Real love -- I'm, like, searchin' for that Queer Love -- LGBTQIA+ Love // A Thread for the Real Ones

so I have had my own idea for YEARS that I have told several ppl abt and have gotten a good response to and I think I am going to finally finally try to pull it off next year, I think I have maybe even talked abt it on here somewhere, but the song is this v inexplicable house remix of "Rubberband Girl" and the performance is a complete ripoff of UNZIPPED (1995) where it will be a fashion show and there will be all sorts of zany chaos and hijinks backstage but w like perfect immaculate runway walks the second they come out from behind the curtain, the performance has nothing to do w the music but maybe I'll get some LIVESTRONG bracelets made and throw them into the crowd idk

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2KII-OXV86c

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bFBc4rXKkTU

AERIAL is honestly the best Kate Bush album

also it is a bit $$$ (20 of them to be exact) but they are selling tickets for the livestream tomorrow night at 8:30! https://wl.seetickets.us/event/Night-of1000Kates/470113?afflky=UndergroundArts

stevie i still have that KB shirt you sent me! it's a lil snug on me atm but whenever i wear it ppl always ask about it

omg mine too is a lil snug, I forget which one I sent you but the one I have has her face on it and my belly makes it fold in half so that it makes her look like that one picture of Aphex Twin

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/d/da/Aphex_Twin_-_Syro_main_press_photo.jpg

you sent me the glow in the dark one (which amazingly still works after probably dozens of laundry cycles)

I just watched unzipped recently and it was so good. also did you know there's a sister documentary called catwalk that basically follows Christy Turlington all over the world?
pretty awful what's going on with Linda Evangelista. she just released the first body pics of her condition due to coolsculpting. unimaginable.

I was sad to miss Kates. Heard my friend Anna blew it outta the park, and saw the wacky inflatable Cathy and Heathcliff blow-up piece on film. Looked like a really fun time, but we had planned a dinner months ago with our gay friends, one of whom is going through a health scare...so it seemed more important to hang out with them.

I finished "Detransition, Baby," yesterday, and while I thought it ended much too quickly, I thought it had some really lovely moments.

hope your friend is hanging in there <3

xp y0ung?? she fuckin KILLED it (as per usual). I hope they post a recording of the livestream.

I've been listening to a lot of RuTH lately 🌄🌄🌄

yes Stevie, that Ann4

o boy what a life we lead really

so I'm not sure when the next time I'll "meet" someone is, let's call it, due to extenuating circumstances

do i care?

will i ever go out to a bar and pick someone up again? i had occasional game. all of a sudden I'd love to meet someone younger than me. i usually don't gravitate to that realm. i wonder what that's about

you will absolutely go out to a bar and pick someone up again, it is so inevitable

Date tonight. At a (rooftop) bar. I shoulda asked if he's jabbed.

first date? how did you meet? brown hair, big heart, bat eyelashes?

you know Stevie it's just at first it was pandemia, and then health stuff that's going to take another 6 months to settle. just didn't realize I'd be singing the same tune for the goddamn 3-year dark ages. but whatever i'm going to get so many beauty treatments when this is all through I plan on looking like Princess Jasmine meets Bella Hadid. mark my words.

also i quit smoking forever and it's truly something else. going on 6 months.

my new issue of BUTT just arrived!!!!!!!!!

omg i already read some of the poems
how is it at large?

is it large?

C'mon Simone, let's talk about your big "but."

I haven't read it yet bcz I got it at work and then *brag alert* went straight to my fuck buddy's house for a cute date and only just got home a few hours ago!!!

butts all around

butts rule everything around me

OK SO
I'm not a butt man and i keep feeling more and more alone
like American men are just obsessed with them
i feel like there's something wrong with me

Stevo you're killin it these days

don't care about the outside, it's what's inside that counts imo

like the way it feels?

yeah! i mean not to get too tmi or too cliche i guess but i just think anuses are this incredible part of us lol and i really like experiencing them.

So! My Saturday night date sold me out. I suspected trouble when I had to text him 15 mins before meeting: he was running late thanks to a "minor emergency" at his parents', whatever that means (what's a "minor" emergency?). Luckily a friend kept me company at the bar.

An hour later, date texts: "On my way, send location address plz?" That's the last I heard of him. For a while I thought he died -- until I saw a an Instagram post Sunday morning.

