Real love -- I'm, like, searchin' for that Queer Love -- LGBTQIA+ Love // A Thread for the Real Ones

wait i didn't hear about the bar. deets? how did i miss that. was reading an article about a gay couple last night just filed a precedent setting suit RE being denied infertility coverage for IVF. glad for the action.

so just now i'm served an ad on facebook for customized wrestling singlets that's just an image of hairy pecs bulging out of spandex (the co is t4ked0wn sp0rtswe4r, in case you want to google it and have the ads follow you around everywhere). and i notice that it has likes and loves. so i click on the loves because i have a premonition. about ten gentlemen come up, and i open each in a new tab, and am beguiled by ten miniature portraits of gay american men.

wrestling fetishists have surprisingly good taste in memes

sorry busy week! how creepy! honestly the sanitary side of wrestling alone counteracts how hot it can be don't you think? u know how many skin infections those guys get? gross.

so I'm going to fire island in Aug and i have to figure out my look. last year was health goth. I'm kind of feeling club kid this year???

HI
wtf is up

hello gays

hiiii!

we spent nearly four hours trying to put up two bookshelves yesterday. stupid drywall!!

Got laid in New Orleans last week with a Napoleon House waiter.

i'm gay. not much else up tbh. hi kate!

Gay meter low thank christ for this thread

There is one (1) gay bar in town and it is a municipal landmark for being the first local gay watering hole

See? They don't need anymore!

wait hoos i thought you were in dc?

shockingly slc will have TWO new gay bars this year!

bringing the total to 5 afaict

one of the new ones is called MILK, they have 9-12$ drinks, a security checkpoint and a $10 cover, feels like a high school gymnasium inside. they called the cops on the taco truck in their parking lot when they were opening. serving us corporate asshole realness 😎

the one that will be opening in the next few months is called CLUB VERSE (???), they do a lot of posts about "community" and so forth even though they are a bar, it looks like they might have a nice rooftop patio, and i think i have an in to dj there.

Remind me where you live, map?

wait hoos i thought you were in dc?

― the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Sunday, May 1, 2022 3:58 PM (forty-six minutes ago) bookmarkflaglink

Not no more, moved to Delaware a year ago and am about half an hour outside Philly by SEPTA

Hoos, let's hang! You and me and Stevie!

Also hi, all. I am still gay.

I inadvisedly spent a lot of money on a rare Dennis Cooper chapbook this weekend, but I'm so anxious/excited that my review of his latest book comes out on Tuesday that I am just allowing myself the indulgence of spending my fee on more of the same author's work.

Remind me where you live, map?

― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Sunday, May 1, 2022 5:10 PM (fifty-one minutes ago) bookmarkflaglink

i am in salt lake city

hi Kate!!! Kate - only if you want to share - where are you located?

also hey hoos!!!! I'm happy to see you here (formerly surm btw). jealous of the potential hang.

T where can we read your review?

Hello gays

I stopped being gay over the winter and started a relationship with my Playstation but I finally ended all that and I'm dating my boyfriend again

o snap what have u been playing?

Please don't make me say my ex's name out loud, the breakup is still recent

(I logged over 200 hours into Elden Ring, like every other nerd)

haha I SEE. hey I just got my gameboy advance back up and running! do I get any props??? I'm racing pixelated cars and shit

Awwwww I miss my GBA. I had one of those SPs for a while, cute lil clamshell

I think I've seen like three hours of elden ring clips, I don't game but I can't stop looking at it

I hope you got WarioWare for the GBA that is such good fun

Wario is the horniest bottom in gaming

omg lol
one of my best girlfriends does that thing where she watches like hours of other people playing, it relaxes her

it makes for great white noise as long as its not one of those people who constantly screams into the mic

who is Sven -- Ramz?

Named after what Blanche called Rose's cousin in that one episode of The Golden Girls too, if I'm not mistaken.

more champagne!

hahahaha yes and yes

THE WAY HE'S
BEEN REJECTING YOU.

WHAT DO YOU MEAN REJECTING ME?

WELL, CANCELING
TWICE IN TWO DAYS.

THEN HE SHOWS UP WITH
THAT GIRL TODAY. WOO!
HOW OLD COULD SHE HAVE BEEN?

NOT VERY.

