so i'm about to go through this ridiculous thing of like shedding a lifetime of codependency and shit, i'm excitedbut also like can we just get it over with already jfc
― Swen, Friday, 16 February 2024 02:01 (seven months ago) link
I gave my love a cherry that had no stone
― a hyperlink to the past (flamboyant goon tie included), Friday, 16 February 2024 06:16 (seven months ago) link
I actually lost my gift-compass when I started dating my bf, he's such a fastidious and thoughtful gift-giver that it feels aggressive, competitive. After I got him new Blunstones for Valentines he emergency ordered something else for me because he felt outdone or something. Then he took the Blunstones back to exchange them for a different colour. His birthday is coming up. I am terrified
― a hyperlink to the past (flamboyant goon tie included), Friday, 16 February 2024 06:27 (seven months ago) link
map i do not think i’m a great gift-giver either! i even opted out of my last workplace’s secret santa party the last few years lol. my partner’s 50th is this year and i want to do something big for it but i have no idea what to do and i’m a lil nervous about it tbh
― donna rouge, Friday, 16 February 2024 14:58 (seven months ago) link
both of you should just give your partners a good birthday spanking and call it good
― ꙮ (map), Friday, 16 February 2024 15:14 (seven months ago) link
swen how did it go last night??
― ꙮ (map), Friday, 16 February 2024 15:52 (seven months ago) link
dude it's not even last night it's that i'm moving soon - and shedding a lifetime's worth of absolute fuckery. like GET THE MAN WITH THE VAN over here right now i can't take it anymore.
also i am truly awful at gifts. like you might as well ask me to learn brail overnight.
― Swen, Friday, 16 February 2024 17:07 (seven months ago) link
ahhhh i gotcha. excited for you.
i'm selfish in some borderline distasteful ways and one of them is just never thinking about gifts for anyone bcz it stresses me out.
― ꙮ (map), Friday, 16 February 2024 17:15 (seven months ago) link
SAME. get your own damn gift.
― Swen, Friday, 16 February 2024 17:32 (seven months ago) link
lol
― ꙮ (map), Friday, 16 February 2024 17:47 (seven months ago) link
There are so many things that I’m bad at (hello dyspraxia) that I’ve finally learned to value the things I’m good at - and buying presents is one of them. I LOVE gifting!
― mike t-diva, Friday, 16 February 2024 20:55 (seven months ago) link
<3 <3 <3
― Swen, Saturday, 17 February 2024 17:09 (seven months ago) link
hey mike, that's awesome!
the throup has a running joke about this hilarious utah-based company called minky couture. you gotta click through for the vibe. they make these super red state femme cheap-ass throw blankets. utah girl realness on all of their billboards and ads. anyone who says "minky couturure" in the most repellent nasal whine imaginable gets an automatic laugh. anyone who drops the word "minky" at any time gets an automatic laugh. i already know we're gonna have to make a date out of visiting the "flagship store." the other thing we're always joking about is the song "higher" by creed.
― ꙮ (map), Saturday, 17 February 2024 17:23 (seven months ago) link
omg i love higher
― Swen, Saturday, 17 February 2024 17:27 (seven months ago) link
(lol)
if any of you good gift-givers want to buy me a minky, i will post a photo of me and my baes wrapped in it to this very thread.
xp haha! i've never felt so bad about myself for liking a song, it's delicious.
― ꙮ (map), Saturday, 17 February 2024 17:34 (seven months ago) link
My fella wears his coolness lightly. Last night, he walked past my office, while I was streaming Beyoncé’s Texas, and remarked, accurately, that it sounded like Rhiannon Giddens was playing on it. That flummoxed me. Then this morning, amongst other birthday gifts, he gives me the phenomenal Sofia Kourtesis album (ILM’s #2 of 2023) on CD. Yeah, I’ve been doing some research, he says. Double flummox!I saw in my Special Day at midnight by dancing to a pre-prepared mix of Gina G, Saint Etienne, Tatjana and Nicki French, in a big circle at the bar up the road, surrounded by friends old and new, and feeling proper hashtag blessed.I’ve been enjoying all the recent sex chat on this thread, and if this was on 77 then I’d engage further, but given what nearly happened to me in bygone days, via some unmissed ex-members, while I had a more public profile, I’ve stepped away from that degree of sharing. (They were plotting to publish the Gaydar profiles of three gay Guardian writers. It didn’t happen.)
― mike t-diva, Saturday, 17 February 2024 17:36 (seven months ago) link
! the bright ones are always gonna bring out same haters
― ꙮ (map), Saturday, 17 February 2024 17:38 (seven months ago) link
awful
― Swen, Saturday, 17 February 2024 17:44 (seven months ago) link
I've met several queer ILXers, we have not hooked up. We needed minky coutour.
― poppers fueled buttsex crescendo (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Saturday, 17 February 2024 18:13 (seven months ago) link
We did glance at each other appreciatively
― a hyperlink to the past (flamboyant goon tie included), Saturday, 17 February 2024 18:20 (seven months ago) link
we sure did
― poppers fueled buttsex crescendo (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Saturday, 17 February 2024 18:21 (seven months ago) link
i haven’t met many of you, tbh— and many whom I have met are no longer on ILX. I think it’s just Swen, Stevie D, and plax, of the OG ILX gays.
