Posts you had second thought about and decided not to post - put them here

Xpost that’s why I said “after this post” ;)

keep writing how you want to write. <3

oh god donald trump Did Something again i guess

AI is really coming on in leaps and bounds-uh

on threads like this i start to feel like the only man with a smartphone who has never photographed —or indeed, ever had the urge to photograph— my genitals.

like for real ... i'm really not sure how else to put this, but sometimes I don't even want to see it. WHY WOULD ANYONE ELSE?

I hear you.

i think most guys don't photograph or send people pictures of their dicks, but the people who do it _really_ get into it.

i find i appreciate cocks more now that i don't have one myself, particularly if the photos are _consensually_ shared. i don't really get turned _on_ by genital photography and never have, but sometimes someone will post a picture of their dick and i'll just be like, gee, that's a really good-looking dick. i'm particularly appreciative of meta dicks. i think metas are super underrated. i understand _why_ metas get stigmatized, but honestly i think they look really damn good.

guys who send unsolicited dick pics, though... even if they're nice dicks, they generally just don't take the time and effort to make the pictures look good. like come on, at least take some pride in your appearance. clean the damn mirror first.

There's a lot about what is supposedly common hetero male behavior that I don't get. Dick pics is one, going to strip clubs is another, hell, cheating on one's SO. I've been married for almost 30 years. For five of those years I worked in the porn industry. In other jobs, I have supervised young female interns and employees. I've never hit on any of them; I've never been to a strip club; I've never had the urge to make any kind of move in the direction of someone I'm not married to. It's not like I learned by example, either; my dad left my mom when I was 11. It's just...not how I'm wired.

There's a lot about what is supposedly common hetero male behavior that I don't get. Dick pics is one, going to strip clubs is another, hell, cheating on one's SO. I've been married for almost 30 years. For five of those years I worked in the porn industry. In other jobs, I have supervised young female interns and employees. I've never hit on any of them; I've never been to a strip club; I've never had the urge to make any kind of move in the direction of someone I'm not married to. It's not like I learned by example, either; my dad left my mom when I was 11. It's just...not how I'm wired.

― but also fuck you (unperson)

idk, did you want to be like your dad? sometimes parents can be reverse role models.

the idea of being "wired" a certain way is a challenging one for me... i've changed a lot in a lot of different ways. hopefully mostly for the better!

i never meta dick i didn't like

I sent some on request one time, the degree of difficulty on taking a not-terrible dick pick is double black diamond level.

Just google pristine dick and put your own watermark/logo on it

i recommend using a timer, leaving some kind of clothing on, and just generally pretending like you’re taking a sexy “nude” instead of a “dick pic”

i sent my girlfriend once a bottomless Aladdin pic during sexting, where I wore a Disney Aladdin top and nothing else.

she...uh, thought it was more funny than sexy, but that's me.

my friends have a deliberately bad gift white elephant exchange every year and my friend once got a photobook of dick pics where said dicks were measured against toilet paper rolls and television remotes and etc. it was amazing

were any of them measured against a can of monster energy

but as much as that book was a work of art it speaks to what i dislike of the dick pic form… disembodied hand, disembodied dick, inorganic object for scale. so much of what i find sexy and when i find myself sexy have to do with being embodied

not that dick pics by and large are intended by their makers to be “sexy” lol but we’ve covered this

oh my god i had no idea what thread i was posting in

Honor thy second thought as your hidden intention

Oh my God Karen, you can't just ask people why they're there!

Posts you had third thoughts about and posted anyway

when the Louis CK story broke I remember a lot of people expressing bewilderment at why anyone would behave in such a way, but but it seemed obvious to me that it was based in self-loathing and fear, the thought process is something like 'I am attracted to this woman - I fear that if she knew I was attracted to her then she would be horrified and disgusted, and this makes me feel bad and powerless - I will intentionally horrify and disgust her by doing something horrifying and disgusting, therefore I *chose* to make her disgusted, I am the one with the power and the agency' - the fear motivating him is that she would be disgusted anyway, even if he didn't expose himself. I have to assume the psychology behind sending unsolicited/obviously unwanted dick pics is something similar, even if the senders are not necessarily consciously aware of this themselves?

NB I have never sent an unsolicited dick pic or exposed myself to anyone, this is just a theory, but you see this patten often enough in other areas of life - it can be cathartic to act out your fears and anxieties in a 'safe' environment where you are ultimately in control, that's part of the reason why people like horror movies and true crime stuff, though obviously that's different from using other people as non-consensual props in this process.

