Real love -- I'm, like, searchin' for that Queer Love -- LGBTQIA+ Love // A Thread for the Real Ones

So! My Saturday night date sold me out. I suspected trouble when I had to text him 15 mins before meeting: he was running late thanks to a "minor emergency" at his parents', whatever that means (what's a "minor" emergency?). Luckily a friend kept me company at the bar.

An hour later, date texts: "On my way, send location address plz?" That's the last I heard of him. For a while I thought he died -- until I saw a an Instagram post Sunday morning.

He's 24, a former student who emailed me four years after class to ask about getting a beer or coffee. On determining he was queer he gushed: he praised my self-assurance, brains, looks, etc. We might've met that night had I not plans already. It's worth noting I barely remember this kid in summer 2018.

I wonder if simply not showing up is a phenomenon of the young?

Anusii are a cliche?

that sucks. definitely hit next. it's been a phenomenon of the young and old as long as i've been dating tbh. xp

Yeah, I wanted to avoid generational generalization, but a few viejos noted The Vanishing has been more prevalent in the last four years.

I've ghosted more than my share, I should note.

I have never done this, to my knowledge?

me eiths it's dumb
I'm too polite though

wassup homieslice

good morning!

Mornin' sunshine!
What's on the platter?

I'm vegetarian tonight.

sexually or culinarily?

Lady Bracknell : Well, both, if necessary, I presume!

So, I’m in one of the only two gay bars in Marbella (southern coast of Spain) right now, and the thing here is that high heeled shoes are passed around, everyone tries them on, and then they take their turn swishing down what passes for a catwalk. Pleased to report that my boy got the loudest applause of the night. We make our own entertainment.

The bar is filling up because at 4am they close the doors, bring out the ashtrays, and everyone can smoke indoors.

We will be back tomorrow for drag queen bingo.

omgggggg jealous

Oh I forgot to mention the seventy something naked woman who did her catwalk turn clutching a large stuffed teddy bear.

stop

jealz to the max

Just ended a fabulous evening with j0rdan.

yesss. what did y'all do?

we went to a sports bar so i could watch basketball while we talked about madonna

...and Mariah Carey. And my terrible non-date last week.

ok well that sounds ideal (sorry for the delay how the hell do three days go by?!)

you know i saw Madonna's Mme X tour
she could still put on a show, i just wonder if it isn't time for her to maybe think about doing something else

we had dinner with Stevie last night!! and then he came back to our place and we plied him with amaro and we talked about sheryl crow and natalie merchant and celine dion and it was just a total delight <3

Amaro! Sheryl Crow! Sounds like my kind of night.

sounds like a blast

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EHxbxAQSQMM

uhhhhhh i had no idea wallace shawn was in a chaka khan video lol

he's in everything!
also I'm pretty sure I've had that night before lol so fun xp ❤️

wassup docs
it's eighty goddamn degrees here today
too soon yo

lovely haiku

it's only about 70 here. we've had some random bursts of heat over the past few weeks though.

next week i will be in seattle, where it's gonna be 50 and rainy no doubt. i forget, are any of y'all based there? would love recs on things and places to do/see/eat/drink there!

Wish I had more Recs than go to PONY and the gay Karaoke bar on Cap Hill, and also you simply must visit the main public library, it is everything a public library should be imho

85 degrees already

omg I've always wanted to go to Seattle

i used to love working in the library in college. I would sit in the stacks in the basement, or the art stacks which were the super cool ones. but I had no place there TBH

I miss my college library all the time.

The cops caught the arsonist of the queer bar in Bushwick. Scary story of what happened.