He's 24, a former student who emailed me four years after class to ask about getting a beer or coffee. On determining he was queer he gushed: he praised my self-assurance, brains, looks, etc. We might've met that night had I not plans already. It's worth noting I barely remember this kid in summer 2018.

I wonder if simply not showing up is a phenomenon of the young?

Anusii are a cliche?

that sucks. definitely hit next. it's been a phenomenon of the young and old as long as i've been dating tbh. xp

Yeah, I wanted to avoid generational generalization, but a few viejos noted The Vanishing has been more prevalent in the last four years.

I've ghosted more than my share, I should note.

I have never done this, to my knowledge?

me eiths it's dumb
I'm too polite though

wassup homieslice

good morning!

Mornin' sunshine!
What's on the platter?

I'm vegetarian tonight.

sexually or culinarily?

Lady Bracknell : Well, both, if necessary, I presume!

So, I’m in one of the only two gay bars in Marbella (southern coast of Spain) right now, and the thing here is that high heeled shoes are passed around, everyone tries them on, and then they take their turn swishing down what passes for a catwalk. Pleased to report that my boy got the loudest applause of the night. We make our own entertainment.

The bar is filling up because at 4am they close the doors, bring out the ashtrays, and everyone can smoke indoors.

We will be back tomorrow for drag queen bingo.

omgggggg jealous

Oh I forgot to mention the seventy something naked woman who did her catwalk turn clutching a large stuffed teddy bear.

stop

jealz to the max

Just ended a fabulous evening with j0rdan.

yesss. what did y'all do?

we went to a sports bar so i could watch basketball while we talked about madonna

...and Mariah Carey. And my terrible non-date last week.

happy pride! june's really bustin' out all over, huh??

got my usual slate of events lined up for the weekend - dyke day/meeting friends at the aids life/cycle finish line on saturday, big gay parking lot party on sunday. hopefully i won't get as blitzed at the latter as i did last time oof

tabes: let us know how yr date goes! map: gotta watch out for those YATs, nothing but trouble imo lol

so, that guy i was pining over itt a few months ago? we made out last weekend and now i can't stop thinking about him :/

oh man, plot twist! at least he isn't a yat, right?

i’d say he’s A-ish, Y-er than me but not by much, def not a T ;)

it was actually my second time seeing him since i wrote those posts. we met for real at a concert a few weeks ago but we didn’t get much chance to really talk. then he decided to come up last weekend to hang out with our mutual friend and me at a daytime dance party. at one point our friend left us to check out one of the DJs he wanted to see, and that’s when we kissed. it was brief as these things go but god, it felt electric. sorry i am really a corny romantic at heart lol

awwww. so am i dear.

happy pride everyone!!! i wish i were making out with hot gay people but at least im talking to hot gay people a lot and that rules. also my ex just told me im the hottest coolest girl alive

You are.

Co-sign

date with woman went well! we drank beers and talked for a few hours and then i drove her home and we hung out with her primary and their kid for a while. it’s definitely sexual— we kissed!— but also seems to be about extending family and friendship bonds. (luckily i love her kid and primary).

life is weird!

after, i went home and T and i cuddled and watched Clueless for one of my library school assignments

happy solstice queers! how are we feeling this summer?

Me: bad, overworked, stressed out! I have a hard time with work management and sometimes I find myself juggling six different projects at the same time. I’ve been increasing my evening weed toots from “one” to “two” which has helped, to a degree

Moving prep is going well, though, found a delightful place in Vancouver— reasonable rent, great neighbourhood. Signed the lease a couple days ago

love "weed toots"! congrats on the new place.

I’m a hilarious lightweight when it comes to Le Weed, one puff and I’m shining, two puffs and I’m goofy and reeling

First line of your memoir

other than the whole hospital and major surgery thing, i am doing fine!

though obviously fitness and sexy plans for the next few weeks are… out of the question

xp lately for me it's been one gummy and i'm crying. haha that was just yesterday during a breakup grief wave - generally feeling good lately, high or no. it's cancer season and this crab needs to swim, stay inside his shell, and pinch things, not complementary activities.

xp whoa did you share about that here and i missed it? glad you're fine but that sounds rough.

