Old time actors and directors that you were surprised to find out were married to each other once upon a time

Late last night, on The Alfred Hitchcock Hour, I saw Felicia Farr as a lonely, somewhat careless/princessy, playin', wanderin' around housewife and stepmother, spied on and gaslighted by weirdo new kid in the neighborhood Bruce Dern--as written, directed and played, a fairly nuanced female character, struggling with personal contradictions and male gazes (incl. that husband, somewhat manipulated by Dern), for this pulp genre, show and especially era.

Recalled seeing her in some other shows, ones I wish we still got on these digital antenna channels, like Naked City and It Takes A Thief. Movies incl. original 3:10 to Yuma and The Venetian Affair.

Also (husbands appear right after this):
Farr's later films include the bawdy Billy Wilder farce Kiss Me, Stupid (1964) with Dean Martin and Ray Walston later star of My Favorite Martian as her husband, a role originally intended for Jack Lemmon; Walter Matthau's daughter-in-law in Kotch (1971, Lemmon's only film as director); the Don Siegel bank-heist caper Charley Varrick (1973) with Matthau; and more than 30 TV appearances on The Alfred Hitchcock Hour, Bonanza, Ben Casey, Burke's Law, and many others.

Personal life
On September 2, 1949, Dines married TV actor Lee Farr,[9] a marriage which produced a daughter, Denise Farr, who later became the wife of actor Don Gordon. Farr's second husband was actor Jack Lemmon; they married in 1962 while Lemmon was filming the comedy Irma La Douce in Paris. They remained married until his death in 2001.[1]

During her marriage to Jack Lemmon, Farr gave birth to a daughter, Courtney, in 1966.[1] She is also the stepmother of Lemmon's son, actor and author Chris Lemmon, from his first marriage.
Yep, "is": she's still with us, age 89, according to wiki.

That explains a lot. Remember watching Kiss Me, Stupid with a friend who commented that he thought Ray Walston was playing what should have been the Jack Lemmon role. We had no idea that it had been intended for Lemmon but knew of his history with Wilder and thought it appropriate when we learned that Felicia Farr was his wife.

Forgot that Arlene Dahl (RIP) had been married to Fernardo Lamas and was Lorenzo Lamas's mother.

Joan Crawford and Douglas Fairbanks Jr.

Seems like this stuff is hard to keep track of, as I see Josefa first brought up Liza and Desi as well as James MacArthur and Melody Patterson earlier this year and I had no recollection.

Geraldine Chaplin was the partner of director Carlos Saura for 12 years until 1979, starring in his films https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ana_and_the_Wolves (1973),https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cr%C3%ADa_Cuervos (1976),https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elisa,_vida_m%C3%ADa (1977), and https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mama_Turns_100 (1979).
...They have a son, Shane Saura Chaplin.

Her second long-term relationship has been with Chilean cinematographer Patricio Castilla, whom she married in 2006, and with whom she has a daughter, Oona, an actress in British and Spanish films.

In 1978, the Chaplin family were the victims of a failed extortion plot by kidnappers who had stolen the body of Charlie Chaplin. Geraldine Chaplin negotiated with the kidnappers, who had also threatened her infant son.[25]

Robert Hays (Airplane!) and Cherie Currie (The Runaways)

Richard Mulligan and Joan Hackett.

Not married,and not old time,exactly..

But I was surprised that Eric Clapton and Davina McCall were a longish term thing,back before Davina was 'famous'...

Lovely couple.

Always knew Ida Lupino was awesome, and even got to direct a bunch of movies pretty early on for a gurl, but didn't know she did all this!
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ida_Lupino
Marriage-wise: first was Louis Hayward, "a protege of Noel Coward," later in movies I never hoid of; in 1938,"his profile was raised when he married Ida Lupino," who was 20 and had already been "the British Jean Harlow," and was about to have her breakthrough legit role, in The Light That Failed(1939)...a role she acquired after running into the director's office unannounced, demanding an audition.[12] After this breakthrough performance as a spiteful cockney model who torments Ronald Colman, she began to be taken seriously as a dramatic actress. As a result, her parts improved during the 1940s, and she jokingly referred to herself as "the poor man's Bette Davis", taking the roles that Davis refused.[13][14]Eventually, as a director, described herself as "the poor man's Don Siegel."
To that end, and having divorced Louis, she married and teamed with producer and writer Collier Young, formed an independent company, The Filmakers Inc. [sic], to "produce, direct, and write low-budget, issue-oriented films".[4][19][20]
Of these, The Bigamist(1953), made after their divorce "mined" Young's two-timing Lupino x Joan Fontaine:
The Bigamist is a 1953 American drama film noir directed by Ida Lupino starring Joan Fontaine, Ida Lupino, Edmund Gwenn and Edmond O'Brien. Producer/Screenwriter Collier Young was married to Fontaine at the time and had previously been married to Lupino. The Bigamist has been cited as the first American feature film in which the female star of a film directed herself.[1]

