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So! My Saturday night date sold me out. I suspected trouble when I had to text him 15 mins before meeting: he was running late thanks to a "minor emergency" at his parents', whatever that means (what's a "minor" emergency?). Luckily a friend kept me company at the bar.

An hour later, date texts: "On my way, send location address plz?" That's the last I heard of him. For a while I thought he died -- until I saw a an Instagram post Sunday morning.

He's 24, a former student who emailed me four years after class to ask about getting a beer or coffee. On determining he was queer he gushed: he praised my self-assurance, brains, looks, etc. We might've met that night had I not plans already. It's worth noting I barely remember this kid in summer 2018.

I wonder if simply not showing up is a phenomenon of the young?

Anusii are a cliche?

that sucks. definitely hit next. it's been a phenomenon of the young and old as long as i've been dating tbh. xp

Yeah, I wanted to avoid generational generalization, but a few viejos noted The Vanishing has been more prevalent in the last four years.

I've ghosted more than my share, I should note.

I have never done this, to my knowledge?

me eiths it's dumb
I'm too polite though

wassup homieslice

good morning!

Mornin' sunshine!
What's on the platter?

I'm vegetarian tonight.

sexually or culinarily?

Lady Bracknell : Well, both, if necessary, I presume!

So, I’m in one of the only two gay bars in Marbella (southern coast of Spain) right now, and the thing here is that high heeled shoes are passed around, everyone tries them on, and then they take their turn swishing down what passes for a catwalk. Pleased to report that my boy got the loudest applause of the night. We make our own entertainment.

The bar is filling up because at 4am they close the doors, bring out the ashtrays, and everyone can smoke indoors.

We will be back tomorrow for drag queen bingo.

omgggggg jealous

Oh I forgot to mention the seventy something naked woman who did her catwalk turn clutching a large stuffed teddy bear.

stop

jealz to the max

Just ended a fabulous evening with j0rdan.

yesss. what did y'all do?

we went to a sports bar so i could watch basketball while we talked about madonna

...and Mariah Carey. And my terrible non-date last week.

ok well that sounds ideal (sorry for the delay how the hell do three days go by?!)

you know i saw Madonna's Mme X tour
she could still put on a show, i just wonder if it isn't time for her to maybe think about doing something else

we had dinner with Stevie last night!! and then he came back to our place and we plied him with amaro and we talked about sheryl crow and natalie merchant and celine dion and it was just a total delight <3

Amaro! Sheryl Crow! Sounds like my kind of night.

sounds like a blast

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EHxbxAQSQMM

uhhhhhh i had no idea wallace shawn was in a chaka khan video lol

he's in everything!
also I'm pretty sure I've had that night before lol so fun xp ❤️

wassup docs
it's eighty goddamn degrees here today
too soon yo

lovely haiku

it's only about 70 here. we've had some random bursts of heat over the past few weeks though.

next week i will be in seattle, where it's gonna be 50 and rainy no doubt. i forget, are any of y'all based there? would love recs on things and places to do/see/eat/drink there!

Wish I had more Recs than go to PONY and the gay Karaoke bar on Cap Hill, and also you simply must visit the main public library, it is everything a public library should be imho

85 degrees already

omg I've always wanted to go to Seattle

i used to love working in the library in college. I would sit in the stacks in the basement, or the art stacks which were the super cool ones. but I had no place there TBH

I miss my college library all the time.

The cops caught the arsonist of the queer bar in Bushwick. Scary story of what happened.

