Real love -- I'm, like, searchin' for that Queer Love -- LGBTQIA+ Love // A Thread for the Real Ones

hope your friend is hanging in there <3

xp y0ung?? she fuckin KILLED it (as per usual). I hope they post a recording of the livestream.

I've been listening to a lot of RuTH lately 🌄🌄🌄

yes Stevie, that Ann4

o boy what a life we lead really

so I'm not sure when the next time I'll "meet" someone is, let's call it, due to extenuating circumstances

do i care?

will i ever go out to a bar and pick someone up again? i had occasional game. all of a sudden I'd love to meet someone younger than me. i usually don't gravitate to that realm. i wonder what that's about

you will absolutely go out to a bar and pick someone up again, it is so inevitable

Date tonight. At a (rooftop) bar. I shoulda asked if he's jabbed.

first date? how did you meet? brown hair, big heart, bat eyelashes?

you know Stevie it's just at first it was pandemia, and then health stuff that's going to take another 6 months to settle. just didn't realize I'd be singing the same tune for the goddamn 3-year dark ages. but whatever i'm going to get so many beauty treatments when this is all through I plan on looking like Princess Jasmine meets Bella Hadid. mark my words.

also i quit smoking forever and it's truly something else. going on 6 months.

my new issue of BUTT just arrived!!!!!!!!!

omg i already read some of the poems
how is it at large?

is it large?

C'mon Simone, let's talk about your big "but."

I haven't read it yet bcz I got it at work and then *brag alert* went straight to my fuck buddy's house for a cute date and only just got home a few hours ago!!!

butts all around

butts rule everything around me

OK SO
I'm not a butt man and i keep feeling more and more alone
like American men are just obsessed with them
i feel like there's something wrong with me

Stevo you're killin it these days

don't care about the outside, it's what's inside that counts imo

like the way it feels?

yeah! i mean not to get too tmi or too cliche i guess but i just think anuses are this incredible part of us lol and i really like experiencing them.

So! My Saturday night date sold me out. I suspected trouble when I had to text him 15 mins before meeting: he was running late thanks to a "minor emergency" at his parents', whatever that means (what's a "minor" emergency?). Luckily a friend kept me company at the bar.

An hour later, date texts: "On my way, send location address plz?" That's the last I heard of him. For a while I thought he died -- until I saw a an Instagram post Sunday morning.

He's 24, a former student who emailed me four years after class to ask about getting a beer or coffee. On determining he was queer he gushed: he praised my self-assurance, brains, looks, etc. We might've met that night had I not plans already. It's worth noting I barely remember this kid in summer 2018.

I wonder if simply not showing up is a phenomenon of the young?

Anusii are a cliche?

that sucks. definitely hit next. it's been a phenomenon of the young and old as long as i've been dating tbh. xp

Yeah, I wanted to avoid generational generalization, but a few viejos noted The Vanishing has been more prevalent in the last four years.

I've ghosted more than my share, I should note.

I have never done this, to my knowledge?

me eiths it's dumb
I'm too polite though

wassup homieslice

good morning!

Mornin' sunshine!
What's on the platter?

I'm vegetarian tonight.

sexually or culinarily?

Lady Bracknell : Well, both, if necessary, I presume!

So, I’m in one of the only two gay bars in Marbella (southern coast of Spain) right now, and the thing here is that high heeled shoes are passed around, everyone tries them on, and then they take their turn swishing down what passes for a catwalk. Pleased to report that my boy got the loudest applause of the night. We make our own entertainment.

The bar is filling up because at 4am they close the doors, bring out the ashtrays, and everyone can smoke indoors.

We will be back tomorrow for drag queen bingo.

omgggggg jealous

Oh I forgot to mention the seventy something naked woman who did her catwalk turn clutching a large stuffed teddy bear.

stop

jealz to the max

Just ended a fabulous evening with j0rdan.

yesss. what did y'all do?

we went to a sports bar so i could watch basketball while we talked about madonna

...and Mariah Carey. And my terrible non-date last week.

ok well that sounds ideal (sorry for the delay how the hell do three days go by?!)

you know i saw Madonna's Mme X tour
she could still put on a show, i just wonder if it isn't time for her to maybe think about doing something else

we had dinner with Stevie last night!! and then he came back to our place and we plied him with amaro and we talked about sheryl crow and natalie merchant and celine dion and it was just a total delight <3

Amaro! Sheryl Crow! Sounds like my kind of night.

sounds like a blast

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EHxbxAQSQMM

uhhhhhh i had no idea wallace shawn was in a chaka khan video lol

he's in everything!
also I'm pretty sure I've had that night before lol so fun xp ❤️

perhaps next year our cunty little three person brunch before the weekend kicks off will include more of you :)

