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oh a week off! it sounds like you really need it - glad that's coming your way.

i've been on an emotional rollercoaster lately which is business as usual lol. i was very tired last week. feeling somewhat better this week. the whole hook up / play on the side thing .. sometimes feel like i'm just too much of a mess emotionally to manage that tbh. feel like it's cutting back / cutting things out season for me.

we went to an opera yesterday! (daughter of the regiment.) surprised by how swept away i was, and how comfortable the whole experience was (except for opera queens sizing me up during the intermission haha). i'm definitely going to more symponies, operas, etc. this year, much more enjoyable for me than a movie i think.

that's awesome. i work at an opera house! :D

emotional rollercoaster ... is pretty much my MO. lol.

hyd today?

hey swen, feeling pretty darn good, and yourself?

awww good! yeah i dunno i'm taking things very calmly today - waiting for the other shoe to drop lol. beautiful day here which is perking me up. listening to livin' on a prayer radio haha :P :P :P

lol i love that for you, sorry to be saying that cliche but it's true! i feel ya on the 'ambient anxiety about looming stuff' situation. taking things calmly sure helps. i've been thinking about a negative interaction i have to deal with on a weekly basis and i've resolved to take the heat out of it and set a firm boundary instead.

love it. i'm doing something similar psychologically today - realizing that there's always going to be a deluge of work and stress so there's no point in rushing it. one step at a goddamn time. :D

what have you been listening to lately (besides opera, which i love for YOU!)? ;-)

haha, i've been listening to metal and sort of vibing to the religious aspect of it, like magical beliefs and stuff but all directed towards evil and death. it's a good way to process pain XD

can i namedrop for a second? i got propositioned on scruff by a4r0n of h0nch0, the dj / dance music group out of p1ttsburgh. he lives in s4lt l4ke 6 months out of the year i guess, to ski afaict. he's pretty hot but idk seems wisest to keep 'nsa' and 'dj' separate. also probably rich and i don't rly like hooking up with rich dudes, it leaves me with sour grapes. i had a good jo thinking about it though lol.

hey y'all

happy to read about some measure of peace here

and piece! lol

whhat! you have to hook up with him! he's hella cute.

also love your metal music catharsis, right there wit u

hmmmm ok girl you are 'tipping' me the other way

i MEAN come on what are girlfriends for, thicc beard boy + music is an easy win

man y'all

stop talking about pieces and tips

I've two hours left in the office before I go home

What's a piece?

a little bit o’ cake

donna!

with some rose hip herbal tea to wash it down.

:D :D :D

mm best song about cake

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XlI7FzN8Pcw

https://media.tenor.com/5Qwph1nu5GcAAAAd/labyrinth-david-bowie.gif

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=leK4eoqwmfU

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CRxViRWEaSE

https://flxt.tmsimg.com/assets/p11069125_p_v8_ab.jpg

oh lordy that sugar & cake track is very sweet

so are you bb

awwwwwwwwww *blush*

The week's best thread.

I don’t have much to add here beyond I looked up the dude map mentioned and uh yeah hit that, regrets are for tomorrow

Although they found super-gonorrhea in my state last week so I’m not following my own advice

oh no. reminds me i'm about due for some testing. the admin work supporting non-monogamy is not insignificant lol.

would yall believe i got chatted up by a guy who i think is even hotter though, who also likes running trails. i was pretty fast on settling the coffee date logistics with that one. like i was chatting with him at the same time i was chatting with mr h0nch0, and h0nch0 was taking second chair. he is going to find this thread isn't he. well that's enough boy chatter from me *wraps phone cord around finger*

i feel like your name should be Kristy rn!!!

oh what a coincidence, i just filed a name change request for "Kristy"!!!

no last name, just Kristy

map i don't think he's rich but i do think he has a nice lifestyle in that city. if that matters

map, ya pushed me into starting a Scruff account

j0rdan! thanks for the tip. i won't go into the nitty gritty but i guess i'm a little jealous. sometimes best not to hook up with the guys you secretly want to be. my emotions might kick me in the ass. maybe i can set all that aside and have a little fun but i'm not sure. think i'll at least ask if he wants to meet for coffee and go from there. right now though i'm also kind of into feeding the home fire. husband needs extra support while looking for a job. i might need the outlet though. neway.

xp to alfred best of luck chasing the pogonophiles!

h 0 t m 4 s s is a great party tho if you ever end up out there. i had a wonderful bathhouse experience

omg h0nch0 guy is dreamy 4 real! but i also feel “sometimes best not to hook up with the guys you want to be” makes a lot of intuitive sense (as someone who’s made that mistake before lol)

xp to alfred best of luck chasing the pogonophiles!

― ꙮ (map)

I hunt pogonosauri!

Hookup or no hookup, I feel it makes sense for the two of you to meet regardless, if for no other reason than the job you both do. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn’t, you might have met someone well worth knowing?

(I love meeting other DJs. They are almost always more successful than me, but there’s still so much common ground, and I’m able not to let the status gap get in the way. Geeking out over our shared interest just seems to trump that!)

(He does look quite nice though. Ahum.)

ah that's a nice perspective mike, i aspire to have that attitude

wow this is too much :D

map i don't think he's rich but i do think he has a nice lifestyle in that city. if that matters

― J0rdan S.

heh, caught myself imagining this severe hottie whisking map away to his chalet in the alps on a private jet, managing his dance music empire from there, phone constantly going off.

it sounds like there's a magnetic attraction/repulsion thing happening with this guy that you owe it to yourself to investigate.

focusing on sequestering myself off from the world and writing in my journal.

have i got a playlist for you!

if you find yourself in that mode don't fight it imo, or worry that you should be in some other place, decorate your cocoon and enjoy

what do you wear to the opera??

Clothes usually, preferably clean ones unless you’re known to be very rich

I know I’m in the minority, but I am fine with my gay friends and don’t care for most gay bars, gay techno campouts, or anything similar. Often these places just seem like useless hedonism and tribalism which I can understand being liberating for some, but which I find utterly alienating. The last gay bar I loved is in the Bay, nothing in Philly or New York comes close, and I also don’t care for clubbing. Maybe it’s been too long, or maybe it’s just getting older, but I’m pretty content to not have any hookups or much of a connection to the wider “gay community.”