Dating in the Time of Human Appillomavirus

For your dating and swiping stories, questions, and concerns.

Been out of a long term relationship a couple months now—matched with a woman on Hinge who is sort of funny, dark and brooding and shy but also willing to roast me?

Having her over to make dinner for us (our third date)—sort of anxious about finding the right music to have on. Looking for something that can nicely blend into the background and create a relaxed atmosphere for wine and dinner and chatting while finishing up cooking. Anyone have recommendations for date night music?

....Calum?

god i hate this - i can never find anything suitable. Charlie Brown Christmas?

it takes at least two other ppl to roast u fyi

dmac beat me to it ffs

does that mean i have choice of ends or

....Kenan?

swapping ends at half-time is standard practice iirc

do you know what type of music she likes? the first thing I thought of was a yé yé mix or something like electrelane.

right, move this abomination of a thread to ilm

Meant for general discussion about dating, just so happened the question on my mind is about music. Seems like ILX more appropriate for general discussion?

play krautrock deep cuts and be sure to quiz her on them

I’m glad you’re here, make yourself comfortable, I’ve just queued up my three hour Gary Numan essentials playlist.

Thanks for the electrelane tip—maybe a little too high energy for what I’m after.

Maybe Rhye? Too forward?

The other thing I find myself struggling with is second-guessing myself every time I want to text someone I’ve started seeing, and I don’t really know how to deal with that anxiety. That cycle of “why should I be ashamed of sending a text?” -> send text -> immediate fear and anxiety about coming on too strong. How do you regulate this?

i like electrelane while drinking ( i used to play it a lot in a bar) because it's soothing while uptempo enough that you don't feel tired.

If someone likes you, they won't get upset about receiving a text from you. Just try not to send several fragmented texts/thoughts in a row when one concise text will do and then you can wait for a response.

just, like, be yourself and shit

maybe when she gets there you can ask her what she feels like listening to? ... I don't get this pre-planning background music thing.

I like to hide a speaker playing a looped heartbeat.