The film is in the public domain.
Then she married ol' Howard Duff (wiki claims this saved him from the blacklist), much later in Altman's A Wedding and lots of other stuff, esp. cop show leading roles, but mainly of interest to me, if at all, because co-starred w Lupino in four films worth mentioning: (Michael Gordon's) Woman in Hiding(1950), Don Siegel's Private Hell 36 (1954); Lewis Seiler's Women's Prison (1955), and Fritz Lang's While the City Sleeps (1956)/
Also, Mr. Adams and Eve is an American situation comedy television series about a married couple who are both movie stars. It stars Howard Duff and Ida Lupino and aired on CBS from January 4, 1957, to July 8, 1958.[1][2][3]The plots of many episodes of Mr. Adams and Eve were based on actual events Lupino and Duff had experienced during their acting careers, albeit exaggerated for comic effect.[2][/I} She directed some eps, and the characters were "created by"---Collier Young, also Exec Producer. [i]Duff and Lupino also co-starred as themselves in 1959 in one of the 13 one-hour installments of The Lucy–Desi Comedy Hour and an episode of The Dinah Shore Chevy Show in 1960. Divorced in '83, by far her longest hitch.

She was from a very interesting family too.

What’s with the sic up there?

Oh, one ‘m’

The Bigamist is one of my favourite films, an interesting exploration of the nuclear family and gender roles, even without the real-life backdrop

Also a triumphant turn in Food of the Gods. (I kid, of course. We really need a thread for "bedrock Hollywood actors slumming in crap b-movies at the tail end of their careers".)

EXPLAIN THE SWARM THEN

Well, there were these bees...

Michael Caine needed a new pool.

And he wasn't going to let a little bit of bee excrement stand in the way.

The Swarm apparently received an Oscar nomination for costume design?

I guess normal clothes but with thousands of fake bees stitched in?

Oh wait isn’t olivia de haviland in the swarm too

Unless it's Olivia Hussey.

https://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2011/03/michael-caine-on-honesty/71900/

Given how many great films you've made, does it disappoint you when people want to talk about the ones that didn't do so well?
No, what annoys me is when, as happened today, you're doing a day's worth of interviews and the very first question you're asked if, "Why did you make Jaws: The Revenge?" When things like that happen, the interview becomes very short indeed.

Just out of interest, how did you reply?
I just said what I've always said - I made it because they paid me a lot of money! It's like when people ask me why I made The Swarm - I made The Swarm because my mother needed a house to live in. Then I made Jaws 4 because she was lonely and I needed to buy her a bigger house which she could live in with all of her friends. It's that simple.

Or Olivia's sister, the former Mrs. Collier Young.

Gloria Swanson was in The Killler Bees (1974 TV movie). You can get a pretty good list going with bees alone.

Ben Johnson in The Savage Bees (1976, TV)

He was also in The Swarm!

John Carradine in The Bees (1978, Mexico)

The Beeatles in Let It Bee

new thread proposal: "bedrock Hollywood stars slumming in crap bee-movies at the tail end of their careers."

Okay, sure, go ahead, please.

I have a pretty strong memory of the run-in between Desi and Lucy and Ida and Howard, especially since I had no idea who Howard was.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RseZL4_5kvg

Mel Tormé & Janette Scott... the surprising part of that union being that Thora Hird was therefore Mel Tormé's mother-in-law!

Laura Antonelli and Jean-Paul Belmondo were an item for about a decade, it seems.

Also not married but Pam Grier and Freddie Prinze.

Now that gets more interesting... Freddie Prinze was actually briefly engaged to Kitty Bruce, who is Lenny Bruce's daughter. Kitty Bruce was mainly a singer but acted in a couple of films, including the Jack Hill-directed Switchblade Sisters (1975). The year before he directed that film Jack Hill directed Foxy Brown starring Pam Grier.

I had to blink and check if it was April Fool’s Day when I saw that Liza Minnelli was once married to Jack Haley Jr. I guess John Lahr was unavailable.

