Real love -- I'm, like, searchin' for that Queer Love -- LGBTQIA+ Love // A Thread for the Real Ones

especially because sometimes it feels omnipresent or like a cash cow that gets heavily milked lol.

no, that's a good point and something i've observed but didn't even think of because i haven't been out in a million years lol

body type subcultures can be pretty toxic! maybe not all of them equally, but they seem to create dysporia, maybe even arise from dysphoria in the first place. they can also foster a kind of tunnel vision and close off too many possibilities. I just think beauty is in the eye and shouldn't be standardized.

i know that a lot of my sexual desires and preferences are based on ugly biases, and fear and shame. That I can't diagnose these makes me all the more inclined to just indulge and enjoy it. so i can't judge but guess i regard those communities as bad medicine, to an extent.

Like, I've mostly dated and hooked up with str8 looking and acting men, and men who are a little ambiguous. There's been a couple of feminine men, but on the whole they've been less outwardly gay. It's honestly never occurred to me that my aversion to the body type subcultures is probably also rooted in homophobia, and that sucks.

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Sorry J0rdan, I’m not going to feel bad about not being enthusiastic about a body fascism culture by any other name.

It’s also worth mentioning that Bears as a group have some inherent racial dynamics that are undeniably gross.

Simply unsure as to how any body type subgroup can defend its rigidity and conformity. I don’t love being queer because I love mirroring the trash society that hates us.

I wouldn't say I've focused on a specific body type over the last decade (i.e. when I more or less became something resembling sexually active), but I will say that with few exceptions there's been an age gap of, usually, about a decade or more, with me as the older one.

Yes, on average I hook up with or date men at least a decade my junior.

guys let me be clear i was joking about bears... the initial posts were just funny, that's all

well hello!

my preferences have changed a lot in the last decade tbh - the more hair (everywhere!) the better in recent years. i used to be more a "twink" person when i was younger. that might be an age thing too i dunno!

I need to get laid.

I don’t have strict preferences but admit that I tend to go for less hairy dudes, no matter their racial or ethnic makeup or size or whether they’re cis or trans or whatever.

fair! it's also very much about like what we're doing. for certain activities the smoother the better!
xp make it happen, boo! you've done it before, you can do it again!

I know! Mild drought this year.

i went through mine at the end of last year and got back on the horse recently
almost forgot how to ride!

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whassup?

oh snap - what IS up
like i'm finally getting a little bit laid
and i have a couple of dates happening
like geez it's about time
what's up with Y'ALL

well i'm twitterpated by a cowboy

he sent me a semi-nude this morning - him standing outside in the freezing ass cold with a foil four leaf clover on his chest, some green glittery thing covering his crotch and rainbow socks.

Bummed this thread didn’t get bumped a couple days ago for International Penis Day.

i.e. St. Patrick's Day

when we all celebrate the very juice and sperm of kindness

I have been feeling especially faggoty this week fwiw, but I think it’s because I became obsessed with a Carly Rae Jepsen song

hahaha which one?

lemme guess, 'western wind'

I suspect it's "Kiss My Sodomite Mouth."

“Comeback”

very relatable

hi everyone, i'm in a 'men are mostly trash' mood today.

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It’s obvious we’re not a woman

I'm sure you must have things to do in the bathroom, Eric dear.

tw gym content

so my gym is kind of famously known as cruisy among locals. the primary reason i joined is because it is 2 blocks from where i live. i used to be titillated by cruisy gyms and had my fair share of shower encounters back in the day, but i'm just totally over it now. i've turned completely into a glowering solo gym rat dude with big headphones on who isn't happy unless he is situated in front of some weights and either lifting them or about to lift them, like it's heroin and i am a junkie - not as overblown a metaphor as you might think. anyway, today i was obviously being followed around by a guy who was wearing shorts SO SHORT and a sling-back tank SO TIGHT. he had skin SO PINK and muscles SO WELL FED i thought he was just going to explode, and at some point during his follow-me-around routine i noticed a stripe of sweat had be-slickened his topographically dramatic ass crack and i grimaced. this used to be exciting to me but this morning i was just trying to avoid giving him the looks that he was looking for WHICH IS DIFFICULT considering what some people wear to the fucking gym.

ilx posts with striking imagery

i'm not physically attracted to people but based on your description, he'd probably even catch me looking.

