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I've had to wear collared shirts the last two days if ya know what I mean.

― the dreaded dependent claus (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn)

meanwhile my preference is to leave the shirt and just wear the collar

<3 <3 <3

back atcha, what's going on?

I'm at The George, the Dublin gay bar. Slow night.

omg. jealous.

scene report?

Happy birthday to Morbius/Bill in gay heaven. P.S. To map, Bucks Fizz: "I Hear Talk."

― Kevin John Bozelka, Friday, April 21, 2023 6:22 PM (one month ago) bookmarkflaglink

a belated thank you for this reminder about legendary Morbz

MAP, i'm getting excited for summer. work has been an incredible slog this school year and i'm in dire need of some time to get things done for myself. i'm pretty terrified to go the dentist - i know, exciting update - because there are some aches that i believe are going to cost me significant time and money!! :////////

PS - just finally caught up on all the thoughtful posts from a month ago. love hearing folks expound on all these issues!! :-)

my dentist visits grow sadder each passing year. teeth are weird and bad but i sure miss the two i've had to get pulled.

omg where were they

I left after an hour. More women hanging out with platonic friends than gay male couples (safe space). It was also early. I was also jetlagged. I'll return tomorrow later for a full report; the drag show was about to start. It's four minutes from my hotel on foot.

went to the dentist on saturday, clean bill of health but i had to get new x-rays which i HATE more than anything, i gag every time and it’s horrible

two pride-y events this upcoming weekend, also a toddler birthday party on saturday AM

whatcha doin in dublin alfred? vacation?

top back one side, top mid on the other

yay for pride events! tho i'm all prided out tbrr

Yep! My parents jumped on board unexpectedly, but they're cool-ass people if we don't discuss politics: they eat well, drink me under the table, wanna stay up late. I had to tell them last night, lol slow down, I need a nap.

I'm here till Friday.

I re-read parts of the gays ILTMI thread tonight, as part of some sort of ongoing psychic work, I think. anyway, it was great, if only because i got a new DN out of it thanks to a Whiney comment many years ago.

lol that thread is such a trip, just went thru it again myself

ultimately opted to attend 0 of the pride celebrations happening here today. dyke day picnic in the park and dance party/drag show at a local-ish bar yesterday were plenty for me. the weather was so gloomy this weekend that i didn’t feel like leaving the house, plus i’m taking antibiotics for a random infection that popped up on friday so couldn’t really get debauched anyway. it’s fine. instead i ordered a pizza and watched to die for and started putting together my late-june pride DJ set.

i'm too scared to open that thread lmao. to die for sounds good, i've never seen it! pride sets are fun. my inclination was always to go "deep and profound" but i recently realized, like in the past two or three years, that most people just want to hear lady gaga. which ok, "rain on me" is kinda profound anyway, so is "911". club mixes of those two have probably been my mvps over the last year.

yall i'm so busy right now i have no bandwidth for social stuff i should make time for, let alone uhh cleaning. and my day job is where i waste the most time! whenever i can take a breath i just want to be a plant for a few hours. so it goes.

not much new gay stuff to report.

Spent some time wandering around The Village in Montreal, which was overrun by bachelorette parties. I would not have had a strong opinion on this five years ago and I was a little surprised by how strong of an opinion I had on it now.

i mean i'm assuming you are not in favor

Haha that was unnecessarily ambiguous

No, I was not in favor. The groups drinking in the bars were perfectly fine but there was another woman lambasting the bouncer at a strip club for the behavior of one of the servers as we walked past and I was very surprised by the snap judgments I was making based on the overheard conversation. I don’t want people to feel unsafe or disrespected but it sounded from what I heard that she was angry that the bride wasn’t getting more attention and I kept thinking “… You are a bunch of women at a gay male strip club, I am not quite sure what you are expecting here”

At first I thought someone got handsy but that didn’t seem to be how the conversation was going; granted, I didn’t hear all of it

I was very surprised by the snap judgments I was making based on the overheard conversation

i've had enough drunk white straight women treating me like a human jukebox as a dj at gay clubs that i don't think your snap judgment is surprising or all that unfair frankly, even if you didn't catch everything. there's definitely an archetypal behavior thing going on in this kind of situation and with practice you can suss it out within 30 seconds lol.

