 2012 17:51 (twelve years ago) link
Also I had a male music teacher start rubbing my shoulders in a very suggestive way and speaking to me in a hushed tone once.
It was actually a surprisingly scarring experience, although I got over it later.
― simulation and similac (Hurting 2), Friday, 2 March 2012 17:52 (twelve years ago) link
Ditto with the English teacher who married his daughter's best friend; she was well out of college when that all happened.
I never knew the teacher who slept with a 15-year-old student and then claimed she had a brain tumor to deflect attention away from those allegations when people started getting suspicious.
― Vaseline MEN AMAZING JOURNEY (DJP), Friday, 2 March 2012 17:52 (twelve years ago) link
There was also the time when one my friends happened to catch the school librarian making out with one of the English teachers in a bathroom stall but no students were involved in that. (I'm also not 100% sure it was the librarian; I do remember that one of the guys was my soccer coach.)
― Vaseline MEN AMAZING JOURNEY (DJP), Friday, 2 March 2012 17:53 (twelve years ago) link
None at my HS.
― Jeff, Friday, 2 March 2012 17:54 (twelve years ago) link
I think the takeaway is that all schools should be burned to the ground
― flagp∞st (dayo), Friday, 2 March 2012 17:56 (twelve years ago) link
I've been saying that since second grade.
― pplains, Friday, 2 March 2012 17:57 (twelve years ago) link
A coach at my hs was caught at home with a student by his wife. Fired, divorced, moved in with student...but not before the yearbooks had been printed. When they were distributed a few months later, one of the candid photos was of the coach and the student.
― Tarfumes The Escape Goat, Friday, 2 March 2012 17:58 (twelve years ago) link
I had several attractive young female teachers throughout my adolescence who I could tell were totally into me, would've acted on it if we'd met under different circumstances
― some dude, Friday, 2 March 2012 17:58 (twelve years ago) link
there were plenty of rumours and allegations about teachers among the kids at our school; none of those were actually true, it was just targeting the more eccentric-looking teachers (eg our scary latin teacher who was also the school chaplain who invariably had food stuck in his huge beard and who once scandalised parents by preaching at the school carol service that calling mary a virgin was offensive to all mothers) (in retrospect he was kind of awesome).
the two genuinely creepy teachers: 1x religious education teacher who was convicted of telephone stalking a woman (not a pupil) and left the school after that. and! the young, fit and v popular outdoor activities teacher who was also an assistant housemaster (and therefore lived on school property - with his wife and three small children) who turned out to be shagging one of the prefects in our year (we were in 6th form so i guess she'd have been 17/18). there were news crews and everything stalking the school trying to get quotes out of us, it was tremendously exciting. the teacher was instantly sacked and the prefect expelled but the prefect's ex-BFF sold her story to the tabloids because she was the kind of girl who really didn't give a fuck.
― lex pretend, Friday, 2 March 2012 17:59 (twelve years ago) link
I don't think I understand more than 50% of the terms you used in that post
― be scientific, douchebag (Shakey Mo Collier), Friday, 2 March 2012 18:01 (twelve years ago) link
i once overheard one of our english teachers telling one of my classmates he was one of the best looking boys in our year (he must have been 15/16) - i didn't think this was creepy at all at the time, maybe because she was so brisk and no-nonsense despite being young and pretty herself? also because damn, she was correct on that front
― lex pretend, Friday, 2 March 2012 18:01 (twelve years ago) link
i actually tried to make it intelligible to americans, lol
prefect = a few favoured pupils selected from each house who get extra official duties and privileges? idk exactly what they did, i wasn't one. kind of like deputies to the head boy and head girl
― lex pretend, Friday, 2 March 2012 18:03 (twelve years ago) link
who once scandalised parents by preaching at the school carol service that calling mary a virgin was offensive to all mothers
Brilliant
None at our school.
― kinder, Friday, 2 March 2012 18:04 (twelve years ago) link
head boy? head girl?
― flagp∞st (dayo), Friday, 2 March 2012 18:05 (twelve years ago) link
religious education?
― be scientific, douchebag (Shakey Mo Collier), Friday, 2 March 2012 18:06 (twelve years ago) link
(j/k)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Head_Girl_and_Head_Boy
― lex pretend, Friday, 2 March 2012 18:06 (twelve years ago) link
so... standard british class system nonsense
― be scientific, douchebag (Shakey Mo Collier), Friday, 2 March 2012 18:08 (twelve years ago) link
My neighbor, a HS teacher and coach, was arrested and spent time in jail for having had a sexual relationship with one his students.
― tokyo rosemary, Friday, 2 March 2012 18:10 (twelve years ago) link
i should clarify for my conscience's sake that the teacher i'm thinking of was accused of something involving a kid, not involving one of his students. we found out about it only through rumors after he had been suddenly removed. i have no idea if he was ever charged, let alone guilty. it is a possibility that it was all a mistake and his professional life was wrecked. i always kind of like the guy, he was not a popular teacher. it's a sad and sick thing whatever the truth of the matter was.
