crying crying crying - how often do you? when why etc

i've tried to cry recently, thinking that it might help with depressive depths, but it won't come. the last time i cried was while watching the video for 2pac's "until the end of time." i'm still not sure why.

Crying is partially just a physical quirk, some people are more prone to cry in response to even small stresses. At least, that's what the Dr told me when I first asked about it. The other thing about crying lots is that it is a classic symptom of depression, so it might be worth finding out about that.

I think of itself though it is neither good or bad for you. Or at least I haven't noticed anything other than the embarassment of bawling in the street etc.

It's not just (if at all) a physiological proclivity though because in my cultural whatever at least men cry much less than women.

Depression is such a murky knotted subject for me. I am so suspicious of all the vested interests, the docs, the drugs, psych... I think it's probably a "healthy" response to be "depressed" in my society for the majority of people - at least I experiance my culture as alienating and in particular very damagingly death (and aging) avoidant. (Fuck, I'm sorry, not coherant at all - the subject is far too broad for me. I have reasons to be very sad now - tried fluox(prozac) but it numbed me too much)

the 'vested interests' can be pretty off-putting, but i think you still may benefit from seeing someone if you cant stop crying and it is getting to you, as it would!
there are people who dont immediately subscribe drugs ie: psychologists, counsellors. you may even be able to get a referral from your local doc and perhaps be entitled to free or subsidised sessions ( depends on where you are, obviously ).
i dont know if long-term crying has any physical effects but im sure the emotional effects are sufficient for it to warrant 'looking into'.
it is never 'healthy' to remain depressed for long periods. naturally it is deemed 'acceptable' and normal following certain events, but still if it lingers and doesnt look like dissipating please do seek assistance.
there are 'natural' remedies for emotional imbalances too, again, depending on where you are, you may be able to find something appropriate at your local health store or from a herbalist.

But the main thing I need is good friends; support. So there isn't much to do until that happens but yes I guess it's a bit of a vicious circle because when you need the most support I find that's when you are at your most pathetic lowly and unlikeable therefore that is exactly when you won't get it in my experience. So I think that I just have to slowly do little things to improve my situation bit by bit. I can';t even handle the thought of going to see people talking to people trying to explain anything. Sorry thanks for the help but I shouldn't have said anything on this forum.

Why should you not have said anything?

um, i meant prescribe not subscribe.sorry.
and there is nothing wrong with saying what you did, btw.

I never cry, we had this sort of discussion before, I'm into my 8th tearless year.

I never used to cry, but find myself welling up all the time these days. The last time it happened was on the bus this morning when I read about the Queen shedding a tear at Westminster Abbey yesterday. How embarrassing.

My boyf is going through a very stressful time at the moment (I may have mentioned this before once or twice) but he is physically unable to cry, he gets all emotional and he shudders and sobs but no tears come. I'm sure it'd help him if he could let go and let it all out but I think that'll take time. I think Donna is OTM, crying is sometimes good kinda like a pressure relief valve but prolonged crying needs looked into.

sleepswithdagger, i would like to give you more emotional support but i feel that you don't much want it. this may be paranoia on my part, i am unsure, but it pains me to see you upset and read about your unhappiness. your friends are probably more willing than you think to give you support and closeness, but you are a difficult person to get close to. about all i can offer is internet hugs because IRL i am too scared that you don't want my support/i am intruding etc. i don't know why men cry so seldom and i am not in a position to have to think about it. however i have been in the position of wishing they were more emotionally responsive.