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is it healthy to long for an absence of social contact? do people sometimes need to retreat into themselves? is it just a passing phase? how long does it usually last? when is it okay to want to be a hermit, when is it not okay?

― di smith (lucylurex), Saturday, 9 November 2002 09:38 (twenty-three years ago)

also, if you have really crap social skills, will being a hermit (even if only periodically) make this worse?

― di smith (lucylurex), Saturday, 9 November 2002 09:41 (twenty-three years ago)

probably

― DG (D_To_The_G), Saturday, 9 November 2002 10:32 (twenty-three years ago)

When I spend too long by myself, I start to develop imaginary friends and alternate personalities on the internet. So, erm, no it's not very healthy. Balance is good. I can't take long periods of time where I have to deal with people All. The. Time. that drives me a bit mad as well, and I have to retreat. Balance, balance, all is balance, go as far as you want in any one direction as long as you go equally as far in the opposite direction.

― kate st.crazy, Saturday, 9 November 2002 12:37 (twenty-three years ago)

Speaking of alternate personalities on the internet, I'm roughly half the posters on ILX (and two other people in this thread already).

― Andrew (enneff), Saturday, 9 November 2002 14:12 (twenty-three years ago)

it's a total survival mechanism, i can't function without time in the woods or with a book so that my mind can recover and get calm again (social time does not serve this purpose, it's fun but not relaxing for me). but it DOES make existing social problems worse because people think you don't care or hate them or something...so i'd say take as much as you can get away with and if you misjudge you're screwed.

― Maria (Maria), Saturday, 9 November 2002 14:32 (twenty-three years ago)

I would not be surprised if lots of people who appear like hermits don't really want to be, and just want other people to reach out to them.

― Josh (Josh), Saturday, 9 November 2002 16:00 (twenty-three years ago)

st simon stylites = emo

― mark s (mark s), Saturday, 9 November 2002 16:12 (twenty-three years ago)

josh, i reach out to you every day, and you spurn my advances.

― jess (dubplatestyle), Saturday, 9 November 2002 16:58 (twenty-three years ago)

Spurn, baby, spurn (hermit inferno...)

― kate, Saturday, 9 November 2002 17:01 (twenty-three years ago)

oh the ironic life of a pseudohermit

― Josh (Josh), Saturday, 9 November 2002 17:02 (twenty-three years ago)

I get this way - If you spend too much time around other people, something just clicks on in your brain and you'll suddenly do random things like turning down the wrong way of the street you live on and spending a half hour alone in the rain, walking through a park with your headphones on - looking at the trees and the water, the plants. Just sort of.. repositioning yourself so you can actually enjoy being around people again. I'll invariably catch myself being unfair to people and alienating them whenever their mere presence is an irritant. A bit of hermitism is probably a natural defence mechanism that can get out of hand if you stay in it too long or rely on it too much.

― Kim (Kim), Saturday, 9 November 2002 17:25 (twenty-three years ago)

I have very little social contact. if i didn't live with parents/younger brother, I'd have none.

I only have a phone line.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Saturday, 9 November 2002 18:09 (twenty-three years ago)

i am busy trying to alienate people right now. its not too difficult, i just disagree with everything they say.
the only problem being that i actually see very few people in my day,( almost no one except my son ) so by distancing myself i am making my hermitism even more 'set in stone'. ( is that a problem? )
emails and text messages are my favourite forms of communication, no contact required.

now that i have read what i just wrote,i think i may have a slight problem. i wonder how long this passing phase will last?

― donna (donna), Saturday, 9 November 2002 19:21 (twenty-three years ago)

the longer you spend with ppl the more you start to become them

― bob zemko (bob), Saturday, 9 November 2002 19:28 (twenty-three years ago)

When I get tarot readings the Hermit is always there. I go through periods of lots of social life to little human contact out side of work and the liquor store. Kate your post is OTM-Your not st crazy your st sensible.

― brg30 (brg30), Saturday, 9 November 2002 22:18 (twenty-three years ago)

When i return home on friday night i do not go out again until monday morning. I have no real desire to change this. Also the internet personality test says that I am "very high" in the content being antisocial category. Do I rep for the hermitists amongst us.

― Honda (Honda), Sunday, 10 November 2002 00:26 (twenty-three years ago)

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