fair happiness

It is generally better to be happy, or least even tempered (because I think that it is unnatural to be happy all the time and the persuit of this causes lots of distress) than unhappy.

Two unhappy people can tend to drag each other further down, but a happier person can cheer up the sad person. The exception I guess is that it is not appropriate to be ostentatiously happy about something that is making your loved one unhappy eg. "I'm so glad your husband is dead I never liked him!" But that doesn't mean you should feel guilty because you are happy, just that you should keep your mouth shut and be sympathetic.

It is easier to be sympathetic when you are happy, because unhappiness tends to blind you to other people's problems. So in summary (I have been thinking about this a bit but having difficulty reaching conclusions) Don't Feel Guilty For Being Happy.

I think it's just life, the circumstances of which are bound to change and soon enough, you find that you're the one who's miserably unhappy while those you love are facing you from the other side of the equation. For this reason, I think you might as well allow the bounty of your happiness where you can find it and allow the same to those you love (and even those you don't) since we all have to take our unhappiness no matter how much we kick, scream, protest, or otherwise resist the truth of that reality.

spread the happiness to the unhappy ones. what issadora said.