Let's bitch about our stupid, annoying co-workers

so one of our new hires was struggling in class and we put them on a 3-day improvement plan, and the TM has transparently tried to interfere in the process, trying to pressure the instructors to fail her on the plan since Day 1 (which would end her employment).

she wound up passing, and he is refusing to budge. I am in process of determining whether I go to HR to complain about his interference. As it stands, if we did fail her now and she complained to HR, I am 100% sure they would side with her, noting in the email trail that it seemed the TM was pushing for a result before it even began.

and this is after I explained this to him multiple times over three days. at this point just to spite him I would have passed her even if she showed up to the session and took a shit on camera.

does the shitting relate to her job duties? I mean, if someone takes a shit on camera and there is no one there to watch it?

Goddamn, please just quit. Please. You are miserable here, I get it. But please stop subjecting the rest of us to the constant complaints and bitching, the negativity you radiate is soul destroying.

Thought you were referring to an ilx poster, which would’ve been reasonable

Ha, no. Just a co-worker that is driving me particularly nuts today. I've been out of the office for about three weeks dealing with a series of family emergencies so, admittedly, my priorities and what is actually important have shifted, but her constant bitching and complaining about everything are soul-draining today. Sure, there are valid frustrations worth venting about, but she actively seeks out new things to be miserable about and absolutely insists on rubbing those miserable things in other peoples' faces.

I mean, not to belabor the point, but this is just a small sample of quote from her during just the three hours I've been in the office with her:

"I hate his fucking face, retire already dude"
"Don't fucking call me, I sent you an email"
"Oh my god, I can't believe they gave (random person x) this new title, that's absolute bullshit"
"Oh and look, (random person y) got a promotion, what an absolute slap in the fucking face"
"Just seeing his car makes me so angry"
"I've only cried about this place three times this week"

"I order you to be quiet!"

see as much as I ever griped about my own company, out loud outbursts are something I'd consider out of bounds when I was in an office. nobody wants to hear my internal monologue and being on the receiving end of it is massively aggravating. if ya gotta vent, find a vent buddy and do so electronically, and make sure you listen to them vent too (like me and my boss's boss).

like i'd be tempted to tell that woman "this isn't your private suite here, other people can hear you". we used to have one who would loudly berate her kid on the phone and bang her fist on the desk aggressively. and another one who'd go on loud rants until his boss came over to him and said "I'm tired of having people complain to me about you - do you hear yourself?"

*about you to me!

Oh she knows very well that other people can hear her, these aren't outbursts, she specifically walks over to other people to share these thoughts. Headphones are no deterrent, she wants the audience and if you don't at least acknowledge her complaint of the minute, she'll keep throwing more at you until you engage to her satisfaction. It's exhausting.

You can't tell her to leave you alone?

xpost - lol, as I was typing that last one she walked back over to complain about some email she got. One would think after my tenth straight noncommittal grunt in response, she'd get a hint, but nope. As another coworker, he days are filled with reminding us that she's the main character around here.

As professionally and non-confrontationally as I can, yes. Multiple times. It doesn't phase her.

"another coworker says, her days"

Anyway, she's always been like this. I don't know if it's just gotten worse while I was away from the office, or I'm just much more sensitive to it after the personal challenges I've had, but good lord it's just a neverending stream. I think the problem is that the two other people in the office she does this to openly encourage her bitching.

Seems like someone should fire her tbqh

If only. She's been threatening to quit since I started four years ago, but sadly absolutely zero follow-through on that. She's very good at holding her complaints in when anyone with any power whatsoever is within earshot.

she may be annoying, but she's not stupid

I would be strongly tempted to tell her exactly what Jon posted.

my company fired someone toxic like this back in 2006. she was about 65 years old, claimed to everyone she was married to a 'rich' husband, didn't 'need' this job but wanted it because she liked helping customers (despite complaining about every one of them), would claim to not be racist and use phrases like "towelhead", also shared someone's confidential HIV diagnosis with another colleague without his permission.

it still took two years to get rid of her due to our HR always wanting to 'give another chance'.

jon have you considered playing grindcore really loudly so that it bleeds out of your headphones and she can hear it? and then point at your headphones and shrug every time she comes over?

lol that wouldn't work but it'd be fun trolling.

lol, I was actually listening to Cattle Decapitation earlier when she came over.

I mean, I've literally picked up my earbuds and put them back in my ears while she's talking at me, I think I'll have to be even more direct.

time to bring in an airhorn

Remind me again, jvc, do you have an HR dependent at your work? I would absolutely talk with them about this if so, though I think you probably have exhausted this avenue already.

