What should you do when the guy you fell for turns out to be a drongo?

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I have become very involved with someone, and everything was fine, until lately I have noticed his tastes in humour and music are so far removed from mine he might as well be from Jupiter.
Don't ask me how I didn't notice this earlier, I was in love ok, nothing was obvious until now.
Trouble is, in all other respects he is great for me, and I love his comapny etc.
The humour thing though, it's starting to be annoying when he laughs at what seem to me to be stupid ( and unsuccessful ) attempts at humour on his favourite radio station. That, and the music he likes. Wow I really didn't notice before now but he likes some really crappy stuff and there is no chance of getting either of us interested in each others musical taste.
What can I do?

― elena (elena), Saturday, 12 October 2002 07:09 (twenty-two years ago)

drongo

\Dron"go\, n.; pl. Drongos. (Zo["o]l.) A passerine bird of the family Dicrurid[ae]. They are usually black with a deeply forked tail. They are natives of Asia, Africa, and Australia; -- called also drongo shrikes

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― donut bitch (donut), Saturday, 12 October 2002 07:39 (twenty-two years ago)

"that's an odd name...i'da called em chazzwuzzas!"

― jess (dubplatestyle), Saturday, 12 October 2002 07:42 (twenty-two years ago)

What do you like and he like, as a matter of interest? There might be some middle ground.

The humour thing is a much tougher one.

― Tom (Groke), Saturday, 12 October 2002 08:05 (twenty-two years ago)

As long as he doesn't embarrass you in public it's okay.

― toraneko (toraneko), Saturday, 12 October 2002 10:43 (twenty-two years ago)

yeah, who would want to go out with someone who spits coffee everywhere and shit?

― g-kit (g-kit), Saturday, 12 October 2002 10:47 (twenty-two years ago)

crikey! if women really think taste in music is a big issue I'll prob die alone.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Saturday, 12 October 2002 10:55 (twenty-two years ago)

taste in music, i think, says a lot about someone and their personality. not everything, but a lot.

― ***1979*** (***1979***), Saturday, 12 October 2002 10:59 (twenty-two years ago)

yes it says something. especially if music is a big part of his/her life but there are other things as well.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Saturday, 12 October 2002 11:02 (twenty-two years ago)

Hey Julio, I'll try to fix you up with my pal Andrew L - he likes all the same stuff as you.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Saturday, 12 October 2002 12:25 (twenty-two years ago)

yeah & julio if yr all heterosexual & shit i could probly set you up with some actual females that like all that stuff, imagine. they probably got a bit of a different sense of "humour" than you tho.

― unknown or illegal user (doorag), Saturday, 12 October 2002 13:45 (twenty-two years ago)

Yes, both Julio (I think) and Andrew L (I'm sure) being het might limit their relationship, it's true.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Saturday, 12 October 2002 14:00 (twenty-two years ago)

i don't see it matters, it can be cute when someone laughs at something you think is awful

― gareth (gareth), Saturday, 12 October 2002 14:09 (twenty-two years ago)

It can also be really, really grating.

― Andrew (enneff), Saturday, 12 October 2002 14:15 (twenty-two years ago)

er...thanks martin but i am heterosexual.

''yeah & julio if yr all heterosexual & shit i could probly set you up with some actual females that like all that stuff, imagine. they probably got a bit of a different sense of "humour" than you tho.''

hehe but doorag you are on the other side of the planet!!!

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Saturday, 12 October 2002 16:07 (twenty-two years ago)

OK so you might have friends in the UK. hadn't considered that.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Saturday, 12 October 2002 16:08 (twenty-two years ago)

i guess you have to look at what other qualities drew you to him in the first place. do they still matter enough for you to overlook the humour and music things?
i think humour is a biggie and dont know if i could handle being with someone for long if their humour was so different to mine...depends if you think it is really stupid or just annoying.
music, well yeah thats big too but you can get around that i guess if you can manage to compromise.
does he know you feel this way at all?

― donna (donna), Saturday, 12 October 2002 16:44 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm surprised to realize that a reasonably similar sense of humor is more important to me than similar musical tastes. I think sense of humor is more closely related to intelligence, or if not, at least more closely related to a certain style of thinking about things or sense of priorities, etc. (I have to go.)

― Rockist Scientist, Saturday, 12 October 2002 16:56 (twenty-two years ago)

In a way, though, I would think the sense of humor that is revealed by "real life" events would be more important than someone's taste in comedy as an art form (so to speak).

― Rockist Scientist, Saturday, 12 October 2002 17:04 (twenty-two years ago)

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