Why on earth is that relevant?
― Treeship, Thursday, 2 November 2017 04:15 (seven years ago) link
because down chain effects matter
― YouTube_-_funy_cats.flv (Jimmy The Mod Awaits The Return Of His Beloved), Thursday, 2 November 2017 04:19 (seven years ago) link
because family, friends, and relationships matter?
like I’m not going to come up with the angle “your mom’s a real piece of shit, Treeship!”
I’d wonder why she was taking the extra cookies from the village social to feed squirrels but ask it nicely
― mh, Thursday, 2 November 2017 04:19 (seven years ago) link
xp because having a friend who vouches for the dude has weight
― mookieproof, Thursday, 2 November 2017 04:20 (seven years ago) link
^^
― k3vin k., Thursday, 2 November 2017 04:21 (seven years ago) link
"do you feel he’s a reliable narrator here" not sure what would make him any less reliable than the droves of accusers who have spoken up in the past month? accusers of Taibbi? seems clear that dude is a bit of a dick, also that he's tried to get better - hopefully all of us are always striving for this too, whatever our flaws! - but a) the reporter's own account shows him pestering and antagonising Taibbi over something he was trying to process and move past, and b) being annoyed when someone insists on meeting you, to tell you that you suck, is not super-duper-equivalent to multiple violent rapes, so this seems like some fairly irrelevant whataboutism
― shackling the masses with plastic-wrapped snack picks (sic), Thursday, 2 November 2017 04:22 (seven years ago) link
Yeah that is totally true. I find the passages in that exile book sufficiently disturbing to make me not like him but I don’t necessarily think he did the stuff written in the book. I just seems like he went through a phase where he thiught misogyny was cool.
― Treeship, Thursday, 2 November 2017 04:25 (seven years ago) link
having a network of people you trust who can vouch for others is good
― mh, Thursday, 2 November 2017 04:26 (seven years ago) link
A sign of virility or something. It’s an extraordinarily destructive attitude to be promulgating in a quasi-popular newspaper and book.
― Treeship, Thursday, 2 November 2017 04:27 (seven years ago) link
Self xp
if you never thought it was cool to be a capital D-swinging dick dude then god bless you’re a better person than ms
― YouTube_-_funy_cats.flv (Jimmy The Mod Awaits The Return Of His Beloved), Thursday, 2 November 2017 04:30 (seven years ago) link
lol me anyway
― YouTube_-_funy_cats.flv (Jimmy The Mod Awaits The Return Of His Beloved), Thursday, 2 November 2017 04:32 (seven years ago) link
i never thought sexual harrassment and bullying were cool. I might have been confused about where certain lines were wrt communication as a teenager but not as an adult.
Read the passage in the exile book. It’s not just him using laddish objectifying language it’s him saying it’s funny to harass people even when it clearly upsets them.
― Treeship, Thursday, 2 November 2017 04:37 (seven years ago) link
have you considered taking the book and tossing it out of the window, or at least tossing it back to the late 90s
― mh, Thursday, 2 November 2017 04:38 (seven years ago) link
anyway like i said congratulations on being a better pwrson
― YouTube_-_funy_cats.flv (Jimmy The Mod Awaits The Return Of His Beloved), Thursday, 2 November 2017 04:39 (seven years ago) link
It’s good we are being as a culture more in tune with everyday sexism, but we shouldn’t lose the ability to recognize starkly abusive behavior for what it is. And that’s what is described in the book.
― Treeship, Thursday, 2 November 2017 04:39 (seven years ago) link
interesting that people who dislike Taibbi don't believe him now but think the book is an accurate document of what happened
― The Fortnightly Intruder (GOTT PUNCH II HAWKWINDZ), Thursday, 2 November 2017 04:55 (seven years ago) link
you don’t need to think it happened to think it’s fucked up.
