Rolling Queer Life 2017

Turns out the last thread was year-specific.

Via tune is space... taking down a racist, misogynist asshole over real talk on gay teens and older men:

https://www.currentaffairs.org/2017/02/what-well-tolerate-and-what-we-wont

Good essay on Milo:

https://lareviewofbooks.org/?post_type=article&p=236677

Even the gay thread can't escape what this year is, huh.

what a wonderful way to kick off the thread.

well Gay Shame got such short shrift during the Marriage and Military Service Is All We Want era

Gay shame had its day

revival

i think ive mentioned i want to open a downlow gay bar with a '50s Far from Heaven/Advise & Consent theme, with passwords etc.

How far back do we want to go here? Smoking in public?

yes, and raids by costumed 'cops' for sure

I definitely want my name in the papers.

hi!

I'd love my vacuum to get humanizined in one of those bars!

proffer your hose

my boyfriend has a beard now and is wearing baseball hats

next thing you'll write is that you're eating

he probably is planning to be Carter Capps for Halloween?

i've seen J eat

he sipped water in front of me once

Did anyone watch any of the Dustin Temple Black miniseries on ABC? *runs*

A friend offered qualified praise, despite some of the haircuts.

I only caught a big chunk of the first installment. As everyone pointed out, almost more an exercise in intersectionality than good TV.

Guy playing young Cleve Jones was awfully cute tho.

I read How to Survive the Plague over hte holiday and, yeah, the young Cleve photos therein show a young man in startling control over his Timbaland boots.

How to Survive a Plague, I meant.

show a young man in startling control over his Timbaland boots

And speaking of the Tom of Finland biopic ...

btw i have my Gyllenhaal/Sondheim ticket

ayo

I've been thinking a lot about aloneness and minority distress.

That damned article.

Erin Gibson, of the Talking Shade podcast, has (half-jokingly?) outlined her suicide pact with herself when she reaches a point where she's no longer going to be able to take care of herself. It involves a trip to Paris, a luxurious hotel suite, and an indulgent pile of pills. She knows her gay audience.

i could not relate to that article at all personally speaking but it was interesting. it did make me examine how the conditioning of growing up in the closet may have molded me, so far the results are inconclusive tho.

Molded you in what ways?

we might know when we're dead

that damn epistemology of the closet again

i dunno, i never really considered the longterm effects of the closeted life beyond not having sex until i was 20 because i don't really feel as if i'm a different person in any drastic way, but that article got me to thinking more about it. for some reason i had never really connected my general inclination to deal with internal turmoil silently and privately to that but i think that probably explains a condition i've carried w/ me into adulthood.

xp Reading The Velvet Rage helped remind me that, though I'm always quick to point out that I (unlike many in my generation) identified as gay long before I was a practicing gay, there were those five or so years between knowing I was gay and admitting it to anyone.

only 5? not bad

I knew I was queer before I was gay: I didn't much cotton to the idea of "dating," whether men or women, I read a lot, preferred the company of friends, liked Henry James, etc.

(ie you've heard Stephin's 50 Song Memoir already?)

I heard 10 songs, my anxiety increasing as I realized he'd hired no guest singers.

entering his full Noel Coward phase

i can't remember if i subconsciously realized i was gay but the first time the thought of a guy made me cum i realized there was no turning back (even tho there is, but i think i knew there wasn't)

" I read a lot, preferred the company of friends"

Female friends or male friends, Alf? I barely had any male ones.

Do you mind that I call you Alf?

Female friends or male friends, Alf? I barely had any male ones.

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Do you mind that I call you Alf?

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Male! Still is. I've got a number of close women around me, but I've got bros, most of whom are straight.

plenty in that article strikes a v real chord and mostly the bits that don't scan less as unrecognisable and more "there but for the grace of god" etc - my not having addiction or mental illness problems feels more like a lucky combination of personality, social circle choices and the bubble of my industry than things that could only happen to other people