I have not formally pursued that path yet, no. Our HR process is extremely formal and distant, and I've heard a few horror stories about how they've handed some complaints in the past.

I think I need to document some specific ways she's impacting my work, otherwise I feel like my complaints might be dismissed as churlish whining.

Maybe you can just tell her "you're too blessed to be stressed" and then discuss the bowel movements of a member of your family? Idk ... like, this seems like something that can be resolved with direct communication. Just tell her straight up that you know this job is frustrating but you're trying to get through the day and hearing her complain makes it worse for you, and you have other serious personal shit going on and you don't have the capacity to listen to her while you're at work. Straight up.

The problem there is that then it becomes about whether jvc says something that she could find objectionable and complain about— not that you would, jvc, but I think that your strategy is a better response. sarahell’s is much funnier, admittedly lol

"If you don't tell me about your husband's bowels, we. Have. A. Problem."

I am going to preface from here on out, any post I make itt is just sardonic eye-rolly stuff, not a reflection of active rage.

they asked me to review some powerpoints that were being created for training. I was supposed to have them 1/3, I got them yesterday, and was asked to do them by EOB today.

I opened them and almost howled laughing at how bad they are. too much text on slides, paragraphs on bullet points, inconsistency in presentation.

When it was evident I can't fix this mess without doing it myself, I deleted my initial feedback ("delete these files, please take the following course on Powerpoint development, then do these over"), and just gave them a list of the most actionable stuff and sent it to them. it's still gonna be a turd but w/e, I get credit for polishing it.

i think i still am naive enough to be surprised that people get paid significant amounts of money to do things they don't know how to do ... as in, presumably these powerpoints were created by people whose jobs it is to create training materials?

they're hired to be training specialists, but I sincerely doubt any of them know Powerpoint very well. it's not really emphasized. I happened to know it pretty well coming in, but people know just enough to know how to put dots on a page and that's it.

when I started here in 2004, on Day 1, we were tasked with creating a Powerpoint in groups and present it to one of the area leaders, and I took over because one of my partners was telling people to write the Ppt in paragraph form and clearly had no idea what she was doing, and I was like "uhh no, my reputation is at stake here". lol.

like, I do a fair amount of work for/with nonprofits that are largely volunteer run ... and this is the type of thing I will see/deal with there. Like the volunteer who is de facto in charge of marketing/outreach who sent out a mailchimp newsletter asking people to contribute to the org's Godfundme campaign

convo between me and a co-worker, who I will call Gweezybork

Gweezybork: Neanderthal, learner can't get into our call interaction program, she's tried, she's opened a ticket with IT, nothing happens when she clicks logon button.

Neanderthal: guarantee you she's not connected to VPN, that's literally the cause 999 out of 1000 times

Gweezybork: now she can't get into this other application as well

Neanderthal: ok, pretty obvious she's not on VPN, that's why she can't get into any application.

Gweezybork: She tried to reinstall the program, that's not working

Neanderthal: It's almost as if SHE'S NOT CONNECTED TO VPN, can you tell her that now that I've asked three times?

Gweezybork: You were right, she was disconnected from VPN.

(this person didn't notice they were disconnected for 3 whole hours)

same person sends follow up messages about the issue as if the conversation earlier didn't happen, and then doesn't respond to a single follow-up message for two hours (finally had to enter their class and physically say "please see your side chat - now")

"did the survey email go out yesterday morning? I don't have a copy"

"yes, I'll forward to you"

"thank you, but that is the email from Tuesday morning, I need the one from yesterday morning."

"oh! sent"

"Thank you, but this is from Tuesday afternoon. I need the one from yesterday morning (Wednesday)."

"ok. sent."

"This is the same email you just sent me."

"Neanderthal, calling you"

*ring*

"So to confirm, you need the email from Tuesday, right?"

"NO I NEED THE GODDAMN EMAIL FROM YESTERDAY AM I TAKING CRAZY PILLS?"

teacher in my department likes to tell students "i am a college professor"

reality: they participated in guest lectures for a non-credit-bearing online course from an online university that doesn't award degrees

Lol damn

inveterate self-aggrandizing bullshitters are everywhere in education. and they always fail up

maybe that's also true of college professors and public service jobs in general

actually maybe that's just the human condition, idk

inveterate self-aggrandizing bullshitters are everywhere in education. and they always fail up

maybe that's also true of college professors and public service jobs in general

actually maybe that's just the human condition, idk

― the late great, Thursday, January 26, 2023 10:57 AM (four days ago)

human condition imo ... one of my nonprofit clients recently hired a finance manager who claimed they had expertise in all the things ... over the past couple months, this person has issued authoritative statements on various topics that are consistently wrong. Like, factually wrong. This person is being paid twice what I am being paid. This person is also not really doing their job? As in, most of the tasks requiring technical expertise have now become tasks assigned to me. The culture of this nonprofit is very much about the person managing the work actually does a lot of the work themselves, so it is feeling like "not a good fit" ... this is the fourth person they have hired in the past 6 months to do this work. The previous three were even more incompetent.

