This is a thread for ILXORS IN THEIR 50's

ned at the sockhop

abbott being a sexy cold war scientist

huh

I got it, it wasn't hard to follow it was a simple piece of business.

i just want to see abbott as a sexy cold war scientist is all

I am a 53 year old ILXor in the Naughties. Does that count? My only time in the 50's occured when I was aged 0-5, from November, 1954 until Dec. 31, 1959.

did you see ned at the sockhop

NO

The sockhop ended some time before I entered high school in Sept. 1968. I was not inconsolable over this happenstance. I was a rotten dancer.

sept 1968 was like the gayest time to enter high school

everyone cool in those days were entering college

u cursed by the stars aimless

everyone cool in those days were entering college WAS GETTING DRAFTED TO 'NAM

yep -- that's where my pops was in '68 -- sent there two weeks after i got borned! booh hooh.

--a sometime ilxor in his 40s

everyone cool in those days were entering college WAS GETTING DRAFTED TO 'NAM WAS NOT ME, BY ANY STRETCH OF IMAGINATION! Skinny, geeky 13 year old, I'm just sayin'.

nED AT THE SOCKHOP OH MY GOD

aimless serious q did you at least smoke a lot of pot? and at least know a kid like trip fontaine?

if not you have destroyed any reason i have to respect actual early 70s HS kids

I am 10 years shy of 50 but this thread is making me feel old.

momus is almost 50

There's a Guided By Voices song about this.

nED AT THE SOCKHOP OH MY GOD

I really, really don't know how to react to this.

weve all reacted by blotting it out

Well I know that you're in love with him,
Because I saw you dancing in the gym
You both kicked off your Keds.
Oh, I dig that rhythm and Ned!

(I thought JBR's suggestion at first was an age progression of ILXors into their fifties and was thinking "oh it won't take much to imagine some of that.")

Ned, all you have to do is put on the socks. That's all. And we need a hardwood floor, and XTC's "Life Begins At The Hop". Now who will film this????

did you at least smoke a lot of pot?

I think the first time I smoked pot was roughly summer of 1970. Didn't do much for me. My friends included several 'heads', but I was just a dabbler. My older brother was into it pretty far by 1971. He still tokes up now.

I didn't really get launched as a pot smoker until college, where I spent most of 1974 stoned. Made my own bong from a glass lab beaker. I quit entirely around 1977 or so. I can't say I miss it.

and at least know a kid like trip fontaine?

Hard to say, because I don't have a clue who trip fontaine is. I did know a lot of druggies and hippies in the 70s. They were as common as daisies back then.

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_3Pgo2kaznFU/RqsBjrRCKMI/AAAAAAAAARs/7wAJzhaYC3A/s1600/964.jpg

that link 404'ed me

(xxpost) Trip Fontaine is a character from the book/film "The Virgin Suicides"

Start at about 3:30 here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f_smJP8oRnE

Btw, Frank Kogan, who posts to a couple of the rolling genre threads on ILM, is 54.

Also:
Most of the time I dwell in a state of unreality, where I have amazing superpowers. And I am 50 years old.

-- Beth Parker (Beth Parker), Monday, February 5, 2007 12:29 PM (1 year ago) Bookmark Link

Our cohort is few, but mighty.

abbott being a sexy cold war scientist

OH MY GOD WHY WAS I NEVER THAT

I remember Howdy Doody.

and i thought i was old for remembering leaded gasoline!

madonna, michael jackson, prince and ME -- i am now 50 and 1/2.

sept 1968 was like the gayest time to enter high school

everyone cool in those days were entering college

there is truth lurking here -- people in our sub-generation have a complicated relationship w/our older sibs, the 60s baby boomers. this usage of "gay" is uhm, anachronisitic, or something. (I entered HS in 72 FWIW.)

anachronistic! edgy, you mean!!1!

so is bimble part of this exclusive club?

