start a victory garden and ration your IRRATIONALLY ANGRY feelings, part 3

i find myself getting very ia at people who dont interrogate conversation, who just wait to talk and continue to talk talk talk and barely acknowledge other contributions

i like conversation when it is like a game of tennis. i do not enjoy being the backyard wall against which you repeatedly smash your 'conversation'

a) never ever go on facebook; it is the absolute worst

b) unless you are drunk and desperately seeking human contact; even then it will be a mistake

c) would totally become unhelpfully drunk with jbr/dow/veg tho!

d) first round's on veg

all round to my place for fap :D

annual rolling threads that needn't be annual

-pizza places that don't sell pizza by the slice

(I politely walked out of two pizza places in one day because the first one didn't sell slices after 6 pm and the second one told me there'd be a 15 minute wait because "our slicing pizza is still in the oven.' this was the one time in my life I was tempted to get on Yelp and write some irate reviews)

overly tailored tshirts on casual friday (ie neatly rolled up sleeves, tucked in etc)

just relax and wear a damn tshirt.

Needing to work out if the zip I used in the construction of a pair of jeans last year that I wear regularly or if I just keep forgetting to zip it up. Keep finding it down anyway. So just wondering if it's the zip or my memory.
& it would be the pair of jeans that needs a special needle to sew the fabric.

Wondering how long I'll have to wait until I can comfortably collect a shelving unit without being absolutely p-ed on trying to get it home. Weather is atrocious for last few days and I need to transport this flat pack I bought. Waiting for an actual break in bad weather.

That was supposed to say about whether a zip needed replacing or if my memory was going. Looks like the latter if I forgot to put in the bit about replacing. & i only made the jeans about 3 or 4 months ago so it should hopefully not mean a zip needed replacing yet. Keep finding myself flying low though.

Also trying to work out which side of the fabric i'm using for a pair of tartan jeans should be the outside/inside since they look very similar. & I don't want to get it wrong throughout. Guess that would at least be consistent though.

Stevolende, I have a question about jeans fly covers. Mine constantly bunch up, exposing the top part of the zipper. I have considered that the reasons might be:
- waist is too tight (but it happens on looser waists, too)
- my gut is pushing down on the waistband
- the button hole has gotten loose, allowing the top flap to sag (though I have tried sewing up the button hole without success, possibly due to my lack of skill and understanding)

Any advice on how to treat this problem? Some kind of insert to stiffen the flap?

Here is a pic of the problem.

https://farm9.staticflickr.com/8569/16069669409_693c9d1c35.jpg

And so it's on topic: this folded flap makes me SO IRRATIONALLY ANGRY

I think I just tend to wear shirts outside my jeans so it's covered up. Will think about it but not sure offhand.

Might be that you need to make sure you've ironed the fly flap. BUt probably not. I don't know if I know enough about construction and subsequent pressures to answer. But could be that it would be good for me to be aware of that for future knowledge.

I've made like 10 pairs of jeans so far so it's still early days. & I'm not sure how successful they all are. Found out that some I'd made some months back really were too large at the waistband. Being largely self-taught I'm not 100% sure what solutions are.

i don't like when people's facebook comments are nothing more than them tagging other people. put it on your friend's wall or send a private message. comment threads are for actual comments.

THIS. When the hell did this kick off? It is irritating. Ive clicked on comments threads that are nowt but tag-ins. Ive even had friends of mine tag me in some other random persons thread. I ignored the callout. PM me or GTFO.

start a victory garden and ration your IRRATIONALLY ANGRY feelings, part 3">Karl Malone

Online sellers who aren't satisfied with the fact that you purchased a product from them and did not try to return it or complaint about it, but hassle you RELENTLESSLY to leave feedback, tell us what you think, post about us on social media, blah blah blah

FUCK YOU I gave you money. You gave me a product. We're not married now. I don't owe you anything. I don't have to go to your parents' house for Thanksgiving and I don't have to write a review of your GOD DAMN cocktail shaker. Fuck.

Also:

I was printing out my parents boarding passes from Spirit Airlines last night and they offered the normal nickel-and-dime-you-to-death services and the option to voluntarily pay an additional $1 or $5 to help the airline be more green.

So not a service, just some random fucking guilty bullshit about how if we want this airline to be more environmentally friendly, give us extra money. We're already paying extra money to check a bag and have more leg room than a chicken a 12-by-12 factory farming crate, and now these fuckers have the nerve to try to extort money for their environmental initiative? I'm still so angry about that I can barely form a coherent objection to it.