Not gonna lie, my queer friends, but I really am getting a lot more worried about some things, like whether my marriage will be recognized in a few years.

wait i didn't hear about the bar. deets? how did i miss that. was reading an article about a gay couple last night just filed a precedent setting suit RE being denied infertility coverage for IVF. glad for the action.

so just now i'm served an ad on facebook for customized wrestling singlets that's just an image of hairy pecs bulging out of spandex (the co is t4ked0wn sp0rtswe4r, in case you want to google it and have the ads follow you around everywhere). and i notice that it has likes and loves. so i click on the loves because i have a premonition. about ten gentlemen come up, and i open each in a new tab, and am beguiled by ten miniature portraits of gay american men.

wrestling fetishists have surprisingly good taste in memes

sorry busy week! how creepy! honestly the sanitary side of wrestling alone counteracts how hot it can be don't you think? u know how many skin infections those guys get? gross.

so I'm going to fire island in Aug and i have to figure out my look. last year was health goth. I'm kind of feeling club kid this year???

HI
wtf is up

hello gays

hiiii!

we spent nearly four hours trying to put up two bookshelves yesterday. stupid drywall!!

Got laid in New Orleans last week with a Napoleon House waiter.

i'm gay. not much else up tbh. hi kate!

Gay meter low thank christ for this thread

There is one (1) gay bar in town and it is a municipal landmark for being the first local gay watering hole

See? They don't need anymore!

wait hoos i thought you were in dc?

Well, I got all my work stuff finished and delivered, now it’s Time To Break Up. I have a four day move scheduled. Absolutely zero plans for anything gay in my future, why I want more than anything is a full night of sleep in my own bed and a full day of being able to do naught but look after myself and my needs.

There’s definitely a couple men sniffing my butt these days, both of them super hot (and both of them like “established artists” which would be a nice change) but I’ve been feeling like Tarzan swinging from relationship to relationship these past ten years and I think it’s time for some cloistering

There’s definitely a couple men sniffing my butt these days

are we talking literally or...

good look fgti. i remember donna rouge giving me advice on this thread a while back after my last breakup to take it easy. it was good advice so passing that forward.

err luck but look too why not.

The last week of breakup has been a Shakespearean tragicomedy with many acts and many tense intermissions. That said, if this tragicomedy had a title, it’d be “It’s Going Fine Overall”

I did find this bizarre gift I received fifteen years ago— a candle, matte black, shaped like that famous church that Varg did an arson on. I don’t know why it was given to me but I remember who gave it to me and I love her and I’ve kept this odious object for all these years out of love for her. It’s travelled with me for, idk, fifteen moves? Maybe more?

I discovered it again, tucked behind some archival scores, like I was hiding it out of embarrassment and affection, and it felt like finding a wart shaped like a monkey’s paw. This cursed object. I took a photo and sent it to aero and asked him if this object has cursed my life. He told me he’s more death metal than black metal but has no respect for the burning of this church; absolutely cursed. I left it on a dumpster, either to melt in the sun or to be plucked by a passerby to curse them, instead.

i discovered broadway barbara and her fosse videos today - feels like something that belongs in this thread.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Zqje92ud3Y

Finished my movey move today— still have to set the shit up— but enjoying an absynthe drip at the pretentious place up the street. I texted my friend:

No place to go but somewhere
Nothing to gain but something

ramble on

not sure if this or the gay film thread is the best for this kinda discussion but!

has anyone seen the gay british film Departures? i believe it came out last year but is only now getting reviewed/wide released. i saw it last night and thought it was fantastic. i thought it made for an interesting contrast to Pillion in a number of ways, i liked this a lot better, i think maybe it has a certain sensibility (narration, addressing the audience, doodles on screen) that might repel some people, there is a slight whiff of tweeness that makes for an interesting tone given the subject matter, but i also think it balances lightness, humor, and darkness (it's a film about a tryst but it isn't a love story) in a very winning way. so british, really. i also thought it addressed submissiveness, degradation, sexual violence etc in a way that was more insightful, relatable and overall more interesting than "pillion," delving into the sort of incidents from our early lives & childhoods that inform our adult kinks, i just thought there was a lot more "why" there than what you got w/ "pillion," not to keep shitting on "pillion" i didn't hate it, but it was hard for me to not compare the two films and feel like one was a lot better than the other. recommended! (i think alfred will dislike this film)

Two friends of mine basically said Pillion wasn’t about kink but about abuse. I agree with them, loathed that film

(i think alfred will dislike this film)

idk I love tonal shifts.

I loved Pillon (the novel's even better).