I didn't expect to get shoulder and back hair this late in the game.

ha was wondering what you meant in the 40s thread

what's up y'all

had a cardiologist call me at 7am to cancel my appointment (snow)

this morning the dentist said that my teeth with metal fillings will all eventually need crowns; seems legit, the youngest of those fillings is 40+ years old

i went to the dentist for lots of work this past year, first time since forever, and it was all space aged nano whatever shit and i think the dentist and his assistant were legit smirking at my one old iron ore filling from when i was a teenager, fifty years ago, in an eastern bloc nation

oh hi, I'm 54 now

peeing takes a long time

backache is a thing

(knocks on wood)

As hinted above, I have a cardiologist now! My primary doctor, who has pretty amazing raw skills -- like hearing -- apparently, thought he heard a murmur in my heartbeat last month. GREAT!

It turns out I have an "unconcerning" prolapse which is a "2" (not a 3 or a 4), so it just has to be checked every year from now on.

Aging is a motherfucker.

all the best morbs

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murmur_(album)#/media/File:R.E.M._-_Murmur.jpg

i am two years older than william hartnell in this picture :D

https://ichef.bbci.co.uk/images/ic/1920x1080/p01hg14p.jpg

(obviously i have regenerated several times: also did not grow up in poverty etc)

otm (although I have two years)

Who the fuck puts their age on their resume/CV? I only list my last 15 years of jobs, more or less. I leave my college degree on there because I got it in 2006. If people can do math, great. But in any case it's illegal in the US to ask a person their age in a job interview.

I graduate to this thread next Thursday ! And yes otm.

I would only expect to see ages on a resume/CV if the person is applying for something for a specific age demographic… like a “youth fellowship” or something where you have to be under a certain age

I put my year of college and HS graduations, but not my actual age

but I like unperson's strategy here, I am thankfully not currently looking but would prob redo mine to leave off dates

I put college and grad school … someone doing the math will likely assume I am 1-2 years older than I am, though in person I look almost 10 years younger than I am, and I definitely am not putting my birthdate down, in case of astrological discrimination

typical scorpio

HR manager: "The last person in this role was a Taurus. We're looking to hire someone less bullish."

lol koogs

in person I look almost 10 years younger than I am

I went to the doctor for my quarterly checkup not long ago, and he wrote in his notes (which I can see in the online patient portal) "appears somewhat younger than stated age," which... I'll fuckin' take that compliment any day, thanks!

I have a doctor's letter that calls me a "pleasant gentleman" or some such. I assume it's some sort of code. Similarly, I interpreted the words "classic symptoms" as to mean "we believe he's read about this in a book".

Yeah, there are definitely some code phrases in mine which I can translate to "speaks in complete sentences," "understands and responds when spoken to," "did not soil himself in the office," stuff like that.

My goal is to never apply for another job in my life. Just picked up a freelance contributor at the thing I run who's a 58-yr-old guy with a really interesting and varied resume who applied to us partly because he said "I'm finding it really hard to get anyone to consider a 58-yr-old for anything." We were like, "We are sympathetic to this plight! Come write for us."

My sister, who's also in her 50s, got a new teaching job and was super stressed by the first month of it and thinking about quitting and doing "something else." I had to caution her that there is almost nothing anyone would conceivably hire a 50-something former teacher for that would pay anywhere close to what a 50-something teacher makes. Fortunately she's settled in a bit. But I know so many people who have been unemployed in their 50s and it is No Fun.

I got a call from my doctor's office this morning reporting on my blood and urine results from my recent physical. They said "the doctor wanted to let you know that your results were perfect, which does not happen very often."

I did take an Archie Shepp record off the turntable on Sunday in favor of a Jimmy Smith record, so the struggle is real.

(knocks on wood) xp

I am immensely stressed out about new neighbors being total psychos about our uneven fence line, I had my physical 8 days ago and my blood pressure was 15 points higher than it had ever been before

My current field seems very welcoming to older folks. Unfortunately, it's one of the most evil industries in America (red state health insurance), but I'm gonna hang onto this job as long as I can regardless.

I changed jobs this year for what I am determined is the last time, and trying to plan how early I can stop working (or cut back to a couple of days).

