Matt Taibbi

iirc they just talk to skulls

it’s completely unhealthy but how you hound people about their pasts, and when tends to cause emotional reactions

Do you live in some kind of bubble where people never get angry?

Near constant passive aggression is a good anger management technique.

it’s completely unhealthy but how you hound people about their pasts, and when tends to cause emotional reactions

― mh, Wednesday, November 1, 2017 10:36 PM (thirteen minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

i don't know anything about this situation beyond what frederik posted but throwing mugs at people goes beyond 'emotional reaction' it's just being a violent person

ok after actually reading it he didn't throw a physical mug as fred wrote for some reason, he tossed his coffee

“Yes, the Exile book. I thought it was redundant and discursive and you guys left out a lot of the good stuff you did,” I said.

At this, Taibbi’s mouth turned down and his eyes narrowed.

“Fuck you,” he snarled, and then picked up his mug from the table, threw his coffee at me, and stormed out.

The restaurant was packed with customers, and they all turned to watch as I sat there, stunned, coffee dripping from my face. The waiter arrived with the milkshake Taibbi had ordered. After wiping myself off a bit, I went outside, where Taibbi was putting on his coat, and asked him to calm down and come back into the restaurant. He walked up to me, glaring, beside himself with rage.

“Fuck you!” he yelled. “Did you bring me here to insult me? Who are you? What have you ever written? Fuck you!” I tried to talk to him, but gave up when he walked away. I went back inside, paid the bill, left, and began walking up Sixth Avenue. Halfway up the block, I turned around, and Taibbi was behind me.

“Are you following me?,” I asked. He walked toward me, raising his arms as though preparing to throttle me or take a swing.

“I still haven’t decided what I’m going to do with you!” he said.

“Are you kidding?,” I asked.

either way that's still unhinged and absolutely goes against taibbi's zen-like self-portrayal in the passage he posted

well maybe reading about the situation and postulating about what was actually was said would be useful

I mean, I can think of two times in my life where I threw something in the general direction of a person and they were pretty much the lowest points of my life

do you feel he’s a reliable narrator here, and what was he asking about immediately prior

i have loved a lot of taibbi's writing but this is why it's so difficult to truly get excited about ~~LEFT ENERGRY~~ that's built around charismatic personalities, toxic and violent men always infiltrate the hierarchies that will have them

I would never throw shit at a person in a professional context but worked upstairs from dudes who would have middle aged man yelling grumpy matches and it was met with a shrug and people avoiding them for a day

like there are ostensibly middle of the road journalists laughing and enjoying the ennui of a congressman pulling a “ten inch knife” on Boehner and Boehner replying with “fuck you”on twitter as if this is a funny

that is, the reaction to the article on Twitter, the incident was in person

I'm on the record upthread as having a bunch of problems with some of Matt Taibbi's writing but I still don't feel good about this hitching of claims of "he was an asshole sometimes when he was younger" to the Weinstein train. I mean, people shouldn't be assholes, but this seems like an overly convenient attempt to neutralize a very popular left journalist.

i cut out what was said to taibbi which was literally just "i didn't like the book", and he supposedly couched it in language that praised taibbi's work overall ("you guys left out a lot of the good stuff you did")

also what's described there goes way beyond throwing coffee

"do you feel he’s a reliable narrator here" not sure what would make him any less reliable than the droves of accusers who have spoken up in the past month? weren't you literally just talking about how it's on the accused to prove innocence in the weinstein thread

i also don't think taibbi has to be assumed of any wrongdoing other than being a dumbass for allowing those things to be published, until an actual human comes out to say he did or said those things

but the coffee story is an actual accusation from an actual person on the record and that shit's beyond the pale

i'm never going to be surprised when a man turns out to be a violent pest and it doesn't matter who has it out for him

ok, it’s his thread and I feel like it’s shitty to put it this way, but who is accusing Taibbi of sexual harassment and not just being a shitty coworker?

Why is it "beyond the pale"? It's a shitty thing to do to someone sure, but it's not in the same universe as, say, rape, which was being claimed about Taibbi seems like only a few days ago, based on nothing. It's not like the guy who got coffee thrown in his face will never heal from the deep emotional scars of having someone get unreasonably mad at him.

“Fuck you!” he yelled. “Did you bring me here to insult me? Who are you? What have you ever written? Fuck you!” I tried to talk to him, but gave up when he walked away. I went back inside, paid the bill, left, and began walking up Sixth Avenue. Halfway up the block, I turned around, and Taibbi was behind me.

“Are you following me?,” I asked. He walked toward me, raising his arms as though preparing to throttle me or take a swing.

“I still haven’t decided what I’m going to do with you!” he said.

ok i'm out

taibbi's great real positive guy love his work xoxo

Again, not saying he's a "great guy" I'm just questioning this leap we seem to have made from outing genuine predators to trying to excise from the public people who had unhealthy levels of anger decades ago.

