Real love -- I'm, like, searchin' for that Queer Love -- LGBTQIA+ Love // A Thread for the Real Ones

"bottom dollar" lol now you're just sending me soft lobs

omg lol
listen I would never send you anything soft 🥁🥁🥁🥁😂😂

oo la la

i made a small mistake and told a mean entitled boy we could get down and dirty. red flags all over that one so i'm backing out. also just ew what was i thinking.

I assume you were thinking “dat ass, tho”

omg what does he look like

weirdly i can't get down with fuckwads anymore, i didn't used to care but i'm just not attracted to it anymore

djp is otm. idk how to say what he looks like, he's kind of a pretty boy. dark almost-black flowing hair. pouty clean-shaven face. he wore a 90s pac sun tshirt and fluorescent purple short shorts to my dj gig on sunday - he was very much aiming for me and the only reason i crossed the line with a text message saying we should hook up was 'dat ass, tho'. now i'm ghosting lol.

i really don't think i'm 'into younger guys' to an unhealthy degree thank goodness (where power / maturity balance is out of whack in a gross way), but i had this really hot hookup about five years ago with a very pretty guy in his mid 20s. we did it in his bedroom in a trailer (shared with roommates not family), he had those glow-in-the-dark stars on his ceiling and he played an edm mix for the soundtrack, it was really great. also 'dat ass tho'.

a few days ago my boyfriend made the first move re the opening things up conversation we've been having for the last year or so, and i'm really proud of him, because i wasn't sure if he really wanted to or not, so i was hesitating. and now it's like, kind of a rush of energy knowing my desire has a new freedom, but also realizing i'm not very good at pursuing side things because social skills. anyway he's been really great at giving me feedback on it <3.

oh, my boyfriend talked to this guy briefly at the gig. he was talking to his girlfriend about road trips, j. asked him if he was taking one soon, he said yeah, and then something to the effect of "but it's really annoying when friends flake out on you because they don't have enough money." bleh.

How you guys handling hookups and dates during COVID? I've requested home tests before we meet.

that sounds like an excellent idea.

omg a lot happens in two days. my blackberry almost got me laid last night. i have no idea Alfred but now the pox has me buggin too like... don't want to touch anyone.

map the introvert extravert dissonance is real. it's okay to flirt with someone who isn't entirely you tho. and fun is one of the most important things you can have. but also you don't have to talk to literally anyone you don't want to.

i forgot what good flirting felt like until last night, how it's not forced! next on my relearning the trade tour is going to be info exchange.

ps opening things up oww owwwwwwww
what kind of experiences u want to have will be fun to figure out

A guy on Scruff just asked me if I’m Ashkenazi or Sephardic. Never gotten that one before! (I’m Roman Catholic.)

haha! i mean, it doesn't strike me as an entirely off the mark assumption.

i can't stop laughing at this

would nondisabled people PLEASE stop using accessible stalls!? i need to have sex in there

— jackie quinn 👉👉 (@llcooljackie) July 31, 2022

went on a nice couples date dinner last night. we were talking about the heat. one of the other two, j., said that the other day a coworker asked him if he had been working out. j. was like yeah, i'm back into it, i'm eating a lot of chicken and tuna and stuff. the coworker was like no, i mean because your back's all sweaty.

I saw a Matmos concert the night before last and it was indisputably the best gig I've seen in many years

The crowd was wonderfully attractive, it felt like we were all at the secret gay beach that only cool people know about

A fun weekend! I hit on two guys, both with boyfriends.

very nice! i went to a pool party on saturday night and had a good time but didn't talk to anyone for 2.5 hours until my boyfriend showed up! i wanted to but major social anxiety. it's about time i go back to therapy specifically for that.

I looove pool parties.

I had no luck with the dudes other than one giving me his number, but to be back on the field felt nice.

it was fun tbh. a fundraiser for the burning man fire performer group my boyfriend is a part of haha. there was a boylesque number featuring a thick man in a santa suit who stripped down to a red lame bikini with the small gap in the back that shows a little bit of crack. all to "father figure" by george michael. very amusing. lots of louche swinger-with-money energy in the air.

i mean, it doesn't strike me as an entirely off the mark assumption.

i've def been mistaken for jewish IRL before (the mitzvah mobile ppl in NYC used to flag me down all the time), just never on a dating/hookup app lol.

my family (mom + two brothers + brother's gf who i met for the first time) were all in town visiting this week, we took them around LA before spending two days at disneyland and the weekend in las vegas. my mom tested positive for covid on the second day of the disney trip so she sadly had to spend most of her time quarantined in her hotel room, but she felt fine enough on the last day in vegas to gamble and go out to dinner. in vegas we mostly hung out by the pool while the rest of my family hit the casinos. saturday night my husband and i escaped the hotel and went to a couple gay bars off the strip: the fun hog ranch (excellent name but a little too crowded/hot for our tastes) and the garage (chill, lots of cuties, and FOOD omg i love when gay bars serve food). i think i decided i love las vegas? i'd like to visit more often - it's monstrous and weird but also kinda thrilling.

oh that sounds great. i used to hate vegas but like you i thrill to some of the excitement there now. off the strip is where it's at, though last time we were there we hung out at the cosmopolitan because my boyfriend's sister and her husband were staying there for a convention. we bought swimming suits, took edibles and went to the pool. amazing buffet there lol. in the area where those bars are, there is a giant plaza with two bathhouses, an actual workout gym, a couple of good gay bars and tons of good restaurants. i could make that area my las vegas destination, plus a dispensary a few blocks away, and be happy tbh.