I'm underemployed right now working as a temp in a law firm.. I got a ton of overtime last week but I am FUCKING FURIOUS because I HATE overtime and I hate my line of work because Im subject to the whims of capricious lawyers who dont give a fuck about my life or free time (or common sense/decency). The irony being I'm making time and a half and have a bunch more money than I would yet I am still FUCKING FURIOUS because theres a lot more overtime in the future.

It also doesnt help that because I'm a temp I'm realizing about 2/3ds of what my employer is paying the temp agency, which is basically the same amont of money I used to make like ten fucking years ago.

thanks obama

^^^great CSR, there, carl. *screams*

I was a participant in the following exchange last week:

Cashier: 'Thanks for shopping with us. Can I take your e-mail address?'
Me: 'No...'

Hate it when I'm too fast for a website. Site loads, I put the cursor on something like "SEARCH" and click, but in that split second between those two actions, the site has loaded up just a little bit more and I wind up clicking on something like "CONTACT US".

When I started at TCS they encouraged us to ask ppl for their email addresses at the register. At first they said it like, "Hey, people might want to know when we have sales! Just ask, if they say no, that's fine obvs." By the time I left they were offering positive incentives to workers who got the highest percentages of ppl to give them an email. I got the feeling negative incentives were right around the corner.

Radio Shack has been really obnoxious about the email stuff for years

lol Radio Shack was way ahead of the curve, they used to ask for your address years ago

I just had one of those, cash purchase of an overpriced-yet-undeniably-effective hair care product for one of my daughters from a salon I visit for no other purpose.

"What's your last name?" "Is it 'Dusty' Perry?" "I'm supposed to ask." "How do you spell your last name?" "Who normally does your hair here?" Ha ha ha, who does my greying, thinning hair.

Canada Goose Parkas

It also doesnt help that because I'm a temp I'm realizing about 2/3ds of what my employer is paying the temp agency

Not to stoke any further IA, but it's possible that you are grossly overestimating the cut that your temp agency is willing to part with.

Very true. I used to be temped for Accounts Payable jobs, so the most hilarious thing to me was knowing the 'big secret' of exactly how much the company was paying for my services because I was the one processing the bill! (Of course temp agencies never ever want their temps to know this stuff).

I recall more than one job where I got hourly $13, and the agency was getting $22, and that this ratio was pretty usual, so, I got more than half, but less than 2/3 of the payout.

However, and this really ticked me off, one job that was largely funded by taxpayer dollars paid me way less than half of the outrageous sum the temp agency got! I think I got $9 out of $25 bucks on that one! No business like soaking the people.

temp agencies take that much?! damn.

i guess companies will pay to screw people out of benefits

Most of the times I was ever offered to 'go perm' it was usually with a pay cut from what I had been getting as a temp ('but you'll get benefits') so, no, thanks.

One reason I did temp for a long time was that the pay rates had at least something to do with demand, whereas permanent positions tended to be successfully squashed. While it was humiliating in some ways to have the agency taking a lot of money for doing nothing but landing me the spot, that did save me a lot of dreadful human resources interviews and frankly, I just wouldn't have found those positions on my own. I also used to see the most interesting trainwrecks: places where I'd take over the suddenly vacated position of an embezzler, a revenge case, a blazing incompetent. Whole little histories there. The work of course was more boring than not so regular changes of scenery were helpful as well.

lol Radio Shack was way ahead of the curve, they used to ask for your address years ago

That reminds me of this collection of anecdotes (I thought it mentioned the hassling-for-address thing but it doesn't seem to):
http://www.ihateworkinginretail.com/tag/i-hate-radioshack/

I particularly enjoyed VIII and XV, if you've got better things to do than read the whole collection of longwinded rants. But who would have better things to do than that?

omg XV is amazing, I have no idea what that is

http://i157.photobucket.com/albums/t53/baldie0522/doin-brum.gif

baldie doin-brum.gif

ia: egregiously bad service in restaurants. i'm sooooo chill and forgiving about minor food service slip-ups. i don't care if you smile. i don't care if you refill my water without me having to ask. if i don't say when i'm ordering that i'm allergic to XYZ food item (which would be a gross overstatement, since my food allergies are really trivial), it's a minor inconvenience but not the end of the world if the kitchen forgets to leave it off. i just want a baseline level of transactional ease if i'm gonna choose your place over other places. i had work to do last night and i ran out to get a quick takeout order so i could scarf down some food and meet my midnight deadline. i ended up waiting probably 40 minutes for a dish that at most would take ten minutes to cook from pre-prepped ingredients and assemble in a styrofoam box. and the restaurant was busy, but not slammed. it just made me very stressed out. which is my problem, not theirs. i don't handle stress well. 40 minutes is a long time to wait though.