straight women behaving badly in gay spaces is a little hard to talk about with other gay guys without going overboard ime but it's also objectively Pretty Annoying at the least & psychopathic at the worst imo

ugh seriously though read the room

(in ref: to DJPs Montreal tale)

so my pride activities have been VERY quiet. easing into this summer pretty slowly. a lotta people in ny recently saw kylie in concert - i guess she's taken over the summer huh? thoughts on padam padam?? i'm a little less gagged than everyone else.

haha. i like it. the older i get the less discerning i am, maybe.

it makes hooking up sound exciting again imo

fair point. i like it too!! i'm just a little confused why her voice sounds like she's singing through a soup can in a nyc tunnel. but other than that i'm in!

also the heartbeat thing. when it feels like we're all just information and economic status receptacles, it's a nice reminder that we're alive i think.

xp oh yeah, the production is weird. it's very "what us dance music sounds like right now" unfortunately.

yes the heartbeat is engaging - into that observaysh

slow summers are good. mine is fine, i'm busy and tired tbh. trying to get ahead a little bit. i might go to a leather / kink sex party this weekend. 50 / 50 odds tbh.

oh fun! do you think you'll partake in activities?

also related q - how much of a turnoff is a manscaping accident? like i accidentally went way too short lol and the lines are a bit off. oops!

haha i dunno i wouldn't be too bothered about it myself but i'm not into those kind of details

i probably will if i go.

I got chewed upon at gay glamping three weeks ago, ending a sex drought, but I could use a roll in the heather.

does anyone care for bebe rexha? that goddamn "i'm good and i'm feeling alright" song that was everywhere last summer. i see trying to like her in my future & it makes me a little sad lmao

xp oh dang was there biting involved?

i'm convinced that glamping is a rip-off for clueless city people. i don't care how nice the teepee decor is, bugs and no private bathroom is not worth $80 a night.

I kidded about glamping (alliteration, etc.). We had our own cabin + bathroom, and the campground had its own bar and restaurant; but, remember, it's Florida in late May/early June. A brutalist aesthetic.

map, my neck looked like a demilitarized zone.

hahaha good work

love it. jealz. i don't know much about bebe but i think i watched a recent Vogue clip with her and she was cool! what other songs should i know?

i am broadly pro-padam - was expecting its ubiquity to have rendered it irritating by now but surprisingly that hasn’t happened yet. also i like it more than anything from her last record tbh.

rather than san diego for a weekend i ended up going down to long beach for one night. i love LB, quieter but friendlier than LA and still lots going on, we’ve talked about moving there but currently that’s not realistic for either of our jobs. anyway, bopped around the bars on broadway for a bit, ended up meeting a gentleman who lives down there (and who had driven up to my place the week before, ha). older handsome cuban guy who has the same kinks as me. it was very nice. walked around a bit the next day and bought some used records.

wow such a lovely image! glad to hear this pleasant account of life. jobs really do have a way of cramping styles huh. donna remind me what work is for you these days?

xp ah that sounds great dr. it's so nice when you have a positive dalliance. i always liked long beach the few times i made it down there (twice i think?). had kind of a wild time at a levi/leather bar down there, i can't remember what it was called. it looks like it might be renamed or closed?

we're hoping to visit salem, oregon in a couple of months. i'm hoping it has a similar kind of feel to lb, close-ish to city business (portland) but more friendly, rooted and affordable.

one of my aunts is moving to Oregon if you can believe it

i have never been

i think it's going to be my kind of vibe tbh

My one trip to Portland in the 90s made me feel like I was in all of the worst parts of St. Paul, MN aside from getting extremely baked at Reed College, which was the absolute highlight of the visit

So basically my advice is hit the weed and hit it hard

haha - what did you do at reed?

this is a very strong warning!
i will keep in mind....

This was a college choir tour; one of my buddies had a high school classmate who was a TA there so we stayed with him on campus for our Portland concert and he introduced us to the freshmen on his floor who created a bong out of a vacuum cleaner