― Treeship, Thursday, 2 November 2017 04:58 (seven years ago) link
Jfc
― YouTube_-_funy_cats.flv (Jimmy The Mod Awaits The Return Of His Beloved), Thursday, 2 November 2017 04:58 (seven years ago) link
I don’t think he should get fired or anything and I don’t dislike his writing but come on. That book is weird and he and his fans are minimizing it.
― Treeship, Thursday, 2 November 2017 04:59 (seven years ago) link
No no keep going you were doing so well
― YouTube_-_funy_cats.flv (Jimmy The Mod Awaits The Return Of His Beloved), Thursday, 2 November 2017 05:00 (seven years ago) link
Look, that book — which I guess was mostly written by Ames but ehuch Taibbi signed off on — is misogynistic hate speech as far as I am concerned. If he had written a racist tract no one would handwave it as a youthful indiscretion.
― Treeship, Thursday, 2 November 2017 05:04 (seven years ago) link
You’re back on track now double down again
― YouTube_-_funy_cats.flv (Jimmy The Mod Awaits The Return Of His Beloved), Thursday, 2 November 2017 05:05 (seven years ago) link
― Treeship, Thursday, November 2, 2017 4:59 AM (nineteen minutes ago)
i don't think he does minimize it, at least not now. in his facebook post he says he regrets the entire exile era and says he finds it "horrifying, embarrassing, hurtful, and stupid" to reread, it struck me as a pretty genuine piece of self-reflection, a world away from some of the shitty apologies we've seen lately.
i'm not taibbi's biggest fan but i feel like we need more evidence than a semi-fictional book he wrote to label him an abuser. i assume other ppl who worked at the exile are still around and willing to talk about what it was actually like there.
― (The Other) J.D. (J.D.), Thursday, 2 November 2017 05:30 (seven years ago) link
Too goddamn long though
― morning wood truancy (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 2 November 2017 10:51 (seven years ago) link
the line of tolerance for ANY bad behavior in (semi-)famous strangers' lives sure has gotten sharp for some pop music fans
thank God the Stones never made a misogynistic record
― ice cream social justice (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 2 November 2017 11:37 (seven years ago) link
must have missed matt taibbi's career as a pop musician, what a horrible oversight on my part
― proton, neutron, electron and crouton (bizarro gazzara), Thursday, 2 November 2017 11:41 (seven years ago) link
seriously, fuck you
just seems like he went through a phase where he thiught misogyny was cool.
hey I laughed when Dean Martin came out on his TV show w/ the chorus girl on a leash, even if I was only eight.
(also Taibbi mentions on FB Raymond Chandler's greatness despite his vile attitudes twd certain classes of people)
― ice cream social justice (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 2 November 2017 11:41 (seven years ago) link
he pitches his new book in the third sentence of his facebook note, thought that was a classy touch
tbh i think it's entirely possible that he does genuinely regret some of the stuff which appeared in the exile, and that an enthusiasm for hunter s thompson-esque blurred-line reporting crossed a line he is now uncomfortable with on a number of occasions
however, as someone who has previously enjoyed his rolling stone reporting (and the few tarfu report episodes i've heard) i'd be willing to give him more personal credit if he'd offered this apology earlier, ideally either on his own initiative or, failing that, on the previous occasions where he's had the opportunity to do so on a public forum.
doing it now, during a time where the public heat is being turned up on abusive men, reads as taibbi being forced to address the issue rather than choosing to do so, which is somewhat at odds with the tone of contrition and personal growth in his facebook post
― proton, neutron, electron and crouton (bizarro gazzara), Thursday, 2 November 2017 11:58 (seven years ago) link
i'd be willing to give him more personal credit if he'd offered this apology earlier, ideally either on his own initiative or, failing that, on the previous occasions where he's had the opportunity to do so on a public forum.
