mordy thank u for that post. ive been thinking about this a ton in my own life lately:
sometimes people in one group may not understand what the people in the other group are seeing because perspectives are complex and we all see things from our own point of view. a nine to me could look like a six to you. and so it's best to be kind by recognizing our own limitations in seeing another perspective”
engendering a kind of fundamental humility, I guess. like what the fuck do i know? someone posted in the masculinity thread something like “it must be nice to feel so sure of things” and it got lost in the thread but it resonated with me.
there are a lot of different kinds of people in the world, and people are complex, difference exists I remind myself all the time and it helps me to be a compassionate person and less concerned with having right or wrong opinions and beliefs
― marcos, Saturday, 15 December 2018 03:32 (five years ago) link
or whether someone I’m interacting with has right or wrong opinions and beliefs
― marcos, Saturday, 15 December 2018 03:33 (five years ago) link
^ def something i need to work on
― the late great, Saturday, 15 December 2018 03:47 (five years ago) link
great thread today
― Your sweetie-pie-coo-coo I love ya (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Saturday, 15 December 2018 06:02 (five years ago) link
I'll add my voice to the chorus of Aimless praise.
That said, as a follow-up to what Mordy said, what strikes us as common sense or an attempt at understanding the topic at hand from a reasonable angle may be construed as covert ideology. It goes without saying that I don't believe that to be the case in this instance (or it's an ideology I agree with), but I'm afraid his efforts ultimately did very little to bridge the communication gap, which is somewhat tragic.
― pomenitul, Saturday, 15 December 2018 09:56 (five years ago) link
someone posted in the masculinity thread something like “it must be nice to feel so sure of things” and it got lost in the thread but it resonated with me.
Yeah, that was an (unsurprisingly) underrated comment. I think it was FernandoHierro.
― pomenitul, Saturday, 15 December 2018 10:02 (five years ago) link
yes it was thank you! I had trouble finding it
― marcos, Saturday, 15 December 2018 12:04 (five years ago) link
I don't think there's a poster on here whose tone doesn't rub me wrong at one time or another, but I'm at the top of that list. The flip side of that is that everybody here who isn't a full-time shithead is capable of warmth, insight and lulz. So just like irl people really.
― I Accept the Word of Santa (Noodle Vague), Saturday, 15 December 2018 12:25 (five years ago) link
well merry sodding xmas to you too
― imago, Saturday, 15 December 2018 12:37 (five years ago) link
;) <3
that was meant to read as "love you guys really" :D
― I Accept the Word of Santa (Noodle Vague), Saturday, 15 December 2018 12:40 (five years ago) link
no no I know!
hope Saturday isn't so Blue - certainly what with the Wolves being pleasant upon the eye there's a boon, likewise I am excited for Charlton's home game. wonder if football's inventors knew what they'd be doing for the culture
― imago, Saturday, 15 December 2018 12:43 (five years ago) link
In a warm pub on a Saturday afternoon with sport on and vile gammony banter all around is one of the great Christmas pleasures
― I Accept the Word of Santa (Noodle Vague), Saturday, 15 December 2018 12:46 (five years ago) link
glimpses of forever etc
― imago, Saturday, 15 December 2018 12:47 (five years ago) link
wish I was in the swilling zone today.
― calzino, Saturday, 15 December 2018 12:49 (five years ago) link
Ditto, stuck @ work w/ stinking cold, booze off-limits for the foreseeable. Bah!
― It's Beginning to Look a Lot Like Christ (Tom D.), Saturday, 15 December 2018 12:51 (five years ago) link
Man City one up, cider chasing a warming rum in ideal Christmas cake booze combo, existential despair deferred til tomorrow, fuck it, what else do I know?
― I Accept the Word of Santa (Noodle Vague), Saturday, 15 December 2018 12:54 (five years ago) link
I’m just back from work and just pre-Xmas shopping, having a black ipa by myself in a warm pub. No sport, jazz on the speakers, and if there are racist banter merchants anywhere I don’t want to know about it. I’m much happier shooting the shit with you idiots thanks
― Pierrot with a thousand farces (wins), Saturday, 15 December 2018 12:54 (five years ago) link
down with that bliss as well as long as there's food
― imago, Saturday, 15 December 2018 12:58 (five years ago) link
Beer is food
― Pierrot with a thousand farces (wins), Saturday, 15 December 2018 13:02 (five years ago) link
Very well said, NV. One can gauge my affection for ILX/ILXors by my assiduous avoidance of most other gatherings of two or more people.
― Home Despot (Old Lunch), Saturday, 15 December 2018 13:02 (five years ago) link
― marcos
i'm sad about (and probably partly responsible for) what happened to the most recent masculinity thread revive but silby's posts to that thread were super inspiring and have helped me dealing with some of the stuff i'm going through that i don't necessarily know how to talk about
― errang (rushomancy), Saturday, 15 December 2018 15:45 (five years ago) link
Yes, I appreciated silby and IO's posts from Thursday. I'm not very articulate on this stuff but a lot of that resonated.
