start a victory garden and ration your IRRATIONALLY ANGRY feelings, part 3

That annoys me on buses, when people who know each other either stand on opposite sides of the aisle and talk super loudly or a group gets on and takes a whole double seat each to drape themselves over. If you know each other well enough to talk to each other then you know each other well enough to sit next to each other and not take up the whole damn bus.

Once a big party of language school students got on the bus I was sitting on and headed towards the back (which I was one row in front of) and I moved forward to make room for them all to sit next to each other, except some loud gel-haired bro took up my entire double seat and the last one on got stranded near the front on her own instead. I was IA for myself and also on her behalf.

Today I am annoyed at sleeves. I bought two new sweaters y/day and the sleeves are kind of short and I haven't even washed them yet so they're probably only going to get shorter, at least on the wool jumper. I have pretty short arms too (I assume? normally sleeves are way too long on me) so I can only imagine what these look like on normal humans.

Looks like the waistband I just put on is on wrong. &twisting the zip.
Shame I didn't see that until I'd stitched the whole way round. S o got to unpick from a fabric I'm not sure can take it.
Was hoping to wear them tomorrow too

Somehow u-torrent seems to have reconfigured itself in such a way that instead of downloading audio files in folders thus separating the downloads into whatever live recording they came as they just come down as files stripped of the folders. I can't see what you would need to reconfigure to get it back to the way it was up until yesterday where it had the separating folders.
Subsequently I have several live sets in a larger folder all jumbled up, sorted by the numerical part of their title so I have a load of 1s from different sets, a load of 2s from different sets etc.

Looks like i somehow had automatically update u-torrent ticked on the preferences box and maybe this has the thing needing to be reconfigured since it is possibly a new version of u-torrent but I've never come across an update leading to this. I also don't think I would normally leave an automatically update box ticked if I was aware of it. So am further wondering if I did leave it unticked or bowed to continual notification previously that there were new updates which would probably bug me too, especially if they were happenning with any great frequency.

Looking in the wrong place to try to figure out configuration when the problem is a box that's become unticked on the main interface. So I go and look in preferences and can't find anything. Semi surprised i haven't come across that before.
& Now IA that I couldn't see it earlier

When I lived in "Little Saigon" I noticed people shouting conversations in Vietnamese (or Korean or maybe Chinese) across various distances with no obvious reason for being that far apart. One time I saw two women converse from opposite sides of a street. There was a lot of extended casual yelling in that neighborhood.

A friend's Vietnamese co-worker says that they're just a loud people. (Americans are stereotyped the same way, I guess.)

Q: Does the remote control volume or just answer calls/ pause and play on music?

A: No idea. I had so much trouble getting them to fit and stay in my ears that I returned them. Sorry.
KKIAA | 4 days ago

Mobile pages that won't let you stretch them out to fit the text to fit the screen.

argh yes this.

I'm IA because our Walmart has apparently done away with baskets, forcing everybody who has more than a couple of items to buy to push a cart around. Even though everything I needed fit in one bag.

Your local WalMart management irrationally believes that forcing you to push around an enormous cart will induce you to fill it with impulse purchases rather than make you very rationally angry with them.

My brother gets IA at his local Walmart b/c they put huge displays all the way down the aisles so that a cart can barely get through. I support his IA.

Oh yeah, they do that in my local supermarket (Giant) as well. Two carts should be able to get down the aisle without one of them being blocked by like, a Pepperidge Farm standee or something.

That actually got me so angry that I sent an email in complaint. They basically wrote back like "we want to be able to better serve customers by offering a wider variety of products and we aren't gonna change a thing".

Stores are paid directly by whatever company owns the Pepperidge Farm brand for "better serving" you that way. So, unless you slipped a thousand or so into an envelope along with your complaint, they wouldn't be interested.

Yeah, but it still blows.

agreed. capitalism is death by a thousand cuts.

My Walmart has tons of baskets but the lazy/not paid enough to give a fuck employees seem to be incapable of putting them back up by the entrances after people check out. I usually have to walk by the checkout lanes to scavenge one.

I walked the front of the store to see if that was the case here; no baskets.

someone keeps microwaving fish in the break room at work. well, not someone, a person who I can identify. she does it multiple times per week.

not a person, a savage

otm, she's also irritated the hell out of a couple coworkers for other reasons, including being mean

I know it's probably nothing she can help, but she had the most cringe-inducing giant cold sore breakout a couple weeks ago when I passed her in the hall. Like a giant red blotch that covered half her lower lip. I kind of wanted to leave a giant variety pack of medicated lip stuff on her desk.

someone at my job loves to put broccoli in the toaster oven at different times during the day but never at lunch time

when i try to hang up my iphone but my hand somehow blocks the sensor that alerts the little bastard to the presence of a yakking face, triggering it to turn off the screen (power saving feature, i presume). result is that i keep trying to tap the disconnect icon, but the screen keeps going black at the last second, over and over again. angry making.

xp maybe they just love to fart and are crazy

ia: hyperactive/screaming children out in public (ia because i was that kid myself once, and also bc if you're childless you're not ever allowed to criticize children or their shitty parents because you're obv an unfeeling monster who's just selfishly letting tumbleweed pass through your ovaries instead of helping repopulate the earth with more special snowflakes)

cosine jb. also cosine the part where it's unloving and uncharitable to ever be annoyed by kids ever when when people you like keep having them and that's their whole world now but jesus christ how can a 3yo even MAKE that much noise on the floor, he weighs less than my bike and he's made of subcutaneous fat and soft squishy cartilage instead of steel tubing.

not that irrational, child screams are specially designed by our creator to be one of the most unpleasant sounds and He forgives u

ia at parents who are ia at people who don't like child screams though

amen

Today his mom stood in the hallway and yelled back at him about the consequences of his actions if he didn't stop screaming. I'm sorry for her, I really am, but I do wonder where they lived before....