I don't even like Taibbi's writing that much.

i hope i never find myself lightly criticizing any your posts

qualx is otm here, violent aggression is not some "boys will be boys" shit even when it isn't rape

Fully-grown adults should not find themselves capable of throwing their coffee at someone

Not sure where I said it was some "boys will be boys" shit, or even ok, I just don't understand why it's important to have a conversation about whether every public figure is psychologically up to the standards we'd seek in a friend or partner. Like what is the conclusion we should reach if it's true that Taibbi is a jerk. No one should read him? We should feel guilty reading him because we are supporting jerkdom?

they shoukdn’t, but remarkably things like that happen

have you guys ever asked pointed questions to people, irl, about their past actions and life trajectories? I’ve been told off, physically confronted, and had grudges for relatively minor issues because people are ducking defensive babies and being called out seldom happens

I don't actually care at all about Matt Taibbi or what you do or don't read but I do care about qualx and I think he is not wrong about the gravity of this coffee anecdote that's all.

one of my worst moments is a guy I felt my friend just impugning me, word after word, in front of a group of friends for no reason other than his own biases and my (relatively small town, assert your biases now) friends made at least a few comments about how I should have slugged him

now, if you feel shitty and conflicted about a part of your life, and someone who isn’t a trusted friend springs that on you, I am not going to fault for acting a little human

yeah i think mh has a point, tho imo there's a certain line that going from throwing coffee to menacingly following (if true) does cross. taibbi's a pretty big dude iirc

silby, you’re one of the greatest internalizers I’ve noticed in my social sphere and I completely relate, but imagine even 10 percent of your inner angsting externalized, and try not to immediately see that as a personal failing worthy of making someone a pariah

Fair point

FWIW I think there's *some* context worth examining, which is that, even in the author's own telling it comes through that he was being a dick to Taibbi as well, perhaps even wanted to get a rise out of him:

When I first contacted Taibbi for this story, he replied unenthusiastically. “Ugh. No way I can talk you out of this, huh?” he e-mailed. “In the end nobody really wants to read about a couple of overgrown suburban teenagers writing about anal sex and the clap and then calling themselves revolutionaries when some third-world dictator gets bored of letting them stay published.”

He then fell out of touch, re-emerged a month later, and agreed to meet me for lunch at a Manhattan restaurant. I arrived late, and he was visibly annoyed. There was no boyish smile. “I just don’t see why you’re doing this story,” he said. When I told him that Ames was now living in New York he grew more agitated. I mentioned some of the Exile pieces of his I planned to write about, and he said, “That was covered in the book.” I told him yes, that was true, but the book had been published in 2000, and, frankly, I didn’t think it was very good.

“The book wasn’t good?” he said.

“No, I didn’t think so,” I said.

“My book?” he said.

“Yes, the Exile book. I thought it was redundant and discursive and you guys left out a lot of the good stuff you did,” I said.

At this, Taibbi’s mouth turned down and his eyes narrowed.

“Fuck you,” he snarled, and then picked up his mug from the table, threw his coffee at me, and stormed out.

The restaurant was packed with customers, and they all turned to watch as I sat there, stunned, coffee dripping from my face. The waiter arrived with the milkshake Taibbi had ordered. After wiping myself off a bit, I went outside, where Taibbi was putting on his coat, and asked him to calm down and come back into the restaurant. He walked up to me, glaring, beside himself with rage.

“Fuck you!” he yelled. “Did you bring me here to insult me? Who are you? What have you ever written? Fuck you!”

I tried to talk to him, but gave up when he walked away. I went back inside, paid the bill, left, and began walking up Sixth Avenue. Halfway up the block, I turned around, and Taibbi was behind me.

“Are you following me?,” I asked. He walked toward me, raising his arms as though preparing to throttle me or take a swing.

“I still haven’t decided what I’m going to do with you!” he said.

“Are you kidding?,” I asked.

And at that moment I thought he might be kidding. There was part of me that thought it must have been a prank. I half expected some old Exile accomplice, maybe even Ames, to jump out from behind a tree with a camera. Maybe they’d been setting me up all along. Maybe there was horse sperm in the coffee. But the anger in Taibbi’s eyes was genuine, and, after some more glaring, he fumed off. That was the last I saw of him.

love to have people mythologize me over a cof

Like, he presses him to do an interview on something Taibbi really doesn't want to do an interview about, shows up late, and then says "BTW your book (which you didn't want to do an interview about) sucks." And who knows what other details are left out.

you're relating way too much to taibbi mh

he's a professional writer who wrote a bunch of dumb provocative shit and this is how he responded to someone saying a book was bad. he flipped out, walked away, returned, flipped out again, walked away again, waited, and then followed and physically intimidated the guy. i have no idea why you're comparing this to an experience where someone was apparently denigrating your entire existence... and you still didn't react aggressively

and i probably would've understood a punch to the face if i was next to you in that situation! but there's a difference between being verbally assaulted like that and having a journalist say a mean thing about your book. by all means it sounds like taibbi had the upper hand throughout that entire exchange.

He flipped out because he knew that the book was indefensible and could ruin his career.

It wasn’t the journalist’s fault.

Xxp feel like your argument is redundant and discursive and you left a lot of the good stuff out

the book is really dumb, btw, because a lot of the original material is very relevant to time and place so they printed the most provocative bullshit to sell it to americans

I bought it in *seaches email* early 2010 and found it too repetitive and gross to finish

vlads

I'm just questioning this leap we seem to have made from outing genuine predators to trying to excise from the public people who had unhealthy levels of anger decades ago.

OK, let's consult what Matt Taibi has to say:

So now, for instance, if people go back and look at the offensive things that I wrote 18 or 20 years ago, and decide never to read my columns in Rolling Stone or buy I Can’t Breathe, that is completely just. It’s how this business works.

I presume this applies equally to 'offensive things that I did decades ago', so he actively endorses the idea that it's fair and just for us to say screw him, based on how much he has done or said offensive things in the past.

He's arguing in qualx's favor.

vlads

― mookieproof, Thursday, November 2, 2017 12:00 AM (forty-one seconds ago)

ok lol

lol mookie

qualx & silby & treeship OTM

the fact that he quit his podcast suggests he knows there's more to come

or that he values his friends, take your pick

I hate to be the guy to finally make the point but a long-time great ilxor is married to the other dude from the podcast, who I also appreciate

wait what, I mean the partner of, sorry for slip

Why on earth is that relevant?