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yeah I read that Portable Jane and Paul Bowles comp just to acquaintance myself with her.

how do we feel about bleeding money

i ask because i've gotten really comfortable with it

Use Band-Aids.

like, findom? or just reckless spending?

omg i've never heard of findom lololol
that is special and wild
so i guess it's 68.5% reckless and the rest, like i gotta live my life

i canceled a monthly bill that had doubled over the past two years, feels good. i have to tighten up for a while, but bleeding some money when i'm able to afford it is classic.

findom sounds like my worst nightmare lmao

amazing that donna had that at the ready

lol i just got it

lol!

lol there’s a lot of findom shit in the fetish circles i run in, i find it distasteful and injurious tbh. most of my money-bleeding is on records though i could probably stand to start doing things like meal prep more often

in fact i wanted to go record shopping today since i have the day off but it’s pissing rain in LA today >:(

meal prep, record shopping, piss, staying home, all good clean fun

;P

i like all of it to be honest

not a good liar here

overheard in the indian brunch buffet line

omg did i tell u i have been obsessed with indian food
i wrote an embarrassing review on the restaurant's website confessing to them that i cried over a plate of their food

hahaha

leaving good reviews for neighborhood businesses is very wholesome and i fully support it

most of my money goes to food, climbing gear, books. i did Dry January and have only had a few drinks since and feel better than i have in years, and that is also reflected in my wallet…

i am having a day, as i am getting a colonoscopy tomorrow— just maintenance, nothing scary— and that means i have to fast all day today. given my penchant for climbing and training for climbing, this means that i am fucking starving and still have 20+ hours before i can eat anything. i am distracting myself by grading and reading.

i also love Indian food, but we don’t go out much— we’re both so cheap lol.

my sympathies, i did a colonoscopy last winter. the prep was tedious and i hated having to take a break from my routine. ime indian brunch buffets are a good way to get an indian fix for half the price. we haven't gone in months though.

ugh i'm sorry :-( honestly i would take a long nap. bodies are pretty annoying.

fuuuuuun

i cook a lot of Indian food but haven't quite perfected the spice alchemy. there was a guy from India who stayed at the hotel where i used to work for like 3 months, in a suite with a kitchenette and brought his own personal chef. The chef offered to give me cooking lessons for $30/hour. I passed. Always regretted that, the food smelled amazing

i'm ridiculously tight when it comes to "buying stuff" and prob too spendy on "experiences". services = hell no, i DIY everything always.

there is one service i dream about being able to afford one day and that's a biweekly cleaner, because i hate cleaning and suck at it. my spending vices atm are pricey workwear and bodybuilding supplements.

i have an in-law from kerala and his wife cooked us some good stuff. said wife is my partner's sister. her son just came out! :) they are supportive.

i should cook indian more. we’re usually good about cooking all our dinners during the week but we tend to go out on the weekends, which is probably why we have barely any savings :/

never had a colonoscopy but they seem pretty rough. partner had his first one last year, had no idea they were such a process! hope yours goes smoothly T

I've considered experimenting with abstinence, but books, films, food, drinks, and vacations are my only vices :/

i don’t want to do total abstinence, but moving from drinking 3-5 days a week (and often drinking multiple drinks) to 1 day/week (with a single strong beer or cocktail) is my kinda thing right now

I been dry and wet alternately over the past few months, and have been noticing the wet has been WET so I’m going dry more and more. Three drinky nights this month in an otherwise dry February and I think I’m sticking w dry from now on

pricey workwear and bodybuilding supplements.

uh, hellooooo map :D

i regularly go months at a time without a drink, will have the odd one socially but mostly like to get good and sloppy by myself. what you'd call a problem drinker basically.

saving up for galapagos trip and hoping to add siloli desert but then i start thinking i should also add costa rica and where do i draw the line

that sounds amazing! wow. i hardly travel.

i don't drink MUCH during the week but i can def hang with the best of em if i'm in the right mood. lately i've been having a hard time figuring out what my drink is tho, i was a Manhattan rocks guy for years but i need to change it up.

yeah i never travel. i think the reason i'm trying to cram so much in is idk when or if i'll take another trip.

yeah i also don't have a regular drink order, depends on the place.

was thinking about "gaydar" and how i used to be much better at reading into subtle ambiguities and i feel like it's no longer a thing? is it just cause i've stopped looking or is gaydar obsolete now due to growing mainstream acceptance, dating apps or something else?

I ordered gaydar in 1999, was told it was on back order, still hasn't come in.

'gaydar' is a pretty funny word

haha, yeah it was always framed as like a sixth sense, there is probably a bad psychology today article on 'demystifying gaydar' that breaks it all down

was a Sunday piece at Pitchfork iirc

it has 'wacky 90s sitcom' energy

dm that sounds like an amazing trip!

i also don't travel much, at least by air, but i like to spend a few days in the utah desert every month or so if i can swing it.

maybe ppl know this since i feel like i've said it a bunch but i'm no-alcohol. it's just what i gotta do and it's no stress at this point.

i hear that, i can never take another hit of weed again myself and i don't miss it

googled utah desert pics, wow, i thought this place only existed in roadrunner cartoons. do you camp overnight? the sky must be incredible.

in 20 years i've been to london and socal once each to see fam, that's it. this trip is actually terrifying

'wacky 90's sitcom energy' is otm, maybe it's due a resurgence, like cargo pants.

i love to travel, but also am cash-poor a lot of time. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

i love weed

i'm a spoiled baby who stays in motels when i go to the desert now. i used to do more camping. i don't have much gear atm. i'd like to do a backpacking trip with someone who enjoys it and knows the ropes. maybe a class or something. the sky is very good there yes.

i'm really getting into the rock art sites. i used to not get it, because i am a fool in a world of fools. young pine is an artist who is also into them, so we went to horseshoe canyon and hiked to the great gallery a few weekends ago. about 7 miles round trip. very deep desert wilderness. we didn't see anyone else all day. the panels and the journey to them are just overwhelmingly beautiful. really high on my list of aesthetic experiences and incredibly romantic too :)

map, my god, I love backpacking, I would go on a trip with you any time. husband and I have taken many backpacking and camping trips, nothing more than a few weeks, but it's legit one of my favorite things to do.

i am also a little bit more of a princess than I used to be, tho— i like a shower and an actual bed.

but i think we are planning for something this summer, which rules.

that's awesome tabes. backpacking with you fellas sounds like it would be great fun, good vibes, not to be missed. i'll be sure to check in with ya about your summer plans.

i mean send me a postcard with like a perfume bottle from the gift shop at the end of the trail or something, cuz you know the only backpack i carry is to the mall :D :D :D