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A fun weekend! I hit on two guys, both with boyfriends.

very nice! i went to a pool party on saturday night and had a good time but didn't talk to anyone for 2.5 hours until my boyfriend showed up! i wanted to but major social anxiety. it's about time i go back to therapy specifically for that.

I looove pool parties.

I had no luck with the dudes other than one giving me his number, but to be back on the field felt nice.

it was fun tbh. a fundraiser for the burning man fire performer group my boyfriend is a part of haha. there was a boylesque number featuring a thick man in a santa suit who stripped down to a red lame bikini with the small gap in the back that shows a little bit of crack. all to "father figure" by george michael. very amusing. lots of louche swinger-with-money energy in the air.

i mean, it doesn't strike me as an entirely off the mark assumption.

i've def been mistaken for jewish IRL before (the mitzvah mobile ppl in NYC used to flag me down all the time), just never on a dating/hookup app lol.

my family (mom + two brothers + brother's gf who i met for the first time) were all in town visiting this week, we took them around LA before spending two days at disneyland and the weekend in las vegas. my mom tested positive for covid on the second day of the disney trip so she sadly had to spend most of her time quarantined in her hotel room, but she felt fine enough on the last day in vegas to gamble and go out to dinner. in vegas we mostly hung out by the pool while the rest of my family hit the casinos. saturday night my husband and i escaped the hotel and went to a couple gay bars off the strip: the fun hog ranch (excellent name but a little too crowded/hot for our tastes) and the garage (chill, lots of cuties, and FOOD omg i love when gay bars serve food). i think i decided i love las vegas? i'd like to visit more often - it's monstrous and weird but also kinda thrilling.

oh that sounds great. i used to hate vegas but like you i thrill to some of the excitement there now. off the strip is where it's at, though last time we were there we hung out at the cosmopolitan because my boyfriend's sister and her husband were staying there for a convention. we bought swimming suits, took edibles and went to the pool. amazing buffet there lol. in the area where those bars are, there is a giant plaza with two bathhouses, an actual workout gym, a couple of good gay bars and tons of good restaurants. i could make that area my las vegas destination, plus a dispensary a few blocks away, and be happy tbh.

I didn't realize there were gay bars at the Cosmopolitan! I love that place. so glad you went in the pool. Vegas is totally awesome, I would go back in a heartbeat. wait can you imagine how much fun it would be if we had a meetup there? ......

just got back from fire island - I kissed two boys and had a little fun with the second, a super handsome and sweet Israeli dude. papa's first bag since chemo. it was about time!!

MAP I am THE world's expert on social anxiety. srsly if you ever wanna chat about that lmk.

sorry my post was really unclear, jumping around all over the place. i meant in the area of the gay bars that dr went to.

hmmmmm i would actually really appreciate chatting with you about it, especially any scripts or pointers you might have. i kind of feel like at this point i just need to script some lines out and practice. swen can i find you on socials? my webmail here is long gone but you can always drop me a line at struggin at gmail dot com.

i think the Tropicana is the one that has a big gay pool party in the summer - the last time my husband and i went to Vegas we went to it, and then shortly after leaving i broke my foot lol. would absolutely do a gayLX meetup in vegas!!

anyone else gotten the MPX or MPV or whatever shot? i took the first dose on tuesday, didn’t really feel any soreness until today weirdly but it’s definitely achin’, oof

would absolutely do a gayLX meetup in vegas!!

omg cosign.

that reminds me i need to get on the dept of health list.

the mpx mention that is.

yes I got my first! absolutely no side effects - now I have to get an appt for the 2nd.

map of course - it's so funny you mention you'd like to write out scripts because I was literally just setting my weekly reminder to go through the calendar and figure out when I have to set aside time to "cope ahead" for major stress moments. I'm a dork! @ramiallavodka on ig

I'm all about trips these days, I just got started to thinking that I want to go to Reno as well :D I'm going to the Netherlands for the holidays!! traveling alone and zoned about it.

snap and sizzle, August fizzle, how y'all doin'?, life's a riddle!

I'm a little thicker around the middle. So is Blache!

hahahahahaha <3 me2

I was in NYC last weekend and saw A Strange Loop, which was a trip and a half; if you can swing tickets I strongly recommend going, the story rules and the cast is incredible, especially the lead (he just finished college last year)

I just ended a Zoom interview with Narada Michael Walden.

!

hold up i thought that was the head of new age label narada or something, not the drummer for journey

well, he WAS, but you'd forgive me for wanting to ask about "How Will I Know," "Attack of the Name Game," and "Vision of Love."

oh dang, didn't he only start 2 years ago? life comes at you fast even when you're old :|

whoa that’s awesome alfred

i am very keen to see ‘a strange loop’, hoping it travels to LA at some point

i am going to a golden girls drag performance tomorrow night!

sorta forgot he was in the Mahavishnu Orchestra!

