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So! My Saturday night date sold me out. I suspected trouble when I had to text him 15 mins before meeting: he was running late thanks to a "minor emergency" at his parents', whatever that means (what's a "minor" emergency?). Luckily a friend kept me company at the bar.

An hour later, date texts: "On my way, send location address plz?" That's the last I heard of him. For a while I thought he died -- until I saw a an Instagram post Sunday morning.

He's 24, a former student who emailed me four years after class to ask about getting a beer or coffee. On determining he was queer he gushed: he praised my self-assurance, brains, looks, etc. We might've met that night had I not plans already. It's worth noting I barely remember this kid in summer 2018.

I wonder if simply not showing up is a phenomenon of the young?

Anusii are a cliche?

that sucks. definitely hit next. it's been a phenomenon of the young and old as long as i've been dating tbh. xp

Yeah, I wanted to avoid generational generalization, but a few viejos noted The Vanishing has been more prevalent in the last four years.

I've ghosted more than my share, I should note.

I have never done this, to my knowledge?

me eiths it's dumb
I'm too polite though

wassup homieslice

good morning!

Mornin' sunshine!
What's on the platter?

I'm vegetarian tonight.

sexually or culinarily?

Lady Bracknell : Well, both, if necessary, I presume!

So, I’m in one of the only two gay bars in Marbella (southern coast of Spain) right now, and the thing here is that high heeled shoes are passed around, everyone tries them on, and then they take their turn swishing down what passes for a catwalk. Pleased to report that my boy got the loudest applause of the night. We make our own entertainment.

The bar is filling up because at 4am they close the doors, bring out the ashtrays, and everyone can smoke indoors.

We will be back tomorrow for drag queen bingo.

omgggggg jealous

Oh I forgot to mention the seventy something naked woman who did her catwalk turn clutching a large stuffed teddy bear.

stop

jealz to the max

Just ended a fabulous evening with j0rdan.

yesss. what did y'all do?

we went to a sports bar so i could watch basketball while we talked about madonna

...and Mariah Carey. And my terrible non-date last week.

ok well that sounds ideal (sorry for the delay how the hell do three days go by?!)

you know i saw Madonna's Mme X tour
she could still put on a show, i just wonder if it isn't time for her to maybe think about doing something else

we had dinner with Stevie last night!! and then he came back to our place and we plied him with amaro and we talked about sheryl crow and natalie merchant and celine dion and it was just a total delight <3

Amaro! Sheryl Crow! Sounds like my kind of night.

sounds like a blast

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EHxbxAQSQMM

uhhhhhh i had no idea wallace shawn was in a chaka khan video lol

he's in everything!
also I'm pretty sure I've had that night before lol so fun xp ❤️

wassup docs
it's eighty goddamn degrees here today
too soon yo

lovely haiku

it's only about 70 here. we've had some random bursts of heat over the past few weeks though.

next week i will be in seattle, where it's gonna be 50 and rainy no doubt. i forget, are any of y'all based there? would love recs on things and places to do/see/eat/drink there!

Wish I had more Recs than go to PONY and the gay Karaoke bar on Cap Hill, and also you simply must visit the main public library, it is everything a public library should be imho

85 degrees already

omg I've always wanted to go to Seattle

i used to love working in the library in college. I would sit in the stacks in the basement, or the art stacks which were the super cool ones. but I had no place there TBH

I miss my college library all the time.

The cops caught the arsonist of the queer bar in Bushwick. Scary story of what happened.

Not gonna lie, my queer friends, but I really am getting a lot more worried about some things, like whether my marriage will be recognized in a few years.

wait i didn't hear about the bar. deets? how did i miss that. was reading an article about a gay couple last night just filed a precedent setting suit RE being denied infertility coverage for IVF. glad for the action.

so just now i'm served an ad on facebook for customized wrestling singlets that's just an image of hairy pecs bulging out of spandex (the co is t4ked0wn sp0rtswe4r, in case you want to google it and have the ads follow you around everywhere). and i notice that it has likes and loves. so i click on the loves because i have a premonition. about ten gentlemen come up, and i open each in a new tab, and am beguiled by ten miniature portraits of gay american men.

wrestling fetishists have surprisingly good taste in memes

sorry busy week! how creepy! honestly the sanitary side of wrestling alone counteracts how hot it can be don't you think? u know how many skin infections those guys get? gross.

so I'm going to fire island in Aug and i have to figure out my look. last year was health goth. I'm kind of feeling club kid this year???

HI
wtf is up

hello gays

hiiii!

we spent nearly four hours trying to put up two bookshelves yesterday. stupid drywall!!

Got laid in New Orleans last week with a Napoleon House waiter.

i'm gay. not much else up tbh. hi kate!

Gay meter low thank christ for this thread

There is one (1) gay bar in town and it is a municipal landmark for being the first local gay watering hole

See? They don't need anymore!

wait hoos i thought you were in dc?

Spent several wonderful days hosting donna rouge and then dancing and being insane with donna rouge and stevie d. my husband took a picture of us on the last day of the music festival where we all look happy/exhausted/on drugs, and certainly are all three.

anyway, highly recommended to go raving with dr and stevie.

I too cannot recommend it enough!! What an incredible weekend

that line up looked amazing

it was! you should come down next time J0rd :)

omigod I would dance and be insane with you and donna rouge

perhaps next year our cunty little three person brunch before the weekend kicks off will include more of you :)

I left John Talabot’s disco set feeling like I’d just had the best sex in the world

you looked it too ;-)

hehe :P

i'd love to dance with yall tbh.

a, the younger man we've been involved with for 3 years, just stayed with us for a week. a friend's wedding was one reason and seeing us was the other. we had a very full time. lots of time outdoors. in the mountains around park city on sunday. then j had to fly out to attend a week-long workshop, so it was just me and him for a few days. petroglyphs have been our thing, so i took him to nine mile canyon. the night before he left we danced to 'two tickets to paradise' by eddie money lol. i'm so out of it i didn't realize it was in a well-known scene in 'the office'. i think another trip to philadelphia will happen again. maybe after the holidays. i remember liking the city in the winter. i see horse lords are playing philadelphia next week. i'd love to live somewhere where i can see good underground live music like that. and go dancing to good music on the reg of course.

i'm supposed to hear back about a job i applied for in the next week? a really cool one at the university library here. there's a second job i also applied for, where i work currently, under a different manager. i have to wait and see how all of this shakes down before i feel like i can plan anything else this year.

i like how things are shaping up with a. he was talking about some lesbian poly friends of his who have a long distance relationship. they referred to the dynamic of keeping things on a simmer and then visiting every once in a while as a 'comet relationship'. i like that descriptor for what we have now. there is certainly still the chemistry and heat that characterizes a comet. even if this eventually cools into more of a friendship that's absolutely a-ok with me. tbh there are some things he is still figuring out. he takes more than he gives. maybe he learns how to give more as he grows, maybe not. in any case it keeps me from jumping all in, and it also depletes me. i've been recharging since he left. but also missing him. it's a dynamic, one i feel grateful to be experiencing even if it isn't completely weightless.

Went to an interesting performance tonight of a string quartet with four voices scored and organized by Ethan Philbrick— all the text was from rather mundane but occasionally wrenching meeting minutes from ACT-UP meetings circa 1987-1988