no i in yr a

so to speak

the level of stress made my a feel i

_lol Radio Shack was way ahead of the curve, they used to ask for your address years ago_

That reminds me of this collection of anecdotes (I thought it mentioned the hassling-for-address thing but it doesn't seem to):
http://www.ihateworkinginretail.com/tag/i-hate-radioshack/

I particularly enjoyed VIII and XV, if you've got better things to do than read the whole collection of longwinded rants. But who would have better things to do than that?

Whoa thank you, aps! I read the first few of those when it was first posted, but missed the great ones you pointed out plus my favorite, the one w/ Stoned Craig going "I'm hungry, Paw." (Which I've said a lot to various people over decades for no reason I can discern, so maybe it's just part of the collective human drive to say it.)

Stoned Je55e

OK that Brum story looool
Original Brum theme was instrumental but TIL there is an extremely lengthy modern version

bill gates the spider

News sites showing handheld video but blurring out the edges? I feel like I see something like this every week or two. Sorry, this is some really traumatic video.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/local/trafficandcommuting/dying-among-strangers-metro-victim-found-fellow-riders-who-tried-to-save-her-life/2015/01/13/98f6c37e-9b7a-11e4-bcfb-059ec7a93ddc_story.html?hpid=z3

lately every time i watch some crappy viral video prank, i get IA imagining myself just out and about trying to run an errand and getting trapped in a viral video prank. like that dumb telekinesis coffee shop thing.*

*maybe the reactions are fake, idk.

It's very likely my last dying words will be "Turn your phone sideways if you insist on recording this."

Yeah, it's not because something is being blurred out, it's because people don't shoot in landscape and for some reason news organizations have chosen to present it like that. I think they should just reject all portrait videos.

Why can't phones just format videos in landscape regardless of the position of the phone?

camera sensor orientation? the actual sensor isn't square iirc, I may be wrong

those takeout containers with interlocking flaps - eating from them makes me ia bcz the flaps get in the way

i usually dump it out onto a plate of something but sometimes you can't & raaaaage

Like Chinese take out containers?

if you hold it from the side you are holding down three of the flaps automatically

Blurred margins - you'll also see this sometimes when shows re-run old 4x3 segments in their new 16x9 format.

Was cutting up a carrot for some soup for dinner and lost about half of it to the 3 slices just rolling right off the cutting board and onto the floor.

I am so glad I nolonger work in frontline tech support. The reason they make you go thru all those hoops is because a migraine-inducing amount of people swear they already did all the troubleshooting and didn't. (we can see when you havent rebooted the router! It shows a 3 month uptime!).

But yes, the incessant push to AI/bot responses and chat assistants is real frustrating. Oh, the beancounters insist, this tech is way better than it used to be!

Doesn't change the fact it renders all callers purple with rage so when and if they ever DO get to an actual person, they're so angry they become impossible to deal with. And when thats the caller you have on Every Single Call, your day becomes pretty grim.

I'm exiting the movies last night and I walk outside. This dude and his girlfriend are approaching swiftly from a good distance away. The guy yells "What the fuck?" at me because he expected me to hold the door for him, despite it being a clearly labeled Exit Only door.

He and his girlfriend then see someone leaving out the Exit door to my right and melodramatically sprint to get through it before it shuts. To their immediate right is the Entrance door, clearly labeled and naturally ignored.

The irrationally angry bit is how I keep thinking about it a day later due to my fascination with the thought process. They obviously knew they were exit doors, otherwise they would have had exterior handles and wouldn't have needed someone to hold the door.

So I'm stuck wondering if they thought this was the world's first gated community movie theater, where you can only get in if you tailgate someone leaving

They're prob the kind of people who would also get mad if you didnt let them in with you in a security doored apartment. Like fuck I'm letting you come in with me, person I have never seen before!