YOU'RE NOT LIKE MOST WOMEN,
BLANCHE, I'LL TELL YOU THAT.

WHAT DO YOU MEAN?

WOULDN'T MOST WOMEN LET A
THING LIKE THIS MAKE THEM FEEL OLD?

YES.

AND UNATTRACTIVE?

YES.

WORN OUT?

YES.

USELESS?

WHAT'S YOUR POINT, SWEN?!

Fuh-loyd!

"In die-ah-pers, Rose!"

lololol
def with my people here

Wow, I love you homos

❤️💚💙💜💘🤍💋💋💋

And he’d bend over backwards for me

🤣🤣🤣 that guy was in four Murder She Wrote episodes and later wound up on Melrose Place as Alison's father. he's also been in like 500 other things.

rambling gender stuff

so i really don't know to what extend it's "me" or some kind of deeply embedded reactive strategy but i've always been drawn to very masc presentations since i first started discovering my own sexuality. it's part of the reason i lift weights and eat a lot of meat. i'm kind of done second guessing it because it brings me pleasure even if it also feels like an "alien" pleasure that is disorienting and alienating and kind of silly sometimes and seems to confuse people who have progressive attitudes or creative dispositions (which i share). and there's the rub, people want to socialize with someone who feels safe to them, and i probably present a certain amount of toxic masc vibes, and i internalize the conflict between my presentation and a part of myself that isn't visible, that i almost wish wasn't a part of me sometimes. on the other hand i can't fully embrace masc presentation as reflective of who i really am. i think part of my difficulty with being social is related to this conflict.

anyway, i'm trying to relax as much as i can around it but it's hard. lately i've felt the outlines of my female persona, all i think i know about it is that it's a "tom girl." i always identified with those types of characters growing up. i don't know. is looking butch a safety blanket that is holding me back? maybe. this has been a big thing for me for as long as i can remember and i don't feel like i've ever made much progress on it, it's just there more or less all the time. sorry, just typing all this out somewhere since it's been on my mind lately and i don't have a therapist.

well, there's definitely a lot of gray area there, and there isn't one answer or the other. like it's certainly not just a safety blanket - a natural preference in large part, seems to me. i'm also attracted to masc presenting folk, amongst many other things. and i totally hear you regarding the conflict on 2 levels - "presenting", in so many ways (not just gender), is so different from who one really is. as a gay Lebanese immigrant with all kinds of gender wack in his head but light skin and a penis, i think i'm often perceived as having a certain sort of privilege that i don't really relate to. also, the masc v femme part is one of the biggest struggles in my life for sure. i don't want to feel at odds with my femininity, but i can't say i don't feel that pressure sometimes. so, you're not alone, and it's complex af.

hey, thanks for sharing swen. :)

back atcha

how's the gym these days mappy?

it's ok. i'm very antisocial at the gym lol. generally speaking i resent that it's a social experience foisted upon me when all i want to do is relax and get in my body. i avoid eye contact like the plague.

on the other hand, sometimes i find myself enjoying the bro-y aspect of it. there is a fun borderline erotic male energy sometimes. the area with the dumbbells and bench presses and mirrors is usually where i feel it. someone gave me a wave hi the other day, which was nice.

i had this gym crush for a while, very untended macho dad look. i followed him into the dry sauna once but any acknowledgment was avoided so i didn't get any creepier.

i don't mean to brag but i'm good and comfortable lifting, i've been regularly doing it at least 6 days a week now for a couple of years. at this point it's just what i do. i spend a fair amount of money on supplements and all that. it's an enthusiasm, a reason, an excitement. i try not to make it a topic of conversation, unless someone wants to talk about it, and i try to be as kind as possible, gay men have so much anxiety about it. i never do gym selfies except i broke down and did one the other day because i was out of town in a small gym and maybe i wanted some likes haha.

I'm glad you brought it up, map, because for many years I've wondered at the image I project. No observant person who meets me is under no illusions, but enough are that I sometimes freeze.

For example: at a birthday two weekends ago, a woman hit on me for the first time in decades. I found it flattering! But I kept thinking, do I camp it up so she doesn't get the wrong idea? In the end I just let it go, chalking it up on her part to a couple glasses of wine too many.

We know masculinity is a performance. When and how and where to perform remains the mystery/delight for me.