tables is indeed a great prose writer. very clear and generous, strongly opinionated but willing to backtrack and apologize if needed.
everyone here is great at what they do. jealous, cruel haters get the misery and smallness they deserve.
― ꙮ (map), Sunday, 18 February 2024 23:14 (seven months ago) link
not to come in with pronouncements or anything, lol. loving all the love in here lately. i have so much admiration for all of you.
― ꙮ (map), Sunday, 18 February 2024 23:15 (seven months ago) link
I feel sheepish and delighted at all your compliments guys tysm
Generally I worked hard through my 20s because I read in Paul Bowles’ autobio that when he (20) was trucking around Europe with Aaron Copland (30), Copland told Bowles to work hard through his 20s. “If you don’t work hard in your 20s, who will love you when you’re 30?”
Tabes I read the first of the three poems you sent and I adored it and I can’t wait to read the other two :)
Meanwhile I’ve given my dog a new nickname: Norathy Zbornak
― a hyperlink to the past (flamboyant goon tie included), Sunday, 18 February 2024 23:24 (seven months ago) link
I'm so in love with you for reading Bowles' memoir in your '20s.
― poppers fueled buttsex crescendo (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Sunday, 18 February 2024 23:27 (seven months ago) link
I was stuck on Jane in my 20s, didn’t get to Paul until later!
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Sunday, 18 February 2024 23:30 (seven months ago) link
yeah I read that Portable Jane and Paul Bowles comp just to acquaintance myself with her.
― poppers fueled buttsex crescendo (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Sunday, 18 February 2024 23:32 (seven months ago) link
also thanks fgti and all for your kind words.
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Sunday, 18 February 2024 23:33 (seven months ago) link
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Sunday, 18 February 2024 23:34 (seven months ago) link
how do we feel about bleeding money
― Swen, Monday, 19 February 2024 16:31 (seven months ago) link
i ask because i've gotten really comfortable with it
― Swen, Monday, 19 February 2024 16:33 (seven months ago) link
Use Band-Aids.
― poppers fueled buttsex crescendo (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 19 February 2024 16:39 (seven months ago) link
like, findom? or just reckless spending?
― donna rouge, Monday, 19 February 2024 16:41 (seven months ago) link
omg i've never heard of findom lolololthat is special and wild so i guess it's 68.5% reckless and the rest, like i gotta live my life
― Swen, Monday, 19 February 2024 16:42 (seven months ago) link
i canceled a monthly bill that had doubled over the past two years, feels good. i have to tighten up for a while, but bleeding some money when i'm able to afford it is classic.
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 19 February 2024 16:56 (seven months ago) link
findom sounds like my worst nightmare lmao
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 19 February 2024 16:57 (seven months ago) link
amazing that donna had that at the ready
― Swen, Monday, 19 February 2024 16:58 (seven months ago) link
lol i just got it
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 19 February 2024 16:59 (seven months ago) link
lol!
― poppers fueled buttsex crescendo (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 19 February 2024 16:59 (seven months ago) link
lol there’s a lot of findom shit in the fetish circles i run in, i find it distasteful and injurious tbh. most of my money-bleeding is on records though i could probably stand to start doing things like meal prep more often
― donna rouge, Monday, 19 February 2024 17:30 (seven months ago) link
in fact i wanted to go record shopping today since i have the day off but it’s pissing rain in LA today >:(
― donna rouge, Monday, 19 February 2024 17:35 (seven months ago) link
meal prep, record shopping, piss, staying home, all good clean fun
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 19 February 2024 17:51 (seven months ago) link
;P
― donna rouge, Monday, 19 February 2024 17:57 (seven months ago) link
i like all of it to be honest
― Swen, Monday, 19 February 2024 18:05 (seven months ago) link
not a good liar here
overheard in the indian brunch buffet line
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 19 February 2024 18:19 (seven months ago) link
omg did i tell u i have been obsessed with indian food i wrote an embarrassing review on the restaurant's website confessing to them that i cried over a plate of their food
― Swen, Monday, 19 February 2024 18:26 (seven months ago) link
hahaha
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 19 February 2024 18:30 (seven months ago) link
leaving good reviews for neighborhood businesses is very wholesome and i fully support it
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 19 February 2024 18:33 (seven months ago) link
most of my money goes to food, climbing gear, books. i did Dry January and have only had a few drinks since and feel better than i have in years, and that is also reflected in my wallet… i am having a day, as i am getting a colonoscopy tomorrow— just maintenance, nothing scary— and that means i have to fast all day today. given my penchant for climbing and training for climbing, this means that i am fucking starving and still have 20+ hours before i can eat anything. i am distracting myself by grading and reading.
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Monday, 19 February 2024 18:37 (seven months ago) link
i also love Indian food, but we don’t go out much— we’re both so cheap lol.
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Monday, 19 February 2024 18:38 (seven months ago) link
my sympathies, i did a colonoscopy last winter. the prep was tedious and i hated having to take a break from my routine. ime indian brunch buffets are a good way to get an indian fix for half the price. we haven't gone in months though.
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 19 February 2024 18:49 (seven months ago) link
ugh i'm sorry :-( honestly i would take a long nap. bodies are pretty annoying.