I didn't realize there were gay bars at the Cosmopolitan! I love that place. so glad you went in the pool. Vegas is totally awesome, I would go back in a heartbeat. wait can you imagine how much fun it would be if we had a meetup there? ......

just got back from fire island - I kissed two boys and had a little fun with the second, a super handsome and sweet Israeli dude. papa's first bag since chemo. it was about time!!

MAP I am THE world's expert on social anxiety. srsly if you ever wanna chat about that lmk.

sorry my post was really unclear, jumping around all over the place. i meant in the area of the gay bars that dr went to.

hmmmmm i would actually really appreciate chatting with you about it, especially any scripts or pointers you might have. i kind of feel like at this point i just need to script some lines out and practice. swen can i find you on socials? my webmail here is long gone but you can always drop me a line at struggin at gmail dot com.

i think the Tropicana is the one that has a big gay pool party in the summer - the last time my husband and i went to Vegas we went to it, and then shortly after leaving i broke my foot lol. would absolutely do a gayLX meetup in vegas!!

anyone else gotten the MPX or MPV or whatever shot? i took the first dose on tuesday, didn’t really feel any soreness until today weirdly but it’s definitely achin’, oof

would absolutely do a gayLX meetup in vegas!!

omg cosign.

that reminds me i need to get on the dept of health list.

the mpx mention that is.

yes I got my first! absolutely no side effects - now I have to get an appt for the 2nd.

map of course - it's so funny you mention you'd like to write out scripts because I was literally just setting my weekly reminder to go through the calendar and figure out when I have to set aside time to "cope ahead" for major stress moments. I'm a dork! @ramiallavodka on ig

I'm all about trips these days, I just got started to thinking that I want to go to Reno as well :D I'm going to the Netherlands for the holidays!! traveling alone and zoned about it.

snap and sizzle, August fizzle, how y'all doin'?, life's a riddle!

I'm a little thicker around the middle. So is Blache!

hahahahahaha <3 me2

I was in NYC last weekend and saw A Strange Loop, which was a trip and a half; if you can swing tickets I strongly recommend going, the story rules and the cast is incredible, especially the lead (he just finished college last year)

I just ended a Zoom interview with Narada Michael Walden.

!

hold up i thought that was the head of new age label narada or something, not the drummer for journey

well, he WAS, but you'd forgive me for wanting to ask about "How Will I Know," "Attack of the Name Game," and "Vision of Love."

oh dang, didn't he only start 2 years ago? life comes at you fast even when you're old :|

whoa that’s awesome alfred

i am very keen to see ‘a strange loop’, hoping it travels to LA at some point

i am going to a golden girls drag performance tomorrow night!

sorta forgot he was in the Mahavishnu Orchestra!

I still don’t know how you pronounce Narada. Is it nuh-RAR-da or is it NArruh-da?

my husband's off to burning man and i just booked a cheap motel in vegas for the weekend. i deserve korean food, weed and a trip to the bathhouse!

lol my oldest pal's there too -- first time! He's there for drugs and orgies.

well who isn't? i'm a little worried about the heat tbh. i think i wanna go out to a gay club too. get real fucked up on diet coke. maybe talk to a stranger.

vegas trip canceled - too hot! going to western colorado instead. a little less hot, and nature sounds more restorative than a cheap vegas trip alone.

wish i could rendezvous with ilxor pals instead - california or chicago or east coast or britain / scotland! gotta plan something, maybe next year.

rebooked vegas and canceled colorado. i need an adventure, not the same old. not sure why i'm serial blogging about this in the queer thread lol. maybe i'll have a good follow-up story or two. they might not be good but i'll still put them here probably lol.

I am appreciating it. I’m going to spend the weekend with my kids and I’m excited about it, but I’m also excited that others are planning their own getaways of whatever fashion

that's awesome, very glad to hear that!

ok so i might go to this pool party at the luxor

Temptation Sundays is the longest Running LGBTQ+ pool party in Las Vegas has become a must-do event. Summer is about to get even hotter.

featuring dj nick stracener, a semi-hairy ken doll who plays ... wait for it ... tribal house

i just want to be in some water somewhere at some point, and it's only $20

feel like you gotta