Real love -- I'm, like, searchin' for that Queer Love -- LGBTQIA+ Love // A Thread for the Real Ones

i don't mean this to sound flip, but i feel like i'm reaching new heights of gentle, loving connection ..... with my cat.

love you, sarge

My essential queerness, I've realized, is my preference for aloneness with constant refreshment: friends, a trick or three for a few months. But I've wondered recently to what degree these habits are borne out of fear of sexual commitment? When I fuck around it's mostly oral; when it's top to bottom I almost always top. I've avoided relationships in anticipation of assuming that sooner or later I'll have to bottom, but, as I wrote yesterday, when I consider it I still feel the stench of death in my nose.

Maybe my reluctance to commit rests on my reluctance to -- my fear of -- submit, in many areas.

Sorry if this is awkwardly expressed.

it makes sense to me alfred! i think it's one of those things where only you know the answer, but also one of those things where asking the question is necessary before an answer is possible, so it's cool that you're asking the question!

It makes sense to me too. I have had a lot of good sex, but have had a life-long desire for - and simultaneous fear of - sexual intimacy

hey so farm banker from fruita has been feeding us a lot of exciting thruple energy the last few days. we're mailing underwear to each other.

dear queers, you're going to a sunday tea dance. what songs do you want to hear?

Happy birthday to Morbius/Bill in gay heaven. P.S. To map, Bucks Fizz: "I Hear Talk."

oh nice!!!

Jamie Principle -- "Waiting On My Angel."

hell yeah

The U.S. Remix of Talk Talk "It's My Life", please.

I'm writing a paper on death disco for Pop Conference and it figures heavily. I never get tired of it. xpost

i loooooove “i hear talk”!!!

i would love to hear this gorgeous nugget that i rank up there with erasure’s best singles tbh

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=goHXRs4haS0

perfecto!

I played a sequence tonight that I would TOTALLY tea dance to:
I’m Not In Love - Scherrie Payne
If You Could Read My Mind - Viola Wills
In The Name Of Love - Sharon Redd

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omg hi!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

what a shit show of a month. anyone with me?

mine was pretty good, but tell me about yours.

are we feeling pride this year or nah?

i'm busy djing during pride week here and definitely not going out voluntarily lol even though i would like to see crystal waters.

i'm a little tired of the pride posturing i see in my city. a certain person doing an alternate pride called 'riot'. hon it isn't a riot, it's a clout and moneymaker thing for your personal career with local business sponsors instead of bud light or whoever.

like i just want to stayyyy innnnn or get out into the boonies, fuck all you exhausting people lmao

there’s a big pride concert in weho this year with good headliners but i ultimately don’t want to deal with the festival thing. i’m sure i will attend the usual pride social events here though. my fave is dyke day which is taking place at the park next to my house again this year, which works out beautifully for me lol. this weird ginned-up culture war thing that’s happening all over right now is so depressing/irritating tho and i can’t shake the feeling it’s just gonna somehow escalate over the next month and cast a pall over everything. i mean i guess it kinda has already.

i’m flying solo for pretty much all of june - husband is doing a biking/writing trip in NY state for the whole month. considering a little weekend trip somewhere while he’s off, like to long beach or san diego or something for a night or two.

i sure don't know what my thoughts on pride are! i guess i always have a decent time? i'm kind of a cheerleader at heart so i think people appreciate the morale boost when i'm around lol.

well map i don't even know what to tell you, work got insane and then i was hit with one of the worst anxiety / depression spells i've had in a while. i think i am JUST NOW sliding past it, with all hope from the galaxy.

love hearing everyone's updates!

donna i love your ideas for june while the hubby is away!

hai gays

I'm gay camping this weekend. I just arrived.

oh that sounds nice, where does one gay camp in florida?

surm hon i'm glad you're sliding past it. donna, little trips are on my list for the summer too and feeling very necessary.

Things like this are certainly exposing the rhetorical limits of the corporatization of Pride: https://www.cnn.com/2023/05/25/business/target-lgbtq-merchandise-pressure-trans/index.html

But I'm not entirely sure what the (non-anarchic) alternative is in this particular culture war?

xp <3 <3

how's everyone's romantica adventures?

husband and i are going to western co this weekend to "hang" with cute farm banker, who i have mentioned previously in this thread :D

omg "hang" he said

how fascinating!

do you think you'll like make out?

possibly ;)

i sent him an old jock in the mail last week 🤫

omg lol

we sexted about it while i was eating hamburgers on sunday night. anyway i think it's probably game on. i'm more worried about outdoor activities together since we all like to do different things.

Saludos from Clewiston!

https://i.imgur.com/zjaPXRH.jpg

I'm here btw: https://vitambi.com/

oh that looks lit!! is it a 'natural' resort?

Doing fine here,
lovely to see you Swen.

actually everything is cuckoo but i am dealing with it okay 🙂

we go to Hawai’i to visit my husband’s family next week… with my parents, who have never met anyone from the Chinese-Native Hawaiian side of his family. should be lovely but also a little insane, he has like a gazillion relatives, but we’re staying at a chill hotel away from Waikiki.

Lovely!

But I'm not entirely sure what the (non-anarchic) alternative is in this particular culture war?

― fair but so uncool beliefs here (Eric H.)

i got into real trouble with my friends defending target here

the allyship we need is for allies to be willing to literally put their lives on the line for us, because goddamn our lives _are_ on the line every day and there's only so much we can do about that

if target corporate leadership wants to mitigate the effects of this on their underpaid retail workers in states where the risk is particularly acute... the optics of it are shit but honestly, when it comes to things that worry me about florida "target moved their queer merch to the back of their stores" is not at the top of the list.

a lighter post.

My friend was telling me last night about this podcast.

"They ask you a hundred questions, and the last one is always this: You're sentenced to death. How do you want to go - death by blowjob, or death by hamburger?"

"Mmmm. I'd love to choke to death on a big fat cock."

"That's... not what they mean by that question."

"WELL THEN THEY NEED TO BE SPECIFIC ABOUT IT."

lol oh boy
lighter indeed!!
i'm ready for some summer fun i'll tell you that much
tabes that sounds like a fantastic trip! i'm sure you'll be able to find moments of joy in the potential awkwardness of it all

I've had to wear collared shirts the last two days if ya know what I mean.

A++++! anyone interesting?

i don't mean to barge in and interrupt, but we're back from our little desert getaway and tryst and i must update. farm banker was fun and ridiculously puppy-dog handsome but i don't think a friendship is in the cards. 'farm banker' is a very apt description of him overall, he's very earthy and ambitiously acquisitive. he did not seem open to any imaginative or playful interactions which is a turn-off for me. he did have a serious plow and was focused on getting the deed done, much to the satisfaction of my husband. incredible tasting cum. that is all.

fantastic update map. sounds like best possible scenario overall! mazel!! puppy dog handsome - a very good kind of handsome imo.

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