Omg Nicholas Ray, what an epic life or three---this may look like a lot, but so much more:
...As 1932 ended, Ray left college, and, now calling himself Nicholas Ray, sought new opportunities, including, with the help of Thornton Wilder, meeting Frank Lloyd Wright, with the hope of joining Wright's Fellowship at Taliesin. Lacking the tuition fee, in 1933 Ray ventured to New York City, where, staying in Greenwich Village, he had his first encounters with the city's bohemia.[100] There, shortly before his stint at Taliesin, Ray met young writer Jean Evans (born Jean Abrahams, later Abrams), and they started a relationship.[101][102] After he returned east, they lived together, and married in 1936. When Ray took a position at the WPA in Washington, by January 1937 they had moved to Arlington, Virginia.[103] They had one son, Anthony Nicholas (born November 24, 1937), known as Tony, and named for Ray's friend and fellow Federal Theatre director Anthony Mann.[104] Washington government life wore on both Ray and Evans, and Ray's drinking and unfaithfulness strained their marriage. Evans moved back to New York in 1940, having found a job at PM, the new leftist newspaper. Ray returned to New York as well, in May of that year, but soon the couple separated. A few months later he again attempted to reconcile, while also living at Almanac House, a Greenwich Village loft occupied by Pete Seeger, Lee Hays, and Millard Lampell, core members of the Almanac Singers. He committed himself for a time to psychoanalysis, but in time fell back into old habits. Evans filed for divorce in December 1941, and the process was finalized the next summer.[105][106]

...Relocating to Los Angeles to work with Elia Kazan, Ray first lived in a flat at the Villa Primavera,[108] on the corner of Harper and Fountain, that became the model for the apartment building in In A Lonely Place, before moving into a house in Santa Monica. While at Fox, he socialized with fellow transplanted east coasters and theatre folk at Gene Kelly and Betsy Blair's house, among them Judith Tuvim, soon to be known as Judy Holliday, whom he had briefly, unsuccessfully pursued in New York, after his marriage ended. On one occasion, fueled by alcohol, they waded into Santa Monica Bay, an excursion that turned into a halfhearted double suicide attempt, before they changed their minds and struggled back to dry land.[109]

While directing A Woman's Secret, he became involved with the film's co-star, Gloria Grahame, later remembering, "I was infatuated with her but I didn't like her very much."[110] Nonetheless, they married in Las Vegas on June 1, 1948, just five hours after her divorce from her first husband was granted, and five months before the birth of their son, Timothy, on November 12. (RKO announced that he was born "almost four months before the date he was expected.")[111] Tensions in their marriage were known early on, and by autumn 1949, while shooting In A Lonely Place, they had separated for the first time, keeping the split a secret from studio executives.[112][113] At the end of the year, they announced that they planned to travel to Wisconsin, to spend the holidays with Ray's family there, but he went alone, reuniting with his mother and three sisters, and then on to New York and Boston, to prepare his next project, On Dangerous Ground, and to see his ex-wife and firstborn.[114][115] In 1950, as that project was ending and as In A Lonely Place was opening, Ray and Grahame were reported to have reconciled, living in Malibu, though their marriage remained dysfunctional.[116] Ray stated that he had discovered Grahame in bed with his son, Tony, who was 13 years old at the time*.[49][117][118] Although they were irreparably estranged, Ray and Grahame were nominally connected again, when he was called on to help rescue Macao (1952), a project Josef von Sternberg was directing for RKO. Ray directed additional scenes, but evidently none in which she was featured.[119] Grahame filed for divorce, and she testified in court that Ray had struck her twice, once at a party and once in private, at home, before the divorce was granted, on August 15, 1952.[120] Gloria Grahame and Tony Ray married in 1960 and divorced in 1974. Tony Ray died June 29, 2018, age 80.[121]

The HUAC investigations of Hollywood and the entertainment industry, which largely coincided with Ray's marriage to and divorce from Gloria Grahame, further weighed on him...Although he had been wary of therapy, by court order in the divorce, he started seeing psychoanalyst Carel Van der Heide. Even so, he continued womanizing (columnist Dorothy Kilgallen called him "a well-known movie colony heartbreaker"[124]) and drinking, both prodigiously. He had romances with both Shelley Winters and Marilyn Monroe, who were roommates at the time, as well as Joan Crawford—with whom he was planning a suspense film, Lisbon, in 1952, and who later starred in Johnny Guitar—and Zsa Zsa Gabor.
...Johnny Guitar was preposterous to Ray, and a trial for him to work with Joan Crawford, but it also placed reasonably well on Variety's list of "1954 Boxoffice Champs," increasing his professional capital.[127] By now, he had moved into Bungalow 2 at the Chateau Marmont, his headquarters while shooting Rebel Without A Cause, a project of particular importance to him, about troubled young people. That was where he pitched his need to make such a film to Lew Wasserman, prompting his agent to send him to Warner Bros. The hotel residence also became Ray's headquarters and rehearsal space, and it was where James Dean arrived, aiming to meet the director. Dean started to attend Ray's "Sunday afternoons," his regular gatherings of friends at the bungalow, where scenes of the film to come were starting to take shape.[128] Natalie Wood remembered Ray's relationship with Dean as "fatherly," and attributed the same quality to Sal Mineo's and her own connection to their director, even though the sixteen year-old also was sexually attracted to him, and his bungalow became the site of their assignations, while she was also involved with supporting player Dennis Hopper. Ray himself was also busy with roommates Monroe and Winters, Geneviève Aumont (then the professional name of Michèle Montau), and even Lew Wasserman's wife, Edie, while also interested in Jayne Mansfield, whom he tested for the role Wood won in Rebel.[129]

Ray and Wood continued their affair for several months after production wrapped, and while he was shooting his next project, Hot Blood (1956), a pregnancy scare, which turned out to be false, prompted her to break off the romance.