“Hey, before we talk about what I’m doing now, let me tell you about this shitty book I wrote twenty years ago and how sorry I am about it now. I know you’ve never heard of it, but that’s not the point.” *pulls on hair shirt*
― grawlix (unperson), Thursday, 2 November 2017 12:08 (seven years ago) link
'hey, i've been doing some personal reflection over the last few years and i'm really ashamed of some of what we did at the exile but i'm gonna wait until a concurrent groundswell of online discussion about my past and a cultural shift towards publicly discussing mens' abuses of power reaches some sort of apex, at which point i'll address it on facebook, a tool which i've had at my disposal all along' *adjusts hair shirt*
― proton, neutron, electron and crouton (bizarro gazzara), Thursday, 2 November 2017 12:17 (seven years ago) link
Yeah, this was a small story for a while, and Matt ignored it for as long as he could. And now people on this thread are angry that it's only coming up due to the Weinstein wave of allegations.
― Frederik B, Thursday, 2 November 2017 12:19 (seven years ago) link
i'd ignore it for as long as i could too, cuz it's ancient motherfucking history. The Beastie Boys apologized for the tone of their early shit, but they didn't do it soon enough, you know?
he pitches his new book in the third sentence of his facebook note
He frames it as achieving growth from being the kind of person you're complaining about, but keep that dial set to Maximum Cynicism.
― ice cream social justice (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 2 November 2017 12:25 (seven years ago) link
'be less cynical', advises ilx's cynic-in-chief
― proton, neutron, electron and crouton (bizarro gazzara), Thursday, 2 November 2017 12:28 (seven years ago) link
I'll just say: 1. He should have written this years ago. 2. I should have prodded him to write it years ago. For my part, I'm sorry. https://t.co/Be0BSig7vg— slackbot (@pareene) November 2, 2017
― Simon H., Thursday, 2 November 2017 12:55 (seven years ago) link
gosh
― proton, neutron, electron and crouton (bizarro gazzara), Thursday, 2 November 2017 12:57 (seven years ago) link
An interesting Twitter thread linked in the replies to that Pareene tweet:
1/ THREAD Recent takedowns of @mtaibbi and @markamesexiled brought back memories of life in 90s Moscow, reading their newspaper eXile. pic.twitter.com/TZsH2aV4ou— That Michael Caputo (@MichaelRCaputo) October 28, 2017
― grawlix (unperson), Thursday, 2 November 2017 13:05 (seven years ago) link
2009 taibbi article also linked in those replies:
The Smoking-Hot Skank. It’s hard not to respect the thinking that leads men to the Tawny Kitaens and Anna Bensons of the world. If you’re just a working-class kid with a hose for an arm and the brains of a Clydesdale and your whole world is about making it to your first free agent deal with your rotator cuff intact, hell, you want a girl whose day job involves crawling on her hands and knees in her panties on the hood of a Jaguar in a Whitesnake video. It fits perfectly with everything you’ve been taught in life: Pound the strike zone with fastballs away, cover your heart during the national anthem, and bang the bar slut with the fake tits and the fleur-de-lis coccyx tattoo (and if you’ve seen her before on Cinemax, marry her). The problem with the Smoking-Hot Skank as a permanent life choice is that she eventually gets bored and starts calling up reporters to share her Important Political Opinions and her thoughts about your general manager’s personnel moves. Whether it’s from that or from his being haggard from all-night, reverse-cowgirl sex, inevitably the player’s career takes a sharp nosedive post-wedding.The MILF Starkweather. A lot of elite athletes were already playing in AAU all-star games when their peers were still breast-feeding, which makes them easy prey for an unscrupulous older mother figure who ultimately talks them into cosigning loans in return for a few psychologically confusing blow jobs and some baby talk. Next thing you know, she’s leading the Cribs crew on a tour of the house, then emptying the joint accounts and storming off on highway crime sprees. It happens more often than you’d think. Just this year there was Amalia Tabata Pereira, the 43-year-old convicted arsonist who married Pirates prized prospect Jose Tabata and got arrested for posing as an immigration official and attempting to steal a baby from a Mexican couple. Then there was Cristal Taylor, the 38-year-old live-in girlfriend of 31-year-old basketball star Nowitzki; turns out she had a stack of warrants over her head as a career con woman and paper hanger when she got pregnant with his Teuton-fetus. And though the dynamic isn’t exactly the same, there were elements of the creepy psychosexual striving for a lost childhood in the chilling A-Rod/Madonna episode, with kabbalah bracelets playing the role of the security blanket.
