In a bit of a manic creative obsession. Building new sounds and new songs on my existing setup, and in the evenings? investigating ways of rebuilding this setup within a virtual modular architecture. My body is sore!! Too much sitting around bent over objects
― Premises, Premises (flamboyant goon tie included), Monday, 18 March 2024 17:36 (five months ago) link
Too much sitting around bent over objects
sounds like me on Friday night
― poppers fueled buttsex crescendo (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 18 March 2024 17:37 (five months ago) link
my partner chatted with a guy a while back and the guy sends him texts every few months that just say "Come sit" or "Come suck".
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 18 March 2024 18:01 (five months ago) link
🎶 bring me sit or suck 🎶
― Premises, Premises (flamboyant goon tie included), Monday, 18 March 2024 18:37 (five months ago) link
https://i.ebayimg.com/images/g/FegAAOSwKI5lg6jy/s-l1600.jpg
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 18 March 2024 19:16 (five months ago) link
so i guess i'm going to have to sign up for my 12th free trial of amazon prime to watch shirtless and ripped jake gyllenhaal do fightsies in "road house"
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 18 March 2024 21:33 (five months ago) link
o yeah i saw that! he's big
― Swen, Monday, 18 March 2024 23:53 (five months ago) link
i don’t get the JG thing— think that’s just me tho
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Tuesday, 19 March 2024 01:25 (five months ago) link
when he had a babyface he was def my fav guy
i also realized i have a total thing for Joshua Jackson
― Swen, Tuesday, 19 March 2024 20:01 (five months ago) link
puppy dog face and big ears, i approve
― he/him hoo-hah (map), Tuesday, 19 March 2024 20:31 (five months ago) link
big hands and feet and eyeballs too; he's a goofball and not cool and delicious, the only celebrity I can fuck with.
― poppers fueled buttsex crescendo (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 19 March 2024 20:35 (five months ago) link
dad from texas mom from ireland, gimme, sorry lupita he's mine
― he/him hoo-hah (map), Tuesday, 19 March 2024 20:38 (five months ago) link
I had an enormous crush on Joshua Jackson when he played Pacey on Dawsons
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Tuesday, 19 March 2024 20:50 (five months ago) link
A friend of mine kissed him onscreen in a Canadian movie when they were both teenagers
― Premises, Premises (flamboyant goon tie included), Tuesday, 19 March 2024 21:01 (five months ago) link
can i ask your friend to kiss me so i can have some secondhand Joshua Jackson
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Tuesday, 19 March 2024 21:07 (five months ago) link
Haha that'd be fun. I dunno where she is now! She's an amazing violist, one of the best. Not such a great child actor, but who is?
― Premises, Premises (flamboyant goon tie included), Tuesday, 19 March 2024 21:29 (five months ago) link
obsessed with this JJ love. he totally turns me on.
― Swen, Tuesday, 19 March 2024 22:10 (five months ago) link
Can't imagine what bacchanal would happen should more than three gays in this thread gather.
― poppers fueled buttsex crescendo (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 19 March 2024 22:12 (five months ago) link
lol if Josh were there forget about it
― Swen, Tuesday, 19 March 2024 22:46 (five months ago) link
Swen and I would be trying to muscle each other out to get at JJ
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Tuesday, 19 March 2024 23:28 (five months ago) link
hahahahahahhahaha only if mad beers were involved would this be fun
― Swen, Tuesday, 19 March 2024 23:36 (five months ago) link
Negronis for everyone!
― poppers fueled buttsex crescendo (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 19 March 2024 23:37 (five months ago) link
oh i don’t need beer sweetie
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Tuesday, 19 March 2024 23:37 (five months ago) link
hahahahha you don't NEED beer but you look good with a beer!! won't lie
― Swen, Tuesday, 19 March 2024 23:38 (five months ago) link
my abs disagree ;-)
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Tuesday, 19 March 2024 23:39 (five months ago) link
hence why I stick to liquor
― poppers fueled buttsex crescendo (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 19 March 2024 23:42 (five months ago) link
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Tuesday, March 19, 2024 4:50 PM (five hours ago) bookmarkflaglink
omg agree so hardthe only guy who could rock a tommy bahama shirt every day of the week and still be totally dreamy, like instead of awful it's endearingly awful
― Deflatormouse, Wednesday, 20 March 2024 02:34 (five months ago) link
hawaiian shirts are like tv shorthand for "loveable sidekick" right? but also they made him talk like george clooney
the thing with a lot of these tv heartthrob guys is they look great with their mouths closed but as soon as you hear them talk thr str8 dude energy is such a turn off... but josh is actually very quick witted and charming
― Deflatormouse, Wednesday, 20 March 2024 02:37 (five months ago) link
ugh he's almost a real one you're right
― Swen, Wednesday, 20 March 2024 06:58 (five months ago) link
so i might need to add a semi colon to this thread - at the beginning of the thread title - that ok with everyone?
