So! My Saturday night date sold me out. I suspected trouble when I had to text him 15 mins before meeting: he was running late thanks to a "minor emergency" at his parents', whatever that means (what's a "minor" emergency?). Luckily a friend kept me company at the bar.
An hour later, date texts: "On my way, send location address plz?" That's the last I heard of him. For a while I thought he died -- until I saw a an Instagram post Sunday morning.
He's 24, a former student who emailed me four years after class to ask about getting a beer or coffee. On determining he was queer he gushed: he praised my self-assurance, brains, looks, etc. We might've met that night had I not plans already. It's worth noting I barely remember this kid in summer 2018.
I wonder if simply not showing up is a phenomenon of the young?
― So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 31 March 2022 19:41 (three years ago)
Anusii are a cliche?
― Max Hamburgers (Eric H.), Thursday, 31 March 2022 19:41 (three years ago)
that sucks. definitely hit next. it's been a phenomenon of the young and old as long as i've been dating tbh. xp
― the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Thursday, 31 March 2022 19:44 (three years ago)
Yeah, I wanted to avoid generational generalization, but a few viejos noted The Vanishing has been more prevalent in the last four years.
I've ghosted more than my share, I should note.
― So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 31 March 2022 19:47 (three years ago)
I have never done this, to my knowledge?
― we need outrage! we need dicks!! (the table is the table), Thursday, 31 March 2022 22:30 (three years ago)
me eiths it's dumbI'm too polite though
― Swen, Friday, 1 April 2022 01:32 (three years ago)
wassup homieslice
― Swen, Saturday, 2 April 2022 18:01 (three years ago)
good morning!
― So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Saturday, 2 April 2022 18:02 (three years ago)
Mornin' sunshine!What's on the platter?
― Swen, Saturday, 2 April 2022 18:03 (three years ago)
I'm vegetarian tonight.
― So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Saturday, 2 April 2022 18:21 (three years ago)
sexually or culinarily?
― Swen, Sunday, 3 April 2022 00:00 (three years ago)
Lady Bracknell : Well, both, if necessary, I presume!
― So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Sunday, 3 April 2022 00:11 (three years ago)
So, I’m in one of the only two gay bars in Marbella (southern coast of Spain) right now, and the thing here is that high heeled shoes are passed around, everyone tries them on, and then they take their turn swishing down what passes for a catwalk. Pleased to report that my boy got the loudest applause of the night. We make our own entertainment.The bar is filling up because at 4am they close the doors, bring out the ashtrays, and everyone can smoke indoors.We will be back tomorrow for drag queen bingo.
― mike t-diva, Sunday, 3 April 2022 00:30 (three years ago)
omgggggg jealous
― the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Sunday, 3 April 2022 00:35 (three years ago)
Oh I forgot to mention the seventy something naked woman who did her catwalk turn clutching a large stuffed teddy bear.
― mike t-diva, Sunday, 3 April 2022 00:39 (three years ago)
stop
― Swen, Sunday, 3 April 2022 01:40 (three years ago)
jealz to the max
Just ended a fabulous evening with j0rdan.
― So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Sunday, 3 April 2022 04:15 (three years ago)
yesss. what did y'all do?
― Swen, Sunday, 3 April 2022 19:35 (three years ago)
we went to a sports bar so i could watch basketball while we talked about madonna
― J0rdan S., Sunday, 3 April 2022 21:57 (three years ago)
...and Mariah Carey. And my terrible non-date last week.
― So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Sunday, 3 April 2022 22:45 (three years ago)
ok well that sounds ideal (sorry for the delay how the hell do three days go by?!)
― Swen, Wednesday, 6 April 2022 03:12 (three years ago)
you know i saw Madonna's Mme X tourshe could still put on a show, i just wonder if it isn't time for her to maybe think about doing something else
― Swen, Wednesday, 6 April 2022 03:16 (three years ago)
we had dinner with Stevie last night!! and then he came back to our place and we plied him with amaro and we talked about sheryl crow and natalie merchant and celine dion and it was just a total delight <3
― donna rouge, Saturday, 9 April 2022 18:49 (three years ago)
Amaro! Sheryl Crow! Sounds like my kind of night.
― So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Saturday, 9 April 2022 21:26 (three years ago)
sounds like a blast
― the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Saturday, 9 April 2022 21:27 (three years ago)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EHxbxAQSQMM
― So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Saturday, 9 April 2022 21:39 (three years ago)
uhhhhhh i had no idea wallace shawn was in a chaka khan video lol
― the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Saturday, 9 April 2022 21:54 (three years ago)
he's in everything!also I'm pretty sure I've had that night before lol so fun xp ❤️
― Swen, Monday, 11 April 2022 00:58 (three years ago)
wassup docs it's eighty goddamn degrees here todaytoo soon yo
― Swen, Thursday, 14 April 2022 15:14 (three years ago)
lovely haiku
― So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 14 April 2022 15:19 (three years ago)
it's only about 70 here. we've had some random bursts of heat over the past few weeks though.
next week i will be in seattle, where it's gonna be 50 and rainy no doubt. i forget, are any of y'all based there? would love recs on things and places to do/see/eat/drink there!