I still don’t know how you pronounce Narada. Is it nuh-RAR-da or is it NArruh-da?

my husband's off to burning man and i just booked a cheap motel in vegas for the weekend. i deserve korean food, weed and a trip to the bathhouse!

lol my oldest pal's there too -- first time! He's there for drugs and orgies.

well who isn't? i'm a little worried about the heat tbh. i think i wanna go out to a gay club too. get real fucked up on diet coke. maybe talk to a stranger.

vegas trip canceled - too hot! going to western colorado instead. a little less hot, and nature sounds more restorative than a cheap vegas trip alone.

wish i could rendezvous with ilxor pals instead - california or chicago or east coast or britain / scotland! gotta plan something, maybe next year.

rebooked vegas and canceled colorado. i need an adventure, not the same old. not sure why i'm serial blogging about this in the queer thread lol. maybe i'll have a good follow-up story or two. they might not be good but i'll still put them here probably lol.

I am appreciating it. I’m going to spend the weekend with my kids and I’m excited about it, but I’m also excited that others are planning their own getaways of whatever fashion

that's awesome, very glad to hear that!

ok so i might go to this pool party at the luxor

Temptation Sundays is the longest Running LGBTQ+ pool party in Las Vegas has become a must-do event. Summer is about to get even hotter.

featuring dj nick stracener, a semi-hairy ken doll who plays ... wait for it ... tribal house

i just want to be in some water somewhere at some point, and it's only $20

feel like you gotta

So! An hour into a date it come up in conversation that he's...not vaccinated. When asked why, I get the excuse salad with the same dressing: I'm young (24), I'm healthy, FREEDOM. We did make out but after dropping me off I rinsed my mouth with kinds of Scope.

I think he saw he'd infuriated me.

xps high five ok. at least i know there's good food and a good gym close by where i'm staying. my motel is likely pretty dumpy, hard to tell exactly how bad it is from the internet. person on the phone was nice enough. it's probably fine.

aw alf you deserve better than this

thanks, map. I need a good bacchanal like yours.

i'm more risk-averse than i used to be. i feel more vulnerable as a low-mid income person. cutting loose has gotta be on a budget, and there's safety to consider. glad i don't drink anymore, that was going to catch up with me sooner or later. i'll make the 6 hour drive and probably take it pretty easy. vegas can be intense especially at the budget level haha. but i'm going to do my best to keep it light and have some low key fun.

I'm more risk-averse too, in large part thanks to COVID.

it's so funny i'm sharing all this here. anyway, this motel canceled my (re)-reservation, because they thought that maybe they hadn't cancelled it right the first time. i don't believe in the "universe nudging me in the right direction" but in this case i'm going with that. i realized i didn't actually want to go anywhere, i was just trying to distract myself from feeling lonely. so i'm taking a nice long staycation this weekend and i already have plans with at least two friends :)

one reason that staying home has become more compelling option for me in the past few years is that a well-off friend of my man gifted us a really expensive mattress, by far the most comfortable thing i've ever slept on. i didn't know that simply laying on a thing could be like that haha. so now i feel this shudder of horror in my body when i contemplate sleeping on the mattress at a budget motel, and even the nicer places i've stayed at can't compare.

anyway i feel content, glad i'm not on the road alone. i hope everyone who posts here is doing well or at least hanging in there in their various circumstances.

hi queers

we're getting through it are we not?

i have a pretty firm rule on socials, if anyone posts anything fawning about this one human who recently died, that's an immediate unfriend/unfollow. idk it feels good to be strict about these things sometimes, like i have values and i honor them, you know?

lol what a silly post. anyway, wishing decent or indecent weekends to everyone.

You're good, map. I like to know my queers are okay.

:)

Just wanted to check in and say the long weekend with my kids was fantastic and my partner is really fantastic with them in terms of not letting them get away with being assholes while also following my lead on discipline and not overstepping, it’s amazing to watch really

An hour into a date it come up in conversation that he's...not vaccinated. When asked why, I get the excuse salad with the same dressing: I'm young (24), I'm healthy, FREEDOM. We did make out but after dropping me off I rinsed my mouth with kinds of Scope.

― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn),

Soooo not worth it imo. Alfred, you're a gentleman. You don't need this.

My aunt went to the Luxor once. She brought me back a mug with my name spelled out in hieroglyphics.

thank you

agreed.

HI EVERYONE. map i am thoroughly entertained by your Destinations Unknown live blog.

i don't have much to report other than i've been getting laid which is nice. this thing is happening though where i'm not sure how to disentangle myself from someone once we've hooked up and they're interested in more. like sometimes a thing is just a thing, let's move on etc. but i'm super not good at the "i'm not really up for anything more" talk - historically i've been more of a fizzle-outer. am i dick?? :/