― Swen, Wednesday, 20 March 2024 16:38 (five months ago) link
strike that it might not be necessary
― Swen, Wednesday, 20 March 2024 18:35 (five months ago) link
he went so deep it was semi colon
― he/him hoo-hah (map), Wednesday, 20 March 2024 21:51 (five months ago) link
oh jesus
― Swen, Wednesday, 20 March 2024 22:02 (five months ago) link
lol
― Cemetry Gaetz (DJP), Wednesday, 20 March 2024 23:23 (five months ago) link
:]
― he/him hoo-hah (map), Wednesday, 20 March 2024 23:57 (five months ago) link
err ;]
― he/him hoo-hah (map), Wednesday, 20 March 2024 23:58 (five months ago) link
i was complaining to my lesbian friends about there being no word that's equivalent to "sapphic" (a woman who's attracted to women)
and one of them was all "Surely there is a man who was living on a Greek island who wrote lots of poetry about loving men we can use for the word"
i'm not super knowledgeable about ancient greek history but the word "alexandric" came to mind
what are y'all's thoughts
― Kate (rushomancy), Thursday, 21 March 2024 19:16 (five months ago) link
The word is Uranian, but it’s historically associated with pederasty iirc, co-opted by some English poets
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Uranians
― Premises, Premises (flamboyant goon tie included), Thursday, 21 March 2024 20:34 (five months ago) link
yeah, uranian is... a complicated one. the pederasty thing particularly.
---
One of my friends was moving her old stuff out of storage and she came across some quarter-century old letters from her best friend at the time. He was bi, but mostly casually hooked up with other guys... in one of his letters he complained about "faggy divas on estrogen". (He's dead now, of course.) A couple of years ago I might have been offended at being described, by extension, as a "faggy diva". These days I mostly wish I'd been faggier. Before I started estrogen, I wasn't into guys the way I am now. I crushed on guys a lot, but I never knew what to do with those crushes. There was always this implicit expectation of sex.. which for me is something... like, I remember wishing when I was younger that fellatio was acceptable as a common courtesy, something one did to be polite. Like a handshake. I wasn't ever really involved in spaces where I was able to suck off guys in that way. Plus there was the whole comphet thing. Guys were into me and I wasn't able to admit to myself or communicate to them that I kinda liked them, I thought they were cute. In my head it was "Jeez, I wish I was gay, then I'd really be into this guy." On top of that there was the whole self-esteem thing, where I couldn't imagine anybody possibly finding me attractive.
-
That's the past, though... I got enough problems dating now. It's mostly the suicide thing. Like, I feel like I'm getting to a point where I'm able to manage my chronic suicidality better than I've ever been able to. My last bout of suicidality, I was able to manage that without, like, doing serious damage to any of my relationships. That's always been a sticking point in my relationships... what happens when I get suicidal? And I've finally reached a point where that fear isn't hanging like a shadow over every relationship I have, every relationship I consider. Nah, it's more that everybody in my dating pool is suicidal.
It just makes things rough. It just seems endemic. Like, not even as a queer thing. Even straight people I know are suicidal a lot of the time. I definitely get it. Things are pretty bad right now, very nearly hopeless, and everyone I know talks about... being determined to love in spite of that. It's brave, it's defiant, and it's just... fucking hard. When everybody is like that, hookups, hookups are possible. Casual sex. That's very doable. I'm also just really not into that. Serious long-term relationships...
My girlfriend keeps telling me that she's interested in doing things with me, that she's attracted to me, that she's looking forward to the BDSM, uh, thing we have tickets for next weekend. And also she hates her body, and she hates herself, and I'm not sure how intimacy beyond cuddling is going to happen while she feels that way about herself. For me to be attracted to her doesn't do anything to change that. We're both at a point where we know that other people finding a person attractive is no substitute for that person finding themselves attractive.