If the parent doesn't even seem to gaf about the screams then I sympathize. People sometimes assume children (at least toddlers) are more controllable than they are though, such as my neighbor who banged on his ceiling when my daughter was throwing a tantrum, as though I somehow needed to be put on notice that the meltdown going on in my apartment was loud and irritating because I had otherwise been rather enjoying it.

But yes toddler screams are IA making.

i have more of a problem with older toddlers and young children than with babies, actually. babies are supposed to cry. but if you let your five-year-old loose in a store, and the kid is a holy terror, do not make it my problem if the kid gets hurt because i couldn't get out of the way fast enough, or if i'm visibly wincing because of the piercing screams of a kid who's had too much sugar.

(actually, it was trader joe's i was just in, so the kids probably had too much yerba mate)

Have you tried sidling up to the child and screaming along in the same pitch? It's bound to put the little bastard off his or her stride.

do not make it my problem if the kid gets hurt because i couldn't get out of the way fast enough
yeah it's really great to work in a place where they get mad if you can't teleport from one end of the store to the other and save the kid from crashing into a customer (or the store), and neither can any other worker, especially during bigass holiday sales (should be fellow workers on every aisle, but retail=small a payroll as possible/allowed).
Parents trying to deal with their kids' melt-downs get all my sympathy, but some are oblivious at best. Which is also great when you can barely save your 88-year-old Mother from getting run down, and then somebody else says something to one of the oblivious Daddies, who follows us out of the restaurant arguing (if that's what you call it when he keeps jabbering while we're ignoring him(, and then another Daddy runs up as his reinforcement etc

"oblivious at best': heh I mentioned this on a thread about psychopaths, and got reprimanded

and that's their whole world now

part of the "it's selfish not to have kids" argument is that if you want a life of your own outside of the bubble of parenting, you're putting your own desires first, not being a real grownup and taking a backseat role to the very important duty of making children your whole reason for living. and i have philosophical problems with that -- the idea of a mother being a passive vessel who lives to serve -- no, just no. even people who do have kids and try to live somewhat balanced lives get guilted into this line of thinking.

I know it's silly to push back on an IA thread post, but I think the typical argument (without endorsing said argument) against people without children judging people with children is simply that they "don't understand what it's like to try to get a rev'd up little ball of pure id through the cookie aisle of a supermarket without violent conflict," not that they are "selfish and useless people who are not contributing to the world."

Like I don't think the typical toddler parent is thinking "JEEZ WHY HASN'T THIS PARASITE PROCREATED YET" it's more like "I AM SO TIRED PLEASE JUST CUT ME SOME SLACK"

"it's selfish not to have kids" is a real dumbass reductive perspective on parenting. they're just jealous of all us free spirits who don't give a fuck.

"don't understand what it's like to try to get a rev'd up little ball of pure id through the cookie aisle of a supermarket without violent conflict,"

this whole "you have to actually experience this terrible thing i do every day rather than read about it" is bullshit too

we understand, it's why we don't have kids

all the people who have kids used to not have kids, and hence are well positioned to judge whether people without kids understand what it's like

I totally sympathize, but: getting back to people who are seemingly oblivious at best--and who don't seem tired, but are chatting up a storm with friends, some of whose own kids are helling around too, getting that playground energy going, in a crowded indoor space....

I'm with you on that, I cringe too

I think the typical argument (without endorsing said argument) against people without children judging people with children is simply that they "don't understand what it's like to try to get a rev'd up little ball of pure id through the cookie aisle of a supermarket without violent conflict,"

yes, but on the other hand, i made a decision, a well-informed and careful one, not to put myself into a situation where i would have to get a revved-up ball of id through a cookie aisle. if you're the parent of this ball of id, that's the decision you made, and you're stuck with it for the next few years, and if i'm judging it's because you're expecting a store full of strangers to be patient and understanding when their own lives are stressful enough already. that's a lot of charity to ask for.

Well I see that side of it and I fully respect people who choose not to have kids. I don't think there's anything more or less "selfish" about having vs not having kids. But I also think it's unreasonable to expect to live in a child-free world, as though the people who are "stuck with" their decision should just avoid buying groceries for a few years. I try to do my part to avoid creating greater inconvenience by only shopping in already-noisy madhouses like Costco rather than quiet, boutique organic groceries, and by removing K from any indoor space as quickly as possible (if possible) when she starts screaming, best I can do.

i mean you don't fucking have to have kids. you don't. not unless someone is threatening your life and saying "bear my child or i'll fucking kill you." it's a decision what you bring into the world and it's not other people's problem.