― jmm, Saturday, 15 December 2018 15:49 (five years ago) link
shucks!
― I have measured out my life in coffee shop loyalty cards (silby), Saturday, 15 December 2018 15:51 (five years ago) link
it's an incredible board. i've never been more impressed with it than this week.
sometimes i think the people here are the greatest people on earth.
― FernandoHierro, Saturday, 15 December 2018 15:51 (five years ago) link
then you remember whom Donald Trump appointed to his cabinet.
― Your sweetie-pie-coo-coo I love ya (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Saturday, 15 December 2018 15:53 (five years ago) link
(xp) Now now, let's not get carried away.
― It's Beginning to Look a Lot Like Christ (Tom D.), Saturday, 15 December 2018 15:55 (five years ago) link
Yeah that’s way too much, Fernando
― Trϵϵship, Saturday, 15 December 2018 15:56 (five years ago) link
If you meant that as a joke, apologies
― Trϵϵship, Saturday, 15 December 2018 15:57 (five years ago) link
Kind of sarcastic when you think about it... in fact withdraw that remark this instant!
http://farm7.static.flickr.com/6177/6235865234_d16cedc49c.jpg
― It's Beginning to Look a Lot Like Christ (Tom D.), Saturday, 15 December 2018 16:05 (five years ago) link
:D
― imago, Saturday, 15 December 2018 16:05 (five years ago) link
bc i dont belong in the no boys thread, but yerac is OTM x100000000000
― 21st savagery fox (m bison), Saturday, 15 December 2018 16:21 (five years ago) link
Fernando otm valuable new poster imo
― gabbnebulous (darraghmac), Saturday, 15 December 2018 16:23 (five years ago) link
Dunno the context cause you couldn’t pay me to click on the masculinity thread but hopefully ilxor.com can weather the scandal of ilxors saying something nice about another ilxor in the say something nice about another ilxor thread on ilxor.com
― Pierrot with a thousand farces (wins), Saturday, 15 December 2018 16:43 (five years ago) link
hes not a new poster.....
― . (Michael B), Saturday, 15 December 2018 17:00 (five years ago) link
― 21st savagery fox (m bison), Saturday, December 15, 2018 9:21 AM (thirty-five minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
yerac is right about most things except for that one food she hates that I like
― gbx, Saturday, 15 December 2018 17:00 (five years ago) link
At least some anthropologists hold that in prehistory, beer was liquid bread, and bread was solid beer,no wins has a point.
― Anne Frankenstein (Ye Mad Puffin), Saturday, 15 December 2018 17:30 (five years ago) link
Imagine if people stayed up all night getting shitfaced at a bakery
― Evan, Saturday, 15 December 2018 17:49 (five years ago) link
They do. Carbs are the number 1 addiction after social media.
― Trϵϵship, Saturday, 15 December 2018 17:50 (five years ago) link
I’m sick of these pretentious hipsters and their beards and their sourdough rolls. Whatever happened to just watching the game and scarfing down a few Wonder loafs with your pals?
― Evan, Saturday, 15 December 2018 17:58 (five years ago) link
jumping on the aimless appreciation train. i'll just re-post what darraghmac said and point arrows at it, because he sums it up well:
aimless is a key reference point for decency and fairness imo^^
― Karl Malone, Saturday, 15 December 2018 18:00 (five years ago) link
Yes, agreed. He’s also had really insightful things to say regarding some of the things I’ve posted about dealing with over the last few years. Am an aimless fan.
― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Saturday, 15 December 2018 18:20 (five years ago) link
can't believe I've scrolled up 50 posts and not seen any recognition for the brilliance of wins, the inspiring sanity of La Lechera, or the overall radness of ENBB
― sarahell, Saturday, 15 December 2018 19:53 (five years ago) link
three of my favorites
― Your sweetie-pie-coo-coo I love ya (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Saturday, 15 December 2018 19:54 (five years ago) link
Love sarahell, detest anyone who capitalises the w in my screen name, everyone else is fine
― Pierrot with a thousand farces (wins), Saturday, 15 December 2018 20:22 (five years ago) link
Wins OTM </predictable>
― StanM, Saturday, 15 December 2018 20:25 (five years ago) link
😡
― Pierrot with a thousand farces (wins), Saturday, 15 December 2018 20:36 (five years ago) link
I said screen name just now when I meant display name btw, something that lowkey annoys me when ilx gets it wrong (such as the thread “finest of display names only”—display names cannot be changed, it is screen names that I am unfailingly excellent at)
― Pierrot with a thousand farces (wins), Saturday, 15 December 2018 20:41 (five years ago) link
ilx used to have changeable display names
― sarahell, Saturday, 15 December 2018 20:43 (five years ago) link
That may be the case but I feel the vocabulary should have shifted to reflect where my unfailing excellence lies
― Pierrot with a thousand farces (wins), Saturday, 15 December 2018 20:47 (five years ago) link