I’m misspelling, it was probably Dorcas
― ɥɯ ︵ (°□°) (mh), Saturday, 9 December 2023 17:16 (nine months ago) link
I knew someone who had to be talked out of naming their daughter lolita- it's not the name's fault that people are disgusting but why on earth would you do that to your child
turns out margaret is like the brassica oleracea of names. maybe mary/maria has more variants but so many of them are similar it feels like cheating
― Left, Saturday, 9 December 2023 17:28 (nine months ago) link
yeah, Lolita isn’t greatI’m on the fence about names that are derivatives but then become their own names. Sometimes goes well, sometimes terrible. Lolita is just the diminutive of Dolores!
― ɥɯ ︵ (°□°) (mh), Saturday, 9 December 2023 17:35 (nine months ago) link
this is my new obsession I'm drawing string between all the names and their variants and diminutives (did you know *this* name comes from this other name that sounds nothing like it but is unrelated to this other name that sounds similar?)
― Left, Saturday, 9 December 2023 17:44 (nine months ago) link
Naming children is hard and we should cut people some slack except that cunt Musk― Honnest Brish Face (Noodle Vague)
― Honnest Brish Face (Noodle Vague)
"cunt Musk" makes him sound far more alluring than he is in reality
i used to know a "gretchen". i can't remember if she changed her name to something else or if we just fell out of touch.
names i'm most familiar with are transfemme names... lotta roses, lotta madeleines. "oliver" is a reasonably popular transmasc name. if you're not gonna name yourself "machete" at least. of all the things people complain about re: trans people's names, that's the thing i understand the least. that we have weird names. like i can pick anything in the world as a name, why would i pick a dull, boring-ass name like kate?
... i mean no such thing as bad names, i guess. same goes for "chasen/jayden"... if the people who have those names don't like them, they can always change them. you don't actually have to start hormones to change your name.
one of the women in "book of the new sun" is named "dorcas". honestly it scans given how fucking massively misogynist that book is. (funnily enough i didn't pick up on how deeply misogynist it was until i reread it after transition. go figure.)
funny thing i just realized recently about names... my mom wanted to give me an irish name but my dad was dead-set against it... he fought hard until their last child, at which point he relented. my youngest sibling doesn't go by that name now, of course. then when i changed my name is... it's just "kate", which can be derived from any number of names. some of them are irish!
I’m on the fence about names that are derivatives but then become their own names.― ɥɯ ︵ (°□°) (mh)
― ɥɯ ︵ (°□°) (mh)
i'm ok with it, personally
― Kate (rushomancy), Saturday, 9 December 2023 17:48 (nine months ago) link
Lolita is just the diminutive of Dolores
Actually, Lolita is a satire on the American Dream
― The Ned Wedding (flamboyant goon tie included), Saturday, 9 December 2023 17:51 (nine months ago) link
she was like "it's a pretty name and social context didn't exist". she was also a nabakov fan which makes it weirder
Dorcas is a good biblical name and i don't think kids say dorkus any more so I think it should be safe
most of my favourite names are diminutives. also they tend to be easier to masculinise or feminise or androgynise. they feel more fun somehow. I might feel different if I'd been born with one
kate - are you ever katie? or is that a totally different person's name? I've known a few kates and have heard some wildly divergent opinions on this matter
― Left, Saturday, 9 December 2023 18:02 (nine months ago) link
xxp someone doesn’t have any relatives with the legal first name Ricky
― ɥɯ ︵ (°□°) (mh), Saturday, 9 December 2023 18:11 (nine months ago) link
I found a website recently where thousands of people have rated names based off of how they associate them with false binaries and personality traits. However, the best part of the website is the comments section for each name. “Zach” is a very hated name!!
― i'm really excited to learning more", *sunglasses fly onto dog.gif* (z_tbd), Saturday, 9 December 2023 18:44 (nine months ago) link
https://www.behindthename.com/
https://i.imgur.com/h57bgYn.png
shadowdranix49 yr wrong because it doesn't even sound great
― i'm really excited to learning more", *sunglasses fly onto dog.gif* (z_tbd), Saturday, 9 December 2023 18:45 (nine months ago) link
When we named our children we went thru long discussions about potential nicknames and abuse associated with each possible choice
― Honnest Brish Face (Noodle Vague), Saturday, 9 December 2023 18:50 (nine months ago) link
My name is really boring and common and I am fine with that. It’s basically the equivalent of a neutral piece of furniture that no one really complains about or praises.