Returning to Europe, in London, Ray met Gavin Lambert, with whom he had corresponded since Lambert's pioneering positive review of They Live By Night.[133] Talking about In A Lonely Place, Lambert remembered Ray's comments about Dix Steele, Bogart's character, at the film's end: "Will he become a hopeless drunk, or kill himself, or seek psychiatric help? Those have always been my personal options, by the way."[134] After a night of vodka and conversation, after 3:30 am, Ray and Lambert, who was gay, had sex, and Ray cautioned "that he wasn't really homosexual, not really even bisexual," advising that he had slept with many women, "but only two or three men."[135] The next day, Ray urged Lambert to accompany him to Hollywood to work on what became Bigger Than Life, and Lambert remained a sometimes-sexual partner, while Ray continued to pursue women. According to Lambert, Ray "behaved like a possessive lover, expecting me to be always here on call...," while Ray continued to dwell on the loss of James Dean.[136]

igger Than Life tells the story of a man who grows reliant on his abuse of medication, and consequently more and more broken. The connections to Ray, who had grown increasingly dependent on both alcohol and drugs, were not lost, even on Ray. In 1976, Ray confessed to himself, in a private journal entry, that he had lived in a "continuous blackout between 1957 or earlier until now,"[137] and his wife Susan, on seeing the film, commented to her husband, "This is your story before you lived it."[138] Ray's drug use was abetted, while he was shooting Bitter Victory, by his new girlfriend, a heroin addict named Manon, and his gambling losses led him to a pitiable state that broke his friendship with Gavin Lambert.[139]

Seventeen year-old Betty Utey first crossed paths with Nick Ray in 1951, at RKO, when he was assigned to direct some additional scenes for Androcles and the Lion (1952), including one with a troupe of bikini-clad dancers. He described it as the "steam room of the vestal virgins."[140] Some weeks after shooting the scene, in which he featured her, he asked her out to the ballet and dinner, and then took her to the house he was renting, having split with Gloria Grahame. At the end of their evening, like In A Lonely Place, he called a cab and sent her home. She subsequently did not hear from him for almost three years, when he called her to come to his Chateau Marmont bungalow for an assignation. He then disappeared again, until 1956, when he called again.[141] In 1958, she won a place as one of the chorines in Party Girl, and after shooting ended they eloped to Maine, where Ray hoped to start his third marriage by drying out. En route, he collapsed at Boston's Logan Airport, suffering from the DTs. He recovered sufficiently to travel on to Kennebunkport, where the couple spent several weeks, before marrying on October 13, 1958.[142] They had two daughters, both born in Rome: Julie Christina, on January 10, 1960, and Nicca, October 1, 1961.[143][144] Ray's mother Lena had died in March 1959.[145]
That's enough, gotta go take nap---read so much more here:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nicholas_Ray
See also:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gloria_Grahame
*Grahame's lover Peter Turner, who wrote Film Stars Don't Die In Liverpool about her, disputes the claim that Tony Ray was only 13 when they first hooked up.

It's remarkable how many high profile men Pam Grier almost married. To this day she's never been married at all.

Dickey Betts married Cher's assistant, Paulette (can't find her last name, but think it was Coelho?

No relation to Paulo Coelho, one presumes

Claude Chabrol and Stéphane Audran, who he directed in Les Biches (which is great)(& many other films) where she had sex scenes with her ex, Jean-Louis Trintingant.

*whom

It's remarkable how many high profile men Pam Grier almost married. To this day she's never been married at all.

Didn't know she and Rosey Grier were cousins until a minute ago.

Oh wait, that is not true, I don't think. More internet amping of RONG.

Her story about her and Richard Pryor is something too (see Wikipedia).

After I read her autobiography, Foxy, I very much wanted to start a "10 Most WTF Moments in Pam Grier's Foxy" poll, but chickened out. I mean, with some of her stories, I'm not sure how factually I'm supposed to take them. They sound so fanciful, often relying on strange coincidences and serendipities and odd assumptions.

Yeah, I left the Richard Pryor story for you to mention. Plus it's Richard Pryor so somewhat expected, I think. I had my eye on Foxy recently. Do you recommend?

Sure, Foxy is fun to read whether or not there is an unreliable narrator issue clouding the narrative

So you are saying maybe the KAJ story is not quite true?

Yes. I'd like to hear his version of the story, which I have a hunch would be different.