Not gonna lie, my queer friends, but I really am getting a lot more worried about some things, like whether my marriage will be recognized in a few years.

wait i didn't hear about the bar. deets? how did i miss that. was reading an article about a gay couple last night just filed a precedent setting suit RE being denied infertility coverage for IVF. glad for the action.

so just now i'm served an ad on facebook for customized wrestling singlets that's just an image of hairy pecs bulging out of spandex (the co is t4ked0wn sp0rtswe4r, in case you want to google it and have the ads follow you around everywhere). and i notice that it has likes and loves. so i click on the loves because i have a premonition. about ten gentlemen come up, and i open each in a new tab, and am beguiled by ten miniature portraits of gay american men.

wrestling fetishists have surprisingly good taste in memes

sorry busy week! how creepy! honestly the sanitary side of wrestling alone counteracts how hot it can be don't you think? u know how many skin infections those guys get? gross.

so I'm going to fire island in Aug and i have to figure out my look. last year was health goth. I'm kind of feeling club kid this year???

HI
wtf is up

hello gays

hiiii!

we spent nearly four hours trying to put up two bookshelves yesterday. stupid drywall!!

Got laid in New Orleans last week with a Napoleon House waiter.

i'm gay. not much else up tbh. hi kate!

Gay meter low thank christ for this thread

There is one (1) gay bar in town and it is a municipal landmark for being the first local gay watering hole

See? They don't need anymore!

wait hoos i thought you were in dc?

Got home five hours ago from a quiet happy hour with my boy only to be joined by his boyfriend and his friends. We walked to a bar a couple blocks away for some dancing. I ended up making out quickly with the boyfriend, who for months had been jealous of me.

Good morning!

nailed it

I’m in a cab coming back from a fantastic week in Porto.

btw if you can figure out any way to swing a trip to Porto, DO IT

what did you like about it? we were all talking about travel destinations the other day and about how friends recommend portugal but were unsure about the specific reasons why. like compared to spain or italy?

i don't like traveling by plane but there are 2-3 places overseas i would like to experience eventually. japan, italy, basque area of france / spain.

oh england and scotland tbh. so i can meet some ilx pals :)

1. The old town is not believably picturesque. Portal is known for tile work and most of the buildings sport amazing designs.

2. The touristy stuff is actually good. We didn’t hit all the spots but we did see the contemporary art museum, which was hosting a retrospective of the life of Yoyai Kusama, and the national museum, which had a deep dive into the development of Portugal’s fine art scene. We also saw a fado performance that was absolutely stunning (3 guitarists, 2 vocalists), did a tour of Taylor’s port that was awesome, and did a day long boat ride down the Douro River that was gorgeous where they served us a real lunch cooked on the ship in a fully-appointed kitchen rather than microwaving a prepackaged meal.

3. Food is surprisingly cheap (compared to Boston). We splurged since this was a honeymoon trip and went to two Michelin-starred restaurants (dinner at Elemento, lunch at Casa de Chá da Boa Nova) and yes, they were very expensive, but especially Elemento would have been twice as much had it been in the US. Most of the normal restaurants averaged out at $30/person for appetizers, entree, cocktails, and an entire bottle of wine.

4. The street musicians are INSANELY GOOD. Like, 95% of them should be signed artists. My favorites were the three-piece band that was just unbelievably tight and this woman with a beautiful voice who would play the bridge to the songs she was covering on trombone.

We didn’t come close to seeing everything; we just would pick a direction at the start of the day and enjoy whatever we came across sight- and food-wise. We also were told about a monthly gay expat meetup where we met and hung out with some very friendly gentlemen who invited us to Thai food afterward (this did lead to an awkward “ooh sorry, we are not interested in a nightcap” moment but overall it was a fun night).

My one regret is that I’m now too old to party all night the way the city wants to; we took a car to the airport at 3:30 AM this morning and people were just leaving the nightclubs.

Oh fuck this phone. Remove “not” from bullet #1 and “Portal” is obv supposed to be “Porto”

very cool, thanks for the scene report.

No problem! At some point pictures will go up on Facebook so you can get a better sense of what we did

Thanks! I'm going to Lisbon and Porto next June.

jealz - i really am thinking Berlin is where i'll need to go as my first solo international trip, i just need somewhere where it's easy to go out and very "for dummies". it'll be cool cuz i can "work from hotel" during the day then just live the life.