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Saturday, 17 February 2024 18:25 (seven months ago) link
oh and duh, donna rouge
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Saturday, 17 February 2024 18:26 (seven months ago) link
(we have interacted enough outside of ILX that I sometimes forget that DR and I met via ILX)
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Saturday, 17 February 2024 18:27 (seven months ago) link
but back in the day I spent some nice times with Morbz, elmo argonaut, and l0u. still have yet to meet J0rdan or map!
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Saturday, 17 February 2024 18:28 (seven months ago) link
tbh this is making me want to do a roll call
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Saturday, 17 February 2024 18:29 (seven months ago) link
I've met fgti and Stevie D once, l0u twice, and became friends with Kevin, Morbz, and sarge.
― poppers fueled buttsex crescendo (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Saturday, 17 February 2024 18:30 (seven months ago) link
My ILX IRL meet-ups are all ancient: Tom Ewing, Lex, Matt DC, mark s, William Swygart, Marcello. Although recently I met Camaraderie At Arms Length on Zoom, when he guested on our podcast.
― mike t-diva, Saturday, 17 February 2024 18:42 (seven months ago) link
ran into Sarge a the door of a club once!
also Rob Irwin is single 😓
― Swen, Saturday, 17 February 2024 19:11 (seven months ago) link
oh wait -- I met lex twice
― poppers fueled buttsex crescendo (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Saturday, 17 February 2024 19:11 (seven months ago) link
tabes i have a fuzzy memory of meeting you briefly at 77 boardrum in l.a. is that totally off?
― ꙮ (map), Saturday, 17 February 2024 19:31 (seven months ago) link
oh wow, maybe very very briefly— i met Ned that day too, very briefly. was it in the press area?
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Saturday, 17 February 2024 19:37 (seven months ago) link
somewhere around there i think. basically just a 30 second 'hi' so understandably easy to forget. we'll probably be making it out to philly this summer - we should meet up!
― ꙮ (map), Saturday, 17 February 2024 19:41 (seven months ago) link
I do remember this now! Yes! That weekend is a little hazy in my memory, tbh. Would love to hang this summer!
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Saturday, 17 February 2024 19:57 (seven months ago) link
I am also pondering a trip for my 40th in October, and part of me really wants to go bouldering in Joe’s Valley for a few days— so if that happens, maybe we can hang twice in a year!
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Saturday, 17 February 2024 19:59 (seven months ago) link
oh awesome! yay to hanging out. i had no idea joe's valley was a bouldering hot spot, that's cool. there's an incredible rock art panel not too far from there called the rochester panel, we stopped by there last fall. if you fly into slc, definitely let us know.
― ꙮ (map), Saturday, 17 February 2024 20:03 (seven months ago) link
listen to this it's practically sleepless in Seattle in here
― Swen, Saturday, 17 February 2024 20:04 (seven months ago) link
― ꙮ (map), Saturday, 17 February 2024 20:05 (seven months ago) link
aw i hope you guys make it happen! Love the thought of 2 of my favorite ilxors hangin out
As far as i know i have only met a couple of ancients like D0ugla5 W0lk but NYC is a small world
I keep to myself a lot these days but feel free to say hi if you're in town, queers.
― O Fundo Escuro de (Deflatormouse), Saturday, 17 February 2024 20:13 (seven months ago) link
For sure. I've been lax about keeping up with the ILX queers. I hit NYC at least twice a year.
― poppers fueled buttsex crescendo (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Saturday, 17 February 2024 20:14 (seven months ago) link
the rocks are wonderful though, i look at them every day.
Penguins give each other fancy rocks as a courtship ritual, so that's a good instinct.
xp Alfred I'd love to meet ya
― O Fundo Escuro de (Deflatormouse), Saturday, 17 February 2024 20:15 (seven months ago) link
my ex had his engagement party last night! it was a surprise. isn't that cute? I was invited but circumstantially couldn't go. so so happy for him though. I have a date on Monday and I guess I'm looking forward to it but the sexual attraction could be greater. does that ever increase in the early days
― Swen, Saturday, 17 February 2024 21:04 (seven months ago) link
no
― ꙮ (map), Saturday, 17 February 2024 22:32 (seven months ago) link
i'm so not the kind of person who would or could ever go to an ex's engagement party. hope you're treating yourself well this weekend.
― ꙮ (map), Saturday, 17 February 2024 22:37 (seven months ago) link
ugh so you're saying the date will be a bust
― Swen, Saturday, 17 February 2024 22:42 (seven months ago) link
my hot take is that if there isn't something special grabbing you up front it's better to cut and run, but maybe give it a few more dates / hangouts, like 3 or less.
― ꙮ (map), Saturday, 17 February 2024 22:45 (seven months ago) link
just my style ymmv
― ꙮ (map), Saturday, 17 February 2024 22:46 (seven months ago) link
i just don't understand why the hot guys always have to be such putzes
my chill has literally left the building with the dumbasses, like i used to be able to tolerate it
we def had a special conversation spark, this guy, and this would be the first date so i guess i'll give it a go for practice and then figure it out.
― Swen, Saturday, 17 February 2024 23:05 (seven months ago) link
oh for sure. did he putz out over messages or something?
there's this guy we were texting a lot last summer. he's hot but kind of a putz. he desperately wants love but needs to give a lot more to himself. not to get all oprah about it but it's true.
― ꙮ (map), Saturday, 17 February 2024 23:13 (seven months ago) link