I’m on a plane with my kids, about to start the summer

I'm at Key West at a straight bro's bachelor party, bro-ing down by day, whoring at night.

mmm that sounds lovely

xp so does that!

i'm on a couch with my cat

it's pretty good honestly

i’m on vacation in sicily with my husband, been here for a week and leaving tuesday. many wonderful sights and meals so far but the most special part of this trip was meeting some of my italian relatives in one of the cities we were visiting (my grandmother’s cousins and one of their daughters, along with the daughter’s husband and his cousin). they bought us some amazing pastries and took us out to dinner, then they took us to see the house where my great-grandfather lived as a child, which blew my mind. they sweetly tolerated my terrible italian and were overall totally lovely and hospitable people.

we also marched in palermo’s pride parade today! haven’t done that kind of thing in a while. no corporate sponsors, many palestine and trans flags, lots of cuties, A+ would do it again

oh my god that's so cool dr! so happy for you.

j gets to go to italy in a few weeks! a good friend's son is enrolling at the university of padua (which can only be done in-person apparently), and she asked if j. would escort him back here. so he's staying with her parents in padua for 10 days with plans to visit venice, verona, lake garda and the dolomites.

j's nephew k. has moved in with the mormon cousins in suburbia 15 miles away. he is one of the non-mormon ones and we get along swimmingly. so he's going to be hanging out with us most thursday nights :). a sweet kid in need of some company. i've realized that my best chance for unclehood with family that won't make me want to kill myself is probably j.'s nephews and nieces. feel like i've been having the male version of baby fever lately.

i'm planning a little solo trip to great basin national park while j. is gone. beautiful place, been a while since i've been there. i'm hoping to have a friend tag along but we'll see.

map, i did on 77, but basically:

the surgery i had for cancer in 2019 involved re-routing my intestines, and any abdominal surgery like this tends to produce scar tissue and adhesions in the intestines, leading to blockages. basically, i got a terrible blockage that couldn’t be resolved using less invasive measures, so they opened me up, rearranged my guts (lol), then stapled my abdomen back together. eleven days in hospital, 23 staples down the center of my body, all so i can shit without tremendous pain.

i mean people die from blockages, so don’t get me wrong: i am grateful and happy. but the summer is a bit of a wash now.

on the plus side i am reading like a maniac and watching a lot of movies.

jesus, i'm sorry. i hope that's the last time it happens. bummer in the summer. glad you have books and movies to keep you moving.

get well soon, table!

thanks yall!

happy solstice queers! how are we feeling this summer?

― five six seven, eight nine ten, begin (map), Saturday, June 21, 2025 3:58 PM (yesterday) bookmarkflaglink

i’m in love with my ex! and she’s in love with me!!!! messiest birthday month i can remember

Starting a research job in July, raising a puppy.

Happy messy birthday, ivy!

happy messy birthday ivy! hope the job is one you are interested in, crypto?

Oh, totally. My amazing friend/MA mentor, who studies disability in Children's Lit, was basically determined to get me to work with her, and since the post-doc business didn't work out, she found another way (albeit at part-time wages) to make that happen.

Hope you're feeling better, btw.

thanks! yeah, just posted a snarky comment about ‘Simon vs…’ to the forums of the YA lit class I am taking. so, back in form, at least intellectually lol

big fan of furikake here iykwim

i remember being baffled and amazed by older gays who had a double entendre ready go to for just about any situation and now i am one praise jesus

i missed this news of your hospitalization table, that suxx sorry to hear :( hope you are getting to read lots of queer ya novels meanwhile
& happy birthday month ivy!

i def wholeheartedly endorse stretching out birthday celebrations as long as you can. mine is in late january and i once threw myself a party in the middle of march ngl :)

I don’t know where else to post about this but here goes:

https://allisonbailey.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Bailey-v.-Linnaeus-Veterinary-Ltd-judgment-04.07.25.pdf

A criminal barrister TERF in England sued her vet for discriminatory refusal of services, claiming that the vet refused her services for being an TERF, and it seems she won.

If you have 20 minutes to read the judgment, I suggest you do— it is absolutely the most unexpectedly comedic thing I’ve ever read. 44 pages of complete batshittery

There is literally a part where the veterinary supervisor sends the plaintiff an email saying "you've been rude and aggressive to our staff and we won't be servicing you anymore"

and the plaintiff looks up what the supervisor looks like

And the plaintiff then creates a fantasy where this supervisor once passed her in the street wearing a Silence = Death shirt and making rude gestures

The supervisor: “that never happened and I don’t own that shirt”