― goole, Friday, 2 March 2012 19:02 (twelve years ago) link
there was a slightly different and very class-based kind of thing at my HS, where a former star athlete dude there was about to graduate from college and got together with a v popular and athletic girl, when we were i think seniors in HS, so she was probably 18. they had obv known each other for much longer. pretty sure he came to prom and everyone thought it was just wonderful.
cue much grumbling from kids lower down the social totem pole for whom bringing their 22 year old BF to prom would not be met with much fairytale approval.
― goole, Friday, 2 March 2012 19:06 (twelve years ago) link
i lived in a vv small town which had communities on two sides of a lake with two different school districts. in the district across the lake, the principal and asst principal were busted for child molestation at the elementary school. i always wonder about shit like that, b/c like...how the hell did they ever team up? ugh. anyway, it sounded pretty terrible, to have the two biggest authority figures in a school doing that. those poor kids.
― omar little, Friday, 2 March 2012 19:08 (twelve years ago) link
i lived in a vv small town which had communities on two sides of a lake with two different school districts.
Are you me??
― drawn to them like a moth toward a spanakopita (Laurel), Friday, 2 March 2012 19:10 (twelve years ago) link
was your town kind of terribly conservative and ass backwards?
― omar little, Friday, 2 March 2012 19:13 (twelve years ago) link
if so, yes i am you~
BREAKING NEWS
― Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 2 March 2012 19:15 (twelve years ago) link
yeah the thing goole brings up is a tough call ... like, we have seniors that are dating sophomores ... they go to college, and stay involved. suddenly, they're coming back for prom.
so you have a 19 y/o man-child going to prom with a 16 y/o girl. is this okay? it's a question we've struggled with!
― the late great, Friday, 2 March 2012 19:17 (twelve years ago) link
My best friend was dating a 30 year old dude when she was 18...and I don't remember thinking it was weird until a lot later.
― Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 2 March 2012 19:18 (twelve years ago) link
When she was in HS, I mean
― Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 2 March 2012 19:19 (twelve years ago) link
there was a lot of stuff in HS that seemed normal at the time that retrospectively looks a little "off"...i knew juniors in HS who were hooking up w/8th graders.
― omar little, Friday, 2 March 2012 19:20 (twelve years ago) link
o_O
― Vaseline MEN AMAZING JOURNEY (DJP), Friday, 2 March 2012 19:21 (twelve years ago) link
how old is a 'Junior'? I still get confused with US high school terminology
― Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 2 March 2012 19:21 (twelve years ago) link
Junior = 16-17eighth grade = 13-14
― Vaseline MEN AMAZING JOURNEY (DJP), Friday, 2 March 2012 19:22 (twelve years ago) link
my lake had four sides.
― pplains, Friday, 2 March 2012 19:22 (twelve years ago) link
ty
― Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 2 March 2012 19:23 (twelve years ago) link
― omar little, Friday, March 2, 2012 2:20 PM (2 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
i think to some degree almost everyone has a bit of an ~~~age ain't nothin but a number baby~~~ mentality until they hit 18, if not later
― some dude, Friday, 2 March 2012 19:24 (twelve years ago) link
this is sort of a no-brainer but people under 18 are not very good judges of what is normal or appropriate, hence things like voting age, drinking age, age of consent, etc
― the late great, Friday, 2 March 2012 19:25 (twelve years ago) link
went to two different high schools and there were crepey teachers at both. The one at the first school was eventually arrested after we'd moved to school #2. At the second one, the teacher was fired for an "unrelated" reason (though I later wondered about that; he was pretty brazen). That guy was very popular with the students--he was "cool" and very politically liberal for a high school in Georgia--and they rallied around him as a kind of free speech martyr, assuming the administration canned him for being too much of a rebel.
― rob, Friday, 2 March 2012 19:26 (twelve years ago) link
xpost i mean obv the same goes for people over 18 too but for teenagers its basically a rule of thumb that if you don't give them *explicit* advice on what is appropriate/safe you might as well tell them to flip a coin.
― the late great, Friday, 2 March 2012 19:27 (twelve years ago) link
when i was 16/17/18 it didn't seem odd at all that some of my peers were dating older dudes. when i was 22+ myself it seemed super-odd that any of my peers would do that (like beyond randomly hooking up w/someone at a club or sth)
― lex pretend, Friday, 2 March 2012 19:33 (twelve years ago) link
i think when i was of HS age it seemed normal to know peers who were dating someone in their early twenties but once i hit early twenties and knew dudes who did that they were always regarded as being a little creepy by *their* peers.
― omar little, Friday, 2 March 2012 19:34 (twelve years ago) link
― the late great, Friday, March 2, 2012 2:25 PM (8 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
is there some kind of weird filter on my posts itt that makes people think i am giving a huge approving thumbs-up to anything i describe?
― some dude, Friday, 2 March 2012 19:35 (twelve years ago) link
I think you might be switched to i100percentendorsethisposition.css
― Vaseline MEN AMAZING JOURNEY (DJP), Friday, 2 March 2012 19:37 (twelve years ago) link
I think a lot of people would disagree w/ the voting age and drinking age and even age of consent
― iatee, Friday, 2 March 2012 19:38 (twelve years ago) link
I'm for them all being 16. maybe lower for the first two.