"topographically dramatic ass crack" definitely of serious intrigue.

xpost- crypto beat me to it lol

I have become such a regular at the local climbing gyms that I have seen gym workers at other gyms and climbed with them. It’s a little embarrassing but I’m also in the ranks of stronger climbers they have so I guess I am not too embarrassed.

Climbing is very queer-friendly, I’ve found!

Anyway, there’s only three people at the gym I would absolutely go for, and one of them is a cis woman and the other two are twinks ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

i, like, can't even imagine cruising at the gym - like what an interesting world of opportunity, so foreign to me

this work DAY IS DRAGGING

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— Joe Sixpack Capital (@Joe6packcapital) April 1, 2023

I am so so into this and didn’t know where else to put it

We’re in Fruita Colorado and just shared a beer by the river with a very hot farm banker.

Did not share anything else unfortunately

coming back from a solo weekend in SF. spent my easter sunday going to an actual easter mass (first since i was a kid maybe?) at grace cathedral, then went to an extremely packed dolores park to see the hunky jesus/foxy mary pageant. also saw old some pals, went to point reyes, bought some fun records, saw a fantastic concert and even had a fun lil fling with a handsome brazilian guy. never a dull moment in that city!

that is an enticing scenario map!

aww i'm glad you had a nice time in sf!!

do i dare try a miniature of this guy? he was extremely handsome. i'm really into these outdoorsy sort of farm boy types who have some straight dude energy. they make me go 'durrr' you know. i'm sorry, i can't help it. he had the beard, the trucker hat, a football team hoodie, beautiful eyes, smile, ears that poke out a little. he was a chat on scruff from earlier in the day. most dudes on there, these days, just no. and i was hesitant but he was nice and close by so he met us down by the river and offered j a beer. he basically told us his life story and was well-spoken and sharp about it. i listened very intently haha. a western slope local whose father owned a guide business at the base of the san juans. hint of money, maybe an inheritance or something. recently took a year off work and now does underwriting for a gov backed lender to big ag outfits. very gregarious, almost chatty, but circumspect. positive energy. not cynical at all. (these kinds of guys, i always tell myself i can't hang with too much because i'm way too depresso). anyway, he kinda got stuck in my head and if i'm being honest i feel jealous of him. he's also 40 but unlike yours truly seems to have it made financially, have a naturally optimistic outlook, have his priorities figured out, and now i guess he's looking for The One like some kind of prince from rancher royalty. it's a mild sort of jealousy. and now we're back in salt lake and it's finally warm and i'm facing the precarious weeks and months ahead with nothing settled except for a companion i love dearly and a job i despise that at least pays 80% of the bills.

oh and i ran every day while we were in the desert, i haven't felt the need that strongly in a while, i ran like a prancing goat.

phew, quite the character sketch! he does sound pretty dreamy.

that mingling of attraction with jealousy is something i relate to pretty strongly, the age-old "do i want to be with you or do i just want to *be* you?" thing. it happens less often as i get older and give less of a shit but i used to get it pretty badly in my twenties, and it sometimes led me down some weird emotional paths. for me it often felt rooted in aspirational socioeconomic stuff, less about money per se (although i guess that was the elephant in the room) than access to certain social circles/particular markers of a cultivated taste etc. and always with people around my age or a little older. so...i feel you on all this

good job on the running! i have fallen pretty hard off the exercise train, i can count on one hand the number of times i've gone to the gym this year. keep telling myself i'll start going more regularly once it gets warmer but it's been so persistently rainy/gray/cold here this winter and i keep using that as a crutch :/

that mingling of attraction with jealousy is something i relate to pretty strongly,

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It’s funny, while I’m glad that it hit all of your buttons, map, it truly does sound like we might have the opposite problem— I often fall for young punks in trouble and lust after slightly chunky (what T and I call “prison fat”) construction workers. Whereas all of our actual gay friends are artists or administrators.

We went climbing outside yesterday, T’s first time bouldering outside a gym, and it went really well! I’m glad that he’s embraced climbing so fully, it gets at his natural strengths and it’s fun to work on things together.