"Thank you for calling (our company, doctor's office, etc). Please listen carefully as our menu options have recently changed"

LIARS! Your menu options have NOT recently changed. The last time your menu options changed was 20 years ago when you finally stopped giving instructions for what to do if you have a rotary-dial phone. Why does nearly every place I call lie about having new and different menu options?

I think it’s a psychological technique to get you to listen.

They clearly want you to listen through all of the options before pressing a key to reduce misdirected calls, but they could do that without lying to me and saying they've recently changed the voicemail menu.

I'd probably be more likely to listen if the messages were more insulting

world cup. annoyed by the way the itv dog in the top right is the exact same colour as the sky and just keeps disappearing leaving only the trophy and FIFA in tiny letters

My mom has been sending text messages to my email address instead of my phone number for almost ten years now, whenever she tries to text my brother and I simultaneously.

I am guessing she has separate contacts for me in her phone, one my number, one my email, and one day back in 2018, she mistakenly chose the wrong one.

I kept telling her about it because she'd ask if I saw her message and I didn't because it would show in my email box as a text file (including EVERY REPLY) so I'd never get an alert. I'd keep telling her and she'd insist she wasn't doing that.

Then I moved in with her and showed her what she was doing and texted her and my brother, saying "send all family messages here".

Problem stopped for a few years, then she started doing it again. Texted the group again..."send the messages HERE".

Stopped for multiple years. I think it's over.

Today I get a text from her in my email box.

Omggggg

My mom has a habit of texting my ex-wife instead of me. Love getting the "uh, I think your mom meant to send this to you" texts.

Oh mega awkward

My mom texts me and my wife separately, discussing different subjects. I don't know why she thinks only my wife wants to see photos of flowers she took, and only I want to know about the dead mouse she found under her refrigerator, but that's how it goes.

haha...
I message my brother to find out if he's getting my mum the DVD box set she asked for for her birthday. He tells me to 'ask Sarah'. His wife. Who is in the same house, if not the same room, as him.

Across the street dirtbag neighbors have a demon-spawn son who is now old enough to drive his mom’s circa 2000 model Mercedes

Cut to: every. single. day. he pulls up in the car with the shitty soundsystem as loud as it can go, subwoofer rattling the car’s trunk so that the rattling of his car is ~louder~ than the music. you can hear him coming because you hear the rattling before the music. But what’s worse is my house 100 years old & even with double-glazed widows this shit so fucking loud it rattles the walls of ~our house~ from across the street! you can feel it in the floor! The pictures on the wall vibrate!

Loud music bumping from cars is part of our neighborhood & i actually enjoy it but this little dickhead just INFURIATES me.

I have never wished violence on anyone more than this child.

And I hate it because I know i sound like the oldest old lady on earth

I'm sorry but you can't be rationally angry on the IRRATIONALLY ANGRY thread.

It feels irrational because it’s just loud music

If there were an "irrationally not angry" thread then my entry would probably be something about people playing loud music in public

just loud music

According to your description, it's far more than that. For example, "the rattling of his car is ~louder~ than the music. you can hear him coming because you hear the rattling before the music" and "it rattles the walls of ~our house~ from across the street! you can feel it in the floor! The pictures on the wall vibrate!"

Nothing about that seems musical. Any rational adult would want to remove that from their lives at once and forever.

Sorta cross posting with the innocuously embarrassing thread, but I hate being subjected to other people’s music when I can’t get away from it.

If I’m walking on the street and there’s a busker with an amplifier banging away, I’m ok with that because it’s a passing thing. If I hear music passing by from in my house, it’s ok. When I’m stuck in a restaurant with a dorkus malorkus playing amplified Hooty covers, that is not ok. Parking outside of my house and blasting for a length of time is not ok. Stop forcing shit on other people.

Oh, people bringing their portable speakers to the beach. I want to hear the ocean, not Morgan Waller. Go kick rocks.

Yeah I guess that’s the other part - he’s just staying put blasting crappy music all over everyone rather than merely passing by

Its a good thing I've never encountered the speaker-on-the-beach/in-the-pool thing because I can't tell you if I could supress the urge to dropkick the speaker into the nearest body of water.

...which now I think about it would do bugger all as those things are waterproof arent they, arrrrg.

My mom texts me and my wife separately, discussing different subjects. I don't know why she thinks only my wife wants to see photos of flowers she took, and only I want to know about the dead mouse she found under her refrigerator, but that's how it goes.