― sarahell, Saturday, 9 December 2023 18:54 (nine months ago) link
It’s like the stove in my apartment that has been there for many decades and continues to be functional.
― sarahell, Saturday, 9 December 2023 18:55 (nine months ago) link
Guys called Tom are always so funny and just good vibes in general.― Anonymous User 3/17/2023
Absolutely.
― Free Ass Ange (Tom D.), Saturday, 9 December 2023 18:57 (nine months ago) link
It’s annoying names end up with this sort of baggage, I had my heart set on Karen-Chad for my first
― Boris Yitsbin (wins), Saturday, 9 December 2023 19:01 (nine months ago) link
A friend of mine, whose surname is Harris, always insisted he'd name his sons Tyrannis or Brontos if he had any. He didn't have any though. Well, not yet.
― Free Ass Ange (Tom D.), Saturday, 9 December 2023 19:07 (nine months ago) link
Margaret and its derivatives are pretty interesting to me. My wife is an Elizabeth, for which there may be almost as many variants (Liz, Liza, Eliza, Beth, Betsy, Betty, etc.). See also Anne to Nancy.
In the preindustrial olden days there just weren't enough names to go round (the few factories couldn't keep up with the demand) so pretty much everyone in England was named John or Mary.
Or that's my personal crackpot theory.
― ; Powell (Ye Mad Puffin), Saturday, 9 December 2023 19:48 (nine months ago) link
Every man in England in the Tudor era was called Thomas, unless you were a king, then you were called Henry.
― Free Ass Ange (Tom D.), Saturday, 9 December 2023 19:50 (nine months ago) link
And if you were a dick, you could be called John Thomas.
― ; Powell (Ye Mad Puffin), Saturday, 9 December 2023 19:53 (nine months ago) link
Or, of course, Richard.
― ; Powell (Ye Mad Puffin), Saturday, 9 December 2023 19:54 (nine months ago) link
Margaret and its derivatives are pretty interesting to me. My wife is an Elizabeth, for which there may be almost as many variants (Liz, Liza, Eliza, Beth, Betsy, Betty, etc.). See also Anne to Nancy. In the preindustrial olden days there just weren't enough names to go round (the few factories couldn't keep up with the demand) so pretty much everyone in England was named John or Mary. Or that's my personal crackpot theory.
― sarahell, Saturday, 9 December 2023 20:26 (nine months ago) link
even as a Thomas/Tom I did not anticipate the apparent strong current association with the tank engine. he’s nice and earnest enough, but kind of a snobby class oppressor vs the freight and passenger cars rly
― digital chirping and whirring (Hunt3r), Saturday, 9 December 2023 22:26 (nine months ago) link
My most visible namesakes in film were played by Danny Devito and Jorma Taccone
― The Ned Wedding (flamboyant goon tie included), Saturday, 9 December 2023 22:29 (nine months ago) link
i'm an american Oliver and I barely encountered another one for most of my life, it seemed way more common as a pet name.
― JoeStork, Saturday, 9 December 2023 22:31 (nine months ago) link
Omg I almost want to tell the story about my friend’s mom helping translate for Balkan asylum seekers in the 90s
― sarahell, Saturday, 9 December 2023 23:37 (nine months ago) link
but bro—— u can't steal from a communist
― she fell asleep with her hand around my throat (Austin), Tuesday, 12 December 2023 23:20 (nine months ago) link
good grief, people, are you still talking about driving
― scanner darkly, Sunday, 17 December 2023 20:42 (nine months ago) link
THAT’S WHERE YOU BELONGIN MY ARMS, MOTHERFUCKER
― the new drip king (DJP), Thursday, 21 December 2023 02:27 (nine months ago) link
I don't think I've ever wished death on as many people as I do now.