In possibly related news I'm going through my first extended period of illness in my 50s - back in the hospital today a little over a month since the last time over a similar matter - and the clinicians keep using the term "at your age".

Xp phil, the accounting/tax profession is great for people in their 50s. Lots of room for growth as the boomers continue to retire.

I didn’t really get into it until my 30s when I decided that the warehouse and art installation work I did in my 20s was not something I wanted to do with an older person’s less resilient lower back.

My mom does tax preparation for old(er) people every year through the United Way, and all she had to do was take some kind of certification course, so I guess I'll keep that in mind.

one feature about my 50's has been, when I get down - I genuinely feel like committing suicide. This was something I only joked about in my 40's!

I know that caregiving exacts a relentless emotional tax, calz. How many years have you been at it now? I found it helped to finally realize that I couldn't be a human shield between my kid and all the grim realities she'd have to deal with out in the world. Slowly pulling back seemed less risky than suddenly crumbling and disappearing.

My mom does tax preparation for old(er) people every year through the United Way, and all she had to do was take some kind of certification course, so I guess I'll keep that in mind.

xxp

roughly, about 13 years now. I used to feel rugged and unbreakable and able to get through anything, Now I frequently break down in tears. Maybe more of a grinding attritional thing, than strictly a 50's thing. The last few years have almost killed me tbh. But then again, still I feel like carrying on. But it is fucking hard!

Relatable, calzino

Now I frequently break down in tears.

If it's anything like the same as me, that sounds like deep grief breaking through that you've never had a chance to acknowledge or express because feeling the grief feels like it will break you and you're too necessary to allow that.

Been there. It is fucking hard!!! <i raised you a couple of bangs!

cheers Aimless. We haven't always been on agreeable terms on here, but thanks for raising the couple o bangs!

I think I mentioned this upthread, but I get semi-weepy over really maudlin, sentimental things these days, feel like it's a byproduct of reaching the warm September of my years

HAHAHA LOL

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zh8iXc2d71U

(always wrings a tear or two out of me this one)

and the clinicians keep using the term "at your age".

I don't even want to go to the doctor anymore. I could go in there with my kneecap slid down to my ankle, and they'd probably just go, "Well, you are in your 50s now..."

I go in with that mindset of 'Hey, I am the age I am' and it makes such visits relaxing, really.

I am super bummed because I just got a note that my doctor is retiring. I've been going to her for nearly 30 years (except for the period I moved away, but signed back up with her when I got back). She's probably 8-10 years older than me so I guess not a surprise but now I gotta start all over with somebody.

I keep wondering about that re my dentist. Had him only for about ten years, but that was on the recommendation of my sis, who has been seeing him since 2000!

I was super bummed when our awesome old dentist retired, have still not found a new one but I need to for my end-of-year cleaning

Sick of having to remember the name of all the damn pills I have to take now.

My husband doesn't even try.

Something my mom did for my dad was she got one of each pill he needed and glued them all to a big piece of posterboard and created a legend for them all, with their names, what they were for, and when he should take them

That would be wall sized for my wife. But a great idea!

Hi Tracer!

I've tried making lists, but he doesn't look at them. I just give him the pills morning and night, and sit with him during doctor's visits.

The Health app on my iphone is actually pretty good for this, you can put icons for the pill type, reminders and wether its daily or weekly etc (I take 3 meds daily + ozempic weekly + pain relief on demand). Despite all that I keep forgetting the names of things. Why they all gotta be called Bloxypoopalaminase or whatever.

Ok I am officially here now. Entry level. I promise to respect seniority.

I had a receipt from my local market that had a Senior Discount on it. Savage way to save money.

I joined AARP as soon as I could, Sarah they’re great on urban planning issues

And congrats

I think they are slow on sending me the paperwork… thank you Boring!

I just left my fifties in the summer. If I can offer some unsought for advice - pace yourself and relax. In my case I had a major panic that I was rapidly running out of earning years, and worked like a demon in my fifties. But I suspect this did a lot of harm to my psychological health, relationships/friendships, and basic enjoyment of life.