It just complicates a situation that's already pretty complicated. I can't make any plans with anyone. I've got the cold that's going around or they've got the cold that's going around or they have to take care of the kids or the real estate company is fucking them around, and if it's not that, then they're having a bout of SI.
I'm honestly thinking about getting into more long-distance stuff. Like, online only. Intimacy with another person... physical acts are a very small part of that. I get a rush from talking to people with similar kinks to mine online that I don't really get from dating people in person. Maybe a couple times a year they could visit or I could visit and we could do some hot stuff for a weekend and then go back to yearning. I really like yearning. I can't imagine being in a relationship that isn't bittersweet, in some sense, if only because the way I think about myself, about my own life, is bittersweet. I've been watching this anime based on an old dating sim called "Sentimental Journey", and it's really interesting. It doesn't follow the story of the visual novel at all - the protagonist isn't in the anime. Instead, it's just twelve self-contained stories of who I assume are the girls in the dating sim, each one talking about their first love, the person they loved before the protagonist of the dating sim came into their life. Those are the kinds of romance stories I like. The ones that don't end with "happily ever after".
Maybe that's part of why I have so much trouble dating. Even when things are just beginning, I'm always anticipating the ending.
― Kate (rushomancy), Friday, 22 March 2024 11:30 (five months ago) link
Kate, do you save these posts after cobbling them together over the course of a day, afternoon, or evening? Your pace astounds me.
― poppers fueled buttsex crescendo (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Friday, 22 March 2024 11:51 (five months ago) link
these days everything i write starts out as a journal entry
i started a journal around the beginning of '19, do something long enough and it sort of becomes second nature i guess. the dialectical behavior therapy thing i just finished has helped me a lot. i got a lot of shit to work through and writing helps me do it
a lot of the stuff i write doesn't wind up getting posted... i find that when journaling about my experiences writing for an audience helps me express myself better. the best way of learning something is to try and explain it to others, that's what i've found. and if i'm doing that, i figure, you know, if something interesting comes out of that, it's only fair to share what i come up with with the audience i have in mind, even if ultimately i'm writing for myself
i know it seems like a lot, but sam pepys did, like, a million words over the course of ten years... i'm not even close to that pace, even with the stuff i don't post
a lot of it is probably also that i do spend a lot of time by myself. i'm hardly a hikikomori, but i live by myself, i work from home, i don't drive... even with a reasonably full social schedule i probably don't spend more than about 10 hours a week in the social company of other people
writing helps fill the void, as it were. helps keep me comfortable in my own head.
― Kate (rushomancy), Friday, 22 March 2024 12:13 (five months ago) link
word
― poppers fueled buttsex crescendo (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Friday, 22 March 2024 12:54 (five months ago) link
one of my friends says the word is "achillean" btw
just makes me think of that bob dylan song lol
hungry like a man in drag
you know i want your lovin'honey, but you're so hard
but probably most people wouldn't have that reaction
― Kate (rushomancy), Friday, 22 March 2024 13:54 (five months ago) link
oo i like 'achillean'
― he/him hoo-hah (map), Monday, 25 March 2024 19:51 (five months ago) link
i finished a song!
― Swen, Thursday, 28 March 2024 05:27 (five months ago) link
tell us about it!
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Thursday, 28 March 2024 11:05 (five months ago) link
like i think it's not that bad. i'm going back to a light rock thing, which i left like in high school but am feeling much more than poppy sounds these days. i've been listening to a LOT of grunge (it's not a grunge song lol, just saying.) that's my story! what have you been listening to t3ddy
― Swen, Thursday, 28 March 2024 15:43 (five months ago) link
that’s cool! i love grunge. i have been listening to Poco, Slikback, old goa trance mixes, and a lot of Karen Dalton
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Thursday, 28 March 2024 18:04 (five months ago) link
spring makes my listening habits deeply weird, every year
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Thursday, 28 March 2024 18:05 (five months ago) link
spring is a very special season. so much opportunity, it feels like. can you tell me more about karen dalton?
― Swen, Friday, 29 March 2024 06:21 (five months ago) link