Gremlin funko pop for scale

rubber witch finger for scale

Thisdickdoesnotexist.com

― Mar - a - Lago, or 120 Days of Sodom (Boring, Maryland)

god that almost makes me wish i had a picture of my original equipment to contribute

i do have friends who have done the clone-a-willy thing before getting vaginoplasties just so they can go fuck themselves

Posts you had third thoughts about and posted anyway

― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn)

posts you had no thoughts head empty about and posted anyway

when the Louis CK story broke I remember a lot of people expressing bewilderment at why anyone would behave in such a way, but but it seemed obvious to me that it was based in self-loathing and fear, the thought process is something like 'I am attracted to this woman - I fear that if she knew I was attracted to her then she would be horrified and disgusted, and this makes me feel bad and powerless - I will intentionally horrify and disgust her by doing something horrifying and disgusting, therefore I *chose* to make her disgusted, I am the one with the power and the agency' - the fear motivating him is that she would be disgusted anyway, even if he didn't expose himself. I have to assume the psychology behind sending unsolicited/obviously unwanted dick pics is something similar, even if the senders are not necessarily consciously aware of this themselves?

― soref

i understand a whole lot about subconscious self-sabotage, but i also have a tendency to... make judgements about other people's motivations that assume they have the same motivations as me. that's one of the reasons i'm pretty careful about trying to understand other people's reasons for things. it has a lot of bearing on whether we view what they did as understandable and human or as alien and monstrous.

marilyn manson, for instance, marilyn manson sort of horrifies me for different reasons than maybe other people are horrified by him. you read the stories and there's this whole lurid ritual which i guess maybe looks to some people like something out of suspiria, like he might as well have had a random room full of barbed wire somewhere, and i hear about it and i'm like "jesus fuck why do people in the bdsm scene never take into account _systemic power imbalances_ when negotiating consent, this is _exactly_ why i'm not going out to kink clubs these days" - it's horrifying not because it's so lurid, but because i've seen similar things happen _so many times_.

what was the Silicon Valley app "hot dog or dick"?

posts you had no thoughts head empty about and posted anyway

― Kate (rushomancy),

Seriously, Kate? I was making light of a series of lighthearted posts. I already responded seriously to the exhibition question in the other thread. Jesus.

If your automatic response to longtime posters who bear you no ill will is to go on the offensive, then we have nothing to say to each other.

If your automatic response to longtime posters who bear you no ill will is to go on the offensive, then we have nothing to say to each other.

― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn)

alfred it was just a meme, it wasn't addressed to you. "no thoughts head empty" is how trans people with breeding kinks talk about themselves when they're in subspace.

(for the record i don't have a breeding kink, that i know of)

sorry, apologiess

dick pics you had second thought about

sorry, apologiess

― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn)

no worries. i wouldn't go after somebody like that. especially not you. not only do i have no beef with you, i think you're a good guy.

now everybody hug!

further thoughts that i thought were not appropriate elsewhere-

similar to catcalling it is not intended to "work" it is just an assertion of power

this brought on an especially upsetting thing that haven't thought about in lifetimes.

I UNDERSTAND THAT YOU MAY TAKE ME AS A JOKEY KIND OF POSTER IN GENERAL* BUT PLEASE TAKE THIS TRIGGER WARNING VERY SERIOUSLY. IT IS NOT A HAPPY THING.

any time we went anywhere or did anything in public with my father -anywhere there were unfamiliar women- he would talk to me directly about which of those women "wanted to get fucked." usually followed by, "whoo", "oh yeah", etc. i have no memory of of a period of time where he wasn't doing it and he had weekend visitations from when i was ~2 until 14 or so. insert everythingisfine.png meme of choice.

(probably not that uncommon unfortunately)

otherwise just wanted to say it feels inappropriate to just pop in and be like whoa guyz yall so rite but everyone is otm as it gets in that thread. as you were.

*(ty if so btw ily)

awwww hugs austin

it has a lot of bearing on whether we view what they did as understandable and human or as alien and monstrous.

from my perspective anything a human does is human by definition and is almost always understandable, at least to some degree, if enough thought is devoted to understanding how it arose. but understanding is different than condoning or even neutrality, because human minds are capable of anything and everything up to the furthest limits of our imagining, including the purest cruelty and crimes against life itself. within the seething chaos that is humankind these things happen every day.

read that in david attenborough's voice over footage from a Dave & Buster's

but that paragraph strangely seems to circumnavigate the trap rusho describes before still somehow falling into it.

hey everybody, it's (almost) Labor Day!

the most unwanted thoughts

oh fuck this is ILE lol bye

oh fuck this is ILE lol bye

― imago

i'm just glad somebody got my komar & melamid reference tbh

lol you're not even the only one, i posted that and ruminated for 20 minutes, "why am i making that reference, nobody's going to get that reference"

•REDACTED•, I'm kind of in awe of how you've managed to cram so much narcissistic bilge into just one lil insufferably pretentious post.

i don't think Pizza Hut adverts are that difficult

so according to this chart you should be about three months in, however, i'm at the three year mark and i cry frequently so i'm not sure how reliable it is

https://i.redd.it/3lf7dtonwxry.png

lmao

the next few years are gonna be wild!