I get the sense that this person is used to working in a more institutional/corporate environment and not for a volunteer run nonprofit that is like Murphy's Law incarnate

the dramatic landscape at my workplace is largely shaped by a long simmering antagonism between my manager (breathtakingly incompetent human silo who repels all collaboration) and coworker (hard-working and passionate but maybe a little too attached). i very much side with the coworker but sometimes find it useful to be a little more neutral because it's easier to sidestep / ignore the long-winded email chains etc. the truth is that no one here (gov agency) has very much actual work they have to do, but everyone wants to feel like they are important so this kind of bullshit just naturally emerges i think. i'm realizing that it really doesn't work for me to get ensnared in all of it - sometimes i don't have much of a choice, but often i do, and the choice sometimes feels like a "bad" one - to check out - but it's actually good. it's weird having a job where no one really has to do much but everyone pretends that they do. there's a lot of making stuff up to do that gets praised. funny how just not doing anything, even if you can get away with it, is stressful in its own way.

i try and "do 1 thing" at least every day lol, otherwise i feel way too disconnected.

that was less about stressful coworkers and more about my bizarre job and possible adhd-related work avoidance.

it's weird having a job where no one really has to do much but everyone pretends that they do.

omg this is hilarious but also .... I can see how it can get super toxic.

some middle schoolers are watching a nutrition video about eating less carbs and more legumes in my classroom (rainy day PE class) ... the narrator keeps saying "when you eat a nut" and this stupid annoying idiot teacher keeps giggling

oh wait, that stupid annoying idiot teacher is me

(i know nuts are not technically legumes)

peanuts are

if you ask me an hour ago if I have 5 minutes to talk, and I say yes, and you don't respond for an hour, my "yes I'm available" is no longer valid.

O. T. MMMMM

So I've spent most of the day trying to herd cats enough to schedule a meeting for next week between two researchers, two outside consultants and my boss. Finally got things nailed down enough between the outside consultants and sent the two researchers a list of seven possible times. At 3:20 I sent out the email with the list of time. 3:25 - Researcher A responds and says they can only do Time Slot B and Time Slot D. 3:36 - Researcher B responds and says they can only do Time Slot D. Great, at least we all overlap on one! 3:40 - sent out the invite to everyone. 3:48 - Researcher B's assistant declines invitation and says, "sorry, Researcher B has now filled up that time slot".

So I am back to square one for the week after next because, of course, Researcher B is the most critical stakeholder to be at this meeting.

I don't think these people deserve to have a meeting

The double/triple/quadruple time slot meeting bookings at my company are completely out of control.However, I particularly hate meetings more than a half long and they all are but I realized if I’m triple/quadruple booked I don’t have to go to any meetings because everyone just assumes I’m in one of the other meetings. Problem solved.

okay, I think I truly get the thing we were talking about earlier on this thread about the "missing stair" ... I understood it in concept before, but now I have first hand experience with this, and good fucking lord, map (I know you have one at work) I truly empathize. In fact, I think map's "missing stair" co-worker is similar to the new person at one of my client sites ...

this person was hired two months ago as "finance co-ordinator" and I know they exaggerated their qualifications (in terms of what they know how to do), the only question is by how much, at this point. This person is, of course, an independent contractor. And this place isn't used to having paid staff. They are volunteer-run, and no one is full-time, and thus there is next to no oversight/accountability when someone doesn't do what they are supposed to be doing. Because this person was a friend of one of the core volunteers and was familiar with one of the projects this place does, I think everyone trusted that they cared about the place, and they would "fit in" and do the work and not waste time and charge for wasting time.

At this point it's almost comical. I was doing a fairly limited set of financial tasks for them. And now, because either this person doesn't know how to do things, doesn't want to do things because they believe these things are "not their job" or are coming up with excuses to delay doing things ... I am doing the majority of this person's work.

I'm going to stop there ... otherwise I can fill the screen with examples and more venting Neando style <3