― Swen, Monday, 19 February 2024 19:03 (seven months ago) link
fuuuuuun
i cook a lot of Indian food but haven't quite perfected the spice alchemy. there was a guy from India who stayed at the hotel where i used to work for like 3 months, in a suite with a kitchenette and brought his own personal chef. The chef offered to give me cooking lessons for $30/hour. I passed. Always regretted that, the food smelled amazing
i'm ridiculously tight when it comes to "buying stuff" and prob too spendy on "experiences". services = hell no, i DIY everything always.
― O Fundo Escuro de (Deflatormouse), Monday, 19 February 2024 19:08 (seven months ago) link
there is one service i dream about being able to afford one day and that's a biweekly cleaner, because i hate cleaning and suck at it. my spending vices atm are pricey workwear and bodybuilding supplements.
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 19 February 2024 19:14 (seven months ago) link
i have an in-law from kerala and his wife cooked us some good stuff. said wife is my partner's sister. her son just came out! :) they are supportive.
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 19 February 2024 19:19 (seven months ago) link
i should cook indian more. we’re usually good about cooking all our dinners during the week but we tend to go out on the weekends, which is probably why we have barely any savings :/never had a colonoscopy but they seem pretty rough. partner had his first one last year, had no idea they were such a process! hope yours goes smoothly T
― donna rouge, Monday, 19 February 2024 20:12 (seven months ago) link
I've considered experimenting with abstinence, but books, films, food, drinks, and vacations are my only vices :/
― poppers fueled buttsex crescendo (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 19 February 2024 20:30 (seven months ago) link
i don’t want to do total abstinence, but moving from drinking 3-5 days a week (and often drinking multiple drinks) to 1 day/week (with a single strong beer or cocktail) is my kinda thing right now
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Monday, 19 February 2024 20:34 (seven months ago) link
I been dry and wet alternately over the past few months, and have been noticing the wet has been WET so I’m going dry more and more. Three drinky nights this month in an otherwise dry February and I think I’m sticking w dry from now on
― a hyperlink to the past (flamboyant goon tie included), Monday, 19 February 2024 21:21 (seven months ago) link
pricey workwear and bodybuilding supplements.
uh, hellooooo map :D
― O Fundo Escuro de (Deflatormouse), Monday, 19 February 2024 21:45 (seven months ago) link
i regularly go months at a time without a drink, will have the odd one socially but mostly like to get good and sloppy by myself. what you'd call a problem drinker basically.
― O Fundo Escuro de (Deflatormouse), Monday, 19 February 2024 21:47 (seven months ago) link
saving up for galapagos trip and hoping to add siloli desert but then i start thinking i should also add costa rica and where do i draw the line
― O Fundo Escuro de (Deflatormouse), Monday, 19 February 2024 21:55 (seven months ago) link
that sounds amazing! wow. i hardly travel.
i don't drink MUCH during the week but i can def hang with the best of em if i'm in the right mood. lately i've been having a hard time figuring out what my drink is tho, i was a Manhattan rocks guy for years but i need to change it up.
― Swen, Tuesday, 20 February 2024 15:09 (seven months ago) link
yeah i never travel. i think the reason i'm trying to cram so much in is idk when or if i'll take another trip.
yeah i also don't have a regular drink order, depends on the place.
was thinking about "gaydar" and how i used to be much better at reading into subtle ambiguities and i feel like it's no longer a thing? is it just cause i've stopped looking or is gaydar obsolete now due to growing mainstream acceptance, dating apps or something else?
― O Fundo Escuro de (Deflatormouse), Tuesday, 20 February 2024 17:10 (seven months ago) link
I ordered gaydar in 1999, was told it was on back order, still hasn't come in.
― poppers fueled buttsex crescendo (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 20 February 2024 17:11 (seven months ago) link
'gaydar' is a pretty funny word
― ꙮ (map), Tuesday, 20 February 2024 17:14 (seven months ago) link
haha, yeah it was always framed as like a sixth sense, there is probably a bad psychology today article on 'demystifying gaydar' that breaks it all down
― O Fundo Escuro de (Deflatormouse), Tuesday, 20 February 2024 17:29 (seven months ago) link
was a Sunday piece at Pitchfork iirc
― poppers fueled buttsex crescendo (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 20 February 2024 17:31 (seven months ago) link
it has 'wacky 90s sitcom' energy
dm that sounds like an amazing trip!
i also don't travel much, at least by air, but i like to spend a few days in the utah desert every month or so if i can swing it.
maybe ppl know this since i feel like i've said it a bunch but i'm no-alcohol. it's just what i gotta do and it's no stress at this point.
― ꙮ (map), Tuesday, 20 February 2024 17:40 (seven months ago) link
i hear that, i can never take another hit of weed again myself and i don't miss it
googled utah desert pics, wow, i thought this place only existed in roadrunner cartoons. do you camp overnight? the sky must be incredible.
in 20 years i've been to london and socal once each to see fam, that's it. this trip is actually terrifying
'wacky 90's sitcom energy' is otm, maybe it's due a resurgence, like cargo pants.
― O Fundo Escuro de (Deflatormouse), Tuesday, 20 February 2024 18:06 (seven months ago) link