start a victory garden and ration your IRRATIONALLY ANGRY feelings, part 3

ok that is ia. the actual content of phatic expressions is more or less moot. i never say "youre welcome"

as long as someone says something in return to thank you which denotes i acknowledge your thank you then what's the problem

the equivalent phrase in Spanish to "youre welcome" is "de nada" ("of nothing"), are spanish speakers all rude?

yes

i acknowledge your thank you

gonna start using this

when people say thank you I just tell them to eat my ass

I generally say "no problem" if I'm thanked in conversation. Now that I know it sandpapers map's ass, I'll say "definitely no problem."

xp lol

Oasis says "definitely maybe problem"

I say "no worries" a lot but not in response to "thank you", but usually when someone apologizes to me for something that's menial and that I don't think is a big deal.

thinking about it i only say "you're welcome" when im being sarcastic because someone hasn't thanked me

with all this anxiety around thanking and being thanked I think the correct solution is to go home and repress all feelings

i feel like "no problem" or "no worries" are originally face-saving responses to "i'm sorry" in the western u.s. english-speaking cultural milieu of which i'm a part, not the spanish-speaking one of which i'm not a part, and they've become appropriate responses to "thank you" somehow, and they denote some kind of embarrassment or inconvenience around being grateful for something. "of nothing" is closer to "of course" imo and totally acceptable, as is a grunt or a nod or a "yeah", just not "no problem", which i've also noticed men are more likely to say.

I generally say "no problem" if I'm thanked in conversation. Now that I know it sandpapers map's ass, I'll say "definitely no problem."

xp lol

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how about you ignore me and i'll ignore you?

like i've long since stopped caring that you don't like me, would you be so kind as to keep it to yourself?

we used to be trained in our call centers not to say "no problem" in response to "thank you" for that reason.

xxpost whoa

definitely no problem

glad it's not going to inconvenience you.

"It was my pleasure," "my pleasure," or "happy to help" are all more gracious ways of saying something that is the equivalent of "you're welcome" without being "you're welcome."

(btw I personally don't mind "no problem" etc.)

my pleasure I use a lot but only when it's true, I hate people thinking it pleasured me to serve them when it did not pleasure me to serve them

Try "you're pleasure" instead

Try always a pleasure, never a chore, may the wind always be at your back and may the road rise up to meet you *doffs hat*

always a pleasure, never a chore, now please do fuck off, you beady-eyed boar

just tug yr forelock

to be safe, i stick with, "don't worry your pretty little head about it."

I just say "s'all good." Then I shuffle away.

the worst is the affirmative "uh huh!" in response to a thank you. like its a huge bother to even form words with yr mouth

<"no worries" has> become appropriate responses to "thank you" somehow, and they denote some kind of embarrassment or inconvenience around being grateful for something.

Being that this came from Australia, I can see a flaw in your theory there.

this is madness. "no worries" or "no problem" or "you're welcome" or "of course" are all basically the same. and anyway gratitude is a spirit not a formula based on words used.

with all this anxiety around thanking and being thanked I think the correct solution is to go home and repress all feelings

1. Go home
2. Repress all feelings
3. ????
4. Implode European union, country

Is No Problem a West Indianism? There was an early Channel 4 sitcom of the title and I don't think I'd really come across the phrase before. That was 30 odd years ago so it's had a while to spread. & 20 odd years before that since the big wave of West Indian arrival in the UK.

the worst is the affirmative "uh huh!" in response to a thank you. like its a huge bother to even form words with yr mouth

haha i think i say "sure" a lot, which is technically a word but even less bother

LG otm

god this thread is good for just adding layers and layers to social anxiety

like human contact is terrifying enough without having to worry if the person I'm talking to is secretly internal screaming because I didn't use enough syllables in an arbitrary ritual response

I say "sure sure" a lot - don't pick up your tics from Coen Brothers films, kids.

(Not for thank-you read-receipt though)

fairly sure someone has said "fuck off" in response to me thanking them and it still felt fine.

You ever want to see a ridiculous response to "thank you", go on an Amex webchat session.

It's like a paragraph long.

The last guy also began our convos by saying "how can I put a smile on your face today?".

Can't reveal my reply...charges still pending

My go-to responses to thank you are "sure!" and "any time!"

i just say "word"

Sometimes to your mother.

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A Faulknerian/Styronian Southern "sho" works, as does "naw, you straight, bruh."

Generally agree with LocalGarda that the intent is what matters in formulaic utterances. Which is why I don't stress over giving a reflexive "you too!" response in situations where it doesn't make sense.

Classic example is the airline ticket agent who says "Have a nice flight!" and you say "You too!" Or the movie theater cashier who says, "Enjoy the film!" and you say "You too!"

I have had overly sensitive times in my life where I did that and then wanted to die from the mortification; life is just too short.

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Anyway, if someone says "thanks" but implies they are putting me out, I sometimes say "no worries." If someone says "thanks" but implies I am doing them a favor, I sometimes say "no problem." But generally, if someone says thanks, I usually just say "you're welcome."

Briefly, during the great learning experience, my kids expected me to thank them for saying thank you.

I agree that map's irritation at this is a bit, idk, irrational? Frankly I'm shocked to see it in the million post thread of ilxors writing Yelp reviews of their commute (part 3)

PRO TIP for all of you: Don't worry about the small stuff when it comes to pleasantries.

You're welcome.

Thank you.

Briefly, during the great learning experience, my kids expected me to thank them for saying thank you.

My brain does this reflexively if e.g. I'm walking somewhere and get out of someone's way and they thank me, I seem to say "thanks" before I can even stop myself

once the recipient got v. mad, assuming I was being pissy: "I already SAID thank you!"

so don't do that (but if you do, you probably can't help it)

The recipient is ill-informed - it's an unmatched "You're Welcome" that is supposed to smack them down with the holy wrath of Miss Manners.

I find myself saying "you bet" a lot in response to "thank you"; the echo clangs in my ears