Real love -- I'm, like, searchin' for that Queer Love -- LGBTQIA+ Love // A Thread for the Real Ones

"triad" works except it keeps making me think of that creepy david crosby song. anyway i feel like the difficulty of maintaining a relationship increases exponentially the more people are in that relationship. christ, i have enough fucking trouble with metas. (i guess i need to clarify that i mean metamours, not metoidoplasties, which are awesome and underrated.)

i have known of some throuples, pretty sure none of them are together anymore. i would never, personally - seems way too delicate a balance to strike

we’re in chicago right now visiting friends, we’re about to drive out to saugatuck, MI (small gay-friendly village on the lake) in a bit once this thunderstorm lets up. went to a bar in north halsted on monday where a room full of gays were singing along to video clips from musicals. at one point they were doing rocky horror-style interjections to a clip of madonna singing “don’t cry for me, argentina” in evita (“have i said too much?” “YES!!!”). it was kinda great tbh.

triad" works except it keeps making me think of that creepy david crosby song.

yeah :(

definitely not enough emotional energy for a throuple here. we had a thing with a non-binary pal for a few years but it ended because they consistently crossed boundaries that had nothing to do with sex— doing hard drugs in our house, kicking our dog off the bed when we asked them to sleep on the futon for the night, etc. they were excellent in bed but turned into a horrible toxic narcissist outside of it!

god, there are so many incredibly fucked-up people who are amazing in bed

i'm not one of them, for the record, one result my last long-term relationship is that physical touch currently activates extreme anxiety in me

god, there are so many incredibly fucked-up people who are amazing in bed

haha, so otm

donna, that experience sounds like exactly the kind of queer group culture / energy i need more of. very wholesome. happy to hear you guys are on vacation!

i never eat pizza but i ate 4 slices with some friends last night and it ended up making me really horny?? i guess that's a thing. sorry for tmi i just had to share.

gonna try that approach before my next assignation

also it was a dilf parade in that place (ny style pizzeria in a strip mall). lots of hot divorced looking dads picking up dinner.

i won't lie, i thought of the infamous pizzeria sex ilx post.

that’s amore!

hahaha

i never eat pizza but i ate 4 slices with some friends last night and it ended up making me really horny??

rofl

Anyone see Close?

Wrecked me. Been thinking a lot about what it was like growing up and being a young teenager in the mid-to-late 90s. The film captures a period of adolescence and friendship between boys that I haven’t seen depicted so accurately and wrenchingly. I have a lot to say about it, but don’t want to talk about it if people haven’t seen it.

I haven’t seen it.

Yesterday I was eating a fish sandwich with a couple friends and one of them was talking about how she ruins every group chat she’s ever been invited into and I hummed “🎶group chat, group chat destroyer🎶”

ugh, drugs yesterday with straight guys

close sounds interesting.

i've been feeling a lot of boy energy lately, my own and others'.

i saw it. liked the first half more than the second half, but overall i thought it was very good. some of the details of the two boys' relationship echoed experiences i had myself as a child.

It’s interesting, I “liked” the second half a lot and feel like so many of the criticisms of the film focused on the second half of the film not being “resolved.”
But— so much in life isn’t! Why does a film have to do it!

I'm with you about resolution -- who cares? The beats were too familiar, though. That's my criticism.

^what he said

anyone have any weekend highlights?

we had a really hot fun time with another couple last night. the last time we hooked up with them was a year ago. i'm really into the older guy (mid 50s maybe?). great eye communication. we kinda paired off, like last time. it was rejuvenating.

today i didn't leave the house, it was awesome.

Too many hours drinking and drugging culminated in 4 a.m. meteor watching with two of my closest mates. To bed at 6 a.m. and two hours sleep. A lovely time, but, oof, I can't party like I used to.

well i hope you're feeling better tomorrow. what drugs did you do lol? my guy went dancing with some friends at a late night burning man art car thing last night after the hookup and apparently had a nice weed / shrooms experience. i did a bachelor night with the cat and did not ingest anything mood or mind altering and went to bed at midnight. still i'm exhausted!