The MILF Starkweather. A lot of elite athletes were already playing in AAU all-star games when their peers were still breast-feeding, which makes them easy prey for an unscrupulous older mother figure who ultimately talks them into cosigning loans in return for a few psychologically confusing blow jobs and some baby talk. Next thing you know, she’s leading the Cribs crew on a tour of the house, then emptying the joint accounts and storming off on highway crime sprees. It happens more often than you’d think. Just this year there was Amalia Tabata Pereira, the 43-year-old convicted arsonist who married Pirates prized prospect Jose Tabata and got arrested for posing as an immigration official and attempting to steal a baby from a Mexican couple. Then there was Cristal Taylor, the 38-year-old live-in girlfriend of 31-year-old basketball star Nowitzki; turns out she had a stack of warrants over her head as a career con woman and paper hanger when she got pregnant with his Teuton-fetus. And though the dynamic isn’t exactly the same, there were elements of the creepy psychosexual striving for a lost childhood in the chilling A-Rod/Madonna episode, with kabbalah bracelets playing the role of the security blanket.
more here http://web.archive.org/web/20091010030415/http://www.mensjournal.com/taibbi-guide-to-sports-wives
― proton, neutron, electron and crouton (bizarro gazzara), Thursday, 2 November 2017 13:08 (seven years ago) link
locker room talk i guess
― proton, neutron, electron and crouton (bizarro gazzara), Thursday, 2 November 2017 13:09 (seven years ago) link
this guy has always seemed like an asshole to meit is no surprise whatsoever that he wrote/said/did(?) shitty things in the 90s. so many people did. even the smart ones.
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Thursday, 2 November 2017 13:11 (seven years ago) link
it is no surprise whatsoever that he wrote/said/did(?) shitty things in the 90s. so many people did. even the smart ones.
The 90s were a shit decade that is best forgotten.
― grawlix (unperson), Thursday, 2 November 2017 13:15 (seven years ago) link
i wish i could forget! i guess to me it seems disingenuous to suggest that only now people are realizing that their friends/colleagues have been serious assholes when for most of the time i've been alive assholism was rewarded rather than reviled.
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Thursday, 2 November 2017 13:26 (seven years ago) link
the tattoos and hot takes will last forever
― illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Thursday, 2 November 2017 13:27 (seven years ago) link
I guess being a bedroom raver was key to really enjoying the 90s; almost all of my associations with that decade are super positive, particularly once I got out of school.
I have never followed Matt Taibbi's career closely and had no idea eXile existed until this week. I wouldn't have read it had I known about it because I would have classified it the same way I did Vice and rolled my eyes whenever it came up.
― the Hannah Montana of the Korean War (DJP), Thursday, 2 November 2017 13:52 (seven years ago) link
eXile was unavailable in the USA, or am I wrong? Only the book that followed it was.
― ice cream social justice (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 2 November 2017 14:19 (seven years ago) link
sad but no less true: being a man surely helped in the effort to really enjoy the '90s :(
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Thursday, 2 November 2017 14:23 (seven years ago) link
I didn't much like em fwiw, except I had more disposable income and sex (w/ men).
― ice cream social justice (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 2 November 2017 14:24 (seven years ago) link
seem to remember white dudes congratulating themselves on fixing sexism, racism, and the economy while being very misogynist, racist, and dismantling the social safety net and praising investment banking
― mh, Thursday, 2 November 2017 14:27 (seven years ago) link
not a phenomenon restricted solely to the 90s unfortch
― proton, neutron, electron and crouton (bizarro gazzara), Thursday, 2 November 2017 14:29 (seven years ago) link