This is a thread for ILXORS IN THEIR 50's

i was 35 when i first started posting here. that iz craycray.

Gosh, I would have been 29! That's a long haul when I think of it that way.

tells us about the onion on your belt grandpa--was it really the style? oooh ooh and trucker caps

hb, and stay well olds

55 too and also (approx) 35 when I first posted. Big up the 55/35 club.

Welcome to the club, ledge.

I didn't think you were older than me, Scott. I'll be 52 in December and I celebrated my old-ness by giving a career talk to students at the local high school yesterday.

yeah approx 35 for me too. i just think that i started ILB 20 years ago? and that was pretty early on for me.

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55 too and also (approx) 35 when I first posted. Big up the 55/35 club.

― stirmonster, Wednesday, October 18, 2023 4:35 PM (eight minutes ago)

looks like a club that i am part of as well.

I'm 53, and I was a month away from my 31st birthday when I first started posting here.

I guess I was… 24 or 25 when I started posting here? I’m 46 now.

54 next month for me

Happy Bday Ledge!

jesus, we should start a bluegrass group or something. buncha fogeys.

I started ilxing in um 2004 or 2005, so maybe 33ish? I am now 52.

I will be 54 next month and I've been on here since at least 2001.

57 now, started posting at age 38?

Seem like Gen Xers feel comfortable here, we don't have to eat Tide pods or lip-sync to Dua Lipa songs

Not that there's anything wrong with that.

56/34 is same enuf

i think i came here because frank kogan told me to..........i can't remember. some connection like that. the steve forbert thing. i don't even remember what i mean by the steve forbert thing. i barely knew frank. just one of chuck's wack pack. i think dow and i are the only ones left from that.

55/35 here too. Can’t even remember how I ended up here, it’s all murky.

I got here via the Fake Matador Bulletin Board, I think?

I turned 58 this year. I guess I've been posting here for going on two years, which surprises me.

i definitely got here via the Fake Matador Bulletin Board.

I remember the TURN BACK YOU POXY FULE days

and when we had to move to that weird nether-board that time. that was scary!

the sandbox!

I found ILX googling "Charalambides"

i am the same age as i was when i got here

mark s. is eternal. and justified and ancient. mooooooooooo moo.

i got here cos i registered ireallylovemusic as a domain and then looked at alternatives.

49/27

I wish I could remember how I got here. Welcome to your 50s!

I was in my 40s when I found ILX. I will level up to the very selective 60+ age bracket next year. Not sure it’s a club I want to join but better than the alternative.

First post I can find was in ‘03, when our daughter was three, our son two, and I was 38.

Now she’s 23, he’s 22, and I’m 59.

Yeah I’m getting older too.

36 when I started posting here. I turn 58 in twelve days.

I never posted in this thread when I hit the five-o? Weird. That was back in 2021.
Diabetes, bad knees, worries about how to keep paying rent whe I'm old and not working... fun. I was told life after 40 would be a free blast but that was bullshit imo.

I'm 54/33, so pretty close to the 55/35 club. We've been in this car a long time!

HBD ledge. The 50s are fine I guess. For me I'm at that dreaded point of dealing with kids-turning-into-adults and parents-suddenly-being-very-old, both of which require a lot of attention. The good side of which I guess is that it doesn't give me a lot of time to think about being in my 50s. By the time things settle down one way or another I'll probably be almost ready for the 60s thread.

I remember the TURN BACK YOU POXY FULE days

You mean they're supposed to be over? I still get that when I log in on my phone!

one thing I've noticed is how quickly a year passes now... I picked up a card my stepmom sent and it was from August 2022. And it's basically been on my kitchen table for over an entire year (no I'm not a hoarder, I was using it to block my laptop's cam lol)

I imagine having children must intensify this quickening passage of time

being this old fucking sucks

Andy, I have found the opposite. I can't really remember not having children. I don't have any of the feelings I'm allegedly supposed to have, about it going fast or "wow how are they almost grown up now" or "the days are long and the years are short."

I respect everyone else's perception of their lives but mine has been different. I feel every fricking minute of the last 17 years. I love my children utterly, but I cannot characterize my time with them as short or brief or fleeting.

I mostly see an undending series of days in which I wake up and change a diaper and worry about lunchboxes and homework and pouring out cereal and finding shoes.

(Sorry if this is TMI but my 12-year-old son is still wearing nighttime pull-ups; he is intellectually disabled and always will be. There is no finish line; he will need almost constant care for the rest if his life.)

i feel time is going very, very quickly. i believe the key to slowing it down is having new experiences but that is easier said than done.

i was also told after 40, life would be a free blast but i have found that to be bs too. i have found my 50s to be my most difficult decade while also having more life highpoints than any other decade. wtf is going on?!?!

"You can't help getting older, but you don't have to get old." - George Burns

(Sorry if this is TMI but my 12-year-old son is still wearing nighttime pull-ups; he is intellectually disabled and always will be. There is no finish line; he will need almost constant care for the rest if his life.)

Really feel for you YMP, that's a hard road. I know others in similar situations, and I think about it sometimes as a could-have-happened because my oldest son was born super preemie and hence at elevated risk for all kinds of disabilities. As it transpired, he was developmentally delayed and is on the spectrum but generally fine, graduated high school on time, enrolled in community college etc. So for all the struggles he's had — which were significant, daily emotional outbursts well into middle school — I feel like we and he are pretty fortunate.

53/36

Douglas told me to come

My fifties have been terrible so far. I turned 50 during the first summer of the pandemic and that’s kinda set the tone

having a kid in college and them asking you specific questions about what it was like when you were there and not being able to remember half the time is peak 50s imo

this thread exploded in great ways— unexpected honest ways. Stay well and be strong, as you have been! ❤️

Lots of folk itt with college age kids, mine are only just school age (4 & 7) - I was late getting on board the family train. Though my 30s were classic child free fun I was low level depressed the whole time which is luckily no longer the case, I'm a bit worried about being an old dad though. I'll save that for the 60s thread.

I was also born in '73 and have a 22 yr old son - that whole period went a bit too fast for my liking. Even though my life is infinitely sadder and more fucked up than it was in my 30's I don't really feel any nostalgic longing to go back anywhere. I'm just waiting to die now ... lol

I was trying to work out what these 2 number things you were doing. I'm 52/32 I think?

I’m leaving the 50’s next year (59/39 are my
numbers I think).

The 50s has been my hardest decade probably. It’s been “You’re exhausted and feel like you need a break - but kept going !”.

No major health issues as yet - for which I should be grateful. The strain has been mainly work and aged parents.