Booze + the Bolivian marching powder. Oh, I feel fine, just tired. I'm going to bed in 10 mins lol.

I don’t really do drugs or party, but as those of you who have seen me on here for a while, that is fine as I have more than enough time of heavy partying behind me

i'm with you, only a light dose of weed for me. it's been 3 years now since i had my last drink. it's crazy how i almost have a wilder time now being almost straight-edge. going to bed early and getting up early feels luxurious and exciting to me, and like i'm not running away from my own bullshit thru partying so it's all just in my face all the time.

this isn't to neg any partiers, i'm broadly pro-party tbr

oh I'll be up at 5 a.m. tomorrow morning! Morning walks rule.

oh same, i am very pro-party, and I still drink but rarely more than a beer or two.

went to a friend's house party last night, i was friends with or knew nearly everybody there so it was super fun. got home around 1am which felt super late to me lol. i had a couple margaritas and glasses of wine, alternated with glasses of water/seltzer. feel a lil sleepy but not hung over today.

so we're currently being swept away by a very handsome and talented young artist. a whatsapp romance until he returns from lake michigan. i'm twitterpated, my husband is, the artist is. it's a nice feeling overall but i'm also kind of stirred up, this snow globe hasn't been shaken in years. *sigh*

That’s fun! My ex and I had an on-again off-again third party, he is and was a prince, always kept things interesting

My current partner and I celebrated three years together last night. We ate and drank and wore nice fragrances and it was terrific!

ah that's lovely - congratulations!

My Manchester hookup from early this year has finally given me a date for my Hi-NRG club night in Nottingham. Actually, it’s better than that: two club nights, both on Saturdays, a fortnight apart, and both five hour sets. It’s nice to be reminded that not all my hookups are wrong ‘uns.

my bf and i are growing a lot in this opening up process and we feel closer to each other than ever, which is awesome. this guy we've both been really into is coming over tomorrow. i feel amazing right now. very satisfied and ready to go to sleep lol.

Idk where else to say this but my one-year old Big Dog she is an extreme cuddlebug, like never wants a moment without being in the arms of myself or my bf. My bf and I have to order her out of the bed at night so we can get into a spooning position, and in the morning we allow her to sandwich herself between us, and she promptly rolls on her back and falls asleep joyously, snoring

I dunno if dogs are gay but I really love my dog

Aw. What's her name?

I returned a couple days ago from gay glamping. I hooked up with a Las Vegas dude whose husband was traveling: a terrific power bottom. It compensated for the miasmic heat.

i have spent the past few days at the mercy of my mom’s new dog (her first ever!), a bichon frisé/shih tzu mix who is adorable as the dickens but still very much a high-strung 7-month-old puppy. he still seems skittish around me and no doubt regards me as an interloper, scratches and claws at my legs no matter how much i tell him to stop etc, but when you can manage to pick him up and hold him he instantly goes limp in your arms, like completely quiet and defenseless. as difficult as he sometimes makes it, i wuv him ;_;

trying to think of which band needs to write a song called “las vegas power bottom”

John Grant obv

My dog’s name is Nora, she’s Swiss.

That means she’s a Grosser Schweisser Sennenhund aka a Greater Swiss Mountain Dog aka a Swissy; I just say she’s Swiss.

Las Vegas Power Bottom sounds more like the title of a gay-baity band’s song, like The Ark or something. Maybe a Lana/Troye duet.

Google just returned about 80 results for “mighty morphin power bottoms”

all this dog love is good to hear about. i'm doing daily, heavy excursions into cat land with our boy leo, a chunky orange tabby. he is 50% grumpy bitch and 50% lover boy. like me!!!

Maybe a Lana/Troye duet.

haha otm

rn i'm paying leo the daily chicken tax

i gladly do this because we have been housefly free since we got him 3 years ago.

our artist friend lent us a few books, including an andy goldsworthy one. i'd heard the name before but hadn't really looked at his work. it's blowing me away tbh.

LOVE Andy Goldsworthy. I’ve seen some exhibitions.