I left John Talabot’s disco set feeling like I’d just had the best sex in the world

you looked it too ;-)

hehe :P

i'd love to dance with yall tbh.

a, the younger man we've been involved with for 3 years, just stayed with us for a week. a friend's wedding was one reason and seeing us was the other. we had a very full time. lots of time outdoors. in the mountains around park city on sunday. then j had to fly out to attend a week-long workshop, so it was just me and him for a few days. petroglyphs have been our thing, so i took him to nine mile canyon. the night before he left we danced to 'two tickets to paradise' by eddie money lol. i'm so out of it i didn't realize it was in a well-known scene in 'the office'. i think another trip to philadelphia will happen again. maybe after the holidays. i remember liking the city in the winter. i see horse lords are playing philadelphia next week. i'd love to live somewhere where i can see good underground live music like that. and go dancing to good music on the reg of course.

i'm supposed to hear back about a job i applied for in the next week? a really cool one at the university library here. there's a second job i also applied for, where i work currently, under a different manager. i have to wait and see how all of this shakes down before i feel like i can plan anything else this year.

i like how things are shaping up with a. he was talking about some lesbian poly friends of his who have a long distance relationship. they referred to the dynamic of keeping things on a simmer and then visiting every once in a while as a 'comet relationship'. i like that descriptor for what we have now. there is certainly still the chemistry and heat that characterizes a comet. even if this eventually cools into more of a friendship that's absolutely a-ok with me. tbh there are some things he is still figuring out. he takes more than he gives. maybe he learns how to give more as he grows, maybe not. in any case it keeps me from jumping all in, and it also depletes me. i've been recharging since he left. but also missing him. it's a dynamic, one i feel grateful to be experiencing even if it isn't completely weightless.

Went to an interesting performance tonight of a string quartet with four voices scored and organized by Ethan Philbrick— all the text was from rather mundane but occasionally wrenching meeting minutes from ACT-UP meetings circa 1987-1988

i miss porn mags. are there any spicy and interesting ones still out there? bear magazine just re-launched a print version.

BUTT has relaunched, fwiw

nice!

the first few new butt issues were pretty fun, haven't seen the newer ones but it felt like a pretty worthy revive

this might be a little spicy, but i will be in NY from the 23-25, and on the 23 i am wanting to perhaps check out a “scene” or party of some sorts. j0rdan, you seem knowledgeable. recs?

gonna DM you on IG

well i don’t mind having the convo on here if you don’t, i was just gonna ask for more details on what exactly you’re looking for

lol i want a sex party, and/or a party where that could be a possibility without resorting to leaving the party. think the “back room” of the Powerhouse in SF or any number of other gay bars

and what a great thing to want! lemme ask around about that night specifically

i need to know if anyone here has ever tried pole-dancing.

and if table found a back room in new york.

i decided to shorten my trip, so no backroom for me this time

about to head up to the bay area for the weekend. my man is reading poetry at a gay bar tomorrow night, followed by a disco party afterwards. something for everyone!

my kind of night

I've had this gay friend for 20+ years and it seems strange to me that we never tried dating. We hooked up once and it was hot. I proposed we be boyfriends a decade ago and he declined. But I proposed again, just now, that we should maybe attempt a "relationship in name only", that is, we give each other the focused attention that boyfriends give each other but don't fuck or kiss or even live in the same city. He's intrigued by the idea. We already love each other like family and Raffi is being horny online so I don't see why we shouldn't try faking being shacked up

"Raffi being horny online" has really done a number on my outlook on life, I think

Here's why we're the superior species: we weigh these relationships.

Why wouldn't we? My friend and I, we never tire of each other. We had each other's back through respective bad breakups and were there for each other. We know each other's families, we've been friends forever. The only glitch is that we live in different cities and we wouldn't ever see each other. Also we're not particularly super-hot for each other (but we're not-not-hot for each other). It makes sense. Love is just sustained attention. Let's love each other!

Also at present as I'm still recovering-from-disabled, I'm not really interested in dates, you know?

sounds perfect. love is just sustained attention. so many different places you can go with that.

what is "raffi being horny online"

a new song flamboyant's written

i'll listen to it if there's a pole dancer involved somehow

somehow a pole dancer to Baby Beluga doesn’t appeal

Lmao at that image

Raffi, now 78 and living on an island off Vancouver, has recently been posting exhaustively about looking for a mate. I think it’s cute and sad and confusing in equal measure

he’s very handsome imho

I am dying that you literally mean “Raffi is being horny online”

“Baby Beluga in the deep blue sea
please to send bobs and vagene”