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i've found this very irritating as of late, more because there have been other questions in the family about her overall health.

The abandoned scooters blocking sidewalks already annoyed me, but the new twist of 14 Doordash delivery bikes with comically large wheels strewn across the sidewalk in front of every lunch place is starting to make me wonder if I'd just be better off walking in the street instead.

those ones with the large whees are ebikes and almost invariably ridden at full speed on the sidewalk.

Yeah, my autocorrect dropped out the "e" on my post, but yes, another hazard.

i'm doing 2 short 10-minute plays in a production featuring short plays, one of which one of my best friends is directing. i'm also supposed to appear in a production next March that he's directing, and he wants to do an early read *now* to help tighten up the script. so he asked the cast for that play for availability and I gave it, and he gave us two dates, one the scheduled read date, the other the 'backup' date. I thought this was a placeholder until everyone committed to the primary date, but no, even then he wanted us to hold BOTH dates open in case the first date fell through.

well, problem is, one of my short plays likes to rehearse Wednesdays, and the backup date is a Wednesday, and it's not really fair for me to tell them "sorry we can't rehearse that day, I might not be available, and I won't know until 2 days prior". but also - I know how actors work, and the moment you give someone a 'backup' date, they think they can flake on the primary date. "oh, someone offered me tickets to xxx event? well I said I'd do a read today, but fuck that, there's a backup date, I'll call out". Not to mention also...THIS IS A READING for something we're not doing for 8 months.

so I told him "well I'll commit to the primary date but I can't do that with the secondary date, we have a rehearsal that date and it's not fair for me to tell them I can't do it because I *might* be busy", and he's kind of annoyed, but...why should I have to leave two days open on my calendar for an event that takes one night? not to mention....someone is going to call out, they always do. it's a reading. we do what we always do - we fill it in with someone else for a night.

"please listen carefully as our menu options have changed"

oh thank god you let me know.

To be fair, the menu options have actually changed lately by assigning a bullshit AI agent to waste our time.

Tesco's have stopped stocking / selling the soap i use. I'm too old to change my soap.

The discontinuation of cheap bubble bath in floral scents: why is it so fucking hard to get rose or lavender without some clever clogs adding the water lily or geranium nobody asked for. There used to be a bluebell one in spring, too.

what happened to just plain shampoo

shampoo for my real friends

this was just cheap-ass, Tesco's own, lemon-scented vegetarian soap. the giant Tesco didn't have any the last twice and no space where it should've been. i could try all the Tesco metros i guess.

The beauty industry happened to just plain shampoo!

xp is it this one?

https://www.tesco.com/shop/en-GB/products/301219881?srsltid=AU7gw4UYVCsk0kgTpvm1-bpZC7wF9IvtU7H8du8ytcXvARYZSayCVecy

um, good thinking. but a bit too fancy. the packaging is a step up (no graphics on the ones i buy) and the mandarin aspect is wrong. or maybe they have succumbed to the thing Suzy talks about above.

might work as an alternative though, if i can find them. thanks.

They stopped selling crabs and crab pate a while back and I still wish death on whoever decided that

Tesco's have stopped stocking / selling the soap i use. I'm too old to change my soap.

Something similar happened to Bob Stanley; he took to crate digging in indie pharmacies for vintage soap (of course): https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2011/jan/12/pears-soap-changed-formula

I have been searching for a few years for a fig flower splash cologne (Turkish kolonyi) that I used to get for £5 for 250ml at the big Turkish supermarket in Holloway Road. I have 100ml left from a bottle I’ve had for five years.

i wonder if the lesson here is to not get too attached to anything. or, slightly more cheerily, to appreciate things at the time.

kinda fits with my micro failures of the market thread but that was not a good thread

where Bob Stanley wins is that he's not looking for own-brand stuff so, as he describes, he can trawl every dusty pharmacy in the land whereas I'm stuck with the 4 or so local Tesco Locals.

everything is temporary

i wonder if the lesson here is to not get too attached to anything. or, slightly more cheerily, to appreciate things at the time.

My mother would tell you if you like something like that (beauty product or w/e) buy several of it, same with if you find jeans or a bra that fits perfectly. The consumerist take lol

indie pharmacies for vintage soap

So much better than that crap digital soap released by major labels

Lately I am getting into underground soaps that you've probably never heard of

Subscribe to my zine

I liked soap before it was cool

I’m giggling a bit thinking of buying live crabs at Tesco