― donna rouge, Thursday, 14 April 2022 18:42 (three years ago)
Wish I had more Recs than go to PONY and the gay Karaoke bar on Cap Hill, and also you simply must visit the main public library, it is everything a public library should be imho
― we need outrage! we need dicks!! (the table is the table), Thursday, 14 April 2022 18:48 (three years ago)
85 degrees already
― So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 14 April 2022 18:55 (three years ago)
omg I've always wanted to go to Seattle
― Swen, Friday, 15 April 2022 01:32 (three years ago)
i used to love working in the library in college. I would sit in the stacks in the basement, or the art stacks which were the super cool ones. but I had no place there TBH
― Swen, Friday, 15 April 2022 01:41 (three years ago)
I miss my college library all the time.The cops caught the arsonist of the queer bar in Bushwick. Scary story of what happened.Not gonna lie, my queer friends, but I really am getting a lot more worried about some things, like whether my marriage will be recognized in a few years.
― we need outrage! we need dicks!! (the table is the table), Friday, 15 April 2022 01:52 (three years ago)
wait i didn't hear about the bar. deets? how did i miss that. was reading an article about a gay couple last night just filed a precedent setting suit RE being denied infertility coverage for IVF. glad for the action.
― Swen, Friday, 15 April 2022 02:13 (three years ago)
so just now i'm served an ad on facebook for customized wrestling singlets that's just an image of hairy pecs bulging out of spandex (the co is t4ked0wn sp0rtswe4r, in case you want to google it and have the ads follow you around everywhere). and i notice that it has likes and loves. so i click on the loves because i have a premonition. about ten gentlemen come up, and i open each in a new tab, and am beguiled by ten miniature portraits of gay american men.
― the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Tuesday, 19 April 2022 18:49 (three years ago)
wrestling fetishists have surprisingly good taste in memes
― the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Tuesday, 19 April 2022 18:50 (three years ago)
sorry busy week! how creepy! honestly the sanitary side of wrestling alone counteracts how hot it can be don't you think? u know how many skin infections those guys get? gross.
so I'm going to fire island in Aug and i have to figure out my look. last year was health goth. I'm kind of feeling club kid this year???
― Swen, Saturday, 23 April 2022 19:20 (three years ago)
HIwtf is up
― Swen, Saturday, 30 April 2022 19:31 (three years ago)
hello gays
― Kate (rushomancy), Sunday, 1 May 2022 07:39 (three years ago)
hiiii!we spent nearly four hours trying to put up two bookshelves yesterday. stupid drywall!!
― donna rouge, Sunday, 1 May 2022 14:42 (three years ago)
Got laid in New Orleans last week with a Napoleon House waiter.
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Sunday, 1 May 2022 14:47 (three years ago)
i'm gay. not much else up tbh. hi kate!
― the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Sunday, 1 May 2022 15:44 (three years ago)
Gay meter low thank christ for this thread
― BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Sunday, 1 May 2022 15:47 (three years ago)
There is one (1) gay bar in town and it is a municipal landmark for being the first local gay watering hole
― BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Sunday, 1 May 2022 15:48 (three years ago)
See? They don't need anymore!
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Sunday, 1 May 2022 15:53 (three years ago)
wait hoos i thought you were in dc?
― the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Sunday, 1 May 2022 15:58 (three years ago)
I wasn't gonna say a word until you did!
― The Luda of Suburbia (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Wednesday, 3 December 2025 17:35 (two days ago)
Congratulations!
― our beloved RIFF LORD (DJP), Wednesday, 3 December 2025 17:41 (two days ago)
Congrats, J!
― cryptosicko, Wednesday, 3 December 2025 17:46 (two days ago)
congrats J0rdan!!
― a tv star not a dirty computer man (the table is the table), Wednesday, 3 December 2025 18:09 (two days ago)
congrats j0rd!!
― donna rouge, Wednesday, 3 December 2025 18:13 (two days ago)
omg congrats j0rd
― ivy., Wednesday, 3 December 2025 18:42 (two days ago)
Wooooo congratulations xx
― mike t-diva, Thursday, 4 December 2025 00:55 (yesterday)
<3 thank you all <3
― slob wizard (J0rdan S.), Thursday, 4 December 2025 00:58 (yesterday)
Wowwww your fiancé is a lucky man :) Congrats to you both
― by the clicking of her thumbs, something canine (flamboyant goon tie included), Thursday, 4 December 2025 03:43 (yesterday)
thank you babe :) you guys share a name! it's a very special name
― slob wizard (J0rdan S.), Thursday, 4 December 2025 17:48 (yesterday)
There are too many phonetic soundalikes in casual speaking for my liking, “When are you goin’?” “Oh, when it stops raining”
I’m driving to Seattle rn to see my brother for dinner and watch some guys play some music
― by the clicking of her thumbs, something canine (flamboyant goon tie included), Thursday, 4 December 2025 20:57 (yesterday)