― immodesty blaise (jimbeaux), Thursday, 21 December 2023 22:59 (nine months ago) link
how many people are we talkin here
― z_tbd, Thursday, 21 December 2023 23:07 (nine months ago) link
i din't mean it man
― digital chirping and whirring (Hunt3r), Friday, 22 December 2023 01:19 (nine months ago) link
i feel like 0 is understandable, 1-4 is common, 5-20 is relatable, 21-100 is kind of a lot though but 101-999 if you really think about who fucking sucks and 1000-9999 well you and 10K- well it's not really like that though but 100K i didn't realize that and 1M i'm actually asleep stop texting me now though
― z_tbd, Friday, 22 December 2023 01:33 (nine months ago) link
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― Andy the Grasshopper, Friday, 22 December 2023 01:45 (nine months ago) link
kill some of 'em al
― z_tbd, Friday, 22 December 2023 01:49 (nine months ago) link
l
― z_tbd, Friday, 22 December 2023 01:50 (nine months ago) link
You can kill me, Al
― Andy the Grasshopper, Friday, 22 December 2023 02:03 (nine months ago) link
A+
― assert (matttkkkk), Friday, 22 December 2023 02:17 (nine months ago) link
oh c'mon like y'all have never wished for the total extinction of the human race
― Kate (rushomancy), Friday, 22 December 2023 02:28 (nine months ago) link
except me.. I still have 'last human' fantasies from childhood, where I alone would have the run of the place
― Andy the Grasshopper, Friday, 22 December 2023 02:36 (nine months ago) link
...maybe add 1 (one) optometrist to your fantasy... (just thinkin' baout old Twilight Zone...)
... maybe a doctor too... and a couple of farmers...
fantasy's getting crowded now...
― m0stly clean (Slowsquatch), Friday, 22 December 2023 03:05 (nine months ago) link
The one where you get to go to the car yard and drive all the cars and the videogame shop and get all the consoles and the McDonald’s and get all the burgers? That was my favourite 8yo fantasy. But it was never solo, me and the street mates knew we’d be in this situation together
― H.P, Friday, 22 December 2023 03:07 (nine months ago) link
― m0stly clean (Slowsquatch)
i love burgess meredith, but the premise kind of falls apart if you look at it sideways.
so let me get this right. it's a story about a man who is apparently legally blind in a world where reading is taboo, despite there being writing everywhere and the continued publication of periodicals. his boss yells at him for being bad at his job, but his boss doesn't yell at him for not being able to make change right, his boss yells at him for _reading on his lunch break_. and not just, like, books. it's not like "what you readin' for?" kind of stuff. no, he gets yelled at for _reading the labels_. so what the fuck do they do instead? do they just not do anything for entertainment? they have to do _something_. we don't see it. it's probably the most weaksauce dystopia ever. that's it? that's the whole dystopia? it's like our world except everyone thinks _reading is bad_?
maybe i'm indulging in presentism. writing from 2023, i can see what a post-literate society would look like, and there's nothing really dystopian about it. it's just, like, there are other ways of communicating information, communications media that have both advantages and disadvantages compared to the written word.
i mean, am i missing something here? there's some genuinely good twilight zone episodes, but i don't get how _this_ is considered one of the greats.
― Kate (rushomancy), Friday, 22 December 2023 05:04 (nine months ago) link
When I was younger, I thought Smith's monologue in The Matrix about humanity being a virus was uncomfortably close to the truth.
Come to think of it, I still do.
But in terms of identifiable individuals, I think pretty much everyone in Trump's orbit would be doing humanity a service by kicking off.
― immodesty blaise (jimbeaux), Friday, 22 December 2023 13:01 (nine months ago) link
The thing that keeps me from misanthropy is knowing that all the ppl I think most epitomize what's wrong with humanity would also think Agent Smith's speech is otm.
― Daniel_Rf, Friday, 22 December 2023 13:12 (nine months ago) link
Yeah, but those people typically exempt themselves from the description.
― immodesty blaise (jimbeaux), Friday, 22 December 2023 13:15 (nine months ago) link
Eh, best to be like Reagan: love people in the aggregate, act politely frosty one-on-one.
― poppers fueled buttsex crescendo (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Friday, 22 December 2023 13:29 (nine months ago) link
I think most people are actually quite amazing, but that hegemonic systems prevent them from showing themselves and realizing their potential. I include myself in this. Misanthropy of any sort forms the beginning of the slide to the worst impulses that humans can harbor.
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Friday, 22 December 2023 13:40 (nine months ago) link
The biggest obstacle, I think, is, from the MAGA cousin who insists on courtesy when you hang out to the most insouciant social media addict, how rarely we realize the consequences of our actions.
― poppers fueled buttsex crescendo (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Friday, 22 December 2023 13:52 (nine months ago) link
i cant decide whether reagan approach or the opposite is better i think i lean towards the latter tho
― close encounters of the third knid (darraghmac), Friday, 22 December 2023 13:57 (nine months ago) link
Misanthropy absolute dud. Recent update in the Calvin and Hobbes thread says everything that needs to be said about it
― H.P, Friday, 22 December 2023 14:18 (nine months ago) link